1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,280 What is the story behind your why? 2 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:10,720 So the story behind my why I really think it really stems from coming from a 3 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:15,840 family that was built around like love and nurturing, 4 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:20,880 but there was a lot of suffering. My mom suffered from an autoimmune disease. 5 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:25,280 My dad worked so many hours to provide for our family. 6 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:28,720 All I really knew was scarcity with money, 7 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:33,280 but I was definitely not scarce in love. And so as a child, 8 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:38,280 I think it's hard to differentiate because you're in pain because you see your, 9 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:43,280 your mom, who I was so close with in physical pain. 10 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:48,280 And then my dad was in emotional pain and financial pain. 11 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:50,480 And, but here we were all connected. 12 00:00:50,480 --> 00:00:53,680 We're a family of seven and we love to do things together. 13 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:57,560 So I think it was hard for me to differentiate what that meant. 14 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:02,560 And so for me it was the lack of money equals pain and you have to be frugal 15 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:06,560 and you have to work your fingers to the bone just to get by, 16 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:11,560 let alone, you know, excel and be rich or wealthy. 17 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:13,560 I didn't even know what that meant back then. You know, 18 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:17,560 I just had like the negative view of like the Scrooge. That was all I knew. 19 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:22,560 And so my why from that point was when I got married, 20 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,560 I said, my girls will know their father. 21 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:29,560 He will be present in their life. And so how can I help bring him home more? 22 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:34,560 He never asked me nor would he ever because he is a provider. He, 23 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:39,560 you know, that's innate in him, but he is an amazing father. 24 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:44,560 And so I, from a very early on in our marriage was like, how can I, 25 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:48,560 you know, hustle? I, I sold sandwiches to our farmer. 26 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:51,560 We live in a farming community. So I would sell sandwiches during harvest. 27 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:56,560 I would do these little trinkety hair things for women that were young like me 28 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:58,560 and moms and stuff and just little things. 29 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:02,560 And then I got involved with a network marketing company and I was like, 30 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:04,560 how can I, you know, really thrive here? 31 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:08,560 I just always had this innate desire to help our family so we could spend more 32 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:13,560 time together as a family unit and not just, 33 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:16,560 okay, the husband's working moms over here. 34 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:19,560 I get to enjoy the kids and have that awesome experience, 35 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:23,560 but he's, you know, working his fingers to the bone and doing all that. 36 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:29,560 So that is what drove me and can still continues to drive me because whether 37 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:35,560 we're watching a movie or currently we're doing a pontoon rebuild renovation 38 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:40,560 together, or if we're going to Disney world, it doesn't matter. 39 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:44,560 As long as we're together and we're experiencing it, good, bad, ugly, 40 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:48,560 like we're a family and I want my husband there. I want my kids there. 41 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:53,560 I want to experience life together so that when they're older, 42 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:56,560 they know what that looks like. They spend time with family. 43 00:02:56,560 --> 00:03:00,560 Cause at the end of the day, families really all you have. I mean, you have, 44 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:03,560 you can have friends and you can have community through church and stuff like 45 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,560 that, but your legacy lives on through your family. 46 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:10,560 And so I want to build legacy of memories, experiences, 47 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:13,560 and I want to teach my kids the, 48 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:18,560 the what wealth really means and what money really means and how you can use it 49 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:20,560 as a tool. And it's a good thing. 50 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:24,560 And how to release money into the atmosphere and be generous. 51 00:03:24,560 --> 00:03:29,560 And you know, all of those things that I didn't really understand or know as a 52 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:32,560 child. So that's really where my Y comes from. 53 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:35,560 Where are you going with the vision? I'm going to pull your website up while we 54 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,560 talk about this. Cause I fell in love with some aspects of your website, 55 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,560 but where are you going with this? What you're going to change the world. 