Hey everybody, welcome to another episode of
Vision Pros. My name is Fletcher Ellingson. I'm
your host and coach. And today on the show, I'm
delighted, and I mean delighted, to have Marcus
Newcomb on the show. Why am I delighted? Because
he's talking about a topic that I think is so
timely and is so needed, and that is... the topic
of stillness. Just a little bit about Marcus.
He is from the Institute of CFLI, the Catalyst
for Legacy and Influence. But you know what?
That's not the important thing. The important
thing is what Marcus is going to talk about.
And Marcus, tell me why you think stillness is
so important. So thank you first for having me,
Fletcher, on your show. The answer is very simple,
because it's the missing piece. We are literally
at the precipice in society where I personally
believe if we continue like this, it will be
the end. And we will be the first society that
actually manages to self -destruct. There's no
need for other influence of an enemy or anything
like that. So we're basically at that point.
Yeah. Yeah. It's I won't say interesting times.
I will say tumultuous times. And like you said,
we're on some sort of precipice for sure. Tell
me about your vision. So my vision is pretty
simple. You mentioned it before. It's stillness.
Because, you know. As you've seen in my bio,
I've been working as an executive coach and as
a business consultant for almost 20 years. And
the one thing I always realized, Fletcher, in
those numerous countless calls was there is so
much noise. And, you know, when I came to the
U .S., I asked the universe one simple question,
and you can tell I'm joking. And it was so deep.
A, why am I here? And why am I here? So I asked
two questions. Why the US and why in general?
And the answer I received was very clear. Said
Marcus, every single time when there was movement
in one of your clients, it was because you let
them into stillness. And all the noise died around
them. And now I have to clear my throat because
it really goes very deep. Yeah, when people get
still, and we should define still. Because you
don't mean like there's a lack of noise, right?
No. I'm happy to explain it. Yeah, yeah, please
go ahead. Because, you know, Fletcher, quite
often people ask me, that's like yoga, right?
That's meditation. And I said, no, it's the opposite
of it. Because, you know, I'm an avid meditator
and I do yoga. So people get me right. I'm not
speaking against either or. But it's a huge difference.
Because stillness, it's not being still, it's
being in stillness. And stillness means not absence
of action. People say, Marcus, I am so often
in stillness. I'm so often alone. I said, honestly,
that's not stillness. That's being silent. And
that's being alone. But stillness is, you're
familiar with the HeartMath Institute, right?
Where they work with coherence. So that's exactly
where stillness comes into. It's the coherence
between thought and your heart. And everyone
who has ever experienced that knows immediately
what I'm talking about. Because that's when the
channel opens for a very wee, soft voice. And
that's your soul talking. So you can imagine
when people meet me, like I have a client who
says, Marcus, whenever I think of calling you,
Are you already going to stillness? Everything
around me, all the noise from day to day goes
away, dies down. And when I meet you, it's literally
like we are in a cocoon. So what I'm providing,
and this is my vision, Fletcher, is providing
this stillness to as many people worldwide. And
what is beautiful, when people have grown into
stillness, they become stillness themselves.
And you can see where the ripple effect goes
into. So I don't need to have disciples or anything
like that. It literally happens automatically.
So stillness is literally not void of actions.
And it is the coherence between thought and heart.
And when this coherence is here, you know, people
sometimes tell me, how do I know that I'm really
in stillness? I said, as long as you ask, you're
not. Because when you are, you know. Yeah, I
think what you said is key just now. And I really
want our audience to hear this. Stillness is
the coherence between the heart and thought.
There's like this there's like this very tangible
alignment. Yeah. Right. And there are different
points when we experience this. And it's and
it's you know, I'm even thinking of, for instance.
When I got together with my my the woman who
is now my wife. There was an unmistakable alignment.
And I know that there were lots of chemicals
going on and, you know, things were. But there
was this there was this knowing more than I'd
ever known before. There was an alignment that
we're taking action was. so easy. It was so natural.
And you knew and you trusted, right? And from
that, action appeared. Yeah, yeah. I love that.
