1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,700 Island time, tell me what your vision is. 2 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:08,760 So the vision is to help as many people as I possibly can 3 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:12,240 create the life that they want, which really is, 4 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:14,540 they care about family, they care about clients, 5 00:00:14,540 --> 00:00:16,120 and they care about community. 6 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:20,020 And it's to have an impact at all levels for that. 7 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:22,760 Tell me more about that. 8 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,720 So it goes back to when I first worked with 9 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:29,440 one of my mentors and my coaches 10 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:33,560 is to understand that to get to places 11 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:36,840 that we want to get to, which is the vision, 12 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:39,200 we have to have some goals to get us there. 13 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,700 And not always do we understand 14 00:00:41,700 --> 00:00:44,900 how that even gets put together. 15 00:00:44,900 --> 00:00:49,160 But I also recognized early on is that 16 00:00:49,160 --> 00:00:51,560 if we break down our vision and our goals, 17 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:55,560 it's really about having experiences and growth. 18 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:58,000 And the first time that I worked with 19 00:00:58,000 --> 00:00:59,520 one of my mentors and coaches, 20 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:01,920 it dramatically changed our family. 21 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:05,320 And it's to have that ability 22 00:01:05,320 --> 00:01:09,060 to see that happen in other families, 23 00:01:09,060 --> 00:01:10,880 because it's a ripple effect. 24 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:16,400 Thank you for sharing that. 25 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:20,500 You mentioned that the first time you worked with a coach, 26 00:01:21,820 --> 00:01:24,120 it dramatically changed your experience. 27 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:25,500 I see a story come in there, 28 00:01:25,500 --> 00:01:28,560 so would you like to share some of that story? 29 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:31,720 Yeah, well, we're just a bunch of stories, Harry, so always. 30 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:35,400 But I always like to explain it like this. 31 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,720 It's at some point in our life, 32 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:39,640 we might recognize that 33 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,600 I don't understand the playground anymore, 34 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,360 and I don't understand the rules anymore. 35 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:47,320 And I don't have the information 36 00:01:47,320 --> 00:01:49,920 that's going to help me get to a different level. 37 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:52,980 And it transpired when we relocated 38 00:01:52,980 --> 00:01:55,960 from the Midwest to Georgia, 39 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:57,300 working for the first time 40 00:01:57,300 --> 00:01:59,160 for a company based out of New York. 41 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:02,200 And I say this with the utmost respect, 42 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:04,080 they do play by different rules, 43 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:06,660 and every region is a little bit different. 44 00:02:06,660 --> 00:02:09,400 And it was right time, right place. 45 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:14,400 I met my mentor, and it just clicked. 46 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:18,160 And I thought, he understands something that I don't know. 47 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:19,640 And that's really what we're looking for, 48 00:02:19,640 --> 00:02:20,880 is we're looking for the people 49 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:23,640 who have the information that we need. 50 00:02:23,640 --> 00:02:26,620 And I worked with him for a year. 51 00:02:26,620 --> 00:02:28,580 I had tremendous results. 52 00:02:29,640 --> 00:02:32,440 And it changed the direction of our family. 53 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:36,380 So we're a family of, we have five children. 54 00:02:36,380 --> 00:02:39,760 Three of those children came after I worked with him, 55 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:44,160 because we adopted and brought them from another country. 56 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:47,240 And so when I say ripple effect, 57 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:50,980 it's the change that we got to see in their life, 58 00:02:53,020 --> 00:02:56,160 the impact that they're now having on the other families 59 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:58,040 that they're part of. 60 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:01,840 And the youngest is a functional neurology chiropractor 61 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,080 who's going to cure migraines. 62 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:08,760 So I didn't work with a coach or mentor in the beginning 63 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:13,040 and understand it can have a huge impact 64 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:18,000 on who you are and how you show up. 65 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,760 It wouldn't have impacted their lives. 66 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:22,160 Wow. 67 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:24,280 It sounds like your kids are some of the people 68 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:26,440 we want to have on our show. 69 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:29,120 It sounds like those people. 70 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:32,660 They're all amazing, all amazing. 71 00:03:32,660 --> 00:03:35,700 They're just examples of, 72 00:03:35,700 --> 00:03:39,200 it really is environment and opportunity. 73 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:40,360 Wow. 74 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:41,200 Thank you. 75 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:42,960 Thank you for sharing that. 76 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:46,720 Ellen, would you say that that is your vibe 77 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:50,120 as what you do, what gets you out of bed in the morning? 78 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:51,000 Oh, always. 79 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:53,520 And I'll just expand a little bit. 80 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:57,300 I always knew, I come from a line of entrepreneurs. 