1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,760 Why did it count backwards? 2 00:00:01,760 --> 00:00:03,760 Oh no, we're now recording. 3 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:05,760 What? 4 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:06,760 Hello Captain. 5 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:14,760 Come fly with me, let's fly, let's fly away. 6 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:18,760 What are we going to talk about? 7 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:19,760 I don't know. 8 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:22,760 So, leadership, life and everything else. 9 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:23,760 Yeah. 10 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:29,760 And we're live. 11 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:31,760 No, we're still recording. 12 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:35,760 Welcome aboard Captain and the Clown. 13 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,760 Podcast on life, leadership and everything else. 14 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:39,760 Hi Michelle. 15 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:40,760 Hi Guy. 16 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:41,760 Captain. 17 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:42,760 And the Clown. 18 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:43,760 The Clown. 19 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:46,760 And today's destination is? 20 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:48,760 Doing your best. 21 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:49,760 Doing your best. 22 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:51,760 So what have you been up to? 23 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:56,760 I am preparing for a round table next week. 24 00:00:56,760 --> 00:00:57,760 And you're going to do your best? 25 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:58,760 I am going to do my best. 26 00:00:58,760 --> 00:00:59,760 You're always doing your best. 27 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:00,760 Yeah, yeah. 28 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:04,760 A group of ladies who lead in Western Sydney. 29 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:06,760 So I'm very excited about that. 30 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:07,760 Awesome. 31 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:08,760 Fantastic, fantastic. 32 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:12,760 Yeah, I'm preparing for a couple of virtual sessions with some clients overseas. 33 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:18,760 Yes, they still haven't plucked up the courage to get people travelling overseas to do stuff yet. 34 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:19,760 But we'll get there. 35 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:27,760 So on that actually, the, so in person I love the feedback, the immediate feedback I get from people in person. 36 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:31,760 And the Zoom thing I'm not a fan of. 37 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:32,760 Have you found? 38 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:33,760 It's challenging. 39 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:34,760 Yeah. 40 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,760 It's challenging running any sort of training session virtually. 41 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:38,760 I find it exhausting. 42 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:42,760 It is exhausting because you're not getting the same energy back and you're never making eye contact. 43 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:45,760 Because if you're looking at the camera, you're not looking at people's eyes. 44 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:49,760 But if you're looking at the screen, you're not looking at the camera so that you're not looking straight ahead. 45 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:51,760 And so I find it a lot less personal. 46 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:57,760 It's obviously something that we have to get used to because in the future this hybrid work from home model. 47 00:01:57,760 --> 00:01:58,760 Yeah. 48 00:01:58,760 --> 00:01:59,760 I hadn't thought of that actually. 49 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:01,760 Yeah, the fact that there's no eye contact. 50 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:02,760 Yeah, no eye contact. 51 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:04,760 You're either looking at a camera or you're looking at a screen. 52 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,760 You are never looking somebody in the eyes if you're on a Zoom or a Teams or... 53 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:08,760 No, you're looking at their eyes. 54 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:09,760 But yeah, you're not... 55 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:11,760 Yeah, but not looking in their eyes. 56 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:14,760 You're not making that human connection and receiving your oxytocin. 57 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,760 Anyway, today is about doing your best. 58 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:21,760 Yes. 59 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:25,760 Yes, because we both have a belief that a lot of people don't share. 60 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:27,760 No, no, there are some naysayers out there. 61 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:34,760 Yeah, so I firmly believe that every single person on this planet every day of their life does their best. 62 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:36,760 Yes, under the circumstances. 63 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:37,760 Under the circumstances. 64 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:40,760 Whatever they may be on that particular day, that particular minute. 65 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:41,760 They're doing their best. 66 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:42,760 They're doing their best. 67 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:43,760 Not their peak. 68 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:44,760 No, no, there is a difference. 69 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:45,760 Their peak is something different. 70 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:56,760 Their peak is when the world conspires to give you everything you need on that day and all the environment is perfect and you hit your peak. 71 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,760 The planets align, the green lights one after another. 