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So, we are live.

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I caught myself off guard there a little bit, but I'm so excited to have Connie Myers on.

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We're going to be talking about preparedness, being ready, sustainable, and making sure

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that we're preparing our communities for crisis because it can happen.

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And so, this is not a fear-based conversation.

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It's a readiness-based conversation, and that's why I really appreciate you, Connie.

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So thank you for being here.

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I am just going to love doing this.

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Thank you, Jackson, for having me.

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Absolutely.

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So, as we get ready to talk about kids for kids and things beyond, before we do that,

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you've got some leadership experience behind you.

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So with that, what are three books that you recommend for visionaries or three resources?

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I actually, so I'm a John Maxwell-certified coach, and his 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership

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is a great place to start to assess where you are and where you need to go and what

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you need to do to be better.

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He was a Harvard professor that taught happiness, and this book changed my life on how I looked

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of, okay, we've got to do this, and they turn it into action.

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All three of those.

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Those are huge.

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One, a big fan of John Maxwell.

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I love relationships one-on-one because of how easy it is to read.

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Two, the happiness concept.

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If you want to be a good leader, I mean, what he did and the stuff that he did, he's got

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practical things in that book that happened to hospitals and other businesses when they

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took his principles to practice.

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It's amazing.

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That is so awesome.

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And then The Upside of Stress.

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I'm also, I'm a big believer and fan of the concept reality to me.

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My humble opinion is that adversity is something that is for our benefit.

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Whereas it's often, even though it's hard to accept it in the time of an event happening,

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something stressful or something that we don't like or don't appreciate, there are opportunities

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that exist.

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Oh, you're speaking my language.

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My first book was called Crystal Line Moments.

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Crystal Line means sparkly or clear, so moments of clarity.

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And there's always a gift or opportunity.

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I'm a prime example of that.

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My husband passed away in 2011 and I couldn't go back to my old life.

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I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing today if he hadn't passed.

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That's how big it can be.

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I tell widows all the time, look for that gift that they've left behind because it's

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There's a lot of beauty in what you said.

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It's very sacred territory and I appreciate you honoring us with that.

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This is going to be an absolute pleasure.

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Welcome in to Vision Pros Live.

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With Jackson Calame, I'm your show host.

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We'll be doing interviews for visionary entrepreneurs and guest leaders who are building fantastic

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Hey, what's up everybody?

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Welcome in to another episode of Vision Pros Live.

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I'm your show host, Jackson Calame, founder and CEO of First Class Business.

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I'm excited to have Connie Myers on today.

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We're talking about being sustainable, ready and prepared for community crisis.

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I'm going to own it.

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I kind of butchered the grammar on that title.

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That was my fault.

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But that would be my personal crisis for the day and maybe Connie will save me from that.

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So I appreciate her being here.

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She is an emergency preparedness specialist and it's going to be fun to dive into her

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experience and these cool kits she has for kids to help kids, again, be more prepared

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for their crisis experiences and also just a general sense of comfort.

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We'll talk about that more when we get into the kits themselves.

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Before we do, I want to talk about some of the sponsors that we have for the show as

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these are opportunities for visionaries out there that I've seen and I'm like, man, I

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wish I had known about these sooner in life and saw the opportunity to hang along.

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So first we're going to start with Sean LeChuga and the Wellness Shop 365.

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Sean was a featured guest on our show.

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You can catch that episode where him and Julianne, his wife, talk about their approach to integrative

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nutrition, health and wellness.

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What really caught my attention about their program and made me kind of obsess over and

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say, wow, this is amazing, is the 365 Wheel of Life that you see on my screen right now.

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And while this is the preliminary concept for the wheel, the fulfillment of such isn't

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based on the design.

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It's based on the assessment.

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They're actually talking to people about joy and spirituality and creativity, finances,

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the home environment, relationships, social life.

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That's holistic wellness at a whole new level that I haven't seen very many health coaches

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dive into.

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And that type of well-roundedness is something that said, man, these people are special.

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So as I've built a relationship with them over the last six months, I get a lot of behind

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the scenes access.

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Their kids being part of our Zoom calls sometimes and seeing them interact as a couple.

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I'm sure they're not perfect as a couple.

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I don't know any couples that are.

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the wholeness and wellness.

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So I highly recommend checking out what he's up to.

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Then there's the Law Spot, thelawspot.com by Melissa Gray.

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I also hosted her on the show.

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I was like, man, I'm talking about vision.

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This is supposed to be fun.

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And most attorneys have horrible personalities.

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Sorry to any of you who are attorneys who don't that are offended by that.

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I'm so sorry.

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I'm not sorry.

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We I want to work with attorney who gets me as a human being.

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I want to work with an attorney who understands how to nurture and protect.

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And when Melissa stepped on the show, I got to see that firsthand.

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I was like, wow, here's somebody who understands that law doesn't have to be complicated, that

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you can stand for your beliefs and make sure to make an impact and an argument when you

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need to.

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So I caught her vision as well of like, wow, OK, we've got legal Zoom and Crocodoc and

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all sorts of free tools for legal purposes that most of us as entrepreneurs and especially

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the entrepreneurs, the solopreneurs that are on RIN route, you turn to.

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But what I've also found to be true is most of the entrepreneurs I've ever worked with,

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I'm talking thousands of entrepreneurs from restaurants to SaaS companies, do not have

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somebody on retainer that they've researched very well, if they have somebody on retainer

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at all.

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come, they end up investing a ton more than they would have because they're not prepared

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to protect themselves legally.

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So I'm sure Connie also can vouch for that as an emergency preparedness individual.

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We've got to be, if we want to protect our kingdoms that we're building, then it's very

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important that we also have fortifications in place to make sure that we're not susceptible

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to different types of terror that can occur.

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Whether it's weather, COVID, diversification of business model or liability protections

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in the form of legal.

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So I hope that helps at least one of you out there.

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Then there's the water project.

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And the water project is near and dear to my heart.

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There are 8 billion people in this world that struggle to have water.

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It's not because I've ever suffered with a lack of water.

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It's because I choose to remember the fact that as somebody who's blessed to have a podcast

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and that can walk to my sink to get water anytime I want, filtered water for crying

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out loud.

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We've got this resource.

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And I want to remember there's millions of people in this world who don't.

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We have an opportunity to make an impact on that.

