1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,040 What does self-love mean? What does that mean? 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:07,720 Self-love means you got to put yourself first. 3 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:12,240 And if you don't put yourself first, you're going to have a lot of complications. 4 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:16,320 And I know because I lived them over the years. 5 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:18,080 I said I was a leader. 6 00:00:18,080 --> 00:00:20,280 I always put people in front of me. 7 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:24,680 I always would drop what I'm doing for me to go help someone else 8 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:28,160 or talk to somebody else if they have an issue. 9 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:32,560 So, but I realized over the years 10 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:36,360 that I needed to self-love myself first. 11 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:39,480 Yeah. And that's what I did. 12 00:00:39,480 --> 00:00:42,320 I transformed. I said, OK, hit the brakes. 13 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:45,120 You looked in the mirror. 14 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:47,000 I got to take care of me now. 15 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,240 OK, everyone else will come. 16 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:51,000 I'll get to you. 17 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,280 But I got to take care of me first. 18 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:59,840 Did you first believe that you felt like you were being selfish? No, no. 19 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:09,240 No, I know because only because of all the years that I put everybody before me. 20 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,080 Yeah. I didn't feel selfish. 21 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:16,920 I felt like that this was the right thing for me to do for me. 22 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:20,400 Yeah. So so I know I didn't feel selfish. 23 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,320 It's actually a good question. 24 00:01:22,320 --> 00:01:26,640 And the only fact that I have to say it again is because my whole life, 25 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:29,680 people came first before me. Yeah. Yeah. 26 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,520 Everybody actually came first before me. Yeah. 27 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:35,640 So now I didn't feel selfish. No. 28 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:41,720 So you mentioned just being a leader and and what that looks like 29 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:46,280 and and how you did put others before you. 30 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,720 And now that you do have self-love, 31 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:52,440 what defines a great leader now to you? 32 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:55,400 Because you now have a different perspective, right? 33 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:57,360 So what defines a great leader? 34 00:01:58,000 --> 00:01:59,760 What defines a great leader? 35 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,080 What defines a great leader is. 36 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:07,080 Being kind to yourself first and being kind to others. 37 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:11,280 OK, no matter what platform you're on in life, 38 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:17,600 whether you're a millionaire or you're living paycheck to paycheck, 39 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:20,720 living paycheck to paycheck, that doesn't matter to me. 40 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:25,160 What matters to me is you have respect for others. 41 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:29,280 You you come with kindness and. 42 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:32,800 And that's what a leader does. 43 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:36,800 A leader will treat you on an equal playing field. 44 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:42,080 What are the tips that you would give them regarding that money or relationships? 45 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:44,680 Well, the 46 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:47,800 the nothing supersedes love. 47 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:50,120 Yeah, I'm sorry. 48 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:52,440 Nothing supersedes love. 49 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:56,600 You're right. Money makes things easy when you have money. 50 00:02:56,600 --> 00:02:58,520 And it just makes life a little bit easier. 51 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:00,160 It takes the pressure off of you. 52 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:06,400 But to make that money, what are you going to in life? Yeah. 53 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:11,520 Every morning, getting up five in the morning, whatever time, whatever you do, 54 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:13,840 staying up all hours of the night. 55 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,520 You're worried about losing your job, worried about paying the bills. 56 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,240 What kind of stress do you put on yourself? 57 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:24,360 What happens with that is you forget about everybody else around you 58 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:28,440 because you're so involved with your job and making the money. 59 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:30,680 What about your kids? What about your wife? 60 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:33,360 What about your mother, your father? 61 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:39,400 What about them? You know, listen, I knew a group of girls growing up. 62 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:44,440 If you didn't make six figures, they wouldn't date you. 63 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:50,880 I know I know another girl that if she met a man, she was like, 64 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:53,840 I'll go out with you, but tomorrow bring your tax return. 65 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:56,480 When I heard that, I almost dropped to the floor. 66 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:58,640 I think I was about 30 years old when I heard that. 67 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:01,960 I almost fell to the floor. Yeah. 68 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:06,160 And she told me that she goes, yeah, I asked the guy, whatever his name was, 69 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:10,040 Joe or John, I asked him for his tax return. 70 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:13,200 I'll date him, but I want to see what kind of tax return he's got. 71 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,320 How horrible is that? Wow. 72 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:18,640 Come on. Yeah. Are you serious? 73 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:20,960 Well, kind of what kind of world do we live in? 74 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:22,760 Are you serious? Yeah. 75 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:25,320 You know, so, you know, it's 76 00:04:26,280 --> 00:04:29,080 I don't know. It's just the way the world is today, man. 77 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,640 The world is tough. I agree. 78 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,160 It's tough. It's tough out there. 79 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:38,840 It's tough with men, women, kids, college. 80 00:04:38,840 --> 00:04:40,560 I know it's tough. Yeah. 81 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:43,440 But remember, nothing supersedes love. 82 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:46,720 To answer that question, I guess love is number one first. 83 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:48,280 Thank you for being here today. 84 00:04:48,280 --> 00:04:50,760 I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. 85 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:54,640 I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes 86 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:55,720 continue to move forward. 87 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:57,440 This is going to get more and more fun. 88 00:04:57,440 --> 00:04:59,280 We'll have more and more engagement as well. 89 00:04:59,280 --> 00:05:01,320 We'll invite people to participate in the show. 90 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:03,680 And thank you for giving us your time and attention. 91 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:06,400 Have an excellent time building out your vision 92 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:34,400 and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.