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Dalbeaty. OK, so for those who know, my my brother's been.

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So that's cool. I have to ask him if he went there or knows where that's at.

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OK, and so you just hosted a retreat this weekend for four women

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who came out. What did you guys do at the retreat?

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And they paint a brick in my garden wall to leave their mark on the place.

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And then they choose the types of creativity.

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for their plan and their vision and go away with a 12 week plan.

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I love that. It was so fun talking to you in the pre show.

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It's been what, two months now? One month? Yeah, yeah.

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It's like two weeks ago, but you know, life just doing so many great things.

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I hope we make sure to do it justice and show exactly like what's going on

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in the castle, how you're going about helping people with their visions.

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I was I was just fascinated with how you brought your own story to life.

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So we'll dive into that in a minute for the visionaries who are listening here early.

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was The Magnificent Seven, the film, and the leadership in there

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is fascinating and the relationships.

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Magnificent Seven. Yeah.

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It's an old film, but it's literally it's one of the best examples of of leadership.

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That's great. What else?

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It then runs as a freebie for a year.

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from the backside of that.

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Like this is one of the most unique visions we've ever had.

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All right. Welcome in to Vision Pros Live with Jackson Calame.

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Hey, what's up?

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Welcome in to Vision Pros Live.

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I'm your show host, Jackson Calame, founder and CEO of First Class Business.

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And I'm excited to have Mandy Nicholson on on today.

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We've got a castle owner.

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She has a three story castle in Scotland.

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You know, why? Why would you like it?

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move their visions forward.

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That's what the show's all about for crying out loud.

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and we hear about her leadership skills and more than learn more from the

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I want to talk about some resources that have been a big, huge help to me.

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One of them is the last spot with Melissa Gray.

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So Melissa Gray and I'm I'm super honest about this.

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I almost didn't do the show with Melissa because I didn't want a lawyer on my show.

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It's like, man, attorneys are always

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pretentious and they're always like, they kind of send it you and you never feel

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good after talking to them. And that was an overgeneralization.

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Melissa to come on because she's a nurturer who understands that legal does

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not have to be complicated and since moving into well, since being on our show,

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she then became a client and then she became such a great client.

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We became strategic partners and as strategic partners, I call her my silo now.

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I was like, wow, that was a chief legal officer position.

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Like, man, I hadn't considered the fact that businesses need that.

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And I say duh, because that is like the nature of entrepreneurship.

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When you reach the wisdom of understand entrepreneurship is hard and there's a

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lot of moving elements every day, it kind of becomes like, wow, I didn't know.

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I didn't know that either.

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And you never run out of those opportunities as we grow.

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to be there to protect your brand when you face twenty thousand dollar trademark

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lawsuit like I did. We won that.

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So those those are, again, elements that I don't want any of you to go through.

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But I also know in this world, you will face challenges as you build your brand.

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Then there's recovery unplugged.

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They're not a client.

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Never paid me anything for the sponsorship.

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I just love what Andrew Sosin has built with recovery unplugged because I know

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how many people out there struggle with addictions.

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looking for substances that fill in the gaps and bridge the gap.

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I highly recommend calling their hotline and getting some professional advice

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on how to help that person while we're going about building our visions and doing

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all the fun things in life.

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I think we should also take time to look at how can we help and support those who

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are in our life, as well as for some of those entrepreneurs out there who are

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very much dealing with addictive habits of their own.

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We do have those vices as entrepreneurs.

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None of us are too good to get help.

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So there's there's that program.

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Then there's the water project.

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I will never run the show without talking about something like the water project.

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Why? Because I've never had to worry about where I was going to get my next cup

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of water in my life.

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I've been thirsty, but not for very long.

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There are millions of people in this world who do not even have access to that

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basic resource. And while that's that can be heartbreaking,

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it's also an opportunity for us to step up and help.

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What I love about the water project is when you donate to one of those causes,

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you actually get to see the outcome.

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You get to see the fulfillment of what it was that you gave.

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And seeing kids and families celebrate water like my kids celebrate Christmas.

