1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:10,720 Hello and welcome back to the PHSA podcast. 2 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:11,720 My name is David Bigford. 3 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:13,580 I'm the pastor here at SalmonArm. 4 00:00:13,580 --> 00:00:17,760 This is a very special podcast series where I'm going to be sharing with you messages 5 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:23,280 from our most recent conference in Prescott, Arizona, the Beyond Limits Conference with 6 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:30,600 a theme of to preach the gospel in the regions beyond from 2 Corinthians 10-16. 7 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:37,000 I'm going to share all of the sermons from this conference series to include Greg Mitchell, 8 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:44,600 our head pastor, Joe Campbell, Richard Ruby, Tom Payne, and many, many others during this 9 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:45,600 series. 10 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:49,920 So I'll be sharing these with you over the next couple of weeks, and I hope you really 11 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:51,040 enjoy these messages. 12 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:58,000 If you'd like to see these messages in a video format, you can go to PrescottPottersHouse.com 13 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:04,380 where all of these will be available for you to view in a video format. 14 00:01:04,380 --> 00:01:09,280 So without further ado, I'm going to go ahead and move on to the messages, and I hope you 15 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:10,280 enjoy them. 16 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:11,280 God bless. 17 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:22,800 What an honor, what a privilege it is for me to be in this platform and to preach to 18 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:27,360 this wonderful body. 19 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:33,600 I thank God for this great opportunity. 20 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:38,360 To my pastor, Pastor Greg, for his trust. 21 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:44,520 It's a great privilege. 22 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:54,320 I would like for you to open up in the book of 1 Corinthians chapter 7, please. 23 00:01:54,320 --> 00:02:03,880 There is a secular song that came out a few years ago. 24 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:15,920 Lately in these last years, it's very rare to have good music songs that come out. 25 00:02:15,920 --> 00:02:24,120 But I believe at this time the devil kind of lost his mind, and this song came out. 26 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:27,120 Let's make a deal. 27 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:34,880 Want me to sing it to you? 28 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:39,520 It says this. 29 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:41,560 Come on, let's make a deal. 30 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:54,360 A secret pact of the two of us. 31 00:02:54,360 --> 00:03:02,160 I want you to count on me, count on you from here to the end. 32 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:09,480 And what comes after, I really like more. 33 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:11,240 You you will be for me. 34 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:18,960 You're going to make me happy. 35 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:20,920 And me, I will be for you. 36 00:03:20,920 --> 00:03:30,920 And I am going to make sure that I take care of you and make you even happier. 37 00:03:30,920 --> 00:03:38,040 Let's make a deal, a sweet contract that I want to fulfill. 38 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:41,160 I want to speak to marriages this morning. 39 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:50,480 If you're single, this is a seminar for your future. 40 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:52,800 It knows. 41 00:03:52,800 --> 00:04:00,680 El mes de febrero pasado, mi esposa Lucy y yo cumplimos 44 años de casados. 42 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:07,120 Me and my wife Lucy, we celebrated 44 years of marriage. 43 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:11,600 Nos casamos de 17 años. 44 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:12,600 No lo vuelvo a hacer. 45 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:17,000 I will not do it again. 46 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:18,800 Han pasado 44 años. 47 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:23,920 Y quiero compartirte esta mañana un secreto. 48 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:33,080 And I want to share with you this morning a secret, a secret that is biblical, that has 49 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:35,480 carried us throughout the years. 50 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:41,520 Este sermón titulado, el sermón en el título, agradando a nuestro cónyuge. 51 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:52,400 Le vamos a leer 1 Corintios 7, versículos 33 y 34. 52 00:04:52,400 --> 00:05:03,960 Pero el casado tiene cuidado de las cosas del mundo, de cómo agradar a su mujer. 53 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:13,360 La doncella tiene cuidado de las cosas del señor para ser santa sin cuerpo como en espíritu, 54 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:19,040 pero la casada tiene cuidado de las cosas del mundo, de cómo agradar a su marido. 55 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:22,000 Verse 34, there is a difference between a wife and a virgin. 56 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:27,680 The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body 57 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:28,680 and in spirit. 58 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:38,000 But she who is married cares about the things of the world and how she may please her husband. 59 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:39,000 Pleasing our spouses. 60 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:42,200 Vamos a ver en primer lugar esta mañana. 61 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:48,120 Let's think first of all, el vivir la vida agradando a su cónyuge es un secreto para 62 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,640 desarrollar un buen matrimonio. 63 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:57,920 Living life pleasing your spouse, it is a secret to develop a good marriage. 64 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,520 Why do I want to preach this? 65 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:07,000 Cada tanto tiempo, uno de nuestros obreros cae en moralidad. 