What's up B-Fam Podcast? Today I'm gonna talk about how consistency and taking breaks is
very important in life. I've noticed this this week through my own actions. All summer
I've been working out, you know what I'm saying, consistently. But this week I really just
felt the need to lay back and chill. It's the last week before I go off to school. New
environment, new people. And I think my body is just giving itself a reset before it's
thrown into this new environment. And I feel like a lot of us will panic if we feel ourselves
slipping off. And then after that initial panic, we'll begin to fear getting back into
our routine. You know what I'm saying? I feel like it's very hard for a lot of us to pop
out of a routine and then get back into it. And it's important to notice that because
a lot of times that's really how life will go. You'll find yourself in a routine. You'll
fall out of it and then you'll be scared to jump back in because you believe you're not
gonna be as good as you were when you were in the routine. But we gotta take some time
to step back and reflect on how that's more harmful than beneficial to us. Just think
about it. Say you're consistent with a routine for about three months and your body just
gets so used to it because it's becoming a habit that you decide to take a break. Now
you take this break and you say, all right, I'm only gonna take a break for one day. And
then you say, well, maybe I need two days. And you get at the end of the second day,
you're like, dang, is it too late for me to go back? And that's on the third day. Now
if you keep playing this ping pong in your mind, a month is gonna go by and you're still
out of your routine. That's because you psyched yourself out. And that's another thing I've
been trying to work on, psyching myself out. I'm starting to become more aware of my actions
and how it's playing a role in my current situation. But the need for rest is so important.
And I think we all, I believe we all are under the illusion that if we take a rest day, we
automatically connect that with failing of some sort. You know what I'm saying? Like,
for me personally, it's like, I'd be doing something. So say I've been working out, that's
an easy analogy. I've been working out, but my body is tired. And the more that I work
out, the more I'm wearing down on my body instead of really coming up with this new,
well, gaining any muscle or gaining any strength. You get to a point where you just can't gain
any more strength because your body is so broken down. And I'll take a rest day. I spend
the whole rest day thinking about how I'm not at the gym. So did I get any rest really?
No, my body was anxious the whole day and I stayed. By the time I get back to the gym,
I'm just as tired, if not more tired than I was before I took the rest day. We got to
learn how to take rest days. Those are so important because what you gain from a rest
day is way more beneficial than what you gain from the workout. You give your body time
to catch up and process this information. Anytime we do anything with our bodies, our
brains, our minds, mental, anything that's mental, physical, spiritual, we got to give
ourselves time to process as human beings. Our bodies in a computer. Imagine you upload
an information to a computer. It doesn't just go, it doesn't just load or download straight
to a hundred percent automatically, just like that. You got to walk away from it and give
it time to process the information, the data before you can use it. So that's one thing
we need to implement in our lives is being able to upload quote unquote information into
our body and then give ourselves time to process that information. Now we don't want to get
rest days mixed with complacency. Let me explain the difference. A rest day, you just, whenever
you taking a rest day, you're not just sitting down what you've been doing. You know what
I'm saying? Maybe you working out is really good analogy. Maybe you've been weightlifting
all week. You'll take a rest day to stretch, do some yoga, take a walk. You still kind
of working out, but you're not pumping iron. You know what I'm saying? You're not breaking
down or tearing down muscles, waiting on the rebuild. You're aiding your recovery. You're
not just sitting down cold turkey. I get on how important those types of days are too,
but complacency is okay. Matter of fact, I could sum it up in one sentence. Complacency
is taking rest days instead of a rest day. You know what I'm saying? You say, okay, I'm
going to take the day off. I'm going to get back into it tomorrow. And in terms of snowball
effect of, I'm going to get back into it tomorrow. I'm going to get back into it tomorrow. Eventually
your body is healed. Now you, is it regressing or digressing? Whatever is the opposite of
progressing? You know what I'm saying? Or progressing. You'll end up doing that. And
that's not any help because once you get into that mindset that you digressing, you never
want to hide back into whatever routine you were doing before because you feel like you
getting worse at it. Now I talked about rest days where you sit cold turkey and do nothing.
