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Okay, welcome back to the BFam Podcast.

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Today I'm here with...

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Onre Bird.

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And tell us a little bit about yourself, Onre.

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Okay.

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So y'all know my name, Onre.

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But I'm going into 11th grade at Cass Tech.

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I love reading and writing.

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That's something I got into more recently than not.

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Also want to be a public speaker and author when I grow up as well.

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Why?

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Because I just feel like the lessons that I have...

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Oh, the lessons that I have, I can use to help other people that needed them when I

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needed them.

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So what kind of lessons are we talking about?

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There's a lot of different ways you can...

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This can be interpreted.

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Okay.

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One of the lessons that I feel like I could teach other people is that it's okay to be

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like a part of your environment.

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You don't have to hate everything around you.

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You feel me?

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Because when I was growing up, I hated every single thing around me.

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And that caused me to hate myself.

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Go a lot deeper into that if you feel comfortable with that.

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One of the things that I disliked was my father and I didn't like that I had the same name

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as him.

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So I grew to hate him and the name as well.

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So every time somebody would ask me my name, I would always become a little choked up and

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I couldn't express and tell them my name because it was directly tied to my father.

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Wow.

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That's deep.

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And how are you going to teach the youth that, or if you even target the youth, what audience

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do you want to target when you're doing your public speaking?

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Everybody that needs help and is struggling.

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Struggling with what?

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Expressing theirself because I had such a problem with it.

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How did you overcome that problem?

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It's not about a how.

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It's just what I did.

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What did you do?

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I gained pride in myself.

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How?

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You have to become comfortable with who you are and the things around you to grow from

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them.

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How do you do that though?

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Like, I know it's going to be different from everybody.

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I know everybody has a different experience, but you personally, how did you use your trials

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and tribulations to accept yourself?

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Because I know it don't just come out the blue.

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You got to go through some type of molding process.

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I want to hear about that.

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You have to fully let go to let everything come back together.

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I had to let go of everything I was feeling and what I was thinking in order to build

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something brand new that I can use to help myself elevate.

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So what were you feeling and thinking?

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What was it that you let go of?

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I was feeling a lot of frustration and negative energies because of the things around me.

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How did you become aware of that though?

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I had this good friend named Austin and he'll be realized to look at the bigger picture

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because what you were going through is more than just that.

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You feel me?

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It's more, your life is more than just what you go through and you have to take a step

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back, i.e. let everything go so you can see it when it comes back together.

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Wow.

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I love it as you're painting a picture.

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Okay.

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When you paint a picture, you have to look at everything around your environment to think

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of what you need to paint of.

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Like let's say we planted that tree over there.

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I know they can't see.

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I'm not going to zoom in on one branch and try and paint the tree off of that.

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I got to look at everything and inspect it.

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I got to get the leaves, the branches, the twigs, the birds in it.

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Yeah.

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Everything, the ground.

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Uh huh.

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You got to look at everything.

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Okay.

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Now, we don't want them to get looking at everything confused with being obsessed with

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every minor detail.

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So how do you feel about, how can I put this?

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How do you feel about looking at the picture but being okay with not having all the information?

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You just got to draw in the blank spots.

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Be okay with not seeing everything.

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So being okay to, you got to be able to improvise is what you're saying.

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Yes, you have to be able to improvise.

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When is the time that you've improvised in real time?

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Like what's some moments you didn't have where you ain't know what you was doing at all and

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you just had to step up and improvise?

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Man, one of the examples of that was like the beginning of the year.

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Man, that's not good enough.

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No, it's okay.

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It's nothing that's not good enough.

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If it's the first thing that popped to your head, I mean.

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Okay, one of the things I had to improvise with is I was writing the essay.

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I was writing the essay for my final and I had to, I had memorized all these flashcards

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and everything that I was going to write exactly because it was a closed book essay.

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You just had to write about two topics for my final.

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So instead of trying to think back and memorize everything that I had wrote down, I just improvised

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because when you try and get everything perfect is when it starts to like fall apart.

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When you try to get scattered brain when you try to.

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That is something I've been learning.

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The art of going with the flow, not necessarily like just molding into your environment.

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Just like the example I would use would be like, instead of being like a oak tree, a

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super strong oak tree that when a storm comes, it's so stiff that it breaks.

