1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,740 How did you get started and choosing to go this route 2 00:00:03,740 --> 00:00:06,540 and making this your career now? 3 00:00:06,540 --> 00:00:07,380 Great question. 4 00:00:07,380 --> 00:00:11,700 So before I was in the US Army, I grew up as a skinny kid. 5 00:00:11,700 --> 00:00:14,060 People didn't know what I was, was bullied, insecure, 6 00:00:14,060 --> 00:00:15,460 I had a really bad stuttering issue. 7 00:00:15,460 --> 00:00:16,940 I was a complete opposite. 8 00:00:16,940 --> 00:00:17,900 And I said, you know what? 9 00:00:17,900 --> 00:00:20,800 I wanna teach people how to do what I did, 10 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:21,940 but in a professional way, 11 00:00:21,940 --> 00:00:24,300 outside of just fitness and nutrition. 12 00:00:24,300 --> 00:00:27,700 And I knew that I had to face my own fears first. 13 00:00:27,700 --> 00:00:29,820 So I had a fear of heights, I had some other fears, 14 00:00:29,820 --> 00:00:32,020 I faced all that in the army for a decade. 15 00:00:32,020 --> 00:00:34,340 And once I overcame those things really quick, 16 00:00:34,340 --> 00:00:36,820 I was like, wow, I feel like a new person. 17 00:00:36,820 --> 00:00:39,220 I faced all these things, I'm still alive, awesome. 18 00:00:39,220 --> 00:00:40,220 I can do anything now. 19 00:00:40,220 --> 00:00:44,660 So from there, I also like to help people face their fears 20 00:00:44,660 --> 00:00:46,060 with whatever it is. 21 00:00:46,060 --> 00:00:48,140 It's usually public speaking. 22 00:00:48,140 --> 00:00:51,000 It's usually asking for that raise, 23 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:54,540 going on that first date, first first date in five years 24 00:00:54,540 --> 00:00:55,700 since their divorce. 25 00:00:55,700 --> 00:00:57,340 It's usually those small subtle things. 26 00:00:57,340 --> 00:00:59,900 It's not just, hey, I'm gonna tell her to go skydiving. 27 00:00:59,900 --> 00:01:01,420 It doesn't have to be extreme. 28 00:01:01,420 --> 00:01:03,140 It's usually the subtle things. 29 00:01:03,140 --> 00:01:05,420 But what got me into it was honestly, 30 00:01:05,420 --> 00:01:08,760 working with so many different people as an athlete 31 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:11,020 in the army, in college, 32 00:01:11,020 --> 00:01:13,260 also as a child, I grew up in Germany. 33 00:01:13,260 --> 00:01:15,060 So just living on military bases, 34 00:01:15,060 --> 00:01:16,860 you're around a plethora of different ethnicities, 35 00:01:16,860 --> 00:01:18,380 genders and all that. 36 00:01:18,380 --> 00:01:21,480 And I just got really good at reading people's patterns. 37 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:25,060 Cause my lunch table in college and in school 38 00:01:25,060 --> 00:01:26,320 was just like the most random people, 39 00:01:26,320 --> 00:01:27,700 but we all connected. 40 00:01:27,700 --> 00:01:30,300 Like I played sports, but I didn't hang out with the jocks. 41 00:01:30,300 --> 00:01:31,140 I was an RTC, 42 00:01:31,140 --> 00:01:32,780 but I didn't really hang out with the RTC kids. 43 00:01:32,780 --> 00:01:33,780 It was just, 44 00:01:33,780 --> 00:01:35,660 I just had, was around a plethora of different people. 45 00:01:35,660 --> 00:01:37,460 And I just liked people that were passionate 46 00:01:37,460 --> 00:01:38,660 about what they're doing. 47 00:01:38,660 --> 00:01:41,100 So with my experience, 48 00:01:41,100 --> 00:01:44,600 being around different people and their thought process 49 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,420 really helped me to find their patterns. 50 00:01:47,420 --> 00:01:49,620 Cause it honestly all stemmed from that kid 51 00:01:49,620 --> 00:01:51,540 who would drive his parents to all the parties 52 00:01:51,540 --> 00:01:52,740 before he had a license. 