Rest days are important for when your routine becomes a habit. Let me explain how that works.
A habit is a repeated action that turns into an automated action. And your brain basically
has autofilled password on it. So anytime you log into an account, autofilled password,
anytime you go to do an action, if you do it enough, it'll turn into a habit. Boom,
autofilled action. Yeah, the difference between, and then to explain the routine is doing a
series of action, doing a series of actions, but being aware that you're doing the actions.
So a habit is unaware that you're doing the action. A routine is being in the moment and
aware that you're doing the action. The reason it's important to sit down routine some days
and do absolutely nothing is so that your brain doesn't autofilled the password. It's
like send down and doing nothing is like clicking the don't remember password on other devices
buttons. You know what I'm saying? You like, nah, I don't do that. I want to be able to type the password in.
Because eventually the more think about this, the more that you auto-fill the password, the less
likely you are to remember the password. If something happened in the system and it was
required for you to, and it was required for you to actually type in the password. That's something
to think about. So be able to distinguish between a routine and a habit. Cause you don't want your brain to
start auto-filling them actions. Once your brain starts to auto-fill those actions, it's so hard
to break a habit. Habits have become habits around your life and you wouldn't even know it. Because
you so, your brain is so smart. You know what I'm saying? It'll trick you into thinking, oh, we've been
doing this. We've been doing this for years and the habit just came about. And the brain is like a
hoarder. You know what I'm saying? Once it gets a habit, it never wants to let it go. So you got to be
careful of what habits you, what habits you form. It's a really good book. I feel like you guys should read.
It's called the seven highly effective habits or no, the seven habits of highly effective people. Great
book, great read, easy read. And it'll help you understand how to develop habits to your liking,
how to make any habit. That's really good. Rest days, consistency. Let me think some more things that I can
get off my mind and into the world. So yeah, something else I can talk about to be how important
discipline is in our lives and how we should shape our definition of discipline. I feel like a lot of
people, when a lot of people think about discipline, they think about no fun, super hard to do, being
stuck up in your ways or something. But discipline is really just keeping your own promises, keeping the
promises that you make to yourself. And discipline isn't as hard as people make it out to be. People
think discipline is so hard because they just simply don't know how to say no or tell other people. And
that can get hard. And it can be extremely damaging on one's life if they lack discipline. How would I
even explain this? For a minute, when you think about discipline, what do you think about? You can think
about this in your head, you can think about it out loud, but just give yourself a couple minutes
maybe to just think about how do you think about discipline? And where do you see discipline taking
place in your life right now?
You can pause if you want some more time, but to me, discipline is a big,
being able to be okay with not seeing results at this very moment. I like to think about discipline,
and not even just discipline, but life in general, life in general as if I keep doing this, if I keep
working little by little, I'm going to get better and better. Every day and every way, I'm getting
better and better. And that mindset that I'm gonna get better at one thing every day is a form of
discipline. Discipline doesn't have to mean that you're cutting yourself off from the rest of the
world. Discipline doesn't mean you have to eat only a certain type of food because you want to look
a certain way. Discipline is being able to understand that you can't get the results you
want at this very moment. But what you can do is get a little bit better every day, just like I'm
doing with this podcast. Every day I try to think about how can I make the podcast better? I'm
trying to get out as many as episodes as I can. I'm trying to get out as many thoughts as I can.
