What is the story behind your why?
So the story behind my why I really think it really stems from coming from a
family that was built around like love and nurturing,
but there was a lot of suffering. My mom suffered from an autoimmune disease.
My dad worked so many hours to provide for our family.
All I really knew was scarcity with money,
but I was definitely not scarce in love. And so as a child,
I think it's hard to differentiate because you're in pain because you see your,
your mom, who I was so close with in physical pain.
And then my dad was in emotional pain and financial pain.
And, but here we were all connected.
We're a family of seven and we love to do things together.
So I think it was hard for me to differentiate what that meant.
And so for me it was the lack of money equals pain and you have to be frugal
and you have to work your fingers to the bone just to get by,
let alone, you know, excel and be rich or wealthy.
I didn't even know what that meant back then. You know,
I just had like the negative view of like the Scrooge. That was all I knew.
And so my why from that point was when I got married,
I said, my girls will know their father.
He will be present in their life. And so how can I help bring him home more?
He never asked me nor would he ever because he is a provider. He,
you know, that's innate in him, but he is an amazing father.
And so I, from a very early on in our marriage was like, how can I,
you know, hustle? I, I sold sandwiches to our farmer.
We live in a farming community. So I would sell sandwiches during harvest.
I would do these little trinkety hair things for women that were young like me
and moms and stuff and just little things.
And then I got involved with a network marketing company and I was like,
how can I, you know, really thrive here?
I just always had this innate desire to help our family so we could spend more
time together as a family unit and not just,
okay, the husband's working moms over here.
I get to enjoy the kids and have that awesome experience,
but he's, you know, working his fingers to the bone and doing all that.
So that is what drove me and can still continues to drive me because whether
we're watching a movie or currently we're doing a pontoon rebuild renovation
together, or if we're going to Disney world, it doesn't matter.
As long as we're together and we're experiencing it, good, bad, ugly,
like we're a family and I want my husband there. I want my kids there.
I want to experience life together so that when they're older,
they know what that looks like. They spend time with family.
Cause at the end of the day, families really all you have. I mean, you have,
you can have friends and you can have community through church and stuff like
that, but your legacy lives on through your family.
And so I want to build legacy of memories, experiences,
and I want to teach my kids the,
the what wealth really means and what money really means and how you can use it
as a tool. And it's a good thing.
And how to release money into the atmosphere and be generous.
And you know, all of those things that I didn't really understand or know as a
child. So that's really where my Y comes from.
Where are you going with the vision? I'm going to pull your website up while we
talk about this. Cause I fell in love with some aspects of your website,
but where are you going with this? What you're going to change the world.
Like droves of family at a time. If you keep rocking the mic like this.
Yeah.
So our vision is really to give families the tools they can to be successful in
this. Cause like you said, it's not the norm.
And I really hope it is even people who have been divorced,
even people who don't have good ties with their kids, it's never too late.
Okay. When I tell you that my dad worked his fingers to the bone,
I'll tell you, he worked 16 to 19 hours a day.
And as a child that drove such a wedge between my father and I.
And so growing up, I hated my dad. I mean, I didn't like,
I so many times said, dad, I hate you.
I wish you were sick and not mom. And I would cry about like why my mom was
always sick and he wasn't, but here is the reality, Jackson.
I actually loved him and I just wanted time with him.
And so God gave us that in my twenties and he redeemed it.
And I have such a close relationship with my dad right now.
And that happened in my early twenties. So anybody that's listening,
that's like, Oh, I don't have a great relationship with my kids.
I ruined it. I worked too. It's never too late.
Like it's never ever too late.
And I want to teach families and give them the tools and the community and the
support system so that they can have a strong marriage,
whatever marriage number that is for you, it doesn't matter. Again,
you can always redeem it. You can always have it,
have the tools for that and the community and the support system.
And like you said, when you're around that, you want to be that. Okay.
So creating that environment and then helping them with the wealth building.
So we help people buy income properties,
whatever that looks like for them and build it.
I don't want to say quickly because that sounds like, you know,
like the fast class, you know, it's like build it right.
Give it the foundation it needs.
With purpose. You're talking about purposeful and personal diligence.
Exactly. And like bringing your kids in on the family vision.
Cause when you buy a single family home.
Real quick, I feel that from you. I got to,
I got a point that there's a massive difference between the person who's
telling you like, Oh, it's easy. Like, Oh, it's going to be, you know,
it's going to be a cake. If more people get in this life,
it would be a cake walk and blah, blah, blah. Like there's demeanors, right?
You've got the demeanor of somebody who's like crushing life, you know,
you're making it happen.
Yeah. I mean, we take steps every day. I'm there. I'm intentional.
Like I am very intentional, like with my kids, with my husband, with my work.
