Why do you think leaders hide from funding their vision?
Great question. I think first leaders hide from funding their vision because they're afraid that they are not going to actually succeed.
So they are building other people's dreams. They are putting all of their energy into other people's dreams.
And then they realize when it's too late that they haven't put enough time and energy and money into their own dreams.
Wow. That is definitely a different angle of what I've heard. Why do you say that?
Is there some story behind that or some experiences you've had or something you have done in the past that...
Great question. First, I would say that I'm guilty of that myself.
So for a long time, I felt it was easier to build other people's dreams. And that's the reason why I started out relatively late publishing books.
Because I didn't believe in myself enough as to put enough time and energy into my own dreams.
And for a long time, I could even say that I didn't have the clarity that I have now about the dreams that I want to accomplish.
So now my mission is to impact 100 million people to be happier, to go after what they want, to share their stories and to create wealth through books that transform the world.
And when you are playing small, when you are funding other people's dreams, when you are not taking the action that you need to take in order to go after what you might desire,
what happens is that sometimes you may not have the clarity that you desire in your life in order to even know what you actually want.
And it's only when you start to take the steps towards doing something, it could sometimes be something very small that you are doing for yourself,
even if it means starting to exercise or to have more fun or to lose weight or to anything that it is that you are doing for yourself,
where you are putting yourself first, where you are filling your own cup first, where you are making yourself happy first.
That's when you really start to understand what you actually desire.
And that's when you start to become aligned with the path you're supposed to be taking.
But it's not always so easy to find this path and to be aligned.
And the reason why it's not so easy is because maybe you're too scared to take the steps that you need to take for yourself,
especially as a woman. I think it's so much easier for you to support your children, your husband, and even if you're not married, your friends.
It's always so much easier to support their dreams than yours because secretly you're actually afraid of failure.
You're afraid of being judged. So it's just so much easier to support other people's dreams because when you do,
there's a smaller chance of you failing because actually the person you're supporting, you know, they can fail.
But you have less of a responsibility there.
Thank you for sharing that.
Then what's my next question is, and how do leaders lean into funding their vision?
Great question. Leaders lean into funding their vision by taking small steps into filling their own cup, by starting to do small things for themselves.
And it can be something really, really small. But I think what's really important first is to make yourself happy,
to do something that you love, because when you do something that you love, you fill your heart with joy.
And when you fill your heart with joy, what happens is that you become a magnet for opportunities.
You become a magnet for people. And that's when you attract everything that you desire.
And you also attract the path that you're supposed to actually be taking. And that's when you start to get clarity.
When you are sad, when you are depressed, when you're not feeling well, when you are feeling rejected or criticized,
when things appear to not be working in your life or business, that is when you are most likely to attract scammers,
people to disrespect you, clients who reject you, clients who don't pay you.
And when you are leaning into more happiness, more joy, doing more of what you love, you'll find that you're not pushing anymore.
It's so much easier for you to attract your desired path. It's so much easier for you to put energy and time and money into your own vision.
And I think being joyful is a responsibility as well, because you are impacting thousands of people in your neighborhood just with your personal frequency.
How happy you are makes a massive difference to the people around you. And it's not just your neighbors.
It's so much bigger than that. And I find that quite interesting how your happiness, your joy, the love that you spread,
the compliments that you pay, the sincere compliments that you pay to those around you have such a massive impact on those around you.
You will never understand how big this impact can possibly be just because you were nice and friendly to your concierge or to the waiter or to the people around you that normally do not get noticed.
You will see when you start to analyze how big your impact is when you are happier yourself, you have a responsibility to make yourself happy.
So, Lily, what were some of the things that you did early when you were trying to figure out into funding your vision that gave you joy, that gave you clarity, that helped you in your path?
Great question. One of the things that I started doing was to create a happiness calendar.
So many, many years ago, I was a nanny and I published my first book. And when I did that, I realized I wanted to I wanted to have a boyfriend and I also wanted to do something.
But I wasn't sure what I wanted to do, something big. I wanted to feel like I had succeeded in some way.
So I started to create this happiness calendar. And what I was starting to do was to include in my diary things that made me feel good.
For example, swimming and dancing and walking and doing my nails and having fun with my friends and going out for a drink or, you know, all these little things.
But because I was filling up my calendar with happy moments, I gradually became a different person.
And I also learned about this from a book called How to Win Friends and Influence People.
And what what I remembered the most from this book is that if you are going to be a burger flipper, be the best possible burger flipper there is and enjoy the process, even if your aspiration is to be the director of a company,
still be the most impactful, the most joyous, the most productive employee you can possibly be, even while you are aspiring to become the leader of a certain company.
And it was that that really transformed my habits. And because of that, I published my book. And because of that, I was hired to be the director of a company that was doing property management.
And because they hired me, I managed to increase the revenues from 400k per year to 642k per year with the same number of properties. And I did that because I was with branding and with improving the image of the properties and also with gifting books to potential clients that I desired.
But the key thing is that the had I not been happy, had I not created the happiness calendar, I truly believe I could never have gotten there, because it's so important to stay positive.
While you are going through tough moments, I think it's important to, even when you are, you don't have your ideal job, that you can still enjoy moments of your current job, so much so that you are observed in the community.
So when there is an opportunity for you to get promoted, or for you to work with a different company, or for you to promote the services of another company, you get that opportunity because of how positive you are, because of how fun you are, because of how charismatic and confident and fun loving you are.
And that's the thing that made the difference for me in terms of being able to put time and energy into my vision. And now I'm collaborating with influential entrepreneurs that I could never have dreamed to collaborate with, had I not included the happiness calendar into my life.
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