That's where I'm from.
And she-
Boston or Bosnia?
What?
Boston or Bosnia?
Boston, from Boston, believe us.
From Boston, okay, got it.
And I asked her like, hey, you know, you're gonna be,
she took the semester off and I said,
can I come spend Christmas with you?
And she said, absolutely.
Like my family will open their arms.
And so her family has been such a beautiful gift to me.
I stayed with them for the first two weeks
and they were like a host family
and it was just so amazing.
So that's why I'm in Peru is to spend Christmas here
with my friend and her family and spend the holidays here.
Wow, okay.
So I spent two years in Uruguay
but under different circumstances.
How do you gain the courage to just decide
to make a plan and execute it?
That is, you know, there's no program,
there's no Institute, there's no additional drive behind it.
How did you do that?
It's actually kind of some of the things
that I was gonna talk about today, so it's perfect.
Is I had the signs and the synchronicities
and like the magic, like I can't deny the signs
that happened, I had to follow them.
And it got to a point where it was so clear
that it became undeniable that I just needed to jump.
And also everything in my life in Boston
had to really fall apart
because the signs and synchronicities kept coming,
kept coming and then the whole life just was like,
all right, we're gonna take this away
because you're not listening
and we're telling you to go this way.
So that's what happened.
Life sometimes will be like, come on, go, go, go.
And then it will take everything away
so that you're like, all right,
this is do it now or don't.
And so it's the signs and the synchronicities,
the undeniable signs and synchronicities that just-
Well, and you listen to them and I know that
because there's the BSers in life who tell you like,
hey, this isn't the season or time I'll be back
and then they never come back.
You told me I'll be back this summer
and you told me you'd be back for this episode.
And you're like, not now, I'll do this later.
And you did come back, you came back and you messaged me
and we're like, okay, awesome, I'm ready to go.
We don't usually send follow-up messages to people
because we are looking for that type of commitment,
dedication to persistence, diligence,
and like being on point.
You are super on point about that.
So that's-
Well, when I say I'm gonna do-
This is one thing that is very important to me
is I'm true to my word.
What I say, I will do.
There is, I will say it.
If I say it, that means I'm holding myself accountable
to doing it.
I don't wanna say it's a lost art,
but I'm so grateful for a teacher.
When I was in middle school in my church and he said,
you know, he said, people do not stick to their word anymore.
And he had a theory, he said,
a lot of it has to do with these stupid online contracts
where we're signing contracts, I agree, I agree,
I agree, I agree, giving our word that will follow us.
We never read the documents or the paperwork
because in a world that's moving so fast
with so many agreements, like why wouldn't you?
But he said, your word, you know,
is the only thing that nobody can ever take from you.
I'm so grateful for that lesson.
It's definitely made an impact on how I live my life.
So let's move, let's move one degree here.
You went to Colombia.
What are your favorite three things about Colombia?
The people are so warm.
They're so welcoming.
They're like, I want you to love this country.
And, you know, people invite me to,
I immediately had community.
And even with like my low level of Spanish,
I wouldn't say it's low, it's gotten better and better,
but I get very nervous at times.
But people are so loving and like, you're trying, come on.
Like just come to the dinner.
And sometimes you may need to take a break
and sit and just listen, but we'll hear
and we're gonna welcome you.
So that's number one is just the welcoming.
The second is I love to challenge myself.
So challenging myself with learning Spanish,
with speaking it even when I'm nervous
is a huge part of why I loved it so much.
And the third for me-
Right, welcome in to Vision Pros Live.
With Jackson Calame, I'm your show host.
We'll be doing interviews for visionary entrepreneurs
and guest leaders who are building
fantastic visions out there.
Hey there and welcome into Vision Pros Live.
I'm your show host, Jackson Calame,
founder and CEO of First Class Business.
I'm excited to have Cassidy Amber Chapman on today.
She is an author of a bestselling book,
a life transformation expert.
And she's gonna talk to us about unlocking the magic within.
Now I've seen Cassidy have, she's got this aura about her
that says that she's unlocked something different
that other people don't have.
She's also got this intentionality about her,
her favorite word.
She can correct me if that's not true,
but she loves the word intentional and being intentional.
