WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.980 Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode 00:00:01.980 --> 00:00:04.360 of Vision Pros Live. So glad you're here, so 00:00:04.360 --> 00:00:07.780 glad you're in this conversation. I think it's 00:00:07.780 --> 00:00:10.800 an important conversation, so thanks for joining. 00:00:10.960 --> 00:00:13.419 On the show today, we have Tanisha Moody from 00:00:13.419 --> 00:00:17.059 Full Out Coaching. Welcome to the show, Tanisha. 00:00:17.199 --> 00:00:19.859 Thank you so much for having me. I'm so grateful 00:00:19.859 --> 00:00:23.399 to be here today. Yeah, and we're gonna talk 00:00:23.399 --> 00:00:26.000 about some fun things today, but before we get 00:00:26.000 --> 00:00:28.579 into it. I love to start out with a win because 00:00:28.579 --> 00:00:31.440 there is a lot of uncertainty. There's a lot 00:00:31.440 --> 00:00:33.600 of suffering in the world. There's a lot of people 00:00:33.600 --> 00:00:36.820 who are practiced at looking for the misses, 00:00:36.899 --> 00:00:39.399 looking for the losses. We want to remind them 00:00:39.399 --> 00:00:43.100 that what's good in the world and what's not 00:00:43.100 --> 00:00:45.500 good in the world, they're always available to 00:00:45.500 --> 00:00:47.619 us. It's a matter of where we place our focus. 00:00:47.780 --> 00:00:50.079 So what's a win for you or what's something that's 00:00:50.079 --> 00:00:53.640 going well in your life? Something that's going 00:00:53.640 --> 00:00:57.420 really well in my life right now is I feel like 00:00:57.420 --> 00:01:00.640 I am clarifying some of the offers that I have 00:01:00.640 --> 00:01:03.979 to help others. And that is such a win right 00:01:03.979 --> 00:01:06.680 now because I feel like I'm a multi -passionate 00:01:06.680 --> 00:01:09.459 person and it feels like sometimes things are 00:01:09.459 --> 00:01:11.079 all over the place. But when everything kind 00:01:11.079 --> 00:01:12.799 of comes together and you're like, oh my goodness, 00:01:12.859 --> 00:01:14.579 I've been on the right track this whole time 00:01:14.579 --> 00:01:17.000 and I get to help other people see that they 00:01:17.000 --> 00:01:19.439 were too, is definitely a win right now that 00:01:19.439 --> 00:01:23.370 I'm celebrating today, honestly. Right on. And 00:01:23.370 --> 00:01:25.189 I can totally appreciate that because sometimes 00:01:25.189 --> 00:01:29.349 it's like we might feel like we're going in many 00:01:29.349 --> 00:01:32.109 different directions. We might be experiencing 00:01:32.109 --> 00:01:35.989 a lot of uncertainty or not seeing those outcomes 00:01:35.989 --> 00:01:38.790 that we're wanting to. And then sometimes there's 00:01:38.790 --> 00:01:42.269 this moment of clarification where things begin 00:01:42.269 --> 00:01:46.209 to gel and come together. And that feels great, 00:01:46.329 --> 00:01:49.549 right? Definitely. It's something that I want 00:01:49.549 --> 00:01:52.310 everybody to feel if they can. And, you know, 00:01:52.390 --> 00:01:55.170 it ebbs and flows. But the fact that I'm feeling 00:01:55.170 --> 00:01:58.750 that so highly right now, I'm so grateful. Yeah, 00:01:58.810 --> 00:02:03.049 right on. Right on. Well, this show is called 00:02:03.049 --> 00:02:06.430 Vision Pros, as you know. So, Tanisha, what I 00:02:06.430 --> 00:02:08.969 want to ask you is, what's your vision? Lay it 00:02:08.969 --> 00:02:13.969 on me. My vision is for everyone to live full 00:02:13.969 --> 00:02:17.469 out. To live, lead, and thrive full out. And 00:02:17.469 --> 00:02:20.370 what I feel like that looks like is that individuals 00:02:20.370 --> 00:02:24.030 are walking in clarity for their purpose, that 00:02:24.030 --> 00:02:26.569 they're living their lives according to their 00:02:26.569 --> 00:02:29.250 values. They know who they are, can navigate 00:02:29.250 --> 00:02:32.430 fear and rejection, and they're rippling their 00:02:32.430 --> 00:02:34.729 impact to help others. And that looks different 00:02:34.729 --> 00:02:38.090 for every