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We're here at FZ2 and we're so grateful for the past two weeks.

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Honestly, it's been a great start of a journey.

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It's been a great start of a community that's coming together and it's already sharing with

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So I cannot wait to see how far we're going to go with this.

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And yes, I'm going to say we because a podcast wouldn't be a podcast without either a host,

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a listener or a guest.

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So all three of us, we're all part of it and that obviously for as long as you decide to

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But for those that do, again, I cannot wait to hear more of your thoughts on what gets

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spoken about, what gets conversed with our guests that will be joining us in the next

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So thank you so much.

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Thank you so much.

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Honestly, knowing that even just raising and starting the conversation on what's on the

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other side of the coin has impacted someone.

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And we're only at the first step in this journey, just knowing that we're already impacting

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someone from the get go in terms of provoking thoughts.

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It's already a success to us because that is the intention of this podcast is to provoke

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as many thoughts as possible and for us to also be able to develop our own truths, our

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own answers and our own values.

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Be able to challenge the status quo, be able to just refine our own mind of what's not

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needed, what's just sitting there for the sake of it and what's actually bringing value

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to ourselves are things that are really going to be of a must in terms of the goals that

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we have for this.

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But today it's going to be all about intentions.

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It's going to be all about understanding how intentions can show in our lives and in our

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relationships.

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And there's going to be a recording of a conversation with a close friend that we recorded actually

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before the podcast was even alive.

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This was one or two months ago when it was only an idea.

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So I'll give a little bit of a pre but in terms of intentions and why they're even something

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that are worth talking about is because having set intentions in certain things can already

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set you for success.

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I was just speaking with someone yesterday about how they spent 2022 setting up all their

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intentions and 2023 has just been a go go go go go and they've been able to smoothly

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grow and evolve just because of those intentions that they had set once before.

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And this person is also going to join us for a biographic episode in the next couple of

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I'm not going to share too much just now but definitely excited to hear their story and

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how they've got to be the person that they are right now which is the person that I've

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But I have no idea of person that they were before so I'm very excited to dive into their

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story and learn a little bit more about them.

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Another thing about intentions that I wanted to share today was also the intentions don't

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need to be huge.

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They can be as little as what I want to eat for breakfast to as big as being a yes or

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no on your wedding day.

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But irrelevantly from how big intentions are they will set your life up for either success

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or failure.

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Now success or failure is not a one fits all but it's whatever feels a success to you and

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whatever feels a failure to you.

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And there's been so many times that we've all failed.

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We're actually not where we wanted to be and sometimes where we felt like oh my god we're

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already here like this is amazing.

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The only difference between the two is that on one side we might have had either the wrong

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intentions or no intentions at all and we might have just fell into the motions and

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go with the flow.

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On the other side we might have set the right intentions which automatically helped us set

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the right actions that we needed in order to get there and motivated us along the way

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to then get to a position where the goal is now your present and you're now still trying

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to download the fact that you are leaving your goal.

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But the only thing that set you there is the intention that you had for yourself.

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Like when I look at something as small for example of this podcast as the introductory

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sound we found it.

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We found it because it sums up exactly what this podcast is going to be about and it's

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genuine truth.

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Just like the first part of the introduction it stops abruptly right where the drop was

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supposed to be and that signifies how sometimes the smallest truth can interrupt the biggest

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of a party and it might piss you off at times because truth is not always light to take

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in.

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Sometimes it's hard to take in and sometimes we might refuse to even listen to the truth

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just out of self preservation from either being hurt or having to change our own ways.

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But the truth is needed because the truth will set you free.

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Will set you free from the maybes and will certainly set you free from the ifs and regrets.

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And that is especially something that gets connected so much to genuine presentation

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of yourself in terms of your thoughts, your actions and your reactions and your behaviours

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all align in terms of core values and they're not adjusted based on the audience but they're

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adjusted based on the change that happens from within.

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So the sound of a book opening up is us opening up to our life, opening our book of life without

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the fear of being hurt, without the fear of judgement or shame because it's a recollection

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Whatever we've done, whatever we've experienced, whatever we've said and done, it's got to

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Everything that has happened from, with or to us has led us to the position that we are

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Good or bad, this is it.

