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So, Raylis, tell me about your vision.

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Hey, so I am a communication coach

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for parents of preteens.

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And my vision is everything I do

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has to deal with communication between the generations

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because we are the stories we tell ourselves.

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And just like stories and cultures of old,

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we gain our understanding of who we are,

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of our virtues and values by what's passed down

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of how other people overcame.

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What I envision considering AI and technology

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and capturing stories will be easier

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is in the developing world,

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I'm a third culture kid,

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my mother's from the Philippines,

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my dad's from the Bahamas,

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and they grew up in meager means, like humble beginnings.

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I want to take stories.

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Sorry, I started with the question of

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how might I deal with the mental health issues

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that are happening in the English speaking world,

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but then this is a human thing.

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I want to take the stories of the parents

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and capture them for the kids

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and actually take the stories of the kids.

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They put in what their challenges are,

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their virtues and their values.

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AI will help them formulate something

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of how they might overcome.

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And asynchronously, the parent will also be able to check in

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and make a comment on it.

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And it's story bridging in a sense.

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And my vision is to do this at scale with an application

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because that's what technology does.

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It amplifies how quickly we're able to

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create the story inside the kid

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from a young age in their formative age

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and their formative years.

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I've yet to put a number on it,

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but my vision is bringing that application

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to have scale of telling wholesome stories

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so that the kid can know their identity at an early age

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from a source, a trusted source, such as their parent.

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And if they stay with the story long enough,

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it will change over time and they can reflect back on it

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to understand who their character was

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and the change over time.

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And ideally, they'll be able to pass those stories

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onto their kids.

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So that's what my vision is.

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Thank you for showing that.

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You mentioned we are the stories we tell ourselves.

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What do you mean by that?

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The first language we learn is storytelling.

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And really storytelling when you boil it down

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is change happens and we give it meaning.

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My background is an English teacher.

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I taught English language arts.

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I did also study communication.

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And I believe life is continually asking us, who are you?

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We're at peace when we understand I am, right?

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They used to say in the ancient times,

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know thyself and you'll understand

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the secrets of gods and men.

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The way we know ourselves is we see our change happen

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and then we give meaning to it.

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That's what a story is.

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We are a character going through life,

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facing challenges and hardships.

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We overcome some and then we learn more about who we are

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as we go through this resistance.

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And that's what a story is.

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It's conflict, then resolution, again, tension,

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easing, tension, easing, tension, easing.

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So yeah, we are the stories we tell ourselves.

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We are narrative beings, narrative theory.

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Is that your story?

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What is your story?

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Would you tell yourself?

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I would even go so on to say that is your story as well.

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When I say that, all of us are telling us a story

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of the past and a story of the future.

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We can only take action in the present.

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And we can't change our story of the past.

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We can change our perspective of it.

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And that will help us take action in the present.

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And as we're able to create more empowering stories

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of the past and more empowering stories

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of the future to reach for, we get to take empowered action

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in the present.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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My next question for you is where did this vision

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of bridging gaps come from?

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Okay, so yeah, that's, so there's the vision.

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The mission is the present current day thing.

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And then there's the origin.

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It's a little bit of my origin

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and it's a little bit of my mission.

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A little bit of my origin, as I've mentioned before,

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is my mother and father, right?

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Them staring.

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I say it's one of the three great gifts my father gave me.

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He gave me life, he gave me my name,

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and he gave me his story.

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This book behind me, it's called the Goodbye Book.

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Can't really see it.

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And it was given to me by fifth graders and sixth graders

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when they were graduating.

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And I used to share storytelling and writing with them.

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And when I was leaving, they presented this book

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while I was on the stage.

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And I was surrounded by a bunch of fifth graders.

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And Penny, she said, turn to the last page,

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turn to the last page.

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And you can't really see it, but the last page it says,

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you of all people deserve a happy ending.

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I thought about that.

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And I thought, do I?

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And it wasn't doubt, it was just critical thinking,

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curiosity, like do I?

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And I said, yeah, and how do you do that?

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And a still small voice said, you write it.

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I'm a writer.

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And I got choked up, and then Penny said, are you crying?

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To which all these fifth graders started hugging me.

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So the whole idea is I'm bringing these communication

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techniques to parents so that they can connect

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with their preteens.

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I wanna stay in the game long enough

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so that these fifth graders can teach these same principles

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to their kids, because the principles stay the same.

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This is all human development, it's still the same.

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That helps form some of my vision

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of what I have for the future, yeah.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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You said a still small voice said it.

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That statement, still small voice,

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I've heard only a few places.

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Why do you say still small voice?

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Where did that come from for you?

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Sure, I've always had a sincere relationship

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with the divine in my prayer life growing up.

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I'm named after Marcus Aurelius,

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and I am a practicing stoic,

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but one thing is to recognize greater power,

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higher forces, and so on.

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Even when I was shifting my religion

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or my understanding of what the divine was,

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there was always that connection of,

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yeah, there's something greater than me sustaining me,

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asking me to contribute back to something greater than me.

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And it doesn't have to yell.

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It doesn't have to hit you over the head.

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It's a voice that anywhere and everywhere,

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you can just pause and turn inward and hear it.

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That's why it's a small voice.

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It's a still voice.

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Yeah, that's what it is for me.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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Don't know much about me because I haven't told you.

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I'm born and raised in India,

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and I moved to United States, I think, when I was 18.

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My parents still live back there.

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I do have family here.

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My wife is here now,

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and my sister lives down the street with her family.

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And I'm also converted Christian

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from Hinduism to Christianity.

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So I get what you were trying to say there,

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and what you said is very profound,

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the fact that you said still small voice

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and not vision, dream, something straight out of heaven.

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That's the voice of the Lord.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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Yeah, I really do.

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Yeah, you had something you wanna add?

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No, no, I was saying thank you for sharing.

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What would you say earlier is your vibe, what you do?

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Other people matter.

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It's that simple.

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Again, everything that I do,

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I believe is what human development is.

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In human development, we're dependent,

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then we reach independence.

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After independence, it's interdependence.

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That's how a cell grows.

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There's mitosis, it splits apart,

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but then it works towards the whole.

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And that's why community matters.

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That's how our brain is formed.

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That's how life and growth happens.

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Eventually we get to the point where I'm specialized,

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but I'm specialized in the service of other people.

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And then there's the phrase, a community is made great,

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a nation is made great by men who plant trees

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for the shade they will never see.

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My why is because other people have done this for me

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before I was here.

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And this is my part to play in humanity.

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Thank you for being here today.

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I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions

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as these episodes continue to move forward.

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And thank you for giving us your time and attention.

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