1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,360 What's up B-Fam Podcast? Today I'm gonna talk about how consistency and taking breaks is 2 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:19,400 very important in life. I've noticed this this week through my own actions. All summer 3 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:25,000 I've been working out, you know what I'm saying, consistently. But this week I really just 4 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:32,000 felt the need to lay back and chill. It's the last week before I go off to school. New 5 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:39,840 environment, new people. And I think my body is just giving itself a reset before it's 6 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:46,160 thrown into this new environment. And I feel like a lot of us will panic if we feel ourselves 7 00:00:46,160 --> 00:00:55,520 slipping off. And then after that initial panic, we'll begin to fear getting back into 8 00:00:55,520 --> 00:01:03,440 our routine. You know what I'm saying? I feel like it's very hard for a lot of us to pop 9 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:11,400 out of a routine and then get back into it. And it's important to notice that because 10 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:20,080 a lot of times that's really how life will go. You'll find yourself in a routine. You'll 11 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:26,120 fall out of it and then you'll be scared to jump back in because you believe you're not 12 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:32,440 gonna be as good as you were when you were in the routine. But we gotta take some time 13 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:39,680 to step back and reflect on how that's more harmful than beneficial to us. Just think 14 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:45,560 about it. Say you're consistent with a routine for about three months and your body just 15 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:51,200 gets so used to it because it's becoming a habit that you decide to take a break. Now 16 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:54,880 you take this break and you say, all right, I'm only gonna take a break for one day. And 17 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:59,400 then you say, well, maybe I need two days. And you get at the end of the second day, 18 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:05,160 you're like, dang, is it too late for me to go back? And that's on the third day. Now 19 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:09,360 if you keep playing this ping pong in your mind, a month is gonna go by and you're still 20 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:17,840 out of your routine. That's because you psyched yourself out. And that's another thing I've 21 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:26,660 been trying to work on, psyching myself out. I'm starting to become more aware of my actions 22 00:02:26,660 --> 00:02:39,280 and how it's playing a role in my current situation. But the need for rest is so important. 23 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:53,840 And I think we all, I believe we all are under the illusion that if we take a rest day, we 24 00:02:53,840 --> 00:03:02,520 automatically connect that with failing of some sort. You know what I'm saying? Like, 25 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:13,480 for me personally, it's like, I'd be doing something. So say I've been working out, that's 26 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:18,480 an easy analogy. I've been working out, but my body is tired. And the more that I work 27 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:26,880 out, the more I'm wearing down on my body instead of really coming up with this new, 28 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:31,000 well, gaining any muscle or gaining any strength. You get to a point where you just can't gain 29 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:39,040 any more strength because your body is so broken down. And I'll take a rest day. I spend 30 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:44,640 the whole rest day thinking about how I'm not at the gym. So did I get any rest really? 31 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:50,280 No, my body was anxious the whole day and I stayed. By the time I get back to the gym, 32 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:57,440 I'm just as tired, if not more tired than I was before I took the rest day. We got to 33 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:05,720 learn how to take rest days. Those are so important because what you gain from a rest 34 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:11,000 day is way more beneficial than what you gain from the workout. You give your body time 35 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:17,160 to catch up and process this information. Anytime we do anything with our bodies, our 36 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:24,200 brains, our minds, mental, anything that's mental, physical, spiritual, we got to give 37 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:31,680 ourselves time to process as human beings. Our bodies in a computer. Imagine you upload 38 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:36,400 an information to a computer. It doesn't just go, it doesn't just load or download straight 39 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:41,800 to a hundred percent automatically, just like that. You got to walk away from it and give 40 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:47,680 it time to process the information, the data before you can use it. So that's one thing 41 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:59,000 