Tell me about your vision.
Well, you know, my vision comes from my own journey of life
mastery. And so my desire and vision for my impact in the
world is to see people, as I say, understand who they're
created to be so they can live the life they're created for. I
believe that's a call that needs to be had throughout the nation
that I'm in United States as well as the world.
Wow, tell me more about that.
Well, you know, I created a course and created a book and
I'm reaching out beyond what I'm doing. But the impact I believe
is supposed to be in understanding the person that
you're created to be versus the things that you've done, the
life that you've had and the things that you've struggled
with. In my own life, I've, you know, created businesses,
academically succeeded at, you know, the level I desire to as
well as athletically, the challenge I had in my own life
was that the person that I wanted to be didn't always show
up fear of failure, imposter syndrome, and some of those
challenges came along with it. And in creating a course in
writing the book Life Mastery Living Life by Design, not by
default, and having the conversations with clients and
students and people who have read it and, you know, podcasts
and other things that have been a part of, I found that that's a
universal struggle and challenge that a lot of times we desire
for more than where we're at. But because we don't have what I
call the blueprint to get there, we allow ourselves to hold back
and to, you know, water down our dreams to the life that we're
able to control versus really being, as I say, with the
clients that I work with being unleashed as a hero that you're
created to be.
Wow. What is your story? What are what is your story? What are
you created to be Mark?
I'm created to be a person of impact. You know, the general
story, which is universal for everybody was there's, you know,
the life that I'm meant to have an impact in the person and the
passion that I've created to have on the inside, to have
unleashed in the world. And so for me, it's really helping
guide and care and develop and nurture and coach and mentor
individuals to, to be able to live out that life for themselves
to bring hope to people who maybe don't have it in their own
life and, and to be able to bring tools and resources, not
just from my own story and strategy, but from my own
understanding and wisdom and the intellect that I've gained and
the, you know, experience that I've had throughout all the
things that I've been doing and, and been creating in my own
life. It's a, you know, if you were looking at in a spiritual
sense, it would be a shepherd, you know, mentor a coach, you
know, it's something I've done since I was a young person in
my life, even, even with dealing with, you know, feelings of,
you know, insecurity and maybe not feeling valued, I still was
desiring and gave impact by speaking into other people's
life and encouraging and carrying that out. So who I am
today is just a greater version of who I used to be with, you
know, without the hindrances of the lies that I believed holding
me back. That's awesome. Would you say that that is also your
why?
My why? Here's the challenge, right? My why really comes from
the things that I didn't have. And so for me, I created
life mastery and I wrote the book Life Mastery Living Life by
Design because I found a lot of courses and personal
developments, you know, systems and books and those things out
there that brought change, that brought habits and in those
habits, you can find some good outcomes, right? You can help to
manage your anger, help to hold back fear, you can give yourself
action steps to overcome, you know, procrastination and those
things in your life. But what I found in my own life was simply
this that the habit you use to get there is a habit you'll have
to keep using to stay there. And so I found change that you could
create but not transformation that you could live. And in
creating life mastery, finding a transformational course that I
created because I couldn't find one that I could use, I wanted
other people to have that resource. And so my why is
really being able to give people the resources that I wished I
had, and giving them the ability to have those things, the
blueprint that I created was the one that I needed. And my why is
ensuring that other people won't have that struggle in their
life that nobody will have to be left with the life that they're
left with versus the one that they're created for.
That's awesome. That's a very noble goal, I would say. Very
noble goal. I appreciate it. How did you get started in all of
this? My start in creating and developing the business really
started with me needing it in my own life. And it was that journey
that I talked about, you know, growing up with a dad that I
didn't feel like I could measure up to dealing with, you know,
academic challenges and issues in your life. And, you know, all
of the everybody has a life, everybody has a past. And what I
tell people is you're either living from your identity, or
what your life has told you you are. And so for me that what my
life told me was that, you know, I wasn't as good as I couldn't
have the success as other people could. And, and all of those
things that you know, we all have those thought life, thoughts
that tell us things about ourselves, growing up in that
area, and really still believing on the inside that there was
more for me, there was more on the inside than when I was
living on the outside, I was reaching out for those personal
development courses and those things to have that happen. And
in my late 20s really started to try and find, you know, faith
walk in my own life. And in that found instruction of really
being able to understand, you know, what identity was and how
I could implement it in my life and how to master my thoughts,
words and actions, which is our three step transformational
process, really, like a lot of our clients really trying to
figure it out in my own life. And then in finding something
that I thought was amazing or transformational, really wanting
to share it with friends and family like yourself, I'm sure,
you know, you try and share with people that you know that you
want to have have an impact in their life as well, and then
created structures around it and a whole system that, you know,
became life mastery. And then at that point, being able to kind
of reach out beyond friend groups and people that you know,
and relationships to try and invest it in everybody else that
I was able to have to the opportunity to teach to coach and
to mentor.
That's awesome.
I have
a lot more questions for you.
First one is then what is your goal for being on the shores of
a mark?