person. So my vision is to equip people, 00:02:38.210 --> 00:02:41.629 inspire people to do that on a daily basis and 00:02:41.629 --> 00:02:46.189 leave their lasting impact on the world. OK, 00:02:46.189 --> 00:02:49.789 that's a super clear vision, well articulated 00:02:49.789 --> 00:02:54.430 and inspiring. So let me ask you a few questions 00:02:54.430 --> 00:02:57.430 about that. What do you think gets in the way 00:02:57.430 --> 00:03:03.289 of people being able to live full out? I feel 00:03:03.289 --> 00:03:05.969 like there's a combination of things and having 00:03:05.969 --> 00:03:08.990 the chance to go to hundreds of people, leave 00:03:08.990 --> 00:03:12.060 hundreds of people, I think. A lot of different 00:03:12.060 --> 00:03:14.740 things get in the way, but there are things I've 00:03:14.740 --> 00:03:17.860 noticed. And one of them is first that people 00:03:17.860 --> 00:03:19.639 don't always know that they actually have a purpose, 00:03:19.680 --> 00:03:21.699 that they're here for a reason, that they exist 00:03:21.699 --> 00:03:24.699 for something bigger than themselves. I'm a Christian, 00:03:24.800 --> 00:03:27.280 so I know my purpose aligns with God, but not 00:03:27.280 --> 00:03:29.580 everybody else has a faith like that. But they 00:03:29.580 --> 00:03:32.379 still exist here for a reason. So I feel like 00:03:32.379 --> 00:03:34.360 that's something that gets in the way, the shame 00:03:34.360 --> 00:03:36.960 or the guilt or something that kind of prevents 00:03:36.960 --> 00:03:38.740 them from seeing that they're actually here for 00:03:38.740 --> 00:03:41.379 a reason. I think another thing that gets in 00:03:41.379 --> 00:03:46.039 the way is fear and rejection or failure or they've 00:03:46.039 --> 00:03:48.000 already failed and they're really scared to try 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:50.919 it again. I think those things, those inner critics, 00:03:51.039 --> 00:03:52.979 those saboteurs, those things that kind of bring 00:03:52.979 --> 00:03:56.039 us down also get in the way. And I feel like. 00:03:56.439 --> 00:03:58.659 the last thing well there's many things but if 00:03:58.659 --> 00:04:01.280 i'm breaking it into themes i feel like also 00:04:01.280 --> 00:04:04.300 just themselves like they don't recognize the 00:04:04.300 --> 00:04:06.219 power and the skills and the gifts that they 00:04:06.219 --> 00:04:08.979 have the experiences that they have and i think 00:04:08.979 --> 00:04:10.900 that gets in the way for people actually being 00:04:10.900 --> 00:04:13.419 able to live full out and help impact people 00:04:13.419 --> 00:04:17.939 positively yeah um what's an example from your 00:04:17.939 --> 00:04:22.980 own life where you were limited by fear or a 00:04:22.980 --> 00:04:26.060 disempowering belief that that you really had 00:04:26.060 --> 00:04:29.819 to adjust your thinking and bring new thinking 00:04:29.819 --> 00:04:32.540 or bring a new story so that you could overcome 00:04:32.540 --> 00:04:37.060 that. One that comes to mind was actually my 00:04:37.060 --> 00:04:41.019 relationship with rejection. I really felt that 00:04:41.019 --> 00:04:45.240 I personally was being rejected and something 00:04:45.240 --> 00:04:48.620 that I've had a chance to uncover reframe my 00:04:48.620 --> 00:04:51.339 mindset on to share with others to write about 00:04:51.339 --> 00:04:54.720 is really that my offers was what were rejected 00:04:54.720 --> 00:04:57.639 but not myself personally it's always our offer 00:04:57.639 --> 00:05:01.660 that's a rejection but not us and i experienced 00:05:01.660 --> 00:05:04.860 so much rejection Throughout my life, working 00:05:04.860 --> 00:05:07.220 in theater professionally as a stage manager, 00:05:07.500 --> 00:05:10.500 like you're getting laid off, you're losing contracts 00:05:10.500 --> 00:05:12.420 and that feels like rejection. I've been laid 00:05:12.420 --> 00:05:14.860 off in the corporate realm as well. So that felt 00:05:14.860 --> 00:05:16.959 like rejection. And of course, so I've been left 00:05:16.959 --> 00:05:19.420 and right on people and dating sometimes feels 00:05:19.420 --> 00:05:21.199 like rejection to the rejections everywhere. 