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And through the water project, you get to select the community that you want to help.

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You get updated on what happens to that community.

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And seeing these kids act like water, they look like they're celebrating Christmas even

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better than my kids celebrate Christmas.

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And we celebrate Christmas like we're awesome about our celebration with it.

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So it's important for us to remember there's opportunities to give back.

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Now, if the water project doesn't inspire you because your heart is heavy for something

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else and you're like, man, I wish you would talk about this project instead, just drop

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the project in the comments.

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Give us a chance to see what we can do to help.

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There's 8 billion people in this world to help.

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And we all have the opportunity to step up and do that.

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You never know.

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You might be able to get $5.

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And of course, that makes a huge difference.

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You might share it with somebody who ends up giving $50,000.

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Never underestimate the power of your voice.

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And know that if the power of your voice didn't matter, you wouldn't be tuning into a podcast.

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So without further ado, Connie Myers, thank you so much for being on stage.

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And thanks for joining us on Vision Pulse Live.

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I am definitely looking into that water project.

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That is right down the nonprofit's road.

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So I'll definitely look into that and reach out to them.

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Well, my good deed is done for the day and we can end and I can know.

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It's awesome when we can do multiples.

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So no, thank you for honoring me with that.

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I'm excited that you got to learn about it.

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Was this the first time hearing about it?

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I'd heard about it, but I mean, you gave me the reason to move forward, right?

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I had heard of it, but I hadn't really done anything about it.

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going to signal Cynthia to go ahead and start sharing your website with the audience.

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But I'd love to know from your perspective, what do you hope the audience gets out of

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today and what elements about your background should they be paying attention to?

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Well, I have said for many years that I was like a cat with nine lives.

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I had nine different careers.

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And in reality, every bit of it was training from my mid-twenties to what I'm doing today.

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So it is really what I want to take away is find something that's near and dear to your

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heart, what you're passionate about, create the vision for it and make it happen.

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If somebody would have said I was going to have a nonprofit and I wanted to help 30 million

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people be better prepared and more sustainable before my husband passed away in 2011, I would

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have said, you're nuts.

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I'm 75 and I'm more passionate now about my life and what I'm doing and what the people

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I'm attracting to it.

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So when you step into that passion and you know it's right, then people show up.

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Like this, I didn't know about you, Jackson.

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I'm not even sure how you found me.

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I don't know how I found you.

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I think my automations probably found you.

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Well, I have to tell you.

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I mean, my goal, I started attracting people in 2022.

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I got my 501 C3 in December of 2021 and I started asking people, this is what I want

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This I would really like your help.

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I have never had a no.

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I've never had a no.

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And it's because we all are concerned about our kids.

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We're all concerned about what is happening to them.

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And that's why the first initiative we're going to be doing others, but the first initiative

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is called Kits for Kids.

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more about it.

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And you got a lot of great content baked into this website as well.

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So we'll let's dive into your vision for now.

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Help people grasp the concept of where all this came from, how they can improve their

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own visions.

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If we have some time at the end, we'll dive further into those kits.

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We might talk about some of what's in there and why they matter.

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Who can get them as well?

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That could also be helpful.

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So what's your vision for those that you serve?

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Connie, what do you hope people...

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Yeah, I'm going to stop right there.

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What's your vision for those that you serve?

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Well, I used to teach visioning before I started this disaster stuff.

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And I want people to take a look at the vision of what we can do to protect our planet, our

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kids.

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76% of parents now are worried about their kids' anxiety, fear, and depression.

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And suicide and PTSD is up something like 50% in the last three years.

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So my vision is to help change that and to make a difference in how we go about looking

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at it and what we can do to protect our kids.

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So if you have a vision in your community and you want to help kids, or if you're a

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part of an organization that wants to help kids, my vision, 30 million seems like a big

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number, but in reality, I use the number 20%.

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I'm being very generous by using that number.

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I want to take it from 20% of being prepared to 25%.

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That's it.

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That's it.

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Hey, you're on Vision Pros Live.

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30 million or 30 billion or 30, it's your number.

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We respect that.

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That's awesome.

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I think it's amazing.

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So did you say you used to teach visioning?

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Is that what you said?

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I did.

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I did retreats all over the...

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I did them internationally called Ignite the Fire of Your Business and Life.

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One thing I can tell you is, one of the things I taught is that you cannot go to a vision.

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You have to come from it.

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In order to come from it, you have to become it.

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You have to step into it.

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So what are the five senses?

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What does it feel, smell, look, sound like?

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And then what are you wearing when you're walking out the door in the morning in your

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vision?

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What books are you reading?

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What podcasts are you listening to?

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What are you doing to become that person before the vision actually fulfills itself?

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And once you create that vision, it just keeps organically growing, just like a business

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plan.

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That's amazing.

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So you were teaching vision fulfillment.

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That's really cool.

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I'm hoping to get back to that.

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Nice.

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I'm hoping to do a little bit more of that.

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I kind of, because of everything I'm doing with it, and I'm teaching it with what we're

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doing with the nonprofit, but I want to get back to doing more of the retreats like I

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was just a year anyway.

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I have a saying that was inspired by Richard Branson.

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You can have your cake and you can eat it too, and you can have a conveyor belt of cakes.

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Absolutely.

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So with that said, what's your vision for you?

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What do you see for yourself, Connie?

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I want to be known in the world as the person who changed people's lives through preparedness,

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sustainability, and I want to be a speaker and a writer.

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I've got six bestselling books.

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I've got two more I'm working on, and I want to be able to express my true passion for

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how you can do well by doing good, how you can make a difference in this world and improve

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your business and your life all at the same time.

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My favorite saying is do well by doing good.

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That's awesome.

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And I love that.

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I love that you put that as your title as well on here, do well by doing good.

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It shows how committed you are to your mantra.

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So let's dive into a dark territory now.

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Speaking of not doing good.

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What's your worst leadership experience ever?

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Well, thank God it was a small group.

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It was probably about 20 people and the lights went out.

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And I'm in the middle of my presentation and I've got this PowerPoint and I'm talking

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and I've got people all wound up and they're ready to, it was one of my retreats and the

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electricity went out.

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And thank God I had practiced, but what they did is they all turned on the flashlights

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on their cell phones.

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So we did it by flashlight and continued on.

