me a favor tell me first last name where you're
located and then the name of your business and
or books you have written andrew hoffman i'm
known as the doctor of southworth i'm logging
on from hungary not too far from the austrian
border in central europe and the book i have
written is discover your authentic self faster
than you ever thought possible so And there's
a few other ones, self -help books, and they're
available on my website for free. Nice. Thanks
for having me. Of course. Thank you so much.
So, of course, anyone that's listening and everyone
that's listening, Doctor of Self -Worth, please
tell me a little bit more about that. It's been
a very long and hard journey for me. 34 years
I have been looking for my lost self -worth,
and I knew that somehow, The disconnection with
my father was the cause. I couldn't quite know
what exactly went wrong. I never felt good enough,
never felt worthy or deserved his love. He was
a typical fault finder, highly critical of me.
And as a child, I have decided early on that
I'm not good enough or I'm not well. i cannot
be successful and i i created a whole lot of
stories out of these and i found myself hanging
in the air always having self -doubt measuring
up other people especially males to try and compete
and maybe to be seen appreciated and to become
valuable because i didn't see myself valuable
and and that was probably the biggest struggle
in most of my life and that changed seven years
ago when after spending a hundred thousand dollars
and traveling 70 countries where i was looking
for answers and investing heavily for decades
i found a mindset coach who has helped me in
australia to find the better part of me or the
authentic version of me who is playing life enjoying
every day, having time for my family and really
be the father who I never had and the father
I've always wanted to be and run a business and
have some fun. And I hope that is giving you
a bit of a background about all these struggles
and troubles that I have been through. What's
one belief about self -worth that even high achieving
leaders struggle with? thanks for asking the
question because you really prompted me to think
about being bulletproof like if you're able to
have this inner sense of power i can handle this
i will find a solution it's going to work out
this trust in the universe trust in business
trust in delivering value i think you start to
walk about the ground because then yes challenges
yes they will come like he cannot save you from
having bigger challenges and decisions to make
and probably 50 of the decisions you make will
be wrong as it turns out to be yet yet i say
if you have this belief in yourself of I'm worthy
and others will find worthy and value in connection
with me you have been you're able to come through
pretty much rough times yeah yeah so And it needs
to be built from the inside. The biggest challenge,
I believe, for most business owners is that they
are looking for external to see their value,
trying to look for those reflections on the outside
that are bank account for objects, the flash
object syndrome, a nice house or a bigger car,
yet it's inside. And look at how... some of these
iconic figures, probably Trump and other people,
and I'm not with or against Trump. All I'm saying
that when these guys kind of lost everything,
like how could they bounce back within a year
or two from minus X hundred million to again
running a series of businesses and becoming successful?
Yeah. Obviously, there is something in their
psychology when they do not process failure or
have a very different filtering going on. And
they are able to, again, strike deals that are
turning over their businesses. Do you think that
it was imperative that you found that moment
before you started? becoming pretty much into
doctor of self -worth and trying to coach individuals
into understanding what their self -worth is?
Or do you believe that you could have done that
while in the business? Does that make sense?
Well, if I really look back, then I have failed
two or three businesses because of my lack of
self -worth and lack of confidence and this unworthiness
that was. I say killing my results, but I didn't
know. And I've been looking for answers to heal
my issues for 20 years before. Yet, you know,
when the pressure builds up and it starts to
crush you, then I think the real decision which
comes with 100 % commitment makes all the difference.
The decision I made is I'll never give up. If
I need to work this out and maybe I'm a hopeless
case, then I'm ready to go through all my life
struggling and then die trying. That decision
was missing for, let's say, 20 years. And I didn't
have, unfortunately, that. The pressure was not
there to lose my children and my wife. And unfortunately,
that's how it came to happen. What would it be
like to grow a business without losing your soul?
