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Please, Dr. Wendy, tell me about your vision.

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I love this question.

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So what comes to mind is I actually feel like I have two big visions in life.

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One is more professional, one's more personal, but they really go together.

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So professionally, my vision is what I'm doing now, like living into my purpose, living into

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passion, empowering women to design their businesses and design their lives in the ways

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that truly light them up, make them really happy and fulfilled while creating some pretty

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amazing success.

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And my vision personally is pretty similar.

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I'm raising three daughters.

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I want to be a model for them of living an empowered life, doing what you want, going

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rogue if you see fit and not following the prescribed path of what everyone else is doing

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just because it's familiar or seems safe.

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Because what I found and I think what a lot of my clients find and just women in my life

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find is one day you wake up and you're like, wait, this is it?

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Like I did all the right things and I followed the path and I did all the things I was supposed

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to do.

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Like, why am I waking up not in love with my life?

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Why am I not obsessed with my work?

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Why am I not feeling lit up every day?

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And so it feels like professionally, personally, it's just kind of the way that I live is let

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yourself really design what you want with full permission and not guilt or should or

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shame and you'll be pretty happy.

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That's incredible.

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It's kind of a small world that we live in because my girlfriend of two years, she is

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a daughter of or a sibling of three daughters.

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So kind of in the same world that you're in.

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Yes.

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And I imagine it's a unique world because I grew up as an only.

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And so watching siblings and sisters and all of it's like very new to me, but it's really

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interesting and I try very hard to help them protect their relationships because it just

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seems like such a fundamental piece of their upbringing is figuring out how to do healthy

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relationships and sisterhood, especially as they become young women and figuring out life

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and confidence and self-esteem and all the things.

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So it is it's a very interesting world being the mama of three young girls.

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And my three daughters are actually 15 months apart.

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So I have my 11 year old and then I have two 10 year old.

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Oh, wow.

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It's like a whole it's a whole little world.

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No joke.

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And so how you started out becoming this positive psychologist life coach.

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How did that begin?

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What were those steps like?

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Yeah, so basically I went through this period of thinking for a moment.

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Maybe it's time to retire.

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Like I have these incredible clinical practices, you know, and I'm how old was I?

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I guess I was in my early 30s and I came home with my husband.

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I was like, I think I'm ready to retire.

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Like, I think that's what I'm feeling.

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Like something's not feeling right.

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It must be time to go.

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And he was like, are you sure?

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Like, I'm not sure right now is the time to retire.

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And it was this kind of joke joke conversation that just spurred this internal shift in me.

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I'm like, well, then what is it?

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Then something's missing.

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What is it?

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And I'm not wired to settle for a life that I'm not obsessed with.

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Like I'm not wired to live a life that I'm like, it's fine.

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It's mediocre.

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It's it's a livable existence.

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Like it's just not me.

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So I knew there was something going on inside of me.

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Like there's got to be a shift.

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Something needs to change.

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So I just started to explore, like, how do I get from feeling like life is checking the

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boxes to feeling like alive again and lit up again?

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And then I came across positive psychology.

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I fell in love with the idea that there's a science of happiness.

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Like how cool is that science?

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And I've always been an evidence based provider.

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So I'm like, oh, like this is my jam.

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And then I just started to practice what I was learning and basically took myself on

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the exact journey that now I take entrepreneurial women.

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So this idea of all of a sudden waking up to deciding or claiming your life and then

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getting so nitty gritty in some of the details of like, what are your what are my habits

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and how am I eating and how am I sleeping and who am I hanging with and spending time

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with and are they the right people in my life and how am I feeling inspired and are my strengths

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like the best parts of my personality?

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Are those being highlighted in my life right now?

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What about my values?

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What about what I truly care about?

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Are those being reflected?

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And so I started to piece this together.

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And then I was like, this is it.

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Like, this is the thing that takes people to a thriving life, a thriving existence.

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And I started coaching women from a psychology perspective, but just general, more life coaching

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way of, hey, if you're not obsessed with your life and thrilled with how it is, like, there

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are absolutely very tangible, pretty easy steps we can take to help you feel better.

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That's where I started with my professional shift.

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And then what I started to realize, interestingly enough, is that most of the clients that I

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started to work with were actually entrepreneurs.

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And there are women coming into my world who wanted the freedom and wanted the fun and

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wanted the wealth and wanted the time and wanted the family and all the things.

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But they didn't feel excited about entrepreneurship because it's hard.

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It's kind of grindy.

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It's exhausting sometimes.

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You know, it feels like you're following someone else's path and you don't really know the

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way.

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There's no roadmap for them.

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So a lot of entrepreneurial women came into my world and were just like, I want to be

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happy and successful.

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Like, how do I do both?