72 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:05,760 Yeah, the planets align, Venus is lined up with Mars and you're doing the most you can possibly do. 73 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:06,760 Yes. 74 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:07,760 Yes. 75 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:09,760 But on the other days, everyone is doing their best. 76 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:14,760 Yeah, the days where you fall over, skin your knee, you don't get a report done. 77 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:25,760 You don't get anything done on your to-do list because of the kids are sick, your computer's not backed up, you're whatever. 78 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:27,760 You're still doing your best under those circumstances. 79 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:28,760 That's it. 80 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:30,760 And a lot of people have argued with me when I brought up this topic. 81 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:33,760 They said, no, no, on Saturday I was sat on the couch all day long. 82 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:35,760 And I said, well, that was your best on that day. 83 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:36,760 That's all you could do. 84 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:37,760 Yeah. 85 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:39,760 Oh, but I could have done more, but you didn't. 86 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:40,760 No. 87 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:42,760 Well, people actually think about that. 88 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:48,760 So no one ever criticised the seasons for the winter trees lose their leaves. 89 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:50,760 It's like, come on, you could have kept it. 90 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:52,760 Keep your leaves all through the year. 91 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:54,760 Stop being, is it deciduous? 92 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:56,760 Yeah. 93 00:03:56,760 --> 00:04:03,760 And so they, you know, but ourselves we beat up or we beat up others because they do need downtime. 94 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:05,760 And then they're doing the best downtime they can. 95 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:13,760 But it's that recuperate and again, there could have been things that haven't aligned, that haven't worked out, 96 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:18,760 but you are doing your best, even getting out of bed or sitting up or, you know. 97 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:20,760 For some people getting out of bed can be very difficult. 98 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:21,760 That's right. 99 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:22,760 That's right. 100 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:26,760 When they're in their depressive states or whatever, it stops you from being able to get out of bed. 101 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,760 And I think we need more compassion for people. 102 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,760 I'm not condoning laziness here. 103 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:32,760 No. 104 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:33,760 Oh, no, absolutely. 105 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:37,760 What I'm saying is that if somebody is lazy, they're doing their best, 106 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:43,760 but what they need to do is they need to find out what are the factors that are causing them to be lazy 107 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:53,760 or that's sucking the motivation out of them or so, you know, they haven't learned to overcome this or this challenge. 108 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:55,760 And so ultimately, yet. 109 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:56,760 Yet. 110 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:57,760 Exactly. 111 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:04,760 And I think what it does is if you make the, I guess, the internal belief that I'm always doing my best, 112 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,760 then you're a little less harsh on yourself. 113 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:10,760 And then rather than using your energy to beat yourself up, 114 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:15,760 you're going to use your energy to find out what you need to change to do better, to get closer to your peak, 115 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:17,760 whatever your peak may be. 116 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:21,760 So rather than using all of that neural energy to beat yourself up because you were lazy, 117 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:25,760 beat yourself up because you didn't finish that school assignment, 118 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:32,760 you should be sitting there using that neural energy to figure out what do you need to do differently next time to get closer to your peak. 119 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:34,760 Yeah. Yeah. 120 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:42,760 I'm thinking even back when, you know, I was at uni and the thought of washing up because the dishes would pile up. 121 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:43,760 Yeah. 122 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:49,760 And I know this has got nothing to do with business, but it was that thing of after, you know, 123 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:57,760 a big night the night before or whatever, facing a mountain of washing the next day, washing up plates, cups, et cetera. 124 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:02,760 And it was just that, oh, I can't, you felt, you didn't feel well anyway. 125 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:05,760 I had had a couple of drinks the night before. 126 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:07,760 At uni? No. 127 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:08,760 And I was an art student. 128 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,760 Oh, what? They don't go together? 129 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:19,760 But it got to the stage where it was just, oh, even just, and, you know, you wanted a drink of water and there wasn't a clean cup. 130 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:25,760 And you considered maybe even a saucer or drinking straight from the tap. 131 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,760 But I'm getting a picture of university days now. 132 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:29,760 It wasn't good. 133 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:38,760 But it came down to the fact where I was like, OK, I've either got to wash up and it's then a big, big chore, big thing to do. 134 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:44,760 Or I can just be like lazy, do a cup at a time as I need it. 135 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:46,760 So that was your best? 136 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:47,760 That was my best at the time. 137 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:49,760 I then I got sick of that. 138 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:55,760 I actually got to the stage where I was sick of having to face that every single day. 139 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:58,760 And it's not that I was a lazy person. 