right? Oh, and especially live on podcasts. It's like you're,
you can get so tongue trapped, tied, twisted. Let's just roll
with it. Pretend that was, it was absolutely meant to be. So
those of you joining us, if you have a name that's hard to
pronounce, where, or I'm kind of making fun of the people who
get so sensitive about their name pronunciation, because my
last names, I pronounce my last name differently at times. And
so it, you know, I've thought about like, man, life would be
so hard if I was mad at people for how they pronounce my name,
like that would, oh, how do you live like that? So it's a lot of
work having to correct people constantly, you know, Joe
Villegas, I'm going to have this down because I want to say
Villegas.
I'm not I'm not gonna hammer you. Yeah, I'm cool. Either way.
Either one's fine with me. It's all good.
Joe cool. We got it. We know it now.
Very good. So well, good stuff. We're gonna dive into you got a
great brand, by the way. In fact, I'm going to bring it up
as you talked about the resources as a as a health
coach as somebody who's making a difference with with people's
lives, not just their health. What are three resources that
you recommend visionary leaders dive into? It can be a book, it
can be movies. What's the power resources?
Yeah, great question. I think I'll go from a health
perspective after kind of, you know, mulling this one over a
little bit. There's a great book by Stan efforting he put out
called the vertical diet. So I've ever heard of it. But in
that book, it's not it's it's called the vertical diets,
obviously, it's nutrition focused. But Stan really lays
out a full comprehensive plan to help you from the food you eat
exercise, sleep hygiene, stress management, all those sorts of
things. That's a great book kind of like the the hand to hand
tactics of how to sort of get your health in line. And even
covers things like high blood pressure and how to handle that
and all that kind of stuff. So really, really great book. And
I've had the pleasure of getting to learn from Stan in person a
few times now. So can't recommend that enough. Another
book would be The Only Way to Win by Jim lore. It's another
great one. You know, oftentimes we get kind of hung up on the
outcome that we're chasing versus enjoying the process
itself, right. So that book kind of dives into, you know, how to
really, really do that and then and going along the way versus
waiting for the wind. And the third one I'd recommend is by my
personal mentor, man by the name of Peter Sage. And he wrote a
book called the inside track. And it's a series of letters
that he wrote to his mentees, and just really dives into all
sorts of topics. But it's a lot about it's basically a different
way of viewing the world, you know, topics like meditation and
mindfulness and things like that. It's it's hard, it's hard
to wrap up into one or two sentences, but it's a really
incredible book. And Peter shares so many in depth insights
from his experiences as an entrepreneur, he's a serial
entrepreneur. He was a master trainer for Tony Robbins for
like 15 years, like he's just kind of been been there done
that done a lot of stuff. And it's a really, really great book
that you can kind of go back to time and time again, and still
pull insights out of you didn't get the first time. So those are
the three shortlist. Those are the three I would I would throw
out there to begin with short shortlist. You know, we keep it
that way for this. Of course, you guys can go to the results
TV. And and Joe Villegas, Joe Villegas is website and podcasts
learn more about the fact I saw I saw you recently had Pete Sage
on the lineup was we're looking at the screen there. People who
listen in know that I'm a big fan of Tony Robbins and the
program and what he does. And I'm a big fan of coaches to
that, that are older, right? That I'm not saying I'm not a big
fan of the young ones. I think there's value from both sides.
However, there's a sense of stability and reliability around
somebody who has been 15 years with one particular
organization. There's a depth that was gained there of
appreciation for both the strengths, weaknesses,
opportunities and threats for all four of those. And yeah, to
try to sum up a book about letters, right that are
probably extremely deep, profound and expansive. That's
easy to do. So I'll take your word for it. And I have to, I'll
have to dive in myself to get the full value out of that.
Yeah, it's a it's a great one for sure. And it's like I said,
it's something where you read through it once, okay, you know,
I get it makes sense. Cool. You hit it again a month or two
later, like, wow, like, you'll keep pulling stuff out of it
time and time again. So it's it's very insightful. It's very
cool. So much so that you were wise enough to say, let me go
work with this author. Yeah, first, but that's, that's really
the bigger equation here is when you find the resource, right,
the depth, the reference for the resource, like go to it, go go
drink from the well. Yeah, I mean, I'm not just a cup of
glass or the glass that you got. So we're gonna be right back.
We're gonna dive into Joe Villegas and his visions in just
a minute. We'll see you on the other side, guys. All right.
Welcome in to vision pros live with Jackson Calame. I'm your
show host, we'll be doing interviews for visionary
entrepreneurs and guest leaders who are building fantastic
visions out there.
Hey, what's up, everybody? Welcome into another episode of
vision pros live. I'm your show host, Jackson Calame, founder
and CEO of first class business. And I'm excited to have Joe
Villegas joining us today. He is a life and health coach. He is a
well, well vetted. That's one thing. Yes, I've vetted it. But
a business owner with lots of experience. That's the word I'm
looking for that entrepreneur word is avoiding me right now.
