Tell me about your vision for this book.
That's such a generous question.
All your questions are so generous.
I was not, I have been married, happily married for 34 years.
Wonderful. Jim Ty, yes.
And, but we were not blessed with children and it was just not in God's plan for us.
But we are, we have nieces and nephews and God children
and we're Sunday school teachers and all of the above.
But, but I had such a blessed journey in my career and it's not over.
Again, you're so kind to have me on today that I felt I could not,
usually you get to pass that on to a child or children.
And I certainly worked to do that with the folks I mentioned, nieces, nephews, God.
But, but I wanted it packaged and put in a way that it could go to people that I would never ever meet
because it was given to me by my parents.
They raised me in a way to understand that generosity is, is, is goal one in life.
You give back before you take.
And I've, this is the way I can do that.
One of the ways.
Yes.
But my vision is that this helps people I will never meet
and that they continue to help people that they will never meet.
And it's just this beautiful circle that, that goes on through infinity.
Oh, thank you.
And it gave me a chance to say thank you to the million people
that wove their hands together and said, step here.
And this is my way to weave my hands together and say, step here.
Let me lift you up because, and this is a perfect time of year for people to feel ordinary, right?
It's the beginning of the year.
Oh my gosh, I rushed to get everything done by the end of the year.
And look, and we've got terrible fires in California.
And those people are having to start over.
And then you've got terrific cold, you know, all the way down to Houston, Texas.
And, and, and it can be a, it can be a tough time of year for everybody
because they've got to get started again.
Their, their pants are too tight.
You know, there's a lot of, a lot of stuff going on in January, as I read a couple of times.
January is just a series of 30 Mondays.
So this is a nice time to go back and, and pay yourself the due of spending time on yourself
through self-care, through reading, through, through reassessing how fabulous you are
and reminding yourself that you deserve time on the stage too.
Whatever that stage is.
I'm, I'm, and I'm, I love that pat on the back.
That is a great way to spend January.
I've tried to, I've tried to do something every day this January.
And that is in my quiet moments of the morning.
I've tried to, to practice gratitude and, and to the simple things, you know,
there's a cup of, there's a, there's a warm cup of coffee on the bedside table
from just waiting for me to inhale it and, you know, and enjoy it.
There is a blanket of beautiful white snow in Houston, Texas.
And that is magical.
I used to live in Houston.
That is magical for Houstonians.
And, and so there are so many blessings that are happening.
Don't, don't beat yourself up about the five pounds you gained or the silly, you know,
the, the, the, the, I don't know, the silly things, as you said, that we feel like we have
to have all this perfection in January.
No, you don't.
You're right.
I made it through last year.
Pat myself on the back and let's, let's ease into this beautiful new year with gratitude.
Absolutely.
And, and it's, it's not easy.
And I'm sure we can testify together that it's not easy.
We're just saying it's an option and it's a better option than,
than the latter of, of beating yourself up about what you did not do or trying to set new goals.
And as you, as you stated, your career has been, you know, for 40 years and you're still going.
How did you get started?
People were so kind to me and they've done this to you and you've done this for others.
I know they saw things in me that I didn't see in myself.
And so I got started in a career that I, I resolutely rejected when I was told after my aptitudes test back in the day,
my aptitudes pointed to the one perfect career match for me.
And that was to be a life insurance salesperson.
And you tell a 16 year old that she's going to burst into tears and you know, and exactly what I did.
And I resolutely rejected it until 10 years later, I found myself one of the top insurance salespeople in the country
because it's not the insurance sales that was my mission.
It was helping people talk about something they didn't want to talk about.
Nobody wants to talk about death and dying.
But, but it's if you are a business owner, you want to take care of your partners.
If you something happens to you, if you're a parent, if you're a spouse.
So what that pulled out of me was that generosity, that deep desire to give people advice,
to give people counseling on something that they may not want to deal with.
But I can do it in a gentle, but affirming way that says we've got to deal with this and let's do it.
And I became very successful at that.
And it started me on my path.
I ended up retiring from Humana, you know, a nationwide insurance company that most of us know through Medicare Advantage,
Medicaid and et cetera.
And it was the same theory.
It allowed me to work on analytics, which I deeply love.
