1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,600 Would you like to share some more stories about your vision? 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:04,880 Hmm. 3 00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:09,240 Well, you know, as I'm a psychotherapist, 4 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:13,840 and I've noticed over the years that I tend to do 5 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:15,880 what I've always done, even when I was a child, 6 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:20,880 is I tend to stick up for people who are being bullied. 7 00:00:22,080 --> 00:00:25,040 I had a story back when I was in junior high 8 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:28,420 and there was a girl that went to the church that I went to, 9 00:00:28,420 --> 00:00:32,120 and she was very, very quiet and very passive 10 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:34,000 and didn't really feel very good about herself. 11 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,360 And because of that, she got bullied quite a bit. 12 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:39,400 And I remember back in the day that I just, 13 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:40,640 I would stand beside her, 14 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,440 and if there was someone that was saying something to her, 15 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:43,840 I would just like look at them like, 16 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:46,960 mm, you know, you better back down. 17 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:50,440 I'd save a place for her at the table at the cafeteria 18 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:51,800 because she didn't have anywhere to sit. 19 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:53,380 She would sit by herself. 20 00:00:53,380 --> 00:00:56,880 So I'd always been kind of a champion of the underdog. 21 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,200 And I noticed as I started going through 22 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:02,200 as a psychotherapist, and I would see people, 23 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:04,400 and they would come in and I was noticing more and more 24 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,160 and more of their issues were boundary related. 25 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,280 And I started feeling more and more strongly 26 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:14,280 about wanting to help them champion themselves 27 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:17,520 to be able to go out and to be able to stand 28 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:20,760 in their interpersonal relationships at home 29 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:22,160 with their family members, 30 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,120 which frequently are the hardest relationships 31 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:28,360 to set boundaries, if we're being brutally honest. 32 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:31,000 Also with friends at times, 33 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:32,880 because friends can kind of, those friendships 34 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,440 can make themselves known as being 35 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:37,760 maybe not actually friendships. 36 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:39,880 And then also at work, 37 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,760 for people to be able to understand 38 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:44,200 when they get the rules, 39 00:01:45,220 --> 00:01:47,520 then they can be so much stronger 40 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:49,920 and they can have these, the hard conversations. 41 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:53,720 It just, it makes my heart just so warm 42 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:57,040 to envision people that I've trained. 43 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:59,400 And I hear them say this when my patients will come back 44 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,400 and they'll say, Dana, I was in such and such situation 45 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:03,240 with somebody the other day 46 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:04,480 and I heard your voice in my head. 47 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:07,040 I hear your voice in my head telling me, 48 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:08,480 you've got a right to your opinion 49 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:10,080 and you have the right to say no 50 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:12,960 and someone else's expectations, 51 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:13,860 they have a right to them, 52 00:02:13,860 --> 00:02:16,200 but I have a right to my own expectations as well. 53 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:18,520 And so when I see these things 54 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:22,380 and I see these boundary ideas and tenants 55 00:02:22,380 --> 00:02:23,680 playing out in people's lives, 56 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:27,240 and I see them pulling up and becoming stronger 57 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:31,240 and not being victimized by manipulators and narcissists 58 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,580 or just general people around them 59 00:02:33,580 --> 00:02:36,740 who they don't feel like they can stand up to, 60 00:02:36,740 --> 00:02:39,200 it is just, it's an amazing, an amazing feeling. 61 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:41,120 And that is my passion and my vision 62 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:44,280 to be able to train people to be able to do that. 63 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:54,280 It's just amazing.