1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 Tell me about your vision. 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:10,680 So my vision is that everyone on the planet would be living their legacy 3 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:14,720 every moment of every day choice by choice. 4 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:17,520 And 5 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:21,720 you know, it's something that most people when we think about legacy 6 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:29,380 we tend to think about like something we're gonna leave behind after we're gone and it's usually like, you know finances, 7 00:00:29,380 --> 00:00:31,380 property that kind of thing and 8 00:00:31,980 --> 00:00:36,580 I believe the reality is we are living our legacy 9 00:00:37,020 --> 00:00:43,420 you know with every choice that we make every action that we take and that can be a little jarring especially 10 00:00:44,700 --> 00:00:47,020 You know and I've been there, you know 11 00:00:47,020 --> 00:00:52,900 We can be on autopilot like going a hundred miles an hour only to wake up one day going 12 00:00:52,900 --> 00:00:55,180 I think I'm going the wrong direction 13 00:00:55,180 --> 00:00:59,340 You know or I'm not sure if this is the right direction and 14 00:00:59,660 --> 00:01:03,900 So, you know it I believe it especially now 15 00:01:04,780 --> 00:01:07,860 There's so much change so much uncertainty 16 00:01:08,660 --> 00:01:10,660 going on and 17 00:01:10,980 --> 00:01:12,340 you know 18 00:01:12,340 --> 00:01:18,860 We need to become more conscious of in the middle of all that. What is it that we really want? 19 00:01:19,620 --> 00:01:20,900 really 20 00:01:20,900 --> 00:01:22,900 not by default 21 00:01:22,900 --> 00:01:28,380 Not by default but by design, you know, what is it that we want our life to look like? 22 00:01:28,700 --> 00:01:32,340 How do we want to be able to impact the people on our path? 23 00:01:34,180 --> 00:01:37,340 And that's just not something that most of us 24 00:01:38,180 --> 00:01:41,580 make the time to ponder and 25 00:01:42,380 --> 00:01:44,380 And for me 26 00:01:44,380 --> 00:01:46,860 It took kovat to wake me up 27 00:01:47,580 --> 00:01:50,580 it was a serious wake-up call and 28 00:01:50,580 --> 00:01:54,380 You know, I realized you know when everything came to a halt 29 00:01:56,060 --> 00:02:00,620 And I had to like look life straight on and say, you know 30 00:02:00,620 --> 00:02:06,580 Is this what I've been doing even though what I was doing was really successful and meaningful 31 00:02:07,100 --> 00:02:09,620 It had kind of lost its spark for me 32 00:02:10,980 --> 00:02:16,100 And I realized I was completely burned out and I needed to rethink 33 00:02:16,100 --> 00:02:20,740 I wanted to rethink my life now 34 00:02:21,380 --> 00:02:29,380 Rethinking your life in the middle of a pandemic in terms of being able to make a significant shift in what I was doing 35 00:02:30,820 --> 00:02:33,460 Did not make a lot of sense financially 36 00:02:34,580 --> 00:02:36,500 You know, it's like oh my gosh 37 00:02:36,500 --> 00:02:44,020 How am I going to completely rethink my life and how can I afford to do that in Los Angeles in the middle of the pandemic? 38 00:02:44,020 --> 00:02:48,900 and you know, I have done the seemingly impossible over and over 39 00:02:49,380 --> 00:02:51,380 throughout my life 40 00:02:51,380 --> 00:02:54,260 and in that moment I needed to 41 00:02:54,900 --> 00:02:57,700 Say, okay, what's worked for me before? 42 00:02:58,420 --> 00:03:03,060 And it's two what I consider kind of magical questions 43 00:03:04,020 --> 00:03:06,020 which is 44 00:03:06,500 --> 00:03:09,460 What if what I really want is possible? 