But we're gonna be talking about real actionable strategies that
you can apply for your best life and for your health. And you can
go to his website, you can see his track record, you see the
people that he's helped. The fun thing about health coaches is
they have very easy to see before and after pictures of the
results they've been able to help people drive. And that's
usually also a reflection of the healthy relationships they have
with those same people. So I'm excited to dive in with them.
Before I do, I always want to give as much as I can in terms
of resources. So in terms of sponsorship ships today, we've
got Melissa Gray of the law spot. My heart as I get older as
an entrepreneur, I get more and more sensitive to the painful
nature of growth that visionaries who are excited to
go through when they don't have to. When Melissa applied to be
on our show, I almost cancel the show because I didn't want a
pretentious, condescending lawyer on my show. And that's how
most of them are. I couldn't have been further from the truth
with her though. She's a fantastic leader. She understands
the value of simplifying things and actually cares enough to
listen to people about what their visions are and get
involved in the business in the best of ways. I've been super
impressed with her. That comes from having been through a
$20,000 trademark lawsuit that we won when I was with
Restaurant Connect. We won that lawsuit to protect our own
name, but we spent $20,000 protecting our own name. That's
just garbage. You know, what were we doing? Why did we not
get ourselves into a position where we had the right
representation up front? So we could have avoided that to begin
with. Protect yourself. Consider interviewing her as you look for
legal counsel out there. Then there's Andrew Sosin of Recovery
Unplugged. And I forgot to mention, Melissa is also a
client of ours. So there is a bias there in the form of our
relationship. We're strategic partners. I call her RC Low, not
our J Low. Then there's the Recovery Unplugged with Andrew
Sosin. He has simply impressed me. I don't work with him. I
think his program is fantastic. We'd love to. But I really want
people to gravitate towards us. They just don't know where to
turn for their addictions. Those addictions come in many forms.
It can be drugs and alcohol, but it can also be apps. It can be
Netflix. If you're hiding from life, if you're finding your way
into something like that, even music, for the sake of drowning
out the realities of life, I highly recommend you to call
this hotline. If you know somebody like that, call the hotline.
Find out what you can do for them. There's too many people
that suffer needlessly. And if we would step up as leaders, find
out from professionals what we could do about it. We could
change the world. We can make the world a better place for at
least one person. So I hope that you take me up on that. They're
in five states. They have physical locations, but they
also have their virtual version of what they do. Thanks to the
Silverlining we'll call COVID. They wouldn't have launched,
wouldn't have been for that. And they incorporate music into
their healing program. So if you're a musician like me, that
hits you on all the right strings right away and you're
like, wow, okay, cool. I got to see this. I hope this helps at
least one person out there. If it did, it was worth talking
your head off for a minute. Then there's the Water Project. And
there are millions of people that we can help. There's
millions of people who do not have access to this. I have a
water bottle. I go in my kitchen, my bathroom, I can get
cleaner water than most people, all the people that are affected
in these areas that the Water Project is focused on. Imagine
your kids walking three to five miles during their school day to
have to go get a source of water that may not even be safe for
everybody, or having to leave work. And instead of providing
for your kids, you're looking for water for their basic needs.
We can do something about that. If we just give even $5 to the
Water Project and select the project, what's really cool is
you get to see the outcome of your efforts. You get to see the
generational impact unfold as these kids or as these
communities. The Water Project will send you the pictures of
them and the sand dam that they built or the borehole well. I
just, I love the transparency they've created around what
they do. Now, if you have another resource, another cause
out there that's just pulling at your heartstrings like Jack
said, we should talk about this. Do us a favor, drop that cause,
drop a link to it in the comments, allow us to do our
part. Maybe we will give to it. Maybe I'll talk about it the
program as well. We never know what the ripple effect will be
when we choose to do good. And we all have 8 billion people out
there that we could be helping. So always take the time to do
that before we dive into visions. So with that said, Joe
Villegas, I am super happy to have you on the show today. Love
your energy, man. Thank you for being here.
Thank you for having me. I'm pumped. And I mean, all those
sponsors are incredible. I'll be checking those out myself for
sure and supporting what I can. So thank you for sharing that.
Got it. Getting after it today. Good deed is done. We can close
right. Good deeds. I love this. So what is your vision, Joe, for
those that you serve?
For sure. So my ultimate vision is to help people kind of just
uncomplicate their health and wellness, realize that they can
get to whatever their version of a best life is, have a fulfilling
life, healthy life and a long life, but doing it in a way that
that complements what they're trying to achieve, right. So too
often you see influencers, articles, blogs, whatever out
there that just really take health to a level that's, I
mean, could be overcomplicated, scary, contradictory, whatever.
And my vision is to make sure that what I teach people, what
I share with them and guide them through is simple, accessible,
achievable, and something they can apply to their life, you
know, forever, basically.
Dude, I love that. This is a hard thing for me to love, by
the way. Because I, I would be mad at somebody in the business
world for saying something similar. Because business is
complicated. There's health can be complicated, but you're
talking about uncomplicating it, right? I am making it simpler.