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You could be like, you know, like the wheat plants you ever go by the every drive not

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a time and it'd be like, what would it be like, like the farms.

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Yeah, nobody know who owned the farms, but it just be farms there.

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Just be like the wheat plants or whatever those, whatever they called, you know.

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People should know what I'm talking about.

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And they just, they just go with the wind.

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They would have been, but they never break.

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You know what I'm saying?

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So being able to accept your environment for what it is and take the route or the path

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of least resistance.

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You know what I'm saying?

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And I don't want you to get that confused with people, please.

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You know what I'm saying?

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Yeah.

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Just make sure you, how can I put this?

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Just don't become a people pleaser because once you become a people pleaser, you start

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to lose track of yourself.

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You know why?

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Because you begin to, imposter syndrome will be become a, a big problem for you because

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you constantly changing who you are for everybody else.

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You gotta stand true to yourself and letting people accept you for what you are.

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Because you just don't want to, you don't want any problems.

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I don't want the path of least resistance to be confused with not wanting any problems.

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Yeah.

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It's easy to avoid confrontation, but you don't want to avoid confrontation by pleasing

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all of those around you.

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So, you gotta stand on your point from earlier, you gotta be okay with being yourself.

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And if people can't accept that, then those not the people you should be around.

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You gotta learn to, we gotta learn to let go of things that no longer serve us.

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Because everybody can't go.

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You know what I'm saying?

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Not everybody can fit in the car.

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Hey, not everybody can fit in the car.

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You know what I'm saying?

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Yeah.

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Really got four seats.

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That's what I'm saying.

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Hey, not all the clothes can fit in the suitcase.

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You know what I'm saying?

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You gotta take some clothes out and switch them out depending on what the season is.

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You know what I'm saying?

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I know exactly.

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People come and go like seasons, just like clothes do.

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And I don't want you to start seeing people as objects, but it's easier to think about

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when you start to lose people.

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You can't hold on to every single relationship because at some point it becomes too much

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to handle.

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Yeah.

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And the friends you made three years ago may not represent who you are today.

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Yeah.

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So you need some new friends.

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You know what I'm saying?

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How you feel about that?

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I agree with that.

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And that comes back into the point of being comfortable with yourself.

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Because you can't find the flow or anything that you've said before without being comfortable

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with yourself.

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Right.

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Because what flow do you have if you don't have yourself?

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I'm saying, bruh.

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Like, at the end of the day.

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You really are all who you got.

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And I know family there for you.

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Some friends there for you.

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Companions, mentors, all of this there for you.

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But they're not you at the end of the day.

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They still themselves.

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When we lay down, we go to sleep alone.

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Even if somebody in the bed, we still asleep alone.

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You know what I'm saying?

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I know exactly.

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Our dreams belong to us.

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Our feelings belong to us.

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We have to be us at the end of the day.

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No matter how much help you are offered or how much help you really have.

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You can help somebody all you want.

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If they not willing to accept themselves for who they are, all that help you've given them

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will just be going in one ear and out the other.

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I see people every day struggle with comprehending who they are.

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It's just stuff I observe and it's not something you can just give somebody.

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You can't just tell them what it is.

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It's like everybody got their own time table.

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Everybody progressing at a different speed.

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But when you step back from yourself and look at everybody, you'll begin to see how many

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people are so uncomfortable with being themselves.

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You will be truly surprised.

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Man, and it's crazy.

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And I feel so bad because I can't just give them the answer.

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They got to find it on their own.

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But I feel like we could do a better job at helping them discover that problem because

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every problem start with awareness.

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You'll never know it's a problem unless you become aware of it.

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How do you suggest we should get people to step into awareness?

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There's no way to help people step into awareness.

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Why you say that?

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It's just because something has to click.

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It doesn't matter what I tell you or anything like that because it's always going to be

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there for them to learn.

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But they want to pick up the book hypothetically.

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They're not going to.

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Right.

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So there's no way I can.

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You think there's any way we can influence people to want to better themselves or is

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that just something that they have to?

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You have to want to get it.

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You got to get it on your own.

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You got to have that dog in you.

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You got to deal with that dog.

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You got to raise the dog.

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You got to raise that dog.

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You got to raise that dog.

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Dogs don't come out trained.