Now, is it always roses? Are there times when I'm like, Oh gosh,
like where did that hour go? Of course.
But like I'm intentional with forgiving myself for those and moving on with
same with my spouse. Like, Hey,
you are human and I am human and that's still hurt,
but like that's not who you are. I forgive you. We move on. We move forward,
you know, and because of my personality and my husband's personality,
sometimes there's that clash cause we're complete opposites. Absolutely.
But we know that and we give understanding and time and say, Hey,
cause we've been together 24 years, Jackson, like this is not like,
you know, and so we've been through some stuff and we have five kids and
businesses. And so it's definitely not a cake walk and no family,
no marriage, nothing. I don't care if it's your first marriage,
your seventh marriage, like if you have one child or 10,
like it all has its challenges.
What we want to do is cultivate a community,
almost a cult like the cultivate, right?
Like create this where it is so normal in this space that other people see it
and they're like, what is different? Yeah. Like I want that because we all
truly do want joy and peace and we want to leave a legacy for our kids.
Like you said, even if you're not with your kids,
you still want the best for them.
You still want to give them success principles that they get to live a life
that's, you know, about other people, generosity, giving back,
using their gifts and having great marriages and having great kids and,
you know, letting that cycle go on. I mean, I haven't met a parent. I mean,
I never met Hitler,
but like I've never met a parent that doesn't want better for their kids.
Even if they left them, even if they abused them, you talk to abusers
and they still want what's best for their kids.
They just did it in the wrong way. Right.
And so when we cultivate this community and we have a vision for our kids,
we want to teach them and give them principles so that they're successful
and that they keep the wealth because like our community is for entrepreneurs,
business owners. Well, they're busy and they have all these hats
and they want to teach their kids these things.
Sometimes they don't know how, but usually it's, they don't have the time.
So if we can marry that where they get to be an entrepreneur, learn,
get wisdom and their kids can be involved.
We bring their kids in on the single family property.
We teach them how they, their kids can even come in and like assess the property
with them or look on Zillow or make it a family thing so that mom and dad
don't have one more thing that's taken away from them.
Cause then they're going to look at money. They're going to look at entrepreneurship.
They're going to look at real estate as a negative thing because that took mom
and dad away. How do leaders lean into funding the vision?
They have, they might have a vision, but it's not crystal clear.
Like you said, entrepreneurship, 96% fail.
I believe a lot of that is because they don't have the holistic vision of what that means.
So what I mean, I have a vape shop tomorrow, but only cause everybody's doing it.
Right. Yeah. I'm going to do this and I'm going to get money or they want to provide
for their family, but they want to be with their family.
So there's a lot of conflict with entrepreneurs. Well, when you have conflict,
that slows you down. Think of it like, you know, friction.
So they have this vision and I'm speaking from experience. You have this vision,
you want this, but then something happens that conflict and it like slows you down.
Okay. Well, money is like the biggest friction for people because that is probably one
of the most emotionally touchy touch points for people is money.
Like if you want to bring up an awkward conversation with somebody, talk about money.
Right. And a lot of people have very strong opinions.
And I always tell people your opinions are fine and they're valid for your head,
but unless you have wisdom behind it, it's just your opinion.
And so for me, I had a lot of opinions because of other people's opinions
and it was never from wisdom. And so I think that taking that, like even the word funding,
it's so funny that you use this word because yesterday I was trying to challenge myself
and I am not as well versed in like funding for like hedge funds or stocks or things like that,
because we've just always done real estate. And this year I've really pushed myself
for like tax strategy and using insurance policies and me being like involved in the money part of it,
because that's always been my husband. And I'm like, no, I'm not going to hide behind them.
I'm going to learn these things because if I'm teaching people, I want, and I'm transparent about it.
Like I still look up term, like definitions. I'm like, Alexa, what's this word mean?
You know, and so like I still look up stuff, but I'm trying to.
Yeah. So yesterday a thing came up like a join this master class or whatever.
And it was for funding, like creating fun, like being a fund manager for people.
And I'm like, that is way out of my comfort zone. And so I clicked on it and I'm learning about fund management.
Now, am I going to go be a fund manager? I don't know.
But the fact that you're using funding in this shows me that God wanted me to have just a little bit of that knowledge to understand.
So what I think a lot of entrepreneurs do is they think I either have to bootstrap it,
like do it all myself, which is me, like me and my husband, we've always bootstrapped it.
There's a sense of pride and identity in that. Right.
And I had to strip myself of that. And that made me very vulnerable. Right.
And I had to ask for help, which a lot of entrepreneurs have a hard time doing because their business is their baby or their business is something that's taking away from their babies.
So it's very emotionally driven for them. Thank you for being here today.
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