And there's like a cash 22 on this, you know, like, are we
talking about get rich quick? Are we talking about get healthy
quick? And, you know, and like, like over ignoring over
generalizing for people, are we talking about, like, truly
making it better? And I have a health coach friend of mine who
was so inspiring, was helping me move forward. And then, you
know, one day he posted about how core exercises like working
your abs is bad for you. And you know, something like that it
was somebody said, you know, but my feeling and sentiment as the
skinny fat guy, you know, was like, Oh, no, you know, like,
what I do now, right? I don't know if I should, you know, and
now the fear of the unknown, the confused mind says no, like,
I'm just not gonna do anything. Right. So what is the fine line
of making things more simple and, and guiding those you're
working with to because you said that and like my heart melted
for you. I was like, Oh, my gosh, cool. Like, let's do it.
Let's make it let's make this whole workout and health thing
easier. Continue with that path. What does that look like for me
and others? Yeah, no doubt. So the big thing is right, like
when, when you reach out to a coach, right, you're trying to
work with somebody really ultimately you want you want is
change results, right? You want your life to be different. You're
at point A, you want to get to point B. And oftentimes, what's
introduced to clients are things that are beyond their comfort
zone, right? So as an example, let's say you're somebody who's
never stepped foot in the gym, you've never attempted a diet
in your life, you work full time, you got kids, you're busy,
all these things. And your coach says, All right, Jackson, I want
you in the gym five days a week for an hour at a time. I want
you eating like this, you're going to go to bed at this time
drink this much water, like, that's a lot of change, very,
very rapidly. And it's hard to implement that for a sustained
period of time because it's so different, right? So when I get
four kids and you don't see how fun. Yeah, right. Exactly. And
then somehow the trainers like always never have kids like
they're always because you know, younger, whatever, they don't
get it. But the idea is when I work with folks is the acronym
like to use a seal SCAL, which is simple, easy and almost
laughable. So when we look at Okay, what are you really
trying to achieve? Like is it is it weight loss? Do you want to
get stronger? Are you just trying to improve your health
overall? The idea is want to come up with habits, things you
can follow that are simple, easy, almost laughable. And the
idea is you want to kind of build that slow momentum over
time. And the reason for this is the analogy I like to use is
your brain is kind of like a like a thermostat, right? So
you have a default temp that you're set to that you operate
at in your daily life. And maybe those listening have been there
or have experienced the this themselves is that let's say you
begin to gain a little weight, right? And you wake up in the
morning and you look in the mirror, you go, Oh, gosh, I got
to do something, right. So your mental thermostat says, Hey,
this is I'm outside of my normal, I have to start working
out and lose this weight. But it also works the other way. Or if
you take yourself off the gas a little bit, right, you might say,
Okay, I have now lost the weight, I'm doing pretty good.
I'm going to have a piece of cheesecake, I'm going to, you
know, not go to the gym, skip a day, whatever. And you bring
yourself back to that default. So what I'm interested in is
getting people to shift that default into a healthier zone,
healthier lifestyle overall, how do we do that, we do that
through small sustained change over long periods of time. So
it's not it's not the sexiest thing on the planet, right? It's
a little slow going to me though, and people like me so
just yeah, you're speaking, you know, your kindred spirit. But
the idea is like, that's the kind of stuff where like, I have
clients who've lost anywhere from 10 to 15 years old, right?
10 to over 100 pounds, and have never found it again, right?
Like they've lost it, it's gone, they've kept it off for years.
And the whole reason for that is because we made these small
sustainable changes. As you stack those habits, they all
kind of feed one another, right? Like if you're going to bed,
and having eight hours of quality sleep versus the six
used to get, well, now you've got more energy, right? Body's
functioning better, you can hit your workouts harder, you're not
as hungry during the day, like it all everything, as Stan would
say, I mentioned Stan earlier, he always says, when you improve
everything, everything improves, right? So we want to have those
little sustained changes in those various areas and kind of
bring everything up to where you want to be. So that's how we do
it.
Well, I love that. Thank you. All right, let's talk about your
vision. What's your vision for you, Joe?
For sure. Yeah, I mean, my my vision ultimately, is to be the
example, and the invitation for what's possible in terms of
living like a fulfilled, awesome life. So I like to make sure I
focus on, you know, all areas like my own health, physically
and emotionally, my relationships, my relationship
to time, like how I manage my day, my finances, my mission, my
vision, and also celebrating, like giving back and things like
that. And, you know, I set little goals for myself in each
of those areas. But ultimately, what it is, is like, if I can
maximize that, I really just want to be somebody that people
can, you know, look up to say, Hey, like, I think what you're
doing is cool. Like, how can I do that? And not from a place of
significance, you know, that's not something where I want to
impose my model of the world onto other people. But show them
that maybe there is a different option, you know, there is
another way to go about, you know, living a fulfilled life.
So that's, that's my personal vision for myself.
I love that. And I love that you just, you talked about being an
example. And you talked about not imposing that upon people.
Talk to me about why you want to be an example for others. What
does that mean to you?
Yeah, I mean, first and foremost, I mean, you're a dad
too. I have a 18 month old son. And, you know, ever ever since
the day he was born, like, all I think about all day is like,
Hey, am I setting the best example? You know, am I somebody
my son can look up to and say, like that, that's my dad, you
know, like, I want to be like him, like that kind of stuff.