And I've seen her express intentionality
in the fostering and cultivation of our friendship as well.
We met several months back
and we talked about the idea of her being on the show.
I think it might've been in relation to the Kajabi event,
if not Shadow Kajabi anyway.
And she was in a season of her life
where it didn't make sense to move forward
for the show at that time.
Sure enough, she reaches out to me again
almost six months later, somewhere along that timeframe.
And I was like, Jackson, I'm ready to go.
Let's make this happen.
And same energy, same joy, same light coming to me.
But amplified.
And that's also something that I look for in people is,
are we growing within?
Not externally.
I don't care where people are at on the external surface.
I'm excited for them
if they're going through amazing things.
I'll be sad for them and want to see them
and be intentional with them
if they are in a position where they need to level up
or need a hand up, et cetera.
So I don't look at those external things.
I try to look more at the soul,
what somebody's up to as a person
regarding their own growth.
So to see her traveling the world now.
And she's now in Peru where one of my team members is.
That's so important to me.
And I was like, whoa, this and that.
They're right next to each other too.
They'll be going out.
That's, I don't know.
There's just a lot of amazing things about this.
If you're listening in,
this is gonna be an awesome opportunity
to hear about unlocking your own magic,
having that confidence to go out
and do the things that you need to do in life.
So before we get into bringing Cassidy on stage,
I always of course want to talk about the sponsors as well.
Cause these are entities that have very much helped me
or that I have relationships with in different capacities
as y'all know.
The first one being laid back languages, Patrick Creighton.
Patrick is a language teacher
and he knows six different languages.
This gentleman you can see in this picture,
not only a good looking guy, he's extremely humble.
And he has the gift of helping people learn languages fast.
I speak Spanish fluently and his ability
to teach concepts about language
and understand what's important about that.
I would say I can validate that pretty well
with my own learning path and all that we've done
to talk about languages and what he's up to in his programs.
I just look forward to his program scaling
because so many people doubt themselves,
are scared to try new tones.
They feel like they're changing who they are
and they don't know how to go through that process
of feeling that.
And usually the confused mind says no.
And the fear of the unknown also beats us.
Patrick does an excellent job of helping people feel safe
and understand the value of making those transitions.
Two is the tail publishing.
The tail publishing with Ashley DeTayo
is my go-to choice for any market research
related to content.
She's also a phenomenal publisher
and she's published from everything from all the content
for Nomad Capitalists to her own children's book,
Wallace the Westy.
She even published a book on world schooling,
how to travel and educate your children.
She speaks Spanish and English.
She's able to write on concepts like citizenship
through investing, I think it is, foreign exchange,
you name it, these incredibly hard topics
that would take a lot of effort to research
while also having the capacity to understand
normal human beings like myself and write children's books.
That's just, that's amazing her depth
and the projects that she's working on for publishing.
I've just, I've never seen anybody work with her
that's not impressed with how well she does what she does.
So if you get the chance to reach out to Ashley,
feel free to.
Then there's the water project.
The water project is the cause that's near and dear
to my heart right now.
This is one where millions of people do not have access
to clean drinking water.
If you're in a position during this giving season
to help people out who don't have the same luxuries
that we do, I would say this is one of those causes
that I highly recommend looking into.
You got communities that are walking miles
just to get to water that might be unsafe for them.
And by helping them build what's called a sand dam
or a borehole well, you're changing these communities lives.
I love this picture of the children here
where they're celebrating water as though that
is their Christmas gift.
It just, it shows me how big of a need this is
in those communities, how important this asset is.
One that again, I get to take for granted more or less
on a daily basis.
So if you're in a position to give, please do.
If you're in a position not to give, but to share,
then look up the water project or click on the link
that we have in the show notes and just share that.
You never know who that might affect
and what they might be able to do with it.
So without further ado, Cassidy Chapman,
welcome to Vision Pros Life.
Hello.
I'm so happy to have you.
I am so grateful to be here.
I feel so honored.
Yeah, well, us as well, as well.
So one of the things that you did
right before we jumped in the show,
in fact, it was the first thing that you said
when I got into the room.
And I was a little bit behind as well.
And you jump in and you say,
I'd love to just, you invited me.