56 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:47,560 Like droves of family at a time. If you keep rocking the mic like this. 57 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:48,560 Yeah. 58 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:53,560 So our vision is really to give families the tools they can to be successful in 59 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:56,560 this. Cause like you said, it's not the norm. 60 00:03:56,560 --> 00:04:00,560 And I really hope it is even people who have been divorced, 61 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:04,560 even people who don't have good ties with their kids, it's never too late. 62 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:08,560 Okay. When I tell you that my dad worked his fingers to the bone, 63 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:12,560 I'll tell you, he worked 16 to 19 hours a day. 64 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:18,560 And as a child that drove such a wedge between my father and I. 65 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:23,560 And so growing up, I hated my dad. I mean, I didn't like, 66 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:25,560 I so many times said, dad, I hate you. 67 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:29,560 I wish you were sick and not mom. And I would cry about like why my mom was 68 00:04:29,560 --> 00:04:33,560 always sick and he wasn't, but here is the reality, Jackson. 69 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:37,560 I actually loved him and I just wanted time with him. 70 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:42,560 And so God gave us that in my twenties and he redeemed it. 71 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:46,560 And I have such a close relationship with my dad right now. 72 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,560 And that happened in my early twenties. So anybody that's listening, 73 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:52,560 that's like, Oh, I don't have a great relationship with my kids. 74 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:55,560 I ruined it. I worked too. It's never too late. 75 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:58,560 Like it's never ever too late. 76 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:02,560 And I want to teach families and give them the tools and the community and the 77 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:06,560 support system so that they can have a strong marriage, 78 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,560 whatever marriage number that is for you, it doesn't matter. Again, 79 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:12,560 you can always redeem it. You can always have it, 80 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:15,560 have the tools for that and the community and the support system. 81 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:18,560 And like you said, when you're around that, you want to be that. Okay. 82 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:22,560 So creating that environment and then helping them with the wealth building. 83 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:25,560 So we help people buy income properties, 84 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:29,560 whatever that looks like for them and build it. 85 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:31,560 I don't want to say quickly because that sounds like, you know, 86 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,560 like the fast class, you know, it's like build it right. 87 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:36,560 Give it the foundation it needs. 88 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:39,560 With purpose. You're talking about purposeful and personal diligence. 89 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,560 Exactly. And like bringing your kids in on the family vision. 90 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,560 Cause when you buy a single family home. 91 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:46,560 Real quick, I feel that from you. I got to, 92 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:50,560 I got a point that there's a massive difference between the person who's 93 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:53,560 telling you like, Oh, it's easy. Like, Oh, it's going to be, you know, 94 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:55,560 it's going to be a cake. If more people get in this life, 95 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:58,560 it would be a cake walk and blah, blah, blah. Like there's demeanors, right? 96 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,560 You've got the demeanor of somebody who's like crushing life, you know, 97 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:04,560 you're making it happen. 98 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:08,560 Yeah. I mean, we take steps every day. I'm there. I'm intentional. 99 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:12,560 Like I am very intentional, like with my kids, with my husband, with my work. 100 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:16,560 Now, is it always roses? Are there times when I'm like, Oh gosh, 101 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:18,560 like where did that hour go? Of course. 102 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:22,560 But like I'm intentional with forgiving myself for those and moving on with 103 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,560 same with my spouse. Like, Hey, 104 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:29,560 you are human and I am human and that's still hurt, 105 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:33,560 but like that's not who you are. I forgive you. We move on. We move forward, 106 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:38,560 you know, and because of my personality and my husband's personality, 107 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:42,560 sometimes there's that clash cause we're complete opposites. Absolutely. 108 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:46,560 But we know that and we give understanding and time and say, Hey, 109 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,560 cause we've been together 24 years, Jackson, like this is not like, 110 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:53,560 you know, and so we've been through some stuff and we have five kids and 111 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:58,560 businesses. And so it's definitely not a cake walk and no family, 112 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:00,560 no marriage, nothing. I don't care if it's your first marriage, 113 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:03,560 your seventh marriage, like if you have one child or 10, 114 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:06,560 like it all has its challenges. 115 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:10,560 What we want to do is cultivate a community, 116 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:12,560 almost a cult like the cultivate, right? 