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Tell me about your vision. I'd love to hear it. Yeah, you know, I had the vision quite a long time ago

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And it really came out of my experience of being both a psychotherapist and also having been a client and done therapy myself

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And I've been a psychotherapist now for well over 30 years and I worked with you know

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A lot of trauma because there is a lot of trauma in people's lives. There's a lot of

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emotional mental

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physical sexual

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Abuse that's actually more rampant than I think a lot of people know

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and

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What what occurred to me what like I had a couple of big ah-hahs that really informed my book and one of them was

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that I had my own trauma as a child and

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that's probably what got me into the field of psychotherapy to begin with and

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I had such an up close and personal experience of how much pain that can cause and what there is to really recover from

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To recover yourself to recover a connection to your true self and a sense of yourself

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and your own, you know

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Path and purpose in life that I think we all are born with

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Whether we are allowed or have the opportunity to access our connection to that

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And it just made me realize from my own work and from working with so many people that there are people all over the world

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Who have no access to help who don't get rescued from the traumas that they're suffering

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and who are symptomatic and

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Who act out their symptomology on themselves and on the people around them not because they're bad people

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But because you know if you're adversely affected by your human relations if you're hurt by other people

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If you're assaulted if you're a victim of war and you don't get you know people around you die or you're the subject of discrimination or injustice

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And you don't get any help or any rescue you're going to have symptoms. Just like if you're infected with a bacteria

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you're going to have symptoms and

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We live in a society that tends to blame our most symptomatic people

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Rather than be really committed to helping them

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So that was that was my first really big aha that I really wanted to talk about

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The widespread effects of

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untreated and unremitting trauma

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That's really worldwide

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It's not just in the United States

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But it's certainly in the United States that many people are targeted for abuse and neglect and discrimination

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And who aren't helped but as I said, they're blamed for their symptoms rather than seen as

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They're having a normal response to an abnormal situation that they've been

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Inadvertently put in and then the other big thing that really informed my book

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And there's probably more but a second really big thing is that because I did so much

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Family systems work because family systems really is a lot of what psychology looks at today

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We don't look at people as individual islands like you were just born good or you were born bad or you're intrinsically flawed or you're a sinner

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We don't look at people that way

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We look at people as having been affected by the conditioning that they've received from the people around them

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And that's particularly our families our family of origin

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Sometimes it's the extended family or the the family of a community

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And what I realized is that family systems operate on all levels

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Large and small so it could be your own nuclear family and it could be the family system of a country

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And when I looked at america through the lens of family systems dynamics

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It was pretty much impossible

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Not to see that some of the dynamics that are

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Policy and law and practice are highly abusive and discriminatory towards certain segments of the population

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And that disconnect between what we think of as a healthy family

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Where everyone is taken care of where everyone is loved where everyone has a sense of belonging more or less given that we're imperfect human beings

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And that those are not

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Some of the principles of the family of america that I really wanted to talk about that like

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Not from the point of view and this is this is really important for me

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Not from the point of view of who to blame or who to hate or who to make wrong

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But the point of view of how do we break the cycle of abuse in an unhealthy family?

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And could we apply those principles?

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to a nation or a corporation or a church or a school or a community but on all levels of society these

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Were either operating on healthy or unhealthy family dynamics and some of them are highly

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destructive and even murderous and how do we interrupt that cycle and again not to blame and shame

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But to change

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Interrupt that cycle and again not to blame and shame but to change