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Welcome to our podcast, The Why in Your 20s.

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My name is Nat.

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And I'm Viv.

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And we are two counsellors in our mid-20s navigating our adulthood away from our home

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country.

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In this podcast, we will talk about questions that we might come across in our 20s that

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link to anything from relationship, identities and uncertainties.

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What is adulthood friendship so difficult?

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Why am I feeling this way?

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What is life full of uncertainties?

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Just a platform for us to make sense of the topics or questions in our head that we tend

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to avoid or shy away.

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Some topics will be fun, others can be scary and uncomfortable.

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But sit with it because that's when we learn and grow.

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Whether you're listening to our podcast while going for your morning or evening walk,

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or while doing your chores, anything, well come on board and let the journey begin.

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Yeah, so before we dive into it, we begin the episode by acknowledging and paying our

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respects to the traditional custodians of the land on which we meet today.

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We recognize their cultures, histories and diversity and their deep connection to the

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lands, waters and seas of Queensland and the Torres Strait.

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We acknowledge the Niagara people and the Toro people as the traditional custodians

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of Minjin, the lands on which our office is located and where we meet, work and learn.

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We pay our respects to the Niagara and Toro elders, past, present and emerging.

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Yeah, so Nat, how do you feel about our podcast?

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I think it's still so surreal.

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I feel like I've told you, like I think I've gone on different phases from really exciting

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that we start doing this to feeling so real, but also surreal at the same time that I want

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to quit.

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And I think that's, I think that's a good thing of having two people.

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And it's scary.

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It's uncomfortable, but I think it's something that I've always wanted to do.

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Yeah, a bit mixed feeling.

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What about you?

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Yeah, definitely mixed feelings, but at the same time, I'm actually very excited for a

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project in my life to actually come to life because I definitely do not finish up my projects.

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Like whenever I start, I'll start one day and then because there's no one keeping you

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accountable, I just give up and just forget about it.

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But now two people really helps with the process and accountability.

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Yes, definitely.

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Well, I hope you don't get sick of me.

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Yeah, we'll see about that.

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Do the podcast is so like we want to achieve?

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I think for me, there's a lot that I want to achieve.

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I personally really enjoy listening to podcasts.

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One of the big things for me is I feel a bit less lonely and I can feel relate to the host

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or the topic that they are covering.

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It's just feeling a bit less lonely and feeling, Oh, actually someone in the world have the

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same problem or like concern as me.

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I really hope this podcast for you guys that who are listening now can feel a bit relate

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or less lonely after listening to a podcast.

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If you don't agree with what we said, and that's absolutely okay.

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But there's a different perspective and different insights on the topics as well.

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Sure.

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Like I definitely agree where listeners will have different views, like probably like even

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opposite views as we do or what we say or opinions.

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Because even when I as a listener, when I listen to podcasts, I question about like

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this person is different from me.

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Yeah, the views and opinions, their perspective is very opposite from me.

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And I actually like listening to it because it really helps me to think through, Oh, why

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am I thinking this way?

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It's very thought provoking.

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And I hope this podcast will be the same for our listeners.

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And when we talk, like Nan and I talk, it helps broaden that perspective as well.

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Because we have different views, like we have similarities, obviously, but a lot of different

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views create different values that we have, that we hold.

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I really welcome listeners to talk to us and see how different they are, because I'm really

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interested in seeing that as well.

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Yeah, in case the audience don't know, we both are from Hong Kong.

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Oh, yeah.

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Came to a new country.

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And I think it's covered most of our 20s as well.

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I hope that this podcast can be relatable and thought provoking.

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But also our experience in navigating our 20s in new country and new culture, even a

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new language to me, new people, I think is a really good platform for us to explore the

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questions that we have.

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And also, if you guys have any questions, we can, through our experience, hopefully we

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can bring some perspective or insights into that as well.

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There's a lot of topics that we want to cover.

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Honestly, we had so many different topics that we actually can't really...

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You feel like it's very messy?

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It's very messy.

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It's like it covers so much in the sense where you really don't know how to group them as

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well.

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Do you want to tell the listeners what some of our topics will be?

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Or maybe the topics that you're more interested at the moment right now?

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I think cultural diversity is one of the big things for me.

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As you said, it's a bit messy, but I think identity is another thing because I've spent

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quite a lot of time exploring myself, who am I in the past two years.

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Yeah, for sure.

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Just to spending time with myself and wondering who am I, because you probably know I'm definitely

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a people pleaser that I don't really have my own opinion.

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And the older I get, I feel like I don't know who am I.

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So I think the past two years, finding myself as well, just from asking questions and thoughts

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and just even sometimes talking to myself really helped in finding my identity.

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So identity is a big thing for me.

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Relationship is another big thing for me.

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Family relationship, friendship, romantic relationship, I think is also a very important

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aspect in our 20s.

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Yeah, for sure.

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In your 30s or in your teenagers, I think any stage of life is the connection is very

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important.

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What about you?

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Yeah, I think relationships, it's not only romantic relationships or even family or friends.

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It's more about how we connect to different things, like whether it's connected to our

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jobs, things that we value and connected to our past, how we make meaning of it, how we

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connect with it, how it actually affects us nowadays.

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So I think that's like a very main like why question that I have is more like how does

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the past actually define you and not define you, affect you or changes you, shape you.

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Yeah, exactly.

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One of the why questions that I'm asking and also the uncertainty because oh my goodness,

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the life that we have or anyone has, it's just full of uncertainties and that's how

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we deal with it, how we tackle it, how we approach it is very different and how do we

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actually cope with the uncertainties that we have in life, whether it's job searching,

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a big thing for us right now.

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Just in general, as you said, we came here with no family, no friends and we just built

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that connection with people here.

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So yeah, there's like two main why questions.

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That really summarized on what we want to talk as well.

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We realize a lot of topics that we want to cover have a common theme is the identity,

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uncertainty and relationships.

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It's just all around us and even we started this podcast is a big uncertainty.

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Whether we go through it, we might not release this episode.

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We will see.

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If you guys are listening to it now, means we made it.

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One certainty, like one certainty but uncertainty on the future episodes.

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Yeah, I think it's just embrace it with it.

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It's easier to set than done.

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I think having two people really helps the accountability and supporting with each other

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as well.

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Yeah, it will be uncomfortable.

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We will go through a lot of our own experiences or even other people's experiences.

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Well that leads to the disclaimer part of our podcast.

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Just to let you guys know that all the information, opinions and recommendations presented in

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Bye.