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And so I was like, well, we follow my plan, which is called Success by Design, and we

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create happiness and entrepreneurs who are creating just incredible success and impact.

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I mean, you've got a five step plan.

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Let's run with it, right?

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Yeah, exactly.

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Right.

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So I created like a formula and I take women through it to get them that foundation of

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like, oh, this is what it's meant to feel like.

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Oh, OK.

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So now we get to that next level, which is sustaining it versus creating it.

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But that first step of realizing that you can choose an alternative to the life experience

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you're having right now is like mind blowing for many people because no one's really starting

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their days being like, hmm, how can my life be better today?

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So it's a fun thing to take people through.

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Have you do you own?

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Do you have your own podcast?

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Because I think that would be incredible.

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What do you think you're doing with the podcast?

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What would you see like being like the theme or the message?

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So one of the other podcasts I work with personally is we take in us.

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We call it the hot seat.

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I have a panel of a few different entrepreneurs that have been going for decades in their

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company and a new entrepreneur jumps into the hot seat and they say, this is the thing

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that I'm having trouble with.

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And then we all throw ideas at the wall until something sticks.

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I think it would be something along the lines that with you, somebody comes in and they're

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like, yeah, I'm a woman.

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I'm trying to begin my business or not necessarily a woman.

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Anyone.

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I'm trying to start my business, but I don't know if that's really it for me.

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And you just start throwing ideas out.

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You're like, OK, what do you like?

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You like this?

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It's just like a quick instead of doing a whole five step plan for them.

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You give them the quick basic structure and you're like, this is what I think might work.

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If any of it works for you, we should be in touch some more.

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Yeah, yeah, that's a cool idea.

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I thought of having a podcast and I'm having a lot of fun being on other people's podcasts

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and learning about the experience, but it is in the back of my mind.

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I'm like, you know, I might want to do this someday.

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We'll see.

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I always keep that in my mind.

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I'm like, would this person be a good host?

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I produce podcasts is part of my company.

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So I produce, I help co-host and produce vision pros like this one.

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And then I produce a couple other ones.

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In total, I'm producing three right now.

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But I always look at it.

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I'm like, what are you?

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Are you a great host or are you a great guest?

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Or maybe you should find something else to be a part of.

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Just in my mind.

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You see that in me then.

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That's amazing.

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I love that.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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OK, back to what we're talking about, though.

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I'm curious what your why is.

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I know you started off with three daughters that are all really close together.

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But where in your journey was that?

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Is that what got you up to start this company?

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Or was there something else that got you to begin?

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What's your why for getting up every day is what I'm asking.

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Yeah, the why is, I mean, it's always the same.

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It's living into my purpose.

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It just feels like it's a very natural, organic desire and zone of genius for me to serve

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and to be able to serve in a way that's like just helps create transformation very quickly

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in people.

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And I've always just been that way, and funny enough, my why began in seventh grade when

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I had my first psychology class, which was seemingly pretty young now when you look back

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In seventh grade, we had this whole series of psych, yeah, I was like, this is amazing.

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And my teacher at the time had spent one of her classes sharing with us what the options

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If you ever wanted to think about becoming a psychologist, what would you do?

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So there's this option in research and there's this option in clinical and you can be a professor

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or whatever.

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And as soon as she explains the clinical side and basically the way she described it was

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you've just helped people feel better.

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You just help them navigate their lives and feel happier.

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And I was just like, oh, I do this for my friends every single day in seventh grade.

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This is what I do.

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People come and ask me advice and I just give it and it's so rewarding because it makes

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a difference and they feel happier and I feel on purpose.

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And so I actually never switched gears.

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And so since that day in seventh grade, I always knew I wanted to be a psychologist.

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It just clicked instantly for me.

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And it was a very simplified way she described it, but it worked for me.

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So I was sold and then I became a psychologist and it just always felt like my purpose is

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to is truly to remind people what they're capable of.

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It just feels like I go first.

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I lead myself.

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I embody the work that I teach.

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I keep learning how to do that better every day and I get to show living proof of what

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that means in my life.

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And it just reminds other people of what's possible for them to or that's the way I intend

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for them to receive it.

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And so every morning I just wake up and I'm like, let's, you know, let's freaking go.

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It's like, let's freaking go.

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Let's change the world.

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Let's get after it.

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There's someone that's going to be impacted today.

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Like who's it going to be?

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It's going to be amazing.

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Let's go.

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Thank you for being here today.

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I'm really happy that you tuned into Vision Pros Live.

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I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward.

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This is going to get more and more fun.

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We'll have more and more engagement as well.

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We'll invite people to participate in the show and thank you for giving us your time

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and attention.

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I hope you have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro

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yourself.