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Tell me about your vision.

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My vision is for a world of women that stop accepting half-loves and living half-lives.

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I think we are so programmed to just accept the status quo or to sacrifice or to, yeah,

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like have one thing without having the other.

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And I believe it's possible to have a world where we can have everything we desire.

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Articulated, right.

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Is it, you said, for women or the world?

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Like I couldn't understand one of the parts.

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Was it for women or the world or everyone?

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I said women because that's the demographic that I work in.

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But to be fair, like I would love everyone to live like that.

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That's just the demographic that I'm here to serve at this moment in my life.

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I would love for the world to, I want to say, you know, men and women have spent so long

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cutting each other with knives handed to them by other people.

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So for me, a part of helping women rise is helping them soften into receiving men again

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and making space for men to rise alongside them and to be able to receive the leadership

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of men in their lives.

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Amazing.

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Tell me more about that.

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I've studied tantra and relationships for, I mean, four years, I say it's a long time,

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but I know there's people that have dedicated their whole lives or 10 and 20 years to this

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path of understanding, you know, unconditional love and living in a way that's more,

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I want to say in alignment with truth and freedom.

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And the more that I study this path, the more that I heal my own masculine wounding and

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my own feminine wounding to be fair.

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Yeah, the more that I discover that if we keep blaming each other for our pain and our

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hurts, if we keep, you know, if women keep blaming men and men keep blaming women and

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neither of us stop and stand in the middle and take responsibility for ourselves and

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we keep perpetuating this pain, then no one moves forward.

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And what I feel to be true is, you know, World War II came around and half of the men went

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off to war and most of the men went off to war and then a lot of the women started to

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take up the roles of the men.

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You know, they took up different jobs and responsibilities that men would have had.

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And then the men came home and the women didn't know how to support their men with the trauma

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and the men didn't know how to support their women with the loss.

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And we've kind of just perpetuated this ongoing cycle of blame and shame and pain and guilt

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for decades.

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And I think it's about time that we all started to come home and have the capacity to receive

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each other a little bit more in that pain and that understanding.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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Where did this vision come from?

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This vision came from my own healing journey.

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I was the woman that was closed and rigid and hated men subconsciously, basically.

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Actually, I hated women as well.

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I come from a family of big T traumas and I was a woman who was a woman who was a woman

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who had come from a family of big T traumas and I was shown or made to believe in my childhood

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that masculine men were dangerous and scary and abusive and harmful.

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And then I witnessed that women were manipulative and not trustworthy.

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And so for years in my own life and in my own journey, I just didn't really trust anyone,

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including myself, and I found myself at the helm of a $60 million business.

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And they say if you want to know yourself, get in a relationship or start a business.

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And that business really put me through my paces and started to force me in a way to look at myself

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and my patterns and my behaviors and how I was showing up in the world.

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And I started to heal.

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I started to understand what masculine and feminine energetic sorry, I started to understand

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what masculine and feminine wounding was. And I went on a journey to uncover all the ways in which

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I was a part of the problem in which I was perpetuating this cycle of pain.

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And from that journey, I discovered, I guess, this ethos, this desire, this devotion to

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living as love and inviting everyone on this journey to start to turn the pointing fingers

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inwards and start to take responsibility for the ways we show up in the world, in our life and in

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our business. So how has this vision, I mean, helped you at this point, like from where you

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were at and where you've come? Yeah, I want to say I thought money was the answer.

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I built a really big business and I had really nice things. And I was running away from who I was as

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a child, from my childhood, from where I grew up. And I wasn't really paying attention to where I

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was running to. I had this awareness that money in some capacity was going to get me out of the

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situation, the life that I was in out of the... I want to say I thought it was going to help me

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break the generational trauma because we were poor. So obviously then if I became rich, I wouldn't

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have the same issues. But my trauma followed me. The generational stuff followed me. Money didn't

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get me out of dealing with my trauma or doing any healing. In fact, in some ways, money just

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exasperates what's inside and brings it to the surface to be seen because you then have the

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time and the resources to deal with it. It's just some people choose to deal with it and some people

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choose to continue to avoid it.

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And next question for you is where are you currently at with your vision?

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Hmm. I am a coach. I went from a business owner to a coach and mentor in business and relationships.

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I would say I'm in devotion to helping other women see there's another way to do life and business,

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into helping, yeah, people just take radical responsibility for themselves in their lives and

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allow their businesses to highlight parts of them that perhaps they still need to heal or be in

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deeper relationship with.

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You mentioned that there's a different path to healing in business. Tell me more about that.

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Yeah. Everything in life, whether it's a business or a relationship, is actually just a reflection

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of the relationship that we have with ourselves. So, if you're in business and let's say you're not

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growing, let's say you keep hitting the same income level year in, year out or month in, month out.

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Often, we look outside of ourselves. What is the next strategy I can do? What is the next XYZ I

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can do? What is the next XYZ I can do to create change, to implement something outside of me to

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get through this block that I'm feeling? The truth of business is if you look at it in the

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right way, if you look at it as an opportunity to reflect back to the places that perhaps

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there's stagnancy or beliefs holding you back, sometimes these glass ceilings in business come

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because of who we have to be on the other side of more success. So, let's say you're in business and

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you're hitting 200k months and you've got a relationship and that relationship is already

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starting to fail or feel distant or maybe there's no intimacy in that relationship and

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you're not investing any time in that relationship but you're trying to invest more time in the

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business but the business is still not moving. What's often happening in these circumstances is

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you're already in fear of losing the relationship in the current income level that you're subconsciously

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blocking yourself from getting to the next income level because of who you would have to leave

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behind, i.e. your subconscious thinks you would have to leave behind your partner to make more money

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because the relationship is already failing or lacking something in its current state.

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There's thousands and thousands of examples I could give similar to this where something is

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often happening internally for the reasons that we're hitting burnout or overwhelm or glass ceilings

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or stagnancy and we're often so conditioned to ask for something outside of ourselves and the true

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medicine in business is what's showing up in my business reflecting back to me internally and how

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can I be with this part of me and help integrate this part of me or evolve this part of me. Thank

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you for being here today. I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live. I'm looking

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forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward. This is going to get

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more and more fun. We'll have more and more engagement as well. We'll invite people to

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participate in the show and thank you for giving us your time and attention. Have an excellent

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time building out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.