45 00:03:09,460 --> 00:03:12,020 And what am I not seeing yet? 46 00:03:13,780 --> 00:03:15,780 And that yet is 47 00:03:15,860 --> 00:03:24,420 Really critical because it's the thing that opens up that door of possibility that there is something there is a way 48 00:03:25,060 --> 00:03:27,940 To do it. I'm just not seeing it yet 49 00:03:29,460 --> 00:03:34,340 And by asking what if it is possible I get out of that 50 00:03:34,340 --> 00:03:38,900 Negative what you know all the what ifs as in what if it won't work? 51 00:03:38,900 --> 00:03:44,020 You know and and to shift my mindset into one of 52 00:03:45,060 --> 00:03:47,060 What if it is possible 53 00:03:47,860 --> 00:03:51,700 And and it really is and has been for me magical 54 00:03:52,420 --> 00:03:56,740 Meaning in this case the minute I asked those two questions 55 00:03:57,700 --> 00:03:59,700 the next day 56 00:03:59,700 --> 00:04:06,180 The minute I asked those two questions the next day I came across an article 57 00:04:06,820 --> 00:04:11,380 About a woman who had retired in mexico on her fixed income 58 00:04:12,420 --> 00:04:17,700 I'm like say what you know, no way could I do what I want to do on my fixed income 59 00:04:18,340 --> 00:04:19,380 and 60 00:04:19,380 --> 00:04:26,180 Moved to mexico in the middle of a pandemic. That's crazy. And of course all of my friends fueled that that's crazy 61 00:04:26,180 --> 00:04:31,380 What are you thinking? You know, you're either on something or onto something which is it, you know 62 00:04:32,500 --> 00:04:37,700 But you know the minute I saw that article I began to second guess my doubts 63 00:04:39,860 --> 00:04:45,940 And I began to think okay, well, what would that look like or what would I want it to look like? 64 00:04:47,060 --> 00:04:49,060 And I created a list 65 00:04:49,060 --> 00:04:55,460 With my husband we sat down and said, you know, what would we want this next life to look like? 66 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:02,580 Detailed not just little whatever's but like exactly. What do we want it to look like? 67 00:05:02,660 --> 00:05:05,220 And there were two things at the top of the list 68 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:07,620 affordable 69 00:05:07,620 --> 00:05:09,780 and climate 70 00:05:09,780 --> 00:05:15,860 As in a moderate climate if we were going to move because we were going to have to move if I wanted to do this 71 00:05:16,900 --> 00:05:17,940 and 72 00:05:17,940 --> 00:05:19,940 When the climate issue came up 73 00:05:20,260 --> 00:05:24,340 I looked at what are the the top three places in the world? 74 00:05:24,980 --> 00:05:26,980 That have a moderate climate 75 00:05:27,460 --> 00:05:31,780 and lake chapala mexico popped up onto my radar screen 76 00:05:32,740 --> 00:05:34,740 and 77 00:05:34,740 --> 00:05:38,740 You know, I thought well, okay, and so we started doing research 78 00:05:39,700 --> 00:05:45,540 And lo and behold it ticked off every single box on our list including 79 00:05:45,540 --> 00:05:50,820 Our one, you know, we had the have to have so nice to have would be amazing to have 80 00:05:51,380 --> 00:05:54,100 And the two things on the amazing side were 81 00:05:54,900 --> 00:05:56,260 mountains 82 00:05:56,260 --> 00:05:58,260 and water 83 00:05:59,060 --> 00:06:03,460 And lake chapala is the largest freshwater lake in mexico 84 00:06:04,340 --> 00:06:06,340 and 85 00:06:06,340 --> 00:06:08,340 We literally the home that we're in now 86 00:06:08,340 --> 00:06:12,340 We have a view of the lake and we're up against the mountains 87 00:06:12,340 --> 00:06:18,260 And across the lake there's another set of mountains, you know, so it's you know 88 00:06:19,380 --> 00:06:21,380 It was amazing 89 00:06:21,380 --> 00:06:23,380 again 90 00:06:23,380 --> 00:06:28,180 You know by opening up our mindset and you know 91 00:06:29,220 --> 00:06:33,940 Challenging the assumptions that we had and there were many about mexico 92 00:06:34,500 --> 00:06:37,140 And of course, none of those have turned out to be true 93 00:06:37,860 --> 00:06:40,980 And you know, we love the people we