And, you know, there's an essence of that, in the people
that I work with, and I help, right? Like, who am I to give
advice or guide somebody on a path if I'm not walking it
myself, right? So, you know, it's something where when
someone comes to work with me, they say, Hey, Joe, I want to
lean out, I want to get a little bit stronger. It's like, well, I
better be leaner and getting strong. So it's, it's really
kind of setting that example for first and foremost, for my son.
But for the folks I help as well and showing them like, Hey, this
is this is possible, like what you're looking to do is possible.
And I'm living it right now. And you can too. And we're going to
do it together.
Right, you're taking the medicine that you're putting out
there. That's neat. All right, let's dive into a dark subject.
So what's the worst leadership experience that you've ever had?
Yeah, that's a, that's a great question. And honestly, like in
reading this one, there are a couple that came to mind. And I
think, honestly, like, I'm gonna I'm gonna go back a number of
years, and actually relate it to music, like, I know you're a
musician. And so myself, I before I ever found the weight
room after college, I was very into drums, like through high
school through college, very big into drumming. And I had a drum
teacher for a short period of time. And he's one of those guys
who I like, just a natural, just a natural musician, you put
sticks in his hands, he could play it like he could run it
down. No problem. The problem was when he was teaching other
people, he just expected everybody to like be able to do
it. But there was no like, you there's no way you could never
practice enough to catch up to him in terms of like how just
how talented he was. But there was no like, compassion or
understanding for the fact that like, there's normal humans
here that need to like work this stuff out before it even gets to
a level of being acceptable that you will take, you know what I
mean? And so what what it took basically was a really fun
activity, and turned it into something where a lot of the
people who were you know, in the group with me were like, they
would not look forward to rehearsals or to practice
because it's like, we're just gonna get crushed every single
time. And so what ended up happening was the focus shifted
to like, what you're not achieving, versus what we were
achieving. And it was as demoralizing, you know, that was
probably like, to me, that's not a leader, right? A leader, I
think we talked about this previously, like to me, a
leader is measured not by how many people follow them, but
how many leaders they create. And if you're not inspiring
people to like, step up beyond their comfort zone, if you're
not comfortable as a leader, letting people excel you, like
that's an issue, in my opinion. Yes, it is. You eventually feel
that hopefully. If not, if you're not feeling it at 60,
sometimes you feel it at 80. If you're not feeling at 80, you
might feel it at 90. Yeah, right. And that's not where I
want to be. You know, as a leader, I want to be able to
learn from that. Did you see the movie whiplash? No, I didn't.
Usually people ask me if I saw drum lines. I'm glad you didn't
ask that one. No, whiplash is a way cooler, more intense movie.
Very, very intense. But it's, it is important to recognize, you
know, are we, are we actually delivering what's best for
people? Yeah, as we serve them, and there's a fine line between
helping people progress. And like you said, demoralizing them,
where you do it on accident or not, it's kind of the difference
in a great leader, and somebody who's trying to be a great
leader, you know, we have to get on the right side of the line
for that for relationships to be wholesome. Yes. Thank you for
that example. Let's have into the opposite territory. What's
the best leadership experience that you've ever had? Yeah,
also a great question. And I think, you know, truthfully, it
probably has come from my time with Peter, my mentor that I
mentioned earlier. And, you know, I went through a
mentorship program that that he had, it was a six month program.
And in essence, like, you know, I want him on the show and he
is on the show now, right? Oh, dude, I'll get you I'll get you
connected. No worries. He's a man. But in in it was in the
time in that program. One, I went in with no expectation,
like I was all right, let's just it all it kind of happened like
during COVID, right? So lockdown starting, I'm like, well, I'm
gonna be home for a little while. So might as well just
like sign up for this thing. And I got on board and just like
watching how he would like, work with the group how he would
handle, you know, what were tough situations. I mean, we
were we were pushed out of our comfort zone during this time,
like, really kind of handling things that may have been tough
emotionally, mentally, etc. In a positive way, we're working
through them productively. But it was something where I watched
him no matter who it was, no matter what their question was,
their circumstance, he always held a genuine space for that
person. No judgment. Like it was not like, you know, when you're
talking to somebody and they're and they're thinking of like the
next thing they're gonna say, and you can see it in their eyes
before like while you're trying to talk, I'm guilty. Yeah, same.
But none of that, like he would wait till they were done. He
would let it sit for a sec. And then he would chime in with like
the perfect, perfect like solution or like question or
whatever. And I really I was just so impressed. Like, it
almost seemed to me, like he was doing far less than a typical
maybe maybe less experienced leader would be doing right.
Right. A lot of times people can like work out their own issue.
They just need to like talk through it a little bit, you
know, and, and getting to see him do that, like in action for
six months straight, you know, for like hours every week. It
was really like, like, wow, like, that's cool. That's a
leader I want to emulate. It was really, really cool.
That's amazing. That reminds me to go into my next topic. No,
Jared Button, who came on the show, he's a coach as well. And
he has a very literal, like viewable version of doing what
you're talking about. Yeah, taking that time and that space.
