Tell me about your vision. Oh, my gosh, my vision.
You know, my vision, my big, giant, giant, giant
vision is to set the world free from fear. So
that's my big vision. Tell me more about that.
You know, you and I both know, as most people
know, that fear is the number one culprit for
us. the reason why we don't build our businesses,
why we don't fall in love, why we don't start
a business, why we don't like ourselves, why
we don't get divorced. I mean, there's so many
things that... fear does to keep us small, stuck,
and the same in order to keep us safe because
that's what fear's job is. So unless you know
how fear actually works rather than just having
a concept of fear or just a feeling of fear,
once you understand how the concept of fear works,
I've created something called the Wheel of Fear
and the Wheel of Freedom, you're going to keep
getting tricked by fear. And it's going to sound
reasonable. It's going to sound smart. And it's
going to, you know, other people are going to
be like, yes, that's a really good idea not to
do. So my whole thing is, what would the world
look like if we actually were all living from
what I call the essential nature from the authentic
part of you and living the life that you were
actually meant to live, live the life your soul
intended? Like, what would the world be like?
Wow. Tell me more about that. I would love to
hear. if you go deeper into this concept? Well,
I've created something called the wheel of fear
and the wheel of freedom. And for me personally,
when I created the wheel of fear and the wheel
of freedom, it changed my life because what it
did is it took away the guilt and the shame of
my behavior. And instead of blaming me for procrastinating,
blaming me for people pleasing, blaming me for
anxiety, blaming me for beating myself up, blaming
me for everything, I could start seeing it as
a mechanism. And that beating myself up, blaming,
et cetera, people pleasing, procrastinating,
et cetera, whatever it is that you do, that was
just a mechanism for fear to keep me safe. It
was just the way that fear was using that behavior
that I had bought into, that I had said yes to.
to keep me the same so that I would, like I said,
be physically safe slash emotionally safe. And
that's one of the tricks. Most people think of
fear. When I say I do fearless living, they're
like, oh, I'm afraid of snakes or I'm afraid
of speaking in public, right? And those are physical
fears, right? We have physical fears of heights
or snakes. And that's what people usually think
when they hear about fear. But there's a whole
other aspect of fear that actually influences
us way more, which is our emotional fears, our
fear of rejection, our fear of fear. Our fear
of failure, our fear of success, our fear of
loss, our fear of the unknown, right? Our fear
of seen as lazy, fear of worthlessness, right?
So all of these fears actually influence minute
by minute in our day. And unless we can see that.
It will run our lives. It will micromanage us
so much that we actually think that's who we
are. We actually think that's our personality.
We actually think that is what we are meant to
do. So unless we can see fear for what it is,
like take it and put it up on a board and go,
okay, that's how fear works. Okay. Wheel of fear
has four components. It's got the core trigger.
It's got the fear responses. It's got the core
negative feelings. It's got self -destructive.
Okay. And then plot yours out, actually see it
in motion. it's going to keep tricking you because
fear is as smart as you are as educated as you
are spiritual as you are as knowledgeable as
you are it's going to use everything against
you because fear is how we are wired so we must
transcend fear if we actually want to like i
said live the life our soul intended so my whole
thing is how many people can actually find their
wheel of fear and i'm actually creating a quiz
to help people do that it's going to be coming
out shortly So that you can find that core fear
of yours so you can start seeing your behavior
through a different lens. Because neuroscience
says that the only way we can change our lives
is through changing our perception. So it's not
just changing our mind, it's changing our perception.
And so you're either looking through the wheel
of fear, that's your perception, or you're looking
through the wheel of freedom. And I want you
to know the difference. So let's assume someone
has gone through the cycle and identified their...
their triggers, their points, and all of the
four things that you touched on, right? Then
what's the next step? To find your wheel of freedom.
So the wheel of freedom was created. That's basically
the way out of the wheel of fear. So the wheel
of fear is the core trigger, the thing that triggers
you more than anything else. And trust me, you
don't know what it is. Everybody goes like, I
know what mine is. Mine is lazy or mine is stupid.
It's like, trust me, if you know it, you don't
have it. Because the fear does not want to be
found because if it is found, it can't save you,
right? It can't support you. So anywhere on that
wheel of fear, those four components, you can
get off the wheel of fear. So you can do it while
you're in the middle of a fear response, i .e.
you're feeling blaming yourself, judging yourself,
disempowering yourself, procrastinating, et cetera.
The minute you start noticing it, you can jump
off onto the wheel of freedom. Or you can get
down to the core negative feeling, that feeling
that you do not want to feel. Because again,
we have feelings that you and I do not want to
feel. And that is our core negative feeling.
And then, of course, our self -destructive, which
you and I know, we know our self -destructive
behaviors. We know when we go off the rails.