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There's no good or bad, it's just it.

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And intentions, they get to shape that it's in a huge way, in a huge way.

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Because even over the past two weeks, even though a lot of thoughts and feedback were

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great, there's still that underlining self-doubt and fear of what's to come in terms of okay

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now it's only 40 people that are listening in but what about when it's going to be 100?

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What about what happens when it's 1000 or 10,000 or a million or whatever?

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Knowing that everything that you say is going to be heard and judged and sometimes even

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prejudged even before it gets said takes a pressure on us and it links to social anxiety

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as well in terms of how we show up in society and in our relationship with people that we

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fear the unknown of how what's going to be said is going to be taken without even knowing

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whether it's going to be liked or not which is, it baffles me.

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But at the same time it was a great representation of how those intrusive thoughts can just sneak

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in upon us and try to hide us from the intentions that we accept but also sometimes they just

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try to derail us from the path that we've decided to have but also it's a great reminder

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that for now this is where we are, this is what we're going to be focusing on no matter

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what's going to happen no matter how big or small it's going to be this is where we are

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and that's all that matters.

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All the intentions that we set today are going to be the successes or the failures that we

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So without any further ado a little bit of pre- it's a conversation that got inspired

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and started from the topic of looking at people in the eyes while speaking and how that can

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be misjudged by certain people and how maybe someone can see as a hidden agenda or seduction

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or whatever it is and how that could be avoided as well by simply communicating what it is

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because to be fair looking at someone in the eyes could mean so many different things in

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so many different occasions but it's also really really important that we don't assume

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that the occasion or the circumstance define those intentions.

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We need to make sure that we define our own intentions checking in with ourselves why

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am I showing up in this way in this conversation or what how do I want to show up in this conversation

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what's the goal what's the intention why am I spending time with this person why am

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I saying this why am I saying that.

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Truly understand our intentions help us understand ourselves help us understand whether the actions

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or the things that we say or the ways that we react to certain situations are also coming

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from a place of presence and consciousness or they're simply coming from a place of vicious

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cycle a cycle that we're still living in a cycle that we still haven't broken and it's

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dictating our actions even before we know what our actions will be so let's go into

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it and I'll see you on the other side.

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Because like even that what you just said it's like so it works here but it doesn't

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work there it's like it's another thing that we've learned how to do as humans that

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can parameterise so much and have double standards as well.

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What works here what works there what do you mean?

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To me everything works everywhere as long as you want it to work like it's.

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Oh the looking at your eyes like staring.

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Like you were saying how can that like would you do it in a workplace I said I would like

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I like obviously through camera I try to do it as much as I can but also when I do my

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co-workers I because I want to I feel like there's a said the eyes are like the door

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to your soul or something like that.

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I truly believe in it because like.

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That's how you can see someone also like the genuineness and how involved they are in the

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conversations because.

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where I feel like my girl's gonna get pissed off at me if I'm looking because there is

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something to it it's like look like there is something to it and like and then I think

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To me it's intention to meet all of our intentions because if the intentions are right then the

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action is going to be right.

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You're getting to it it's fine it's fine.

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But it's that it's the intention because like I could do this with someone where I'm not

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having a conversation like this to get to a different way like if I was to if it was

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to be like on a date like obviously the like the way I'm kind of like maneuvering the conversation

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or shine a different light it's one more light on top that you shine.

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So me and you are shining three lights and then the date you shine the fourth light.

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You never said it better.

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There's just a little bit more toothiness to your smile I get it obviously that like

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And that I just call me in the conversation like that just because the intention is different

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because that is to see where it could go romantically and that's another side to it you know.

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This is like just having a good conversation with someone that I think that's best friend

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you know.

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I was thinking that yeah I was thinking that I was like I was sitting back and I'm like

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I am at ease looking you looking at you right because yeah because it's because yeah because

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we've established that frame of conversation where it's like it's a couple of buddies talking

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and like you're right and like let's say if you went on a date is that almost like that

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fourth light is now shining.

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but that's where it that's where it's all about like like honesty and just being open.

