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How did you get started? Well, I've had three wonderful careers, Suvenka. My first career,

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I was a United States swimming coach. So I was working with athletes to try to rise to their

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potential and breakthrough in the pool. Then I'd probably still be a swimming coach except for I

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had no life. My team became gigantic and it was 24-7, seven days a week. And I wanted some semblance

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of balance in my life. So I'm probably the only person you ever know who went to graduate school

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to get a life more than a job. And I did. I ended up going into my corporate career. So my second

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career was as a corporate. I ended up being a vice president of two large companies. And in that time,

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I started really my passion started to expand into that world of team building that, you know, one of

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the greatest parts of breaking through is realize that the best thing about you and I as human beings,

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all of us as human beings, is that we'll do more for others than we'll do for ourselves.

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That when we recognize that, that's one of the wonderful things I love about the breakthrough

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is that oftentimes it's somebody else breaking their board that just fills you up even more than

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your own breakthrough. And so I started, that's when I started doing team building events in my

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own company. So we'd shatter those silos and turn them into synergy. And so we had a magnificent

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turnaround in my corporation, a pretty large company. And at the peak of it, I said to my wife,

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honey, we're doing great. Let's quit. I go do this. This is not an earth to do. And that was 35 years

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ago. So it's all have the same in, you know, kind of primary focus, which is people that we have in

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us this capacity to make new choices that if things are to change, I must change. And then I want to

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help people recognize their possibilities and start focusing on what they want instead of what they

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don't want. Yeah. Yeah. And you know, it's so interesting is that your energy is protruding

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through the screen. And so as you speak, I'm all excited. Like, I love this stuff, something about

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which are you considered a motivational speaker as well? Is that an addition to?

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Yes, that's what I'm called. And I always joke about it because I say I'm a motivated speaker.

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But I have called I've been rated one of the top 50 motivational speakers in the world.

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But really, I'm a motivated speaker. Motivation must be internal. So I look at myself as a

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professional speaker as a motivational speaker as a spark, because it has to come from inside of you.

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If I can get you to open your eyes to your possibilities, if I can help you be more fully

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present with the people in your life in precious moments, that way you'll help people know they're

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important. If I can do that, be that little spark, then you can build that self motivation,

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which is the only kind that really matters and really lasts. But, you know, I have one of the

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things I teach is that your energy is a choice. I talk about energy. And to everyone we touch,

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our energy is our ultimate example. People won't remember that much of what you say,

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no matter how well you say it. But they'll never forget your energy. I can feel your energy come

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through the screen to that smile that radiates, you know, lifts the screen. And, and when we think

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about that, most people think about their energy as if it's not their choice. They think about it

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like it's the weather, like, boy, I hope I have enough energy to make it through those calls today.

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But energy is a choice and how to cultivate a better choice. Watch out. So I try to help people

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look at their energy on a 10 point scale. One is comatose. 10 is a child on Christmas morning.

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10 is the way you feel when you just nailed it. You did the best job of your life. How can you move

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closer on up to that level 10? And there's three simple ways we can do a whole show on it. But I'll

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do it real quick. One, change the way you move. Your energy is created by the way that you move.

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In other words, anytime you've been at your best, you've given your best presentation, you've been

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your most creative, you've moved your body differently than when you've not been your best

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in those situations. Your body line and posture, your facial expression, your eye position,

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and your breathing. Now, I said that to some people before, Javanka, they say, well, Brian,

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if I had more energy, I'd move more. Ah, move more and you'll have more energy. That's the choice. So

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if you want to move your life, you've got to move yourself. Second, even bigger key, your energy is

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directly proportional to your level of purpose. Whenever you're full of purpose, you're full of

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energy. You ever realize when you think about the things you love to do, energy is no problem.

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Doesn't matter how you sleep in or feel it. When you get to do what you love to do, it's like my

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grandchildren. Let me at it. I joke about it, but it's true. When I'm on stage, I'm 25. When I'm off

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stage, okay, I'm 70 again. But on stage, I'm 25. And so focusing on purpose. How do you get there?

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Start every morning asking yourself, what am I truly grateful about today? Start with gratitude.