And I think a lot of podcasts or, you know, media entities
might have a hard time with that space because they want the
viewers, you know, to not have any any lull in the show or in a
conversation. And I would love to ask Pete, you know, I would
love to ask Peter is, is that something that was an innate
gift, you know, that he was just kind of blessed with? Or did he
learn to exercise that? Because I think you can learn to exercise
that and may look effortless. And perhaps it becomes effortless
after 10,000 reps, right? But is there a tremendous amount of
selfless power, self awareness, awareness of others? You know,
if I say something with a certain tone, or I'm looking at
what you're talking to me in a certain way, that's going to
dramatically shift the effectiveness or the direction of
our conversation. And as you become aware of those realities,
sounds like he's like become ultra ultra aware, but maybe it
was an innate gift. Have you asked him?
It so I okay, I'm not gonna I won't answer for him. But I'm
gonna tell you what I think he would say. He would say it is 100%
learned. So he kind of tells stories because he he didn't
finish high school, like he went right into like his own business
thing, like he was always an entrepreneur. And he definitely
has talked about their early on in his in his career, like
periods of time where he was just not a nice person to be. He
was not not the leader he is today for sure. I would imagine
like, you know, he's had a whole series of mentors, I'm sure his
time with Tony was a humongous influence as far as that's
concerned. That's really like I'm going through leadership
track with them right now. And they teach a lot of that it's
like, you know, holding space and not imposing your model the
world and all that kind of stuff. And, and you can I mean,
you could see like, if, if it's a learn, I think it's a learn
skill, like you can learn it. You watch Peter do it, you're
like that dude's put in the hours like, right.
That's so cool. And I'm glad you also referenced a situation
opportunity. Sometimes I mean, I overlooked this for most of my
guests, it's not like they didn't. But the wisdom just drew
to me of like, you got to experience that for those six
weeks period you mentioned, like in day in and day out getting to
see it. The repetition is so valuable. And to see a leader
lead that well, right with that type of an intricate example
says that there's got to be a ton of other lessons that were
learned along the way. So
oh my gosh, I like I literally have a couple notebooks like
just chock full of like that I wrote I was my pen was like
smoking, you know, writing, writing, writing. So yeah, lots
of insights, lots of distinctions and to the point
I made earlier, right, like, he inspired me to want to like, it
continued to push out of my comfort zone to be more of a
leader, be a better leader, you know, serve the people that I
serve at a higher level. So I think that it's awesome for
itself, you know,
it's huge. Absolutely. So if this were the last chance you
had to ever share a lesson with visionaries leaders, what
powerful lesson kind of visionaries learn from your
experience, Joe?
Who you just come you just come, come kicking the door down with
a good question.
Not light and easy. No way.
I know. I know. I know.
So yeah, sorry, let me get you centered again. Okay. Power
lesson.
I'm in I'm in.
Last one.
So I think, honestly, probably the one I do think about this
often myself, and one that I, you know, I share with folks if
it comes up, you know, I don't don't impose but, but something
where oftentimes people are chasing happiness or money or
whatever, like they're looking for something, right. And
ultimately, if you want to have like a fulfilled life, and you
want to tick all the boxes and do do your thing, you have to do
your thing, you have to live life authentically. And so if
you're trying to like chase somebody else's dream, or you
became a doctor, because your parents made you do it or
whatever, like, you're destined to have a tough ride, like at
some point in time, it's going to catch up, and you're going
to find yourself not happy midlife crisis, whatever it is.
And so if you're listening to this out there, and you're
saying to yourself, like, Hey, I want more out of life, or I know
I'm not on the path I want to be on, like, you know, what do I
do? What do I do? If you just stay true to who you are, like,
walk your truth, be authentic to you, those answers will come up.
You can invest, you know, your time and resources into doing
that thing. And I guarantee you like you're going to have an
awesome fulfilled life doesn't mean you're not going to have
problems, or hurdles or obstacles, those things are all
part of the game. But fundamentally, like you need to
do, you don't need to do anything, but you need to do is
true to you, you know what I mean? It's kind of staying
focused on what's authentically yours. And I think that's
something that, and I, you know, I've talked about that a lot
with Peter, honestly, I know I keep bringing him up. But once
I kind of leaned into that, like, dude, like, business
exploded, relationships are better, like, finances were
better, like everything got better. And I honestly feel
like I'm doing less, which sounds crazy. But I'm just being
more of me. And it's, it's, it's, it's been huge. And so
that's probably the one thing I would put out there is like, if
you're not following your path, you know, get on it, like, get
on that thing and do what speaks to you speaks to your heart. And
you won't regret it.