we need to implement in our lives is being able to upload quote unquote information into 42 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:08,720 our body and then give ourselves time to process that information. Now we don't want to get 43 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:18,800 rest days mixed with complacency. Let me explain the difference. A rest day, you just, whenever 44 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:24,360 you taking a rest day, you're not just sitting down what you've been doing. You know what 45 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:29,780 I'm saying? Maybe you working out is really good analogy. Maybe you've been weightlifting 46 00:05:29,780 --> 00:05:37,620 all week. You'll take a rest day to stretch, do some yoga, take a walk. You still kind 47 00:05:37,620 --> 00:05:42,300 of working out, but you're not pumping iron. You know what I'm saying? You're not breaking 48 00:05:42,300 --> 00:05:48,800 down or tearing down muscles, waiting on the rebuild. You're aiding your recovery. You're 49 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:54,400 not just sitting down cold turkey. I get on how important those types of days are too, 50 00:05:54,400 --> 00:06:04,400 but complacency is okay. Matter of fact, I could sum it up in one sentence. Complacency 51 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:12,880 is taking rest days instead of a rest day. You know what I'm saying? You say, okay, I'm 52 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:18,520 going to take the day off. I'm going to get back into it tomorrow. And in terms of snowball 53 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:22,600 effect of, I'm going to get back into it tomorrow. I'm going to get back into it tomorrow. Eventually 54 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:30,280 your body is healed. Now you, is it regressing or digressing? Whatever is the opposite of 55 00:06:30,280 --> 00:06:38,720 progressing? You know what I'm saying? Or progressing. You'll end up doing that. And 56 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:44,320 that's not any help because once you get into that mindset that you digressing, you never 57 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:48,480 want to hide back into whatever routine you were doing before because you feel like you 58 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:57,080 getting worse at it. Now I talked about rest days where you sit cold turkey and do nothing. 59 00:06:57,080 --> 00:07:05,440 Rest days are important for when your routine becomes a habit. Let me explain how that works. 60 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:13,860 A habit is a repeated action that turns into an automated action. And your brain basically 61 00:07:13,860 --> 00:07:21,120 has autofilled password on it. So anytime you log into an account, autofilled password, 62 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:26,360 anytime you go to do an action, if you do it enough, it'll turn into a habit. Boom, 63 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:34,720 autofilled action. Yeah, the difference between, and then to explain the routine is doing a 64 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:42,400 series of action, doing a series of actions, but being aware that you're doing the actions. 65 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:47,960 So a habit is unaware that you're doing the action. A routine is being in the moment and 66 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:57,120 aware that you're doing the action. The reason it's important to sit down routine some days 67 00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:05,520 and do absolutely nothing is so that your brain doesn't autofilled the password. It's 68 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:13,480 like send down and doing nothing is like clicking the don't remember password on other devices 69 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:18,400 buttons. You know what I'm saying? You like, nah, I don't do that. I want to be able to type the password in. 70 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:25,720 Because eventually the more think about this, the more that you auto-fill the password, the less 71 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:32,520 likely you are to remember the password. If something happened in the system and it was 72 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:41,440 required for you to, and it was required for you to actually type in the password. That's something 73 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:51,600 to think about. So be able to distinguish between a routine and a habit. Cause you don't want your brain to 74 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:56,560 start auto-filling them actions. Once your brain starts to auto-fill those actions, it's so hard 75 00:08:56,560 --> 00:09:05,280 to break a habit. Habits have become habits around your life and you wouldn't even know it. Because 76 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:13,360 you so, your brain is so smart. You know what I'm saying? It'll trick you into thinking, oh, we've been 77 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:20,520 doing this. We've been doing this for years and the habit just came about. And the brain is like a 78 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:27,160 hoarder. You know what I'm saying? Once it gets a habit, it never wants to let it go. So you got to be 79 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:35,560 careful of what habits you, what habits you form. It's a really good book. I feel like you guys should read. 80 00:09:35,560 --> 00:09:43,800 It's called the seven highly effective habits or no, the seven habits of highly effective people. Great 81 