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That will focus you on what's really important to you. Your priorities, your priorities will

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lead you to purpose. And the third key to energy for most people is the tough one. Release your

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energy vampires. Almost everyone I know as things like, I have a lot of energy, except when I get

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around him. I have this one guy in my life who sucks the energy out of me. They're like my energy

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vampire. And I always say the same thing to those people and never say to be harsh or cruel. I say

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it to set them free. If you have somebody in your life who you feel like takes your energy away,

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you get up, they pull you down. From this moment forward, stop it. It's not their energy. No one

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can take your energy from you unless you give them permission. And when you release them,

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suddenly you realize that you can be easy to impress and hard to offend.

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And that is an incredible recipe to impact others. I love that. I love that. So it's change the way

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you move, your energy is connected to your purpose and release your energy vampires.

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Yeah, because they don't exist unless you create them. True, true, true. And you know, one of the

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things that, and I'm a people person and I love people and I love speaking about energy and I

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love love, right? When I think and I hear you say release your energy vampires, a lot of people,

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those vampires are family members. Those vampires are people that are connected to you by DNA.

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What would you say for something like that? Of course, this is a random question, Brian,

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but I'm just very interested to hear. It's a great question. And you're right. It's often

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people that really mean a lot to us. I thought my biggest energy vampire for a big part of my life

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was the same guy that was my hero growing up called my dad. He was big and tough and quiet and strong.

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And what I wanted as a kid more than anything was for once, just once, my big tough daddy to give me

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a hug, just once for him to say, I'm proud of you, Brian, or say I love you son, but he couldn't do

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it. His mother died when he was seven. And my uncle told me when she died, it was as if he was

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died, it was as if he closed up. But I didn't know that. I was a kid. All I knew was I wanted him to

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hug me, to love me, to be proud of me, but he couldn't do it. It took me three, one years to

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finally realize that if things are to change, I must change. You see, I had always tried to be who

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I thought he wanted me to be. I thought he wanted me to be like him, tough, quiet, strong. Not me.

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I'm a goofball. I cried openings in supermarkets. I'm terrible. And I went to see him once after 14

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years of not seeing him, just running away. And I married, I had a new child. And I said, for the

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first time ever, I'm going to release my energy vampire. I'm going to be myself. I'm going to

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bring my authentic energy. One day of releasing him, all of a sudden I realized how much he meant

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to me. I realized how he had always told me he loved me in the only way he knew how. He couldn't

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say it. He couldn't hug me, but he could work two jobs. So we'd have enough. He could be tough.

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And today my 94-year-old father is my best friend. I talk to him every day. I care for him. And we

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completely come through. So here's this point. That family member doesn't mean to hurt you.

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They don't mean to take your energy away. They just think you're doing the right thing. And what's

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happening is you're being easy to offend. So start by asking yourself, what else could this mean?

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Maybe it means they think that it's the only way I can really show my love is by being tough.

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But most of all, recognize that you still have a choice. You don't have a choice of what they say,

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but you have a choice of the way you receive it. And if you'll be easy to impress and hard to offend,

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then the more you let go of that feeling that you're an energy vampire, the more they will disappear.

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And it's interesting because I've always believed that everyone has a story. And once you hear the

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story, you're able to accept the person for who they are because they can't change their past

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either, which is why they are who they are today. So that's what that brought me to is just accepting

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people for who they are, but also being open enough to want to hear the story and accepting

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that we all do. When you connect that way. And I love that you said that you love love. And

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I want to share with you, while we're on this incredible program, the most important words

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I've ever written because they're about love. And what they say is, what I wrote was it came

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in an epiphany that the love we fail to share is the only pain we live with. The love we fail to

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share is the only pain we live with. And if we don't get that now, if we don't reach out to people

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when we feel it and say, I love you, I appreciate you. Thank you. You're amazing. And we keep putting

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it off. We say, well, I'll do it as soon as I get all this other stuff done. Then the love you fail

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to share may become the only pain you leave with. And that's too late. So that's about recognition,

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acknowledgement, appreciation, expression of kindness and love. So it's really a vitally,

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I like to call it being a world-class buddy thinker. All right. And really stepping up. And

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when you have the moment, because you never know, you may not pass this way again.

