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confident. Tell me about your vision. Thanks Harry. My vision is to inspire and uplift others by

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sharing Christian's legacy and the message behind what's good about today. I want to help people

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find meaning and purpose even in the face of adversity. So through my book, Speaking Engagements

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and the Foundation, my goal is to show that no matter what challenges we face, there's always

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something good to hold on to. And ultimately, I hope to create a ripple effect of kindness,

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gratitude, and resilience that reaches individuals, families, and communities around the world.

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That's amazing. I think I know where the vision came from, from the notes I read. But I want you

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to say it either way. Where Christian stories, I think it's, I think it'll resonate with the

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audience a lot. Where, so how did this all come together for you? In terms of the vision or just

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in general? In terms of the vision, yes. Yeah, I mean, the vision obviously was born from the fact

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that I lost my son to terminal cancer three years ago. He was 22 years of age. He was diagnosed as

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he just graduated college August 26 of 2020. He was an incredible kid on all kinds of levels,

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even when he was a little boy, to being a young adult. But it's really the face, even when Christian

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was diagnosed with a terminal diagnosis, he didn't change his life. He, as a matter of fact, became

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more full of joy and love. Many times people who receive these kinds of diagnosis or

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have these things happen to him where life takes a turn on a dime, Christian flourished the other

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way. So when Christian got this diagnosis and we were with him as parents, we said how sorry we were.

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Christian would tell us, it's okay, this is my burden. I wouldn't want this burden on anyone else.

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And instead of taking the approach of why me, why this happened to me, Christian never complained

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one time, not from the moment that he received his diagnosis to the moment he took his last breath

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with his family around him. Did he ever complain one time? As a matter of fact, the one thing he

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kept telling us was what's good about today. And for us, and his message was to remind us the daily

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reminder of the beauty in the wonder and all the good can come from a day, even in the worst of

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moments. And so that's what I have focused on. That's what Christians, you know, everything I

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do is inspired by Christian. So what I do is give that hope to everyone to realize that, yeah,

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you can have bad days, you can have days that are some, sometimes there's mild challenges we

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have in our life, but you can still use that. But there's times when things hit us so hard,

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whether it's a death or a sickness of any kind, that you can still find beauty in that day,

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regardless. And so I focus purely on the day as the way my son did. And that's the message I try

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to get out to as many people as I can. Thank you for sharing that, Chris. So many of us have,

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we have a tendency to focus on the negative rather than the positive. And gratitude is not a

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thing of practice that a lot of people are going for. And it has its downs for our life.

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What would you say is, I understand this story of Christian, I understand the lessons that you

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learned from it. Then what is your why of what you do? Well, the why is so that I can make an

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impact on the world. You know, when I get the opportunity to speak to others, I fundamentally

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talk about three points. Certainly, gratitude is very important. But gratitude is simply a word.

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Unless you put it into practice, unless you live in the present, gratitude can escape all of us,

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right? Because it's a busy, busy life that we all have. But I think for me, I try to focus

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the whys on, you know, asking this question, what's good about today, no matter what your face,

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you know, in your daily routine. I also focus a lot, you know, we hear the words be kind,

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but I also take it a little bit further. I say be kind always. And there's, it doesn't cost you

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anything to do it always. And it can make a whole difference in the world. And it's, it's not just,

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you know, it's not just a random act. It's a deliberate choice, right? We have choices.

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And when you choose kindness, you create space for connections, healing, and hope. And ultimately,

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the last thing I always talk about is living a life of purpose, right? Don't wait for life to

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happen to you. You know, you step into the moment with intention, and whether it's, you know,

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your interactions, whether it's your friendships, your challenges, I step into your challenges,

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approach everything with a sense of purpose, and ask yourself how you can make it a truly today,

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a meaningful difference. And that's how my son lived his life. And it's how we can make our time

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here and beyond truly count. So those are the whys for me.

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I would love to get to know more about how applying that to your life

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has helped you. Well, for me, it's helped me to become present. It's allowed me to focus on

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today. I don't, I try not to think too much of the past because I can't change the past.

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Much of us in this life, we think so much in the future, right? What's gonna happen tomorrow?

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What's gonna happen the next day? To me, I'm a, the way this has affected me, obviously losing

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my firstborn child, he was our best friend, my best friend, my family's best friend,

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is I focus on what I can do today. One of the great things that Christian had in his life was

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he didn't have to-do list, he had to-love list. And so I wake up every morning and I fulfill

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right out what my to-love list is. And instead of trying to always fulfill these to-dos,

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it's how I figure out how much love can I put into my life. And I think that's the way

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I put out into the world today. And I think that's in many ways how many of us, if we live that life,

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it can change and transform how we go about our daily life and how we interact with others

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to be better people and to be better connected to the world around us. So I think it's a simple

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message, see? What's good about today is a simple question. And it's a question you can ask yourself

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in the morning, the afternoon, and the night. And it can change how, to your point, which is how you

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approach everything within your day. So how long ago was it when you started applying these principles

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in your life? Well, as soon as Christian started saying them, so, you know, 2020 when Christian was

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diagnosed and through the course of his cancer and how he approached things was really how I sort of

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embraced the same things he was teaching us. And I would tell you, I didn't have that beforehand,

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right? There's sort of a two sides to myself. There's the pre-cancer Chris and the after-cancer

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Chris. And for me, it was how I looked at the world and how I looked at every single moment.

