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Tell me about your vision for this book.

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That's such a generous question.

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All your questions are so generous.

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I was not, I have been married, happily married for 34 years.

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Wonderful. Jim Ty, yes.

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And, but we were not blessed with children and it was just not in God's plan for us.

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But we are, we have nieces and nephews and God children

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and we're Sunday school teachers and all of the above.

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But, but I had such a blessed journey in my career and it's not over.

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Again, you're so kind to have me on today that I felt I could not,

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usually you get to pass that on to a child or children.

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And I certainly worked to do that with the folks I mentioned, nieces, nephews, God.

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But, but I wanted it packaged and put in a way that it could go to people that I would never ever meet

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because it was given to me by my parents.

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They raised me in a way to understand that generosity is, is, is goal one in life.

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You give back before you take.

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And I've, this is the way I can do that.

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One of the ways.

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Yes.

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But my vision is that this helps people I will never meet

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and that they continue to help people that they will never meet.

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And it's just this beautiful circle that, that goes on through infinity.

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Oh, thank you.

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And it gave me a chance to say thank you to the million people

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that wove their hands together and said, step here.

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And this is my way to weave my hands together and say, step here.

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Let me lift you up because, and this is a perfect time of year for people to feel ordinary, right?

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It's the beginning of the year.

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Oh my gosh, I rushed to get everything done by the end of the year.

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And look, and we've got terrible fires in California.

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And those people are having to start over.

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And then you've got terrific cold, you know, all the way down to Houston, Texas.

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And, and, and it can be a, it can be a tough time of year for everybody

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because they've got to get started again.

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Their, their pants are too tight.

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You know, there's a lot of, a lot of stuff going on in January, as I read a couple of times.

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January is just a series of 30 Mondays.

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So this is a nice time to go back and, and pay yourself the due of spending time on yourself

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through self-care, through reading, through, through reassessing how fabulous you are

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and reminding yourself that you deserve time on the stage too.

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Whatever that stage is.

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I'm, I'm, and I'm, I love that pat on the back.

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That is a great way to spend January.

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I've tried to, I've tried to do something every day this January.

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And that is in my quiet moments of the morning.

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I've tried to, to practice gratitude and, and to the simple things, you know,

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there's a cup of, there's a, there's a warm cup of coffee on the bedside table

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from just waiting for me to inhale it and, you know, and enjoy it.

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There is a blanket of beautiful white snow in Houston, Texas.

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And that is magical.

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I used to live in Houston.

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That is magical for Houstonians.

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And, and so there are so many blessings that are happening.

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Don't, don't beat yourself up about the five pounds you gained or the silly, you know,

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the, the, the, the, I don't know, the silly things, as you said, that we feel like we have

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to have all this perfection in January.

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No, you don't.

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You're right.

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I made it through last year.

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Pat myself on the back and let's, let's ease into this beautiful new year with gratitude.

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Absolutely.

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And, and it's, it's not easy.

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And I'm sure we can testify together that it's not easy.

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We're just saying it's an option and it's a better option than,

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than the latter of, of beating yourself up about what you did not do or trying to set new goals.

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And as you, as you stated, your career has been, you know, for 40 years and you're still going.

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How did you get started?

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People were so kind to me and they've done this to you and you've done this for others.

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I know they saw things in me that I didn't see in myself.

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And so I got started in a career that I, I resolutely rejected when I was told after my aptitudes test back in the day,

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my aptitudes pointed to the one perfect career match for me.

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And that was to be a life insurance salesperson.

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And you tell a 16 year old that she's going to burst into tears and you know, and exactly what I did.

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And I resolutely rejected it until 10 years later, I found myself one of the top insurance salespeople in the country

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because it's not the insurance sales that was my mission.

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It was helping people talk about something they didn't want to talk about.

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Nobody wants to talk about death and dying.

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But, but it's if you are a business owner, you want to take care of your partners.

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If you something happens to you, if you're a parent, if you're a spouse.

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So what that pulled out of me was that generosity, that deep desire to give people advice,

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to give people counseling on something that they may not want to deal with.

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But I can do it in a gentle, but affirming way that says we've got to deal with this and let's do it.

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And I became very successful at that.

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And it started me on my path.

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I ended up retiring from Humana, you know, a nationwide insurance company that most of us know through Medicare Advantage,

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Medicaid and et cetera.

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It allowed me to work on analytics, which I deeply love.

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That's something that lights me up, numbers, business, et cetera.

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But it's as our tagline used to be, it's guidance when you need it most.