Just because I want this to work out so bad. So I'm constantly creating, I'm constantly thinking,
I'm constantly reading, I'm constantly looking for people to question. I'm constantly interacting
with strangers in public, just gaining different views on different things. How can I get help
with this? How can I get help with the podcast without even directly asking for help with the
podcast? What can I do to help myself stand apart? I constantly just want to get better and better
every day and every way. I'm getting better and better. And the more we stay consistent with a
mindset, the better we will feel about how we feel about our own progression. Now, I will say this,
it is very important to see progression. I'm not saying we got to see it every step of the way,
but it is important to see some type of indicator that you have progressed. This is why. Your brain
functions off approval. Self-approval is very, very important. Now you can be working at something,
you can be disciplined, but if you don't see the progress, eventually your body is going to think
you aren't going anywhere and you will plateau. So we got to find a way to measure our successes.
We got to find a way to measure our progression and if we can find a way to measure our progression
and see it often enough that we stay motivated, but not too much that we become infatuated with
the progress, with the progress going up, we got to be able to, like I said, rest days, we got to be
able to step away from the progress bar, work, and then come back and look at it. You know what I'm
saying? If you can get a good chunk of time that you just working, working, working, and then you
come back and you see a big jump, the dopamine in your brain will rush so hard and so fast and it'll
get so, your brain will become almost addicted to that, to that rush, right? So your brain feel that
rush for the first time where you, where you take a break, you just take a break from looking at the
progress, you just work, work, work, work, work, come back and see the big progression. It's going to try to
emulate that anytime it can. Because one thing our bodies as humans love to do is to feel good. We
love to feel you for it. People love to get high. Why? Because they love to feel you for it. They love
to feel on top of the world. And who don't feel on top of the world when they see themselves getting
better at something that they want to work at? One of their passions who don't feel like they on top
of the world. You know what I'm saying? And your brain wants to keep reenacting that. So if you can find, let me see how I want to put this.
If you can find a balance, there we go. If you can find your balance with working and progression, and then you can activate a dopamine spike in your brain, you'll be better off. And you, the more you stay consistent, and now I'm going to call it a routine, the more you stay consistent in that work progress routine, celebrating the small successes, the faster
you will progress. You'll progress way faster than, how can I put this, than seeing your growth sporadically. That makes sense. It's like, cooking and checking on the food. A wash pot don't boil. But if you don't wash the pot at all, the water disappear if you don't see it. So you got to find the balance between
boiling the water, watching the pot, making sure it don't overflow. You know what I'm saying? I'm using these cooking analogies. I'm hoping y'all picking up what I'm putting down. But you don't want to sit down and stare at the water until it boil because it'll take forever. You want to be able to turn the water on, walk away, do something, come back, check on it. Walk away, do something, come back, check on it. And eventually it'll get closer and closer and closer to boiling.
The same thing goes with whatever you have going on in your life. Whatever you want to progress on will be your pot of water. You are still you. The fire under the pot of water will be you working. I think we can say that. I hope this image is cooking in your head. Try to imagine it for me. Try to imagine it for me.
Turn the pot on. You don't want to turn the pot on too high. Turn the pot on too high, it will become too hard to manage all of that. You want a nice little medium. Turn it on like four, five. You don't want it on high. You want it on like six, seven, eight. Just turn it on like four, five. A good little consistent fire, consistent flame.
Walk away from it. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do what it's supposed to do. Come back, check on it. The water hotter. It ain't about to boil, but it's hotter. It's hotter than what it was when you first put it in.
Walk away. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do its own talking. Let the word do its own talking. Come back. You see the little bubbles at the little pot. You're like, okay, we about to go up. But you can't turn the pot off right there. You know what I'm saying?
You can't turn the pot off because you see your progression and you're like, oh, it's about to take off. You got to stay consistent even when you almost done. That's when you need to concentrate for real, for real. When you almost done.
Because your body get to be in complacent. You don't want that. When you see that you're almost done, you need to go harder. I'm not saying turn the fire up, but you just need to go harder on concentration.
Because obviously the work that you're doing is working. So when you see it's about to boil, let the word do the work. Let the word do the work. But don't go away so long. Don't take a big break because you might miss your break.
