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G'day leaders, are you lucky or do you make luck happen?

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Do you lack or do you have an abundance mentality?

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In this podcast, Michelle and I discuss the mindset between having stuff

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and attracting stuff and what stops you from having abundance in your life,

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but specifically the mindset of lack.

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Enjoy.

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Why did it count backwards?

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Are they?

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We're now recording.

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What?

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Hello captain.

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Come fly with me.

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Let's fly.

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Let's fly.

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What are we going to talk about?

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I don't know.

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So leadership, life and everything else.

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Yeah.

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Am I live?

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No, we're recording.

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When are we going to be live?

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Oh, that's something we could do.

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Yeah, do a live one.

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That'd be fun.

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How are you Michelle?

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Well, thanks Guy.

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How are you?

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Captain.

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Captain.

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Oh, clown.

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You want to talk today about, it's a mindset around lack, not having enough.

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Yes.

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Yeah, it's cause it's come up a few times lately in conversations with people and

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listening to different clients that I've been coaching.

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Just this idea that I don't have enough.

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I never have enough.

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Other people are lucky and you know, that whole scarcity mentality.

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We have touched on it before, but I just wanted to go a bit deeper into it.

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Well, also I think we did the podcast episode on jealousy and envy.

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And I think some of that, the jealousy, you know, somebody else has it.

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Therefore I don't, that lack mentality.

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And we have this, this mindset, don't we?

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Everything works out for us.

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I know.

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That's right.

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And if you expected it, you'd see it.

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So I'd like to talk about how the mindset creates the reality because of your

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subconscious and how you tend to always, your brain wants to be right.

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So if you tell, tell yourself that you don't have enough, your subconscious

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mind's job is now to make sure you never have enough.

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I like how in there's one workshop and I sat in on of yours where you were telling

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the class about, you know, see that pot plant over there that didn't exist until

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you just looked at it now.

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Yes.

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And a few of them kind of look at you like you're a bit crazy.

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But it's true, unless you actually think of it or see it, it doesn't exist.

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In your reality.

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So let's start with the car park.

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Cause we both believe that we.

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We've mentioned this a couple of times.

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I'm repeating myself.

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Sorry.

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No, those who haven't, who have heard it and those who haven't, you'll

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hear it for the first time.

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So we believe that we'll always get a car park.

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So the energy is that when you're driving into a big shopping center, if you believe

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you're going to get a car park, you're just patiently driving up and down the

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aisles until you see that space.

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And then you go, look, there it is.

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And you're so excited because you find your car park.

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But those people who, who always focus on the fact that it's hard to find a car park

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as they're driving around the car park, they're thinking to themselves, see, it's

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so hard to get a car park.

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Oh, I can't believe these car parks are always busy.

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I never get a car park.

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And then eventually they say the same car park that we see and they pull into it.

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They pull into it with frustration and we pull into it with, you know, a delight.

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There it is.

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There's the car park that was provided for us.

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It was an absolute belief.

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It was going to be there.

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I, on the weekend, actually, I took my daughter to netball and my, it's the

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first game that I've taken her to.

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And my sister had said to me, her daughter goes there also, that it's really hard to

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get a car space.

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And so I left extra early, you know, quick, quick, get in the car.

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We've got to go and get a car space.

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And then on our way there, I thought, why am I doing this?

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Because I will get a car space.

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I know that.

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So we pulled up and we grabbed a coffee and, you know, a muffin on the way.

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And my daughter said, aren't you worried that we're not going to get a car space?

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Because that's what I'd been saying.

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And it's like, no, I know we'll get a car space.

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I don't know why I let somebody else's opinion get into my head when, and of

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course we pulled up and we got a rock star car.

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So right at the front, of course we were going to get it.

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And so there's a lot of people out there thinking now, well, I'm

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glad they're thinking now, oh, that's just pure luck, pure luck.

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But what is luck?

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Luck is opportunity met with decisions, a whole range of things.

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Cause I've had people say to me in the past, things like, oh, you're so lucky.

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You're so lucky.

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And it always offends me.

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It did earlier.

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I don't mind now.

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I can, I just reframe it in my head that they've got a lack mentality

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rather than an abundance mentality.

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But when somebody says you're so lucky, they're basically saying,

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I want what you want, what you have, or you have opportunities

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that I don't seem to get.

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I, yeah, I've had a long time ago.

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Uh, there was a neighbor who said to me, and you know, you're so lucky,

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almost as an insult and, and I'm thinking I am like, I create my own luck,

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but, um, I am fortunate.

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I, I, you know, I strive for things and I seem to get them, but that's

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because I, even if it's not exactly what I wanted, I take out of it that,

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Oh, I've won this and I celebrate the wins and whatever.

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But I think what she was trying to say is that you're lucky and

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you don't deserve this.

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So I've been thinking about that because we, we, we spoke about this recently.

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I, um, I think there's, there's two different mindsets.

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There's a mindset of somebody who has a lack mindset and those like you

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and I who have, Oh, there's the construction next door.

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Apologies to those listening in.