You didn't force it on me.
You said, I'd love to take some time
to just be intentional in this moment.
Can we do that?
Can I lead that?
And you gave me the space to say no, if I wanted to.
But then you led this interactive exercise
to help make sure that we were both focused
on helping people at our best capacities.
And it was absolutely beautiful.
I just wanna share that with the audience
because it was very touching.
You talked about how important it was
that we help those who are listening
and reach their hearts,
that we gravitate into our unconditional,
the unconditional love that exists within energy.
And yeah, it was beautiful.
Who do you hope is listening today?
And what do you hope we tap into
in order to help them get the most out of this conversation?
Well, I hope whoever is listening
is those people that feel the calling to be here.
Cause there's that little voice inside.
There's just something that is calling someone here
right now.
And if you're feeling like,
I don't know why I got to click on this video,
but I got to click on there.
It's for those people that feel that call.
And for me, it's to be able to share my story,
share how to tap into that magic
so that your life can feel magical.
And that doesn't mean that trials and tribulations don't come.
It means that when it comes, it becomes your tools.
It becomes your weapons and armor for life.
And it builds up these blessings and this magic
so that not that trials and tribulations don't happen,
but it's you fully embrace them and love them.
And you feel into the magic of life
so that you can become the most vibrant version of yourself.
You remind me of somebody who has just fallen in love.
Oh my God, I love that.
That's the feeling.
That's the one.
Is you remind me of somebody who's just fallen in love.
How long have you carried that feeling with you?
Well, I love that you say that
cause I say that I live in love.
I live as the embodiment of love.
It doesn't need to be romantic.
I could be in love with life.
I can be love with just the air in this real air here
or the water, right?
And I would say it's been an interesting journey,
but I would say this journey of embodying love
and having that intention has been about three-ish years.
Two-ish, three-ish, something like that.
Okay.
And so you've kind of,
have you maintained that for three solid years
or are there days where you're like,
ah, today's rough?
You know?
Oh, you know what?
It's interesting because I'm always in love,
but that doesn't mean I'm always excited
and I'm always joyful.
I'm always happy.
Those are two different things.
The, we, I sometimes we think of the word love
or unconditional love as, oh, this blissful feeling,
but in reality it's holding space.
So you can be in absolute tears and saying,
you know what, this is rough today.
I'm having a rough day, but being able to hold that in love.
Like I'm allowed to be sad today.
Actually it's beautiful
because as a part of my human experience,
I'm allowed to be beautifully mad
and I'll still love this part of me.
And when there's a part of me that doesn't want to love,
there's still a space being held like,
okay, you don't have to love right now.
It's a container for all
and every human experience to unfold.
So I constantly do have the intention for embodying love.
Am I perfect at it?
Absolutely not.
But has it been my consistent baseline
for these past couple of years?
Not saying that it's always my state
or always what I, I make mistakes, I fall, I tumble,
but the thing is, is that's my baseline.
Is that makes sense?
It makes perfect sense.
You know, it's no different than somebody
who's focused on, you know, today, this year,
I'm gonna focus on being great at sales.
And over this year, I'm gonna be super focused on my kids.
When you make that intentional adjustment
and you stick to it over time,
then today I'm gonna be bitter
and I'm gonna choose to be bitter
about that relationship for the rest of my life.
It's amazing how strong those seeds
that we decide to plant can grow.
But let's set back into this love side
because I'm more excited about what you've unlocked here.
What's your vision for those that you're serving?
My vision is for people to feel
and to really feel into the fact that
when they're walking in their life,
it's like everything just kind of flows naturally.
Not that there isn't hard times, but it just,
sometimes you're wondering, how is this possible?
How am I living the life of my dreams?
And just sometimes just stopping in tears of gratitude
for how your life has unfolded, for who you've become,
for how much you grow,
to be able to just like wake up and be like, wow,
I'm just grateful to be alive, just feeling into life
and having anything around you,
anything in your business crumbling and falling,
a financial crisis, a health crisis, a breakup,
anything and everything,
it doesn't stop you from really feeling
into the magic of life.
You become unshakable.
And anything that you desire to create is created
because you decide to.