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But yeah, that was something I wasn't anticipating.

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You know, you try to anticipate all the technical stuff because so many things go wrong, but

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having the lights go out was not one of them.

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Absolutely.

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That was probably the worst.

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That's fair.

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That's an uncomfortable scenario to be in for sure.

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And what's your best leadership experience look like?

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What I'm doing right now.

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What I mean, everything, like I said, everything I've done in my past has led me to this and

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seeing people's eyes light up when they hear what I'm doing, when we're talking about the

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campaign, what whether we're talking about what we want to do in the world and it's amazing.

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It gives me goosebumps when people say to me, oh my God, this is such a brilliant idea.

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And then having people say, Jackson, I used to have the worst case of imposter syndrome

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you've ever had.

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As a matter of fact, I've been told that by people and I did a board call where I was,

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I might be able to challenge you on that, but we'll swap the inner demons in a minute.

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Go ahead.

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Sorry.

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Anyway, so I did a board meeting where it was, we had just brought on about 25 or 30

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of the advisory board people and I asked every one of them why they said yes.

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And every single one of them started out by saying, well, we couldn't say no to you.

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And I literally got off of that call and sat and cried for a good hour because I really

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didn't get it that I actually was worthy.

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And actually one of the women, the main woman that told me that I had terrible imposter

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syndrome, it was on my board of directors.

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And she called me after where she says, I could tell that moment, that crystalline moment

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when it changed.

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And it was dramatic.

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It was like nothing I've ever experienced before.

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Wow.

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That's awesome.

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Thank you for sharing that.

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It's amazing.

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There's visionaries.

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It's not just visionaries who struggle with imposter syndrome.

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Actually I digress.

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What's interesting to me is that in my humble experience with the people I've talked to

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in my life, most people live with imposter syndrome and accept it, which is why visionaries

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struggle with imposter syndrome because we're breaking out of the shell of what we're told

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to be by society.

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And we're deciding to break through the barriers and say, no, I'm going to be me.

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I'm going to do what I'm meant to do.

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What are your thoughts on that?

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Well, I used to say I'm a farm girl from Nebraska.

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What you see is what you get.

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And I'm not supposed to be alive.

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I'm supposed to be dead at 14.

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And what I really feel is that these crystalline moments I had throughout my life, a lot of

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them I didn't understand until I got to be a little older.

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And now I look back and my book really helped to bring clarity to it.

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But also I think that once you really start looking at your life and everything is a gift,

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right?

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Everything is a crystalline moment.

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We have them every single day, little ones, big ones.

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And once we start living our life by those moments, those cross the road crossing and

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you're going to take one direction or the other, I think when you start living that

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way all of a sudden you're no longer trying to live in the future.

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You're living in the moment.

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And also it becomes more clear and it helps a lot.

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Now that I understand how bad my imposter syndrome was, I wouldn't say I'm 100% cured

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of it.

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I still have doubts and it's just like everybody else.

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But I'm certainly more determined and I couldn't be more passionate about what I'm doing.

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And I'm 75.

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It took me a long time.

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This just happened last year.

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So it's not like...

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That's great.

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It took me a while.

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You know how many people in their 40s, 50s, 60s, I mean, even especially women that feel

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like in their 30s, their best is in the past.

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It's like, whoa, what are you doing?

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No way.

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No.

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I used to have a podcast called To 70 and Beyond.

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When I turned 70, 90 days before I said, okay, I'm going to show you what it's like to turn

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70.

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And then I was having so much fun, I did it for another five years.

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But I turned 75 last year.

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So I have to come up with something new.

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But I showed people, it doesn't matter how old you are, it's all in your head.

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So a big thing on imposter syndrome, grateful for Taylor Welch for teaching this.

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I don't think he personally knows Michael Phelps, but he uses Michael Phelps as the

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example of breaking the world record or breaking his own record.

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And when these athletes, they're going after these things they've never done before, they're

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naturally going to have a thought in their head.

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And in their heart, I don't know if I can do this.

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I'm going to do everything I can.

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But they have learned how to conquer that inner doubt that exists there.

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And so it's not that we're ever going to escape imposter syndrome, not anonymous, we decide

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to settle for never progressing again, never doing anything new.

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Because when you're doing something new, you're naturally going to wonder, can I do this?

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So let's go into those inner, if you don't mind the inner demons, I'll share mine first

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of my imposter syndrome ran pretty deep with me.

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And then I'll let and then you go ahead, go free.

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Let's do the one up battle.

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So my ultimate, I was five years old.

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At five years old, I went to soccer practice in jeans.

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What people don't know is I went to soccer practice in jeans because I knew and was mortified

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that my thighs were fat.

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Oh, God.

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That's where my imposter syndrome began, as far as I can remember.

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And it did not, you know, it was nurtured for years beyond that.

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But that's where it all started for me.

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Yeah.

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Well, mine was actually five years later when I was 10.

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I was very sick as a child, I had a very rare kidney disease.

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And the only reason I'm here today is because of a wonderful couple that have a building

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named after him at the Mayo Clinic.

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And I had to spend one night in the hospital.

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And there was another young girl, she was 14, and she had the same rare kidney disease

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I did.

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She died two years later.

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And in that moment, I'd been told I was going to be okay.

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And in that moment, I thought I have to be really, really, really good.

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And that dictated how I'd run my life for the next 50 years.

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And then I went home to my one room schoolhouse.

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And the teacher, her name was Mrs. Headley, we called her Headless Headley.

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And she, I had to give a story report.

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Well, one of the byproducts of this disease is you stutter and you wet your pants.

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And so I never wanted to be around anybody.

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Now, this school, it had 10 kids in the entire school.

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That's how big it was.

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Anyway, I had to get in front of the entire school and give a little story report.

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And I stood up there and I stuttered and I hammered and I looked at the floor and I sat

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down and this was really, truly the beginning of this.

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I sat down and the teacher said, do you know who has the highest IQ in this school and

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who just gave the worst story report?

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I was rookie of the year for Metropolitan Life Insurance.

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I've had all kinds of awards.

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And every time I had one of those, I didn't feel I deserved it.

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So I'd worked that much harder, which made me a total horrible workaholic.

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50 years later, I finally figured out, first of all, the first one was that I wasn't trying

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to do good with other people.

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I was afraid of dying.