love the culture 94 00:06:40,980 --> 00:06:42,980 We love the environment 95 00:06:43,220 --> 00:06:44,580 and 96 00:06:44,580 --> 00:06:46,580 It gave me time 97 00:06:46,580 --> 00:06:51,140 To sit back and reflect on my life and what was it that? 98 00:06:51,940 --> 00:06:55,700 Contributed to me doing those seemingly impossible things 99 00:06:56,820 --> 00:07:00,980 And to finally write my book to share with other people 100 00:07:01,620 --> 00:07:03,940 You know how I went from 101 00:07:04,420 --> 00:07:07,300 Doubt to do over and over again 102 00:07:07,780 --> 00:07:10,100 How I actually navigated 103 00:07:10,100 --> 00:07:12,100 the possibilities 104 00:07:12,100 --> 00:07:15,140 That you know, I first you know that I saw 105 00:07:16,500 --> 00:07:17,300 um 106 00:07:17,300 --> 00:07:18,180 and 107 00:07:18,180 --> 00:07:23,860 You know, it's given me time to then leverage that to be able to speak like I am today 108 00:07:24,500 --> 00:07:25,700 and 109 00:07:25,700 --> 00:07:27,700 uh to share my vision 110 00:07:28,020 --> 00:07:29,540 with other people 111 00:07:29,540 --> 00:07:34,740 Because I really do believe it would be life-changing not only for the individual 112 00:07:35,380 --> 00:07:38,740 But for everybody on their path for the world, you know 113 00:07:38,740 --> 00:07:41,300 If we all were willing 114 00:07:41,540 --> 00:07:44,980 To own up to what is it that we really want? 115 00:07:45,700 --> 00:07:47,940 And why is it so important? 116 00:07:48,740 --> 00:07:51,620 And what are we willing to do to make that happen? 117 00:07:53,940 --> 00:07:56,660 Thank you for sharing that with us uh cat 118 00:07:57,700 --> 00:08:03,460 Um, I there's so much you shared and there's so many questions I have regarding that 119 00:08:04,100 --> 00:08:06,100 first thing is 120 00:08:06,100 --> 00:08:12,340 To me legacy is something you build towards and to you legacy is something 121 00:08:13,060 --> 00:08:17,140 Uh, you live to me legacy is something you leave behind for people 122 00:08:17,140 --> 00:08:21,540 The to me that is impact you've had in the in the world the life 123 00:08:21,540 --> 00:08:25,060 Maybe you've changed and maybe the people you've inspired. Yep 124 00:08:25,620 --> 00:08:29,700 Um, and you say that it's something i'm living right now 125 00:08:29,700 --> 00:08:32,660 There's a very few people I know who are living their legacy 126 00:08:32,660 --> 00:08:40,660 So what is the legacy you're living right now or is this something that you've already shared to me with me right now that you're moving to mexico having those experiences 127 00:08:41,460 --> 00:08:46,900 And living where you wanted to live with the people you wanted to live and having the experience you wanted to have 128 00:08:46,900 --> 00:08:48,900 What is your legacy? 129 00:08:48,900 --> 00:08:50,900 Oh, my legacy 130 00:08:50,900 --> 00:08:55,060 Well, ultimately I would say I want to have a legacy of love 131 00:08:55,860 --> 00:08:59,220 But that's you know, that's kind of like a big thing 132 00:08:59,220 --> 00:09:02,420 But what that looks like for me every day 133 00:09:03,060 --> 00:09:06,580 Is what what am I doing to help? 134 00:09:07,300 --> 00:09:10,580 other people see their full potential 135 00:09:13,780 --> 00:09:15,780 And not be limited 136 00:09:16,260 --> 00:09:17,460 by 137 00:09:17,460 --> 00:09:22,340 The the way they've labeled themselves the way other people have labeled them 138 00:09:23,060 --> 00:09:24,180 um 139 00:09:24,180 --> 00:09:27,300 All the shoulds and have to's and 140 00:09:27,300 --> 00:09:33,700 Uh, you know i'm i'm in the process of i'm going to be doing a ted talk in march 141 00:09:34,260 --> 00:09:37,300 and my my uh 142 00:09:38,180 --> 00:09:43,540 My working title is labels lies and your legacy 143 00:09:45,220 --> 00:09:47,220 Because you know 144 00:09:47,780 --> 00:09:52,660 In order to be living our legacy, it means we need to be letting go 145 00:09:52,660 --> 00:09:58,980 Of all those things that are limiting us from what we really want 146 00:10:02,980 --> 00:10:05,540 Awesome, yeah, thank you for sharing that 147 00:10:07,700 --> 00:10:09,700 Would you say 148 00:10:15,460 --> 00:10:18,580 What are some of the stories that 149 00:10:18,580 --> 00:10:21,380 That you have pertains to your why 150 00:10:21,940 --> 00:10:23,380 Or what you do 151 00:10:23,380 --> 00:10:28,980 I would love to hear some of those stories. I think that would be something that would put some more insights on 152 00:10:29,140 --> 00:10:31,140 Where you're going with this and why 153 00:10:31,380 --> 00:10:33,380 Yeah, so 154 00:10:35,460 --> 00:10:39,540 I I was really blessed at a very early age 155 00:10:40,340 --> 00:10:41,620 to 156 00:10:41,620 --> 00:10:45,620 Be exposed to something that comes out of the heart of the person 157 00:10:45,620 --> 00:10:51,220 to be exposed to something that completely changed my life which was 158 00:10:52,020 --> 00:10:54,980 You know at the age of 14 I saw 159 00:10:55,700 --> 00:10:57,780 An up with people performance 160 00:10:58,740 --> 00:11:02,980 And you might say what the heck is that because you're probably too young to know what that is 161 00:11:03,540 --> 00:11:05,540 but up with people 162 00:11:05,700 --> 00:11:08,920 Um had a two-hour very inspirational 163 00:11:09,780 --> 00:11:11,700 live performance 164 00:11:11,700 --> 00:11:13,700 with young people 165 00:11:13,700 --> 00:11:17,220 Than college age and they toured for a year 166 00:11:18,260 --> 00:11:21,060 Uh staying in host families wherever they went 167 00:11:22,340 --> 00:11:28,200 And the whole purpose was to prepare them to be lifelong changemakers 168 00:11:29,460 --> 00:11:36,040 To see their potential and to give them the the courage and and the confidence 169 00:11:36,580 --> 00:11:38,580 To pursue their vision 170 00:11:39,460 --> 00:11:42,340 And when I saw that at 14, it was like my dream 171 00:11:42,340 --> 00:11:47,140 to be able to travel with them, but I was 14 and these were college kids and 172 00:11:47,700 --> 00:11:49,700 But believe it or not 173 00:11:50,020 --> 00:11:55,140 I declared this is my dream someday. I'm gonna do it and two years later 174 00:11:55,860 --> 00:11:59,220 When I was 16, they started a high school cast 175 00:12:00,660 --> 00:12:01,860 And 176 00:12:01,860 --> 00:12:03,140 I'm like 177 00:12:03,140 --> 00:12:06,020 Here we go. I'm gonna live my dream 178 00:12:06,660 --> 00:12:10,100 And in order to do that I had to get a sponsor 179 00:12:10,100 --> 00:12:16,420 And again probably might be too too young to appreciate the full impact of this 180 00:12:16,900 --> 00:12:17,700 but 181 00:12:17,700 --> 00:12:24,820 I picked up the phone and I called nbc studios and I asked to talk to bob as in bob hope 182 00:12:25,860 --> 00:12:30,740 Who was one of the biggest entertainers in the world at that time? 183 00:12:31,540 --> 00:12:34,260 And believe it or not. He was there 184 00:12:35,060 --> 00:12:37,300 They put him on the phone. I showed him 185 00:12:37,300 --> 00:12:39,540 And he became my sponsor 186 00:12:40,100 --> 00:12:42,340 Paid for my complete year on the road 187 00:12:43,060 --> 00:12:49,220 That's awesome. And that was the beginning of me believing that anything is possible 188 00:12:50,580 --> 00:12:52,260 When we 189 00:12:52,260 --> 00:12:54,260 Make a decision 190 00:12:54,260 --> 00:13:01,620 And you know about what we want we declare what we want we share it expecting that we're going to get the support 191 00:13:01,620 --> 00:13:06,900 and and it it really 192 00:13:06,980 --> 00:13:13,860 It created a whole way of being for me that I then lived out in many other situations 193 00:13:14,500 --> 00:13:15,860 and 194 00:13:15,860 --> 00:13:22,580 You know, they really helped me see my potential during that year. It was an incredible experience. So 195 00:13:23,220 --> 00:13:25,220 Fast forward many years