It's coming back to your power, your internal power,
but also coming to this place of letting go
and trusting that it will all unfold.
So it's this duality of making things happen
or choosing for things to happen in reality.
And so having no need for any outside circumstance
to be any way, not to be attached to any circumstance
or any outcome, but rather see those outcomes
burst out and unfold.
You could create a million dollars in that energy.
You can find the love of your life in that energy.
You can heal after 10 years of chronic illness
in that energy, but it's letting go
so that all of it can unfold in the most incredible,
ah, striking way.
As an ode to my daughter, I will mention this,
but I will, let's keep it reverent
because I don't wanna lose a train of thought,
but I'm thinking about Elsa right from Frozen,
right before you said, let it go.
And to move into the, yeah,
the other reason I was thinking about that
is because I was thinking this power that you have, Cassidy,
it's a power that scares me.
It's a, and when I say it scares me,
much like Elsa's power or like any power
of tremendous strength, whether that's a tsunami
or like a tidal wave, or a roaring fire in a forest,
there's, I'm the type of person
who probably senses too much reverence, too much,
like, and I will put the fire out
before I allow it to take its natural course.
I know a lot of life coaches
that almost emulate your energy,
but they come at people.
They don't mean to.
They, but they don't make space for the other.
So they have this control factor with this power.
If you accidentally say like, how can you be that way?
Right?
It's like laser beam eyes, like sear through your soul.
When you question where they're at with things,
my question is usually just like, I'm sincere,
but I think some people get upset at them
for the way they show up.
So my, how do you, do you also have a fear for,
or when I say fear, like a respect for this type of a power,
how do you bring it without,
without steamrolling people with it?
How do you do that?
Cause you do.
This is such a good question.
You know, when I first found this power within myself,
right, like I have the power of my reality.
I can, I can shift it.
And I can also surrender to the fact that there's,
you know, life has this plan that's greater
than we can ever possibly imagine.
There's this, this duality.
But when I first found it,
it kind of felt like a slap in the face.
And it was like, ooh,
I can been choosing this the entire time.
And for me, that felt really hurtful.
And then I, I started to notice,
I would judge others when it first happened, right?
Cause I was like, well, you can be choosing your reality.
You have this power within you.
I understand that that's a natural occurrence when,
but that's just because I was judging myself
for all those years that I didn't use that power.
And then I kind of went through these more trials
and tribulations in this energy of I have the power.
Yes, I have the power,
but life also wants to strengthen you in other ways.
So there was humbling experiences at the same time
of this duality of we have the power,
but we also need to surrender and let go at the same time.
And again, coming back to the intention of embodying love,
I realized I trust people's journeys.
I trust their timing.
I trust their decision-making.
Why?
And I have compassion for everyone's decisions
because I understand if I lived in their shoes,
I've had their beliefs.
If I lived in the environments that they lived in
and I've gone through every experience
that they've ever gone through,
I'll probably be making very, very similar decisions.
And it comes from this compassion
of I understand where you are.
It comes from the embodiment of that unconditional love,
which is it's okay,
you're exactly where you're supposed to be,
but now you get to choose something different.
And I'm gonna invite you,
and I'm not gonna say this is the only way to live.
Some people can actually do this
without needing this mentality.
They can just live it,
they can be it without needing to explain it.
And so I'm just inviting people into a way of being.
And it doesn't mean that it's the only way.
It doesn't mean that it's the right way,
but I'm saying it's created a greater quality of life
for me and I want whoever wants to join me to join me
and I'll be their biggest support and cheerleader,
but it's not the only way.
It's not the only way of learning to create a reality.
It's not the only way of speaking it.
There's so many different ways to speak it.
There's so many different ways and ideologies
and ways of expressing this being
because you can't truly put words to being, right?
But it's not the only way,
but man, it's been a way that has changed my life
and my clients' lives forever.
So it's an invitation and their choice is what matters.
Because if they don't choose it,
it doesn't matter if they think it or choice
is where it's all is.
That's why I asked you if we could do the intention
because I trust you as a human being
to make the right decision.
It sounds like you also know when to turn this on
and when to turn this off
as a power to respect those around you.
And maybe I'm guiding you a little too much on that.