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And the second one was, look, you've done all this stuff.

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You deserve whatever rewards you get.

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And that's really when the transition started.

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But I was 60 years old when I finally started looking at that and feeling that.

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And it really wasn't until these people told me that they were here for the nonprofit,

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for the kids, because I asked them.

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And that truly, I mean, it makes a big, big difference.

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I think the best thing for people to do if they really suffer from this, like you did

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and I have, is find people that you trust and say, OK, what is good about me and what

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is bad about me?

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Give me the facts.

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Right?

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And you're going to find out there's a whole lot more good than bad.

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And if you don't, it's time to change your circle.

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That would be my next imitation.

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I do agree with that.

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Your circle of five, your circle of 10, building relationships with people who are going to

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look for your great and be grateful for the good that you are, super powerful and helpful.

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Thank you for that, Connie.

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And anybody that wants to share in the comments, there's this exercise that people do at these

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motivational conferences.

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I think it's pretty cool where they write their negative impression of themselves on

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a board and then they break the board.

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It's like a breakthrough opportunity.

479
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:10,280
Well, we can virtually do that.

480
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:13,160
We don't have to have a board to get the same satisfaction.

481
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:18,160
If you want to share what one of your imposter syndrome realities is, absolutely feel free

482
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:19,160
to share it in the comments.

483
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,840
We'll be happy to engage with that.

484
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:25,400
And hopefully everybody is respectful, everybody else in the process.

485
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:29,880
But it can be helpful to be involved in a community that supports you and where you

486
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:33,760
realize you're not the only one who thinks interesting things like that.

487
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:34,760
You mentioned another one, Connie.

488
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:39,800
You mentioned about being, I can't remember exactly what you said, but it reminded me

489
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,960
of my conversation with my kids this weekend where I was telling them when I was eight

490
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,000
years old, I was baptized.

491
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:48,680
And I was so worried beforehand because I knew my sister, Lacey, love you to death,

492
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:49,680
Lacey.

493
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:53,280
I knew she was going to piss me off at some point in the next 24 hours.

494
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,720
I was going to sin and I was going to go to hell.

495
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:56,880
Nobody told me that.

496
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:58,880
Nobody ever like indoctrinated me with that.

497
00:27:58,880 --> 00:27:59,880
I just knew it.

498
00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:03,560
And I think it was Looney Tunes, like seeing the heaven and the hell and their renditions

499
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:05,040
of it, like, I don't want to go to hell.

500
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:07,360
But I also don't want to play the harp in heaven.

501
00:28:07,360 --> 00:28:08,360
That sounds boring.

502
00:28:08,360 --> 00:28:14,920
Man, I was like, 10 years, I was worried about both heaven and hell are going to suck.

503
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:18,840
And I'm going to end up going to hell anyway.

504
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,880
Like, which side am I on?

505
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,200
And my kids are just dying of laughter.

506
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:23,200
I'm like, oh, cool.

507
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:27,000
They're never going to worry about this in their life.

508
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:33,360
So it's amazing what happens when we share our own little imposter syndrome realities

509
00:28:33,360 --> 00:28:38,280
with people and they can destroy the boogeyman for us on the spot.

510
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:39,280
Connie, go ahead.

511
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:40,280
You had another thought.

512
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:41,280
I'll let you.

513
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:46,160
Okay, so one of the things I do at my retreats is I either bring dishes and they write on

514
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:50,760
the dishes things and they throw them in the can and they have to break the dish.

515
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,960
Or if I'm at the beach, I get sand dollars and they write them on the sand dollars and

516
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,640
we put them out to the ocean.

517
00:28:55,640 --> 00:29:01,720
So getting just recognizing it and getting rid of it and getting it out of your head

518
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:06,680
makes a big, it's how I start every one of my retreats or workshops is with some kind

519
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:07,760
of an exercise like that.

520
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,360
So I totally get it.

521
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:10,360
It works.

522
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:11,360
It really works.

523
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:12,360
Yeah.

524
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:13,360
Yeah.

525
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,640
Power of visualization, the power of pulling their physical reality together with our mental

526
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:17,640
capacity.

527
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,240
A lot of tools available for us.

528
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:22,720
Thank you for sharing those ideas.

529
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:23,720
You can do that on your own.

530
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:25,360
You don't have to be in a group.

531
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:26,360
That'd be cool too.

532
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:31,220
So what powerful lesson, if this was your last opportunity to share one lesson with

533
00:29:31,220 --> 00:29:36,120
visionaries to learn from your experience, what would it be?

534
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,280
Oh, boy.

535
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:39,600
No.

536
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:40,600
I call them crystal.

537
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:44,080
I know what you can call them, whatever it is you want to call them.

538
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:49,000
But when those occur, even if it's just a thought or an event, it could be an event

539
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:54,840
that's like two seconds or it could be an event that lasts days or weeks or months,

540
00:29:54,840 --> 00:30:00,200
but just know that there is a gift and an opportunity in every one of those.

541
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:01,200
That's not failure.

542
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,120
There's no such thing as failure.

543
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:06,940
Failure is just a change in direction.

544
00:30:06,940 --> 00:30:08,600
Which direction are you going to go?

545
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:13,080
And paying attention to those crystalline moments that just pop into your head and you

546
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,640
have a choice to make.

547
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:18,760
If you know that there's a gift or opportunity, then that's what you're going to be looking

548
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:23,600
for and that changes the chemistry of your brain so that it's looking for that success

549
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,400
and for what that vision is going to be.

550
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,840
That's awesome.

551
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:35,720
And to double down on that, again, it doesn't make it easy.

552
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:40,960
When you have adversity, when you have challenges, when you have trauma experiences, and it is

553
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:48,280
oftentimes our greatest adversities that end up refining, creating our greatest strengths.

554
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:55,040
And at the same time, we've got to find ourselves in a position to accept that.

555
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,320
And maybe there's a period of grief required first.

556
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:01,720
Maybe there's a period of grief that's required first.

557
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:03,160
I say maybe.

558
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,880
I know there's formulas for it.

559
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,840
And at the same time, I've seen instant cases.

560
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:12,040
But your past is not predetermined by anybody else.

561
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:13,720
It's just yours as a visionary.

562
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:17,760
So follow your heart, follow your mind.

563
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:21,480
Find great people again to surround support and great practices.