81 00:03:57,300 --> 00:04:01,080 So I always knew that I was going to want 82 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:02,840 to learn something new and be curious 83 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:05,540 and all of that that goes with it. 84 00:04:05,540 --> 00:04:07,080 I just thought for a long time 85 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:08,980 it was going to be in my former career 86 00:04:08,980 --> 00:04:10,980 because I was in financial services 87 00:04:10,980 --> 00:04:13,860 and it was serving people in that way. 88 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:18,800 But it was just the opportunity to work 89 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:23,800 with my mentor one-on-one that dramatically changed 90 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:25,920 why I wanted to do this. 91 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,400 And it was just piecing that all together 92 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:33,140 because when I hired him the first time, as I said 93 00:04:33,140 --> 00:04:35,460 I also wasn't the brightest person 94 00:04:35,460 --> 00:04:38,300 because I didn't rehire him. 95 00:04:38,300 --> 00:04:40,320 But that was the journey I needed to take 96 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:43,520 because when I get to work with clients 97 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:46,200 I tell them I'm shortening the gap for you 98 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:50,560 to always understand whether we're reading, 99 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:52,480 doing a course, working with mentors, 100 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:57,480 working with accountability, that it's the journey 101 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:59,480 and that really becomes the why. 102 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:01,280 You mentioned that you had a coach 103 00:05:01,280 --> 00:05:02,760 and you hired him first time 104 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:04,480 and then you failed to hire him again 105 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:09,160 and you didn't realize what was that blind spot 106 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:11,720 that kept you from hiring a coach again. 107 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,120 So I don't think it was a blind spot. 108 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:18,800 I think it is, so I always explain it this way. 109 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:20,200 I'm a science math nerd. 110 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:23,300 Like my major in college was nuclear medicine. 111 00:05:23,300 --> 00:05:25,120 So it's kind of check the box 112 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:27,000 and everything has to line up and all. 113 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,920 Everything has to add up across the line 114 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:33,120 that when I did work with him 115 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,600 I did everything he asked me to do. 116 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:39,000 So it was check the box 117 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:41,160 and move on. 118 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:43,920 It wasn't until a while later 119 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:46,280 that I did have the realization, 120 00:05:46,280 --> 00:05:49,120 well, two things, goals are always happening 121 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:50,860 whether we think they are or not. 122 00:05:51,820 --> 00:05:56,000 And just because I worked with one person at one time 123 00:05:56,840 --> 00:06:01,040 doesn't mean that I'm done 124 00:06:02,820 --> 00:06:05,240 because nobody is ever done learning. 125 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:08,140 And I think that was a really important aspect 126 00:06:08,140 --> 00:06:11,360 to understand coaches are never done. 127 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:16,360 Coaches hire coaches and that if we're all growing 128 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:18,240 there's always going to be experiences 129 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:19,760 and growth that we need to have 130 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:21,720 and we need help in getting it. 131 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:25,020 You're absolutely right in that. 132 00:06:25,020 --> 00:06:28,420 And it takes a humble leader to accept that I need help. 133 00:06:28,420 --> 00:06:31,400 I don't know this and I don't know all the answers 134 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,500 and I need to be humble enough to find people 135 00:06:34,500 --> 00:06:35,880 who are able to help me. 136 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,440 And the other side of that situation 137 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,840 is people get taken advantage of by people who don't know. 138 00:06:41,840 --> 00:06:42,680 Right. 139 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:45,940 And my favorite, I often get asked Harry 140 00:06:45,940 --> 00:06:48,640 when they're interviewing coaches and I think they should 141 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:51,000 but I also give the disclaimer 142 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:53,480 my background coming from the financial world 143 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:55,400 is very analytical. 144 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:57,680 Said first and foremost, I want to ask that coach 145 00:06:57,680 --> 00:06:59,980 who they work with, who are they hiring? 146 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,320 Because I want to get a clear understanding 147 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:08,760 that they accept that they need to grow. 148 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,840 And then I want to understand what their process is. 149 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:15,480 I want to understand why their process 150 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,120 is going to make sense for me to learn. 151 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:22,400 And I'll say this is, well, I don't have, 152 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:24,280 I don't want somebody who just woke up 153 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:25,240 in the middle of the night 154 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:27,480 and thinks that they have a process. 155 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:29,600 I want them to be a product of the product. 156 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:30,960 Thank you for being here today. 157 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,440 I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. 158 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,080 I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions 159 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,360 as these episodes continue to move forward. 160 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,080 This is going to get more and more fun. 161 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:41,880 We'll have more and more engagement as well. 162 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,000 We'll invite people to participate in the show 163 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:46,360 and thank you for giving us your time and attention. 164 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:49,080 Have an excellent time building out your vision 165 00:07:49,080 --> 00:08:04,080 and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.