53 00:01:52,740 --> 00:01:53,740 And he would just people watch. 54 00:01:53,740 --> 00:01:56,140 And he's like, this is like a reality show. 55 00:01:56,140 --> 00:01:58,220 Cause I just learned so much about psychology 56 00:01:58,220 --> 00:01:59,900 by just watching my own family 57 00:01:59,900 --> 00:02:01,660 and realizing what the patterns were. 58 00:02:01,660 --> 00:02:03,340 And then I took that into careers. 59 00:02:03,340 --> 00:02:06,980 So having the gift of discernment, 60 00:02:06,980 --> 00:02:09,020 cause I truly believe that everybody's trauma 61 00:02:09,020 --> 00:02:10,580 gave them a gift. 62 00:02:10,580 --> 00:02:12,240 And just being that quiet kid, 63 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:13,620 I could just read the room, 64 00:02:13,620 --> 00:02:15,060 even though I didn't really didn't say much, 65 00:02:15,060 --> 00:02:16,300 but I could just sense everything. 66 00:02:16,300 --> 00:02:18,420 And the older I got, I was like, huh, 67 00:02:18,420 --> 00:02:20,740 I always tend to be the dad of all my friend groups 68 00:02:20,740 --> 00:02:22,380 or in the army or when we're out. 69 00:02:22,380 --> 00:02:23,340 They're like, hey, is Derek here? 70 00:02:23,340 --> 00:02:24,180 All right, we can have fun. 71 00:02:24,180 --> 00:02:25,380 Cause he could read the room. 72 00:02:25,380 --> 00:02:27,060 He's a little crazy, but he knows what's going on. 73 00:02:27,060 --> 00:02:28,420 I'm like, hey, I got you. 74 00:02:28,420 --> 00:02:29,260 Yeah. 75 00:02:30,060 --> 00:02:33,460 So you were the one that corrected people. 76 00:02:33,460 --> 00:02:34,300 Yeah, exactly. 77 00:02:34,300 --> 00:02:37,460 Or like if we'd be out in public, I'd say, hey, 78 00:02:37,460 --> 00:02:38,300 we need to leave. 79 00:02:38,300 --> 00:02:39,580 Cause in 10 minutes that dude in the red shirt, 80 00:02:39,580 --> 00:02:40,580 he's probably gonna do something. 81 00:02:40,580 --> 00:02:41,940 They're like, what are you talking about? 82 00:02:41,940 --> 00:02:43,620 10 minutes later, he starts fighting somebody 83 00:02:43,620 --> 00:02:45,420 at this nice restaurant or at the bar. 84 00:02:45,420 --> 00:02:47,340 And they're like, how'd you, don't ask, 85 00:02:47,340 --> 00:02:48,620 let's just go somewhere else. 86 00:02:48,620 --> 00:02:50,200 We're here to have fun and enjoy ourselves. 87 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:51,660 But it's interesting. 88 00:02:51,660 --> 00:02:54,780 The people that are usually the father 89 00:02:54,780 --> 00:02:57,140 or the mother of their friend groups or at work, 90 00:02:57,140 --> 00:02:58,220 they usually work through a lot 91 00:02:58,220 --> 00:02:59,620 and they have to grow up quick. 92 00:02:59,620 --> 00:03:01,900 So it's always interesting of why he or she's good 93 00:03:01,900 --> 00:03:03,820 at that thing once you learn their backstory. 94 00:03:03,820 --> 00:03:06,980 Cause too many times people see the final product 95 00:03:06,980 --> 00:03:09,300 or the final version, they're like, oh, it's easy for her. 96 00:03:09,300 --> 00:03:10,140 It's easy for him. 97 00:03:10,140 --> 00:03:12,700 He's an athlete or, oh yeah, you know, you know, 98 00:03:13,740 --> 00:03:16,100 African-Americans, they don't have to train hard. 99 00:03:16,100 --> 00:03:16,940 They're always athletic. 100 00:03:16,940 --> 00:03:18,940 You're gifted and all that stuff. 101 00:03:18,940 --> 00:03:20,620 And then they see a picture of you as a kid or like, 102 00:03:20,620 --> 00:03:22,940 that's you, that was you back then. 103 00:03:22,940 --> 00:03:23,900 You stuttered like crazy. 104 00:03:23,900 --> 00:03:24,860 You had a bad posture. 105 00:03:24,860 --> 00:03:53,860 I'm like, yeah, exactly.