I'll meet you off stage at some point in life too
outside of the context.
But what I see is somebody who's extremely intentional
with when it's stage time,
like it's go time to find that person, right?
To be available for that person who absolutely needs it
at the highest level.
And it's neat because I felt you have such a dynamic
about you in the different conversations that we've had.
It's just like, oh man, you own your essence in the moment.
Cassidy, what's your vision for yourself?
What do you see for yourself on the horizon?
So many things.
For me, my vision is to create,
to help create a world that embodies unconditional love.
And that comes in different forms and facets.
It can be through books, it can be through speaking,
which I speak around the world.
I have one-on-one coaching and group coaching
in all of different ways and facets.
And there's more projects that are actually coming
in different avenues that I'll be coming soon.
But for me, it's to create a world
where unconditional love gets to be the container.
I love it.
All right, let's dive into a darker subject.
So what's the worst leadership experience
that you've ever had or experienced?
Hmm, leading myself or leading others?
Can be either one.
Hmm, this is a really good question.
The worst leadership experience.
You know, it's kind of funny.
It's when I, it's bringing me back to my childhood.
I used to be, you know,
when we were in these group projects,
I would try to force people to do things.
And it's making me realize in this moment
why I've chosen the leadership I have
in the way that I do it now.
Because again, it comes back to respecting people
as human beings and respecting their choices
and trusting that they'll do the right things for them
and letting go in the surrender.
Leadership is leading people to their best self,
not to whatever you're wanting
or you're needing in your life.
Leadership is leading them to their best life.
So the worst leadership experience for me
was when I was trying to get them to do something for me.
And in reality, it's always leadership
is getting them to do something for them.
And maybe even to a vision that's for the collective,
that's for the world.
And there's this energy of,
let's do this together.
Leadership is let's do this together.
And I have an idea and I have a way
and some way that I can help bring that to life,
but let's do this together.
So the worst leadership experiences I've ever had
is when I was like, do this, because I told you to.
Yeah, and you hit two different angles of that.
The one that I'm gonna be meditating today
and probably for several days after.
The getting past the telling people what to do
for me took place years ago.
A few years ago, because I used to be that guy.
And it burns a lot of relationships to be that guy.
And then two, you're talking about making the move
from do this for me, but do this for you.
I actually operated out of a third angle
and I gotta go meditate about this because of it,
which is usually, I want them to do this for the good of me.
I want them to do this for those that they serve.
For those that they're striving to serve.
And I know that when I was in New York,
where I took that to an extreme,
that wasn't healthy or helpful.
I was the, I was a missionary
and my common thought wasn't very,
it didn't take very long to establish,
but if somebody did not wanna be there
or they wanted to goof off,
even in the smallest of ways, my response was, go home.
Go waste somebody else's time.
We got people to help here and you're a distraction.
It was, oh, it's awful.
I eventually came to the realization, man,
I love these people of your voice so much
and I do not love the people that I'm working with
to serve them unless they're complying.
Unless they're getting after it
at the level that I am or close.
And that wasn't healthy.
So I wanna revisit that with what you said
about doing what is,
what is guiding people to do what is right for them,
making space for that
and the process of understanding the grander mission.
And I think there's probably other entrepreneurs
who feel that too, probably other people as well.
But thank you, you gave me a lot to think about with that.
That's interesting. I'm glad.
Because I think that's really important.
Yeah, I do too.
So what's your best leadership experience?
I love this question,
but it's hard because I feel like there's so many.
Now that I've been on this path.
So I think the best times have come
from some of my one-on-one clientele
and into those one-on-one spaces.
And the best leadership experience is for me,
tapping them into their own power.
And when the moment that they realize,
oh, I didn't come to you
because I need to get something from you,
but rather for you to hold space for me to find me again,
for me to find that power within me,
for me to remember, okay,
I can wake up every day and choose my vision.
I can wake up every day and create my dream life
and you get to be the support.
And when they have that shift
and that realization of, oh, Cassidy,
you're living your dream life,
like you're living around the world,
you have your own business, you're an author,
you're a speaker, you're doing all these things,
magic just unfolds for you.
And I'm just a mirror for you to see what's possible for you.
I'm just living as an example
of what it means to live by these principles.
