1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,500 So Shane, tell me about your vision. 2 00:00:02,460 --> 00:00:04,700 Yeah, thank you so much for giving me the opportunity. 3 00:00:04,700 --> 00:00:05,700 I appreciate that. 4 00:00:05,700 --> 00:00:12,300 I, you know, when I think about vision, I just have to tell you a couple of things about that. 5 00:00:12,300 --> 00:00:23,200 And that is that, you know, for me over a period of time, the idea of a vision has been kind of a difficult thing to formulate. 6 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:32,800 One of the reasons for me was, is I looked at, you know, imagination and having a good imagination as something as, you know, 7 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:39,600 maybe that I applied that to something that a child would do, you know, living in a pretend world. 8 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:49,040 And I didn't think it was a good use of time because I didn't understand the concept of what truly having an imagination is. 9 00:00:49,040 --> 00:01:01,940 And I think that an imagination is a huge part, just being willing to take the time and to focus and to see and to meditate on 10 00:01:01,940 --> 00:01:10,140 and to be able to actually look and see what that future looks like for you in your world, in your future world. 11 00:01:10,140 --> 00:01:13,840 I really didn't understand that and understand that it was a good use of time. 12 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:20,540 And when I actually, Stephen Covey, I had an opportunity to interview not Stephen Covey, 13 00:01:20,540 --> 00:01:25,140 Sean Covey about Stephen Covey's book, The Seven Habits as Highly Effective People. 14 00:01:25,140 --> 00:01:29,140 And I just said, imagination, I mean, is that really a good use of time? 15 00:01:29,140 --> 00:01:40,540 And when, as he explained that to me, and that was the time when I began to understand more fully about the power 16 00:01:40,540 --> 00:01:44,140 that we have inside of ourselves to be able to create our vision. 17 00:01:44,140 --> 00:01:45,840 I mean, it kind of started from there. 18 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:53,540 And I have a vision of, you know, of the world according to Shane and what my future is going to look like. 19 00:01:53,540 --> 00:02:04,140 And it's helped me as I look back on my past self, that imagination and that that visualization of my future has been has been so key. 20 00:02:04,140 --> 00:02:10,040 I mean, there's a thousand steps and we have to do everything that we, you know, everything in our plan. 21 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,740 You know, getting to that vision is another thing. 22 00:02:13,740 --> 00:02:19,940 But we can't get there until the more crystal clear it is, then the more likely that we're going to get there. 23 00:02:19,940 --> 00:02:26,640 So if you were to sum up your vision, what that be? 24 00:02:26,640 --> 00:02:54,540 My personal vision is a my vision, what that looks like for myself and for my world is a world that where more and more and more people come to realize the value of their own selves. 25 00:02:54,540 --> 00:03:10,240 And and that I can contribute to that world, that I can make a difference to that world, to the world where more people fully realize their worth and their value as a human being. 26 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:24,440 And therefore, as in doing that, improve their own personal lives and improve the world and make a bigger contribution to the world and make the world overall a better place to be from that. 27 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:29,940 And my vision is to be a part of that. 28 00:03:29,940 --> 00:03:36,240 I think you can ask this question before shame, but on a deeper level, why? 29 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:39,440 Why? Yeah, it's a super good question. 30 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,840 I mean, I mean, what what is that all about? 31 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:50,540 I think that, you know, I think that most of us and I'll say I think even more so in men. 32 00:03:50,540 --> 00:03:59,140 OK, that when we look when we look at I'm going to talk, I'm going to wrap, I'm going to call it our beliefs about ourselves. 33 00:03:59,140 --> 00:04:08,140 And when I say that, I'm going to I'm going to include our self-confidence, our self-image, self-esteem, our relationship with ourselves, our faith in ourselves. 34 00:04:08,140 --> 00:04:16,240 All of that, I'm going to call that our total total beliefs about ourselves, what we believe that we are at our core. 35 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:23,740 OK, all of that into one thing and call that our beliefs, our beliefs about ourselves. 36 00:04:23,740 --> 00:04:37,340 I believe that most of us, and like I said, mostly men view these this this this concept about how we view ourselves as something that we accomplish. 