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It's just like establishing things you know.

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To me I always like to and I learned this through the sales experience it's all about

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preempting then having to push back you know.

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It's like if I can put myself in a position where I don't have to push back it's a win

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win you know.

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There's no drama whatever so it's a sub-maintain from the yeah like as you go and from the

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get go you know.

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it could be whatever type of relationship it could be we fuck them up because we just

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get into it with the wrong intentions.

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What do you mean?

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We just get into it with the wrong intentions and sometimes we don't even understand our

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intentions or we don't understand what those intentions are influenced by actually because

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the last situation that I had.

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Situation shit.

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Yeah because it wasn't a relationship but it wasn't even nothing.

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Was with this woman and the way that I went into it I didn't question my intentions because

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it wasn't in the present because it was like almost going in the autopilot and that relates

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back to when I was saying that I did not know myself and when I was getting into this relationship

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and it just built into something that it shouldn't have been but it was and it taught me how

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to then be more conscious about it.

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So the intentions that I had was like and I had to really question myself in order to

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get there I had the beauty, the beautiful girl complex and much more but whereas like

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when I was younger when I didn't have a relationship at all I would see all these beautiful women

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and you turn on TV and whatever there's this concept of what a beautiful woman is and then

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that they get everyone and they can choose whoever they want and I wasn't like the one

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chosen by them so it kind of becomes like a question okay I'm never going to be with

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someone that's like figuratively good looking and that everyone's attention is on and that

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was like naturally ingrained so it became to it without being conscious and I went into

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this sort of a situation shift I call it because she was the woman that everyone's attention

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goes to when she walks down the road you know so she was getting all of that but at the

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same time she chose to be with me for those period of times that happened and I was like

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to me that was like the win or the success that society creates you know I was like oh

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they like the beautiful woman you know so because I went into that and then at the end

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I understood that my intentions were influenced by wrong reasons not wrong reasons but just

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reasons that I fully didn't understood that kind of like made me think of okay so whatever

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I go into it I need to question my intentions so that I can be clear about it and that then

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it doesn't create circumstances that can go sideways because the whole situation shift

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went pretty sideways for reasons that that's just a different whole conversation but that

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where that's where intentions all come from so even if you were to stare at someone like

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this as long as the intentions are clear and are spoken about and everyone understands

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them then it's on you to make them understood and to make them known obviously but if the

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person can receive them then that's a different situation it's not on you it's on the receiving

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part so so you felt good about having this relationship with this girl who was like she

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was a she was a head turner or whatever yeah but you but like you know a lot of people

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would say that about you that you were a head turner so what that's so what how do you feel

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about her now that's the self that's the self lack of confidence that I had you know now

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I'm starting to now I'm like that situation also kind of made me realize yeah I am I am

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a snack you know kind of like but it wasn't just that it was just like that was something

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that made me question it even more but that's something that growing up because not everyone

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is open about their intention and who they like because this this fear of judgment or

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this fear of rejection no one talks about their likes and it should be something normal

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like if I like someone I should well I shouldn't feel like almost the rejection side of things

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because it's it's just a part of life you know but because I was fear about it but also

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over all the other people probably were fear about it and they some of them they told me

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after when I told them oh by the way two years ago I totally had a crush on you and they

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were like oh she said me too and like no one yeah we both didn't tell each other and and

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that's this like me being open about it so it's like a universal truth there like step

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up yeah yeah 100% 100% just be true to your intentions with anyone that you want to have

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something with you know like if it's like because we all are we we walk down the street

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whether you're single married in a relationship whatever you see that person is like oh shit

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wow you know but the intention at that point is like okay this is just something of thanks

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this is just something of the eye just momentary it's not something that we really want to

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build something into so the intentions are different so it's like it's a side for the

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eye great but I want something else or I have something else you know so it all comes down

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to intentions and we have to understand our own intentions in order to then be open about

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it so that we can also point to the other person that it's okay to be open about it

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yeah I mean I think like women are always going to be a difficult position because they

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have to say it's kind of like right that I am open to situations it's like putting your

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linkedin like profile like I'm open to like the conversation right but like you know and

