Tell me about your vision.
What a cool question.
Yeah, so I just, I really love helping people take action on the things that they want and the things they've been craving throughout their life.
And not only that, but I love how I love when I get to see the, the awe and kind of like, wow, you know, I just did that.
When it maybe didn't even feel like a lot because with the way that I do things, it's like in small micro steps.
So it happens without them even noticing.
And so my vision is really to help people just unleash these parts of them that maybe they have been wanting to get out in the world and and then bringing it out to life.
I love it.
The smile that you have for it is like, oh, this is truly my vision. This is what I love to do. So it is do the thing.
How did how did that name come about?
Yeah, so it's actually a funny story. I was I just exited my business and I had a mastermind and I was originally going to leave the mastermind after I exited because I'm like, okay, I'm done.
I'm not going to do anything anymore.
Business wise, I was just going to relax and enjoy my time on the water.
And and then my the guy that ran it was like, why don't you just stay in and you know, like we can kind of see what comes up for you.
And that's when I decided, well, I might as well write a book, you know, and talk about how I owned a staffing company for 20 years.
That was the business I exited. And I kept seeing people get stuck in like the jobs or like maybe even wanting more money, but we're scared to take a sales job.
And my background is sales. When I was in college, I did door to door sales.
It helped that and helped unleash me where I have this belief that money grows on trees.
And it's true because when you, you know, talk to enough people like as long as you can handle rejection, then money does literally grow on trees.
And so I'm writing this book and it's a sales book. And my mastermind was like excited because they're like, yeah, so many people have fear around selling and you're going to be able to help break the fear.
I haven't really seen that many books around that. And so we're all excited and we're brainstorming.
And then on the next time you go once a month, the next month, that's when I had I had gotten divorced a few years before I'd started dating.
So this is happening at the same time. And then all of a sudden, I'm in my session and I'm talking about dating.
And I'm realizing, well, the things that I do with dating or did have a boyfriend now, but the things that I did with dating were very similar to what I do with sales.
And it's not about like the way you look, you know, or like any of that stuff.
It was about, you know, setting goals, handling rejection, having a positive attitude, you know, and just kind of like having that like sense, you know, of stuff that sales did.
And then all of a sudden, it's still in recording. I'd have to find it somewhere.
But basically, I'm like talking to them and like, I just want to help people like do the thing.
And it was in that moment, they're all like, do the thing. And we're like, so excited.
And then the trademark was available. It was like all this stuff happens all at once.
And then, yeah, and so that's kind of where do the thing. The name was born, which was like really exciting.
And, you know, it's funny. Often when you say things, I'm finishing in my head, do the thing, right?
Because it goes right along with, you know, when I did the thing.
Yeah. So it's very catchy. Definitely very catchy. I love that.
And so when you made the book, did it correlate dating and sales? And that's how.
Yeah. So the funny thing is, the book is not even out there because I worked with a book strategist and she was talking to me about my do the thing story.
Because when you write a book, you need to write like the bad parts of when you like didn't do the thing so that you could show the evolution of you now doing the thing.
And at the time, I was like, you know what? Like, anytime I wanted to do something, I've been able to do it.
So I didn't really have like the sad part of the story. And so she's like, well, the book isn't going to be good.
And so she's like, she's like, so you're going to have to interview people to find out their kind of like sad part of their story.
You know, so that way that way you could like use their story in the book. And so she's like, just interview 10 people.
And so since I was interviewing 10 people, I was like, well, let me figure out an easy way to record these conversations.
I don't know why at the time I didn't think about Zoom or anything, but I ended up Googling like how to record people easily on the phone.
And and so then that's when call cast came up, which is the platform that I use for my podcast.
And I ended up connecting with the founder. We've become friends since then. And we do a lot of stuff together.
And and so that's when the podcast because I'm like, well, if I'm recording it, maybe I'll just use it for this podcast.