37 00:04:37,340 --> 00:04:46,140 Hopefully, as a young adult that helps us throughout the rest of our lives and we kind of get it done, we don't need to focus on it too much once we get the task done. 38 00:04:46,140 --> 00:04:50,140 In other words, we feel like it's something that we learned. 39 00:04:50,140 --> 00:04:57,140 We got it done and now we're moving on and we can prove it to ourselves by saying, hey, do you see what they're doing over there? 40 00:04:57,140 --> 00:05:02,140 That shows a lack of self-confidence. See how all they're doing is trying to bring attention to themselves. 41 00:05:02,140 --> 00:05:04,540 That shows that they don't have very much self-confidence. 42 00:05:04,540 --> 00:05:14,440 Now, me, on the other hand, you can see how I behave over here in my life and my business and my success because I don't do any of that stuff. 43 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:17,940 And so we we kind of it's easy to prove to ourselves. 44 00:05:17,940 --> 00:05:32,240 And I think a lot of times we don't see the necessity and the importance of the fact that our beliefs about ourselves is not a task and something that we accomplish, but rather. 45 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:38,240 Is is an is a lifelong process that and that if we commit, 46 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:49,840 OK, if we commit to improving our beliefs about ourselves as a lifelong pursuit, OK, that it's not just a good idea. 47 00:05:49,840 --> 00:05:52,940 It's not just that our life will get better. 48 00:05:52,940 --> 00:05:55,540 It's not just that we'll have more success. 49 00:05:55,540 --> 00:06:03,840 It's not just that our our dreams and our goals will will have more likely odds of achieving them. 50 00:06:03,840 --> 00:06:06,540 It's not that's part of it. OK, but that's not all. 51 00:06:06,540 --> 00:06:12,740 I think it's much more than that. I think it's our obligation and our duty. 52 00:06:12,740 --> 00:06:18,440 As human beings are our responsibility to the world, and here's the answer to your why, 53 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:33,440 because if we don't do because when we commit to do that and as we improve our beliefs about ourselves and come to know that of our our invaluableness. 54 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:39,540 It has a profound impact on the people that we care most deeply about and that we love the most. 55 00:06:39,540 --> 00:06:45,840 And by doing so, we're fully able to make reach our potential and make our contribution to the world. 56 00:06:45,840 --> 00:06:52,040 And so that's why it's important. So this is what I heard, Jacob. 57 00:06:52,040 --> 00:07:00,340 Shane, if you if I'm wrong, correct me. Our focus, according to you, should be. 58 00:07:00,340 --> 00:07:05,140 This is my belief and my focus should be attaining that for the rest of my life. 59 00:07:05,140 --> 00:07:09,140 Is that and that's what makes me the best version of myself. 60 00:07:09,140 --> 00:07:14,140 That's what makes me being able to serve the most people I want to and improve their lives at the same time. 61 00:07:14,140 --> 00:07:18,140 Is that your vision or did I miss something on that? 62 00:07:18,140 --> 00:07:21,940 Well, that's in part you got a pretty good grasp. 63 00:07:21,940 --> 00:07:28,340 If we if we look at ourselves and we, you know, here's an example. 64 00:07:28,340 --> 00:07:31,940 We go we go throughout our life and we're feeling pretty good about ourselves. 65 00:07:31,940 --> 00:07:39,440 OK, because how we feel and what we believe about ourselves comes out to the rest of the world in everything we do. 66 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:46,040 OK, it is the biggest thing that impacts everything, our relationships, our success, everything. 67 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,940 So we're going on throughout our life or, you know, our day. 68 00:07:48,940 --> 00:07:52,340 Here goes our day. And then something happens. 69 00:07:52,340 --> 00:07:56,440 OK, one of two things is going to happen in this day. 70 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:00,540 I'm going to do something that I wished I didn't that I feel bad about. 71 00:08:00,540 --> 00:08:04,340 Maybe I have guilt, shame about something happens. 72 00:08:04,340 --> 00:08:08,240 OK, maybe somebody does something to me. 73 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:14,140 OK, and I have to take a look at that and say, what does that mean about me? 74 00:08:14,140 --> 00:08:20,840 OK, because we are constantly evaluating these supercomputers with everything that happens. 75 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:24,640 We're constantly evaluating our beliefs about ourselves. 76 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:29,240 OK, and if we don't take a conscious role in that when those things happen, 77 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:32,140 because we're inevitably we're going to make mistakes, right? 78 00:08:32,140 --> 00:08:36,040 I've made a hundred of them so far today and that's so that's a pretty good day for me. 79 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:38,640 Right. So we're going to make mistakes. 