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You know what I'm saying?

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You got to raise that dog.

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You got to be patient.

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And you.

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I just feel so bad because there's not a lot of things out there to help people to become

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aware that there is a problem.

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We're talking about two different awarenesses now.

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It's a awareness of the problem as a whole.

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And it's a awareness of the problem within self.

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I feel like that becoming aware of the problem and self is one of the hardest feats to overcome.

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I struggle with it myself.

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Like let me see.

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It was I say a lot of us go through that phase.

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I feel like a lot of people have trouble finding themselves in high school.

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I was having trouble finding myself in like the fifth grade.

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I know it's like crazy because I could feel myself conforming to those around me.

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And it was just something I knew.

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Some of us are just blessed.

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You know what I'm saying?

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We able to feel that we destined for something.

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So I was able to sit back and recognize that who am I?

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Who am I?

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Who is Austin?

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I was trying to self reflect at such a young age and I'm glad that I was going through

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that turmoil because that was hard.

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Being faced with that, still having to go through puberty, this, this and that.

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Hormones flying all over the place.

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You know what I'm saying?

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Growing up, all sisters.

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The only real male figures in my life was like my dad and my granddad.

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And then I guess the kids at school.

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But like they don't know more than I know because they ain't got no daddy at home.

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So what's going on?

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But I really had to keep asking myself who am I?

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Because if you, all you gotta do is ask yourself if you want to want the answer to a question.

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You may not necessarily think you know the answer, but deep down your subconscious mind

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know the answer to whatever question you ask.

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Your brain is like Google.

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People just got to tap into that.

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Your brain is like a Google.

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If you sit down for 10 minutes in meditation, relax your body fully so that you're open

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to all information seeking in.

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All thoughts are able to flow in and out and your body is at a steady level.

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If you go into your head and you ask yourself the same question and repeat it, who am I?

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Who am I?

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Who is Austin Enix?

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You sit there long enough, the answer just gonna pop into your head.

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It's like Epiphany.

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You ever had an epiphany?

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I have epiphanies all the time.

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Me too.

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I love them.

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I love epiphany.

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But yeah, that's just, let's get back to letting go of the things that no longer serve us.

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So one thing I like to think is everybody has that moment of clarity.

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And it's your choice if you want to take advantage of it or not.

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For real?

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Yes.

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I feel like everybody, because every time I talk to somebody that's gone through a great

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change, not drastically, it could be even steadily, it all started with that one moment.

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Like David Goggins, if I said his name right, he just woke up one day and was like, nah.

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This ain't it.

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This ain't it.

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I can't live like this.

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You can't live like this.

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I can't die like this.

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Yes.

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Henri, if you died today, do you feel like you left a hole?

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Yes.

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You do?

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Yeah.

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I feel like you can impact on people and that the work you've done can be passed on to generations

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behind you.

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Yes.

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But I feel like this is just the start.

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This is just the start.

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This is just the start.

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Because how old are you?

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I'm 16.

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You're only 16, man.

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That's what I'm saying.

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It's amazing how we could speed up progress, not rush it, but speed it up just by passing

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on what we know.

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That's what I try to do.

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You know what I'm saying?

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I know all this information, but say I didn't get to learn until I was like 12.

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I'm trying to teach it to you when you 10.

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You know what I'm saying?

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You got a head start.

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And why are you teaching me?

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You learning it again too.

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I'm saying that's another important thing.

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If you want to speed up your learning process, teach somebody else the exact thing that you

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are trying to learn.

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And I promise you, you're going to pick it up faster.

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That's already happened.

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Another tip is to, if you want to remember stuff quickly, explain it to yourself and

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to others like you would explain it to a third grader.

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You know what I'm saying?

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If you can explain something to a third grader, you for sure got it.

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At that point, you got to take it down to the most simplest terms so they know what's

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going on.

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If you can do that to yourself, then boom.

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Everything don't got to be complicated for it to be cool.

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You know what I'm saying?

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People get cool and complicated mixed up.

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Oh, this is super difficult, so it's cool.

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Nah.

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I don't really got an explanation, but I know people can feel me when I'm saying like, nah,

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it's not just cool because it's complicated.

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If it's not shareable, how cool is it?

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Exactly.

