WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.540 Kenitra, would you please introduce yourself, 00:00:01.620 --> 00:00:04.700 and then we'll dive in. Hi, everyone. My name 00:00:04.700 --> 00:00:07.459 is Kenitra Callens, and I am based out of Dallas, 00:00:07.599 --> 00:00:10.099 Texas. I'm originally from Memphis, Tennessee, 00:00:10.320 --> 00:00:14.660 and I am owner of Bougie Steps Boutique and also 00:00:14.660 --> 00:00:17.320 an author of my book, I Didn't Know This Was 00:00:17.320 --> 00:00:20.640 My Work. I love that. This is so cool. Well, 00:00:20.660 --> 00:00:22.960 I want to hear all about that. Let's talk first 00:00:22.960 --> 00:00:25.460 about what is your vision for the people you're 00:00:25.460 --> 00:00:27.640 serving? Maybe just start with, like, who are 00:00:27.640 --> 00:00:31.309 the people that you're helping? My vision, I 00:00:31.309 --> 00:00:35.270 am an advocate for domestic violence, survivor 00:00:35.270 --> 00:00:38.829 of domestic violence. So my vision is to help 00:00:38.829 --> 00:00:41.530 others, men or women, that have been through 00:00:41.530 --> 00:00:45.329 that physical abuse, domestic abuse, and also 00:00:45.329 --> 00:00:48.369 sexual abuse. I was sexually abused as a young 00:00:48.369 --> 00:00:52.229 teenager. But I am just wanting to help others 00:00:52.229 --> 00:00:54.429 to let them know that, hey, you're not alone. 00:00:55.149 --> 00:00:59.109 You can reach out to others. It's okay to not 00:00:59.109 --> 00:01:04.069 be okay. Just to victims of whatever abuse and 00:01:04.069 --> 00:01:07.629 just to help where I can. I love that. There's 00:01:07.629 --> 00:01:11.349 so much need. I mean, it's such a quiet suffering 00:01:11.349 --> 00:01:14.349 for so many people. It's secret. It's, you know, 00:01:14.370 --> 00:01:17.409 there's all of that. Yes. That's incredible. 00:01:17.790 --> 00:01:20.489 And so you said you have a store and you've got 00:01:20.489 --> 00:01:23.489 a book. Talk a little bit about how those help 00:01:23.489 --> 00:01:27.650 your people. Oh, wow. So my store, Bougie Stuff 00:01:27.650 --> 00:01:30.530 Boutique, is an online women's shoe boutique. 00:01:30.530 --> 00:01:35.810 And I feel that it's for confidence and empowering. 00:01:36.329 --> 00:01:40.670 For me, shopping is kind of therapy for me. So 00:01:40.670 --> 00:01:45.730 anytime I can see a shoe or even clothing, it 00:01:45.730 --> 00:01:48.609 helps me kind of get through the day. It helps 00:01:48.609 --> 00:01:51.250 me like, oh, kind of forget about what is going 00:01:51.250 --> 00:01:55.219 on. um just and i feel like therapy that's retail 00:01:55.219 --> 00:01:58.719 therapy and it just for me you see a pretty shoe 00:01:58.719 --> 00:02:01.859 or sandal and it just kind of like takes you 00:02:01.859 --> 00:02:04.739 away from your what's going on with the noun 00:02:04.739 --> 00:02:08.740 um so i feel like that confidence is a big booster 00:02:08.740 --> 00:02:14.680 self -love um is the number one key to self -worth 00:02:14.680 --> 00:02:17.599 and self -love just to have that in your because 00:02:17.599 --> 00:02:20.080 i lost that the time that i was going through 00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:22.770 what i was So just to have a self -love and self 00:02:22.770 --> 00:02:26.050 -care is the number one rule to kind of get over 00:02:26.050 --> 00:02:28.370 what you're going through. I would imagine. And 00:02:28.370 --> 00:02:30.689 it's, you know, the message that people who are 00:02:30.689 --> 00:02:34.509 in an abusive relationship, the message they're 00:02:34.509 --> 00:02:36.870 getting is that they're worthless. They're not 00:02:36.870 --> 00:02:40.710 worth celebrating. They're not worth having value 00:02:40.710 --> 00:02:45.139 or treating well. So this is, I can see where 00:02:45.139 --> 00:02:47.120 that would be a great confidence boost, right? 