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experience, it can also be one that you can choose to allow to uplift you,

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knowing that you just made an impact that is probably going to affect and help

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generations of individuals.

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If you're not in the position to give back financially, that's OK.

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you might just share this with your friends in general and say, you know what?

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Maybe we could all do a little bit more in relation to helping the world.

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If somebody particular came to mind,

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I'm telling you that is a very important prompting somebody that you can tag.

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They may just have a ripple effect of sharing it.

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It may not impact them in a way that's tangible at all.

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And I do hope that you share that project because again, there are people with much

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greater needs than you and I have who don't even have the ability to listen to

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this show, but do have the need for water.

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Mandy, it is my honor to have you here.

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Thank you so much for joining me.

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Thank you for having me.

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I got it right in.

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What is the vision for those that you serve?

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The vision for those that I serve is to get themselves off the poverty line and be

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taken seriously as artists and creatives because we have that undercurrent,

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that underlying belief that the poor artists are starving artists in society.

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And their vision isn't millionaire or it's just to earn enough.

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Yes. So getting them, that is their vision, you said, is to earn enough.

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And you're wanting to take them where?

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Let's dive into the further side of that,

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because I'm glad you set the base because it's hard to move to where we want to go

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I just want to earn this.

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I love plant analogies of science, right?

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Because I can predict the result of most scientific realities.

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That's not farming.

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That's not what you do.

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You need to give it more, not drown it.

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That's not a green thumb strategy.

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The exact way that you said it, we were saying, well, I just need this.

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So somebody who's moving from, you know, I just need this to, you know, OK, there's more for me.

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charity based, but also can earn income.

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What's bigger than this?

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What's bigger than what you're doing that you can't even imagine at the moment that we can get you leaving here with?

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And she's left with a much bigger vision of like, how big is community?

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I said, what about the big lottery fund?

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What about something really, really big?

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So that's what she's gone away with.

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making space for those who are figuring it out.

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I'm talking and I'm not talking about coaches.

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I'm talking about consultants.

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I'm talking about therapists, et cetera.

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And there's so many leaders out there right now.

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I'm telling you, if you meet a leader tomorrow or today or if you're guilty of

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doing this, the good news is you can change right away.

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You're that one who's saying, you know, oh, there's all these super young life

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coaches out in the market. What do they know about life?

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You know, or they say, oh, you know,

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there's so many coaches flooding the market that don't know what they're doing.

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What what you're revealing is your own inferiority complex that you feel unsafe,

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that you're in your or you're taking advantage of a market because trying to

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trying to propose that this false sense of authority that you are the qualified

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and they are not like we're all learning along this path.

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So I love that you acknowledge that she was, you know,

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she was going through something difficult, therefore solved her problem.

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She solved the opportunity to learn how to help others.

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That's leadership to me at its absolute best.

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Do you mind you feel free to combat what I said about inferiority complex and elite

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coaches, elites that act like that or double down?

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No, I think there's always questionable people in every single area of life, isn't

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there, but it's only questionable based on your perception of the world.

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If you accept that everybody's got something to offer.

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I have worked with a coach who really

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couldn't even get me, but still taught me how I didn't want to do things.

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And you've got to be able to accept that and be able to learn from that.

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Haven't you?

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I have an opportunity to, you know, and that's the big reality there.

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So I would rather I wish that more leaders,

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instead of burning people who are learning along the way and condescending at those

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who are working on becoming great, would be more inviting like you to create

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a stage for others to to find success and to build up.

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So let's dive into your vision, Mandy.

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What do you see for yourself on the horizon?

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Um, yeah, that's a big question because I've done so much in the last few years

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with actually getting here, so I see I see me just cementing what I'm

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doing and continuing to help people at the minute.

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I don't see anything other than what am I doing for retirement?

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Do I want a little cottage on the side of a lot where I write books and I paint and

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I, you know, really take some time for me and I travel the world.

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And I've got a bucket list, very long

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bucket list of all the art galleries I still haven't seen.

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So there's kind of that now that's appearing on my vision.

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I'm not frightened to change my vision, not frightened to completely.

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Who knows what's going to come up in the next couple of years?