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this is like this is evolutionary psychology this is like hardwired into us this is like

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very difficult to change maybe it will change one day but like right now relational dynamics

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work in such a way that you know a girl is looking to be chosen by well like yeah it's

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basically the best guy that comes forward isn't it yeah you pick it's even though it's

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because I was like that as well it's the lack of self-confidence to understand what we truly

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want and to say no to what we don't want what's not for us yeah because I've said yes to

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that situation shift because I came into it with the wrong intentions and then it led

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me to somewhere that I didn't want it to be so if I had realized that beforehand then

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I would have said no to what someone else would have said yes to yeah yeah yeah and

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then we can prevent ourselves to be but then again you I mean you were saying before like

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you know no regrets the life you've led the experiences you've had it's just a major you

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I'm full of pride and how are you gonna know what you want unless you like go for it yeah

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yeah I'm a little bit but like I think like you know for a guy it's like you know for

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a girl it's different right for a girl it's about like you know it's about like her choosing

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and saying yes and no to like certain guys that are coming in like the requests that

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are coming in for a guy it's like okay like you should I think you should the aim is like

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for everyone is like I want to effectively settle down in whatever way that is yeah be

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happy I've got a partner probably I've got a partner right we're a loving partner of

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same sex different sex whatever it is and and you know we do our thing and that's it

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yeah and that's and then we're in love and that's great and it's like for a guy to get

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there for a guy for the guy's path it's I think he needs to you know have a couple of

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different experiences under his belt and then choose from that and it's like the way that

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he's gonna get there is by you know realizing that like my personality is not like it's

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not like completely plastic in which it can just be molded in any which way I've got a

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call by some lousy but I can exactly but I can I can I can veer into certain way I can

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like become something greater than I currently am and like and you have to do that as a

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guy you have to like you have to do it there it's really important to make the distinction

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into tell like my yourself to be a certain way because you're expected to and my yourself

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to be a better self that you can be like those two to me though they go they can go into

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two very different paths.

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Go on and say that more.

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Like the first path could go into going into what you're expected to but that doesn't

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necessarily resonate with you but you've grown yourself to believe that that's what you should

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be so much that you kind of fell into into it and you you started seeing your life being

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almost created by everyone else but you and sometimes more times than ever you don't even

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realize it when we're there but we just realize it when it just goes sideways at some point

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where we're like I can't do this anymore or I want more or I mean we can dis-address examples

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that I hear from people whether in media or in songs or whatever way they call they sing

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their heartbreaks where it's like oh you did this to me you did that to me or I deserve

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more I need more of life or whatever I don't want to do you anymore or whatever it is like

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there's so many stories out there but it's also a matter of like you said try and fail

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like put yourself in the position to try to try and also in the position to realize whether

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that trying is successful and it's going to be successful you're always going to feel

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successful about it or you really think that they could be more you're just afraid to see

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whether there could be more you know because I feel like a lot of people that's where they

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they're afraid of taking that step the danger of not knowing what could happen so I think

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it's like I think it's so I think it's interesting in the fact that like the man's path is kind

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of like laid out right well like so if you look at a man's path it's like it's the hero's

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journey you know you're the young adventurer you get these adventures that makes you a

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man that makes you capable that makes you efficient and then at that point you get a

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wife and a daughter right so what's the woman's journey that's that's the mystery no one has

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that mapped out oh yeah I mean it has been like the woman has to be pruned like so what

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is the woman's journey what is it but in that like archetypal way in that a man's journey

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is this the perfect let's say way of a man's journey is this so what's a woman's perfect

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journey though I mean I personally as of now I don't make distinctions like to me it's

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more about the people more than like their genders like their genders is something they

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don't necessarily choose to they might fall into it because they have it and never question

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whether it could be more than that and that's where the society is going now more people

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are actually questioning do I really want to just be what my body is or do I want to

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want more like that's why there's so many like gender fluids and like all these labels

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that I come out like if I was to start like listen to them it wouldn't end but it's it's

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great because it's helping people identify more to what they could be more than what

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they just hadn't like what it has been you know and the mapping if we were to really

