So Shane, tell me about your vision.
Yeah, thank you so much for giving me the opportunity.
I appreciate that.
I, you know, when I think about vision, I just have to tell you a couple of things about that.
And that is that, you know, for me over a period of time, the idea of a vision has been kind of a difficult thing to formulate.
One of the reasons for me was, is I looked at, you know, imagination and having a good imagination as something as, you know,
maybe that I applied that to something that a child would do, you know, living in a pretend world.
And I didn't think it was a good use of time because I didn't understand the concept of what truly having an imagination is.
And I think that an imagination is a huge part, just being willing to take the time and to focus and to see and to meditate on
and to be able to actually look and see what that future looks like for you in your world, in your future world.
I really didn't understand that and understand that it was a good use of time.
And when I actually, Stephen Covey, I had an opportunity to interview not Stephen Covey,
Sean Covey about Stephen Covey's book, The Seven Habits as Highly Effective People.
And I just said, imagination, I mean, is that really a good use of time?
And when, as he explained that to me, and that was the time when I began to understand more fully about the power
that we have inside of ourselves to be able to create our vision.
I mean, it kind of started from there.
And I have a vision of, you know, of the world according to Shane and what my future is going to look like.
And it's helped me as I look back on my past self, that imagination and that that visualization of my future has been has been so key.
I mean, there's a thousand steps and we have to do everything that we, you know, everything in our plan.
You know, getting to that vision is another thing.
But we can't get there until the more crystal clear it is, then the more likely that we're going to get there.
So if you were to sum up your vision, what that be?
My personal vision is a my vision, what that looks like for myself and for my world is a world that where more and more and more people come to realize the value of their own selves.
And and that I can contribute to that world, that I can make a difference to that world, to the world where more people fully realize their worth and their value as a human being.
And therefore, as in doing that, improve their own personal lives and improve the world and make a bigger contribution to the world and make the world overall a better place to be from that.
And my vision is to be a part of that.
I think you can ask this question before shame, but on a deeper level, why?
Why? Yeah, it's a super good question.
I mean, I mean, what what is that all about?
I think that, you know, I think that most of us and I'll say I think even more so in men.
OK, that when we look when we look at I'm going to talk, I'm going to wrap, I'm going to call it our beliefs about ourselves.
And when I say that, I'm going to I'm going to include our self-confidence, our self-image, self-esteem, our relationship with ourselves, our faith in ourselves.
All of that, I'm going to call that our total total beliefs about ourselves, what we believe that we are at our core.
OK, all of that into one thing and call that our beliefs, our beliefs about ourselves.
I believe that most of us, and like I said, mostly men view these this this this concept about how we view ourselves as something that we accomplish.
Hopefully, as a young adult that helps us throughout the rest of our lives and we kind of get it done, we don't need to focus on it too much once we get the task done.
In other words, we feel like it's something that we learned.
We got it done and now we're moving on and we can prove it to ourselves by saying, hey, do you see what they're doing over there?
That shows a lack of self-confidence. See how all they're doing is trying to bring attention to themselves.
That shows that they don't have very much self-confidence.
Now, me, on the other hand, you can see how I behave over here in my life and my business and my success because I don't do any of that stuff.
And so we we kind of it's easy to prove to ourselves.
And I think a lot of times we don't see the necessity and the importance of the fact that our beliefs about ourselves is not a task and something that we accomplish, but rather.
Is is an is a lifelong process that and that if we commit,
OK, if we commit to improving our beliefs about ourselves as a lifelong pursuit, OK, that it's not just a good idea.
It's not just that our life will get better.
It's not just that we'll have more success.
It's not just that our our dreams and our goals will will have more likely odds of achieving them.
It's not that's part of it. OK, but that's not all.
I think it's much more than that. I think it's our obligation and our duty.
As human beings are our responsibility to the world, and here's the answer to your why,
because if we don't do because when we commit to do that and as we improve our beliefs about ourselves and come to know that of our our invaluableness.
It has a profound impact on the people that we care most deeply about and that we love the most.
And by doing so, we're fully able to make reach our potential and make our contribution to the world.
And so that's why it's important. So this is what I heard, Jacob.
Shane, if you if I'm wrong, correct me. Our focus, according to you, should be.
This is my belief and my focus should be attaining that for the rest of my life.
Is that and that's what makes me the best version of myself.
That's what makes me being able to serve the most people I want to and improve their lives at the same time.
Is that your vision or did I miss something on that?
Well, that's in part you got a pretty good grasp.
If we if we look at ourselves and we, you know, here's an example.
We go we go throughout our life and we're feeling pretty good about ourselves.
OK, because how we feel and what we believe about ourselves comes out to the rest of the world in everything we do.
OK, it is the biggest thing that impacts everything, our relationships, our success, everything.
So we're going on throughout our life or, you know, our day.
Here goes our day. And then something happens.
OK, one of two things is going to happen in this day.
I'm going to do something that I wished I didn't that I feel bad about.
Maybe I have guilt, shame about something happens.
OK, maybe somebody does something to me.
