WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.700 me a favor tell me first last name where you're 00:00:02.700 --> 00:00:05.179 located and then the name of your business and 00:00:05.179 --> 00:00:09.539 or books you have written andrew hoffman i'm 00:00:09.539 --> 00:00:12.140 known as the doctor of southworth i'm logging 00:00:12.140 --> 00:00:16.440 on from hungary not too far from the austrian 00:00:16.440 --> 00:00:20.019 border in central europe and the book i have 00:00:20.019 --> 00:00:25.280 written is discover your authentic self faster 00:00:25.280 --> 00:00:28.199 than you ever thought possible so And there's 00:00:28.199 --> 00:00:30.760 a few other ones, self -help books, and they're 00:00:30.760 --> 00:00:34.200 available on my website for free. Nice. Thanks 00:00:34.200 --> 00:00:37.060 for having me. Of course. Thank you so much. 00:00:37.280 --> 00:00:39.960 So, of course, anyone that's listening and everyone 00:00:39.960 --> 00:00:43.299 that's listening, Doctor of Self -Worth, please 00:00:43.299 --> 00:00:46.679 tell me a little bit more about that. It's been 00:00:46.679 --> 00:00:51.380 a very long and hard journey for me. 34 years 00:00:51.380 --> 00:00:55.179 I have been looking for my lost self -worth, 00:00:55.240 --> 00:00:59.060 and I knew that somehow, The disconnection with 00:00:59.060 --> 00:01:03.880 my father was the cause. I couldn't quite know 00:01:03.880 --> 00:01:06.959 what exactly went wrong. I never felt good enough, 00:01:07.099 --> 00:01:11.519 never felt worthy or deserved his love. He was 00:01:11.519 --> 00:01:15.500 a typical fault finder, highly critical of me. 00:01:15.879 --> 00:01:20.640 And as a child, I have decided early on that 00:01:20.640 --> 00:01:25.060 I'm not good enough or I'm not well. i cannot 00:01:25.060 --> 00:01:27.620 be successful and i i created a whole lot of 00:01:27.620 --> 00:01:31.760 stories out of these and i found myself hanging 00:01:31.760 --> 00:01:34.760 in the air always having self -doubt measuring 00:01:34.760 --> 00:01:40.079 up other people especially males to try and compete 00:01:40.079 --> 00:01:44.140 and maybe to be seen appreciated and to become 00:01:44.140 --> 00:01:47.859 valuable because i didn't see myself valuable 00:01:47.859 --> 00:01:51.519 and and that was probably the biggest struggle 00:01:51.519 --> 00:01:54.390 in most of my life and that changed seven years 00:01:54.390 --> 00:01:58.689 ago when after spending a hundred thousand dollars 00:01:58.689 --> 00:02:01.909 and traveling 70 countries where i was looking 00:02:01.909 --> 00:02:05.489 for answers and investing heavily for decades 00:02:05.489 --> 00:02:09.430 i found a mindset coach who has helped me in 00:02:09.430 --> 00:02:13.770 australia to find the better part of me or the 00:02:13.770 --> 00:02:18.409 authentic version of me who is playing life enjoying 00:02:20.159 --> 00:02:23.860 every day, having time for my family and really 00:02:23.860 --> 00:02:26.319 be the father who I never had and the father 00:02:26.319 --> 00:02:29.680 I've always wanted to be and run a business and 00:02:29.680 --> 00:02:35.599 have some fun. And I hope that is giving you 00:02:35.599 --> 00:02:37.759 a bit of a background about all these struggles 00:02:37.759 --> 00:02:40.800 and troubles that I have been through. What's 00:02:40.800 --> 00:02:44.139 one belief about self -worth that even high achieving 00:02:44.139 --> 00:02:49.539 leaders struggle with? thanks for asking the 00:02:49.539 --> 00:02:51.819 question because you really prompted me to think 00:02:51.819 --> 00:02:57.800 about being bulletproof like if you're able to 00:02:57.800 --> 00:03:05.520 have this inner sense of power i can handle this 00:03:05.520 --> 00:03:09.680 i will find a solution it's going to work out 00:03:09.680 --> 00:03:15.659 this trust in the universe trust in business 00:03:16.219 --> 00:03:21.340 trust in delivering value i think you start to 00:03:21.340 --> 00:03:27.219 walk about the ground because then yes challenges 00:03:27.219 --> 00:03:31.020 yes they will come like he cannot save you from 00:03:31.020 --> 00:03:34.580 having bigger challenges and decisions to make 00:03:34.580 --> 00:03:37.020 and probably 50 of the decisions you make will 00:03:37.020 --> 00:03:42.780 be wrong as it turns out to be yet yet i say 00:03:42.780 --> 