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That's construction happening right next to the studio.

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Aren't we lucky?

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Speaking about luck.

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Anyway, so I, um, I've been thinking about two different mindsets.

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So you've got somebody who believes that they, that things work out for them

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like you and I, and you've got people who, who don't, who think, uh, you

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know, it's always hard for me.

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It's always hard for me.

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Now that doesn't mean that they'd necessarily don't try as hard.

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So you work hard.

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I've seen you, you're incredible.

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And you know, other people work hard and they put in lots of effort, but that

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subconscious programming that says, I don't have enough, I'm not lucky.

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I don't get, I think that's what actually holds them back.

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So they work really, really hard.

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Like let's no denying there's people out there who don't believe that they're

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lucky, work really, really hard.

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And they don't get as many opportunities as those who, you know, say that they're

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lucky and work hard as well.

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And I think it's because when you have that belief system that, that you're,

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you, you've got a scarcity, you don't have enough, you, you're not lucky

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like other people, that's a, that's a mindset that goes down into your

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subconscious mind and your subconscious mind's job, as we've spoken about so

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many times on this podcast is to create the reality that you've just programmed in.

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It's, it's a robot.

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It just abays every instruction that you give it.

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And so if you say, I don't have enough, your subconscious mind is now working

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against you being successful because it has to find evidence of that.

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So it's not only going to look for evidence of that, it's maybe going to

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start to change certain behaviors.

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It's also going to change the way you speak to people.

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So if you've got this, this forced desperation inside you, because you

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don't think you have enough and you're not lucky like other people, which is

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causing that desperation, that's an energy that goes out and impacts

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other people that are around you.

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And if you come at me with desperation, there's something that's missing in you

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that I don't necessarily want to engage with, if that makes sense in business.

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Yeah, it's unattractive.

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I don't mean that in a relationship, so it doesn't attract.

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So, you know, lots of people like to talk about the law of attraction.

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The law of attraction is energy really.

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So, you know, if you, if you have got this positive energy, which you

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always seem to have Michelle, that you've got this mindset that you can achieve

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anything you can, that you put your mind to, that things always work out for you.

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And I've got a similar sort of mindset.

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That then changes your energy.

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It's almost like you expect good things to come.

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And so because you've got that energy of expectation that things will

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work out for you in the end.

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And even when they aren't working out in the background of your mind, you're

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thinking they eventually will.

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This too shall pass.

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That's right.

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You know, so if you have the this too shall pass mindset and that things will

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always work out, then you'll just, with a smile on your face, push forward

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like you always do.

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And that smile on your face is what makes you attractive to opportunities and other

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people.

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And I think there's a, like a disconnect in a lot of people about how they just

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believe it's, it's, oh, that person's lucky.

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No, it's, it's not luck.

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It's, it's attitude.

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It's expecting to that things will work out, which then changes their energy.

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And that energy is what attracts other people to them.

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Opportunities.

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We were talking about this on the weekend and Elizabeth Gilbert, who wrote the book

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Eat Love Pray, she has a book, I think it's Magic Happens or something.

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And it's been some time since I read it, but the idea that I recall from what

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she said was that basically if you look at yourself as a rock in a river and all

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the opportunities and things are going past you, like the water, and if you

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reach out and grab something, then you know, that's your opportunity and you,

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and you see, and you're looking for things.

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If however, you're that rock in the river and all of these things are passing you

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by and you, it's just, you're not aware.

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You're not looking for it.

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Well, we're doing a jigsaw puzzle at the moment.

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A crazy 1000 piece jigsaw puzzle.

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Tiny little pictures.

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Tiny, tiny little anime.

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Like, I don't know how many.

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We got it when we were working in Japan.

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I don't know why we, why we, no, it's fun.

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It is, but it's that thing of, there are so many pieces and it seems overwhelming

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almost, so you think, oh, and we were talking about this morning.

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We got it for the kids to also join in on, and some of them do, you know, come

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and do a piece here or there.

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One piece, then walk away and go back to their digital devices.

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That's right.

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And, but we're tending to do it, but it's, it's that thing of when it, you're

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looking your eyes, sometimes you don't want to blink because you're like, where

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is this piece that's got this tiny, tiny little bit on it that differentiates it

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from the other pieces that will fit into that slot.

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And I think it's just that, that knowing what it looks like, turning it

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around in your brain, how could this possibly be, you then start to, you do

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see it and then we sometimes say, okay, I need to walk away and come back with

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fresh eyes and then the piece will just jump out and you're like, oh, of course

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there it is.

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That's it.

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So your persistence pays off.

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It does.

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Yes.

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But we're noticing a little, little minds giving up quite easily.

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Yeah.

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And I think that might be, I think that's a good point.

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I think that might be, I like, we, this isn't what we're going to talk about

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today, but that whole reliance on technology to do all the work for their

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brains, I'm a little bit worried that technology is, is taking away, especially

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the younger generations, ability to be persistent with things.

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Is that the TikTok thing though, where it's just short, short and sharp?

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Like for the past?

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It's called popcorn brain.