You know what I'm saying? You ain't pick up on that one. When you almost done, you got to walk away from the pot. Don't walk away too long. Because if you walk away too long, you'll miss your window. You'll miss your open chance.
So walk away, come back, check on it. Walk away, come back, check on it. The closer you get to the top, the more you can come back and look at it, I believe. If you feel any other way, just don't listen to that part. Or let me know.
You know what I'm saying? You can contact me anyway. But yeah, do that. If y'all listening, if anybody is listening, whatever social media platform you're listening to me off of or that you found me on, that you got me added on, let me know.
Give me some feedback. Let me know if these are helpful podcasts or if it's not doing anything for you. Feedback is very important as well. And that's another thing I want to get on.
I can connect this to what I was saying earlier about the body needing approval. The body also needs feedback. And feedback is another type of progression. Even if you're feeding back to yourself, keep your brain on the right track.
And that's how you stay concentrated. So when y'all doing something, when you're trying to perfect your craft, when you're in the middle of some work, talk to yourself. Give yourself small talk. Give yourself, hey, doing a good job. Keep going. Doing a good job. Keep going.
And when you congratulate yourself for the correct actions, the body keep performing those correct actions. But I'll tell you this, when you make a mistake, do not get down on yourself for a bad action because your brain will turn on you.
And it will turn that attention to the bad action. You know what I'm saying? I got a great, not like a story, but like kind of like a story. I don't know. Just some knowledge to drop.
Just think about this. You ever had a bad day? Well, have you ever thought about where that bad day stand from?
Think of bad days and good days. Just think of days like a snowball effect. However your day start early or whenever you get into a situation where you put so much concentration into a moment, that'd be how your day turn out, if that makes sense.
So say you don't have a morning routine. If you have a morning routine, it's way easier to have more good days than bad days because you always starting your day with a small win. Remember that. But if you don't have a routine, think about this.
Wake up in the morning, make you some toast. You burn the toast. Now for whatever reason, say it was like your last piece of bread or something, this piss you off. You super upset. You know what I'm saying? The toast burned. You ain't ate. You like whatever. You try to brush it off before you leave the house, but you still upset.
Now when you get wherever you going, say you get to work. You get there. The coffee machine. Not acting like you, like how you wanted to. You feel like the coffee machine too slow today. Now you ticked off again. You know what I'm saying? But you're not ticked off for the first time. This is already your second time being ticked off in the morning.
Now it's a compound effect. Now, whenever you walk around, your brain is in a state like today, just a bad day because you linked those two moments with the rest of the day.
The brain loves to play prediction games. Okay. Once something happens consistently enough, your brain is going to try to guess the next moment. Our brains are constantly trying to play inside the future.
So you got to be able to be aware of your actions and your feelings and you as a human. Be able to be aware of what's going on. I'm not saying micromanage your whole life, but step back from the screen. Step back from the social media.
Step back from the, what do they call it? Stimulation and reflect and check in with yourself and see what's going on. Because if you don't, your life will become a habit.
You ever been stuck on autopilot mode? That's your life becoming a habit. Do the same thing over and over. Don't even realize you're doing it.
But yeah, be able to step back and try to not associate the rest of the day with a couple bad moments. Think about that. The next time you're having a bad day, say, did I have a bad day or did I have a couple moments that was not the greatest that I let affect the rest of my day?
And watch how easy it is to get over bad days.
Yeah, just another piece of advice. If you want to promote good days, start your day with some type of small win. Make your bed, do 10 pushups, drink a cup of water. Whatever you can do every morning that you can link with a small win, the wins are compact or the wins will start to compound just like I did the bad day analogy.
The good days work the same exact way.
But yeah.
What else can I drop? What else can I drop? What else can I tell y'all? What else can be told?
I can't really think right now.
But that's okay.
Because everything happens for a reason. And I'm cool with that. Maybe we can get into that another episode.
Like always, thank you for listening. I appreciate you all. It's another day to be grateful.