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Because at some point, we're going to be like, how am I going to learn if it's too complicated?

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You can't learn.

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You know what I'm saying?

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I don't want people to get how am I going to learn because it's too complicated mixed

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up with not trying because it's too hard.

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Because at the end of the day, nothing is really hard.

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Everything is simple, but not easy because we got to think.

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It's a process to everything.

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If you can get down to the basics of your problem, it's going to be easier to find solutions.

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But you don't want to try to solve the whole problem at once.

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Yeah.

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You're not going to paint a whole tree at once like the example.

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You got to start from the ground up.

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The only time that you start from the top is when you dig in the grave.

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Think about that, bro.

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That's the only time.

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That's the only time you start from the top.

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Everything else is built from the ground up.

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So why wouldn't the same principle apply when you're solving problems?

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So everything is simple, but not easy.

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It's not necessarily hard.

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It might be a challenge.

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When you break it down, it's way simpler than we thought.

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Life isn't that hard.

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It's not.

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It's simple, but not easy.

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Because it's different for us.

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It's different for everybody in so many different ways.

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What's your perspective on life?

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My perspective was like, you just got to do what you got to do.

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What you mean, though?

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Just make it simple on yourself.

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Because in the beginning of this podcast, I was stressed and worried and overthinking.

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I know if you played this back, you could hear it in my voice.

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See how fast I was talking?

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I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like, I was like.

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But yeah, you just got to calm down sometimes.

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There's a time and place for everything.

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Being hyped and excited is there's a time for it.

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Because if it wasn't, you wouldn't feel it.

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But you got to pick when to and when not to.

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You can't control your emotions, but you can control your thinking and thought process.

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What?

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I'm reading a book called The Dance of Anger, and it teaches people how to express their

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self when they're feeling all of these overwhelming emotions.

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For real?

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Yes.

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And the first lesson is to calm down.

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Calming down, let's say you mad because I broke your door or something, right?

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Yeah.

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So let's say I broke your door and you angry and frustrated.

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You not going to know what to do.

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Right.

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Until you calm down.

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All those emotions just like jumping inside of you.

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It's like ants in your pants.

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It's sporadic.

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But tell us, how do you calm down?

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You just got to realize.

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What you mean?

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You can't just, we got to think about these people listening to us.

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We can't just be like, you got to realize.

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They here for help.

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You know what I'm saying?

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Imagine you don't know the answer.

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That's what I'm saying.

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Imagine you go to the teacher and ask for help.

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You just got to know.

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How am I supposed to know how to do this?

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You didn't teach this.

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Okay.

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You just got to know.

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So what I've learned from the videos I've watched, the books I've read is that if you

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want to calm down, it all start with your breathing because your breathing is directly,

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directly proportionate with your heart rate.

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Yeah.

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The faster you breathing, the faster your heart pounding.

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And when your heart pounding, what that mean?

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What's flowing?

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Blood.

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What's flowing?

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What that get?

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What that get sparking up?

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Adrenaline.

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Yeah.

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When your adrenaline up, we create a mind fog.

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This is biologically proven.

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When the adrenaline is up, the brain creates a hormone that creates a literal mind fog.

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So when you're angry and you can't think, it's because it's literally fog in your brain.

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Your body is letting off a hormone telling you that we may be in danger.

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Don't listen to yourself.

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Do what we tell you to do.

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And that's when we just begin to react and stuff.

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Start strangling people.

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And then you just chuck a pickaxe.

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Stop.

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Okay.

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Stop.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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My fault.

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My fault.

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No, you straight, straight, straight.

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But like, real fast, oh yeah, that's when you just start to go crazy when you just,

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you go into fight or flight mode.

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Yeah.

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And then you're able to catch the breath.

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You get a hold of it.

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Then you able to, okay, your thoughts are coming back.

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Your heart rate slowing down.

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Your body begins to relax.

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Yeah.

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And when the adrenaline stop pumping, your body kind of shuts down.

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It's almost like a sugar rush.

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Yeah.

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When that adrenaline stop pumping and you get off that adrenaline rush, you're tired.

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Your groggy, your body forcing itself to reset.

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It's like an automatic reset.

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So we got to use the breath to aid us in calming down.

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Okay.

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So what's the next lesson inside your book, Dancing with Anger?