That's something that lights me up, numbers, business, et cetera.
But it's as our tagline used to be, it's guidance when you need it most.
It's being there in life's most difficult moments.
But you've got to prepare for it so that it doesn't take you down.
Yes. And that's so truthful.
I just a little bit about me.
I'm in San Antonio, Texas, and I came here as an organ tissue and eye coordinator.
Yes, no one wants to talk about death.
No one wants to talk about any of that.
And it's crazy how, you know, your life, whatever you reject, you more than likely will be.
It's that thought process of like, I never thought I would be doing anything like this.
And then your journey says it's not the actual title in which you're in.
It's the love and the innate beauty that you have in yourself to be able to communicate
what some people will not want to talk about.
And it's, yes.
Yeah. Yeah.
You know exactly what I'm talking about.
You know exactly.
That is that's a beautiful compliment to this.
I mean, in such a needed part of society and such a generous thing to do.
But people put that off.
They don't want to talk about it until somebody does it with passion, compassion,
and probably a lot of strong factual data.
I'm sure you did that as well.
Yes. And you know, when you speak about, you know, just truly being ordinary
and then your journey on how you got started, it's amazing because your journey was already set for you.
You just had to accept it.
You know what I mean?
And so when people often try to figure out their own plan,
their plan ends up going a little differently than we choose or we expected it to go.
So with ordinary to extraordinary, what are the takeaways you would like for your readers to see?
One of the biggest ones.
I've already mentioned that everybody if I can do it, anybody can do it.
But the other is your career is a long journey.
It's a long game.
I mean, mine is 40 years and counting.
But unless you are independently wealthy, you're going to need to work.
You're going to need an income producing, you know, life.
And I fear that that there has been a dismissal of the importance of a career journey,
that it's more of a gig, that it's something that I've got to do.
And that's a long time to do something that you got to do.
Right. It doesn't.
It's not as easy as brushing your teeth.
Right. It's a commitment of 40, 50, 60 hours a week.
So respect it.
It is I think of it as a journey that is almost as important as faith, family and health.
It is right beneath those.
But guess what?
It undergirds all of those without a successful career.
I could not do what I want to do in my faith journey.
And that is, you know, give back support.
I couldn't have been as comfortable in my family journey.
It allowed us to have a life that we feel is custom for us, which is a beautiful thing
and probably helped in the 34 years.
And then health.
I know that it keeps me mentally clear and physically vibrant because I've got to meet the demands
of a long, tough week.
And I've got to be there for a team that needs me.
So I want people to put more respect in that career journey because and to really actualize it as a long game, not a game.
I love it.
Long game, not a gig.
And so without taking up most of your time, I have a favorite question that I love.
I have a favorite question that I love asking everyone.
Okay.
What are the greatest joys of what you do?
Giving back generosity is is is something that I absolutely love and it comes in so many different flavors in the day.
This is general.
You are being so generous to me and I'm so thankful.
And so my I'm going to be generous right back to you and follow and share because we're on the same vibe.
We're in the same game.
So all along the day, joy comes to me when I solve a problem, when I wipe a tear,
when I give somebody a supporting pat on the back, like you mentioned,
when I when I get to send my husband off for a weekend and know that he's going to have a joyful fun time where he's going.
That feels so good to me.
So and then I get to go to church on Sunday and that that gives me great joy.
And we actually have a long afternoon church meeting to see all the different places.
We are doing work that will give me great joy.
And I hope I insert myself in several of those.
So I hope that answer generosity is is my is my jam.
Absolutely. I love it.
Love it. Love it. And I thank you so much for choosing to spend this morning with me.
It's been beautiful speaking with you.
The background says the ambiance of what your heart desires and the passion that you have within in your journey and in this book.
Patty, would you mind sharing with individuals where they could purchase your book, your website and as well as your social media handles?
Absolutely. So it's my name is Patty Dale Ty Tye.
And it's a very easy website.
It's Patty Dale Ty dot com P A T T I E D A L E dot com T T Y E dot com.
Sorry. And the book Ordinary to Extraordinary is on Amazon, but it's also at Barnes and Noble.
And I think those are all the P.D. at Patty Dale dot Patty Dale Ty dot com is how you can get in touch with me.
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