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So you mentioned in your TED talk, people how guys can be more authentic.

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If you were to summarize that for the segment,

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how can men be more authentic in their experiences online?

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Well, online and but also just live, real interactions.

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Yeah, I was just teaching a workshop done in L.A.

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That was actually a co-ed group.

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And we talked about how

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if you really want to connect to someone else, which is, I guess,

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to connect to someone else, you got to be authentic.

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You got to be able to connect to yourself.

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And as humans in this culture, particularly as men,

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we don't know how to and we haven't seen models of how to be authentic,

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how to really feel what we're feeling.

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Yeah, emotionally, somatically, which is to stay in our bodies.

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But what I found, and this is what I was teaching this past weekend.

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And these people had the experience of is when they could connect to their own

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experience, emotional and somatic, it was much easier, natural,

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much more natural and actually more fun connecting with other people,

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in part because when you're connected to yourself or you're vulnerable to your own

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experience, you're showing other people somatically or through your physiology

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that you're safe, which fosters more connection and for them to be authentic.