later 196 00:13:25,780 --> 00:13:26,980 I 197 00:13:26,980 --> 00:13:33,940 Went to work at a residential treatment facility for teenage girls that were labeled at risk 198 00:13:36,020 --> 00:13:38,020 And I was really 199 00:13:38,420 --> 00:13:42,980 Taken with their vision of giving these girls a quote second chance 200 00:13:44,340 --> 00:13:50,900 And that I could be part of that but I realized very quickly this wasn't a second chance 201 00:13:52,100 --> 00:13:54,100 How could I be part of that? 202 00:13:54,100 --> 00:14:01,140 Second chance. How can you have a second chance if the only thing you've ever known is one thing? 203 00:14:02,820 --> 00:14:04,820 So I had this idea 204 00:14:04,820 --> 00:14:06,820 Many people thought was crazy 205 00:14:06,980 --> 00:14:10,740 But I had this idea that if we could get these girls out in the community 206 00:14:11,380 --> 00:14:13,380 Doing meaningful work 207 00:14:13,780 --> 00:14:15,780 That it would transform 208 00:14:16,180 --> 00:14:21,700 their image of themselves other people's images of them labels and 209 00:14:21,700 --> 00:14:23,700 And show them that they have 210 00:14:24,100 --> 00:14:26,660 The potential to make a difference in the world 211 00:14:28,260 --> 00:14:33,300 I shared my passion with the non-profit leaders 20 of them said yes 212 00:14:34,020 --> 00:14:36,660 That's and we started a summer program 213 00:14:37,380 --> 00:14:39,380 volunteer program that became 214 00:14:40,020 --> 00:14:41,220 transformational 215 00:14:41,220 --> 00:14:42,500 I mean 216 00:14:42,500 --> 00:14:43,940 these girls 217 00:14:43,940 --> 00:14:47,940 You know, they were kind of downcast before this 218 00:14:47,940 --> 00:14:51,460 And all of a sudden they had a spark in their eyes 219 00:14:52,100 --> 00:14:57,700 And instead of running away they stayed they showed up day after day whether it was 220 00:14:58,260 --> 00:15:00,260 walking Johnny 221 00:15:00,260 --> 00:15:06,260 Uh at the equestrian therapy or being with mrs. Johnson at the senior center 222 00:15:06,820 --> 00:15:07,780 or 223 00:15:07,780 --> 00:15:12,340 Working at the food bank, you know all of a sudden these girls realized 224 00:15:12,900 --> 00:15:16,580 They mattered to someone and someone mattered 225 00:15:16,580 --> 00:15:18,580 mattered to them 226 00:15:19,540 --> 00:15:22,180 And they could have a positive impact 227 00:15:22,740 --> 00:15:24,740 in their life 228 00:15:24,740 --> 00:15:26,740 And it really was transformational 229 00:15:27,300 --> 00:15:29,300 So this is you know this for me 230 00:15:30,020 --> 00:15:35,620 Was is a great example of when we have a vision for something 231 00:15:36,580 --> 00:15:38,980 And we're willing to kind of buck the system 232 00:15:39,860 --> 00:15:41,860 you know and 233 00:15:42,100 --> 00:15:44,100 share our vision 234 00:15:44,100 --> 00:15:49,460 And that we can attract the support that we need and we can make a difference 235 00:15:50,260 --> 00:15:54,100 So I would say to your listeners, you know, like what are you passionate about? 236 00:15:55,140 --> 00:15:57,140 And what could you do? 237 00:15:57,620 --> 00:16:01,940 If you believe that was possible you asked for what you needed 238 00:16:02,740 --> 00:16:04,740 And you took that first step 239 00:16:05,380 --> 00:16:07,380 Which is always the hardest, you know 240 00:16:09,620 --> 00:16:13,380 Thank you for being here today. I'm really happy that you tuned in to vision pros live 241 00:16:13,380 --> 00:16:18,260 I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward 242 00:16:18,260 --> 00:16:19,940 This is going to get more and more fun 243 00:16:19,940 --> 00:16:21,860 And we'll have more and more engagement as well 244 00:16:21,860 --> 00:16:26,260 We'll invite people to participate in the show and thank you for giving us your time and attention 245 00:16:26,260 --> 00:16:43,860 Have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a vision pro yourself