What does that mean? I think the magic recipe,
if you could call it that way, is to really ask
yourself, what would it be the best? thing to
do that comes from your heart and somehow put
a business behind it i could almost say like
how would you live how would you like to live
your life if it was a five star six star life
and please like drop the story of that i want
to sit on a beach and drink cocktails because
well it might work for a week or two but You
wouldn't really have meaning behind it. So if
you are serious about a vision, then you need
to kind of play Lego. Okay, so how can I build
that life by Lego pieces? And for me, it was,
well, I want to be free. Freedom is a big one
for me. So no one tells me when, what. with whom
I'm doing what I'm doing. Yet I wanted to change
minds and change lives. And that's what I'm doing
every day of the year. And today is Easter. It's
supposed to be a national holiday. I'm working
through a few time zones. I worked with someone
in Dubai like two hours ago. My wife is not particularly
keen, but it's my vision. sort of my terms to
life, and I manage that relationship with my
wife, yet I'm playing on my playground. Yeah.
And what we need to do then is find your passion
and have you play more and more rather than struggle
and work hard and do the hard miles. I'm not
saying it doesn't take. let's say, practicing
something to get really good, yet I don't think
it's hard work long -term is what you are looking
for. Yeah, yeah. And when you mentioned play,
what do you mean by play? Play more. Again, you
need to, and authenticity, I believe, and this
is exactly how I have sort of built my... method
12 pages the book discover your authentic self
versus is almost inviting you to come back to
that little girl or little boy yeah who had let's
say dreams about living life your way i would
call that success especially if that is attached
to contribution and growth yeah like then you
will feel free you will feel inspired creativity
is just a natural byproduct in in my case it's
it's really i have a beautiful podcast i create
content daily one content i repurpose it to all
of my channels i send out a blog post in linkedin
i have an email that i send out to my uh community
i obviously do work with my groups and i am serving
clients one -on -one these last two are the absolute
priorities and then i build around with my children
who are homeschooled and the project that we
have is this uh setting up an organic permaculture
farm uh and uh and doing house renovation so
I do have a full life. Probably I might be working
more than most of the people listening to us.
Yet it never feels like hard work. Where are
you currently at with your vision? My vision
is limitless. I really want to touch a million
lives and a million orphans as well. I do have
a non -profit project that has not been particularly
successful. And I still see myself with, and
this is something that hasn't worked. So I love
sharing what I'm struggling or failing. I would
love to hit stages in the US to spread the message
of self -worth, what it means, how easier your
life could be, and probably going back to university
because that's a younger age. bracket where people
could realize that probably it's time to fix
it now before that midlife crisis sets in and
it doesn't set in straight away it will be decades
of repetition going in circles and failing and
things not working out or the relationships that
that just happens 10 15 times and then finally
they're ready for help and they realize that
oh this next book is not going to work the next
seminar might not work because i'm walking into
these personal development places with my usual
limiting ideas or patterns about myself so i
do what's comfortable yeah yeah and that's not
where the magic is the magic is and i say this
there needs to be some difficult conversations
one -on -one where Someone in this beautiful
space of safety and love bubble, they can confront
you on things that you don't want to look at,
you don't want to talk about. That's where your
breakthrough is. There's things that you avoid
and you avoid it unconsciously and maybe consciously.
That's a shortcut. What's your next step? Are
you going to try to get into universities? what
will you do now i'm in a mentorship program and
this is aiming for ivy league and probably you're
much more familiar with ivy league than myself
my understanding is these are let's say the top
universities in the us where i i would risk saying
some of the future leaders come out from and
graduate yeah i think uh If they had an understanding
of how the human mind works and what it means
to be a leader, what is it like to take charge
of their psychology, to take charge of their
leadership, I think we would see a wonderful
new world where leaders are not coming from ego.
there's less power games and unfortunately that's
what we see happening uh these days and and i'm
talking about word politics and i i believe there
could be a new generation of of leaders who build
another beautiful word for us yeah yeah so that's
why i'm really looking at that and i'm still
in a member in a in a mentorship group I'm still
attending. I'm doing online submissions and there
is a roadmap to this so I don't give up. It's
just taking... much longer and much slower than
I would like to. Thank you for being here today.
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