Again, I'm looking at these nuclear codes you have basically, and I'm like, okay, these
are the types of things that I want my audience to have, but what I don't want to do, I don't
want to accidentally put my audience in the hands of somebody who's only going to turn
around and use this to eat them alive.
Does that make sense?
Absolutely.
So, I appreciate you making the space.
This was absolutely phenomenal.
I don't have to rush off, but I don't want to eat into whatever you may have next on
your agenda.
If you want to take an extra few minutes just to discuss things, and I'm happy to, if you
want to wrap this up and then just book another appointment, and we can meet as soon as we're
both...
I'm available.
Absolutely.
I'll chat with you.
I love what you're doing.
I mean, it's all of us.
We want to make the world better.
We want to make the world positive.
It means we have to work together too.
Well, I'm with you up to the point where you say all of us, because you do recognize, right?
There's that other side that's not...
And I don't think it's that common, to be honest with you.
I think...
I believe personally, and most people have an intent to do good, but their circumstances
have led them to a point to where they justify doing other things in order to move their
lives forward.
And it's important for me to have compassion for those types of individuals, but to also
make sure that, again, I'm guiding people to the leaders who are aligned with that,
pay it forward.
I love that movie.
I've seen it many times.
Me too.
It's one of my favorite movies of all time.
I think if you want to see it, you have to see it.
Pay it forward.
Go see it.
I was about the kid's age when it came out.
And so I was watching it.
He was a little bit younger than me, which made it even cooler because now I'm looking
up to this little kid and saying, wow, if he can do it, I can do it.
And it never left my heart.
I have five co-hosts now, so it's no longer just me.
We treat this kind of like the ESPN network.
That's kind of our goal is, okay, when we're not live, we have something called dead air.
You and I know what that is.
And so we treat it more like a media production studio.
We have all the tools to do it nowadays.
So now we're disrupting that industry as the podcast industry starts to realize they have
more power than they understand.
And so if you want to book as well with the same link you booked through last time, that'll
assign you to somebody else.
And I'll let everybody know that you're proved.
You got some wisdom that this...
Well, you got some wisdom that our people need.
You show up with the right type of attitude.
You don't get aggressive or mad when somebody challenges you.
There's these subtle realities that are pretty easy to detect who's doing what for what reason.
So let's see what Jack can.
How do you know Jack?
So I know Steve Harrison.
I don't know if you know who Steve Harrison is.
But Steve Harrison worked with Jack and John Gray, who did Matter from Mars, Learn from
Venus, and Robert Kiyosaki did Rich Dad, Poor Dad.
And so he helped them become so...
He saw my book.
He saw my book because I've done another thing also called...
Anyway, Father Daughter Project that I was trying to boost the relationships between
fathers and daughters.
I've got a son and three daughters and I had to learn it.
Me too.
Hard way.
Oh, there you go.
Oh, wow, fabulous.
But so he basically snuck my book in with books that Jack was looking at.
I got in on video, which is really good.
And Jack, he got pissed off at me.
He said, I just started looking at your book and I couldn't put the damn thing down.
I'm sorry.
Could I change?
Could I use that, by the way?
And he said, on one condition.
He actually forced me to change the title of the book.
The book had a logical title.
Actually, it had three titles.
The first was called Dump Your Half-Ass...
So it's Dump Your Half-Ass Marketing Strategy.
It was because that week it was big ass fans.
I was reading the story about the big ass fans and the fact that he came up with that
and suddenly became massively wealthy and all that stuff.
And so I said, OK, let me do that trigger word.
OK.
So I said, you know, Dump Your Half-Ass Marketing Strategy.
But Amazon said, we're not going to let you advertise on Amazon.
You can advertise everywhere else but not on Amazon because we're trying to stop swear
words.
So I begged them and they let me change the title.
And I'm like a logical idiot.
I came up with a logical title and it was Sell More with the Right Brain Marketing Strategy.
So when Jack Canfield...
What can I say?
I had 80 people that were...
I'm doing this because I've been there and done that.
Right.
Welcome to the club.
So Jack Canfield said, I'll give you all the referrals you want.
We can record it and everything on one condition.
You got to change the damn title.
And I said, what?
He said, yeah, the whole book's about brain growth.
It's not congruent.
Do I have to?
He said, yes.
I said, OK, fine.
I changed it.
The rest is history.
But yeah.
But it's easy for us logical people to fall into that trap.
But we want to remember.
I mean, men are from Mars, women are from Venus.
I mean, the title of his book used to be Men, Women and Relationships.
He was telling me that it's John Gray.
And he said, and people told me this book has changed my life.
It's incredible.
And yet almost nobody was buying the book.
So he was at a conference.
He was trying to sell the book to a group of people.
And he said something, and all the women started laughing like crazy.
And all the men, women looked at the women and went, what's so funny?
And then one of the women said, it's almost like men are from a different planet.
What planet are men from?
He said, I guess men are from Mars.
And everybody started laughing like crazy.
So when he got home, he said, like, jeez, I got pretty good reactions from that.
If men are from Mars, where are women from?
I guess women are from Venus, the god of love.
And then he decided, what if I take the same book, but I just put references to men are
from Mars, women are from Venus, throw it out and change the title?
The rest, as they say, is history.
So you know how many books he sold?
50 million books.
He went from 20,000 to 50 million books, but because he changed the title, but because
he said, you know what I mean?
Emotionally, can you relate to this?
It's almost like men are from a different planet than women.
It's like men are from Mars and women are from Venus.
And when you say it, it's transference of passion.
You know, when you say that, people start laughing and going, yeah, I can relate.