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categorize it to like woman like what's the woman to be is like she has to be pruned like

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when I say prune I don't know what their understanding how many understandings there could be of

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the word prune but like someone that's like the virgin or it does she does she's not too

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experienced because then she's like she falls under I don't know if we can swear about

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how this law yeah she'll like get the bad name the one that goes with everyone and she'll

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never get family she'll never be stable and she'll probably end up with a 40 years old

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with five five kids of five different like that like all those connotations that that's

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created you know and that puts the woman into like a back a back position of so um so I

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can't experience my own sexuality like the man can if not I have this bad connotation

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of me which is a bad place to be because we were given this amazing organism this amazing

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body why not experience it the way that we want to like to me it's a gift like every

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occasion I can to experience more of this body I put myself into it like whether it's

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a pain whether it's like pleasure whether it's whatever I I got this if you can see

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this two scars here and now they're like very healed I got an electric bike and I was just

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like crawling down the stream with my earphones I just had the massive well and I like like

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an extremely should like a you're like a base jumper I just go I just go for life no fear

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yeah obviously I won't jump out of a plane without a parachute but okay that's the limit

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that yeah yes like always be like be smart like be smart by your decision like or don't

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be no don't be smart no no not too smart the advice should be don't be smart be dumb yeah

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but at the same time like understand that the cupid's more I'm just trying to make it

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like weird thinking like to structure no no no be dumb be an idiot not too much not too

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much because eat whatever you want to eat put yourself inside the microwave I know that

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come on where are your shoes on where are your shoes in the house it's okay to try it all

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but there's just certain things that are like what are you really doing it for like come

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on come on there is some people that like like I don't have seen people like closing

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themselves in their refrigerator for like hours just to prove that they could beat the

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cold but they've also learned how to do so like it's not like one day they just wake

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up and okay let me do it you know so it's like there's a bit of planning to it and that

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is that is where my hedonism stops it's like I'm also conscious and rational about what

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I can do and if I can do something let me just learn how to do it you know and that's

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why like you saw me here so in I learned how to do that I learned how to do like play the

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guitar I learned how to take care of these plants I learned how to take care of a house

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like how I started ironing when I was six and that's one of the things that I'm so grateful

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of my mom she taught she started teaching me things from I was like a kid started cleaning

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and started cooking by the time I was eight all these things so it's like there's just

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not enough that I can learn and it's just gonna put me in so many different positions

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and to meet so many different people because then I'm not a specialist I don't like to

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refer myself as a specialist at all no no no I would rather learn 10 things at 50% level

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and connect them all than learning one thing at 100% and that too I like that yeah I would

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agree with that 100% yeah I like that a lot so another thing and not being a little ant

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specialist no doing the same thing over and over yeah because then the thing they just

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and there's a lot of people that are like they do they believe so firmly that they're

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expert at life just because they're expert at that one thing that's so fucking true dude

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yeah I've got mates like that they're really expert in their field like I've got a doctor

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mate like that and it's like can you show? No I'll roll this but like that's it we'll

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have this but yeah there's a doctor mate and he's like really successful doctor I went

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to school with him and like and he's an arsehole fan and it's like do you know I just want

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to say to him like do you know these two things you know arsehole and you know fucking medicine

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dude and that's it you know like you know you're talking your big talk about fucking

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politics and you're like getting in the aisle so dude you like I know how your diary of

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your day works like you don't at the time to look at this stuff and the level of that

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needs to be looked at sometimes when you're talking about certain things so yeah yeah

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there's so much of that going around it's a disease it's generally the human disease

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like it comes all down to ego to me like it's just the ego and the ego relies in the shadows

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because it's the facade that we create it's not our true self because the not needing

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things to prove your I just realised this is recorded right yes like if my body ever

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listens to this it's like super specific he's an arsehole fan and a doctor I mean they could

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get a lot of people it's London right yeah I don't know a hundred arsehole doctors yeah

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I'm learning I'm thinking of learning what I'm thinking I'm planning to also get DJ

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Seth so DJ Will the doctor that's his name DJ Will Jenner he's a very smart man he's