And so so that's that's where it came from. And then I threw my podcast. I'm interviewing people getting their do the thing story.
And I realized I do have a kind of like a downside of doing the thing and not doing the thing.
It was it was me not doing the thing that like I wanted. And that was most alive for me.
I was doing the thing based on like what I thought other people needed or expected of me.
And so that's why the other piece of my kind of like brand is helping people find their voice, not just doing the thing.
It's like what is really like alive for you. And then that's what's going to make it all go.
And so in that process, I dissected this formula to help people do the thing. And then I was like, I have to test it.
So that's when I started testing it in these Facebook groups where I run these challenges and help them achieve success.
And so that's where now a lot of my work has been kind of like created from.
And because I've really caught on the missing piece that most people have in achieving their goals and dreams.
And it's kind of all tied into this whole process.
So, yeah, so the book will eventually come out. But for now, it has like sparked all this other stuff, which has been really amazing.
I love the organic journey. That's what I think this is. It's an organic journey.
And when we choose not to focus on the path and just let things happen organically, you have your book and now be probably more pages.
Yeah, it has some great people, inspirations and the downside to they're not doing the thing.
And then you turn your podcast around and learn more about yourself than probably you did with other people.
So, wow, this is awesome. And so now that you're doing and it's interesting because now it seems like things have changed.
So are you now coaching as well? Is that what you will call it? Coaching?
Yeah, I don't really call myself a coach, but I do. I like to put people in in a group.
So my what I've discovered. So I have a six step like formula. It's an acronym.
It's I'm game. And there's one of those pieces that is like the missing piece to achieving your goals and dreams.
That's what I recently did a TED talk on or TEDx talk.
And it'll come out maybe at some point in the next month.
But it's basically being with people who have a shared goal. It's not your friends and family or your regular support network.
It's people that want the same thing. So if you're wanting to start a podcast, then be with people that want to start a podcast.
If you're wanting to be a speaker, be with people that want to be a speaker because your friends and family and your normal support network,
they might support you or they might not. Right. Because your thing could be scary for them.
And but when you're with people that are going through those challenges together and you're able to express it in a private group,
there's this magic that happens. And that's why people can achieve these results that they never even thought were possible.
Because what you're thinking or what you're saying out loud could also be what I'm thinking.
But maybe I'm afraid to say and because I'm able to like get all that stuff out of my head.
Now I've got room to be able to go and grow and all of the things that we want to do in life.
And that makes all the sense in the world. So just a little bit about me.
I'm a real estate agent and I'm coming up on my two years. So I need to take 90 hours of classes.
I've learned that I'm not adult enough to do it at the self-learning.
I'm just going to be all over the place. But what I found is that when I'm in the room with people with like minded visions. Right.
And on all levels, you're right. That spark, those thoughts, those things that you never thought could be answered.
Right. Because you just thought it was in your own head. Now someone else is like, oh, me too.
You know, so I've always loved the group thing. And as you're doing it right now,
I'm sure there's an aha moment off camera where people are like, oh, my gosh, like I was so excited.
And I hear a lot of people, you know, are daunted when they go into these groups because they're like, ah, this is just like a group discussion.
And then, you know, off the camera, we're often like this was amazing. You know, these were.
I'm actually finding out a lot about other people. I'm definitely excited about sharing my visions and goals.
So spot on. So what is I'm game? What is the acronym?
Yeah. So it's it's basically each piece represents like a piece of the pattern.
So the eye is identify the why. And we hear this right.
Simon Sinek is really popular Ted talk about knowing what your why is.
But there's something really special when you're able to share why you want to do something, why you want to hit this goal.
When you're doing it in a group and so when you're able to share it in that way, it's really special.
Or, you know, just make sure you know what your why is in general.
And then the M in I'm is mindset.
And I like to do this two ways in a group is number one, I like to ask people what their excuses are,
because every time we're like about to do something new, there's always something that's coming up,
whether it's like imposter syndrome, right, or like time is like a common one.