00:03:49.560 if you have this belief in yourself of I'm worthy 00:03:49.560 --> 00:03:57.539 and others will find worthy and value in connection 00:03:57.539 --> 00:04:03.159 with me you have been you're able to come through 00:04:03.159 --> 00:04:10.259 pretty much rough times yeah yeah so And it needs 00:04:10.259 --> 00:04:13.159 to be built from the inside. The biggest challenge, 00:04:13.259 --> 00:04:15.120 I believe, for most business owners is that they 00:04:15.120 --> 00:04:19.600 are looking for external to see their value, 00:04:19.660 --> 00:04:22.779 trying to look for those reflections on the outside 00:04:22.779 --> 00:04:29.040 that are bank account for objects, the flash 00:04:29.040 --> 00:04:31.660 object syndrome, a nice house or a bigger car, 00:04:31.779 --> 00:04:37.480 yet it's inside. And look at how... some of these 00:04:37.480 --> 00:04:40.620 iconic figures, probably Trump and other people, 00:04:40.660 --> 00:04:45.139 and I'm not with or against Trump. All I'm saying 00:04:45.139 --> 00:04:48.540 that when these guys kind of lost everything, 00:04:48.800 --> 00:04:54.540 like how could they bounce back within a year 00:04:54.540 --> 00:04:58.639 or two from minus X hundred million to again 00:04:58.639 --> 00:05:03.319 running a series of businesses and becoming successful? 00:05:04.660 --> 00:05:08.259 Yeah. Obviously, there is something in their 00:05:08.259 --> 00:05:14.500 psychology when they do not process failure or 00:05:14.500 --> 00:05:18.420 have a very different filtering going on. And 00:05:18.420 --> 00:05:23.459 they are able to, again, strike deals that are 00:05:23.459 --> 00:05:28.100 turning over their businesses. Do you think that 00:05:28.100 --> 00:05:30.800 it was imperative that you found that moment 00:05:30.800 --> 00:05:35.519 before you started? becoming pretty much into 00:05:35.519 --> 00:05:39.079 doctor of self -worth and trying to coach individuals 00:05:39.079 --> 00:05:42.240 into understanding what their self -worth is? 00:05:42.399 --> 00:05:45.800 Or do you believe that you could have done that 00:05:45.800 --> 00:05:48.160 while in the business? Does that make sense? 00:05:49.779 --> 00:05:52.680 Well, if I really look back, then I have failed 00:05:52.680 --> 00:05:56.560 two or three businesses because of my lack of 00:05:56.560 --> 00:06:01.220 self -worth and lack of confidence and this unworthiness 00:06:01.220 --> 00:06:05.040 that was. I say killing my results, but I didn't 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:10.120 know. And I've been looking for answers to heal 00:06:10.120 --> 00:06:16.579 my issues for 20 years before. Yet, you know, 00:06:16.579 --> 00:06:18.959 when the pressure builds up and it starts to 00:06:18.959 --> 00:06:24.819 crush you, then I think the real decision which 00:06:24.819 --> 00:06:30.699 comes with 100 % commitment makes all the difference. 00:06:32.029 --> 00:06:38.410 The decision I made is I'll never give up. If 00:06:38.410 --> 00:06:42.709 I need to work this out and maybe I'm a hopeless 00:06:42.709 --> 00:06:46.350 case, then I'm ready to go through all my life 00:06:46.350 --> 00:06:51.350 struggling and then die trying. That decision 00:06:51.350 --> 00:06:55.209 was missing for, let's say, 20 years. And I didn't 00:06:55.209 --> 00:06:59.050 have, unfortunately, that. The pressure was not 00:06:59.050 --> 00:07:01.689 there to lose my children and my wife. And unfortunately, 00:07:01.910 --> 00:07:06.910 that's how it came to happen. What would it be 00:07:06.910 --> 00:07:10.110 like to grow a business without losing your soul? 00:07:10.230 --> 00:07:16.970 What does that mean? I think the magic recipe, 00:07:17.310 --> 00:07:22.310 if you could call it that way, is to really ask 00:07:22.310 --> 00:07:26.019 yourself, what would it be the best? thing to 00:07:26.019 --> 00:07:30.860 do that comes from your heart and somehow put 00:07:30.860 --> 00:07:33.839 a business behind it i could almost say like 00:07:33.839 --> 00:07:36.899 how would you live how would you like to live 00:07:36.899 --> 00:07:40.699 your life if it was a five star six star life 00:07:40.699 --> 00:07:45.519 and please like drop the story of that i want 00:07:45.519 --> 00:07:48.680 to sit on a beach and drink cocktails because 00:07:48.680 --> 00:07:52.790 well it might work for a