66 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:11,040 Some of our workers they fell in immorality. 67 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:13,120 Nuestros matrimonios se destruyen. 68 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:15,000 And marriages get destroyed. 69 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:16,800 Ministerios se destruyen. 70 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:18,320 Ministries get destroyed. 71 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:20,560 Hace unas cuantas conferencias atrás. 72 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,320 A few conferences ago. 73 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,360 Estaba yo en aquel lugar. 74 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:31,280 I was over there on that side there. 75 00:06:31,280 --> 00:06:35,680 And a pastor was sharing with me one of his men had morally failed. 76 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:48,680 It wasn't 10 minutes after that I came and sat in my chair. 77 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:58,920 Somebody else came and gave me the information of another pastor falling into immorality. 78 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:04,360 Last month sadly I heard three more news about that. 79 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:09,320 Talking about men of God. 80 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:16,360 Our fellowship is a great blessing throughout the world. 81 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:23,280 I no doubt that what God is doing is something glorious. 82 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:25,320 Every so often we lose good men. 83 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,560 A good marriage. 84 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:29,560 Y eso abarca toda la familia. 85 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,960 And that just empires us or touches all the families. 86 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,960 Sufrimientos impresionantes. 87 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:38,360 Incredible suffering in las familias. 88 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:39,360 In the families. 89 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:41,200 Esto no tiene que ser así. 90 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:46,040 This does not have to be. 91 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:57,880 I rejoice hearing Pastor Mark Olson celebrating his 50th anniversary. 92 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:06,360 That God would help every one of us that we could say the same thing. 93 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:13,800 One of the very serious problems that I have observed throughout the years is called selfishness. 94 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:18,920 Egoism is one of the greatest causes of family destruction. 95 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:22,240 Selfishness is one of the great destroyers of families. 96 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:25,960 Egoism is a destructive attitude of marriage. 97 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:29,240 Selfishness is an attitude that destroys marriages. 98 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:42,760 I believe that selfishness is one of the attitudes that destroy most marriages. 99 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:55,040 The dictionary of Spain defines selfishness this way. 100 00:08:55,040 --> 00:09:04,320 In moderate and excessive love for oneself. 101 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:10,760 Which makes one pay excessive attention to one's own interests. 102 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:14,040 Not taking care of the interests of others. 103 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:20,680 In this case our spouses. 104 00:09:20,680 --> 00:09:28,240 In verse 33 of our text. 105 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:32,480 Verse 33 says, but he who is married cares about the things of the world, how he may 106 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:37,240 please his wife. 107 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:46,720 Verse 34 puts it this way, but she who is married cares about the things of the world, 108 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:49,320 how she may please her husband. 109 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:58,600 When I was reading the words, the lyrics of this secular song. 110 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:01,240 Let's make a deal. 111 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:03,960 I'm going to please you. 112 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:04,960 You're going to please me. 113 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:10,040 Let's make a deal and everything is going to be okay. 114 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:14,080 Incredibly this married couple. 115 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:19,720 Recently the husband died, Diego Verdader. 116 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:22,840 The creator of this song. 117 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:32,280 And his wife is the one that actually singing now this song. 118 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:38,080 And incredibly only death separated them. 119 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:45,240 In the artistic world that's almost impossible that that would take place. 120 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:50,200 But here are sinners giving us a powerful example in that sense. 121 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:51,200 Let's make a deal. 122 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:54,480 I'm going to please you. 123 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:58,680 You're going to please me. 124 00:10:58,680 --> 00:11:07,480 And I believe that with that enough is enough just to come to the altar. 125 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:17,160 Because when we are just signing our marriage act, our license, we're making a deal. 126 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:23,160 But throughout the years that deal gets damaged. 127 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:26,640 Selfishness. 128 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:38,440 It pushes you to think only about yourself and what you need and what you desire. 129 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:50,040 And selfishness steals away the ability for you to think, for you to be interested, concern 130 00:11:50,040 --> 00:12:00,880 about what your spouse's needs, what your spouse's likes, desires. 