Well, you know, there's a general goal I always have for
conversation. And what I told a friend today was, you know, I
have a message that I believe matters. It certainly matters to
me. And I believe that it matters to other people. And so
my desire is to
find the communities that the message matters with and let
them know first and foremost that there's hope there's more
than where they're currently at, whatever level of success that
I have people that I work with who are highly successful and
people who are just striving to become successful in business
and, and in their workplace and all of that. And the interesting
thing is, the one thing I find that's in common is that people
can be very successful in their life, while still struggling
with imposter syndrome, fear of failure, and some of the things
that I did. And so, for me, it's finding those people that the
message matters to whether you're highly successful, you
know, look good on the outside, but on the inside, you have
those three o'clock in the morning, you know, you're
inside, you have those three o'clock in the morning times
where you're waking up sweating because you're trying to figure
out a payroll or you're just somebody who hopes you can start
a business or get a promotion or you're trying to do things in
your life and, and you're hesitating and holding back and
really not believing but hoping, you know, trying to find those
people and you know, in this conversation, people who are
hopefully listening to it. First off, we'll find hope that there
is a solution, there is a blueprint to get to where I want
to be. And second off, there's actually tangible strategies to
be able to do it.
I have, like I said, a lot more questions, but I don't know
which way to take it. Okay. Let's, let's take it this way. I
think, I think that will be the most helpful part and I think I
can ask you more about that. What tips do you have for
leaders?
That's a great question, Ari. I think the first thing is the
foundation of what we talk about in Life Mastery, which is that
your, your leadership, your ability to succeed and not just
succeed but have fulfillment, not just momentary success, your
ability to have the impact in the world that you're, I believe,
were created for, first and foremost, starts with identity.
It starts with understanding who you're created to be versus your
outcomes. The problem is in most business and jobs and
professions and even academically, many times people
think that I am my outcomes. So if I get that, you know,
college degree, that, you know, whatever, that accelerated
degree, if I, if I succeed in business, if I have that
position in my job that has that nice title associated with it,
now I'm somebody of worth. And the problem is, as I said, I have,
you know, people that I've worked with that are highly
successful in business, but they didn't feel successful because
they still had fear of failure that was coming along for the
ride. And so for me, what I tell the people I work with is first
off, strip away the things that you do from who you are. Who you
are is the impact you're supposed to have. It has nothing
to do with your income. Your income is a product of who you
are. Your, who you are isn't a product of your income. And so
whether I'm a multimillionaire or a person that's making
minimum wage, does that change the value and who you are as a
person? No, it doesn't. And so just because I have a title
doesn't mean I'm somebody who has it all together, again, from
personal experience and experience with the clients that
I work with. So the first tip is strip away who you believe you
are, the things that you think or make you who you are, and
start with who you were created to be. What's, what's an I am
statement you can create? What's something you can write down
that's who you are apart from your, your stuff, your position,
your title, your role, your possessions, your income, who's
that person? Because that's the person that matters. Whether
you're successful in business or not, whether you have a job or
you lose a job, whether you have a 678 figure income, or you only
make minimum wage, as I said before, your value is in who you
are. That's the secret sauce in whatever you're doing as a
business leader in the boardroom, as an entrepreneur
who's creating products that are selling for millions, or as a
stay at home mom or a student in college. That's the secret sauce.
And then the second tool I would give the second tip is this, I
tell people that I work with that you are the sum product of
your thoughts, what I tell them is literally this, you are today,
where you're at, because of the thoughts you have, who you think
you are, you'll become. So you want to change the thoughts that
you have, you want to change where you're at your trajectory
in life, the income that you have, or you want to change, you
know, the outcomes. So I'm not just having success that lasts
for a moment, because it feels empty, because it's not meaning,
it's not bringing the meaning I desire to you. When you want to
have a life that's fulfilling it first and foremost starts with
your thoughts and your thoughts always start with who you are,
who were you created to be your thoughts are either aligning
with who you were created to be, or they're lying to you. And if
they're lying to me, then I need a job, I need a position, I need
income to make up the difference, I need a relationship
with somebody amazing, because I don't feel amazing about myself.
But in that place where I understand who I'm created to be
in my thoughts aligned with that person. Now all of a sudden, I'm
being unleashed in the world. Like I said before, you're
unleashed as a hero you're created to be. I'm not a
bystander in my life, so that I'm just responding to what the
world gives me. But I'm a hero in my life being the response
that the world needs.
Wow, there's a lot of information you unpacked there.
Have you read the book, As a Man Thinketh by James Allen?
Yeah, great book. One of many that I've read. Yeah, it's a
really good book.
I think some of the things that you were saying, I want to say
because it stems from that book.
It's definitely an alignment. I think we have the same source.
Yeah, I think that's what I was going for. I think there's
definitely conundrum when people don't understand who they are as
an anchor to themselves and try to achieve some things maybe or
maybe not get it and then get there and they're not, sometimes
they're not happy, sometimes they are. And that anchor feels
them centered. So is for you, what is that? Is your anchor,
your goal that who you're meant to be as a coach and a business
owner? What do you look to?