week or two but You 00:07:52.790 --> 00:07:56.509 wouldn't really have meaning behind it. So if 00:07:56.509 --> 00:08:00.069 you are serious about a vision, then you need 00:08:00.069 --> 00:08:06.990 to kind of play Lego. Okay, so how can I build 00:08:06.990 --> 00:08:13.550 that life by Lego pieces? And for me, it was, 00:08:13.550 --> 00:08:16.490 well, I want to be free. Freedom is a big one 00:08:16.490 --> 00:08:21.620 for me. So no one tells me when, what. with whom 00:08:21.620 --> 00:08:24.959 I'm doing what I'm doing. Yet I wanted to change 00:08:24.959 --> 00:08:30.819 minds and change lives. And that's what I'm doing 00:08:30.819 --> 00:08:35.919 every day of the year. And today is Easter. It's 00:08:35.919 --> 00:08:38.320 supposed to be a national holiday. I'm working 00:08:38.320 --> 00:08:41.299 through a few time zones. I worked with someone 00:08:41.299 --> 00:08:44.960 in Dubai like two hours ago. My wife is not particularly 00:08:44.960 --> 00:08:50.039 keen, but it's my vision. sort of my terms to 00:08:50.039 --> 00:08:53.340 life, and I manage that relationship with my 00:08:53.340 --> 00:08:58.419 wife, yet I'm playing on my playground. Yeah. 00:08:58.620 --> 00:09:02.940 And what we need to do then is find your passion 00:09:02.940 --> 00:09:10.279 and have you play more and more rather than struggle 00:09:10.279 --> 00:09:15.460 and work hard and do the hard miles. I'm not 00:09:15.460 --> 00:09:18.519 saying it doesn't take. let's say, practicing 00:09:18.519 --> 00:09:24.960 something to get really good, yet I don't think 00:09:24.960 --> 00:09:28.820 it's hard work long -term is what you are looking 00:09:28.820 --> 00:09:32.399 for. Yeah, yeah. And when you mentioned play, 00:09:32.740 --> 00:09:38.940 what do you mean by play? Play more. Again, you 00:09:38.940 --> 00:09:41.779 need to, and authenticity, I believe, and this 00:09:41.779 --> 00:09:46.360 is exactly how I have sort of built my... method 00:09:46.360 --> 00:09:49.059 12 pages the book discover your authentic self 00:09:49.059 --> 00:09:52.840 versus is almost inviting you to come back to 00:09:52.840 --> 00:09:59.000 that little girl or little boy yeah who had let's 00:09:59.000 --> 00:10:06.159 say dreams about living life your way i would 00:10:06.159 --> 00:10:10.500 call that success especially if that is attached 00:10:10.500 --> 00:10:17.529 to contribution and growth yeah like then you 00:10:17.529 --> 00:10:20.950 will feel free you will feel inspired creativity 00:10:20.950 --> 00:10:25.029 is just a natural byproduct in in my case it's 00:10:25.029 --> 00:10:29.830 it's really i have a beautiful podcast i create 00:10:29.830 --> 00:10:33.950 content daily one content i repurpose it to all 00:10:33.950 --> 00:10:39.049 of my channels i send out a blog post in linkedin 00:10:39.049 --> 00:10:44.700 i have an email that i send out to my uh community 00:10:44.700 --> 00:10:50.259 i obviously do work with my groups and i am serving 00:10:50.259 --> 00:10:53.480 clients one -on -one these last two are the absolute 00:10:53.480 --> 00:10:57.559 priorities and then i build around with my children 00:10:57.559 --> 00:11:02.139 who are homeschooled and the project that we 00:11:02.139 --> 00:11:06.179 have is this uh setting up an organic permaculture 00:11:06.179 --> 00:11:10.940 farm uh and uh and doing house renovation so 00:11:11.340 --> 00:11:13.679 I do have a full life. Probably I might be working 00:11:13.679 --> 00:11:16.860 more than most of the people listening to us. 00:11:16.940 --> 00:11:22.139 Yet it never feels like hard work. Where are 00:11:22.139 --> 00:11:26.960 you currently at with your vision? My vision 00:11:26.960 --> 00:11:31.399 is limitless. I really want to touch a million 00:11:31.399 --> 00:11:35.460 lives and a million orphans as well. I do have 00:11:35.460 --> 00:11:38.940 a non -profit project that has not been particularly 00:11:38.940 --> 00:11:44.379 successful. And I still see myself with, and 00:11:44.379 --> 00:11:47.360 this is something that hasn't worked. So I love 00:11:47.360 --> 00:11:51.940 sharing what I'm struggling or failing. I would 00:11:51.940 --> 00:11:57.720 love to hit stages in the US to spread the message 00:11:57.720 --> 00:12:01.980 of self -worth, what it means, how easier your 00:12:01.980 --> 00:12:07.159 life could be, and probably