131 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:12,600 If selfishness has been ruling your marriage, for sure you have not given yourself to the 132 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:25,960 task to study, to get to know the need of your spouse, the desires, the likes of your 133 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:26,960 spouse. 134 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:40,280 It is good for you to think at least three things that your spouse has in your life. 135 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:49,280 Your spouse has needs. 136 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:55,080 They have tastes, likes. 137 00:12:55,080 --> 00:13:02,040 They have desires. 138 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:03,280 They have desires. 139 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:04,280 My spouse. 140 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:08,080 They actually have needs. 141 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:13,400 They actually have likes and tastes. 142 00:13:13,400 --> 00:13:22,040 If you neglect these three things of your spouse, don't expect to have good results 143 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:29,720 in your marriage life. 144 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:40,800 Even if you expect your spouse to live just for your needs, for your likes, and for your 145 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:50,160 desires, but yet you don't do nothing, or yet you do barely. 146 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:59,440 For the desires, the likes, and the needs of your spouse, things will never go well. 147 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:07,280 Two selfish people living under the same roof. 148 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:11,240 We heard this week. 149 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:22,240 Marriage is comprehended about two people, two human beings, and both of them, they have 150 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:28,360 needs, desires, and tastes. 151 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:40,760 In our text, the apostle Paul, he understood the need that marriages have for them to live 152 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:46,360 according to the need for one of each other. 153 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:51,440 One each other, pleasing each other. 154 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:58,280 He's bringing a teaching to the church in Corinth, but yet he's using an example. 155 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:02,080 An example about marriage. 156 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:08,520 And what an example of marriage. 157 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:14,440 How can we live pleasing each other? 158 00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:24,040 By listening, paying attention to the needs, the desires, and the likes of their spouse. 159 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:37,640 There is no marriage that is driven by selfish will ever end up well. 160 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:46,680 Because it is very easy, right, to demand from your spouse, and demanding, and demanding. 161 00:15:46,680 --> 00:15:52,280 But what about you? 162 00:15:52,280 --> 00:15:57,720 Where don't you make the deal of that song? 163 00:15:57,720 --> 00:16:02,600 Where both of them, they live to please each other. 164 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:06,240 The rest of their lives. 165 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:10,880 What does the Bible say about this? 166 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:19,160 In Philippians chapter two, verse four. 167 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:24,120 May each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests 168 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:27,880 of others. 169 00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:38,920 One of the great teachings of the Bible, it is to love your neighbor as yourself. 170 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:43,800 The Bible speaks a lot against selfishness. 171 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:47,800 Because it is a destructive attitude. 172 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:50,440 It destroys individually people. 173 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:54,920 But it also destroys relationships. 174 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:57,840 It destroys marriages. 175 00:16:57,840 --> 00:17:02,200 Paul is speaking to the Philippians. 176 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:05,760 Don't think just about yourself. 177 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:10,200 Learn to think about someone else. 178 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:15,080 In this case, our spouses. 179 00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:25,080 This brings me to my second point. 180 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:36,560 The importance of discovering the needs, the tastes, and the spouse's wishes. 181 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:42,120 Regular what we discover is the errors, right, between each other. 182 00:17:42,120 --> 00:17:48,840 And we begin to mark them. 183 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:53,280 How about the needs? 184 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:58,680 How well do you know the needs of your spouse? 185 00:17:58,680 --> 00:18:04,760 If you don't know them, let me help you a little bit. 186 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:13,520 Think about the women, the needs of the women. 187 00:18:13,520 --> 00:18:20,640 Women need to be treated fragile, very well, like a fragile vessel. 188 00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:28,440 No machismo here. 189 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:33,840 Women like for them to give them time. 190 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:39,680 Can you please help me with the name in? 191 00:18:39,680 --> 00:18:44,280 Women like to be heard. 192 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:53,160 Women talk, talk, and talk. 193 00:18:53,160 --> 00:19:03,760 When my wife Lucy travels with me in my car, and we go hours in our car, I just put my 194 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:12,360 self in the hands of the Lord, the Father, the Spirit, and the Son. 195 00:19:12,360 --> 00:19:17,040 Because Lucy's going to speak. 196 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:20,400 Women love to speak. 197 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:26,320 And they need their men to hear them. 198 00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:33,320 They need flowers, cards, gifts. 