When you feel, when you experience trust at that
level, very calming and very comforting. So now
imagine, Fletcher, when this becomes more and
more the norm, until it actually becomes the
norm, it changes everything. Yeah, so I love
that concept. What if this were not the abnormal
event, but it was something we could experience
on a regular basis? That level of calm, that
level of trust, that level of alignment between
the heart and our thinking. What would be possible
then in our lives, right? Yeah, we could literally
ask what wouldn't be possible. Yeah, yeah. Because,
you know, one of my favorite topics on keynotes
is debunking imposter syndrome, which literally
holds, you know, whole societies hostage because
it's such a misnomer in my opinion. So imposter
syndrome wouldn't be a topic at all. Because
everyone would trust themselves because they
had gotten to know themselves. And to make it
short, how can you trust something if you don't
know it? So you need to doubt. Yes. That's what
imposter syndrome is all about. Simply, we don't
have a bloody clue who we are. Yes. Yeah. That
leads me into this next question. So leaders,
in my opinion, the two things that leaders are
to do is, number one, influence the thinking
of the people they're leading, and number two,
enroll them into a vision of what's possible.
I work with lots of leaders, and I can tell you,
Flat out, after this conversation, what I see
missing in much of leadership, and this is not
a diss, it's an observation, what's missing is
this level of stillness that you're talking about.
Would you agree with that? 100%. You know, it's
interesting, Fletcher. I was on a call recently,
and that person said to me, and she was a leadership
coach as well, like born in 20 years, and she
said to me, Marcus, Why is it that there are
more and more leadership coaches and more and
more screwed up companies? And I said, yeah,
you just answered your question. Yeah. It's the
whole industry that's actually causing the situation
the companies are in right now. And the companies
don't know better. They just trust whatever they
get presented because there's not much alternative.
And the ones who are different, Fletcher, they
don't dare to speak up anymore. because the multitude
is very noisy go on linkedin and you will see
it yeah very noisy yeah so it's uh so it's it's
really a departure from the norm what you're
talking about and anytime there's a departure
from the norm uh you're going against the current
it can be scary um and it can be very unpopular
yeah so but as you say it is the missing piece
So what would you like our viewers, our listeners
to take away today? Since he was interesting,
there is a voice that suddenly comes and says,
is this it? Don't ignore it. And when he goes
a step further and asks, is there more? Listen,
because that's exactly when you are at the precipice.
where life knocks at your door, at your heart's
door, and it's actually your soul saying, you
know what? And I can't even have whole body goosebumps
right now because I went through that so often
and I ignored it too many times. But it's literally
your soul knocking and saying, you know what?
I'm actually still here, but I'm slowly dying.
Imagine how long it has to take until your soul
knocks at your door. and says, Fletcher, please
listen. This can't be it. There must be more.
Yeah, that's powerful. Imagine, I like the imagery,
imagine your soul knocking at the door, begging
you to listen. Begging you to shine a spotlight
on it and... and reunite with it. Very powerful.
Can you share with us why is this important to
you? I mean, I know you said because we're at
a precipice, but I'm curious as to this somehow
made a big difference for you. Like you were
on a different trajectory and then there must
have been like something that happened. where
your eyes were opened and were like, whoa, this
is a difference maker, or whoa, I haven't seen
this before, or tell me a little bit about that
point in your life. I'm sharing now something
which I haven't shared too often publicly, and
it might go quite against the norm again. Most
people, when they are born, they are born into
forgetting, entirely forgetting. It was different
with me. And my mom knew it. And she was afraid
of it. So I knew who I was and I knew why I was
cum. Two years. At nine and a half, I experienced
an accident, which almost killed three kids.
I was nine and a half, the oldest. It wasn't
the accident. It wasn't the aftermath. What it
actually was, was a constant reaction of mine,
which said, okay, you have warned me. I am not
only endangering myself. Now I've proven I've
endangered other kids. So I actually give up
my liberty. So my forgetting was deliberate.