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There's a new term called popcorn brain, but yeah, I think being, being

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reliant on yourself, diligent and pushing through things is important, but, which

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creates luck, yeah, but, or opportunities.

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But we're not seeing that in the younger generation who every game that they've

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ever played has been created by them, by, by the game itself, rather than like

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ours as kids, we went out the backyard and we created games and we met up all

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the rules, everything is done for them now.

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Anyway, that might be a whole other podcast.

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Something I'm quite passionate about is the, the loss of those negotiation

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skills that we had when we were out the backyard, you know, organizing who was

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going to bat first in the cricket game.

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Now it's the game creates all the rules for the kids.

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And so they're not learning these, these very important life skills.

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So when did you first start to develop?

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Did you develop it or is it just natural in you, this mindset of, of

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abundance where everything works out for you that, you know, you'll find that

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car park?

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When did that start in you?

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I think it was quite young because my, my parents do that sort of thinking.

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My mum especially brought us up with, and we have the term kookaburra, which I

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think I've mentioned before, and it could be parking ferries or something that you

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say or a dance or something that you do, or you touch something.

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So kookaburra is ours and my mum has always done that.

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And so that's just how we've kind of grown up.

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More construction in the background.

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We'll just ignore it.

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But, and, and also, you know, the attraction, we, we could manifest things

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and it became a game and like my, again, mum would do it and point it out to us.

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And so we would then try it and.

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And when it worked, it's like, see, it works.

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And so there was that confirmation and whether it was or it wasn't.

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Not the confirmation bias is a thing, is it?

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No, that's right.

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But it was, became fun.

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And then we're, oh, let's try this.

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Let's do that.

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And then it was a competition.

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And then after a while, you know, that immersion in it, you just, that's how we

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are.

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So I suppose, um, nurture was definitely a thing.

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Nurture was definitely nice.

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Yeah.

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So you had a good start with those positive mindsets.

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That's right.

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It's funny when you talk to people who don't believe in this woo woo of the

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law of attraction and, and if you just say, think it and it will come, that is

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woo woo.

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Yeah.

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So there's a lot more to it than just, I want this, you know, you've got to have a

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clear idea of what it is that you want.

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Then you've got to put in effort.

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You've got to move forward.

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You've got to have the right energy.

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You've got to put the, uh, the work in place.

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And, uh, if you put the work in place, but you don't have the mindset as well,

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then that's going to hold you back.

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Like we're talking about before.

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So it's, it's not woo woo.

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It's, it's, it's real that if you're clear on what you want out of life, you

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tell yourself that things always work out for you.

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If you then have a positive mindset, you put in effort, you smile and you

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attract others and opportunities to you.

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Like, like you, for example, I'll just, I've got to keep referring back to you,

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Michelle, over this last few weeks, about seven opportunities have just come to

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you because of the way you treat other people.

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So the energy that you give other people and the way you interact with others,

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you always light up their life.

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And it's, it's, I've watched this ever since I've known you, but because of that,

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because of who you are as a human being and the way you interact with other

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people, they want to give back to you.

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And they do in opportunity.

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Like they, they, they come to you all the time with opportunities.

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I love watching it.

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Oh, thank you.

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I was thinking that you were going to talk about, uh, this weekend.

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I was walking to a shop and thought on my way, it wasn't the supermarket.

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I need to remember to buy a lime.

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And then as I crossed the road on the road, there was a line.

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We had a gutter line.

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It was a perfect line.

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Perfectly fine.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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That, that is something that's a bit freaky with you.

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I get it with lemons too.

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I think I need a lime.

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And there it is sitting on the street waiting for you.

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I need a lemon.

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And you walk past a lemon tree with a sign that says, Hey, please take our lemons.

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We've got a lot of people around here that do that.

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It's brilliant.

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I love community giving.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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But that was another, it was, it was like, Oh, okay.

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Thank you.

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Everything always works out for Michelle.

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So, so we've got it.

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We've got to teach kids, I think this, this, that if you think you don't have

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enough, your subconscious mind will make sure that that's always true.

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Yeah.

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It's not that if you just think it, it happens.

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It's not the, you know, woo woo version of the law of attraction.

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It's, it's about having a belief that things will work out.

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And they always do having a good work ethic.

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So putting in the work and, and having that positive energy and that's,

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that's where it all comes from.

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Yeah.

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Yep.

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Definitely.

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Well, my kids believe that they're lucky and that they always get things that they,

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they wish for.

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Yes.

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Because yes, it was the, because I had that training with my mom, I've passed

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it on to my kids and you know, just believe, believe and yeah, you see opportunities.

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Yeah.

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I think I might need to do a little bit of work on my side of the ledger there.

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I think you do okay.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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All right.

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Well, I enjoyed that one.

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Yeah, it was good.

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Yeah.

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Good to see you, Michelle.

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Bye guys.

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Bye.

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Well, that was fun.

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That was fun.

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You're such a clown.

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You're such a clown.

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Lady captain.

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Lady captain.

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And who's going to listen to this?

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Maybe our moms.

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Thanks mom.