Tell me about your vision for unbusy.
I really want to see moms with businesses feel like they do not have to be busy in their day.
They can actually enjoy the hour-by-hour part of life.
Yeah, because most of the moms I know are just kind of frazzled, hurried,
feeling like, well, that's the way it is till I'm an empty nester.
I'm like, no, you don't have to be that way because I have five kids. I have a business. I'm homeschooling.
Mom, this honestly feels easy for me, so I want to share my secrets.
You have five children.
You homeschool.
And you have your own business. Hey, I
I'm a mom of four, so I'm just, and I apologize. The way that this goes is just pretty much organic, right?
Of course, I have questions. I want to know about your vision.
However, we often go to the website, and the website shows this pretty picture of
Alissa Wolf and all these details of services.
But my goal here as a co-host is to understand the person behind this. So to know that you have
experience, like real-life experience in this, now I'm digging deep.
I'm going personal because I have four children, of course,
I mean in all these other roles, and I am not joking. I'm not joking, Alissa.
I guess I could say I complained. I complained maybe Monday and Tuesday
that I feel super busy. So for someone that feels like that, that really doesn't have a clue which part is
unbalanced. What do you do? And I'm not asking this for myself because I believe that there's probably,
when I shared it on social media, there were more people that hearted it and, you know, pretty much share and relate.
What does that look like if I come to you for coaching, Alissa?
The first thing I'm going to do is tell me one area of your life you're getting frustrated and resentful about.
Okay. Okay. And then usually with that conversation, an individual will share that part, and then you move forward in trying to
relief that frustration based off of what they stated.
First, I'm going to ask what they actually want that to be like to make sure I know what her goals and desires are.
Yes. And then I'm going to get some background like, well, how many hours are you working on your business?
Is there anything special I need to know about your kids? Special needs on commutes to drop them at school?
What's the actual nitty-gritty background? Yeah. Because some parts of your mom life can't be changed.
Lots can, but I need to know the hardline containers you've got.
Okay. Okay. And that makes all the sense in the world. Like you stated that some parts can be changed and other parts can't.
Like kicking the kids out, you know, and they're like two, three, four, five. So I get that totally.
How long have you been in business? Four and a half years. Four and a half years.
And would you say that this has been a business that has shown you a level of success that you expected?
Not yet, but I'm always up leveling and working on it.
Okay. Okay. So because it's your vision to unbusy moms, where are you at in that vision?
So you've been in it for four years and the vision is extremely clear.
And as you continue to keep working in that vision, how many people have you helped?
I guess I could have been a little bit more clear. How many people have you helped?
How many moms have you helped? And where are you currently at?
I've helped out five clients, but I've had 40 consults with people.
So each person does a consult with the free coaching session. Okay.
And right now I'm making sure I'm actually, as you said, the vision is really clear.
I don't think that was reflected in my podcast episodes and my website all over there.
So I am in the middle of revamping all that to speak directly to the mom who says,
help, I have a business, my kids are overwhelming me.
And I understand life doesn't have to be this way and I'm ready to change it.
Okay. Okay. And so you said that across the social media or websites,
you don't feel that that vision was clearly stated.
And I did see now me looking at your website when I seen the big unbusy business,
the mom is very small. So when you said what you said, I was like, oh, okay. Now I get it.
I wasn't sure what type of I'm busy. So is that what you're pretty much saying is like,
it's not very clear as to what you do across the board.
The site has mostly gotten updated, but I'm still working on like the social media.
Yeah. Well podcast episode content, but I think I was talking to people who
felt like they were in trouble, but that doesn't mean they're ready to make a change.
Ah, okay. Okay. And so those consultations have it's one hour to about an hour,
30 to 60 minutes, depending on the time of both parties.
Okay. Okay. And then they're having these kinds of conversations. And so it's not them pulling
the trigger. It's not per se, but it's not them, you know, choosing to actually work with you to
make that change. That's correct. I think I'm kind of light bulb moments that this would be so helpful.
So amazing. And then said, I feel like I'm in a spot to get coaching.
Ah, okay. Okay. When it comes to this business, do you believe that there is a maybe an audience
that you're not reaching as of yet? Like, um, as far as I say, the, the, I wouldn't say white collar,
maybe, you know, like the C-sweets and, and, you know, the people that are at higher levels of
business that really don't believe, you know, that their life at home is the biggest challenge in the
work. They're just probably just overworking themselves because of that type of life. And have
you dealt or spoken with many that experienced that? That's correct. I don't think I've helped
anyone at that level yet. Mid-level of running successful business. Yes. Low-level startups.
But thinking, I think I've been speaking to too many of the startup people. Okay. I'm like,
I could help you get on the right footing. Yes. But they're not ready. Yeah. Yeah. Even
thinking those terms. Yeah. And so I was thinking that as, as I'm talking and speaking with you,
that the, so let me say this and I'm a backup. I have a lot of thoughts as you can see. So I have
spoken with many entrepreneurs and business owners that truly define, um, their audience or their,
their ideal client. I have a few that I have met with that focus on C-suite individuals specifically
in areas of their relationship. Right. And so when I, when you said this and I'm like, okay,
someone's working on their relationship as in, you know, their partnership, the intimate part of
them, but who is working on the actual family life part of it. So that's what, that's where my idea
came from was like, Ooh, maybe that would be something, you know, and someone that probably
doesn't have a choice, but to be ready. Right. Or pretty much. Yeah. Yeah. They don't have a choice.
