Give me about three tips that you would give to an earlier entrepreneur.
So this one is going to be one of the other things on the Mount Rushmore
that makes businesses fail.
Yes. If you're doing it only for yourself, it will not work.
It doesn't matter what your business is.
If it is only for your bank account or your prestige or your whatever,
you will fail.
So here is a simple drill that you can do that will enhance
literally every relationship in your life, but one in particular.
Think of someone who you were close to kid, grand kid,
depending upon where you're at in life, tend to be the best two examples here.
Point being, they're younger than 18.
And what I want you to do every week,
typically it's best to do on a Friday, but every week
I want you to take out your phone
and I want you to leave an audio message for that kid
that they will get the day they graduate from high school.
So sometimes you're going to talk about things
that are really important to you in the moment.
Sometimes you're going to talk about things that are just maybe only you care
about, like who you're going to draft in your fancy football league
and why you think that.
But the point is, is that you're talking to this person
in the mindset of what they are going to be when they are 18,
graduate from high school.
OK. And then you're going to eventually give them this playlist
that's going to be how you sounded when they were 13.
But actually, instead of hearing your voice now when they're 18,
five years later, because we do change. Yeah.
And yeah, like I said, sometimes you're going to think about things
that are strictly important to them that you just can't tell them today.
Like the reason I got upset when you brought your first boyfriend over was this.
I can't tell that to you as a 14 year old.
But now that you're you're getting older, we can share it with you, you know,
and these this is the number one drill
that I want to recommend for you to build your relationships up better.
Then the number if I can share another drill, I certainly will.
As far as another tip, please.
You have to be comfortable within your own ocean of your emotions.
So many people are not.
Are not. And this is a growing problem with.
Each generation and not to get on a whole
the younger generation doesn't know anything, but an actual
scientific proof is here.
If you went through puberty with a smartphone,
your brain is not aligned relative to your peers as those who did before it.
And here's the simple fact for those who didn't go through puberty,
living on Instagram, Facebook, et cetera.
We all essentially had the same thing.
Maybe we weren't watching the same networks,
but there really wasn't that big of a difference
between the history channel and the Discovery Channel
or watching something on CBS or ABC.
There was a commonality across society.
But in the way that it's built now, there is not a commonality
between your Facebook experience and my Facebook experience or Instagram
or whatever you're on.
It is so tailored to you and actually pushes you in directions that
the commonality isn't around you.
And as a result, the need for getting out of your own
emotional chaos and be able to connect to people has never been greater.
And the way that you actually go about doing this
is you need to put yourself in a situation literally weekly.
So I recommend doing this one on Monday.
Situation where you don't normally be at.
If you're in a desk, if you're in an office,
sit in a piece of furniture that's in your office that you don't normally sit in.
Maybe it's on the floor.
Make yourself as sensory deprived as possible.
Turn the lights off. Make it as quiet as can be.
Turn your phone off.
Close your eyes and start to think about past experiences
that you wish were different, why they were different, how they were different.
That's not really the point that you just wish were different.
Your mind will instantly look like a Google search.
You'll see 500 different examples pop up of things that you wish were different.
Go to one that you feel comfortable.
Eventually, you will get to that really scary one at the end of the list.
No one wants to talk about that.
You remember from back in the day, we all have one and that's normal.
But you start with the easier ones up front.
And what you're going to do is this is try to take yourself out of your body
and out of the feelings of that moment and look at it through your
older eyes of today and just look at the relationship
that is occurring between those involved.
And it starts with a basic question.
Was the relationship for this event correct?
Knowing that there are all different types of relationships and they should be different.
You have a different relationship with a child than you do with an adult.
You have a different relationship with a coworker than you have with a boss.
You know, these are just parts of life, so you got to accept those parameters.
But in my mind's eye, looking back at this relationship, was it correct?
And then the follow up question, what should have been done differently,
whether it been myself or someone else?
And as you go through this process, that it's not a speed contest,
it's a sit down and think about it quietly in your space.
Why you need to do it regularly once a week.
As you go through this process, you will naturally start to find
that my relationships around me are starting to improve and everything is just starting to work better.
And the reason is the underlying truth in everything.
The goal of life is not more money.
It is not more time.
It is better relationships.
That is those who actually are truly successful at life have figured out this.
These two drills I just gave you.
Thinking about what the relationships you had in your past were and how to make them better.
And then actively, proactively leaving a voice message for someone that will be later in life
are two of the strongest ways that you can build up your own relationship based skills.
Yeah.
That quite frankly, you're not going to be able to find anywhere else.