My anchor is my created value in living from that place. If who
I'm created to be is lived out in every area of my life, then I
have a life that's amazing. Not because I have more income than
other people or more possessions than they do. But because, you
know, Harriet's this thing, I'm sure you felt it. And maybe some
of the listeners or people are watching as well. You're doing
something and you just know, man, this is exactly what I'm
created to be. This is exactly me living out right. So time just
flies by and you skip meals or whatever it is, right? You're
disappointed when you have to stop doing it because you know
that man, I'm just passionate about this thing. It's the you
thing in the world. Well, that's what life mastery is. It's the
you thing being lived out. Not me doing something because I need
the outcome to prove who I am, but me just really being
unleashed. Like I said, it's that that passion that has, you
know, that is continually burning inside of you that you
just can't wait to do it again. You don't want to stop when you
start it. And it's just you being invested as you that's,
that's what life mastery looks like. And so for me, that's what
I mean. It's, it's the impact that you're supposed to make.
It's that place that we're going for in life mastery. It's a
place of me being unleashed and who I'm created to be at the
highest level I'm created to be in every area of life.
If you could give me a glimpse of who you're created to be on
the highest level, you're created to be in every area of
life, what would that look like?
Effortless, effortless excellence. So whether it's, you
know, I we say in life master, there's five spheres of life
master, it's spiritually, relationally, vocationally,
physically, financially, spiritually, relationally,
vocationally, physically, financially. What that looks
like is me living at the highest level that I'm created for in
each of these areas. vocationally, it's me having the
worldwide impact that I desire to have so that thousands of
people will walk in the freedom and the life master that they're
created for. Physically, it's so that I can be the person that
I'm created to be living vibrantly and healthy,
intellectually and physically, every day of my life till the
last day of my life. I could I could name that in all five
areas, I have vision statements and goals in each of these five
areas. So it's, it's that life, financially, it's living at such
a level that I not only have the income that I that I believe I'm
created to have to be able to steward and give not just so
that I can have possessions and I can have, you know, those
attributes and those bank accounts, but so that I can
invest in the things that matter to my creator and matter to me.
So yeah, I have, I have a vision statement in each of the areas,
I have goals in each of them. And I live out from each of those
in my life. That's, that's why it looks like in my life.
That's awesome. I don't know if I believe in now, but I know
definitely you believe in it, you believe in you live every
day. And I think that's what your clients look for. Or people
that you serve look for is if you believe in it.
Yeah, absolutely. And I and I think for them, I haven't met a
person yet that didn't believe there was more for their life
than where they were at. And the path to get there the blueprint,
if you will, as we talk about, you know, that may vary, but
there's, as far as I can tell, an innate desire in everybody
I've met, that I believe I'm meant for something that's
important.
I have one more question for you, Mark. And you can take your
time to think about it. What to you defines a great leader?
Yeah, that's a great question. That's a great question. And so
I would tell you this in the people that I lead, my, my
mandate in leadership is to live the life that I'm created for.
And we've talked and unpacked a lot of that here, but also to
empower the people around me and the people that I have the
ability to oversee and to lead the people around me. And I
have the ability to oversee and to lead to be able to do it in
their own life. At the end of the day, my success as a
leader is ensuring that the people that are working for me
that I am leading are unleashed in the hero journey that they
have, that the person that they're created to be finds an
avenue to be lived out to be worked out, so that they have
the impact in the world that they're created for if I can
help them to create the atmosphere and the tools and
structures in their life so that they can live that out, then
that's the thing I'm supposed to. If I'm not doing that, then
they're really working for me. And in that place, they're
really working and I'm a manager, not a leader.
So to you, if you have given them the tools, resources and
the path where they can become their best selves in the area of
their lives, you, you, you think that's a great leader.
Exactly. And by the way, that doesn't mean that they'll always
be under my umbrella. In fact, in most cases, it means that
they're going to go off to do their own things. But at the end
of the day, I get the best of them while they're there because
they get the best of them and all that they do. And we both
win in that.
And how, how do you measure the best of them? That's a very
vague question.
Well, it starts with them, right? This journey that I'm
walking on Life Mastery, understanding who I'm created to
be, the life I'm created for those areas, those five areas of
the spheres of Life Mastery where I have goals and, and
vision statements in each of those. Those are things you have
to develop yourself. I can, I can, just like I do with my
coaching course, I can provide you with the resources, give you
the strategies and the tools, but it's up to you to say, hey,
this is what resonates with me. That passion thing that you and
I talked about earlier, where it's literally me living out who
I'm created to be, where I'm just giving all of it. And I, I'm
actually energized by it, not drained by it. That's different
for every person. It could be an administration. It could be an
artistic endeavor. You know, it could be in some sort of
accounting endeavor, whatever the thing is, it really is
different for every person, but it's not my job to create your
vision for you. It's my job to empower you with the tools to be
able to live out the vision you have for your life.
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