564
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:28,320
And hopefully, the great experiences will come and you'll see it sooner than later.

565
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:29,560
That's what I hope for you.

566
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:34,080
I think that especially if you lose a loved one, in my book, there's talks about a woman

567
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:37,880
that talks about losing two children nine years apart.

568
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:42,480
And she wouldn't be doing what she's doing today if that hadn't happened.

569
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:43,920
And she sees the gifts.

570
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:46,360
She's changing people's lives all across Canada.

571
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:49,400
She has clinics set up for mental illness.

572
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:54,480
And there's always, I tell the widows, I send my book out to all kinds of people.

573
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:58,640
And I usually wait until after it's been like six months or maybe a year.

574
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:00,840
If it's before that, they have to do the grieving.

575
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:01,840
That's part of it.

576
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:05,720
But then, as a matter of fact, the first book I ever sent out to a widow, she called me

577
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:06,720
on the phone.

578
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:09,720
She goes, what do you mean there's a gift in this?

579
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:11,720
And I said, that's what I realized.

580
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,000
I needed to wait to send the book out.

581
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,080
And a few months later, she called me.

582
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,960
She says, I get it now.

583
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:19,960
I get it.

584
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:25,800
And even if what I tell people, whatever that trauma is that you're going through, just

585
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:27,200
put it in the back of your head.

586
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:31,320
I don't know what the gift is right now, but it's going to show up.

587
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,280
It's going to be there.

588
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:38,240
And if we get stuck in the grief, we need to go back to that and say, OK, what was the

589
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:42,240
gift this person left me?

590
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:43,400
And look for it.

591
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:44,660
Really look for it.

592
00:32:44,660 --> 00:32:47,320
Because it's going to be there.

593
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,680
I wouldn't be talking to you, Jackson, if my husband hadn't passed away.

594
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:53,680
We celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary four days before he died.

595
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:56,200
We had an amazing marriage.

596
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,640
And I thank him every single day.

597
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,000
Because I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing.

598
00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,000
See, that's awesome.

599
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,200
And here's the correlation with that.

600
00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:10,640
First off, congratulations on an ultra successful marriage.

601
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:15,200
That's something that I hold sacred, that I honor.

602
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:17,760
I'm twice divorced.

603
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:24,120
And I am grateful for the mothers, the two mothers of my four children.

604
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:26,480
And they tried.

605
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:27,640
They gave their best.

606
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:30,240
I gave my best in the marriage.

607
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:31,240
And it didn't work out.

608
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:32,560
Different reasons for different occasions.

609
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:42,440
At the same time, I don't have to buy into this culture of party for the divorce.

610
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:48,600
I don't have to buy into this culture of creating an enemy out of that individual, no matter

611
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,600
how they choose to respond towards me.

612
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:55,880
I get the choice to decide how am I going to behave in this process?

613
00:33:55,880 --> 00:34:00,240
How am I going to rise up?

614
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:05,400
Am I going to be the type of person who divides my child's personality and their identity?

615
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,760
Or can I do my best to model what my mom did?

616
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,000
My mom always honored my father.

617
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:15,440
And everybody who knows him in life knows how difficult that can be.

618
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,200
I love my dad.

619
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:18,480
It's hard to say that.

620
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,760
But he's got to take ownership too over his life.

621
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:25,160
He was always super supportive.

622
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:28,160
And what that did was it never made me doubt myself.

623
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:31,520
It helped me overcome the challenges that existed from.

624
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:36,120
And it helped me at the end of the day realize I was probably like 12 by the time I was finally

625
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:38,600
like 100%.

626
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:40,400
Mom's always honest.

627
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:44,600
Mom's always wonderful about this reality.

628
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:48,080
And dad's always a victim and always blaming others.

629
00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:52,120
So I had a clear compass and guide because of the way she handled that.

630
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:57,120
So if that's helpful to any of you, it's just, again, it's back to that adversity, challenges.

631
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,200
It doesn't matter if it's a divorce.

632
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:00,440
It doesn't matter if it's a death.

633
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:02,880
It doesn't matter if it's whatever it is.

634
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:06,240
It's a diagnosis that you receive.

635
00:35:06,240 --> 00:35:11,640
I'm so inspired by those who step into that and are able to see the blessing in disguise.

636
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:12,920
100%.

637
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:15,000
My first husband, I had three kids.

638
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,360
My youngest was three months old when I left him.

639
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,520
And I always honored my ex-husband.

640
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:26,180
I mean, I always, the kids never heard me say anything bad about him.

641
00:35:26,180 --> 00:35:28,800
It just was a bad relationship.

642
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,280
It just didn't work.

643
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:31,280
That's all.

644
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:32,280
That's all.

645
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:36,400
We had two different ways of looking at how we wanted our lives to be.

646
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:39,880
And some of those things, they collide.

647
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:42,080
They just won't work.

648
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:45,120
And so that's, yeah, I understand 100%.

649
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:51,640
And you're stepping into that gift and that opportunity by honoring them and by honoring

650
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:57,360
your children with what kind of life they're going to have because of your understanding

651
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:58,360
of all that.

652
00:35:58,360 --> 00:35:59,360
That's huge.

653
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:01,640
Yeah, absolutely.

654
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:05,200
And that's not always, again, always easy to do.

655
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:09,720
And when we step into that, it's amazing how much easier life can be.

656
00:36:09,720 --> 00:36:12,320
Life won't be easy, but it can be easier.

657
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:18,440
I read that sentence again, sustainable, ready and prepared with community crisis expert

658
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:19,440
Connie.

659
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:20,440
So sometimes it's not the grammar.

660
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:21,800
Sometimes it's the person who's trying to read.

661
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,780
Kind of a little bit in the moment.

662
00:36:23,780 --> 00:36:27,200
So we have it, sustainable, ready and prepared with a community crisis.

663
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:33,120
Let's talk about sustainability, readiness, preparedness, or let's dive right into the

664
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:34,160
kits for kids.

665
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:35,800
This is your vision, Connie.

666
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,320
So which one do you want to dive into first?

667
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,560
You got the kit right there.

668
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:41,560
Is this the kit for kids?

669
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:42,800
This is the kit for kids.

670
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:46,280
It gets Velcroed into the bottom of a kid's everyday backpack.

