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Tell me about your vision. I tell you what one of the things that I've been kind of growing

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Growing Lee. How about that for a word really excited about and passionate about lately is fatherhood and I started writing a book

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Really back in 2022 called the guardians of grit for fathers and I've done a lot of work

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Kind of behind the scenes with a clinical psychologist friend of mine to to help dads raise

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Uncrushable sons and that's pretty excited about that lately

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Wow, tell me more about that why

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You said uncrushable sons and the use of the word growing Lee

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Yeah, so great question I

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You know the word uncrushable to me, of course is really tied to the title of the book, right?

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The guardians of grit and so I'd like to explain it this way grit, you know in a sentence could be kind of

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defined as

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Doing hard things over a long period of time

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Because what's on the other side of that hill as it were is really worth fighting for and of course if you're wanting to build

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A life for yourself and those you love

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You're gonna have to do hard things, you know, you're gonna have to have some grit

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You're gonna have to have some traction and when that place, you know comes from you know in your in your soul, right in your heart

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It's amazing how much you can do and of course, I like this word uncrushable just because it means hey

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We're gonna get we're gonna we're gonna take some blows. That's all there is to it. And

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So really the question is is how fast are you getting up and why?

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I'm ready to I'm excited as well to get to know about this a little more

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So David where did this vision?

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Come from exactly

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You know, I've been really really passionate about being a father

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so I'm a father of two teenagers one in college actually just started his second year my son and my daughter is a senior in high school and

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I I take that really really seriously. I'm a really passionate

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person in general and of course, you know, most people would say right your your wife and your children, you know

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most men would say your wife and your children come first and

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And what I'm seeing of course is you know

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a lot of a lot of people suffering because they're just not able to do hard things and they seem to

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You know to lack some horsepower. So I met a clinical psychologist in a mastermind group that I'm a part of

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About six years ago. Dr. Eddie Garrett and I went through his course. We actually now work together

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But his course is called the true north blueprint and it really helps one establish that

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intrinsic, you know motivation and you know to live a life with

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you know passion and

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Moxie and gusto and and so on as opposed to living a life where you kind of hand the keys to somebody else, right?

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You're you're wanting the applause of other people you're wanting

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Maybe you don't want the displeasure of someone right?

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You don't want to be, you know teased or mocked or you know thought of in a bad light

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But what's fascinating though is is again that's extrinsic versus intrinsic

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and what we do is to help people establish that clear plumb line inside of themselves

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What is your goal for being on the show?

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You know, I tell you like I said, I'm really really passionate about dads

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I think that you know, and of course, I'm a bit biased, but I think that largely

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You know, well I'll back into it this way. You're never going to hear, you know a mom or a wife say

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Gee, I wish my husband didn't lead so well

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You know, gee, I wish my husband wasn't so you know filled with clarity and kindness and courage

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You know, and there's there's not a son or a daughter alive who would say those words. Gee. I wish my dad wasn't so awesome

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I wish my dad didn't lead so well

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I wish my dad didn't set the pace in our home or set the temperature. It's just the opposite, right?

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Most wives are just longing

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For their husbands to take the lead and to step up and to set the temperature and in fact the word man

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You know means one who turns chaos into order

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You know, so it's it's this idea that not that I have some weird overpowering agenda, but you know, I'm well

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You know well equipped to step in and set the temperature if there's something that I need to speak into or some wisdom

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That needs to be brought or some clarity around something or laughter for that

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Matter, you know, I'm just the guy to do that and I I'm really hoping of course through the book and we're starting an online community

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at guardians of grit.com

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You know where we have

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We can empower fathers and I'm really niching down to sons

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I might do a guardians of grit for daughters at some point too. But right now I

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I'm hoping that you know, we can basically I can look at men and say let me introduce you to yourself

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So that you can do the same thing for your sons on a very clinical level

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As well as heart right? I mean the the basis or the undergirding of grit, of course is love

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But yeah, my my mission is to help dads become self-aware to become you know, father rock stars

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So that they can raise uncrushable sons

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Wow, that is so powerful if I hope that you're able to

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Get that

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And I'll love to make some introductions for you. Thank you

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I know that would I mean if you want to be on their show or they have a show

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Yeah, I'm actually gonna be well, I will be launching a podcast later this year, but i'd love some yeah

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I'd love some some help. Yeah, that'd be great

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Awesome. Thank you for being here today. I'm really happy that you tuned in to vision pros live

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I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward

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This is going to get more and more fun. We'll have more and more engagement as well

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We'll invite people to participate in the show and thank you for giving us your time and attention

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Have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a vision pro yourself