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Tell me more about your vision for Lift One Self.

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So my vision is exactly the word that you said,

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is to create safety and sacred spaces.

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And it's also change.

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And so what I know about change is change is within.

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So if I can hold the space for people to go within their body,

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then they can begin the change.

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And then that starts to ignite all around us.

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And that's where we see a different world.

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Everybody wants to say they want a change in the world,

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yet they're not willing to do their own work.

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They want to place the blame where

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if you start doing your own work, then you

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can hold the space for others to do their own work.

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And then that's where we'll see the change.

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And that's exactly it's that what is it,

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one finger pointing at someone else

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and the rest pointing back at you

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and knowing that we have to do the work on our own.

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And that definitely aligns with what you've been saying.

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It's just creating a safe space to be vulnerable

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and to have understanding that it's OK to cry.

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And but it's also a good time to reflect and understand

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that it starts with you before you can actually

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change the world.

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We really can't change unless we do change ourselves.

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And another one too is I know we talk about sadness and peace.

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There's also befriending anger.

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Anger is a very healthy emotion also.

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And to be able to let go of the rage,

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when you're feeling helpless and there's

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a lot of things that are going on in the world that we're

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being aware of that makes us feel helpless.

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So it ignites the anger and rage.

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And your body needs some expression.

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And so working with it rather than repressing it

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or suppressing it or actually taking some actions

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that you don't want to because that's not the way that you

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want to show up.

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So it's actually working with the energy

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and changing the narrative of, well,

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what is this actual emotion?

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What are the underpinnings so that I

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can stay within myself and not tell myself

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I should be something other or feel something other

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than what my experience is?

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Makes all the sense in the world.

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I remember hearing the boiling pot.

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And I believe that that's us taking our anger

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and suppressing it and pushing it down and down and down

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or and then topping it with so many other feelings

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until that one day comes where you can't control anything

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in that pot.

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And it's just boiling.

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And it's just like boom.

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And now you've put yourself in a situation

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to where there's nothing else you can do

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but show the anger that you've pressed down so much.

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So I really do love that.

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I love that you said that because so many people say

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it's horrible to be angry.

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It's then coming out and it's more rage.

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I think there is a healthy angry.

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There is a healthy anger.

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And the rage is the part that where you end up suppressing in

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and now it's just coming out on everyone and everything.

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So I definitely I can see that.

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And I love that.

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I totally love that.

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When it comes to all of this and you starting this,

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how long have you been?

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How long has this been going on for you, this business?

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I created Lift One Self in 2019, the summer of it.

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And then bang, COVID happened.

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I was about to ask.

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Go ahead, talk about it.

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Yes, so COVID happened.

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So that first year, I was in a lot of empathy

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and seeing that a lot of people were in pain.

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So I offered a lot of freeness and offering my space.

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And actually also as a parent of two

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navigating through those waters,

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I had already pulled my children out of the school system

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to do some homeschooling.

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So I wasn't forced into it.

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So it was a different transition.

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Yet we did a lot of outdoor things.

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And so being told that you can't go outdoors

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and not able to do this and that, we had to pivot.

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And I had to take better care of myself with the stress

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and being isolated and me seeing it a different way

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than anybody else.

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So I had already went through death

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and had a better relationship with it.

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So it gave me more of a curriculum to better have the verbiage

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and the simplicity in my language to serve others.

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So that's why this year now I've been on so many podcasts

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and offering my presence of there's a different way

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of being able to better understand your biology

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and better understand what regulating your nervous system

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and what your authentic emotions are.

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So this is where at times you have to get planted again

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and go down and make sure that those roots

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are more stronger so that when the winds come,

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you're not getting pulled out.

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So that's what COVID did for me and the business

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to better understand it and what I can offer to others.

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Absolutely, because at that point in time,

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you had to lift oneself up and everybody else in the home.

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I had often said during that time,

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it either make you or break you.

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Just the isolation was just something so different

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that never experienced, it was a make or break.

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And that's in business, that's in oneself,

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that's in parenting, that's in relationships overall.

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I mean, that was a time.

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So to create this in 2019,

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it seems like that was something that was divine.

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It's like, oh, I'm gonna put this in your head,

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but let me take it even further.

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I'm about to shut the world down.

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Now what can you do?

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Exactly, and it showed me that times,

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something will be planted in you

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and we want momentum right away.

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Yet you have to remember what slow momentum is

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and see that do you have the patience

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for the endurance of the long-term?

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Because when you don't have the attention or the momentum,

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it's like you wanna give up because what's the point

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where it's like, actually, you might be in a cocoon

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somewhere to better understand yourself.

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And like everybody talks about the caterpillar,

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the cocoon and the butterfly,

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what they don't talk about is where the cocoon,

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the caterpillar is eating itself and turning into goo.

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So that doesn't feel good,

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yet you aren't seeing that there's transformation going on.

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So it allowed me to really understand

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more of a business perspective,

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where also understanding my ego of needing that validation

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and recognizing this is much more profound than that.