What does self-love mean? What does that mean?
Self-love means you got to put yourself first.
And if you don't put yourself first, you're going to have a lot of complications.
And I know because I lived them over the years.
I said I was a leader.
I always put people in front of me.
I always would drop what I'm doing for me to go help someone else
or talk to somebody else if they have an issue.
So, but I realized over the years
that I needed to self-love myself first.
Yeah. And that's what I did.
I transformed. I said, OK, hit the brakes.
You looked in the mirror.
I got to take care of me now.
OK, everyone else will come.
I'll get to you.
But I got to take care of me first.
Did you first believe that you felt like you were being selfish? No, no.
No, I know because only because of all the years that I put everybody before me.
Yeah. I didn't feel selfish.
I felt like that this was the right thing for me to do for me.
Yeah. So so I know I didn't feel selfish.
It's actually a good question.
And the only fact that I have to say it again is because my whole life,
people came first before me. Yeah. Yeah.
Everybody actually came first before me. Yeah.
So now I didn't feel selfish. No.
So you mentioned just being a leader and and what that looks like
and and how you did put others before you.
And now that you do have self-love,
what defines a great leader now to you?
Because you now have a different perspective, right?
So what defines a great leader?
What defines a great leader?
What defines a great leader is.
Being kind to yourself first and being kind to others.
OK, no matter what platform you're on in life,
whether you're a millionaire or you're living paycheck to paycheck,
living paycheck to paycheck, that doesn't matter to me.
What matters to me is you have respect for others.
You you come with kindness and.
And that's what a leader does.
A leader will treat you on an equal playing field.
What are the tips that you would give them regarding that money or relationships?
Well, the
the nothing supersedes love.
Yeah, I'm sorry.
Nothing supersedes love.
You're right. Money makes things easy when you have money.
And it just makes life a little bit easier.
It takes the pressure off of you.
But to make that money, what are you going to in life? Yeah.
Every morning, getting up five in the morning, whatever time, whatever you do,
staying up all hours of the night.
You're worried about losing your job, worried about paying the bills.
What kind of stress do you put on yourself?
What happens with that is you forget about everybody else around you
because you're so involved with your job and making the money.
What about your kids? What about your wife?
What about your mother, your father?
What about them? You know, listen, I knew a group of girls growing up.
If you didn't make six figures, they wouldn't date you.
I know I know another girl that if she met a man, she was like,
I'll go out with you, but tomorrow bring your tax return.
When I heard that, I almost dropped to the floor.
I think I was about 30 years old when I heard that.
I almost fell to the floor. Yeah.
And she told me that she goes, yeah, I asked the guy, whatever his name was,
Joe or John, I asked him for his tax return.
I'll date him, but I want to see what kind of tax return he's got.
How horrible is that? Wow.
Come on. Yeah. Are you serious?
Well, kind of what kind of world do we live in?
Are you serious? Yeah.
You know, so, you know, it's
I don't know. It's just the way the world is today, man.
The world is tough. I agree.
It's tough. It's tough out there.
It's tough with men, women, kids, college.
I know it's tough. Yeah.
But remember, nothing supersedes love.
To answer that question, I guess love is number one first.
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