140 00:06:58,760 --> 00:06:59,760 It was just it wasn't a priority. 141 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:00,760 Yeah. 142 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:07,760 And then I made the decision, OK, I am only going to have one cup, one bowl, one. 143 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,760 And it made it a hell of a lot easier. 144 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:14,760 The decision to do it and to wash it as I. 145 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:21,760 And that was so you removed all of the obstacles to allow you to get closer to your peak and your peak was having clean dishes. 146 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:24,760 Correct. That was my thing. 147 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:26,760 I kind of digressed a little. 148 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:29,760 That's OK. That's OK. 149 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:36,760 I am so I used this mindset, I guess, about always doing your best when I overcame my fear of public speaking. 150 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:43,760 So as you know, we've discussed this in the past, both in the past, both of us had a fear of public speaking. 151 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:44,760 Yes. 152 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:55,760 And I would get up there and I was getting better at it, but I still feared my audience and I was feeling insecure, even though I was starting to get good at public speaking. 153 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,760 And then I sat down one day and I was thinking about it. 154 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:00,760 I was thinking, well, what could they possibly be judging? 155 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:02,760 Because I'm doing my best every time I go out there. 156 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:03,760 I'm doing my best. 157 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:05,760 I'm not great at it yet. 158 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:07,760 I'm still learning it, but I'm certainly doing my best. 159 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:12,760 And then I realized that every single day I do my best. 160 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:16,760 And if people have got a problem with that, that problem's not with me. 161 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:19,760 That problem's with them because I'm doing my best. 162 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:24,760 If they're expecting more from me, they're expecting something that can't happen yet. 163 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:25,760 No, no. 164 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:26,760 And you can't control others. 165 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:27,760 No, I can't. 166 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:33,760 And so when I start to realize that I was going to do my best, if my best wasn't good enough for them, that's their problem. 167 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:38,760 So that then took all of the fear away from me so I could concentrate on what I was doing. 168 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:43,760 I could concentrate on getting better and using any feedback that I got to improve and grow and learn 169 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:48,760 without that massive fear of judgment coming from the audience. 170 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:53,760 It's like, I guess, being in a Datsun 180B and driving down the highway, 171 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:56,760 expecting the car to be able to do 200 kilometers an hour. 172 00:08:56,760 --> 00:08:59,760 And you can't. It's an old rat load. It's only going to attack you 120, 130. 173 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:05,760 The problem's not with the car. The problem's with the expectation that it can do 300 kilometers an hour. 174 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:12,760 It's the same as my audience. If they expected me to be better at that time when I was learning, that's their problem. 175 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:13,760 Yeah. 176 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:21,760 And so if you can harness that and bring that thought inside yourself, that every day you do your best. 177 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:22,760 Yes. 178 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:24,760 It stops you worrying about other people. 179 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:26,760 That's right. So yeah, there's some days. 180 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:29,760 So even going for a walk in the morning. 181 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:34,760 Some days I could, and because of my knees, I can't run anymore. 182 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:41,760 And I used to be so hard on myself because to me it didn't feel like I was actually exercising if I was walking. 183 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:46,760 It's like walking for plebs. Like honestly, you're not exercising. 184 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:49,760 This is a poor excuse to call it an exercise. 185 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:54,760 And then I had to change my mindset and that I was at least getting out, the blood was flowing, 186 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:59,760 and I would walk fast quickly. But there are some mornings when it's a struggle to get out of bed. 187 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:00,760 I know that feeling. 188 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:03,760 Pleas when I do get out, and I do, I make myself get out of bed. 189 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:11,760 But going and I make myself go for a walk. But it's that some days I'm not going to break any land speed records at all. 190 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:13,760 I don't even work up a sweat. 191 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:14,760 Yeah. 192 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:15,760 But I can. 193 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:17,760 So I guess your peak changes throughout your life, doesn't it? 194 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:18,760 It does. 195 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:19,760 Yeah. 196 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:20,760 Yeah, you've got to readjust that. 197 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:21,760 You've got to readjust your peak. 198 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:28,760 Have you ever been in flow or in what they call it the zone? 199 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:30,760 Absolutely. Well, even flying. 