It was a conscious decision. I literally took
my soul, brought it into a place, and I said,
look, they are going to kill you because I can't
protect you anymore. I have given up my liberty.
So I rolled it in. So guess what? I forgot about
it more and more and more. But my soul always
walked alongside with me and accompanied me all
the time. Until the day came when I came to the
US last year in October, where my soul knocked
again. And I said, Marcus, I'm actually back.
And now it's not just back walking alongside
you. Now it's walking you becoming the soul and
finally doing what you were called to do when
you decided to come to this earth in this lifetime.
That was powerful, I tell you. Yeah, that's exciting.
How fun to wake up to purpose, right? How fun
to embrace purpose. Yeah. I was literally told
that I have to become the steward of stillness,
of the stillness councils, which I lead. I was
literally told, you are no executive coach anymore.
You are no business consultant anymore. And as
you can imagine, Fletcher, I was a full blown
coach and consultant and it hurt. And then I
said with time, you know, does this mean like
everything I have worked on is void and nullified?
Said no. But now you understand you first lead
people into stillness and then you can coach
and then you can consult. Because at the end,
you're working on the stuff that really matters
in these people's lives and companies and not
anymore the superficial stuff most coaches do
work on. Yes, yes. We're not going to just start
chasing new strategies. We really need to embrace
this concept of stillness, this coherence. Otherwise,
we're just spinning our wheels. Yeah. I can actually
summarize it in one sentence, Fletcher. It's
so simple. It's remembering who you were before
the world told you who you had to become. So
it's literally removing all the BS that schooling,
society, family, parenting, everything has put
on us. Get to the point where you're basically
stripped to the bare minimum. Yeah, that's scary.
It is scary. I have a client who asked me, Marcus,
what is the price for me to pay? And I say, you
will lose all illusion. And you will suddenly
understand who you are. And believe me, Fletcher,
most people are not willing to pay that price.
Yes. You know, what came to me when you said
remembering who you were before you were told
who you were supposed to be. And this probably
is impacted and amplified because I'm a new grandfather
for the first time. Oh, congratulations. Yeah,
thank you. And so I'm seeing my granddaughter,
Sunny, before she's told who she has to be. I'm
seeing her interact with life in a way that many
of us have forgotten about. And so when you said
that, what came to me was, I mean, just again,
I know it sounds so simplistic, but just going
back to love and connection, like just being
a source of love and connection. I have to leave
you with a gift. You might be aware of it. There
is this old poet, died a long, long time ago,
called Khaled Gibran. And he wrote this one poem,
Children. If anyone read Children, believe me,
the entire parenting industry would change immediately.
It's a very simple concept. You are the bow.
Your children are the arrow. And that's life.
Your job is to pull it back, let it go, and then
let it go. Because life... will provide for the
child's soul. We grown -ups believe, yeah, we
have to provide food, housing, education. Yeah,
that's good. And then we think, okay, now we
have to start thinking mindset. Now we have to
start ingrained mindset on those little children.
And sadly, so early age happens today. You know,
this indoctrination. So everyone who really wants
to do something good for this world, read the
poem Children from Khalid Gibran. It totally
changed my life. I just wrote it down. I'm going
to read it. Yeah. It's a life changer. All right.
Looking forward to it. Marcus, we're up for our
time. It was only a 20 -minute segment today,
but I'm certainly, I feel certain that... anyone
who's listening is going to take away something
important, or at least it's going to plant a
seed and it will grow. Thank you for sharing
this content, your wisdom with us, your experience
with us. This is, like I told you before we started
recording, this is what we need in the world.
So thank you for being a source of contribution.
It's my pleasure. If somebody would like to find
out more about you, contact you, find out what
it looks like to work with you, what's the best
way to do that? The easiest way is to go on LinkedIn.
Just put in my name, Marcus with K, and you come
N -U -K -O -M, and you will see my face immediately
popping up on LinkedIn. Send me a connection
request and a message, and let's get on the call.
Right on. Thank you so much. And we look forward
to having you back. All right. I look forward
to that. All right. Great. Thanks so much for
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