going back to university 00:12:07.159 --> 00:12:12.429 because that's a younger age. bracket where people 00:12:12.429 --> 00:12:16.929 could realize that probably it's time to fix 00:12:16.929 --> 00:12:22.730 it now before that midlife crisis sets in and 00:12:22.730 --> 00:12:25.850 it doesn't set in straight away it will be decades 00:12:25.850 --> 00:12:29.029 of repetition going in circles and failing and 00:12:29.029 --> 00:12:32.009 things not working out or the relationships that 00:12:32.009 --> 00:12:36.049 that just happens 10 15 times and then finally 00:12:36.049 --> 00:12:39.429 they're ready for help and they realize that 00:12:39.429 --> 00:12:42.049 oh this next book is not going to work the next 00:12:42.049 --> 00:12:45.629 seminar might not work because i'm walking into 00:12:45.629 --> 00:12:49.789 these personal development places with my usual 00:12:49.789 --> 00:12:53.009 limiting ideas or patterns about myself so i 00:12:53.009 --> 00:12:56.330 do what's comfortable yeah yeah and that's not 00:12:56.330 --> 00:13:00.549 where the magic is the magic is and i say this 00:13:00.549 --> 00:13:05.309 there needs to be some difficult conversations 00:13:05.309 --> 00:13:09.769 one -on -one where Someone in this beautiful 00:13:09.769 --> 00:13:15.490 space of safety and love bubble, they can confront 00:13:15.490 --> 00:13:20.029 you on things that you don't want to look at, 00:13:20.129 --> 00:13:23.049 you don't want to talk about. That's where your 00:13:23.049 --> 00:13:25.830 breakthrough is. There's things that you avoid 00:13:25.830 --> 00:13:29.190 and you avoid it unconsciously and maybe consciously. 00:13:31.169 --> 00:13:35.690 That's a shortcut. What's your next step? Are 00:13:35.690 --> 00:13:38.149 you going to try to get into universities? what 00:13:38.149 --> 00:13:42.409 will you do now i'm in a mentorship program and 00:13:42.409 --> 00:13:47.529 this is aiming for ivy league and probably you're 00:13:47.529 --> 00:13:50.269 much more familiar with ivy league than myself 00:13:50.269 --> 00:13:53.789 my understanding is these are let's say the top 00:13:53.789 --> 00:13:59.809 universities in the us where i i would risk saying 00:13:59.809 --> 00:14:03.049 some of the future leaders come out from and 00:14:03.049 --> 00:14:11.049 graduate yeah i think uh If they had an understanding 00:14:11.049 --> 00:14:16.629 of how the human mind works and what it means 00:14:16.629 --> 00:14:21.090 to be a leader, what is it like to take charge 00:14:21.090 --> 00:14:24.710 of their psychology, to take charge of their 00:14:24.710 --> 00:14:29.429 leadership, I think we would see a wonderful 00:14:29.429 --> 00:14:35.210 new world where leaders are not coming from ego. 00:14:35.840 --> 00:14:39.360 there's less power games and unfortunately that's 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:43.279 what we see happening uh these days and and i'm 00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:46.019 talking about word politics and i i believe there 00:14:46.019 --> 00:14:51.419 could be a new generation of of leaders who build 00:14:51.419 --> 00:14:56.980 another beautiful word for us yeah yeah so that's 00:14:56.980 --> 00:14:59.519 why i'm really looking at that and i'm still 00:14:59.519 --> 00:15:03.940 in a member in a in a mentorship group I'm still 00:15:03.940 --> 00:15:07.200 attending. I'm doing online submissions and there 00:15:07.200 --> 00:15:13.259 is a roadmap to this so I don't give up. It's 00:15:13.259 --> 00:15:16.580 just taking... much longer and much slower than 00:15:16.580 --> 00:15:18.740 I would like to. Thank you for being here today. 00:15:18.940 --> 00:15:20.700 I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision 00:15:20.700 --> 00:15:23.320 Pros Live. I'm looking forward to seeing your 00:15:23.320 --> 00:15:26.120 reactions as these episodes continue to move 00:15:26.120 --> 00:15:28.059 forward. This is going to get more and more fun. 00:15:28.100 --> 00:15:29.940 We'll have more and more engagement as well. 00:15:29.980 --> 00:15:31.879 We'll invite people to participate in the show 00:15:31.879 --> 00:15:34.080 and thank you for giving us your time and attention. 00:15:34.360 --> 00:15:37.000 Have an excellent time building out your vision 00:15:37.000 --> 00:15:38.379 and becoming a vision pro yourself.