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What's the story behind your why?

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That's probably the deeper root of one of those hardened realities where you've

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seen that giving, giving, giving can deplete people.

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I agree with that.

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Right. So very much can.

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So it's for me, there's a why.

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And then there's a reason.

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Like the why I do things is because nobody did it for me.

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Right. So I teach everything I screwed up in business.

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I'll put it out there on social and I'll share the entire journey,

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the wins, the ups and downs, goods, bad, because I want people to see the real

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side of business because what they get to see is the Instagram version of life.

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Like you only ever get to see people's wins.

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You don't see the mental battles they have.

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You don't see, you know, in like my case, almost losing everything in the process

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of trying to build a company. Right.

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So I share all that because nobody was helping me along the way.

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And so I thought I was the only one screwing all this up.

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So but the reason behind all this is because I continue to want to give my wife

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the life she wants. She deserves to live. Right.

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So so my why is to help everybody else find freedom. Right.

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Help everybody not make themselves an island.

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But the reason that drives me the most is, you know, my wife put up with me

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for 20 years now, we're going on 18 years of marriage.

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And, you know, she's in my ride or die through this entire thing.

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And she deserves the continued success in life.

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One, to get back to where we were. Right.

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But to to continue to chase our dreams and do the things

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we've always talked about doing.

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So so that's the huge.

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But what people continue to do

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is they give and they have this whole mentality that I'm going to give.

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And the world's going to show up and magically hand me business

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and the world's going to.

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So so they give and then they give from this beautiful place.

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But because of that, they're taken advantage of.

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People realize, oh, they have a lot of connections.

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Oh, they know a lot of people.

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So they give and they give and they give and they give.

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And just like you said, it leads to burnout.

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So there's a whole philosophy around the idea of givers game.

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And the gentleman who said it, Ivan Meisner, he even came out and said,

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I wish B and I would not have embraced this phrase

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because givers game is I know it's not what they're trying to say,

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but it's literally saying you're giving to gain.

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And I know when they say that, they always say that you're giving unselfishly.

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Right. Blah, blah, blah.

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Here's the thing.

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If you never take from the network,

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you're going to be taken advantage of.

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So you have to give.

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So we break it down into five G's.

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Give, give, give, get and give again.

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Because here's the thing.

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Most people that are out networking have no idea,

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do not understand that they should actually open doors for you to.