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Let them know how you appreciate them. Let them know how much you think of them. Let them know

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that you love them, that you care for them, that they've made a difference in your life.

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And when you do that, the amazing thing is whenever you seek to enrich another's experience,

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you can't help but enrich your own. Yeah. Yeah. And you know, what's interesting is that what

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we're truly speaking about is, I guess, making sure we're okay so that we could be great leaders.

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Yeah. It starts on the inside and works its way out. Before you can energize and engage anyone

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else, who must you energize and engage? Yourself. And it starts by making decisions. That's when I'm

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talking about making choices. And perhaps the most important choice to express appreciation,

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love, to help other people grow, help other people build trust is to be fully present.

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Now, what that means is, and you are it on this show. You're a perfect example. People can just

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watch this and know what it is. When you're fully present, 100% of your mind, body and spirit

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is with the people you're with where they are now. Now, how many of us have ever been with somebody

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where we know their body's present, but the rest of them is in some other county? And here's a tough

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but important question. How does it make you feel when someone you really wish to be present with

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you is not? Most people it makes them feel sad or small. But for everyone I've ever known,

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it makes them feel worthless. When we are fully present, we say to that person unmistakably,

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unshakably, through our presence and only through our presence, you are important. You matter.

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You count. And that's our job. Leadership is about helping the people that you lead, that you serve,

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that you love to know their importance. Because when people feel important, they rise to, oh, yeah.

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And when people feel unimportant, they fall to, oh, no. And the only way you can do it is to be

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fully present. And not to mention just the gesture in which you made when someone feels important,

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it's an excitement. It's an uplifting. And that's that energy you were talking about is that having

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that energy to move and be excited about life and choosing to say, I'm going to hold on to that.

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All day long. All day long. Absolutely. The expression of what's called the Pygmalion Effect.

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The Pygmalion Effect says that our thoughts, our beliefs, and our expectations are magnetic.

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That we're actually pulling the people in the direction of the way we see them. So when you

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look for the best in people, guess what? What you focus on is what you create. You're igniting it.

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And the same is true. You're a Pygmalion to everyone in your life. But you're a Pygmalion

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to yourself. So I know people who look at others and lift them up, but they look in the mirror and

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all they see is their weaknesses and their limits. You've got to start as you said, no one can be

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loved until they let themselves be seen. And no one could be seen until they learn to love themselves.

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No. I love that. That was, I'm sure you don't need it, but that was beautiful. I love that.

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There was one thing you said too, and I want to make sure that I've mentioned this, change the way

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you look at people and the people you look at change. That says an ample amount of things.

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I mean, that's acceptance. That's loving people for just who they are. And then once they feel

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loved, then they change. And I think that that is so, I mean, that was it for me.

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I love it. And the reason I do the board breaking is the extension of that. When you change the way

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you look at people, the people you look at change. Change the way you see yourself. The self you see

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will change. So that's why I want people to break those boards, because I want them to see

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that breakthrough you. I want them to see, wow, I've got more in me than I thought. I can do this.

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I can go at it. I can go. So change the way you look at people, the people you look at change.

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Change the way you see yourself. The self you see will change.

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Yeah. I love that. I love that. So before we go, I want to ask you one more question.

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What are the greatest joys of what you do?

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Oh, that is my favorite question, because if you know me, every email I ever send, incidentally,

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has three words in it. Joy to you. I put joy to you in every email that I want to send out joy

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to you. My joy is that I'm living my choices. And many professional speakers speak because

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they want to get that love back. They want that standing ovation. But I don't do it for them.

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I do it because when I'm speaking, I feel I'm doing what I was doing. I feel like I'm doing

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what I was put on this earth to do. I feel a connection to God or spirit of whatever you

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want to call it. I feel this great sense of it doesn't matter what comes back. What matters is

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I'm giving what I'm here to give. And that's the greatest joy I have. That's why I can't wait to do

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the next program because I know I'm doing what I was put on earth to do. Thank you for being here

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today. I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking forward to seeing

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your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward. This is going to get more and more fun.

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We'll have more and more engagement as well. We'll invite people to participate in the show.

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And thank you for giving us your time and attention. Have an excellent time building

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out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.