I love that. That's, I've said that phrase too many times in
this show. But it's authentic. It's where my body is
authentically taking me on these responses. Yeah, that that
quote, the cool thing about your powerful lesson and quote, is
it's actually a clear reflection of your acronym, SEAL. Yeah,
the simple, easy and laughable, right. So for it apply that to
life, that authenticity factor diving into our authentic self,
getting centered around that, you know, that is, yeah, that's
one of those if I were to give that that were the last piece of
advice I gave to my children, then I would be very grateful
that that was the last thing that I said, because it is so
easy to get distracted from that, you know, and feel like
you have to fit into other people's buckets. And you talked
about the reality of man that you carry that for decades. We
all see the stories, you know, of people who then regret where
they're at. And I'll double down on the the reality that you did
you also you didn't allude to it. You said directly, it's so
gonna be hard. Yeah, you know, the authenticity aspect. And I
will also double down the virtue you said, I believe with you,
that if you if you live authentically, you won't regret
it. You might want to regret it. You might at times feel like
I'm going to regret this. You know, there might be some doubt,
but as you exercise that muscle and you know, of authenticity,
and you feed it, you nurture it, it becomes more and more free.
And like you said, you feel so much more empowered. So thank
you for that gift.
Can I can I share one little like thing? No, no, for sure. And
I think something that can can help with that, right? Because
if people say like, oh, like authenticity, like, what does
that mean? Right? Like, you just start by stop, do stop doing
things that are inauthentic, right? Like, hey, if you if you're
worried, people are gonna think of you or think of how you look
right at like, try and drop that right? Stay true to you. But
like you said, these these obstacles problems are going to
come up. If you can try this is the thing I want to share, you
can try to detach yourself from the how, like how it's going to
play out, because you can't predict all that stuff, your
brain does not know what the future holds. And if it did,
you'd be bored out of your mind, because you'd know everything
that was going on. Right? So like, I, here's a perfect
example. Okay. I my wife, go ahead, hit your yeah, check this
out. So my wife and I went to high school together, same grade
graduated together. acquaintances like barely knew
each other. Okay. Go off to college, she goes up to college.
We graduate college, never we never talking this entire time.
Okay, 10 years after we graduate college, I get a Facebook
message and a friend request from her. And it's like, Hey, I
see that you're a couple towns over. I'm a couple towns over.
How you been? It's been like 10 years, blah, blah, blah. And I
go, I know, I know, Brianne, like, so I start chatting with
her. And we went on one date. And that was it. Like we've been
together ever since. And that was almost eight years ago. Okay.
Could I have predicted that the my wife I was going to meet, she
was going to slide into my DMs, you know what I mean? And like,
no, I could never predict that. But if I spent my time trying to
figure out the exact way that's supposed to play out, I would
lose my mind. Right? So if you're just being true to you,
walking your path, things are going to come up that seem like
they shouldn't be there, or their obstacles or their
problems. But you don't know that thing could be the next
event that propels you closer to your goal. Right? So like, just
like, if you can remind yourself, it's all unfolding the
way it's supposed to.
And that's another hard part is letting go of the goal to
sometimes realizing that you might have defined not an
authentic goal, but an adequate goal. Yeah, for your situation.
Right. So as visionaries, the idea is to gain the principles
and what we're talking about, and not become addicted to the
story, right, the outcome of somebody else. What's fun is,
this led to a different, I'm not one upping guys, back, you'll
you'll see this very fast. This is the exact this is a one down
if you will. My wife and I, my first wife, we met, and she was
in my first ex, the first mother, my children, it's so
hard to define in today's world people judge, you know, where
so with that, we met at university, we grew up and she
ate lunch with my best friend growing up, I didn't meet her.
We met in another another state at university, right, I disengaged
completely. I slipped into her DMS asking for her homework to
help me she sent it to me. You know, I forgot all about that
years later, we come back together and I asked her out
and she's asked her name was and she said, Yeah, we met five
times. And I was like, Oh, do you want to go out? That's very
short. I couldn't have predicted that eight years later, we would
go from happily married to divorce. Yeah. You know, and I
could not have predicted that would open the doors for myself
or my second marriage. Yep, where I had my fourth child, you
know, and I've kind of predicted that that marriage would end the
divorce. You know, like, one could say there's a pattern
established, it usually takes more than two to establish a
pattern of some type. But nonetheless, I had a lot of
leadership things to learn. I had a lot of opportunities to
learn about authenticity along the way. So you mentioned taking
small steps towards authenticity, I think it's one of
the greatest, most important nurturing councils that people
can receive is an it's okay. And it is it can be scary. I have
never in my life grown my hair out. Really scared the scares
today living crap out of me. Like every day is a challenge.
Well, related to that. Yeah. You know, I wanted straight hair. I
and I've got these curls. You know, I'm trying to figure out
how to do something with every day. Right. And and it doesn't
it doesn't stress me is on the end of the world first world
problems, right? To think about
at least you have hair minds like I can't do what you're
doing. I get to make new jokes that people are like, I'm hiding
mine, brother.
You're stealing mine. That's what you're doing. My head and
jumping on the ears.