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If there's one thing I've learned over the last 10 years is vision changes.

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That's right. That's right.

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It doesn't matter. Like if I'm looking at you, I have one vision,

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literally again, back to the science.

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And if I turn around, I'm looking to live on James and a guitar.

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Right. So vision is that malleable and we get to choose.

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We can be intentional about choosing where do we focus our vision?

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What do we want? And it is not wrong.

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In fact, everything is right about positive change.

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So that's that's beautiful.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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Let's dive into a darker subject.

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What is the worst leadership experience that you've ever had?

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Worst leadership experience.

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I suppose that was when I was starting out as a young manager in retail.

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I was the only female manager.

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And then I became the best in the company.

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And then I was the only female divisional executive.

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And the worst leadership experience,

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I would say, that sticks in my memory was coming back from maternity leave.

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And I was still breastfeeding my baby.

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And my line manager asked me how much longer I would be doing that for,

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because I would need to stop away for meetings and things.

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And that for me was probably it sticks so much in my memory of, you know what?

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I'm the only female divisional executive here.

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I was the only female manager for a decade.

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And what about cadence and tone baked into that, though?

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You know, there wasn't like a nurturing like, hey, I understand.

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It was very like it was how long are you going to be doing this for?

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It's an irritant. Yeah.

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It's a long way.

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You know, it's not the there are extremes, of course.

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You know, there's violence on the opposite path of like, whoa,

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this is horrific leadership, which is really just horrific force.

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I don't think there's leadership involved in that.

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Usually, like you talked about, the worst

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leadership is the subtle mistake of revealing

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that true dark character of like, I'm not actually here for the right reasons.

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I'm not actually doing things in a way that honors the people that I serve.

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We at First Class Business, we are rally cry now as a full appreciation

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for family and personal well-being in the workplace.

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And that preposition is very intentional, like in not outside of not.

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Oh, yeah, my kids are separate, but if they walk in, I'm going to freak out and panic.

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You know, no, no, no.

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Like, my kids are welcome in my business.

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Your kids are welcome in my business.

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Your well-being, Matt, like that that type of full appreciation.

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It's it's sorely missing in the world of business, even even today.

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And there are a lot of great leaders who are working on that.

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So I appreciate you sharing that because a lot of people are going to benefit from.

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Knowing that even just knowing the story and realizing like, oh, wow, you know,

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maybe I haven't made space for that yet or thought about it.

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Very powerful.

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What is your best leadership experience that you've ever had?

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And I suppose my best leadership experience would be

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one of my one of my direct managers called Alan Rowe.

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He was amazing. He was my division executive.

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He brought me from Scotland to England as a store manager and gave me took a real

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risk on me, I suppose, and his leadership was subtle and encouraging and humorous.

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You know, he brought me into his office once and said, sit down.

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And I was like, OK.

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And he said, I thought you said you were good with stock results.

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You know, you sold yourself to me and I said, I am.

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He said, well, I've got your stock results in front of me.

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I was like, OK.

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And he said, it's it's the best in the country.

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he just had that about him and he taught me so much and he taught me

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to believe in myself because I was working in a place of misogyny.

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And, you know, he he just didn't like that.

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And he supported me 100 percent.

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And he's the reason I suppose I am the leader I am today.

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Oh, that's amazing.

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And that positive reinforcement, you know, there's I guess there's people out there

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who aren't in tune with the love language of affirmations.

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Right. And that's not their love language.

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They don't. My mom hates it, actually.

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She she doesn't want to hear it.

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She wants to see it.

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You know, that's that's how she is.

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And I'm the opposite.

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I got to hear it.

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Or like, you know, the service doesn't do it for me.

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And I'm like, like, bad people do things for people all the time.

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I'm like, you know, there's there's an important reality there that if we don't

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as leaders take the time to recognize how our team members feel appreciated,

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feel understood, feel valued, then we can often miss out on the opportunity

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to even level them up and help them understand, like, whoa, I am appreciated

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here and that usually leads to even better results.

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And so you are a testament of that for Alan's sake.