671
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:49,480
It looks like a little bit larger than a case for glasses, correct?

672
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:50,480
It is.

673
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,920
It's a little bit bigger than that and it'll fit in every most every backpack and it gets

674
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:54,920
Velcroed in.

675
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:56,920
So it doesn't come out with the books and all that.

676
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:58,760
It has a tracker.

677
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,480
It has a whistle, a light.

678
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:02,960
It has stop the bleed bandages.

679
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:07,880
It has a Mylar blanket, a sanitizer bottle, and we're going to be adding.

680
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:12,480
It has emergency numbers and I include, by the way, the tracker not only tracks where

681
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:17,840
the child is or the kid is, but it also there's a place to record on it so the parents can

682
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:21,360
record a message that if something does happen, they can calm the child down.

683
00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:25,440
We include two meditations and a prayer that was written by one of my board members who

684
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:26,440
works.

685
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:31,960
He has 49,000 churches in his database and then there's emergency numbers.

686
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,680
And I talked to a woman yesterday.

687
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:39,820
We're going to be adding information about she teaches about social media protection.

688
00:37:39,820 --> 00:37:41,960
So this goes in the bottom of the backpack.

689
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:43,560
We have a whole educational thing around it.

690
00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:49,820
We're going to promote it through what we're calling our kids for kids spokesperson campaign.

691
00:37:49,820 --> 00:37:54,740
We want kids for kids ambassadors, small voices in big impact.

692
00:37:54,740 --> 00:37:58,920
And we're going to have kids provide us with one minute videos of why they want to be the

693
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:04,960
kids for kids ambassador in their neighborhoods where they are anywhere from five to 17 years

694
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:06,040
old.

695
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:10,560
And now we have an army of kids out there and you know, kids are the best salespeople

696
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,000
on the planet.

697
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:16,260
So we now have these kids out there talking about preparedness.

698
00:38:16,260 --> 00:38:18,720
And while they're getting their kids, we're talking to the parents about what they have

699
00:38:18,720 --> 00:38:20,920
in their emergency kit at home.

700
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:24,960
99.9% of parents do not have kits for their kids at home.

701
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:29,360
So this represents 40% of what goes into that kit and they get a list of what needs to go

702
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,160
in for the emergency kit.

703
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:34,520
But the kids are out there now talking about, you know, how do we get, I'm in the second

704
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:35,520
floor.

705
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:37,640
How do I get out of the house if you can't get to me?

706
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:40,760
If there's a fire, how, when, when are we going to do this?

707
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:42,280
My mom all the time.

708
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:44,800
I wanted a rope ladder so bad.

709
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:49,760
It had nothing to do with preparedness, but I was trying so hard to get her to get me

710
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,760
a rope ladder.

711
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:52,760
So you could escape, right?

712
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:53,760
Oh my gosh.

713
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:56,840
I would have broke my arm four times more.

714
00:38:56,840 --> 00:39:02,040
Well, so teaching the kids and kids are worried about the planet these days.

715
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:06,600
I mean, I tell people, look, I don't care whether you believe in climate change or not.

716
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,520
You're paying the bill.

717
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:10,080
You're paying the bill.

718
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:15,940
The, the national shanty atmospheric administration does a total dollars on weather related, not

719
00:39:15,940 --> 00:39:18,080
other kinds of other related disasters.

720
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:22,480
And in 2022, it was $145 billion.

721
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:30,680
In 2022, or I'm sorry, 2023, it was $174 billion.

722
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:36,920
And we have one out of four homes now are at risk of being too high to ensure one out

723
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,440
of four.

724
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:42,040
So we're going to have these little voices out there saying, mom and dad, what are we

725
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:43,040
doing about this?

726
00:39:43,040 --> 00:39:46,200
Or they're going to be feeding them information.

727
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:50,200
And that's how we're going to get to 30 million, 30 million.

728
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,360
It also comes with a digital version of when the end thing.

729
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,900
Some people call this brainwashing.

730
00:39:54,900 --> 00:39:55,900
Some people call this education.

731
00:39:55,900 --> 00:39:59,000
You know, you can call it what are the Girl Scout cook?

732
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:00,720
What do the Girl Scouts do with our cookies?

733
00:40:00,720 --> 00:40:01,720
Huh?

734
00:40:01,720 --> 00:40:02,720
They're doing the same thing.

735
00:40:02,720 --> 00:40:05,280
They're brainwashing them thinking we all have to have Girl Scout cookies, right?

736
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:06,280
We're educating, right?

737
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:07,280
Education.

738
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:08,280
Exactly.

739
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:09,280
It's what somebody wants to call it.

740
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:12,960
You know, you do you, you can feel how you want about it.

741
00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:13,960
I think it's awesome.

742
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:16,520
I mean, you can call me brainwashed if you want to.

743
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:20,680
We're looking for community people to help us with this.

744
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:25,280
If anybody's interested in wanting to help the kids in their neighborhoods, in their

745
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:28,400
communities, please reach out to me because this is going to be a fun.

746
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,960
I've been told by several media people that it's going to go viral.

747
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:33,800
Yeah, I want to.

748
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:35,320
Well, that's right.

749
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:40,160
And that virality component when you've got you got all the foundation for this, Connie,

750
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:41,880
you know, the foundation.

751
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,160
And I love sharing this story with people.

752
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,720
In fact, I'll drop it in the comments so people have it.

753
00:40:47,720 --> 00:40:55,280
But it's a very special training that I do with my clients on the power of five.

754
00:40:55,280 --> 00:41:03,680
And it's based on Mark Victor Hansen and the book, The Chicken Soup for the Soul.

755
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:06,320
Are you familiar with the story of how they promoted that book?

756
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:07,320
Yes.

757
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,800
Yes, I love that story.

758
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:11,520
Tell us, tell us your version of it.

759
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:12,520
What'd you hear?

760
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:13,520
Well, OK.

761
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:17,240
I was involved with a lady that was very involved with some multi-level stuff.

762
00:41:17,240 --> 00:41:23,020
And she introduced me to a woman that wrote I forget which chicken soup it was.

763
00:41:23,020 --> 00:41:27,160
And I said, so basically what they're doing is they're coming up with all these different

764
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:32,040
topics and having people write books about the chicken soup and whatever their thing

765
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:33,040
is.

766
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,240
I said, that is brilliant.