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The next lesson is realization.

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Realization.

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But it's more than just that because we've been talking about realization a lot lately.

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Realization in the matter of understanding other people and why they're doing what they're

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doing.

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Like teach me some more.

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Okay.

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For example, let's say I ate the last of your chips.

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Right.

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You come, you kick down my door, you yelling at me and I'm confused on why you yelling

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at me.

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Because you ain't even heard the reason.

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I'm just yelling.

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You just yelling.

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I just expect you to know.

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And when somebody starts getting mad and lashing out at you, what is human instinct?

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What is it?

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Defend yourself.

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Exactly.

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You instantly get defensive and getting defensive, you get aggressive.

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Okay.

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That's the default to protect yourself in any way, shape, and form.

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The mind fog.

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Exactly.

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All right, I'm listening.

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Getting defensive is literally your mind creating fog so you can protect yourself physically

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or your image mentally.

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Right.

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So if you can disarm this defense mechanism, I could think, oh, he mad because I ate his

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chips.

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Because I ate his chips.

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I did eat his chips though.

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And what was he saying earlier?

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To first solve a problem, you have to realize there is one.

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Yeah.

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So after I realized the reason why you're angry, I can provide a solution.

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You can buy me some more chips.

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Buy you some more chips.

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You can buy me a chip factory.

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Exactly.

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Right.

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Yeah.

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So you have to understand others around you to understand yourself more as well.

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That is something I've been noticing, bruh.

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It's hard to get mad.

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I talked about this in like an earlier episode.

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It's hard to get mad when you begin to understand what's going on around you.

506
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Yeah.

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Because anger comes from confusion.

508
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Anger comes from confusion because your body like, what's going on?

509
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Your body just want to know what's going on for real.

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That's what fear is.

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Everybody just don't know what's going on.

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But we got to set this in another episode.

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We got to fall into the fear.

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Yeah.

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00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:48,000
We just got to be able to trust ourselves.

516
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:49,720
That's all we need to talk about.

517
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:51,920
How does one gain trust in themselves?

518
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,720
That's a good one.

519
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:56,200
How do people gain trust in they self-reserve?

520
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,200
Yeah.

521
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:58,200
You want me to answer first?

522
00:23:58,200 --> 00:23:59,200
Let me try.

523
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:00,200
I bet.

524
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:01,200
Okay.

525
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:02,200
Gaining trust in yourself.

526
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:04,480
How I gained trust in myself.

527
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,480
I don't know.

528
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:11,080
You were like, I thought I had it.

529
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:15,800
I learned, and this is just from observing myself.

530
00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:21,340
I learned to gain trust in yourself and to be more comfortable with yourself.

531
00:24:21,340 --> 00:24:25,680
You got to treat yourself like you a whole another person.

532
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,400
Because we'll get to doing stuff.

533
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:29,400
Hold on.

534
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:34,600
We'll set rules for ourself, but if we break them, we like, oh, that's cool.

535
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,240
We always giving ourselves a pass.

536
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:43,040
And when we do that, we telling ourselves it's okay to not listen to yourself.

537
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:44,760
Now you breaking your own promises.

538
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,640
Do you trust anybody who break all the promises?

539
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:47,640
No.

540
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,960
So why would you trust yourself if you're breaking your own promises?

541
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:58,840
So to gain trust in yourself, you got to be able to make promises to yourself and then

542
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,080
keep them.

543
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:06,640
Now say you set a goal for yourself.

544
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:11,520
The only way you going to gain the trust by keeping that promise, you don't always got

545
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:13,640
to achieve it.

546
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:15,120
Sometimes it's okay to fail.

547
00:25:15,120 --> 00:25:16,200
I want you to remember that.

548
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:20,400
It's okay to fail, but you got to at least try.

549
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,920
Now your body like, all right, we set this goal.

550
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:25,420
We promised we was going to do it.

551
00:25:25,420 --> 00:25:28,000
We went through with it, but we failed.

552
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,840
But it's not going to care about the outcome or the result.

553
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:36,000
It's going to care about, did we actually go through the process of trying to get the

554
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:37,000
goal?

555
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:38,240
That's all your body need to see.

556
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,440
And this is going to give you a little bit more trust.

557
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:43,440
And it's a process just like it is gaining trust in others.