00:05:21.699 --> 00:05:25.860 And having the chance to reframe that into my 00:05:25.860 --> 00:05:29.180 offer was rejected. Not me personally has been 00:05:29.180 --> 00:05:32.240 something that has helped me to really kind of 00:05:32.240 --> 00:05:34.910 flourish. put myself out there put my offers 00:05:34.910 --> 00:05:37.730 on the line and help people do the same yeah 00:05:37.730 --> 00:05:43.189 yeah um we yeah we're incredibly afraid of rejection 00:05:43.189 --> 00:05:47.269 um so uh yeah a number of years ago i did a year 00:05:47.269 --> 00:05:49.689 a year's worth of rejection experiments where 00:05:49.689 --> 00:05:53.569 i intentionally put myself into positions where 00:05:53.569 --> 00:05:57.329 i made ridiculous audacious bold requests with 00:05:57.329 --> 00:06:01.430 the intention of being rejected with the intention 00:06:01.430 --> 00:06:05.379 of being told no Because one of my philosophies 00:06:05.379 --> 00:06:08.459 is that I need to become a master asker if I'm 00:06:08.459 --> 00:06:11.740 going to play the game that I want to play effectively. 00:06:12.800 --> 00:06:15.939 And and I was afraid of getting rejected. So 00:06:15.939 --> 00:06:18.620 I was like, well, OK, it's like exposure therapy. 00:06:18.839 --> 00:06:21.720 If I get rejected over and over and over again, 00:06:21.800 --> 00:06:24.639 do I become, you know, used to it, immune to 00:06:24.639 --> 00:06:28.759 it or whatever? And and it's I totally appreciate 00:06:28.759 --> 00:06:30.519 and resonate with what you shared, because what 00:06:30.519 --> 00:06:36.079 I came to realize was that the rejection was 00:06:36.079 --> 00:06:38.620 not a personal matter. They weren't rejecting 00:06:38.620 --> 00:06:41.959 Fletcher Ellingson. They were rejecting the request 00:06:41.959 --> 00:06:46.899 I had just made of them. And but the biggest 00:06:46.899 --> 00:06:52.620 takeaway. Was that. Even though I was making 00:06:52.620 --> 00:06:57.029 ridiculous. off a request of people and i mean 00:06:57.029 --> 00:06:59.930 ridiculous i mean these these people should have 00:06:59.930 --> 00:07:02.670 just like turned away and walked away from me 00:07:02.670 --> 00:07:08.089 but instead more times than not they actually 00:07:08.089 --> 00:07:14.149 said yes right and and so that to me was like 00:07:14.149 --> 00:07:18.949 oh my gosh if i'm making these types of requests 00:07:18.949 --> 00:07:22.009 and people are saying yes to them what would 00:07:22.009 --> 00:07:25.029 happen if i just begin to ask for what I actually 00:07:25.029 --> 00:07:30.029 wanted of life. And so I began doing that. And 00:07:30.029 --> 00:07:32.790 I can tell you the things that have occurred 00:07:32.790 --> 00:07:35.449 as a result of that have been like phenomenal, 00:07:35.709 --> 00:07:41.430 right? So yes, so great conversation. Thank you 00:07:41.430 --> 00:07:44.370 for sharing that. Yeah, not rejecting you, rejecting 00:07:44.370 --> 00:07:52.529 your offer. So where, you live in Maryland. And 00:07:52.529 --> 00:07:55.610 and you are you're speaking, you're coaching 00:07:55.610 --> 00:07:59.930 and you are you still involved in theater? Not 00:07:59.930 --> 00:08:03.029 so much anymore. I still have my union card, 00:08:03.089 --> 00:08:05.509 my equity card. So if an opportunity comes up 00:08:05.509 --> 00:08:08.209 or if they need a sub or something local happens. 00:08:08.730 --> 00:08:11.009 Yeah, I'll take advantage of the opportunity 00:08:11.009 --> 00:08:13.709 if it fits in the schedule. Yeah. And have you 00:08:13.709 --> 00:08:16.480 ever. Have you always been into personal growth 00:08:16.480 --> 00:08:19.639 and personal development, or was there a point 00:08:19.639 --> 00:08:24.939 in your life where a flip got switched or the 00:08:24.939 --> 00:08:26.819 dimmer light started to go on? Tell me a little 00:08:26.819 --> 00:08:30.759 bit about that. Yeah, so my career background 00:08:30.759 --> 00:08:32.980 is a little unique. I had the chance to first 00:08:32.980 --> 00:08:34.960 start off in professional theater as a stage 00:08:34.960 --> 00:08:38.240 manager, working all across the country in different 00:08:38.240 --> 00:08:40.919 theaters, and then most recently on the Broadway 00:08:40.919 --> 00:08:42.960 first national tour of Mean Girls, the musical. 