OK, and I have to take a look at that and say, what does that mean about me?
OK, because we are constantly evaluating these supercomputers with everything that happens.
We're constantly evaluating our beliefs about ourselves.
OK, and if we don't take a conscious role in that when those things happen,
because we're inevitably we're going to make mistakes, right?
I've made a hundred of them so far today and that's so that's a pretty good day for me.
Right. So we're going to make mistakes.
We're going to do things that we regret.
We're going to do things that we believe that are wrong, that we're ashamed of.
We get experience shame and people are going to do things to us.
And we're like, what does that mean to me?
What does that mean about me?
OK, why how could someone do that to me?
What did they think about me and what meaning am I going to make about what you did to me?
OK, and if I don't take a conscious role in that, I'm going to begin to believe that I'm less than that.
I'm not as valuable that I'm not as worthy that I'm not on the same par that I am not this not this priceless invaluable soul.
I'm going to begin to degrade my value.
And as I do that, that comes out in everything that I do.
So to you, is that belief constant or only part of its constant or it's always evolving?
It's all this changing. What is what is that for you?
Yeah, it's for all of us and it's always evolving, whether we're aware of it or not.
I'm saying that it's the I'm trying to stress the emphasis of first of all,
knowing that this is an ongoing thing, whether we're aware of it or not.
I mean, our beliefs are our thoughts that we hold in our mind that we continue to believe to be true.
So the thoughts that we keep thinking repeatedly and that we prove to be true.
Those are what that's what a belief is.
So our beliefs about ourselves, whether we're conscious or not of these thoughts that are going on in our in our minds,
as we go throughout our days, this thing is constantly getting input.
OK, like I said, with things that we do and things that are that are done to us.
And we're constantly, whether we're aware or not, developing meaning about ourselves.
We're having thoughts about ourselves that come out in actions.
Well, they they turn into feelings about how we feel about ourselves.
And then that comes out as actions of how we behave, about how we think about ourselves.
And this is this is like I said, whether we are aware of it or not, it's happening.
And if you're not aware of it, your default is not going to be to believe that you are as good as you can be.
It's just it's not going to happen.
Your default is if you're not aware of it, your default is going to is going to start to say some of those things that you've done.
When you encounter guilt and shame, mostly shame.
OK, and all of us get to have some shame experience that in this life.
That that means something negative about our value as a human being.
OK, in other words, what we did degrade, you know, diminishes or lessens our value as a as a being.
Or in the case, here's an extreme case, but it's kind of easy to understand in the case of,
you know, serious trauma like an abuse or something, an abuse of when we're a child or any kind of terrible abuse.
When somebody does something to another human being, the victim will look at that act,
look at what happened to them and make meaning out of what that means about them.
And without a conscious intentional process,
you will default and make that meaning me that you're something wrong with you.
OK, and then things really start to go bad from there.
They get worse. And so that's what I mean by that.
That's awesome. So to me, and I don't think anyone will.
I don't know if anyone has actually said this to you.
So to me, the challenge for someone is not closing the gap between you and your belief.
Right. Of who you are or who you want, who you want to become.
The challenge is closing the gap between the belief and what's true.
Well, we can. We get to determine our own truth.
Right. And I think there's two gaps.
I mean, the first thing that I mentioned is, first of all, is just coming to know and having a vision,
using our imagination and deciding that who we want to be, OK, who we want to become.
Exactly how we want to have this life experience, this short time that we're here,
how that we're going to have to go. If we can crystallize that and see it.
To close the gap, the most important thing in closing the gap is going to be our beliefs about ourselves.
And we need to know that we need to make intentional.
See, once you recognize it and if you can accept that as it is,
as something that's going to be the big game changer for you in getting to your goal, OK, in closing the gap.
Then it becomes easy because then there's tools.
Then if you accept that, then you can learn the tools, the process and actual steps that can get you to constantly work on.
Then you can commit to a commit to pursue a positive loving relationship with you through your life.
And if you stay committed and you continue to develop that,
you're destined to reach more of your potential and reach that vision that you have.
Shane, I have one more question for you before we end today's segment.
How did you get started in all this?
Yeah, well, I appreciate that. Yeah.
And I appreciate you have me on your show.
I appreciate your show and the idea of it.
I, you know, I suffered a lot.
I got addicted to alcohol in an effort to try to feel better about me, OK, as a young man.
And I spent a couple of decades in an alcoholic case just and I reeked a lot of destruction and pain and calamity to a lot of people.
Some things I did, some things, you know, we're not even talk about here today.
The worst of it was the pain that I caused other people.
I also diminished my total self, destroyed my relationships and did a 17 year old marriage.
My daughters, my son's relationships, practically disintegrated to nothing.
Had a pretty bad time in an effort to try to feel OK, to feel better about me.
And when I finally broke out of that cycle and was able to turn my ship around, so to speak, and create a new vision for me,
I looked back on that process and I just said, you know, I wish I would have known before I began this what I know today.
And so our program now and that's why my vision is my vision.
And that is what we that is the core, really, of what we do at the Lord's Monship Journey.
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