And so once they have that switch
and like they feel that within themselves,
that is the greatest leadership experience I've ever had.
And I continue to soak into it and feel into it
because once you find that power within you,
and yes, you have support,
keep reminding you, I have so much support around me.
There's a reason why I'm here right now
is because I'm fully supported
and I allow myself to be fully supported.
So the best leadership experience for me
is tapping them back into their inner wisdom,
to their inner power so that they know
that their dream life, that magic unfolding
is just inevitable for them.
And it continues to be their new baseline.
That's huge.
I'm usually speechless
and I'm not supposed to be speechless on a podcast.
No.
Whoops.
I'm rotten, rotten, dang it.
I don't even have anything to add to that.
Yes, true.
Amen, namaste again.
So good.
I hope you guys rewind this and listen to that again,
like 10 times or cut that and use it as your morning mantra.
Wow, that was awesome.
Okay, let's triple down.
Okay.
All right, what powerful lesson,
but let's look at it from the single.
If this were the last lesson that you could share,
whether they're visionaries,
what can they learn from your experience?
Nothing can stop you when you are guided by love
with pure intentions, with pure unconditional love.
Nothing, nothing can stop you.
You become unshakable.
You become peace itself.
Even if you go through all the human emotions
and experiences, the beautiful sadness,
the beautiful grief, the beautiful joy and gratitude
and love and connection,
when you are guided by the pureness of love,
sharing love, connection, generosity, gratitude, service,
your life will become the most fulfilling,
the most purposeful and all the blessings
that you're looking for, all the success
that you're looking for comes anyways
and it feels like you don't even need it.
It just becomes a cherry on top.
So lead with love and all that you're looking for
will come in heaps and bounds and mountains,
but you won't even care because you're so fulfilled with them.
That would be mine.
That's fun.
That's, when I was on my mission in Uruguay,
one, the very first subject that I decided
if I'm going to go to a country
where I cannot really speak or communicate,
what the heck should I learn to communicate about?
I chose love, right?
That was the one thing I chose to learn as much as possible
about learning how to communicate about.
Going through my mission, we met so many parents
in difficult circumstances that led them.
They weren't the nicest to their children.
I'll just say that.
It was very difficult home life.
It reminded me of my dad's home, the one I grew up in
that was dark and difficult and all sorts of abuse.
And I went on that mission knowing that in my case,
because I had access to a great home of spirituality
and a difficult home, I knew there were people
who did not get to escape that.
And I would have never been able to live with myself
if I didn't go out there and help the homes
that were like the dark side that I also grew up in.
Okay, so I'd use that example.
And I'd talk to these step-parents
and people in these situations.
And I would tell them about the struggle
between myself and my stepmother and how difficult,
how dark our relationship was.
But I would tell them, I know that love will be that power
to help us overcome this.
And I wasn't living proof at the time,
but I knew that it would work.
I get home from that mission, a couple of years passed,
my dad and her split up finally.
That needed to happen a long time ago
for everybody else's sake, for our opinions, right?
And her dad passed away.
And so me and my new wife,
it's time we go to the funeral.
And she's shocked to see me walk in that door.
I don't think she was very happy even at the moment,
to see me walk in that door.
And she asked pretty softly, like, why are you here?
But not in a negative way.
And I just say, you've always been family
and you always will be.
He was never the reason why I was here.
It's you guys, y'all are my family.
And she teared up and we hugged
and embraced in a very sincere way,
probably for the first time in our life.
She'd been in my life since I was five.
That was the moment of love conquers all for me.
That was the biggest moment.
So grateful for it.
She passed away a few months ago.
And that getting the opportunity to feel that happen
at such a deep level,
it would be my choice of powerful lesson as well.
And my imperfections, to just add to it a little bit,
my imperfections often lead me
to not access the full power of love.
And I have to be careful not to blame love for not working.
It's me not tapping into it fully
and having to learn how to more fully tap into it.
What else can I do to make sure
that I'm more fully tapping into it?
That's the only thing I would add.
What are your thoughts on that?
Feel free to take that where you want.
Love is, well, this is something that I talk about a lot
with my clients, is that action, behavior,
situations, experiences, they don't change
from blame and shame.
