Please, Dr. Wendy, tell me about your vision.
I love this question.
So what comes to mind is I actually feel like I have two big visions in life.
One is more professional, one's more personal, but they really go together.
So professionally, my vision is what I'm doing now, like living into my purpose, living into
passion, empowering women to design their businesses and design their lives in the ways
that truly light them up, make them really happy and fulfilled while creating some pretty
amazing success.
And my vision personally is pretty similar.
I'm raising three daughters.
I want to be a model for them of living an empowered life, doing what you want, going
rogue if you see fit and not following the prescribed path of what everyone else is doing
just because it's familiar or seems safe.
Because what I found and I think what a lot of my clients find and just women in my life
find is one day you wake up and you're like, wait, this is it?
Like I did all the right things and I followed the path and I did all the things I was supposed
to do.
Like, why am I waking up not in love with my life?
Why am I not obsessed with my work?
Why am I not feeling lit up every day?
And so it feels like professionally, personally, it's just kind of the way that I live is let
yourself really design what you want with full permission and not guilt or should or
shame and you'll be pretty happy.
That's incredible.
It's kind of a small world that we live in because my girlfriend of two years, she is
a daughter of or a sibling of three daughters.
So kind of in the same world that you're in.
Yes.
And I imagine it's a unique world because I grew up as an only.
And so watching siblings and sisters and all of it's like very new to me, but it's really
interesting and I try very hard to help them protect their relationships because it just
seems like such a fundamental piece of their upbringing is figuring out how to do healthy
relationships and sisterhood, especially as they become young women and figuring out life
and confidence and self-esteem and all the things.
So it is it's a very interesting world being the mama of three young girls.
And my three daughters are actually 15 months apart.
So I have my 11 year old and then I have two 10 year old.
Oh, wow.
It's like a whole it's a whole little world.
No joke.
And so how you started out becoming this positive psychologist life coach.
How did that begin?
What were those steps like?
Yeah, so basically I went through this period of thinking for a moment.
Maybe it's time to retire.
Like I have these incredible clinical practices, you know, and I'm how old was I?
I guess I was in my early 30s and I came home with my husband.
I was like, I think I'm ready to retire.
Like, I think that's what I'm feeling.
Like something's not feeling right.
It must be time to go.
And he was like, are you sure?
Like, I'm not sure right now is the time to retire.
And it was this kind of joke joke conversation that just spurred this internal shift in me.
I'm like, well, then what is it?
Then something's missing.
What is it?
And I'm not wired to settle for a life that I'm not obsessed with.
Like I'm not wired to live a life that I'm like, it's fine.
It's mediocre.
It's it's a livable existence.
Like it's just not me.
So I knew there was something going on inside of me.
Like there's got to be a shift.
Something needs to change.
So I just started to explore, like, how do I get from feeling like life is checking the
boxes to feeling like alive again and lit up again?
And then I came across positive psychology.
I fell in love with the idea that there's a science of happiness.
Like how cool is that science?
And I've always been an evidence based provider.
So I'm like, oh, like this is my jam.
And then I just started to practice what I was learning and basically took myself on
the exact journey that now I take entrepreneurial women.
So this idea of all of a sudden waking up to deciding or claiming your life and then
getting so nitty gritty in some of the details of like, what are your what are my habits
and how am I eating and how am I sleeping and who am I hanging with and spending time
with and are they the right people in my life and how am I feeling inspired and are my strengths
like the best parts of my personality?
Are those being highlighted in my life right now?
What about my values?
What about what I truly care about?
Are those being reflected?
And so I started to piece this together.
And then I was like, this is it.
Like, this is the thing that takes people to a thriving life, a thriving existence.
And I started coaching women from a psychology perspective, but just general, more life coaching
way of, hey, if you're not obsessed with your life and thrilled with how it is, like, there
are absolutely very tangible, pretty easy steps we can take to help you feel better.
That's where I started with my professional shift.
And then what I started to realize, interestingly enough, is that most of the clients that I
started to work with were actually entrepreneurs.
And there are women coming into my world who wanted the freedom and wanted the fun and
wanted the wealth and wanted the time and wanted the family and all the things.
But they didn't feel excited about entrepreneurship because it's hard.
It's kind of grindy.
It's exhausting sometimes.
You know, it feels like you're following someone else's path and you don't really know the
way.
There's no roadmap for them.
So a lot of entrepreneurial women came into my world and were just like, I want to be
happy and successful.
Like, how do I do both?