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It's being there in life's most difficult moments.

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But you've got to prepare for it so that it doesn't take you down.

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Yes. And that's so truthful.

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I just a little bit about me.

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I'm in San Antonio, Texas, and I came here as an organ tissue and eye coordinator.

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Yes, no one wants to talk about death.

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No one wants to talk about any of that.

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And it's crazy how, you know, your life, whatever you reject, you more than likely will be.

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It's that thought process of like, I never thought I would be doing anything like this.

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And then your journey says it's not the actual title in which you're in.

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It's the love and the innate beauty that you have in yourself to be able to communicate

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what some people will not want to talk about.

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And it's, yes.

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You know exactly what I'm talking about.

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You know exactly.

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That is that's a beautiful compliment to this.

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I mean, in such a needed part of society and such a generous thing to do.

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But people put that off.

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They don't want to talk about it until somebody does it with passion, compassion,

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and probably a lot of strong factual data.

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I'm sure you did that as well.

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Yes. And you know, when you speak about, you know, just truly being ordinary

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and then your journey on how you got started, it's amazing because your journey was already set for you.

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You just had to accept it.

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You know what I mean?

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And so when people often try to figure out their own plan,

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their plan ends up going a little differently than we choose or we expected it to go.

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So with ordinary to extraordinary, what are the takeaways you would like for your readers to see?

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One of the biggest ones.

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I've already mentioned that everybody if I can do it, anybody can do it.

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But the other is your career is a long journey.

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It's a long game.

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I mean, mine is 40 years and counting.

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But unless you are independently wealthy, you're going to need to work.

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You're going to need an income producing, you know, life.

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And I fear that that there has been a dismissal of the importance of a career journey,

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that it's more of a gig, that it's something that I've got to do.

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And that's a long time to do something that you got to do.

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Right. It doesn't.

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It's not as easy as brushing your teeth.

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Right. It's a commitment of 40, 50, 60 hours a week.

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So respect it.

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It is I think of it as a journey that is almost as important as faith, family and health.

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It is right beneath those.

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But guess what?

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It undergirds all of those without a successful career.

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I could not do what I want to do in my faith journey.

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And that is, you know, give back support.

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I couldn't have been as comfortable in my family journey.

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It allowed us to have a life that we feel is custom for us, which is a beautiful thing

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and probably helped in the 34 years.

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And then health.

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I know that it keeps me mentally clear and physically vibrant because I've got to meet the demands

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of a long, tough week.

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And I've got to be there for a team that needs me.

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So I want people to put more respect in that career journey because and to really actualize it as a long game, not a game.

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I love it.

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Long game, not a gig.

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And so without taking up most of your time, I have a favorite question that I love.

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I have a favorite question that I love asking everyone.

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What are the greatest joys of what you do?

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Giving back generosity is is is something that I absolutely love and it comes in so many different flavors in the day.

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This is general.

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You are being so generous to me and I'm so thankful.

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And so my I'm going to be generous right back to you and follow and share because we're on the same vibe.

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We're in the same game.

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So all along the day, joy comes to me when I solve a problem, when I wipe a tear,

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when I give somebody a supporting pat on the back, like you mentioned,

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when I when I get to send my husband off for a weekend and know that he's going to have a joyful fun time where he's going.

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That feels so good to me.

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So and then I get to go to church on Sunday and that that gives me great joy.

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And we actually have a long afternoon church meeting to see all the different places.

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We are doing work that will give me great joy.

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And I hope I insert myself in several of those.

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So I hope that answer generosity is is my is my jam.

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Absolutely. I love it.

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Love it. Love it. And I thank you so much for choosing to spend this morning with me.

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It's been beautiful speaking with you.

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The background says the ambiance of what your heart desires and the passion that you have within in your journey and in this book.

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Patty, would you mind sharing with individuals where they could purchase your book, your website and as well as your social media handles?

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Absolutely. So it's my name is Patty Dale Ty Tye.

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And it's a very easy website.

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It's Patty Dale Ty dot com P A T T I E D A L E dot com T T Y E dot com.

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Sorry. And the book Ordinary to Extraordinary is on Amazon, but it's also at Barnes and Noble.

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And I think those are all the P.D. at Patty Dale dot Patty Dale Ty dot com is how you can get in touch with me.

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Thank you for being here today. I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live.

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I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward.

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This is going to get more and more fun.

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We'll have more and more engagement as well.

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We'll invite people to participate in the show.

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And thank you for giving us your time and attention.

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Have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a vision for yourself.