Tell me more about your vision for Lift One Self.
So my vision is exactly the word that you said,
is to create safety and sacred spaces.
And it's also change.
And so what I know about change is change is within.
So if I can hold the space for people to go within their body,
then they can begin the change.
And then that starts to ignite all around us.
And that's where we see a different world.
Everybody wants to say they want a change in the world,
yet they're not willing to do their own work.
They want to place the blame where
if you start doing your own work, then you
can hold the space for others to do their own work.
And then that's where we'll see the change.
And that's exactly it's that what is it,
one finger pointing at someone else
and the rest pointing back at you
and knowing that we have to do the work on our own.
And that definitely aligns with what you've been saying.
It's just creating a safe space to be vulnerable
and to have understanding that it's OK to cry.
And but it's also a good time to reflect and understand
that it starts with you before you can actually
change the world.
We really can't change unless we do change ourselves.
And another one too is I know we talk about sadness and peace.
There's also befriending anger.
Anger is a very healthy emotion also.
And to be able to let go of the rage,
when you're feeling helpless and there's
a lot of things that are going on in the world that we're
being aware of that makes us feel helpless.
So it ignites the anger and rage.
And your body needs some expression.
And so working with it rather than repressing it
or suppressing it or actually taking some actions
that you don't want to because that's not the way that you
want to show up.
So it's actually working with the energy
and changing the narrative of, well,
what is this actual emotion?
What are the underpinnings so that I
can stay within myself and not tell myself
I should be something other or feel something other
than what my experience is?
Makes all the sense in the world.
I remember hearing the boiling pot.
And I believe that that's us taking our anger
and suppressing it and pushing it down and down and down
or and then topping it with so many other feelings
until that one day comes where you can't control anything
in that pot.
And it's just boiling.
And it's just like boom.
And now you've put yourself in a situation
to where there's nothing else you can do
but show the anger that you've pressed down so much.
So I really do love that.
I love that you said that because so many people say
it's horrible to be angry.
It's then coming out and it's more rage.
I think there is a healthy angry.
There is a healthy anger.
And the rage is the part that where you end up suppressing in
and now it's just coming out on everyone and everything.
So I definitely I can see that.
And I love that.
I totally love that.
When it comes to all of this and you starting this,
how long have you been?
How long has this been going on for you, this business?
I created Lift One Self in 2019, the summer of it.
And then bang, COVID happened.
I was about to ask.
Go ahead, talk about it.
Yes, so COVID happened.
So that first year, I was in a lot of empathy
and seeing that a lot of people were in pain.
So I offered a lot of freeness and offering my space.
And actually also as a parent of two
navigating through those waters,
I had already pulled my children out of the school system
to do some homeschooling.
So I wasn't forced into it.
So it was a different transition.
Yet we did a lot of outdoor things.
And so being told that you can't go outdoors
and not able to do this and that, we had to pivot.
And I had to take better care of myself with the stress
and being isolated and me seeing it a different way
than anybody else.
So I had already went through death
and had a better relationship with it.
So it gave me more of a curriculum to better have the verbiage
and the simplicity in my language to serve others.
So that's why this year now I've been on so many podcasts
and offering my presence of there's a different way
of being able to better understand your biology
and better understand what regulating your nervous system
and what your authentic emotions are.
So this is where at times you have to get planted again
and go down and make sure that those roots
are more stronger so that when the winds come,
you're not getting pulled out.
So that's what COVID did for me and the business
to better understand it and what I can offer to others.
Absolutely, because at that point in time,
you had to lift oneself up and everybody else in the home.
I had often said during that time,
it either make you or break you.
Just the isolation was just something so different
that never experienced, it was a make or break.
And that's in business, that's in oneself,
that's in parenting, that's in relationships overall.
I mean, that was a time.
So to create this in 2019,
it seems like that was something that was divine.
It's like, oh, I'm gonna put this in your head,
but let me take it even further.
I'm about to shut the world down.
Now what can you do?
Exactly, and it showed me that times,
something will be planted in you
and we want momentum right away.
Yet you have to remember what slow momentum is
and see that do you have the patience
for the endurance of the long-term?
Because when you don't have the attention or the momentum,
it's like you wanna give up because what's the point
where it's like, actually, you might be in a cocoon
somewhere to better understand yourself.
And like everybody talks about the caterpillar,
the cocoon and the butterfly,
what they don't talk about is where the cocoon,
the caterpillar is eating itself and turning into goo.
So that doesn't feel good,
yet you aren't seeing that there's transformation going on.
So it allowed me to really understand
more of a business perspective,
where also understanding my ego of needing that validation
and recognizing this is much more profound than that.