199 00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:42,600 Women need help with the heavy load at work in their own home. 200 00:19:42,600 --> 00:19:56,520 The husband always remembers their birthday, just the days of, just Valentine's days. 201 00:19:56,520 --> 00:20:03,000 Women need the husband to buy them, you know, equipment to wash the clothes, do the laundry, 202 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:07,960 all kinds of stuff. 203 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:13,720 They need an assurance, financial stability. 204 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:20,920 That the man will be a good worker. 205 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:26,920 These are the women's needs. 206 00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:31,720 Think about the men's needs. 207 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:39,000 Men were not too complicated. 208 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:45,680 They didn't believe us. 209 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:48,680 Men only just need three things. 210 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:51,680 Seriously, seriously, speaking three things. 211 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:52,680 Sex. 212 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:53,680 Sex. 213 00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:54,680 Sex. 214 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:55,680 And sex. 215 00:20:55,680 --> 00:21:08,480 And all the men say amen. 216 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:25,600 Well, sister, if you believe that's from hell, it's not from hell. 217 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:30,280 It's a need. 218 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:36,200 It's a vital need for your husband to be by your side. 219 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:41,720 Well, there are other things. 220 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:46,200 A man needs a good treatment at home. 221 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:50,960 A good atmosphere, just a good feeling at home. 222 00:21:50,960 --> 00:22:00,000 A woman with a good character, so well-sought that the husband would actually want to come 223 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:06,280 from work back home. 224 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:17,040 She would not be like a lion waiting for him. 225 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:25,200 In Mexico, sometimes that takes place once in a while. 226 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:36,560 A man seriously needs that a woman would actually take care of her physical figure. 227 00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:41,560 It's a vital need for the man. 228 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:48,280 Our trouble many times is in our vision. 229 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:53,560 And we need a woman that would take care of herself physically. 230 00:22:53,560 --> 00:23:00,480 You have to study about that, sister. 231 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:07,360 I'm talking about a vital need to actually build a good marriage. 232 00:23:07,360 --> 00:23:10,520 And to iron the clothes. 233 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:14,000 Do the laundry, things. 234 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:22,080 And also for the woman to actually feed the man's ego. 235 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,440 Just to encourage him. 236 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:30,160 That would tell him words that would lift him up. 237 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:35,640 Because there is a power in words. 238 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:40,320 Solomon says it can bring life or death. 239 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:43,160 There is power in words. 240 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:52,560 And the wife has to have the ability to speak positive things on him. 241 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:56,040 So your spouse has needs. 242 00:23:56,040 --> 00:24:03,040 Let's talk about the taste, the likes. 243 00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:10,680 As human beings we have different types of tastes and likes. 244 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:17,200 It's astonishing when we get married every head is a different world. 245 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:25,720 This also includes the taste, the likes. 246 00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:29,920 Simple things like one may like beef, the other likes pork. 247 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:40,160 In Mexico some like corn tortillas, some like flour tortillas. 248 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:45,760 My wife loves rice, I love beans. 249 00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:49,840 Gustos, gustos, gustos. 250 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:51,240 Likes, tastes. 251 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:56,720 Somos un mundo diferente en gustos. 252 00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:00,120 La pregunta es como tratas los gustos de tu conyuge. 253 00:25:00,120 --> 00:25:04,000 The question is how do you treat the taste of your spouse? 254 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:05,640 Los valoras, los respetas? 255 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:06,920 Do you value them? 256 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:08,280 Do you respect them? 257 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:09,280 Los cuidas? 258 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:10,280 Do you take care of them? 259 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:11,280 O los criticas? 260 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:12,960 Or do you criticize them? 261 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,680 Y no te importa mucho. 262 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,360 And you could care less about them. 263 00:25:16,360 --> 00:25:17,800 Y los descuidas. 264 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:19,400 And you just neglect them. 265 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:31,960 Cuando las personas casadas tienen el cuidado de respetar los gustos de su pareja, no nada 266 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:36,360 más respetarlos, pero estar al pendiente de esos gustos. 267 00:25:36,360 --> 00:25:49,080 A largo plazo, como va fortaleciendo la relación. 268 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:53,560 Pero que triste es cuando de pronto, boom, salta el monstruo del egoismo. 269 00:25:53,560 --> 00:26:03,720 But how sad it is when all of a sudden the monster of your ego blares out. 270 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:10,000 I like what I like about your things I'm not really interested on. 271 00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:14,640 Marriage is about two people. 