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:55,320 book, great read, easy read. And it'll help you understand how to develop habits to your liking, 82 00:09:55,320 --> 00:10:08,760 how to make any habit. That's really good. Rest days, consistency. Let me think some more things that I can 83 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:21,360 get off my mind and into the world. So yeah, something else I can talk about to be how important 84 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:33,920 discipline is in our lives and how we should shape our definition of discipline. I feel like a lot of 85 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:43,800 people, when a lot of people think about discipline, they think about no fun, super hard to do, being 86 00:10:43,800 --> 00:10:51,880 stuck up in your ways or something. But discipline is really just keeping your own promises, keeping the 87 00:10:51,880 --> 00:11:03,440 promises that you make to yourself. And discipline isn't as hard as people make it out to be. People 88 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:10,560 think discipline is so hard because they just simply don't know how to say no or tell other people. And 89 00:11:10,560 --> 00:11:26,400 that can get hard. And it can be extremely damaging on one's life if they lack discipline. How would I 90 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:43,840 even explain this? For a minute, when you think about discipline, what do you think about? You can think 91 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:49,400 about this in your head, you can think about it out loud, but just give yourself a couple minutes 92 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:56,520 maybe to just think about how do you think about discipline? And where do you see discipline taking 93 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:58,280 place in your life right now? 94 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:18,280 You can pause if you want some more time, but to me, discipline is a big, 95 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:37,120 being able to be okay with not seeing results at this very moment. I like to think about discipline, 96 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:46,480 and not even just discipline, but life in general, life in general as if I keep doing this, if I keep 97 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:53,560 working little by little, I'm going to get better and better. Every day and every way, I'm getting 98 00:12:53,560 --> 00:13:03,880 better and better. And that mindset that I'm gonna get better at one thing every day is a form of 99 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:09,280 discipline. Discipline doesn't have to mean that you're cutting yourself off from the rest of the 100 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:15,440 world. Discipline doesn't mean you have to eat only a certain type of food because you want to look 101 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:21,640 a certain way. Discipline is being able to understand that you can't get the results you 102 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:30,520 want at this very moment. But what you can do is get a little bit better every day, just like I'm 103 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:39,040 doing with this podcast. Every day I try to think about how can I make the podcast better? I'm 104 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:44,160 trying to get out as many as episodes as I can. I'm trying to get out as many thoughts as I can. 105 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:54,600 Just because I want this to work out so bad. So I'm constantly creating, I'm constantly thinking, 106 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:59,840 I'm constantly reading, I'm constantly looking for people to question. I'm constantly interacting 107 00:13:59,840 --> 00:14:06,400 with strangers in public, just gaining different views on different things. How can I get help 108 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:12,120 with this? How can I get help with the podcast without even directly asking for help with the 109 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:22,200 podcast? What can I do to help myself stand apart? I constantly just want to get better and better 110 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:31,800 every day and every way. I'm getting better and better. And the more we stay consistent with a 111 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:42,880 mindset, the better we will feel about how we feel about our own progression. Now, I will say this, 112 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:52,800 it is very important to see progression. I'm not saying we got to see it every step of the way, 113 00:14:52,800 --> 00:15:04,000 but it is important to see some type of indicator that you have progressed. This is why. Your brain 114 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:17,440 functions off approval. Self-approval is very, very important. Now you can be working at something, 115 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:24,000 you can be disciplined, but if you don't see the progress, eventually your body is going to think 116 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:32,040 you aren't going anywhere and you will plateau. So we got to find a way to measure our successes. 