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Yeah, it doesn't feel like that. I just feel like that.

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I know it's dead easy to say that flippantly, but vision is everything for me.

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It has been for many decades now,

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and I've always been working towards one vision or another.

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And it was it was my late husband that pushed me towards my creative business.

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And he was the one who said, stop talking about it and just do it.

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I like that. And you you liked it, too.

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You didn't get mad at him about it. And maybe you did. But no.

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So no, I didn't know.

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You win it. That's so cool.

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Yeah. Well, we had been bankrupt and lost everything in 2009,

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which is where the book came from.

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So the life I won was what I won when I lost everything,

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because I learned how to bounce back from rock bottom and rebuild.

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And I did that with vision boards.

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And we made my kids set a vision board up in 2009 for the house,

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our dream house. And that's the house I bought in 2019 for cash.

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And I'd met my dream man along the way.

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And, you know, life was wonderful.

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And we bought the dream home. I launched my business.

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I launched my book. Everything was going fine.

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Then the pandemic hit and I lost everything.

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It and I lost him.

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But having been to rock bottom before, I thought, you know what?

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Now I'm going to put the biggest vision I can think of up there,

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which was the castle.

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And yeah, and I'm not living in a castle.

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When I say a mini version, it's a bank.

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It's an ex bank over three floors.

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But it was almost exactly like the castle on my vision board.

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The same red brick, sandstone brick.

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Yeah. So it's been I'm kind of living what I said I was going to do now.

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So I'm a big fan of the vision board as like concept,

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the implementation of it, how to do it.

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And also I've had the same type of experience with visions.

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One, I saw my daughter at three years old before I was a dad.

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And it was really, you know, it was one of those things where that's something

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you got to that stage.

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I was like, wow, like it was you, you know, like that was so powerful.

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And then before that, my business partner, he we were we ran restaurant

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connect together. He's still running that.

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And he had an opportunity to move to Miami where he was going to live on the beach.

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And he's like, you know what?

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Like I pulled out his vision board from old.

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He literally moved to the building in the photo on the beach there.

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And it's like, wow, this is too uncanny.

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I've seen that with other people who have strong visions and pursue it and go

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after it, like you and your husband said.

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That's just that's just amazing.

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So and right now we're actually doing something pretty funny.

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We're diving in without you even knowing that we're diving into it, but you're so

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leader that you're ready for it.

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We're this is all behind the scenes materials if we want to use it to help

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others see how do we get prepared to share our vision, how do we get ready to

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go on vision pros?

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And I usually ask people to tell me about their vision.

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We do a couple of segments and then after we're done, you know, take a couple

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of minutes, we will go through the rest of the process of how do we then

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distribute this vision to the world on both sides?

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Are you cool with that?

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Are you cool if we use this?

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Of course.

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Yeah, no problem.

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Super great.

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Awesome.

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Wonderful.

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So with that said, I said it in the words that I read, but I'd love to hear

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through your mouth to what tell me about your vision.

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Tell me about where you're headed with all this.

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I think for me, I thought this would be a stepping stone towards the castle,

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still keeping my vision big.

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But actually, when I got here, I discovered a wonderful little town with

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fantastic people and the guests that I've had, I'm into the third year of

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retreats this year and I've already sold the first three fully booked.

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And I love it here.

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And I think sometimes you get to where you get to and you think, right, that's

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it, so what can I do next?

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And it is, you know, for me now, it's about, I'm working with the book that

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I've got, I've got two more books planned.

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I want to hit that best-selling author status.

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Because I love writing.

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So my vision slightly changed a bit and I think it's okay to change things along

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the way.

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I hope so.

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I'm a big fan of changing things along the way, you know, especially when life

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hits you, right?

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COVID shifted a lot of things for a lot of people.

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I think that's one of the scariest realities I see for so many people who

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want to step in their best.

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It's like you find somebody who gains the value of confidence, you know,

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the value of confidence or the idea that you should present yourself as confident.

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But if you haven't had time to develop your own self-awareness and you haven't

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had time to find what you actually love, sometimes you end up moving into being

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confident and something you're not meant to do.

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Yes.

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I don't know if other people see it, but I see a lot of people confidently rowing

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their boats down a path that doesn't seem to align with who they want to be.

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And so there's a shift there.

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Go ahead. I would love to hear your thoughts on that.

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Well, that's exactly why I fixed out.

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That's exactly why I'm doing what I'm doing now, because who I want to help is

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the version of me from 10 years ago that was not doing what she really wanted to

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do. And I wanted to see the women that felt like I did realize in their dreams.

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So that's why I'm so passionate about it.

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I love that. And that's that story behind it too as well.

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Like, OK, there's a recognition and it's, you know, a lot of therapists get made

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fun of because they went into therapy because they need a therapy themselves.

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That's honorable.

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There's nothing to make fun of there.

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I hope that they've figured out it's again, it crosses the line of, well, there's

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also therapists who still badly need therapy and they're kind of hiding under

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the guise of being a therapist and they're not getting the attention or the

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results they need themselves.

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That imposter syndrome really sets in hard.

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But that's a personal choice we all have to decide are we going to step into it or

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not. I wanted nothing more, nothing more.

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One, than to be a dad since I was nine.

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Two, I meant I wanted a happy family.

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Right. That was the goal.

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I'm twice divorced.

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You know, so my vision board has absolutely had shifts.

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What what mean?

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What does my future look like?

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And how do I pursue that and find the best version of life for me, which to me comes

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from being my best self.

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And so you're doing these retreats.

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What what are the retreats entail?

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Well, the retreats, it's so interlinked with my coaching business because I've got

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my two 12 month programs where I help creative women and the retreats were almost

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like the cherry on the cake of that of come and spend the time with me here in

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this wonderful location, because I've not just bought this place and it was ready.

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I've completely renovated it.

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I've got three guest rooms themed on artists.

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I've got a Van Gogh room, a Monet room and a Picasso room.

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So the whole house is like a giant canvas.

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I have decorated and done all the interior design myself and it's a walk through

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gallery. I display art here.

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But when people come here, it's like stepping out of their lives for four days

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or seven days.

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And I'm going to push them outside the comfort zone of creativity and get them

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doing things they never imagined they could do.

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Yeah.

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I love it, too.

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I am digging into it.

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Your websites.

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Yeah.

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And these are just some of the ladies.

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You do it?

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Yeah.

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No, no, no, I didn't do the website.

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No, I'm not techie.

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I can paint on a wall.

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I can paint on a canvas.

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I can't do a website.

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That's my art studio.

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So I have.

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OK, that makes sense.

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But it's so it's very well done.

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I like the the elements of the brand.

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My computer is struggling to load it right now.

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It's not your site.

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It's actually my computer.

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But let me let me pull up one more time to these because I saw these images and I was

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like, man, what a neat place.

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Oh, it really is.

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So fun.

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Thank you for being here today.

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I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live.

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I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move

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forward. This is going to get more and more fun.

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We'll have more and more engagement as well.

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We'll invite people to participate in the show.

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And thank you for giving us your time and attention.

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Have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a vision for yourself.