But when you're in the energy and the momentum of the excitement of you wanting to do this new thing,
you're able to now say like, what am I going to do when time becomes an issue of me doing this?
Or what am I going to do when I'm getting into comparison?
And if you could do it at the beginning of the excitement, then that's so powerful because you're not burning energy in the moment.
And when you're able to announce it and declare it in a group, it's even more powerful because now like,
you no longer feel alone in your excuses.
A lot of times like we're only plagued by the mental baggage that comes in our head when we're alone in that thought,
you know, because we think we're the only ones.
But when we see other people have the same stuff, all of a sudden you're like, wait, if we're all this way,
then of course we could do it.
And so that's really powerful.
And then my second step of mindset is fun, which a lot of people don't even like ever think to have fun.
So, you know, that's also really important is to just make sure whatever you're doing,
why would you want to do it if you're not having fun?
So you want to make whatever it is you're doing fun, basically.
And so that's the M. And then the G in game is goals.
And I do this with people through dares.
Because it's not a crazy dare.
It's always just like a simple like micro action that I get people to do to move, you know.
So if I'm doing a dating challenge, you know, it might be just complimenting a stranger,
like something really just like easy.
And then for people that aren't ready to compliment the stranger, I'm able to like tell them to just, you know, say hi.
Right. And it doesn't have to be the full on thing.
And so the dare is just a really easy way to set a goal.
But if you're doing it on your own, you know, a lot of people get stuck in the smirk goal, right?
We're familiar with like that. And that's great.
When you know exactly what you want to do, smirk all day long.
But if you're not sure, you know, then you can also just have a rough draft goal.
You have an idea of what you want to do and then just take one step towards that
because that's what's going to get you into the energy, you know, of it.
And I love those steps. But you know what, Stacey, I'm going to stop you at the I.G.
because we're going to do a second one. I want somebody to come back here.
The end of the day, what's the point of giving everybody everything right now?
And I'm loving that fact, you know, and I want to go back to what you were saying earlier regarding rejection.
That is when you talk about even your switch in business, right?
And where you were going and where you were heading, you were going to face rejection, right?
The no's or the maybes or the not nows.
And I believe when people are looking, looking within themselves and finding what's what their why is, their vision,
that's a really big part of even life, even in dating, how you said you used that in dating.
I don't want to be told no or I don't want to date you or we're not going out.
I won't even say this because I'm sure most people experienced it.
No second date. What? We had a good time.
And now so that rejection can fall in between so many stages of all of that.
How are people dealing with that?
And how do you help people deal with that rejection that doesn't just come at the beginning?
You can begin something and then they end it immediately. And for me, it hurts. I don't like rejection.
Yeah. Yeah. And it applies to like everything, whether it's like, you know, you're wanting you're in a business
and you want to get a collaboration partner asking someone on your podcast, right?
Like whatever it is, you have to be open to be able to get rejection.
And so I read this book in college when I was selling books door to door and it was like the rhinoceros success.
So I always imagine myself like as a rhinoceros where I've like built up this thick skin.
So I don't take things personally because if you're a rhinoceros, like you're just plugging through, right?
And the nose don't matter. And so that's one way is just like making it fun, you know, in terms of making it a game too.
And then the way that I help people have this find your voice challenge where through the framework of the dares,
you're able to like go up to someone and ask them like a self reflective question, which like the person could say no,
I can answer that question or they could say yes. And you kind of like lead into the curiosity of what are they going to say?
Are they going to say yes or are they going to say no? And it's like having fun with that moment of like what's going to happen.
And so that's pretty much what it is. It's kind of like looking at everything as a playful curiosity way.
And that helps you really kind of like tap into not taking rejection personally because it's not really about you at the end of the day, right?
It's something going on with them and doesn't mean that they're bad or anything.
It just means that it's not the right time, whatever it is.