272 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:23,600 Many times the problems with single is that they get married and throughout the years 273 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:28,080 they want to continue to live like single people. 274 00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:32,760 But yet there is another human being there. 275 00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:39,240 Many times selfishness causes it. 276 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:44,160 We just want to take the benefits out of our spouse. 277 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:47,680 And we don't do our own part. 278 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:52,400 Our spouses have taste, they have likes. 279 00:26:52,400 --> 00:27:04,560 But how about the desires, the wishes, the dreams. 280 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:11,280 As human beings, we also have desires. 281 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:18,720 One desires one type of car, the other one desires another style of car. 282 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:23,040 One desires to go to one city, the other one desires to go to another city. 283 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:33,520 And there is a world of desires in one of them and then in the other. 284 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:41,000 Both of them are very much different. 285 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:48,480 There were two donkeys. 286 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:56,200 You always think wrong here about this. 287 00:27:56,200 --> 00:28:02,600 They put one style of food in one side, the other style in another side. 288 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:08,000 They tied them down to their neck to each other. 289 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:13,320 One donkey will go one way, the other one will go the other way. 290 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:17,960 And none of them will let each other go to eat. 291 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:22,320 They were actually hurting themselves, hurting themselves. 292 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:34,520 Each one of them wanted to go to their place until one donkey had to be less donkey. 293 00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:43,120 They actually got in one accord, they actually ate together in that same bowl. 294 00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:46,560 And then after they came and ate together in the other bowl. 295 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:47,560 Just fixed it. 296 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:48,560 Out with selfishness. 297 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:58,600 And there is a strength in the relationship. 298 00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:05,600 I want to go to my last point. 299 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:09,000 Living life pleasing your spouse. 300 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:15,560 Let's come back to our text. 301 00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:16,560 Verse 33. 302 00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:26,600 But he who is merry cares about the things of the world, how he may please his wife. 303 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:35,280 Verse 34 says this. 304 00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:45,080 But she who is merry cares about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 305 00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:54,720 I believe in the beginning years of our marriage, Lucy and I, we had a lot of confrontations 306 00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,880 because of selfishness. 307 00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:04,040 But we actually had to begin to just mature. 308 00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:10,940 Christianity removes selfishness away from our heart. 309 00:30:10,940 --> 00:30:18,160 The teachings of God's word removes selfishness of our hearts. 310 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:23,280 And we began to seriously put together this. 311 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,240 And both now we both live one for each other. 312 00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:27,240 Pleasing us. 313 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:34,760 Because that is an incredible secret. 314 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:38,880 Removing selfishness from our marriage. 315 00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:46,280 So the challenge this morning is to renounce selfishness. 316 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:49,200 Cast it out of our lives. 317 00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:53,160 Out of our own character. 318 00:30:53,160 --> 00:31:04,920 And begin to think about more and the needs and the tastes and the desires of our spouses. 319 00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:11,480 I tell the men first of all, think about the needs of your wife. 320 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:15,920 And the tastes that she has. 321 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:17,600 And the desire. 322 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:19,720 Renounce to yourself. 323 00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:25,440 You will enrich, strengthen your marriage. 324 00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:31,120 We don't have to end up wrong at the end. 325 00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:41,480 We don't have to live with the fear that one day our lives are going to be destroyed. 326 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:44,480 Just renounce to your selfishness. 327 00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:47,920 I tell the wives now. 328 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:52,720 You have to renounce to selfishness. 329 00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:54,920 You have to pay attention to the needs of your husband. 330 00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:59,560 To the tastes, to the desires of your husband. 331 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:09,640 Marriage is about two people. 332 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,480 The word of God teaches us a great path. 333 00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:23,640 In times it is a painful path at the beginning, but through the long haul, you and I we can 334 00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,040 build great marriages. 335 00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:30,760 And that means a lot of blessings. 336 00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:35,040 If we practice the Bible. 