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The hardest question I ask, if this were the last opportunity,

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you didn't have any opportunities after this to share a powerful lesson

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with the world, specifically with visionaries.

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What powerful lesson can other visionaries learn from your experience?

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That no matter how bad you think it is, there is always a way.

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And that's kind of the origin of my story where I was this great leader and successful

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in retail and earning six figures and company car.

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And then within months, I wasn't.

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I was at rock bottom, a single mom living in social housing with no money.

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And you have a choice.

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You choose to accept your lot in life and not do anything or you choose to change it.

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And you can change anything any time.

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Wow. And I love that there's a reflection of your quote there that also applies.

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And you acknowledge that, too.

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So no matter how bad you think it is, there's always a way.

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And no matter how good it is, it can also all be stripped away.

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We don't control the external outcomes as much as we love to think we do.

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It scares me for people who think they've got that figured out.

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That extra outcome, you know, I'm like, go ahead.

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Yeah, because I think we make decisions all the time, don't we?

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And we you know, you've got to live and die by your decisions.

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And I made decisions to help people I loved and who I thought loved me.

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And that was my downfall.

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The very thing that most of us do all the time can be our downfall.

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And it sneaks up on you.

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Absolutely.

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So as we get ready to dive in to.

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Buying the Scottish Castle, running these creative retreats and what?

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Let's talk about that origin story.

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Where did the desire come from?

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How did you do it?

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And what happened along the way?

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Because that story, you know, it.

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Yeah, it's a good story.

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Hold on to your seats.

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Yeah, so in 2009, I did lose everything.

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It started with a car crash and over 12 months I had an experienced a series of

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unfortunate events that later on became the content for my first book, The Life I

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Won, but in that year, it was all those things on that list of the top 10 worst

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things that can happen to you all in 12 months.

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All of them happened to me.

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And.

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It just seemed relentless.

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I'm shedding a little light. What were some of those things that happened?

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So it started with a car crash, which gave me a lot of physical injuries.

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And because I wasn't in my six figure job, because I was injured and in the

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hospital and off for a while, you are no longer of value when you are not there.

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So I lost my job, found out my husband was having an affair.

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My marriage ended.

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My son was diagnosed with autism.

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My dad died, diagnosed with cancer and died within 47 days.

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So it was my sister had been struggling

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with a mental health and got the business that we were joint partners in into so

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much debt, over one hundred thousand pounds of the debt that we had to go

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bankrupt. So it was coming up to Christmas and I was a bankrupt single mom, lost my

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dad, lost my job and my landlord came and made me homeless.

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And I was literally given 60 days notice to move.

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So it just ended up the year.

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It's hilarious, really, when I look back at it.

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But it's it wasn't at the time.

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So I ended up in social housing with 30

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pounds in my bank account and nothing but what I had in my brain.

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And that's enough.

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And I think that was that was 2009.

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And I very, very quickly created a cleaning business.

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I was in Northumberland in the UK and it's a high holiday destination.

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I just created a cleaning business because I could do it with nothing but my Hoover,

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a few cloths and a bit of cleaning material.

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And within three days, I had three clients.

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Within three weeks, I was fully booked.

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And within three months, I was hiring.

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And that was from someone who was at rock bottom.

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And you can always do something.

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I can clean houses.

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I was not too proud to go and clean somebody else's toilet for you.

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And that cleaning business led me to other things along the way.

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And in 2019, 10 years later, along the way, I've met my soulmate, Gary, who was

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wonderful, both sold on and done two more businesses.

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And we were ready to buy our dream home.

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And he kind of just said to me, stop talking about your creative business and just do it,

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Mandy. So I had to seriously put some effort into creating this business that I'd

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believed could never make any money.

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And he pushed me towards that.

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So by the end of 2019, I'd written a book,

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launched my creative business and bought our dream home.

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Cash. So I'd gone from 30 pounds a month to buy.

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I got a standing ovation for a minute.

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Go ahead.

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Did that come from? Right.

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Yeah. So we bought the dream home for cash.

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And it was coming into 2020.

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We were very happy there.

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And then COVID hit in March, didn't it?