200 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:37,760 So there are some days when you are so on and, you know, every flight is safe from A to B, 201 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:46,760 but you are so on that you, you know, your radio calls, your checklists, your calls to crew, 202 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:52,760 your takeoff flight landing, everything is just a hundred percent, a hundred and ten percent. 203 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:54,760 It's almost like it's happening without you thinking. 204 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,760 Yeah. Yeah. And it's just an extension of your body. It's amazing. 205 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:06,760 Actually, when I was learning to fly, there was a, an instructor and he used to be a, a Qantas captain of all captains. 206 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:12,760 Not that there's anything wrong with Qantas captains, but it was, he had a lot of experience. 207 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:20,760 I think he had something like 20,000 hours and he took me up on this very windy day to do crosswind takeoff and landings. 208 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:26,760 Now I had struggled as a student to do this. I've done a couple of lessons and hadn't quite got it. 209 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:36,760 And he actually, he demonstrated the first one with me in the aircraft and it was, it was beautiful to watch 210 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:46,760 and to be part of rough as it's all buggery around the circuit, but he made it so easy and he was so confident of his ability 211 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:56,760 that he had the time and the brain space to not only fly, but to talk and describe everything he was doing at the time. 212 00:11:56,760 --> 00:12:01,760 And it, it clicked immediately and it was easy after that. 213 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:07,760 So yeah, so being in the zone and I saw what it was like to be in the zone. 214 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:12,760 And then that's something that you want to achieve. It's possible. 215 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:20,760 Yeah, we train for it in sport. So similar to what you were saying previously about muscle memory, about, you know, it's you train so much. 216 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:24,760 What would you, I think the term you used was an armchair pilot where it's just so comfortable. 217 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:30,760 That's right. Armchair. Well, no, that's an armchair practice. So it was, it was you rehearsing it in, in the armchair. 218 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:35,760 So prior to, a bit like athletes who do the mental preparation. Absolutely. Yeah. Mental rehearsal. 219 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:43,760 Yeah. So we, we did in sport as well. You train hours and hours and hours because when you get to the game, you don't want to be thinking. 220 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:47,760 No. The times that I played my worst is when I was inside my head. I was thinking, yeah. 221 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:55,760 But the times where I played my best and I remember the time I actually did play my best was two, two tournaments, one tournament in 1993 at the World Cup 222 00:12:55,760 --> 00:13:02,760 and another tournament in 95. I achieved what I refer to, now refer to and other athletes refer to as being in the zone. 223 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:09,760 I was in the zone. It's like the world had slowed down and everything was happening at this incredible slow pace. 224 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:16,760 Even though they're throwing projectiles at me at very, at a very fast pace. It's, it's almost like I could predict what was going to happen before it happened. 225 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:21,760 Yeah. And it was the most amazing experience. And so I discovered what peak feels like. 226 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:28,760 But this, all of the universe had aligned. I trained hard. I wasn't in my head about anything outside of my sport. 227 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:35,760 Had a good sleep. I had a good sleep. I was eating good nutrition. I was recovering well. I was stretching. 228 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:39,760 I was doing everything that I needed to do to be able to reach my peak. And I did. Yes. 229 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:47,760 But I've had tournaments and not just, not just sport, but also keynotes early on in my career where I didn't reach my peak 230 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:57,760 because I hadn't looked after all the outside factors. But again, looking back on those days and those times, I was doing my best under the conditions that I was in. 231 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:06,760 You know, maybe I had a problem with my relationship at the time or I had this. And so they, those were the things that were getting into my head. 232 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:13,760 And that's why elite athletes, you hear about them all the time. They, they, they come into the stadium with headphones on, they remove the outside world. 233 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:21,760 They have to be so one point focused so that they can be at their peak. But most people aren't. Yeah. 234 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:30,760 LeBron James, you know, so we have to be a bit more compassionate with ourselves and, and with our colleagues and with our family and with our kids 235 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:38,760 and realize that they're doing their best. Yeah. They don't, they don't have the support crew behind them to remove all external distractions 236 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:43,760 so that they can be at their peak when they need to perform. 237 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:57,760 I had a flying, a chief flying instructor who instilled, he drilled it in us. Prior performance prevents, sorry, prior practice prevents piss poor performance. 238 00:14:57,760 --> 00:15:04,760 Yes. Or prior preparation is what it is. We heard, perfect practice. Right. Perfect practice prevents piss poor performance. 239 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:10,760 Yes. Cause if you're practicing the wrong way, it doesn't work. Yeah. You practice like you want to, yeah. Practice like you want to compete. 240 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:17,760 Yeah. And so, and his name was Pat. So it was Pat's proven process prior preparation prevents piss poor performance. 241 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:20,760 Say that quickly again. I want to hear that quickly. 