337 00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:39,240 The Bible teaches us from Genesis to Revelation. 338 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:40,240 To renounce selfishness. 339 00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:48,040 When both of them make the decision. 340 00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:51,080 When both make the decision. 341 00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:54,380 They will be blessed. 342 00:32:54,380 --> 00:32:56,520 They will have a strong marriage. 343 00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:57,520 Happy. 344 00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:58,520 Their children. 345 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:03,600 They will be blessed. 346 00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,800 When their grandchildren come. 347 00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:07,800 They will be blessed. 348 00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:16,040 And even the dog in the house will be blessed. 349 00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:19,600 Don't you believe it? 350 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:22,440 When you're bitter. 351 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:30,080 How do you deal with your dog? 352 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,520 But when you are happy. 353 00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:38,480 The best food for the dog. 354 00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:46,800 Even the dog comes on winning here. 355 00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:54,800 Either we live to please our spouses. 356 00:33:54,800 --> 00:34:02,920 Or we will end up our lives even finishing our lives without even pleasing ourselves. 357 00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:07,800 People that selfish is just an unhappy people. 358 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:12,120 There is a lot of misery in his interior. 359 00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:17,080 Maybe he thinks that all is going to I'm winning here. 360 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,520 But with selfishness, no one wins. 361 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:25,160 The apostle Paul makes a powerful declaration. 362 00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:35,040 In Acts chapter 20 verse 35. 363 00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:40,080 It is more blessed to give than to receive. 364 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:44,080 This is a mystery. 365 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:47,360 But it's something glorious. 366 00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:50,440 When you learn to give. 367 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,760 In every aspect. 368 00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:57,200 Even in your marriage life. 369 00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:01,480 You will be a blessed person. 370 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:05,320 You will cause that your marriage will be more blessed. 371 00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:10,280 Your children, your family. 372 00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:14,120 That happens when you live your life. 373 00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:18,640 Pleasing your spouse. 374 00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:25,240 I want to conclude my sermon. 375 00:35:25,240 --> 00:35:29,680 A good marriage, a good family. 376 00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:33,080 That just does not happen just by itself. 377 00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:35,040 By luck. 378 00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:38,880 By just casual chance. 379 00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:43,080 Or that you just simply are because you are a Christian. 380 00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:47,000 I'm a Christian and here I sign. 381 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:50,480 I didn't fornicate it so I signed. 382 00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:54,160 I did the things okay, right? 383 00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,240 That's just the beginning only. 384 00:35:57,240 --> 00:35:59,600 The better comes after. 385 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:05,040 And it is right there. 386 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:10,360 Where you're going to have to decide to be a good Christian. 387 00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:18,560 Throughout the years if you work in your marriage. 388 00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:20,720 You're going to have a strong marriage. 389 00:36:20,720 --> 00:36:26,600 If both of them they decide. 390 00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:31,920 To renounce to every type of selfishness. 391 00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:40,040 And keep themselves in that covenant that they made. 392 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:49,000 The one who's married is concerned about the things how to please his wife. 393 00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:52,740 The married one, the woman that's married she cares about the things of the world. 394 00:36:52,740 --> 00:36:55,320 How she may please her husband. 395 00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:56,320 Together. 396 00:36:56,320 --> 00:37:00,400 It's just a secret of God. 397 00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:04,520 The song says. 398 00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,920 You're going to be for me. 399 00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:11,640 You're going to make yourself just make me happy. 400 00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:12,640 And me. 401 00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:17,200 Myself I will be for you. 402 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:22,760 And I will make sure that I'm going to make you even happier. 403 00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:28,200 If all the marriages do that. 404 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:33,360 That we will live and that just call. 405 00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:39,640 Throughout the months and the years. 406 00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:40,640 You're going to go year. 407 00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:45,640 Thank you for listening to the P.H.S.A. 408 00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:48,320 Potter's House Salmon Arm podcast. 409 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:53,000 Be sure to follow us on 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