And then suddenly they become hooked on it.
Yep, absolutely.
I was little when that book came out, but I was raised by my mom and five older sisters.
So that book was referenced and talked about a lot.
I bet.
And it's a fabulous book, but I mean, just, yeah, it's...
These are my kiddos, by the way.
Oh, fun.
Oh, awesome.
Enjoy them because you'll...
I do.
I'm twice divorced.
I'm twice divorced, so I don't get a whole lot of time.
I just had my summer.
I get two weeks on, two weeks off, and so we maximized everything that we could about
that and I get to be the microphone.
Here, let's see.
There we go.
She's making a pen with her grandpa.
But we do everything that we can to maximize it.
And I tell all my friends who are married and see how well my divorce went, they call
me up and they say, how you doing?
I say, I'm doing really well.
And they say, okay.
And then five minutes later, they go, we're looking at divorce and your life looks pretty
good.
Should I pull the trigger?
And I say, let's have a chat.
I can't tell you what to do, but we should talk about the reality of what that looks
like.
So I'm an advocate 100% for marriage and being strong in marriage.
And I'm a dad first.
I always have been.
I've worked from home since 2010.
But with the distance that's there, I have to be extremely intentional with my time and
make sure that I'm...
And the only way I know how to do that is with God, to be honest with you.
I think that's it.
It's like I got one full Saturday every two weeks and I got four kids to divide that between.
So it's constant.
Okay.
How do I do this?
What do I do?
Who needs what from me now?
And I'm super grateful for that.
I have access to his wisdom.
So I have a son and three daughters and they're in their 30s.
My son is 42.
And my oldest daughter is a type A. She's like, you're interacting with her because
she's forcing it.
My middle daughter is not.
She's the quiet one.
And so because she's the quiet one, and I was focusing on building my business and everything
else, I missed her.
And she said to me something that was profound.
She said, dad, you're a consultant and you work with all these companies trying to solve
problems.
You have no idea who I am about my life because whenever I would say something to you, you
would almost cut me off and start trying to solve my problem.
By doing that, you're doing two things.
The first thing you're doing is you're basically saying you're stupid and daddy's smart.
So let daddy tell you.
I was like overwhelmed.
I was like, she's right.
That's awesome that she was able to communicate that.
Say that.
I want to hear where this went.
Well, then the second thing she said was, and you don't know anything about my life.
You don't know me.
You've never sat down and just listened.
You always listen trying to solve a problem.
Oh, there's a problem I can solve.
And because of that, I love you tremendously, but I wish we were closer.
And I've worked hard since then to move to these kind of internships.
Pardon?
How will it look?
She's a no, no, no.
How old was she when she said that?
18.
Oh, man.
That's that's a good caught it by then at least.
Yeah, I know.
But it's just you know, why 18 years?
I wish we knew.
Right.
I wish we knew it's it's a that's one of those things.
It's like you can read Child Whisper.
You can read, you know, heroic parenting.
You can read all these books.
And it's it's like we're designed to be late to the game, not a parent.
Tell me about it.
But we my dad, my dad left when I was four and my nephew was born when I was nine.
And that triggered me to want to be a dad.
And I was I was when I had five older sisters always planning their weddings out.
So here I was thinking, OK, like I'm I was this hopeless romantic, you know, as a little
kid and even still, you still don't even though I focus my life on it.
Child number one came out.
I was a perfect dad.
I was going to write the book on it.
Child number two came out.
I had no idea what I was doing.
I was like, man, this is completely different.
Oh, you know, well, how are they all so different?
But it's we were I did my best to facilitate the same type of conversation two trips ago
where I sat them down.
We watched a TED talk on how to thrive by five little five year olds doing the TED talk
with her six month old baby sister, her brother.
And afterwards, we were talking and I said, guys, is there is there anything that I've
ever done that made you feel shut down or made you feel like you couldn't talk to me
or like there's something anything that you're mad at me about, you know, that that I need
to hear and listen about.
And we had a good 15, 20 minute exercise like talking about what what what those things
could be.
And they they couldn't think of one, but my son finally says, well, Dad, you work too
much.
Right.
And that was the trigger we needed.
We need somebody to start talking and opening.
And and we had a good 30 to 40 minute conversation about, you know, why why why that matters,
you know, why his thoughts on it are important and valid and the realities of what we get.
I mean, James, I've worked from home since 2010.
My kids have been to every theme park in the world.
You know, and they and I get to go to a lot of those experience.
We had a 41 day road trip up the California coastline.
So we had some opportunities to talk about perspective as well and how lucky we have
it as first worlders.
But we I know that as a as a father, I've got to be careful to facilitate validation
of like what he's going through and feels and not steer in towards the the man.
Like, I don't know, I guess, giving my my kids everything that they want in life.
So it's a it's a good delicate balance.
But I appreciate I'm very curious about what you're doing on the father daughter side as
well at some point, because at the end of the day, I'm a dad first.
My responsibility as a dad has always been to show up to serve the best that I can.
And we have huge missions with my our vision is to bridge the economic gap to North
American, South American, rest of world.
It's our Latino community that we have our community in India and our community in the
Philippines are all starting to grow up steadily.
But I want my kids to know that every project I worked on, I want to know that every project
I work on is one that if my kids ask me, hey, dad, were you involved in that?
Did you do that? It's something that I can say. Absolutely.
Oh, you know, I got to help the truth about cancer with raising money or I got to help
James Bond. I got to host him and and see him promote brain glue and the the realities
of how to how to effectively influence people.
It's. It's powerful.
So thank you for sharing.
Oh, thank you. It's been fun.
Thank you for being here today.
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