80 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:40,140 We're going to do things that we regret. 81 00:08:40,140 --> 00:08:43,040 We're going to do things that we believe that are wrong, that we're ashamed of. 82 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:46,140 We get experience shame and people are going to do things to us. 83 00:08:46,140 --> 00:08:48,340 And we're like, what does that mean to me? 84 00:08:48,340 --> 00:08:50,140 What does that mean about me? 85 00:08:50,140 --> 00:08:53,040 OK, why how could someone do that to me? 86 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:58,340 What did they think about me and what meaning am I going to make about what you did to me? 87 00:08:58,340 --> 00:09:05,540 OK, and if I don't take a conscious role in that, I'm going to begin to believe that I'm less than that. 88 00:09:05,540 --> 00:09:17,140 I'm not as valuable that I'm not as worthy that I'm not on the same par that I am not this not this priceless invaluable soul. 89 00:09:17,140 --> 00:09:19,340 I'm going to begin to degrade my value. 90 00:09:19,340 --> 00:09:25,840 And as I do that, that comes out in everything that I do. 91 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:33,040 So to you, is that belief constant or only part of its constant or it's always evolving? 92 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:36,740 It's all this changing. What is what is that for you? 93 00:09:36,740 --> 00:09:42,040 Yeah, it's for all of us and it's always evolving, whether we're aware of it or not. 94 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:47,040 I'm saying that it's the I'm trying to stress the emphasis of first of all, 95 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:51,040 knowing that this is an ongoing thing, whether we're aware of it or not. 96 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:59,040 I mean, our beliefs are our thoughts that we hold in our mind that we continue to believe to be true. 97 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:04,540 So the thoughts that we keep thinking repeatedly and that we prove to be true. 98 00:10:04,540 --> 00:10:07,440 Those are what that's what a belief is. 99 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:14,740 So our beliefs about ourselves, whether we're conscious or not of these thoughts that are going on in our in our minds, 100 00:10:14,740 --> 00:10:18,940 as we go throughout our days, this thing is constantly getting input. 101 00:10:18,940 --> 00:10:24,440 OK, like I said, with things that we do and things that are that are done to us. 102 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:29,640 And we're constantly, whether we're aware or not, developing meaning about ourselves. 103 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:34,440 We're having thoughts about ourselves that come out in actions. 104 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:38,040 Well, they they turn into feelings about how we feel about ourselves. 105 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:43,240 And then that comes out as actions of how we behave, about how we think about ourselves. 106 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:50,940 And this is this is like I said, whether we are aware of it or not, it's happening. 107 00:10:50,940 --> 00:11:00,640 And if you're not aware of it, your default is not going to be to believe that you are as good as you can be. 108 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:02,640 It's just it's not going to happen. 109 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:10,440 Your default is if you're not aware of it, your default is going to is going to start to say some of those things that you've done. 110 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:13,340 When you encounter guilt and shame, mostly shame. 111 00:11:13,340 --> 00:11:17,140 OK, and all of us get to have some shame experience that in this life. 112 00:11:17,140 --> 00:11:22,940 That that means something negative about our value as a human being. 113 00:11:22,940 --> 00:11:33,740 OK, in other words, what we did degrade, you know, diminishes or lessens our value as a as a being. 114 00:11:33,740 --> 00:11:39,440 Or in the case, here's an extreme case, but it's kind of easy to understand in the case of, 115 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:48,640 you know, serious trauma like an abuse or something, an abuse of when we're a child or any kind of terrible abuse. 116 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:55,140 When somebody does something to another human being, the victim will look at that act, 117 00:11:55,140 --> 00:12:00,140 look at what happened to them and make meaning out of what that means about them. 118 00:12:00,140 --> 00:12:05,940 And without a conscious intentional process, 119 00:12:05,940 --> 00:12:09,940 you will default and make that meaning me that you're something wrong with you. 120 00:12:09,940 --> 00:12:13,040 OK, and then things really start to go bad from there. 