What's the story behind your why?
That's probably the deeper root of one of those hardened realities where you've
seen that giving, giving, giving can deplete people.
I agree with that.
Right. So very much can.
So it's for me, there's a why.
And then there's a reason.
Like the why I do things is because nobody did it for me.
Right. So I teach everything I screwed up in business.
I'll put it out there on social and I'll share the entire journey,
the wins, the ups and downs, goods, bad, because I want people to see the real
side of business because what they get to see is the Instagram version of life.
Like you only ever get to see people's wins.
You don't see the mental battles they have.
You don't see, you know, in like my case, almost losing everything in the process
of trying to build a company. Right.
So I share all that because nobody was helping me along the way.
And so I thought I was the only one screwing all this up.
So but the reason behind all this is because I continue to want to give my wife
the life she wants. She deserves to live. Right.
So so my why is to help everybody else find freedom. Right.
Help everybody not make themselves an island.
But the reason that drives me the most is, you know, my wife put up with me
for 20 years now, we're going on 18 years of marriage.
And, you know, she's in my ride or die through this entire thing.
And she deserves the continued success in life.
One, to get back to where we were. Right.
But to to continue to chase our dreams and do the things
we've always talked about doing.
So so that's the huge.
But what people continue to do
is they give and they have this whole mentality that I'm going to give.
And the world's going to show up and magically hand me business
and the world's going to.
So so they give and then they give from this beautiful place.
But because of that, they're taken advantage of.
People realize, oh, they have a lot of connections.
Oh, they know a lot of people.
So they give and they give and they give and they give.
And just like you said, it leads to burnout.
So there's a whole philosophy around the idea of givers game.
And the gentleman who said it, Ivan Meisner, he even came out and said,
I wish B and I would not have embraced this phrase
because givers game is I know it's not what they're trying to say,
but it's literally saying you're giving to gain.
And I know when they say that, they always say that you're giving unselfishly.
Right. Blah, blah, blah.
Here's the thing.
If you never take from the network,
you're going to be taken advantage of.
So you have to give.
So we break it down into five G's.
Give, give, give, get and give again.
Because here's the thing.
Most people that are out networking have no idea,
do not understand that they should actually open doors for you to.