And so you know, I go to a family event, and my uncle comes
up to me, my hair was way shorter, and it's half this
length and he goes, Whoa, look at the ugly. I mean, my inner
child soul was shattering. But my 35 year old self with it and
was like, it's okay. You're all right. It's just different. Oh,
I mean, you can now survive these realities. But we, we
have so many things around us that are that we're even
unaware of that are inauthentic. I was telling my son that he
couldn't grow his hair out. Because I didn't feel like it
was appropriate due to, you know, like my religion, like
paradigms, or what? No, it wasn't. It was because I felt
awkward about my own hair. Right. And stepping into that
allowing myself to go into something so small, so
intangible, you know, something that most people will be like,
well, he, why would he care? Why would he have any trepidation or
insecurities? No, like I had time. So you bring up something
that I just hope more and it was JP Sears is the champion and
king of authenticity that got me to open up and realize like,
wow, and he's that redheaded comedian who makes all those
mock videos on YouTube. And as he talked about his TED talk and
stepping into his authentic self, I was like, thank you.
Yeah, 34. When I was like, I want to do I want to step more
into who I am. Yeah. So you can do it anytime. Maybe you're 66
and you need to come and preach on my on my mic that that you
can do it at six, too. But man, that was profound wisdom. Thank
you. Thank you again for that.
Dude, thank thank you. This is been so much fun to get to chat.
It is. And so we're going to dive into more of how you're
showing up and how you're serving and what your programs
look like. Well, we bring some of that up on the screen as
well. I want you to guide me on this. Whatever questions you
feel are also most appropriate to ask. You're going to know
better for our audience, how you can relate to their success and
I will so the time is yours, Joe.
Yeah, for sure. And I appreciate that. And so personally, myself,
so I know I kind of say like health and wellness coach.
Traditionally, I work with a lot of clients that are like weight
loss clients. That's kind of who I attend. What people who want
to lose weight, and they're generally like, you know, 30 to
50 tend to gravitate toward me. I don't, I haven't quite figured
out why I think mostly because I'm like, I'm not the drill
instructor type coach, like, I'm very much like that guy, big
brother friend that's gonna help you through it. But I work with
work with individuals a lot and also work with companies as well
doing like employee wellness initiatives and think programs
and things like that. So mostly with small mid sized companies
of really any industry. I've had everything this this point up to
manufacturing,
I mean, people's bodies and the manufacturing company are kind
of similar to people's bodies and accounting. Okay.
Yeah, right. Yeah. Well, hey, they probably both have low back
pain.
For that. Sure. But we do, you know, do go through really kind
of any industry and help folks with that. But the big
overarching theme is a more habit based approach. And like
I said earlier, something where, you know, we can focus on maybe
one thing for a week or two weeks, and really like achieve it
at a high level. So as an example, we might say, okay,
Jackson, maybe come to me and you say, Hey, Joe, like, it's in
total summertime, I want to lean out a little bit, but I don't
want to weigh and measure all my food. I don't want to, you
know, be like, we're meticulous with it. I just don't have the
time, whatever the deal is.
Speaking of
right. So I say, Okay, why don't we focus on eating slower?
Right? Like most people tend to like just wolf down their food
and off they go. And that's that. But if we eat slower,
there's all sorts of benefits, you're going to feel yourself
getting fuller sooner, you're more mindful of what you're
eating, because you got to stare at it for longer, right? You're
asking the question, like, do I really need to be eating this
right now? Because you're, you know, stand at the food, but
also to you get a chance to like, you know, engage with the
people around you and like, enjoy the the breaking of bread
that you're having with these people. So there's all sorts of
benefits. We might say let's let's focus on that. Okay. Well,
by eating slower, you're also going to be eating less just
because you're going to feel that fullness response as it
hits you versus you stuffed your face and then 20 minutes later,
like, Oh, my gosh, I wish I wore sweatpants, right. So once we
kind of get that down, and you feel comfortable, and you're
able to do that consistently, and we say, Okay, what's the
next area we should focus on? Hey, maybe you're not sleeping
so great. Let's stack that on top of it. And over the time,
that, you know, people say, like, it's not a diet, it's a
lifestyle, we literally create the lifestyle, we build it.
It's not, Hey, I'm going to take this square peg and jam it around
whole and hope that it sticks. It's no, we're going to kind of
just massage this thing. And as hurdles come up, we're going to
work through it. I tend for me, personally, as a coach, I use a
lot of like, NLP or neuro linguistic programming, if
you're familiar with that at all, to kind of help with the
mental side of things. So people say like, Hey, I just I can't
help but you know, reach for candy or whatever their craving
is, like they can't stop the urges. That's when we get into
more like, kind of deeper dive higher technique stuff to say,
Hey, like, you have you know, you overeat ice cream, we're
going to eliminate that we're going to draw like, in less than
an hour, we're going to sit down, we're going to crush it
right there. And then cool, check the box, we're done with
that move on, go to the next thing. And so what ends up
happening is, you have these clients who, you know, in a
relatively short period of time, they get a matter of a couple
of months, their life is on a very different trajectory. And
they don't feel like they're on a diet, or they've made a big
change. You know, I do I do have some people who come to me who
say, Hey, like I'm prepping for a, you know, competition of
some sort of powerlifting or Olympic lifting. So obviously,
I'm a lot more reticulous in what we're doing. Or maybe they
are open to weighing and measuring their food, they're
more kind of like type A, and they want to track everything.