121 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:17,640 They get worse. And so that's what I mean by that. 122 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:22,240 That's awesome. So to me, and I don't think anyone will. 123 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:25,340 I don't know if anyone has actually said this to you. 124 00:12:25,340 --> 00:12:34,740 So to me, the challenge for someone is not closing the gap between you and your belief. 125 00:12:34,740 --> 00:12:38,440 Right. Of who you are or who you want, who you want to become. 126 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:44,940 The challenge is closing the gap between the belief and what's true. 127 00:12:44,940 --> 00:12:51,040 Well, we can. We get to determine our own truth. 128 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:54,040 Right. And I think there's two gaps. 129 00:12:54,040 --> 00:13:00,740 I mean, the first thing that I mentioned is, first of all, is just coming to know and having a vision, 130 00:13:00,740 --> 00:13:07,740 using our imagination and deciding that who we want to be, OK, who we want to become. 131 00:13:07,740 --> 00:13:13,340 Exactly how we want to have this life experience, this short time that we're here, 132 00:13:13,340 --> 00:13:18,540 how that we're going to have to go. If we can crystallize that and see it. 133 00:13:18,540 --> 00:13:25,040 To close the gap, the most important thing in closing the gap is going to be our beliefs about ourselves. 134 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:28,140 And we need to know that we need to make intentional. 135 00:13:28,140 --> 00:13:32,840 See, once you recognize it and if you can accept that as it is, 136 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:43,540 as something that's going to be the big game changer for you in getting to your goal, OK, in closing the gap. 137 00:13:43,540 --> 00:13:46,840 Then it becomes easy because then there's tools. 138 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:55,740 Then if you accept that, then you can learn the tools, the process and actual steps that can get you to constantly work on. 139 00:13:55,740 --> 00:14:03,140 Then you can commit to a commit to pursue a positive loving relationship with you through your life. 140 00:14:03,140 --> 00:14:06,540 And if you stay committed and you continue to develop that, 141 00:14:06,540 --> 00:14:14,640 you're destined to reach more of your potential and reach that vision that you have. 142 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:20,840 Shane, I have one more question for you before we end today's segment. 143 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:23,540 How did you get started in all this? 144 00:14:23,540 --> 00:14:26,640 Yeah, well, I appreciate that. Yeah. 145 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:28,640 And I appreciate you have me on your show. 146 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:33,240 I appreciate your show and the idea of it. 147 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:41,540 I, you know, I suffered a lot. 148 00:14:41,540 --> 00:14:49,240 I got addicted to alcohol in an effort to try to feel better about me, OK, as a young man. 149 00:14:49,240 --> 00:15:02,140 And I spent a couple of decades in an alcoholic case just and I reeked a lot of destruction and pain and calamity to a lot of people. 150 00:15:02,140 --> 00:15:08,240 Some things I did, some things, you know, we're not even talk about here today. 151 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:10,640 The worst of it was the pain that I caused other people. 152 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:17,240 I also diminished my total self, destroyed my relationships and did a 17 year old marriage. 153 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:24,340 My daughters, my son's relationships, practically disintegrated to nothing. 154 00:15:24,340 --> 00:15:29,740 Had a pretty bad time in an effort to try to feel OK, to feel better about me. 155 00:15:29,740 --> 00:15:40,240 And when I finally broke out of that cycle and was able to turn my ship around, so to speak, and create a new vision for me, 156 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:49,340 I looked back on that process and I just said, you know, I wish I would have known before I began this what I know today. 157 00:15:49,340 --> 00:15:55,540 And so our program now and that's why my vision is my vision. 158 00:15:55,540 --> 00:16:00,540 And that is what we that is the core, really, of what we do at the Lord's Monship Journey. 159 00:16:00,540 --> 00:16:04,440 Thank you for being here today. I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. 160 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:09,340 I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward. 161 00:16:09,340 --> 00:16:12,840 This is going to get more and more fun. We'll have more and more engagement as well. 162 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:17,340 We'll invite people to participate in the show. And thank you for giving us your time and attention. 163 00:16:17,340 --> 00:16:40,340 Have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.