00:08:43.889 --> 00:08:48.149 And theater led me into events, corporate events. 00:08:48.330 --> 00:08:50.789 I first started with Disney, so it felt like 00:08:50.789 --> 00:08:53.509 a transition from theater into events. And honestly, 00:08:53.649 --> 00:08:56.389 events is just theater on fire, a little faster 00:08:56.389 --> 00:08:58.990 pace, usually a larger budget, but I guess it 00:08:58.990 --> 00:09:01.679 depends on which event that you're doing. And 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:03.480 I had a chance to work in a lot of different 00:09:03.480 --> 00:09:07.000 capacities in the events industry, leading teams, 00:09:07.220 --> 00:09:10.899 developing people while at Under Armour, Salesforce. 00:09:11.259 --> 00:09:16.720 And I realized that. opportunity to create and 00:09:16.720 --> 00:09:19.580 build strategies and make these cool experiential 00:09:19.580 --> 00:09:22.379 moments and events was really awesome. But the 00:09:22.379 --> 00:09:24.559 most fulfilling parts of all of my roles has 00:09:24.559 --> 00:09:27.740 been pouring into other people, developing my 00:09:27.740 --> 00:09:29.840 direct reports, my skip reports and helping them 00:09:29.840 --> 00:09:32.279 get to where they want to be. So I feel like 00:09:32.279 --> 00:09:34.559 I was kind of personal development adjacent. 00:09:34.620 --> 00:09:36.659 I didn't know that's what I was doing when I 00:09:36.659 --> 00:09:38.779 was doing theater and I was doing events and 00:09:38.779 --> 00:09:41.259 in management and leadership. But the chance 00:09:41.259 --> 00:09:44.700 to do that full time now in a. my own organization 00:09:44.700 --> 00:09:48.120 and pour into others on a daily basis is something 00:09:48.120 --> 00:09:50.279 that's really fulfilling in alignment with my 00:09:50.279 --> 00:09:53.519 assignments, it feels. Right on, right on. Well, 00:09:53.659 --> 00:09:55.860 and I can totally resonate with that because 00:09:55.860 --> 00:09:58.039 I've got a theater background as well and have 00:09:58.039 --> 00:10:01.240 always. Tanisha, if somebody is resonating with 00:10:01.240 --> 00:10:03.039 you and they want to find out more about you 00:10:03.039 --> 00:10:06.259 or they want to perhaps hire you for their event, 00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:08.840 what's the best way to get in touch with you? 00:10:09.340 --> 00:10:11.879 Yeah, you can definitely find me on social media, 00:10:12.200 --> 00:10:15.759 Tanisha L. Moody on Instagram, on TikTok, on 00:10:15.759 --> 00:10:18.559 LinkedIn, as well as at Full Out Coaching, too. 00:10:18.720 --> 00:10:21.960 I do have a website, TanishaLMoody .com. I also 00:10:21.960 --> 00:10:23.799 have some free resources on there, some e -books, 00:10:23.860 --> 00:10:25.899 if you're looking to navigate rejection or if 00:10:25.899 --> 00:10:27.299 you want to just share your latest rejection 00:10:27.299 --> 00:10:29.500 with me. I would love to celebrate that no with 00:10:29.500 --> 00:10:33.019 you. So, yes, I am everywhere on those spaces, 00:10:33.179 --> 00:10:35.399 and I would love to connect with everyone. Yeah, 00:10:35.500 --> 00:10:41.509 right on. appreciate your um enthusiastic energy 00:10:41.509 --> 00:10:46.190 um tell me a little bit about this have you uh 00:10:46.190 --> 00:10:49.389 are there any courses or coaching that you are 00:10:49.389 --> 00:10:53.549 currently involved with or um do you do you personally 00:10:53.549 --> 00:11:00.389 get coached yes so i firmly feel that coaches 00:11:00.389 --> 00:11:03.559 need coaching too Great coaches get coaches. 