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My business was doing well, but COVID hit.

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And Gary was a sick man.

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He had had a lung transplant about 10 years earlier because he was born with cystic

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fibrosis and his immune system was really compromised.

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So when COVID hit, it was really risky time for him.

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And I lost him at the end of April 2020.

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He died on the 29th of April.

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I was with him.

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I'm very grateful for being there when he died and passed away.

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But when we'd moved into the dream home, I'd kind of gone, what's next?

479
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:57,720
Let's put a castle on my vision board

480
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:02,880
because I'd love to have a castle in Scotland and I'd love to run creative

481
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,360
retreats. And that's the next big vision.

482
00:28:06,360 --> 00:28:07,720
Now we've got all of this.

483
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,080
That's the next big vision.

484
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:12,400
I didn't know at that point I was going to lose Gary.

485
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,040
I thought we were doing it together.

486
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:20,640
So there was probably about 10 months of us healing as a family,

487
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,960
me and my two children.

488
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:25,720
And then I thought, you know what?

489
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:28,760
I should just move to Scotland and make that dream happen.

490
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:34,000
Let's just move to Scotland, buy a house and I'll get the money for the castle.

491
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:41,200
And as we were viewing properties, the universe, something put this in front

492
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:46,040
of me, this miniature version of the castle that I had on my vision board.

493
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,200
It wasn't a little bit like it.

494
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,680
It was a lot like it, but a miniature version.

495
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:54,600
The castle on my vision board was in

496
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,440
on the other side of the country and it was three million pounds.

497
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,200
And I didn't have three million pounds,

498
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,320
but I had some money and I'd sold the house.

499
00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:07,560
So, yeah, this is an ex bank and it looks a bit castle like.

500
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,520
So I call it my mini castle over three floors.

501
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:12,240
The bank manager used to live here,

502
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:17,160
which is quite a grand was quite a grand position in the community in Scotland

503
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,560
at one point. Yeah.

504
00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,640
And it was a wreck and I've renovated it.

505
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,000
So it gave me purpose.

506
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:27,720
I had a project.

507
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:31,760
It was almost like it was put in front of me for all those reasons.

508
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:35,080
And I said, yes, let's do it.

509
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,440
So that's what we did.

510
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:41,720
We lived in a little flat along the high street for about six months while I

511
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:48,880
renovated the property and I opened the doors for retreats in March 2021.

512
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,040
Wow, that's amazing.

513
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:53,760
That is

514
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:59,640
I'm amazed and excited and appreciating the ending of that story.

515
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:02,440
And at the same time, like,

516
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:08,200
like, what a what an amazing amount of of difficult sacrifices to that could

517
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:12,400
have derailed you, could have stopped you, could have could have been easy excuses

518
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:17,000
to not to not do this to not move forward.

519
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,160
And yet you did.

520
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:21,960
What's the secret to that?

521
00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:28,800
I suppose, you know, when I look back at it, I almost look at those series of

522
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:35,040
unfortunate events as a lesson I needed to learn to ready myself for that next big

523
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:38,000
lesson. So when I lost Gary,

524
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:42,160
I knew there was going to be a way to come back from that because I'd come back

525
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,080
from all of that previously.

526
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:48,920
So it's almost like the worst happened once so that I could cope with it

527
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:50,960
the second time.

528
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:55,280
And it is about always saying, Gary would have hated me to have not

529
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:57,760
continued to live my life.

530
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:59,600
He would have been disappointed in me.

531
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:04,640
So I owed it to him as well as myself to keep on going.

532
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:05,840
Absolutely.

533
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,640
That's and all the women out there that needed me.

534
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:10,880
And I knew they were there.

535
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:12,880
That too. So you had your purpose.

536
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:14,480
You had to drive you in tune with it.

537
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,840
You're living it. And that is it is a superpower.

538
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:21,840
I have a very irreverent version of a ever.

539
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:26,000
This is almost embarrassing to admit to, but story along that path.

540
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:31,880
When the crocodile hunter Steve Irwin, right when he died.

541
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,400
Yeah. And that's I loved his show.