And we try, we try to change our behavior
through blame and shame.
We try to change other people.
Say you're in a relationship.
This is what happens so often.
I see it so much.
And I did this myself through, oh, you can't leave me
because you're gonna hurt me by leaving
and you're not allowed to because shame and blame.
You did this and you did that and you cheated on me
and you hurt me and you hurt me.
And you did this and you said this
and you shouldn't have done that.
Yes, things can be hurtful and you need to express that.
But no behavior will change through shame and blame.
It will only change through love.
Hey, you know what?
I'm feeling very vulnerable right now because this hurts.
And I love you and I do need to hold a boundary.
So if this is an action,
these are actions you wanna take,
this is not something I can do.
Like just little examples of how that will actually change
someone's behavior versus you're a terrible person.
I'm gonna leave you if you don't do this.
Shame and blame do not change anything.
They keep things stuck.
Love is flow.
It makes things move.
If you shame and blame yourself,
I should have woken up and I'm an entrepreneur,
so I should have done stuff today.
I really, I should have.
I should have reached out to this person
and I don't know why I can't just reach out to this person.
I know what I need to do,
but I don't know why I'm doing it.
That I hear all the time.
Entrepreneurs and just anybody who's a visionary
or trying to create something extraordinary.
I don't know why.
I don't know why I'm not doing it.
It will not change through shaming yourself
and blaming yourself.
When you give yourself the space to feel into
why those things are happening,
you feel into the space of, okay,
let me feel this resistance and I'm okay
if I never do that step.
I'm still going to love me and my energy.
Once you come from that space,
all of a sudden you have the energy
and inspiration to take this step.
And I've seen this over and over and over
and over again with myself and with my clients.
Part of what you're talking about
reminds me of the reality too,
that I wasn't the only one expressing love
in that relationship with my stepmom.
There's also my stepmom side of her showing up.
She's shown up too to the best of her ability.
And while it may have been hard to recognize in the moments,
it wasn't hard to recognize in her passing.
As I reflected back on our experiences
and I realized that she was my greatest teammate, partner
in trying to be there for my dad on his best side.
When everybody else gave up,
her and I worked towards helping him find his light.
And there were many times she took me home or picked me up.
And then it was an hour drive each direction.
And she's busy.
She was a busy mom who also worked full-time.
And so the amount of things,
the amount of evidences that exist in that,
to realize that no, we can try to paint people as evil
or we can assume that they are the problem and the reality.
But I love that you make space for that.
Like it's the conditions of the world,
the variables that exist out there.
We don't always get them all.
We can't always see them.
And when we choose to make space for that power of love,
it's amazing what things we can overcome.
Let's use the last few minutes.
Oh, go ahead.
I was just gonna say thank you for sharing her memory.
Yeah.
Well, thanks for unlocking it.
I couldn't have done it without you today.
So unlocking your magic, life transformation,
on those two topics.
We've got about four minutes left.
So what would you like to share about unlocking the magic
within that we haven't discussed or tapped into yet?
Well, there's a lot we haven't discussed yet, but.
I would say the number one thing,
and this is something I could go much deeper to,
but I'll do my best to keep it short.
Is to listen to that little voice inside.
And when you say, okay, I'm going to listen to it,
and you speak that out loud,
you actually then take the step.
And I know it's scary.
And I know the unknown, it's the unknown.
It makes you shake and you shiver and you second guess
and wanna run away.
And all of the things, but if nothing in life really mattered,
not the 401k and the, you know,
whatever responsibilities you have right now.
And if nothing mattered,
and you just got to play in this lifetime,
like it got to just be your playground.
Life got to be your playground.
How would you wanna play?
How would you want to experience life?
How would you laugh and giggle and joy?
What would you bring that you that laughter?
What would bring you that joy?
If life was your playground, if nothing mattered,
would you take the leap?
Would you just jump?
If every failure was just a step in the right direction,
if every trial and tribulation just brought you more
and more blessings and life was the playground of everything,
how would you act?
How would you play?
How would, how great would you love?
If you said, okay, someone can leave.
And I'm just going to really love them
while I have them here.
What if you just knew that everything was temporary,
including every emotion, every sadness, every season,
how would you play?