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very intelligent we need also people like that in society because if not we wouldn't

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have great doctors we wouldn't have great astronauts or great entrepreneurs that actually

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do good things until he doesn't but it all comes down to the ego you know we need we

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need definitely people like that so like they're willing to put themselves on the line like

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they're willing to just give themselves to cause you know like doctors the life that

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they do they almost don't breathe come on like good to them good to them that they're

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willing to give their life to a better cause so greater cause because they are helping

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people people that don't want to call a cop yeah like I'm someone that I'm like if I was

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to be on my deathbed like I'm good to go but there's people that do want to stay so it's

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great that there's also other people that have learnt how to be able to extend our time

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you know.

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Well mate I mean you say that's kind of fatalistic what you just said there.

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It's not like if I have no I mean if I have.

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Yeah it's just good that the medicine industry is there I guess.

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I mean but that's the thing because even there it's just all by choice like Switzerland that

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has a they're like they're open with the father death how do you call it?

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Assisted suicide.

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Yes exactly so they give people the choice like life doesn't have to be for everyone

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and because I'm also firmly believe that there's more to it after the physical death that's

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why I'm okay with whatever but at the same time I know that I can still have more so

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if I have the choice and like if I'm like paralysed you know.

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Yeah.

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Obviously.

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Yeah in extreme circumstances you would do it.

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It's not vegetable.

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Yeah of course dude of course but like I mean it's just like I guess people get nervous

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if you start talking like that because they just think like Susie you know we wouldn't

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want you thinking like that like we all agree if you if your body or your life gets wrecked

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then yeah you should have the ability to go out to Switzerland and terminate the fucking

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thing.

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What I'm saying is.

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But don't.

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No no no.

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But people get edgy because it's just like yeah but mate don't start thinking that way

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because we love you and we would just stick around probably that's what your mates would

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be saying.

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And this is exactly what I was saying when you dig you dig you dig because I didn't because

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now obviously you've made me aware of this that well it is something obviously that I

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can get up to be aware to if I take the time to actually think about it but now that you've

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made me aware of it if I'm going to say something like that again I'm going to add the beat

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that I just said but I only said because you questioned it.

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Does that make sense?

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Yeah but also you should like I mean you know also who cares.

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You remember you said at the start of the conversation it's like you're like look people

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are going to take me how they take me.

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Yeah but there's also I'm also very aware that there's some people that are very like

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some minds that are very impressionable so they hang on words and they just hung on specific

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words based on the awareness that they have of concepts because like I can say the exact

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same sentence and two people can understand it.

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Two more.

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Yes thank you.

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Just I think one notes that I want to make for the recording is that there is some impressionable

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minds and it's really important that everyone that does put a message out there is also

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aware about the fact that some people can misinterpret the same thing that you're trying

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to say and just make it look different you know.

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So the more I learn about the interpretations that could be the better I can come in a conversation

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and put a message out you know.

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And here we are back to Self-heed to succeed humans first after a nice match of table tennis

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with words.

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That's how we call it and that's how we like it.

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The thing with intention is that we can be in complete control and we can regain that

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complete control by challenging the behaviors that we already have by challenging the reasonings

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that we've automatically playing throughout our life and those specific informations that

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we'll find only through a process of introspection are going to be the answers that we'll determine

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our lives, that will determine our current present and our current perception of present

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and well-being but also our future present and if there is one thing that we can take

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from the importance of setting the right intentions, making those intentions aware, making people

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aware of our intentions and also understanding that it's not our responsibility for the individual

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to understand our intentions because not always someone is equipped with the tools to understand

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someone else's thought processes or someone else's intentions.

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But it's definitely on us to take responsibility for whatever intention we let or decide to

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set at the beginning of anything in life.

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And with that, what does intention mean to you?

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What was the event that showed you why it was important to set intentions at the beginning

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of anything?

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We look forward to the next episode.

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We look forward to our conversation with Tsu-Chi and thank you so much for listening in.

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There is a poll at the bottom for you to vote in and share if you like and give us feedback

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if there is anything that you think is worth knowing or bring to our awareness and yeah,

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thank you so much and talk to you soon.