542
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,440
So did I absolutely loved watching his show.

543
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:39,960
And it's like, I feel like I really knew his personality.

544
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:44,680
You know, I was probably 17 at the time and there was a Halloween party.

545
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:50,520
So I was a giant stingray and I convinced a friend to be Steve.

546
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:54,760
And we were and I knew that if Steve is

547
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:59,160
watching, he would be so happy and so grateful that I honored his.

548
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,040
And oh, my goodness, people.

549
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,120
We did win most creative costume,

550
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:07,400
but I probably offended more people in the process of creating that and doing

551
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:09,360
that than that I inspired.

552
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:14,640
But Steve, he's got to be with me on that, you know, and that's it.

553
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,320
What it's about. It's about honoring that memory.

554
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,280
I do hope same thing when it's time for me to go.

555
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:23,000
I hope my loved ones celebrate what I left behind.

556
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,800
You know, I hope they're grateful for the times that we got.

557
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,360
Not not sad for my next door.

558
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:29,880
I know I know where I'm going.

559
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:30,920
I know what I'm getting.

560
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:35,360
And so I don't want people to feel negative or depressed.

561
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:36,480
They crash there.

562
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:39,560
They're like you. You didn't you have honored him in such a big way.

563
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,120
I love it. I want to hear about these retreats because

564
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:44,680
can men go or is this like a woman only thing?

565
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,400
No, no, it's for everybody.

566
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:49,880
I generally get women here, but I have had a couple of couples here

567
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:53,720
because they have come and had a couple of retreats, which is lovely.

568
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,800
So, yeah, it's just we have three rooms, one of two of them.

569
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:03,040
You can get two people in, so we can take up to five on the retreats.

570
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,080
I've renovated the castle from top to bottom.

571
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:10,240
So it's it's been like a giant canvas for me as an artist.

572
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:14,200
That's just been like so brilliant and experimental.

573
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,040
I've done all the interior design myself.

574
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,000
The three rooms that we do let out.

575
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:23,720
We've got a Van Gogh room, a Monet room and a Picasso room.

576
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:30,000
And I've decorated them in the style of the artist and the feel of the artist.

577
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:33,240
I think I was sharing the wrong pages. I've got them now, right?

578
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:34,760
Yeah, that's the Monet room.

579
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,800
And you can see the water lilies and

580
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:40,920
each room I've done a mural on one of the walls.

581
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:45,320
Yeah, it's that's very calm in the Monet room.

582
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:47,880
And I built each one with its own purpose.

583
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,760
There's a Picasso room. It's got Cubist furniture.

584
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,520
It's very colorful.

585
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:58,040
And then the Van Gogh room, we've got Starry Night and

586
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:03,320
some flowers in there, so it's a room of contrasts.

587
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:06,920
So, yeah, there's a feel to each room, I suppose.

588
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,520
And I usually match the people that are

589
00:34:09,720 --> 00:34:12,720
coming with the room that I think is best for them.

590
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:14,960
That's so sweet. Yeah.

591
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:17,320
So they come here for four days.

592
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,160
I do four day retreats and seven day

593
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:24,800
retreats, and we are going to open a can of worms and get them doing things

594
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:29,000
that they never thought they could do creatively.

595
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:30,200
That's awesome.

596
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:35,120
So and that's it reminds me of

597
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:40,200
like the topic of like play learning, you know, like play like that.

598
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,440
I forget what they call it in the corporate world.

599
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,160
But, you know, when we do play, when we

600
00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:51,000
play experience, it's just amazing how much we can learn when we get outside of

601
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,920
the logic of it all. And I think you probably do.

602
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:56,440
I can tell you incorporate the logic into it.

603
00:34:56,640 --> 00:35:01,320
But what does it take to intuitively,

604
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:05,440
you know, dive into the frou frou, so to speak, or the woo woo, as some people

605
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,840
would say, like, and and also.

606
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:12,600
Progress at the same time, is that a fair question?

607
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:14,880
Yeah, I think it is a really fair question.

608
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:21,480
And I think what you've got to bear in mind here, the mind of a creative is made

609
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:27,320
to be expanded very different from the sort of pure linear thinkers.

