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to tell me about your vision.

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My vision, my vision in life or my daily vision?

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Whatever you like to share with me.

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I know that with Healing Warriors,

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there comes a lot with that.

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But I'm sure it also collaborates, right?

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Yeah, OK.

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So Healing Warriors, so let me tell you about a warrior.

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A warrior takes responsibility for what they're not

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responsible for.

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That makes a true warrior.

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A hero is something different, all those aspects

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of personalities of people.

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But I always remembered that if I didn't make something,

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I almost became a professional baseball player.

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For example, I came very close.

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That's my responsibility, not my mom, not my dad.

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I take responsibility for that stuff.

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Anything that goes wrong in your life,

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you need to hold your own.

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You're responsible for it.

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Don't blame somebody else.

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People blame another employee.

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It got me in trouble.

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No.

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So my vision in life is be a man of your word or a woman.

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Whatever you say you're going to do, do it.

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Just don't talk about it.

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Just go ahead and do it.

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Take responsibility for anything that

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goes negative in your life.

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You're responsible for it.

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So the vision is you got to be resilient.

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Yes.

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And being resilient comes with a lot of other things.

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So I talk about freedom.

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Freedom is the greatest core value of life, is freedom.

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Now, freedom is a broad word.

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Freedom means that you're free.

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You can go out any time you want.

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Freedom comes with you.

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And with health, because I'm big into health,

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I'm free from any illnesses because that's

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my choice to be healthy.

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So when you're free of pain, suffering,

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it's important to be free.

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Absolutely.

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And I definitely can resonate that with you when

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it comes to the word freedom.

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By the way, happy Fourth of July.

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Thank you so much.

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Same to you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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And so as you mentioned, to be accountable

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and the responsibility of oneself first rather

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than the blame of all others, I tell you,

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that's a big statement within itself.

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Because as you said, people start blaming.

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They'll point the finger, but never realize it.

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Several are pointing back at you.

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100%.

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100%.

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Yes, 100%.

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It's like start with you first and then go from there.

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100%.

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When you speak of healing warriors and the position

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and where you're at in your life and how

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healthy you are in your life, what more do you add to this?

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Are you a consultant and you advise others

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on how to stay be this way?

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Yeah, I'm a coach.

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I'm a coach.

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People call me, they want to have sessions with me.

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I'm not a therapist.

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I'm not a doctor.

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I'm a man that lived the walk.

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So I can only give them my experience and my wisdom

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of what works for me.

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If they take it, great.

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If they don't, that's up to them.

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That's their choice.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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So that's what I do.

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I tell them what I experience.

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I tell you what supplements I take.

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I tell you what I do in the morning

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when I wake up out of bed.

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And if they do it, like I said, it's wonderful.

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If they don't, then they just called me for no reason.

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Yes.

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How often do you spend in the gym?

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Oh, I spend, well, years ago, it's funny.

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I laugh at myself.

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Years ago, I was in the gym for two, three hours.

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I did what they call eagle lifting.

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Eagle lifting, there's no point to it, to be honest with you.

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You're young.

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You just do foolish things.

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And I did.

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I did foolish things at the gym.

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There's no reason for me to be at a gym three hours.

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I'm not competing.

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I'm not going to be in a gold medalist thing.

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But no, to answer your question today,

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I go to the gym four days a week, sometimes five.

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I spend no more than an hour at the gym now.

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I'm with you there.

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I'm totally with you there.

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And I never heard of eagle lifting

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because the slamming of the dumbbells,

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that's sort of like you go in there for an attention seeking

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as well as that fulfillment.

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But I realize, too, you often get hurt with eagle lifting.

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Yeah, I got to hurt you.

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Yeah, which is how you wrote the book.

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Yeah.

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That drove me to write the book.

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Was that your first book?

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No, my first book was the memoir about my life.

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About your life in New York, living in New York.

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Yeah, living in New York and family from growing up.

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I lost my best friend.

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He got murdered at the age of 20.

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I wrote about my sister.

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I lost her seven years later.

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My sister died from running.

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She was a marathon runner.

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She died running.

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Just talk about certain relationships that I had,

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big betrayals in my life from unexpected people.

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Absolutely.

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And that's the way and the reason why you can be a coach.

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Yeah, yeah.

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The name of the book is Belonging to Yourself.

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The reason why it's the name Belonging to Yourself,

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because coming from a broken family,

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I always want to belong to a family.

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So even my employees, I made them like family to me.

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Holidays, I invite them over.

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My house, because I always wanted to belong.

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And that's why today, you got to belong to yourself first

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before you could belong to anybody.

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You got to belong to yourself.

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And I wasn't doing that back then.

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I was loving people more than I loved myself.

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So now I practice self-love.

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I got to love me first.

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I always put people before me.

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Yes, what do they say, the plane,

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the analogy of the plane and the airbag coming out?

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Take care of you first so you can take care of someone else.

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Oh, yeah.

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I just heard that the other day.

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Somebody else just mentioned that on a podcast, by the way.

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And it's a thing.

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I just came from, I just got off a flight a couple days ago

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from Minnesota.

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And you never really think about that, right?

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The goal of everyone, oh, well, people that are fixers, right?

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And I would call myself a fixer.

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I would love to fix everything.

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My thought process would be to definitely help my child

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or another child out.

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But heck, what good is that going to do?

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Right, exactly.

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I can't breathe.

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So there's no different, like you said, from love.

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Loving yourself first and the expectation

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of trying to give it in its entirety

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is almost impossible if you don't love yourself.

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And I totally get that.

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100%.

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What's your why?

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What is my why?

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That's a good question, too.

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So my why.

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I just like inspiring people.

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That's my why.

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I like to inspire people.

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I want people to be healthy.

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I have a lot to teach.

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I have a lot also to learn.

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But my why is to give whatever I have, give it to them.

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Yes.

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I don't know how much longer I'm going to be here.

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I hope to be around for a long time.

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But if the young generation is listening to this podcast,

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I want them to learn from me.

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I can tell you a lot of good things that happened in my life.

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I can tell you a lot of bad things that happened in my life.

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Thank you for being here today.

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I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live.

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I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes

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continue to move forward.

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This is going to get more and more fun.

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We'll have more and more engagement as well.

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We'll invite people to participate in the show.

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And thank you for giving us your time and attention.

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Have an excellent time building out your vision

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and becoming a Vision Pro yourself.