767
00:41:35,240 --> 00:41:39,880
That is really brilliant that you're you're letting people express what their their knowledge

768
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,280
is and you're promoting these books that are.

769
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:44,640
And I don't know if that's the same thing as what you're talking about, but I'm glad

770
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,160
you mentioned that because it's it's why I asked.

771
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,840
It's an angle that I hadn't I hadn't really considered, but that does tie closer to the

772
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:52,560
kids for kids strategy.

773
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:56,440
The the reality of how it got it didn't catch on fire.

774
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:58,600
It didn't it didn't go very far initially.

775
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:03,960
They worked for two years straight making sure to do the power five contacts.

776
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:08,440
And what they did was they decided each one of them, the two writers of the book, would

777
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:16,000
make contact whether it was a friend, a celebrity, a radio station, a local bookstore, you know,

778
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:17,040
a church.

779
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:22,160
They would go and talk to people and they did that for two years straight, five contacts

780
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,000
per day.

781
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:30,000
And eventually they ended up sending they ended up asking the judge for the O.J. Simpson

782
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:36,480
trial if they could send the books, a copy of the books to all of the members of the

783
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:40,560
jury because they had so much downtime and hours of time to kill.

784
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:44,040
And then every single one of those jury members came out with the book in hand from what I

785
00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:45,040
understand on the story.

786
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:49,000
But it got national press and attention and damn, it started to to scale from there and

787
00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:54,840
it became arguably the most successful book, modern book of all time.

788
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,920
That didn't happen overnight.

789
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:04,440
But that diligence, their dedication to the process, their good luck event came because

790
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:09,320
of the amount of effort they put into putting it out there, making sure that they were leading

791
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:10,780
as a great leader for the cause.

792
00:43:10,780 --> 00:43:11,780
So I think it's great.

793
00:43:11,780 --> 00:43:12,780
I think the kids are awesome.

794
00:43:12,780 --> 00:43:15,600
How can I give up for my kids?

795
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:17,680
How do I get how I get one?

796
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:23,280
You can just reach out and go on Be Prepared, Be Ready dot org and send a little note.

797
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:25,080
We haven't got we're putting up a store right now.

798
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:26,920
We don't have it yet.

799
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:32,920
But you can and we'll ask you to make a donation to the nonprofit of twenty five dollars if

800
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:35,880
you buy them in bulk, they go down in price.

801
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:40,840
But yeah, just reach out on the Be Prepared, Be Ready and we'll give you the instructions

802
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:42,800
of what to do and let us know you want the kids.

803
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:44,280
And that's what we'll give you.

804
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:45,280
That's cool.

805
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:50,380
It's you know, my kids are the type of kids that I think most kids are.

806
00:43:50,380 --> 00:43:53,440
But they they would dive into this and look at everything and play.

807
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:55,640
My son would use a bandaid right away just to use it.

808
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,260
Oh, you know, just to have.

809
00:43:57,260 --> 00:43:58,380
But that's OK.

810
00:43:58,380 --> 00:44:03,760
He's experimenting with opportunities to learn growth prepare like now he knows how

811
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,280
to put it on when it actually happens.

812
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:08,720
Like sometimes as parents, we try to over control stuff.

813
00:44:08,720 --> 00:44:11,820
Guilty as charged and almost everything.

814
00:44:11,820 --> 00:44:17,640
But I've learned I learned the back out of the way and let them just explore and play.

815
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,480
They would still say, no, dad, you're still a helicopter parent.

816
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:21,940
I'm recovering.

817
00:44:21,940 --> 00:44:23,520
I'm trying not to be.

818
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:24,520
Right.

819
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:29,400
But you know, they learn so much, they absorb to the experience of messing with stuff like

820
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:30,400
that.

821
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,280
And I want you to think about something for a minute.

822
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:33,280
Excuse me.

823
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:34,280
I didn't mean to interrupt you.

824
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,280
How old are your kids?

825
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:39,960
Twelve, ten, eight and three.

826
00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:46,360
OK, well, the old three older ones are the perfect age for the kids for kids.

827
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:52,200
When you talk to your children about passion, what they're passionate about and you explain,

828
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:57,120
I mean, obviously, I'm sure you've had conversations about what to do if something happens at school

829
00:44:57,120 --> 00:45:02,160
and how to protect themselves as much as possible.

830
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:07,680
And do they ever express anything about, you know, what's going to happen to our world?

831
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:13,400
Or if they don't bring that topic because they have internal fear about it anyway.

832
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,480
Oh, we talked about Russia.

833
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,480
They had questions for me about that.

834
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:18,480
Yeah.

835
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:24,200
So it's I think having your kids have these conversations and what's really cool.

836
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:27,440
I mean, we don't they will have it with their cousins.

837
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:28,880
They will have it with their best friends.

838
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:30,680
They will have it with people who have less.

839
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:35,520
I absolutely know that because I am the product of those scenarios.

840
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:36,520
Right.

841
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:41,760
So now we pulled up a clip, a trailer from Red Dawn, which is actually a Russian invasion

842
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:42,760
movie.

843
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,240
You know, I made sure it was filtered appropriately.

844
00:45:45,240 --> 00:45:51,920
And we had a talk about the reality of the bogeyman that's not under the bed, you know,

845
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:54,200
and the reality that we do know what to do.

846
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:59,120
We have a plan and within a matter of weeks, state no longer talk about it, think about

847
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:00,400
it, worry about it from what I know.

848
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:05,800
But we because we have an opportunity to talk any time things like that happen.

849
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:10,400
They they as far as I can tell, they feel very safe to talk to me about lots of subjects

850
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,400
that I'm like, oh, boy, cool.

851
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:14,400
Good.

852
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:19,400
We'll figure out how to have this conversation without also upsetting the other parental

853
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:20,400
side.

854
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:22,240
So we have we have different challenges with that.

855
00:46:22,240 --> 00:46:30,440
But we as as parents, we do have an opportunity, right, a responsibility to to have these conversations.

856
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:34,600
And it's through people like yourself and CJ Scarlet's book Heroic Parenting as well.

857
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:37,480
I've learned some amazing things just in the first few pages of reading that.

858
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:38,480
Like, huh, cool.

859
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:44,200
I can I can this is a dialogue to have my kids that will help boost the confidence of

860
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:45,620
our existing relationships.