117 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:38,640 We got to find a way to measure our progression and if we can find a way to measure our progression 118 00:15:38,640 --> 00:15:46,560 and see it often enough that we stay motivated, but not too much that we become infatuated with 119 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:54,280 the progress, with the progress going up, we got to be able to, like I said, rest days, we got to be 120 00:15:54,280 --> 00:16:01,800 able to step away from the progress bar, work, and then come back and look at it. You know what I'm 121 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:08,600 saying? If you can get a good chunk of time that you just working, working, working, and then you 122 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:17,960 come back and you see a big jump, the dopamine in your brain will rush so hard and so fast and it'll 123 00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:30,440 get so, your brain will become almost addicted to that, to that rush, right? So your brain feel that 124 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:37,480 rush for the first time where you, where you take a break, you just take a break from looking at the 125 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:41,800 progress, you just work, work, work, work, work, come back and see the big progression. It's going to try to 126 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:53,840 emulate that anytime it can. Because one thing our bodies as humans love to do is to feel good. We 127 00:16:53,840 --> 00:17:00,880 love to feel you for it. People love to get high. Why? Because they love to feel you for it. They love 128 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:06,200 to feel on top of the world. And who don't feel on top of the world when they see themselves getting 129 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:12,600 better at something that they want to work at? One of their passions who don't feel like they on top 130 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:26,600 of the world. You know what I'm saying? And your brain wants to keep reenacting that. So if you can find, let me see how I want to put this. 131 00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:56,520 If you can find a balance, there we go. If you can find your balance with working and progression, and then you can activate a dopamine spike in your brain, you'll be better off. And you, the more you stay consistent, and now I'm going to call it a routine, the more you stay consistent in that work progress routine, celebrating the small successes, the faster 132 00:17:56,520 --> 00:18:25,960 you will progress. You'll progress way faster than, how can I put this, than seeing your growth sporadically. That makes sense. It's like, cooking and checking on the food. A wash pot don't boil. But if you don't wash the pot at all, the water disappear if you don't see it. So you got to find the balance between 133 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:55,400 boiling the water, watching the pot, making sure it don't overflow. You know what I'm saying? I'm using these cooking analogies. I'm hoping y'all picking up what I'm putting down. But you don't want to sit down and stare at the water until it boil because it'll take forever. You want to be able to turn the water on, walk away, do something, come back, check on it. Walk away, do something, come back, check on it. And eventually it'll get closer and closer and closer to boiling. 134 00:18:55,400 --> 00:19:23,960 The same thing goes with whatever you have going on in your life. Whatever you want to progress on will be your pot of water. You are still you. The fire under the pot of water will be you working. I think we can say that. I hope this image is cooking in your head. Try to imagine it for me. Try to imagine it for me. 135 00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:49,560 Turn the pot on. You don't want to turn the pot on too high. Turn the pot on too high, it will become too hard to manage all of that. You want a nice little medium. Turn it on like four, five. You don't want it on high. You want it on like six, seven, eight. Just turn it on like four, five. A good little consistent fire, consistent flame. 136 00:19:49,560 --> 00:20:08,120 Walk away from it. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do what it's supposed to do. Come back, check on it. The water hotter. It ain't about to boil, but it's hotter. It's hotter than what it was when you first put it in. 137 00:20:08,120 --> 00:20:21,400 Walk away. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do its own talking. Come back. You see the little bubbles at the little pot. You're like, okay, we about to go up. But you can't turn the pot off right there. You know what I'm saying? 138 00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:39,880 You can't turn the pot off because you see your progression and you're like, oh, it's about to take off. You got to stay consistent even when you almost done. That's when you need to concentrate for real, for real. When you almost done. 139 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:53,720 Because your body get to be in complacent. You don't want that. When you see that you're almost done, you need to go harder. I'm not saying turn the fire up, but you just need to go harder on concentration. 140 00:20:53,720 --> 00:21:06,920 Because obviously the work that you're doing is working. So when you see it's about to boil, let the word do the work. Let the word do the work. But don't go away so long. Don't take a big break because you might miss your break. 141 00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:22,120 You know what I'm saying? You ain't pick up on that one. When you almost done, you got to walk away from the pot. Don't walk away too long. Because if you walk away too long, you'll miss your window. You'll miss your open chance. 