117 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:19,560 Like create this where it is so normal in this space that other people see it 118 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:24,560 and they're like, what is different? Yeah. Like I want that because we all 119 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:28,560 truly do want joy and peace and we want to leave a legacy for our kids. 120 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,560 Like you said, even if you're not with your kids, 121 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:32,560 you still want the best for them. 122 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:36,560 You still want to give them success principles that they get to live a life 123 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:40,560 that's, you know, about other people, generosity, giving back, 124 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:45,560 using their gifts and having great marriages and having great kids and, 125 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:49,560 you know, letting that cycle go on. I mean, I haven't met a parent. I mean, 126 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:50,560 I never met Hitler, 127 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:55,560 but like I've never met a parent that doesn't want better for their kids. 128 00:07:55,560 --> 00:08:00,560 Even if they left them, even if they abused them, you talk to abusers 129 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:04,560 and they still want what's best for their kids. 130 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,560 They just did it in the wrong way. Right. 131 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:12,560 And so when we cultivate this community and we have a vision for our kids, 132 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:16,560 we want to teach them and give them principles so that they're successful 133 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:21,560 and that they keep the wealth because like our community is for entrepreneurs, 134 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:26,560 business owners. Well, they're busy and they have all these hats 135 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,560 and they want to teach their kids these things. 136 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:33,560 Sometimes they don't know how, but usually it's, they don't have the time. 137 00:08:33,560 --> 00:08:38,560 So if we can marry that where they get to be an entrepreneur, learn, 138 00:08:38,560 --> 00:08:40,560 get wisdom and their kids can be involved. 139 00:08:40,560 --> 00:08:44,560 We bring their kids in on the single family property. 140 00:08:44,560 --> 00:08:48,560 We teach them how they, their kids can even come in and like assess the property 141 00:08:48,560 --> 00:08:53,560 with them or look on Zillow or make it a family thing so that mom and dad 142 00:08:53,560 --> 00:08:57,560 don't have one more thing that's taken away from them. 143 00:08:57,560 --> 00:09:01,560 Cause then they're going to look at money. They're going to look at entrepreneurship. 144 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:06,560 They're going to look at real estate as a negative thing because that took mom 145 00:09:06,560 --> 00:09:11,560 and dad away. How do leaders lean into funding the vision? 146 00:09:11,560 --> 00:09:15,560 They have, they might have a vision, but it's not crystal clear. 147 00:09:15,560 --> 00:09:19,560 Like you said, entrepreneurship, 96% fail. 148 00:09:19,560 --> 00:09:26,560 I believe a lot of that is because they don't have the holistic vision of what that means. 149 00:09:26,560 --> 00:09:30,560 So what I mean, I have a vape shop tomorrow, but only cause everybody's doing it. 150 00:09:30,560 --> 00:09:35,560 Right. Yeah. I'm going to do this and I'm going to get money or they want to provide 151 00:09:35,560 --> 00:09:38,560 for their family, but they want to be with their family. 152 00:09:38,560 --> 00:09:42,560 So there's a lot of conflict with entrepreneurs. Well, when you have conflict, 153 00:09:42,560 --> 00:09:46,560 that slows you down. Think of it like, you know, friction. 154 00:09:46,560 --> 00:09:50,560 So they have this vision and I'm speaking from experience. You have this vision, 155 00:09:50,560 --> 00:09:54,560 you want this, but then something happens that conflict and it like slows you down. 156 00:09:54,560 --> 00:10:00,560 Okay. Well, money is like the biggest friction for people because that is probably one 157 00:10:00,560 --> 00:10:06,560 of the most emotionally touchy touch points for people is money. 158 00:10:06,560 --> 00:10:10,560 Like if you want to bring up an awkward conversation with somebody, talk about money. 159 00:10:10,560 --> 00:10:16,560 Right. And a lot of people have very strong opinions. 160 00:10:16,560 --> 00:10:20,560 And I always tell people your opinions are fine and they're valid for your head, 161 00:10:20,560 --> 00:10:23,560 but unless you have wisdom behind it, it's just your opinion. 162 00:10:23,560 --> 00:10:28,560 And so for me, I had a lot of opinions because of other people's opinions 163 00:10:28,560 --> 00:10:34,560 and it was never from wisdom. And so I think that taking that, like even the word funding, 164 00:10:34,560 --> 00:10:40,560 it's so funny that you use this word because yesterday I was trying to challenge myself 165 00:10:40,560 --> 00:10:47,560 and I am not as well versed in like funding for like hedge funds or stocks or things like that, 166 00:10:47,560 --> 00:10:51,560 because we've just always done real estate. And this year I've really pushed myself 167 00:10:51,560 --> 00:10:58,560 for like tax strategy and using insurance policies and me being like involved in the money part of it, 168 00:10:58,560 --> 00:11:02,560 because that's always been my husband. And I'm like, no, I'm not going to hide behind them. 169 00:11:02,560 --> 00:11:08,560 I'm going to learn these things because if I'm teaching people, I want, and I'm transparent about it. 170 00:11:08,560 --> 00:11:13,560 Like I still look up term, like definitions. I'm like, Alexa, what's this word mean? 171 00:11:13,560 --> 00:11:18,560 You know, and so like I still look up stuff, but I'm trying to. 172 00:11:18,560 --> 00:11:24,560 Yeah. So yesterday a thing came up like a join this master class or whatever. 173 00:11:24,560 --> 00:11:30,560 And it was for funding, like creating fun, like being a fund manager for people. 174 00:11:30,560 --> 00:11:38,560 And I'm like, that is way out of my comfort zone. And so I clicked on it and I'm learning about fund management. 175 00:11:38,560 --> 00:11:41,560 Now, am I going to go be a fund manager? I don't know. 176 00:11:41,560 --> 00:11:50,560 But the fact that you're using funding in this shows me that God wanted me to have just a little bit of that knowledge to understand. 177 00:11:50,560 --> 00:11:55,560 So what I think a lot of entrepreneurs do is they think I either have to bootstrap it, 178 00:11:55,560 --> 00:11:59,560 like do it all myself, which is me, like me and my husband, we've always bootstrapped it. 179 00:11:59,560 --> 00:12:02,560 There's a sense of pride and identity in that. Right. 180 00:12:02,560 --> 00:12:08,560 And I had to strip myself of that. And that made me very vulnerable. Right. 181 00:12:08,560 --> 00:12:22,560 And I had to ask for help, which a lot of entrepreneurs have a hard time doing because their business is their baby or their business is something that's taking away from their babies. 182 00:12:22,560 --> 00:12:26,560 So it's very emotionally driven for them. Thank you for being here today. 183 00:12:26,560 --> 00:12:33,560 I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward. 184 00:12:33,560 --> 00:12:37,560 This is going to get more and more fun. We'll have more and more engagement as well. 185 00:12:37,560 --> 00:12:41,560 We'll invite people to participate in the show. And thank you for giving us your time and attention. 186 00:12:41,560 --> 00:12:57,560 Have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.