So as far as the four years have gone, do you see this actually resulting in something that,
that's longevity for you? This is what you want to do. This is like a retirement type of position
you want to be in. Very much so. Yeah. Yeah. I know where I wasted my time, but I can't imagine
quitting because I would be bored. Hey, you got it. You have to separate that mom life and that
business life. So may I ask how old are your children? Five through 15. Nice. Nice. Okay. I
have 29 to 10. Yeah. 29 to 10, 29, 24, 14 and 10. So I have some that are out the house, but then,
you know, thank you. Thank you. I'm ready for the other ones to go as well. So when you, as you work
in this, and then this is your life, how did, how did you come up to be like, okay, I have the tools
to actually be this person for someone else. How long did it take you to un-busy your own personal
life? I actually started that way from the get-go. That's kind of my secret sauce. So I
was, I always made sure mom life was handleable for me. So obviously I've gotten better and better
the more kids I had, the more homeschooling I did when I added the business. But fundamentally,
I never felt like I was the overwhelmed mom. Wow. Okay. Were you in the corporate life before you
decided to go ahead and have your own business or you've been a stay-at-home mom? No, I thought I
would never be an entrepreneur. Didn't think I had the skills. So yeah, I was a stay-at-home mom
graduating college. Well, congratulations to you. So are you working with, do you have a team of
people that you work with or someone you consult with? As far as like, what if they're so deep into
other situations that you cannot help and you'll see like, hey, maybe, and I guess it's not, I don't
know if it's your role to say, hey, maybe it would be good to talk to someone to maybe, you know,
take care of that first and then try to un-busy your life. So do you consult out if you see that
situation or if someone asks you about that? I do kind of a soft way. I have told multiple clients
on their free consults. I think you need to deal with this, this or this first. Okay. Would you
like a name of someone? Okay. I don't know if they actually go and do that, but okay. I gave them my
best opinion as a coach, which is you need to handle this first and then come back. Okay. Okay.
Because I could see that being a big challenge of a mom who's like extremely overwhelmed and
I guess relating to that and considering you made a life for yourself that's been consistent
with your mom life not being a challenge. I think that that's a really, really, really good thing.
Excuse me. A good thing that you share with people. I love that about that. And so now that you are
working on your website and doing all this, are you doing all of this on your own? Do you have? Oh,
okay. Okay. So you're very familiar with making websites and all that stuff?
I wouldn't say I'm very familiar either. You can buy website templates and pay someone else.
Yeah. I think that is just a very creative. I love your mindset. I really love how you've transitioned
into this business and held onto it for four years and your vision, like I said, is still existent
and so much needed in the world of moms and roles. You mentioned empty nesters. So do you work with
empty nesters too? One of my clients was. That was what I felt before I started the business. Oh,
I want to make an impact on people. Oops, I have kids. Well, stuff like that. Wait till I'm 50.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So then when they came to you and there was no one in the home,
but they had children, was that really, was that challenging?
No, because when I'm helping with work-life balance, when it's a case of your responsibilities versus
your passion projects, yes, or a tiree has a lot of time, they're still dealing with housework.
They may have courses, study, painting, whatever going on. They may be taking trips to visit
grandkids. I mean, that's upending your schedule. So there's all kinds of scheduled routine,
time management, what would make you enjoy your life stuff. We're just not saying, well,
and by the way, you can outsource some of the choice to your kids. That's not an option.
It's now up to your husband or a housekeeper or something like that. It just takes out a segment
of it. Yeah. I like that. And it seems like every thought process that I have, and then I ask the
question, you're like, oh yeah, I could deal with that. I love, love, love that. Do you find it to
be different for your clients that have younger kids than the ones that have older kids, like
in between the ages of, well, I guess the 10 and 15 stages. Do you see the big difference
in their lifestyles or what they come to you about? And for me, the big difference is
under school age and actual school age. She's the ones with the babies or toddlers at home.
I feel like they have very different restrictions on their work hours. Yes. That's often more of a
matter of mindset, but they feel like they're in a very different place day to day. Okay. That makes
a lot of sense. I have another question for you rather than the ones that are coming to my mind.
What are the greatest joys of what you do? I love seeing actual practical transformation.
My mom who says, I didn't think I could fit anything else in. I didn't think it was possible
to have me time. I worked with you and now I have that. I've de-stressed. I'm no longer overwhelmed.
I'm not going to burn out taking care of my kids. I can do this business for 15 more years.
This is good. I can keep on running. Oh, I love that too. And that's that,
that's that affirmation that you're doing well in your business and you know your craft. And
I don't think that people often can get that back. So I really love that for you.
