to tell me about your vision.
My vision, my vision in life or my daily vision?
Whatever you like to share with me.
I know that with Healing Warriors,
there comes a lot with that.
But I'm sure it also collaborates, right?
Yeah, OK.
So Healing Warriors, so let me tell you about a warrior.
A warrior takes responsibility for what they're not
responsible for.
That makes a true warrior.
A hero is something different, all those aspects
of personalities of people.
But I always remembered that if I didn't make something,
I almost became a professional baseball player.
For example, I came very close.
That's my responsibility, not my mom, not my dad.
I take responsibility for that stuff.
Anything that goes wrong in your life,
you need to hold your own.
You're responsible for it.
Don't blame somebody else.
People blame another employee.
It got me in trouble.
No.
So my vision in life is be a man of your word or a woman.
Whatever you say you're going to do, do it.
Just don't talk about it.
Just go ahead and do it.
Take responsibility for anything that
goes negative in your life.
You're responsible for it.
So the vision is you got to be resilient.
Yes.
And being resilient comes with a lot of other things.
So I talk about freedom.
Freedom is the greatest core value of life, is freedom.
Now, freedom is a broad word.
Freedom means that you're free.
You can go out any time you want.
Freedom comes with you.
And with health, because I'm big into health,
I'm free from any illnesses because that's
my choice to be healthy.
So when you're free of pain, suffering,
it's important to be free.
Absolutely.
And I definitely can resonate that with you when
it comes to the word freedom.
By the way, happy Fourth of July.
Thank you so much.
Same to you.
Thank you.
And so as you mentioned, to be accountable
and the responsibility of oneself first rather
than the blame of all others, I tell you,
that's a big statement within itself.
Because as you said, people start blaming.
They'll point the finger, but never realize it.
Several are pointing back at you.
100%.
Yes, 100%.
It's like start with you first and then go from there.
100%.
When you speak of healing warriors and the position
and where you're at in your life and how
healthy you are in your life, what more do you add to this?
Are you a consultant and you advise others
on how to stay be this way?
Yeah, I'm a coach.
I'm a coach.
People call me, they want to have sessions with me.
I'm not a therapist.
I'm not a doctor.
I'm a man that lived the walk.
So I can only give them my experience and my wisdom
of what works for me.
If they take it, great.
If they don't, that's up to them.
That's their choice.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So that's what I do.
I tell them what I experience.
I tell you what supplements I take.
I tell you what I do in the morning
when I wake up out of bed.
And if they do it, like I said, it's wonderful.
If they don't, then they just called me for no reason.
Yes.
How often do you spend in the gym?
Oh, I spend, well, years ago, it's funny.
I laugh at myself.
Years ago, I was in the gym for two, three hours.
Yeah.
I did what they call eagle lifting.
Oh.
Eagle lifting, there's no point to it, to be honest with you.
You're young.
You just do foolish things.
And I did.
I did foolish things at the gym.
There's no reason for me to be at a gym three hours.
I'm not competing.
I'm not going to be in a gold medalist thing.
But no, to answer your question today,
I go to the gym four days a week, sometimes five.
I spend no more than an hour at the gym now.
I'm with you there.
I'm totally with you there.
And I never heard of eagle lifting
because the slamming of the dumbbells,
that's sort of like you go in there for an attention seeking
as well as that fulfillment.
But I realize, too, you often get hurt with eagle lifting.
Yeah, I got to hurt you.
Yeah, which is how you wrote the book.
Yeah.
That drove me to write the book.
Was that your first book?
No, my first book was the memoir about my life.
About your life in New York, living in New York.
Yeah, living in New York and family from growing up.
I lost my best friend.
He got murdered at the age of 20.
I wrote about my sister.
I lost her seven years later.
My sister died from running.
She was a marathon runner.
She died running.
Just talk about certain relationships that I had,
big betrayals in my life from unexpected people.
Absolutely.
And that's the way and the reason why you can be a coach.
Yeah, yeah.
The name of the book is Belonging to Yourself.
The reason why it's the name Belonging to Yourself,
because coming from a broken family,
I always want to belong to a family.
So even my employees, I made them like family to me.
Holidays, I invite them over.
My house, because I always wanted to belong.
And that's why today, you got to belong to yourself first
before you could belong to anybody.
You got to belong to yourself.
And I wasn't doing that back then.
I was loving people more than I loved myself.
So now I practice self-love.
Absolutely.
I got to love me first.
I always put people before me.
Yes, what do they say, the plane,
the analogy of the plane and the airbag coming out?
Take care of you first so you can take care of someone else.
Oh, yeah.
I just heard that the other day.
Somebody else just mentioned that on a podcast, by the way.
Yeah.
And it's a thing.
I just came from, I just got off a flight a couple days ago
from Minnesota.
And you never really think about that, right?
The goal of everyone, oh, well, people that are fixers, right?
And I would call myself a fixer.
I would love to fix everything.
My thought process would be to definitely help my child
or another child out.
But heck, what good is that going to do?
Right, exactly.
I can't breathe.
So there's no different, like you said, from love.
Loving yourself first and the expectation
of trying to give it in its entirety
is almost impossible if you don't love yourself.
And I totally get that.
100%.
Yeah.
What's your why?
What is my why?
Yes.
That's a good question, too.
So my why.
I just like inspiring people.
That's my why.
I like to inspire people.
I want people to be healthy.
I have a lot to teach.
I have a lot also to learn.
But my why is to give whatever I have, give it to them.
Yes.
I don't know how much longer I'm going to be here.
I hope to be around for a long time.
But if the young generation is listening to this podcast,
I want them to learn from me.
I can tell you a lot of good things that happened in my life.
I can tell you a lot of bad things that happened in my life.
Yeah.
Thank you for being here today.
I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live.
I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes
continue to move forward.
This is going to get more and more fun.
We'll have more and more engagement as well.
We'll invite people to participate in the show.
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Have an excellent time building out your vision
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