That's great. We'll do that. But by and large, the folks that I
tend to work with, you know, they're busy, their parents,
they got all these things going on, they don't want to have
another like big thing they have to worry about. So we focus on
it from that perspective. And the shifts are just, just
incredible, like the city's people, like, they make the
shift in their body and their mind, you know, mentally and
emotionally. It's, it's some of the most rewarding work I've
ever done, honestly.
You know, I was lucky to read the one minute manager. Yeah. So
that that book, I wasn't a manager wasn't working in
corporate. I was kind of, you know, I'm a studio manager, if
you will. But just the process of of learning, like, oh, just
make one change for week for 52 weeks, and you make 52 changes
on the year, that will drive better results. You also
mentioned earlier, people getting demoralized. And I
remember the shift, the dramatic shift took my life to strip to
learn about Strengths Finder 2.0. Oh, yeah, yeah. And that
book talks to you about focusing on the five strengths rather
than the five things you suck at. Yeah. And how that empowers
you. Yeah, I learned it from these weird. Well, that's not
really that's a very direct resource. The first one was
indirect. And then Darren Hardy, years later came out with the
book, the compound effect. And the compound effect had some I
had almost got living with us. And I had him read that book.
And he would summarize the book to me one chapter, someone
chapter per day. And so it's a fun way to learn and expand what
I was consuming, without also having to be the one who read
it directly. Yeah. And that book again, talks about those simple
steps and the trajectory change that we can make. That's, that's
a fantastic way to create long term results. I couldn't agree
more. So that so you do that for people you said in the in the
diet space and the health and wellness. And the is this
something you do worldwide? Is this something you do through
zoom? Or is this something that has to be in person? How does
that work? Yeah, great question. No, it's it's totally online. So
I got my start actually coaching at a CrossFit gym over 10 years
ago. And basically, like just to kind of give you the background
sort of it. So like I said, I'm online, but that's
I was in a you know, like in music, like I was drumming and
stuff, right. And so got out of college, I was overweight myself.
And I started going to this CrossFit gym. And within about
six months, I got good results. And the owner is like, dude, he
goes, you're here all the time. I can't get rid of you. People
seem to like you a lot. Would you want to be a coach? And I
was like, Absolutely. And I just like fell into it. And so it
ended up happening was I had friends of friends and people
who physically weren't in the area couldn't be there. They're
like, Hey, can you like just give me some pointers over the
phone or whatever. So I joke I was I was online coaching like
before it was cool 10 years ago, and doing that whole thing. And
then my wife and I had moved and I decided to stop coaching at
that gym, but just kept the online thing going. And that's
when I have the corporate thing kind of, you know, sort of
taken off some more. So everything I do, long story
short, is is online. So I have clients, mostly in the States,
some in Canada, I have some in the UK, one in Iceland, one in
two in Switzerland, it's like kind of spread out, but mostly
concentrated in the States. Well, right. And that's the nice
thing about what you do is it's available. Somebody wants it,
then they can they can participate and use it. It was
really interesting when Ben Mullen came on the show. This
was I'm glad I remembered his last name. This was one of our
first episodes. And this young man from New Zealand or
Australia. Sorry. One of those two. He was up at like, four in
the morning to be there for our for our podcast pre show. And I
was like, dude, this kid's getting after like, he's not
willing to make any excuses. He's willing to show up for the
opportunity that he knew was right for him. And so we as
people, we all have the opportunity to say, you know,
what, I want more of this in my life. Oh, I mean, I'll let me
make the let me take the actions necessary to get that. So Joe
Villegas, this was awesome. Super happy that you came on the
show. Everybody is listening, we're gonna do our best to make
sure that all the the available action steps are in the show
notes. So after you've heard this, look down below that and
you'll see that we've got the action steps there. Of course,
that means checking out the TV program that Joe has seen what
types of programs is coming out, we'll update those two as long
as Joe gets us those resources, we want to make sure that you're
able to move as efficiently as possible in your next steps,
because that's what being a visionary and fulfilling your
visions is all about is knowing what actions to take. But then
also making sure that you take the actions. And sometimes it's
easier a little bit of hand up to do so. Also on our show,
you'll notice on the landing page in the top right corner is
a button that says be our guest. If you have a guest, you're a
guest, if you have a vision, and you're out there striving to
help other people, and you know, you're going about it with great
leadership skills. And that doesn't mean you have to be John
Maxwell, John Maxwell, you're welcome on our show, too, though. But you
may be, you know, a local community leader, you may be a
stay at home mom or stay at home dad. And that's your vision. If
it's of if it's of service to others, if it's something that's
going to help people become better, what they do is and don't
hesitate to apply for the show. We don't have like accolades or
false senses of authority that are required to join us on the
show. We're looking for great people who are willing to help
out all those who are in need. Joe, you've done a phenomenal job
of doing that today. So thanks so much for joining us.
Thank you so much for having me. It's been an absolute pleasure.
And yeah, I hope the folks listening get something out of it
and just really excited to be here. So thanks again.
We will all get out of it, what we put into it and what we want
to get out of it. So everybody have a fantastic rest of your
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