And now you did mention a podcast. So you do have a podcast? That's correct. Okay. And how long has
that been going on? That's been going on for two and a half years. I went ahead and back filled all
the episodes for the four and a half years of business, but it's only been actually out for
two and a half years. Okay. How's that going? I think that I worked as a podcast keyword coach
once I tried to DIY it, of course, and it's like, yeah, it's like getting on the traction I want.
And then you do multiple episodes a week. Nice, nice. So do you invite moms on or it's pretty
much just you having a conversation? It's me. And then if someone wants to do a podcast swap,
and that's part of the agreement, then I'm happy to have guests. Okay. Okay. Explain podcast swap.
I've heard of that. When if you're asking for someone to interview on their show and they say,
sure, I will. If you interviewed me for your show. So you each interview, you interview each other
at a separate time so that you're not sharing the same audio, but effectively you're each going to
agree to interview the other person and each post that on your own site. Interesting. So that's
exactly what it is. It's so funny. So I got into this just very randomly. I'm a full-time real estate
agent and I like people. And when I heard the business, I was like, hey, I'm going to do this.
And when I heard the business, I was like, Hey, it says vision, you know, and that's the first
thing that I thought about. I was like, I get to understand people's vision and I get to also talk
to them about who they are, what they want in life. And, you know, pretty much it's exciting to see
businesses such as yours that you don't see, you know, massive people trying to do the same thing
that you're doing. So I truly, truly enjoy listening and knowing your story. Do you have
any questions for me? We usually do this for about 20 minutes. And I really, really, really think that
you have a great, great, great business. I really, really want to see you do so much more because you
have the ability to do it. And as you continue to move forward in defining like your website and
all that kind of stuff, I have a colleague that does extremely well in their own personal business,
but they're also a co-host that I would love to see if I could actually join you two together to
see how she can help you on that end. I know you're doing a lot of DIY stuff or you have done it,
but maybe to help you move your business a little further. Would that, do you think that could help?
At all? Possibly, depending on what her actual focus is. But thank you and thank you for the
interview. Well, not even, I guess when I say that it's because yes, we can always do it all on our
own. I come on here and I'm actually learning something from you, Alyssa. I promise you. I'm
going to get off in a moment and I'm going to go talk to my husband and say, hey, babe, I'm busy.
Like I need to un-busy my life. And I spoke to Alyssa, let me tell you why I need to. And he's
going to be like, what in the Samhain? Who is Alyssa Wolf? And I'm like, who's on the podcast?
She was my guest that she said. So with that being said, I think that, I mean, this is actually
amazing. And I don't think it's things that we actually think about as moms. We're just going
through the day, right? We're just going through the day. And if any mom is out there that's such
like myself, when you fall asleep, you still fall asleep with the day. You know what I mean?
And so what would that be like if I had someone like you that I could commit to and you could
commit to me and say, we can truly probably allow you a lot better sleep by un-busying the time that
you're awake. So as I continue to keep saying un-busy, like, I love it. Like, I think that
that's something that's going to stay in my head. So I want to, and it's just a conversation and
maybe it's someone you can actually do a podcast with to actually see if they can even be beneficial
in helping you on that end. Although you're not busy, like us kind of busy, I think that someone
else could be of assistance to help un-busy your life even more. And yes. So I, I'm super stoked.
I'm excited. I have no clue. So also, I just want to share with you, I do not look up much
about you or any of my guests before I come on here. So those, that's why that those, those
questions and those thoughts are just popping up because I'm like, I didn't read anything about
you because my goal was to know about Alyssa. And now I know a lot. So before we go, I want to ask
you, I want to put it on the screen. That's why I'm looking forward. But if I do not find it,
I didn't find it. Anywho, share with me two tips that you can give the audience
of moms that will be watching this before you go. Please. And thank you.
You're welcome. First of all, don't feel guilty for feeling resentment in your mom life. I want
you to use that resentment as a flashlight to say, this is what needs changing. Whether you have
the conversation with your husband, whether it's with your teenagers and you say, I have this much
going on, I cannot keep doing it all. Therefore, we are making changes to the way things are
writing. Instead of pushing it all inward saying maybe I'm not enough of a good mom, other moms
handle this, why don't I love cooking, whatever. Just forget it. Your emotions are there for a
reason. They're pointing to you to what needs to change. So that's tip number one. It's more on
the mindset side. Tip number two is practical. What are three things on your to do list right now
that don't have to be there? They're just part of the shoulds. I should do this this week or
today. I should get this back to that person this month. Is anything bad going to actually happen
if you don't? So this is not work deadlines. This is not making sure your kids have something to
eat. But do you actually need to reorganize your filing system? If it's before you submit your
taxes, does that really need to be today, this week, this month? What's on your self honey do
list that you're like, I should get to it, but you really honestly have no intention to do it?
Honestly have no intention for six months? Well then delete it or put it on Google calendar six
months from now. Like get real with yourself about what you have capacity for. And usually
that means deleting a bunch of things. Thank you for being here today. I'm really happy that you
tuned in to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes
continue to move forward. This is going to get more and more fun. We'll have more and more
engagement as well. We'll invite people to participate in the show. And thank you for
giving us your time and attention. Have an excellent time building out your vision and
becoming a Vision Pro yourself.