142 00:21:22,120 --> 00:21:38,520 So walk away, come back, check on it. Walk away, come back, check on it. The closer you get to the top, the more you can come back and look at it, I believe. If you feel any other way, just don't listen to that part. Or let me know. 143 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:59,160 You know what I'm saying? You can contact me anyway. But yeah, do that. If y'all listening, if anybody is listening, whatever social media platform you're listening to me off of or that you found me on, that you got me added on, let me know. 144 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:15,400 Give me some feedback. Let me know if these are helpful podcasts or if it's not doing anything for you. Feedback is very important as well. And that's another thing I want to get on. 145 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:30,760 I can connect this to what I was saying earlier about the body needing approval. The body also needs feedback. And feedback is another type of progression. Even if you're feeding back to yourself, keep your brain on the right track. 146 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:43,160 And that's how you stay concentrated. So when y'all doing something, when you're trying to perfect your craft, when you're in the middle of some work, talk to yourself. Give yourself small talk. Give yourself, hey, doing a good job. Keep going. Doing a good job. Keep going. 147 00:22:43,160 --> 00:23:01,240 And when you congratulate yourself for the correct actions, the body keep performing those correct actions. But I'll tell you this, when you make a mistake, do not get down on yourself for a bad action because your brain will turn on you. 148 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:21,000 And it will turn that attention to the bad action. You know what I'm saying? I got a great, not like a story, but like kind of like a story. I don't know. Just some knowledge to drop. 149 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:35,000 Just think about this. You ever had a bad day? Well, have you ever thought about where that bad day stand from? 150 00:23:35,000 --> 00:24:01,000 Think of bad days and good days. Just think of days like a snowball effect. However your day start early or whenever you get into a situation where you put so much concentration into a moment, that'd be how your day turn out, if that makes sense. 151 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:15,000 So say you don't have a morning routine. If you have a morning routine, it's way easier to have more good days than bad days because you always starting your day with a small win. Remember that. But if you don't have a routine, think about this. 152 00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:38,000 Wake up in the morning, make you some toast. You burn the toast. Now for whatever reason, say it was like your last piece of bread or something, this piss you off. You super upset. You know what I'm saying? The toast burned. You ain't ate. You like whatever. You try to brush it off before you leave the house, but you still upset. 153 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:58,000 Now when you get wherever you going, say you get to work. You get there. The coffee machine. Not acting like you, like how you wanted to. You feel like the coffee machine too slow today. Now you ticked off again. You know what I'm saying? But you're not ticked off for the first time. This is already your second time being ticked off in the morning. 154 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:14,000 Now it's a compound effect. Now, whenever you walk around, your brain is in a state like today, just a bad day because you linked those two moments with the rest of the day. 155 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:36,000 The brain loves to play prediction games. Okay. Once something happens consistently enough, your brain is going to try to guess the next moment. Our brains are constantly trying to play inside the future. 156 00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:56,000 So you got to be able to be aware of your actions and your feelings and you as a human. Be able to be aware of what's going on. I'm not saying micromanage your whole life, but step back from the screen. Step back from the social media. 157 00:25:56,000 --> 00:26:11,000 Step back from the, what do they call it? Stimulation and reflect and check in with yourself and see what's going on. Because if you don't, your life will become a habit. 158 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:26,000 You ever been stuck on autopilot mode? That's your life becoming a habit. Do the same thing over and over. Don't even realize you're doing it. 159 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:54,000 But yeah, be able to step back and try to not associate the rest of the day with a couple bad moments. Think about that. The next time you're having a bad day, say, did I have a bad day or did I have a couple moments that was not the greatest that I let affect the rest of my day? 160 00:26:54,000 --> 00:27:03,000 And watch how easy it is to get over bad days. 161 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:29,000 Yeah, just another piece of advice. If you want to promote good days, start your day with some type of small win. Make your bed, do 10 pushups, drink a cup of water. Whatever you can do every morning that you can link with a small win, the wins are compact or the wins will start to compound just like I did the bad day analogy. 162 00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:34,000 The good days work the same exact way. 163 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:39,000 But yeah. 164 00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:48,000 What else can I drop? What else can I drop? What else can I tell y'all? What else can be told? 165 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:52,000 I can't really think right now. 166 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,000 But that's okay. 167 00:27:54,000 --> 00:28:02,000 Because everything happens for a reason. And I'm cool with that. Maybe we can get into that another episode. 168 00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:25,000 Like always, thank you for listening. I appreciate you all. It's another day to be grateful.