861
00:46:45,620 --> 00:46:50,160
So well, the the book that I the last book I wrote, When the Unpredictable Happens, Be

862
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:53,080
Prepared, Be Ready is a reference guide.

863
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:56,280
And it tells you what to have in all your kits and what to do right.

864
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:58,640
Because mindset is 90 percent.

865
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:05,000
One thing I want to mention is every one of us is a first responder before the police

866
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:06,920
or the EMT show up.

867
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:08,520
We have to know what to do.

868
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:11,800
And what that does is it makes us resilient.

869
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:15,720
And that's the beauty of kids knowing what they need to do.

870
00:47:15,720 --> 00:47:17,500
They are resilient.

871
00:47:17,500 --> 00:47:22,080
And so many adults underestimate the ability of our kids.

872
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,640
I love where our kids are at today.

873
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:27,840
I have two of the most amazing granddaughters on the planet.

874
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:30,960
And I have to tell you, I mean, I don't really know where they came from.

875
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:33,100
I don't think it's any of my genes, that's for sure.

876
00:47:33,100 --> 00:47:37,640
But the bottom line is kids are making a difference.

877
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:38,640
They're making a huge.

878
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:42,080
In fact, there was a lawsuit in September in Montana.

879
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:47,840
There were there was 15 kids ages five to 22 that sued the state of Montana because

880
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:52,760
there's all kinds of oil wells in Montana and they weren't monitoring the emissions.

881
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,160
The kids won.

882
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:59,400
They won because it's their future that they're concerned about.

883
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:01,480
And now there's like cases all across the country.

884
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:06,440
They say, you know, I need to we need to think about what our kids futures look like.

885
00:48:06,440 --> 00:48:10,000
I tell you, I have a great grandson that's seven years old.

886
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:13,200
And you know, what is what's it going to look like when he's 47?

887
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:14,320
Right.

888
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:16,040
It's so cool to this.

889
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:19,240
This type of preparedness can be applied in many facets.

890
00:48:19,240 --> 00:48:23,840
It can be related to, you know, knowing what to do in those emergencies.

891
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:30,200
My son and I happen to get in touch with my automation again, got me in touch with Bones.

892
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:34,840
He's a lighting production coordinator for Toby Keith, legendary country singer.

893
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:35,840
Right.

894
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:39,560
So Bones and I ended up building up a little bit of a relationship and it just so happened

895
00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:42,040
to be my son's birthday that weekend.

896
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:44,480
So I said, hey, Emerson, you know, he wanted to buy a guitar.

897
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:50,280
I'm like, what if we send a video to Bones and ask him if we can get our hands on a signed

898
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:54,360
guitar from Toby Keith, you know, and I'd pay for it, you know.

899
00:48:54,360 --> 00:49:00,040
And so Emerson sat down, did the video with me and we sent that to Bones and Bones sent

900
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:05,960
back a video saying happy birthday to Emerson, showing him a tour of the studio, you know,

901
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:07,920
and maybe no guitar comes out.

902
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:08,920
That's OK.

903
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:09,920
We let him know it was OK to.

904
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:11,040
We were respectful of the process.

905
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:18,360
But what my son has learned in terms of putting yourself out there, being willing to make

906
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:23,120
requests, you know, having this experience and the excitement he felt when he saw that

907
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:33,960
the Bones of Toby Keith responded like that puts a purpose within you that you just, you

908
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:34,960
know.

909
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:35,960
One hundred percent.

910
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:41,960
I'm so excited for him, you know, like if I could have had that, you know, at his age,

911
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:45,680
you know, the things that would have would have gone after and wanted to pursue.

912
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:50,440
So I just, you know, we all have the opportunity as parents to do little things like that to

913
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:51,800
influence our children for good.

914
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:56,680
We're all going to make mistakes and the process to, of course, nobody's perfect.

915
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:59,960
But visionaries, I hope that you took some notes on this one.

916
00:49:59,960 --> 00:50:01,680
Connie dropped some serious values of wisdom.

917
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:05,320
And if you have some of your own, of course, to to give, provide those in the comments.

918
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:08,080
You have any questions for us, don't hesitate to hit us up with those.

919
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:09,880
We're going to wrap up kind of fast on this one.

920
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:13,680
But if you also have a vision of your own to share, then don't hesitate to apply to

921
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:15,920
be our guest, come to our process.

922
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:20,680
And if you've got a vision that's meant to help the world, whether it's your local community,

923
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:27,040
your own family, you know, or the entire globe, don't hesitate to share it with anybody that

924
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:30,720
is going to support you and uplift you in the process.

925
00:50:30,720 --> 00:50:32,880
And that's exactly what this program is designed for.

926
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:36,720
Connie, any final thoughts before I shut it down?

927
00:50:36,720 --> 00:50:39,000
I think I just want to back up what you just said.

928
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:43,080
I think we all have something in our heart or something that we're passionate about,

929
00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:45,120
that we all make the world a better place.

930
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:47,640
Find that cause and do something.

931
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:49,160
Just do something with it.

932
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:53,800
If it's just having a simple conversation, have it.

933
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:59,000
I can tell you personally what I have been gifted with this whole process.

934
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:01,720
And believe you me, there were times I didn't know about the non-profit, whether I could

935
00:51:01,720 --> 00:51:04,680
continue with the nonprofit or not, it was overwhelming.

936
00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:08,840
But the thing I've learned is that you keep putting that foot in front of the other and

937
00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:10,960
the gifts are overwhelming.

938
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:13,080
So just find that passion.

939
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:17,720
Vision pros, you heard it from the vision fulfillment expert herself, Connie Myers.

940
00:51:17,720 --> 00:51:19,240
Appreciate having you on the show.

941
00:51:19,240 --> 00:51:21,880
Everybody have a fantastic rest of your day and we'll see you on the next episode.

942
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:23,200
Thank you for being here today.

943
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:25,680
I'm really happy that you tuned in to Vision Pros Live.

944
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:30,480
I'm looking forward to seeing your reactions as these episodes continue to move forward.

945
00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:32,080
This is going to get more and more fun.

946
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,120
We'll have more and more engagement as well.

947
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:37,880
We'll invite people to participate in the show and thank you for giving us your time

948
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:38,880
and attention.

949
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:54,280
Have an excellent time building out your vision.