00:11:03.720 --> 00:11:05.759 They get coaching. So that's something that I 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:08.799 take advantage of. And I'm very, very grateful 00:11:08.799 --> 00:11:11.399 to have multiple coaches to support me on this 00:11:11.399 --> 00:11:15.000 journey. And of course, I offer coaching to one 00:11:15.000 --> 00:11:17.919 on one individually, as well as with groups and 00:11:17.919 --> 00:11:21.899 teams. And it's such a privilege to walk with. 00:11:22.350 --> 00:11:24.269 individuals and with groups and teams to help 00:11:24.269 --> 00:11:25.809 them get to where they want to be and define 00:11:25.809 --> 00:11:27.929 like what actually are they trying to accomplish 00:11:27.929 --> 00:11:31.169 why what their values actually are and how can 00:11:31.169 --> 00:11:32.950 they live them and how can they actually make 00:11:32.950 --> 00:11:35.129 the impact that they want to make definitely 00:11:35.129 --> 00:11:41.169 wholeheartedly and i feel i feel that sometimes 00:11:41.169 --> 00:11:44.309 we don't always have the exposure or the different 00:11:44.309 --> 00:11:47.009 perspectives to really kind of move us forward 00:11:47.009 --> 00:11:49.549 and that's why i'm so grateful for coaching to 00:11:49.549 --> 00:11:51.690 help me to really submit myself as the expert 00:11:52.159 --> 00:11:54.820 in my life yeah and figure out what that looks 00:11:54.820 --> 00:11:57.019 like and it's i'm so grateful i get a chance 00:11:57.019 --> 00:12:00.139 to do that for others yeah you know and i i appreciate 00:12:00.139 --> 00:12:03.980 that statement uh and i invite our audience to 00:12:03.980 --> 00:12:06.679 consider this become the expert in your life 00:12:06.679 --> 00:12:09.879 like intentionally become the expert instead 00:12:09.879 --> 00:12:13.559 of just you know going through the motions like 00:12:13.559 --> 00:12:17.529 become an expert in your in your health become 00:12:17.529 --> 00:12:20.649 an expert in your marriage become an expert in 00:12:20.649 --> 00:12:24.730 you as a parent right become an expert in your 00:12:24.730 --> 00:12:30.970 life that's powerful that's exciting right yes 00:12:30.970 --> 00:12:36.570 yeah uh tanisha so enjoyable to talk with you 00:12:36.570 --> 00:12:39.769 this morning any last uh words before we let 00:12:39.769 --> 00:12:43.980 you go here The last thing I'll say is we are 00:12:43.980 --> 00:12:45.779 all exactly where we're supposed to be right 00:12:45.779 --> 00:12:48.899 now. I feel like sometimes, you know, we're always 00:12:48.899 --> 00:12:51.259 thinking about the next step. But, you know, 00:12:51.259 --> 00:12:53.379 set up what's happening in the presence, because 00:12:53.379 --> 00:12:55.620 I feel like in the present, we're going to utilize 00:12:55.620 --> 00:12:58.940 this in the future, too. So absolutely. Yeah. 00:12:59.120 --> 00:13:02.399 Yeah. Take enjoy the moment. Learn what you can 00:13:02.399 --> 00:13:06.460 from it and and move powerfully forward. Yeah. 00:13:07.000 --> 00:13:10.809 Hey, so good to have you here. Best wishes. with 00:13:10.809 --> 00:13:14.409 your practice and now it's time for you all to 00:13:14.409 --> 00:13:16.970 get out there be a source of kindness be a source 00:13:16.970 --> 00:13:19.370 of contribution you do have something to offer 00:13:19.370 --> 00:13:22.059 this world and i believe in you Thank you for 00:13:22.059 --> 00:13:24.080 being here today. I'm really happy that you tuned 00:13:24.080 --> 00:13:26.360 in to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking forward to 00:13:26.360 --> 00:13:29.659 seeing your reactions as these episodes continue 00:13:29.659 --> 00:13:31.419 to move forward. This is going to get more and 00:13:31.419 --> 00:13:33.440 more fun. We'll have more and more engagement 00:13:33.440 --> 00:13:35.539 as well. We'll invite people to participate in 00:13:35.539 --> 00:13:37.720 the show. And thank you for giving us your time 00:13:37.720 --> 00:13:40.000 and attention. Have an excellent time building 00:13:40.000 --> 00:13:42.299 out your vision and becoming a vision pro yourself.