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And so for me, it was when Christian started to say it to us that it took on a whole different

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meaning and how I approached every single moment of the day. So if you were to, in a way, summarize,

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pre-Christian you and now you from what you used to do and who you used to be and now who you are

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and who you are and what you do, what's the positive impacts that that teaching has brought you

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that you can tangibly measure and see the difference? Well, the pre-christ was, as many

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know the term, keep up with the Joneses, right? It was all about how much money I can make,

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the bigger house, the bigger car. Certainly my family was very, we were very tight, but

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my mindset was very geared to that element of life. I think the after-cancer Chris is I

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have a deeper connection with my fellow man and woman that when I'm with someone and I'm having

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a conversation like I am with you, Harry, then I'm all in on that conversation. I'm not thinking

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about what I have to do next or who I got to reach out to. It's not about that. I shut everything

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down. I become focused on you. And I think in many ways that's how I live my life now going forward,

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which is just I'm in the present and stick to that. Because I think that allows me a much deeper,

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meaningful conversation with anyone. I'm sure many people know when you're getting to talk to someone

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and it's almost like they're looking past you or they're looking at their phone or their watch

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or whatever. But for me, it's staying in tune with what someone's telling me. And so I think for me,

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that's a difference. And that's something that I wouldn't have done pre-cancer.

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The sort of now is in losing my son. I realize the importance of focusing on every single

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element of the moment then which I'm in.

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Let me take this a little deeper, Chris. And what has being present in the moment helped you with?

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It's helped me to be a better person. I mean, it's as simple as that. It's helped me to be a full

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person to try to lead a purposely driven life. I think every individual who's here on this earth

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is trying to lead that purposely driven life one way. They can ask themselves that question,

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what's the purpose of it all? And I think that's the way I think about it. And I think that's

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that question, what's the purpose of it all? Why does this happen? How could this happen?

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And so for me, it's less about the whys anymore. It's about the doing. And I think there are two

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things that happen when you go through the experiences which I have and my family has gone

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through. One is to let go of the control. We're not in control of our circumstances. We think

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we're in control. You may think you're always in control, but the truth is you're not. There's a

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higher being that's in control of these things. And the other thing is gratitude. Gratitude and

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being humble. Humble is a really key component of leading that purposely driven life. So a lot more

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humbleness and realizing you're not in control allow for some of those things. Thank you for

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sharing that. We a lot of times on the show when I ask questions, people do like, hey, what is your

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why? And people give me answers and answers and answers. And very few times people go along this

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lines. The better question to ask is who? And then what's your why? So I think your ideas resonate

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with that quite a bit. So thank you for sharing that. Of course. If you focus on the who, the why

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is already there with us. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. Why is, I mean, it's a question we ask, but I think

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the more we put into practice, you know, like I'm always a big believer, the more love we put out,

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you know, again, you will see all those whys get solved, you know. Yeah. Thank you for sharing that.

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I have one more question for you. Sure. And that will be our today's end of today's segment.

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Where I want to make it a good one for you. OK. All these years. I have a lot of them,

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but I think right here. I'm reading your mind, actually, I think. Yeah, you are. What

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is success to you now, Chris? Success to me is when.

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I think I think right now, my goal has always been to inspire others by sharing Christian's legacy

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and helping people find purpose in the most challenging of times. So I think that I'm proud

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of the work that I'm doing through the Christian Cochran Legacy Fund, and I've had a chance to

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speak to young adults. I've spoken to older adults, which is really, really important to me,

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because Christian's story continues to reach more people than I ever thought was imaginable.

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And I and I truly can feel this ripple effect of kindness and positivity taking shape.

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And so that the success is when I hear from people and I hear from them every day. Right.

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I get emails every day. I get testimonials every day. I get things sent to me every day.

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Who have either read the book, who have seen me speak, who have told I told Christian's story.

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So for me, that is that is success. And, you know, through the foundation, we do a lot of

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work with young adults who have cancer and they have nothing. You would be shocked that we give

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money towards another foundation for adults who who are struggling, who do not have family around

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them, who do not have the support mechanisms. And when they can come up to me and they can say it's

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made a world of difference in their life, then for me, that's everything. That's what I'm here to do.

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I have a singular focus that is to change the mindsets, to change people's hope, the change

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the change them to have more resilience and you really focus on how beautiful life really is for

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every single one of us. Instead of looking at people as people, I do look at people as souls.

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I genuinely do. I look at every single person when I speak with them or see them or watch them

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as souls. And so for me, seeing the impact of the foundation, the word have them come up to me that

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it's changed how they approach the world. It's changed them fundamentally. Maybe they were

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extremely negative. They thought poorly of everything to see that complete change. Man,

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that's to me, that's everything I don't there is nothing else I need. That's that's my works for

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the rest of my life while I'm here now. That was never what it was before. But that's what it is

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today. Wow, that is very impactful. I love that you found the purpose of your life and you can

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focus outwards and not inwards. Yeah, I have found my purpose. 100%.

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Thank you for being here today. I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking

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forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward. This is going to get

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more and more fun. We'll have more and more engagement as well. We'll invite people to

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participate in the show. And thank you for giving us your time and attention. Have an excellent time

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building out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.