610
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:29,200
If you don't understand the creative

611
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:32,360
and you're a linear thinker, you never will, because we're weird.

612
00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:34,000
We're the weirdos in the room.

613
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,480
We're difficult. We're difficult to live with.

614
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:38,000
We're up and down.

615
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:41,160
We're light and dark. We're night and day.

616
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:42,880
We're very intuitive.

617
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:48,960
We're very, but we also connect the dots really, really quickly in lots of abstract

618
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:53,400
ways. And I think when you can learn to embrace all of those things about the

619
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:57,360
creative mind, then actually you can make bigger

620
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,320
connections than you ever believe possible.

621
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,920
And that's what I do here.

622
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:03,160
That's fantastic.

623
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:07,400
That reminds me of one of my distant mentors.

624
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:11,840
He doesn't know me, but I love a lot about his videos, his style.

625
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:16,080
It's gone political and I don't do the political thing, but J.P. Sears,

626
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:21,200
the redhead that does all the controversial videos on.

627
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:26,320
And he just makes him so funny, makes fun of every niche that exists.

628
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:34,800
But his story, if those who don't know, is all about finding that confidence

629
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:37,840
to be that, to be himself, to make that happen.

630
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:43,800
And it was a huge stepping stone for me, his story, to realize,

631
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:48,240
I need to, I owe it to myself to dive further into that.

632
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:54,880
And it has made so many wonderful changes in my life for the sake of the relationships

633
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,320
who really care about me as a person.

634
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:05,800
Yeah, that has also impacted and influenced the power of the visions that we create.

635
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:12,440
I've seen the results create new levels of success, not just for my brand,

636
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:18,000
but also the clients that we serve to, and that's the byproduct of authenticity

637
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,400
beyond the dictionary definition that's so popular right now.

638
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:24,760
So, any anything you'd like to add before we wrap up?

639
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:31,440
Because I, of course, want to maximize the opportunity to just extract the wisdom

640
00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:35,880
from your soul and get it out into the world.

641
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:39,760
And of course, we're going to be putting the action steps on the page.

642
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:43,600
That way, any of you who are listening, we'll put the retreat link on there.

643
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,240
We'll put the link on there for the event that's coming up,

644
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,920
the programs that Mandy has created.

645
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,920
And there's also a button on that page.

646
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:54,280
You're listening right now and you're like, I want to be on the stage.

647
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:55,240
I want to share my vision.

648
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:57,320
Then click the button that says, be our guest.

649
00:37:57,520 --> 00:37:59,160
Apply. Come on to our show and we'll be

650
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:03,200
happy to host you just like we hosted Mandy. But before we officially wrap up,

651
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,800
any final thoughts that you have, Mandy?

652
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:07,040
Yeah, I think so.

653
00:38:07,240 --> 00:38:09,480
If you're, you know, if anybody, if you're

654
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:13,480
listening and you're the creative and you're the one that people don't get,

655
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:17,200
it's not you. It's everybody else in the world.

656
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:18,920
I want you to think about this.

657
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:22,640
You're the normal one and they're the weirdos.

658
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,520
And it's OK for you to do things your way.

659
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:29,600
In fact, your way is often the right way.

660
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:31,480
I love that. Absolutely.

661
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:33,760
We are not designed to be sheeple.

662
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,960
You know, we are designed to be ourself.

663
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:39,720
And you've done an excellent job of

664
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:44,160
empowering me with so many ways that I can step into that even further.

665
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:45,720
And I thank you for that.

666
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,000
Vision Pros, I hope you enjoyed this episode.

667
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,360
We look forward to seeing you on the next one.

668
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,840
And everybody have a fantastic rest of your week.

669
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:53,840
Bye bye.

670
00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:55,360
Thank you for being here today.

671
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,840
I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live.

672
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:02,760
I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward.

673
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:04,440
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674
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,320
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675
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:08,400
We'll invite people to participate in the show.

676
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:10,760
And thank you for giving us your time and attention.

677
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:25,560
Have an excellent time building out your vision.