How would you live?
If everything was temporary,
how would you cherish the people in your life?
How would you cherish the breath in your lungs?
How would you cherish being able to,
to walk on your feet and, you know,
maybe stretch a little and move your body?
Not everyone in their older age can do that anymore.
How would you cherish?
How, how would you see the things in your life right now?
The clothes on your, on your back,
the food in your kitchen?
If you knew everything was temporary
and you did not own it,
it was not, it was not your property,
but rather your blessing.
How would you act from there?
How would you play?
How would you love?
Just give yourself a moment to feel
that nothing is promised to you,
but you have everything here.
How would you feel?
How would you feel the gratitude
for what you already have now
and walk in that energy of,
okay, my intuition is telling me to do something really scary
and I don't want to do it.
And I'm really scared and it pushed me to grow,
pushed me to do things I don't want to do.
But if everything is temporary, why not try?
Everything that you already have will be gone.
Anyway.
I found my butt.
Okay.
Thank you for that.
My big fan, one of my favorite movies is Life is Beautiful.
Life is Beautiful is a story that's only told in Italian.
So you do put the English subtitles
if you don't speak Italian, right?
And this father is in a concentration camp,
you know, with his son.
And he makes the concentration camp experience
for his son a game.
And he has this light about him
and almost everything that he does as a dad,
all these trials that he goes through.
And so my surface level question was at first,
you know, well, you know,
how does this apply to those in a concentration camp?
And then I remembered that movie and I was like,
okay, that's applicable.
My greater butt question for you in relation to me is,
I'm not in a concentration camp.
And I know that so many are, or they're in similar type
of circumstances.
Yeah.
How do I give myself permission to play
and to see life as a playground when I feel so privileged,
yet there's so many who suffer such great things?
This is a beautiful question and one that I have really taken
in consideration myself, because there is a wave of guilt
that comes when we first start to really enjoy our life.
Like when you first start to realize, I'm living my dream life,
there is this wave of guilt that comes.
But how is this fair?
And it comes back to the trust of people.
Comes back to trusting that they'll love every single second
of their breath, that they can love from where they have it now.
Not to say that their situation shouldn't change
or that what they're in is not great, right?
But us suffering doesn't help them.
Again, nothing changes through shame and blame and guilt.
It only happens through love.
So if you're overflowing with love,
how much more could the world change?
So there's two pieces.
One, trusting that they can find love and joy and gratitude
where they are right here and right now.
And also the other side of the coin is we can help change
the situation from love, not through shame, blame and guilt,
because nothing changes from that space.
When you feel overwhelmed with guilt, do you move?
No.
You stay in bed and you curl up and you're like,
the tears flow.
I can't believe this is happening.
It's so unfair.
I don't know what to do about the world.
But when you have love, you're like, here, I created this amount of wealth.
Here's some wealth that you can use.
Or I have a voice and I'm going to love and I'm going to fight for you.
I enjoy my life so much.
I want you to enjoy it with me.
Suffering is not going to change the situation.
Many people do that.
And it's because we're all connected.
We have guilt because we want them to feel better.
So one is trust and then...
But guilt is a vice.
It's not compassion.
Right.
And so learning to recognize that virtue and that vice
and tap into it in those moments is key.
Another movie about concentration camps, The Boy in the Pajamas
and the Striped Pajamas, I think it's called.
You know, and there's the little boy of the Nazi party who becomes friends
with the little boy that's in the concentration camp.
And so I don't remember too much about the movie, but the concept alone
helps me kind of think in terms of like examples where I can apply
that to the way I show up.
So thank you.
That was...
I don't know if I'll ever be able to quantify what you just unlocked
for me by talking today.
Those of you who are listening in, vision pros, we'd love to see you apply.
If you got a vision to share, do me a favor.
Don't let Cassidy intimidate you here.
This is a well-delivered vision.
And at the same time, the light that you bring into the world matters tremendously.
It is not a competition.
It's a process of abundance.
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That worked for me.
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Cassidy, this was absolutely my honor.
It was mine as well.
And to every person watching this, you, it's an honor to be in your energy
and thank you for your time and your space because that is extremely valuable.
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