Yes. And you know what? It's so funny because you're speaking to me right now. As I mentioned, I do not like rejection.
So I wonder, do I not ask questions that lead into rejection? Because I'll tell anybody like, hey, I'm rarely rejected, right?
So and it's like, I don't think I put myself in positions to be rejected.
I wonder is that that thought process for someone like myself who doesn't like it so much that we don't put ourselves in there.
And so that dare will definitely lead you into, you know, like you have no clue what's about to come.
So accept it. So now that you've given me this teaching moment, which is like, OK, can I be a rating assurance?
Maybe I could do that and put myself in positions like that. So I say that to say, Stacey, is all of this stuff and whatever we talk about is not just always for everybody.
It could be for the person you're speaking to. Yeah, I love it. Yeah, I love it so much.
And so my next question, and I've heard the story, I've heard your background to it, but specifically, what's your why?
Yeah, so it's interesting. I did an episode on my podcast a year and a half ago with my holistic coach.
And it was a coaching session. And at the time, it was just supposed to be some generalized thing.
I wasn't expecting to go deep with the conversation. That's why I had it recorded as a podcast, you know, because you put yourself out there doing that.
And I was just like, should I go on social media or should I not go on social media? And which seems like it would be a really simple question.
And she kept asking me like what my intention was with going into social media.
And I was like, oh, because I want to help more people. I want to impact more people.
And if I'm able to go on social media, then more people will get impacted. And and then she kept asking me why.
And at the time, I had I had exited my staffing company maybe like a year before.
And I'm like and I started crying on this like episode. And I'm like, I'm like because I'm missing the fulfillment that I got from like being able to help people.
And so after that interview, I did wait. I still wasn't ready. I waited six months before I got on social media.
But what really came out of it is that is my why. I just get so much fulfillment from being able to like free someone's voice.
And it's not about the person I'm freeing their voice. It's about all of the people that then get freed their voices because I freed that one voice.
So it's like it blows my mind, you know, like on the on the on the level of impact you can have with just helping one person.
Like it's like people say this whole one person, but they don't realize it's not just one person.
You're helping one person, but then that one person is helping all of us.
Yes. And then they talk about that story, right? They get off and they're like, oh, my goodness, I just had this moment and not realizing that they're sharing
probably with the people that are so much closer to so so much closer to them that they're now sharing their story and their whys.
And I think that that's amazing that I know that that was a lot for you to actually go on social media and share and get in deep and then start crying.
But at the end of the day, that's the person behind the do the thing. Right.
Because, yes, a lot of people see that the website is beautiful. Right. I'm a sort of black and white girl.
So when I first seen that, I thought, oh, that's pretty. But the person behind it, which is Stacey Lauren, who did the thing is doing the thing and will continue by sharing with others.
And it's just so much bigger than you. And that's what you said is you said one person can help many. And with that being said, what is your goal? How many do you want to help? And how far do you want to go?
Yeah, so right now I'm helping people build online communities that they're able to monetize. And I originally didn't have like money goals for people. It was all about the impact. But what I realized was it was hard for people to play at the level that like you could play at when you're like constantly thinking about money and how you're going to survive.
So that's when I added in this wealth piece of helping people create wealth. And so that's really what my goal is now is just taking away like all of the things that can burn energy, you know, on you such as money.
So then I'm able to show people how to do it in a fun, easy, like connected way, while giving people a safe space to be able to share their voice. So it's not just the person I'm helping, it's the people in the community that I'm helping be able to share.
Because let's face it, the reason why people don't engage or they don't like share what they want is because they either like, is this safe? Or what am I supposed to do? Or, you know, is what I know already something everyone else knows.
And so when you give people that space to be able to feel safe, you know, and knowledge, then all of a sudden, like there you've got an amazing bustling community that they're now able to be in. And so that's a goal of mine is just to help people create wealth while building connection and love.
I love it.
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