And so I was like, well, we follow my plan, which is called Success by Design, and we
create happiness and entrepreneurs who are creating just incredible success and impact.
Yeah.
I mean, you've got a five step plan.
Let's run with it, right?
Yeah, exactly.
Right.
So I created like a formula and I take women through it to get them that foundation of
like, oh, this is what it's meant to feel like.
Oh, OK.
So now we get to that next level, which is sustaining it versus creating it.
But that first step of realizing that you can choose an alternative to the life experience
you're having right now is like mind blowing for many people because no one's really starting
their days being like, hmm, how can my life be better today?
So it's a fun thing to take people through.
Have you do you own?
Do you have your own podcast?
Because I think that would be incredible.
What do you think you're doing with the podcast?
What would you see like being like the theme or the message?
So one of the other podcasts I work with personally is we take in us.
We call it the hot seat.
I have a panel of a few different entrepreneurs that have been going for decades in their
company and a new entrepreneur jumps into the hot seat and they say, this is the thing
that I'm having trouble with.
And then we all throw ideas at the wall until something sticks.
I think it would be something along the lines that with you, somebody comes in and they're
like, yeah, I'm a woman.
I'm trying to begin my business or not necessarily a woman.
Anyone.
I'm trying to start my business, but I don't know if that's really it for me.
And you just start throwing ideas out.
You're like, OK, what do you like?
You like this?
It's just like a quick instead of doing a whole five step plan for them.
You give them the quick basic structure and you're like, this is what I think might work.
If any of it works for you, we should be in touch some more.
Yeah, yeah, that's a cool idea.
I thought of having a podcast and I'm having a lot of fun being on other people's podcasts
and learning about the experience, but it is in the back of my mind.
I'm like, you know, I might want to do this someday.
We'll see.
I always keep that in my mind.
I'm like, would this person be a good host?
I produce podcasts is part of my company.
So I produce, I help co-host and produce vision pros like this one.
And then I produce a couple other ones.
In total, I'm producing three right now.
But I always look at it.
I'm like, what are you?
Are you a great host or are you a great guest?
Or maybe you should find something else to be a part of.
Just in my mind.
You see that in me then.
That's amazing.
I love that.
Yeah, absolutely.
OK, back to what we're talking about, though.
I'm curious what your why is.
I know you started off with three daughters that are all really close together.
But where in your journey was that?
Is that what got you up to start this company?
Or was there something else that got you to begin?
What's your why for getting up every day is what I'm asking.
Yeah, the why is, I mean, it's always the same.
It's living into my purpose.
It just feels like it's a very natural, organic desire and zone of genius for me to serve
and to be able to serve in a way that's like just helps create transformation very quickly
in people.
And I've always just been that way, and funny enough, my why began in seventh grade when
I had my first psychology class, which was seemingly pretty young now when you look back
on it.
In seventh grade, we had this whole series of psych, yeah, I was like, this is amazing.
And my teacher at the time had spent one of her classes sharing with us what the options
are.
If you ever wanted to think about becoming a psychologist, what would you do?
So there's this option in research and there's this option in clinical and you can be a professor
or whatever.
And as soon as she explains the clinical side and basically the way she described it was
you've just helped people feel better.
You just help them navigate their lives and feel happier.
And I was just like, oh, I do this for my friends every single day in seventh grade.
This is what I do.
People come and ask me advice and I just give it and it's so rewarding because it makes
a difference and they feel happier and I feel on purpose.
And so I actually never switched gears.
And so since that day in seventh grade, I always knew I wanted to be a psychologist.
It just clicked instantly for me.
And it was a very simplified way she described it, but it worked for me.
So I was sold and then I became a psychologist and it just always felt like my purpose is
to is truly to remind people what they're capable of.
It just feels like I go first.
I lead myself.
I embody the work that I teach.
I keep learning how to do that better every day and I get to show living proof of what
that means in my life.
And it just reminds other people of what's possible for them to or that's the way I intend
for them to receive it.
And so every morning I just wake up and I'm like, let's, you know, let's freaking go.
It's like, let's freaking go.
Let's change the world.
Let's get after it.
There's someone that's going to be impacted today.
Like who's it going to be?
It's going to be amazing.
Let's go.
Thank you for being here today.
I'm really happy that you tuned into Vision Pros Live.
I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward.
This is going to get more and more fun.
We'll have more and more engagement as well.
We'll invite people to participate in the show and thank you for giving us your time
and attention.
I hope you have an excellent time building out your vision and becoming a Vision Pro
yourself.