242 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:29,760 So yeah, but it was, and it was true because the days that you didn't prepare in for, and this was for flying training, but you can apply it to anything. 243 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:45,760 Yeah. The days you did not prepare. So either allowing for the outside factors or building yourself up, even, even with flying, you know, the landings that you did where if the weather was bad, there were conditions that weren't favorable necessarily 244 00:15:45,760 --> 00:16:00,760 because you planned that landing so far back as in you were in the climb and you'd already, you knew you'd briefed it. You knew what your outs were. If anything went wrong, you knew exactly what to do. And so did your colleague. 245 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:11,760 The nice days where it was, you know, only a little bit of wind and it was a sunny day. You're almost lulled into this false sense of security that it was just, ah, it's another landing. 246 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:22,760 And sure you briefed it, but your head space wasn't as acute as what it is for, you know, allowing for the, the more challenging conditions. 247 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:31,760 Yeah. So every day we do our best. We don't necessarily always do our peak. Our peak is for when the universe is aligning everything for us. 248 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:38,760 How do we, how do we argue with the naysayers out there that say, Oh, look, I spent the whole day on the couch. How can you say I'm doing my best? 249 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:50,760 Well, why were they on the couch? Exactly. Why were they on the couch? Well, I was tired. Well, there you go. The universe was conspiring to make you tired. That's right. You needed some recovery. Yeah. 250 00:16:50,760 --> 00:17:01,760 I think, I think the reinforcing the thing of doing your best doesn't mean peak. So you haven't scored a hundred percent in a test, but you did your best and you got, you know, you might get 38%. 251 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:11,760 You did your best because either you hadn't prepared it with stuff you didn't know. You'd had a late night. Your pen didn't work. You ran out of time, whatever it is. And we're not giving excuses. 252 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:19,760 It's just, you haven't reached peak a hundred percent, but a hundred percent for you that day may be 38%. 253 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:26,760 And it's a complete waste of your time and energy to beat yourself up that you weren't at your peak. 254 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:38,760 What you should do is you should look at the fact that you weren't at your peak. Now learn what were the factors so that next time you can remove or overcome or do something different. 255 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:45,760 Yeah, do your own debrief. That's right. Yeah. Okay. So that's what I achieved. That was my best with the situation, with the circumstances. 256 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:56,760 So what were the circumstances? And then debrief with yourself, like you say, go through, all right, well, why was I tired? Well, I stand up too late the night before looking on TikTok or whatever it was. 257 00:17:56,760 --> 00:18:05,760 I ate a big bowl of ice cream and I'm lactose intolerant and so I didn't sleep at all. Yeah. Yeah. So I think we've got to be kinder to ourselves. 258 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:17,760 We've got to realize that every single day we are doing our best. Yeah. Not our peak. No. Our best. But doesn't mean you have to be okay with substandard performance. 259 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:27,760 You just need to identify what were the factors that meant that your best on that day was substandard from your, you know, from your metrics, whatever you measure. 260 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:36,760 And then just start to assess what do I do differently? Did you make your bed in the morning? Did you drink your water when you woke up? Did you have your cold shower? Did you sleep? Yeah. 261 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:44,760 Did you make your bed? Did you follow your routines? Did you set yourself up for success? Yeah. All comes back to that. 262 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:52,760 I'd love to get the kids to hear this message, all kids to hear this message. Every day you do your best. Yeah. Even when you're lying on the couch. Yeah. 263 00:18:52,760 --> 00:19:01,760 But if you're not happy with lying on the couch, you know, you want to get closer to your peak, whatever your peak may be, then just look at the factors that are causing you to lay on the couch. Yeah. 264 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:12,760 You know, not do your homework. Look at the factors that are causing you to sleep in. Is it because you're scared? Because you don't know? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No. Just to start to think about it a little bit better. That's right. 265 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:19,760 Because we've got too many people on this planet beating themselves up, I think. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Be kind. Be kind to yourself. Be kind. 266 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:29,760 So we're getting close to the end of the podcast, because as you tell me many, many times, length matters. 267 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:44,760 So any last thoughts about doing your best and your peak? No, but I now know what my sign off is going to be. What's your sign off? We got a new sign off? Well, mine is... Do your best? No. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Yeah. Yeah. I like that. Give yourself a hug. 268 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:59,760 Give yourself a hug. I like that. All right. So if you're saying be kind to yourself, I might then say, because you're always doing your best. And why I put that voice on, I don't know. No, we'll end up in Pakistan. 269 00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:18,760 I can't hold an accent at all. No. No. All my accents always end up in Pakistan. I'm going to have to figure that out. I didn't grow up in Pakistan, so I don't know why my accents always end up there. Thank you for the reminder. I'm doing my best, Michelle. My accents are horrible. 270 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:43,760 I'll start in Ireland and then I'll end up in Pakistan in a very short amount of time. But anyway, I'm doing my best. Okay. So I think we leave this podcast with the thought that all of our days, we're doing our best. Yep. And be kind to yourself. Because you're doing your best. That's it. See you again next time. Bye. Bye. 271 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:56,760 So Michelle, where can they find us? Captainandtheclown.com. Where you'll find links to our websites for keynote speaking and corporate training. Yes, that's captainandtheclown.com. 272 00:20:56,760 --> 00:21:13,760 Well, that was fun. That was fun. You're such a clown. Lady captain. And who's going to listen to this? Maybe our mums. Thanks mum.