We know our self -destructive. And all of those
things keep perpetuating the wheel of fear. But
once you understand what yours are, you can say,
ah, I'm doing it. I'm in the middle of that feeling.
Ah, I'm in the middle of the fear response. Ah,
I'm in the middle of self -destructive. And you
can jump on what I call the wheel of freedom.
Now, the wheel of freedom has four components,
too. And the first one, the most important one,
is your essential nature. And that essential
nature is that part of you that you hid away
long ago because it was not safe to express it.
Now, before I go any further, I just want to
say that the wheel of fear and the wheel of freedom,
we dance between those two all day long. So there
might be areas of your life that you're living
on your wheel of freedom right now without knowing
it. You're like in the flow, you're grooving,
you're making do, you're happening. That's awesome.
So you probably have areas of your life right
now that you're living on your wheel of freedom.
Now, there are areas of your life that you're
probably living on your wheel of fear, and that's
the ones we want to address. So going back to
the wheel of freedom, the essential nature is
that part of you that you learned to hide a long
time ago because it was not safe to express it.
Like, so that could be, for me, that was authentic.
You know, I was taught that, you know, you're
too big, you're too small, you're too this, you're
too, it was always something, there was always
something wrong with me, right? So I was never
exactly who I was supposed to be in everyone
else's eyes. So being authentic was just not
in the cards for me. Because being in the, if
I was authentic, then I was afraid my deepest
fear would come true, which is my core trigger,
which is that you would see me as a loser. So
that was. a no -no in my world so those things
dance together now when you get on the wheel
of freedom you're going to access your essential
nature Then move into the second spoke, which
is your proactive behaviors. And I help you create
those proactive behaviors that align with your
essential nature. So now you're moving in the
direction of your freedom, which, of course,
then take you down to what I call wholeness and
then self -affirming behaviors. And so that in
itself is a wheel that's going around. Some people
would call that flow. Some people would call
that in the zone. Right. And you are literally
living your. I was going to say you're living
in your power. You're living in your true authentic
self. You're living in your, I'm just going to
say authentic self, your essential nature. So
that is the wheel of freedom. Thank you for sharing
that. You're welcome. What has implementing these
techniques done for you, Rhonda? Oh, gosh. Well,
I would say the first thing that it does when
people find their wheel of fear and will of freedom,
the first thing that happens is you understand
why your life is the way it is. You basically
have that moment of like. Oh, I get it now. Oh,
I see it. It's like your life flashes before
you. And all of a sudden you see like why you
didn't take that job, why you took that job,
why you went to college, why you didn't go to
college, why you dropped out of college, why
you got divorced, why you got married. You start
seeing how everything unfolds through the lens
of your wheel of fear and will freedom. So that's
number one. The second thing is because you now
see it through the lens of the wheel of fear
and will freedom, shame dissolves, self -blame
dissolves. disempowering yourself is no longer
attractive. Beating yourself up stops. So instead
of making yourself the problem, like, oh, I'm
procrastinating. I'm a bad person. Oh, I'm beating
myself up. I really got to stop doing that. Oh,
I'm judging others. Oh God, I'm so bad, right?
Instead of blaming ourself and thinking that
these are character flaws, instead of thinking
these are identity issues, i .e. thinking these
are our problems, we can start seeing them as
mechanisms and going, oh. I'm afraid of something.
Okay, got it. Well, let me step back and go,
what am I afraid of? Ah, I'm afraid of being
seen as a loser. Ah, I'm afraid of being rejected.
Ah, I'm afraid of being seen as lazy. Ah, I'm
afraid of looking stupid. Again, whatever yours
is. And once you can stop and stop and say, see
that, then you can decide using your frontal
lobe, right? Your frontal cortex, right? You
can decide how you want to show up instead of
being on automatic pilot. Wow. Thank you for
sharing that. You're welcome. There's a lot of
insights that you gave today. I have one more
question for you before we end today's segment.
What is your why or what you do? Well, my parents
died at my father's hand when I was 14 years
old. He murdered my mother and then committed
suicide in front of me. And I can see how clearly.
My father murdered my mother out of fear, and
my mother stayed with my father for years because
of fear. And so fear killed my mother, killed
my father. It almost killed me. I had three suicide
attempts, alcoholism, DUIs, et cetera, blah,
blah, blah. So this isn't just a fanciful self
-help like, oh, isn't this a good idea? No, this
is literally life and death for people. This
is literally them living their soul's intention
versus being stuck and small. This is literally
setting yourself free and living your dream versus.
getting caught up in things that no longer serve
you. So this is not just a good idea to me. This
is literally life and death. Thank you for being
here today. I'm really happy that you tuned in
to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking forward to seeing
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Have an excellent time building out your vision
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