00:02:47.620 --> 00:02:50.500 Yes. That's amazing. And then you also have a 00:02:50.500 --> 00:02:53.020 book. Talk about that a little bit. Yes, my book, 00:02:53.199 --> 00:02:56.120 I didn't know, this is my work. It was published, 00:02:56.300 --> 00:02:59.719 self -published last July. And it is going through 00:02:59.719 --> 00:03:03.080 challenges and struggles that I dealt with from 00:03:03.080 --> 00:03:06.919 a young teenager going through a sexual abuse 00:03:06.919 --> 00:03:10.460 by a family member, post -family member, and 00:03:10.460 --> 00:03:14.099 just going through into life meeting someone 00:03:14.099 --> 00:03:17.460 that i thought that was my gonna be my forever 00:03:17.460 --> 00:03:22.240 person and they turned out to be uh abusive narcissistic 00:03:22.240 --> 00:03:28.020 um and just domestic so i i put that in the book 00:03:28.020 --> 00:03:32.800 telling others watching the red flags just letting 00:03:32.800 --> 00:03:36.819 people know hey this is not okay you know if 00:03:36.819 --> 00:03:40.599 you have this go to someone else go to your counselor 00:03:40.599 --> 00:03:44.120 go to a your your pastor you know if you're in 00:03:44.120 --> 00:03:46.900 church or anyone that's close to you your neighbor 00:03:46.900 --> 00:03:49.879 just to go and kind of just tell them what's 00:03:49.879 --> 00:03:52.439 going on with you and see if they can help and 00:03:52.439 --> 00:03:57.180 you know if i was silent for a while until after 00:03:57.180 --> 00:04:02.039 i i feel like i need to to reveal my story tell 00:04:02.039 --> 00:04:06.120 my story because i have dollars so i I don't 00:04:06.120 --> 00:04:07.919 want them to go through that. I have a granddaughter, 00:04:08.219 --> 00:04:11.659 so I just want to get that out and just let them 00:04:11.659 --> 00:04:14.800 know, hey, if you're going through this, someone 00:04:14.800 --> 00:04:20.100 can help you. I got out of it, so can you. That's 00:04:20.100 --> 00:04:23.360 a wonderful mission. I think that's fantastic. 00:04:24.060 --> 00:04:26.920 So many times when people are in relationships 00:04:26.920 --> 00:04:30.459 like this or situations, they're silent. They're 00:04:30.459 --> 00:04:32.759 afraid to speak up. They can't speak up. It's 00:04:32.759 --> 00:04:36.180 unsafe. So they're not getting help. They're 00:04:36.180 --> 00:04:39.220 not getting that sense of encouragement that 00:04:39.220 --> 00:04:42.779 you deserve better. You can you can have better. 00:04:44.399 --> 00:04:46.980 You're there for them. I love that. Thank you. 00:04:47.259 --> 00:04:50.860 That's so cool. Now, for where it is now until 00:04:50.860 --> 00:04:53.939 where you want it to go. What's your vision for 00:04:53.939 --> 00:04:56.839 your, you know, for everything that you're doing? 00:04:56.860 --> 00:04:59.860 And this this is a whole new business. So my 00:04:59.860 --> 00:05:04.250 vision is that I am. want to get out there and 00:05:04.250 --> 00:05:07.870 be a motivational speaker i want to go out to 00:05:07.870 --> 00:05:10.610 other to communities to speak with different 00:05:10.610 --> 00:05:15.269 women men because it's no there's no differences 00:05:15.269 --> 00:05:19.350 men are getting abused just like so i just want 00:05:19.350 --> 00:05:22.829 to go out there and speak to the different victims 00:05:22.829 --> 00:05:26.250 or survivors and let them know hey it's okay 00:05:26.250 --> 00:05:30.470 to not be okay and it's okay to reach out to 00:05:30.470 --> 00:05:33.370 talk to others And just to let them know that 00:05:33.370 --> 00:05:36.930 I'm there or anyone else that is there that can 00:05:36.930 --> 00:05:39.310 be close to them. And we hope that. Thank you 00:05:39.310 --> 00:05:41.209 for being here today. I'm really happy that you 00:05:41.209 --> 00:05:43.490 tuned in to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking forward 00:05:43.490 --> 00:05:47.029 to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue 00:05:47.029 --> 00:05:48.790 to move forward. This is going to get more and 00:05:48.790 --> 00:05:50.850 more fun. We'll have more and more engagement 00:05:50.850 --> 00:05:52.910 as well. We'll invite people to participate in 00:05:52.910 --> 00:05:55.089 the show. And thank you for giving us your time 00:05:55.089 --> 00:05:57.389 and attention. Have an excellent time building 00:05:57.389 --> 00:05:59.709 out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.