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Give me about three tips that you would give to an earlier entrepreneur.

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So this one is going to be one of the other things on the Mount Rushmore

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that makes businesses fail.

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Yes. If you're doing it only for yourself, it will not work.

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It doesn't matter what your business is.

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If it is only for your bank account or your prestige or your whatever,

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you will fail.

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So here is a simple drill that you can do that will enhance

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literally every relationship in your life, but one in particular.

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Think of someone who you were close to kid, grand kid,

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depending upon where you're at in life, tend to be the best two examples here.

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Point being, they're younger than 18.

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And what I want you to do every week,

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typically it's best to do on a Friday, but every week

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I want you to take out your phone

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and I want you to leave an audio message for that kid

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that they will get the day they graduate from high school.

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So sometimes you're going to talk about things

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that are really important to you in the moment.

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Sometimes you're going to talk about things that are just maybe only you care

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about, like who you're going to draft in your fancy football league

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and why you think that.

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But the point is, is that you're talking to this person

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in the mindset of what they are going to be when they are 18,

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graduate from high school.

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OK. And then you're going to eventually give them this playlist

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that's going to be how you sounded when they were 13.

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But actually, instead of hearing your voice now when they're 18,

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five years later, because we do change. Yeah.

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And yeah, like I said, sometimes you're going to think about things

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that are strictly important to them that you just can't tell them today.

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Like the reason I got upset when you brought your first boyfriend over was this.

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I can't tell that to you as a 14 year old.

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But now that you're you're getting older, we can share it with you, you know,

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and these this is the number one drill

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that I want to recommend for you to build your relationships up better.

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Then the number if I can share another drill, I certainly will.

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As far as another tip, please.

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You have to be comfortable within your own ocean of your emotions.

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So many people are not.

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Are not. And this is a growing problem with.

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Each generation and not to get on a whole

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the younger generation doesn't know anything, but an actual

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scientific proof is here.

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If you went through puberty with a smartphone,

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your brain is not aligned relative to your peers as those who did before it.

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And here's the simple fact for those who didn't go through puberty,

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living on Instagram, Facebook, et cetera.

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We all essentially had the same thing.

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Maybe we weren't watching the same networks,

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but there really wasn't that big of a difference

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between the history channel and the Discovery Channel

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or watching something on CBS or ABC.

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There was a commonality across society.

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But in the way that it's built now, there is not a commonality

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between your Facebook experience and my Facebook experience or Instagram

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or whatever you're on.

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It is so tailored to you and actually pushes you in directions that

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the commonality isn't around you.

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And as a result, the need for getting out of your own

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emotional chaos and be able to connect to people has never been greater.

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And the way that you actually go about doing this

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is you need to put yourself in a situation literally weekly.

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So I recommend doing this one on Monday.

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Situation where you don't normally be at.

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If you're in a desk, if you're in an office,

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sit in a piece of furniture that's in your office that you don't normally sit in.

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Maybe it's on the floor.

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Make yourself as sensory deprived as possible.

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Turn the lights off. Make it as quiet as can be.

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Turn your phone off.

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Close your eyes and start to think about past experiences

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that you wish were different, why they were different, how they were different.

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That's not really the point that you just wish were different.

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Your mind will instantly look like a Google search.

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You'll see 500 different examples pop up of things that you wish were different.

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Go to one that you feel comfortable.

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Eventually, you will get to that really scary one at the end of the list.

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No one wants to talk about that.

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You remember from back in the day, we all have one and that's normal.

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But you start with the easier ones up front.

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And what you're going to do is this is try to take yourself out of your body

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and out of the feelings of that moment and look at it through your

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older eyes of today and just look at the relationship

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that is occurring between those involved.

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And it starts with a basic question.

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Was the relationship for this event correct?

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Knowing that there are all different types of relationships and they should be different.

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You have a different relationship with a child than you do with an adult.

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You have a different relationship with a coworker than you have with a boss.

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You know, these are just parts of life, so you got to accept those parameters.

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But in my mind's eye, looking back at this relationship, was it correct?

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And then the follow up question, what should have been done differently,

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whether it been myself or someone else?

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And as you go through this process, that it's not a speed contest,

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it's a sit down and think about it quietly in your space.

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Why you need to do it regularly once a week.

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As you go through this process, you will naturally start to find

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that my relationships around me are starting to improve and everything is just starting to work better.

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And the reason is the underlying truth in everything.

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The goal of life is not more money.

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It is not more time.

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It is better relationships.

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That is those who actually are truly successful at life have figured out this.

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These two drills I just gave you.

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Thinking about what the relationships you had in your past were and how to make them better.

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And then actively, proactively leaving a voice message for someone that will be later in life

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are two of the strongest ways that you can build up your own relationship based skills.

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Yeah.

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That quite frankly, you're not going to be able to find anywhere else.