558
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:50,520
You got to keep proving to yourself that you can trust yourself.

559
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:54,960
You got to prove it to yourself, not for anybody else, but you got to, and you can make small

560
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:58,320
promises at five o'clock.

561
00:25:58,320 --> 00:25:59,320
I'm going to do the dishes.

562
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:01,080
Set a alarm for five o'clock.

563
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:06,080
When it's five o'clock, no matter what you do, put it down, get up and go do the dishes.

564
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:07,560
That's how you gain trust in yourself.

565
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:13,600
You lose trust in yourself when you set a alarm for five o'clock, it hit, and you're

566
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,080
like, I don't feel like doing the dishes.

567
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:16,080
I'll do it tomorrow.

568
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:20,280
The more you put it off, the more your body like, damn man, what's going on?

569
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:21,280
It's not reliable.

570
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:25,080
Man, you want you to be reliable for you.

571
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:30,760
If you can't be reliable for you, how do I expect you to be reliable for me?

572
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:38,960
And you'll notice the more that you're reliable to yourself, the more people will be comfortable

573
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:40,200
with relying on you.

574
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:44,960
Cause they like, well, I see Henri go through with his promises all the time.

575
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:45,960
He said he going to do it.

576
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:47,640
He going to do it.

577
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:48,960
I trust him.

578
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:49,960
You know what I'm saying?

579
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:55,040
And then that's how life start to flow for you.

580
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:56,400
It start in here.

581
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,880
It start in here with the trust in yourself.

582
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:01,480
You got to trust the universe.

583
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:03,240
I'm reading this book.

584
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:08,200
It's called the seven spiritual laws of something.

585
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:18,200
I forget, but he was saying like, dang, I forgot what he was saying though.

586
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:27,180
He was saying like, it start with trusting in nature because we all a part of nature

587
00:27:27,180 --> 00:27:28,680
deep down.

588
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:31,160
We all come from the root of the earth.

589
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,680
We belong to this earth.

590
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,480
We not other worldly.

591
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:42,360
We are part of the world that we live in and we treat the world that we live in like an

592
00:27:42,360 --> 00:27:46,260
object because we think it's not alive.

593
00:27:46,260 --> 00:27:52,240
We think because we can't see it move, see it feel, hear it say anything that is just

594
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:53,240
the object.

595
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:54,240
So we above it automatically.

596
00:27:54,240 --> 00:28:02,640
But once you begin to listen to the wind, watch the waves go by, look at the trees sway

597
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:08,480
back and forth, look at the grass, pay attention to the rain.

598
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,200
You know what I'm saying?

599
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,200
You get a sense of self.

600
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:14,960
It starts to give back.

601
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:20,240
The more attention you give to nature, it just reflects back to you.

602
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,080
You know what I'm saying?

603
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:26,680
So if you ever feel like you ought to touch with yourself and you just don't know how

604
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:30,160
to get back, just go outside.

605
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:31,800
You out there.

606
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:33,320
We all out here.

607
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:34,920
We didn't always have cars.

608
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,280
We didn't always have houses.

609
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,440
We didn't always have shelter.

610
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:43,840
We was once just in nature with it.

611
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,960
That's why all of our ancestors were so smart.

612
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:49,880
They didn't have all this stuff dumbing them down.

613
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:53,240
They was out here with each other.

614
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:56,280
They trusted the environment that they were in.

615
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:57,840
But look where we live now though.

616
00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:59,080
We in Detroit.

617
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:00,880
You know what I'm saying?

618
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:03,120
Do you trust the environment around you?

619
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:04,600
Honestly.

620
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:08,120
So how you ever supposed to be comfortable with yourself if you can't trust the nature

621
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:09,120
around you?

622
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:10,120
You can't.

623
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,480
That's what I'm saying, man.

624
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:17,960
So we got to be able to be one with the nature.

625
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:21,320
Then we got to understand when it's time to go.

626
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,800
Just like we was talking about earlier in the podcast.

627
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:28,840
We got to learn to let go of the things that no longer serve us.

628
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:33,120
Yeah, this is my hometown, but I need to see something new.

629
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:34,120
You know what I'm saying?

630
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:40,600
I can't provide for my hometown if all I know is my hometown.

631
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:50,840
It's not the, it's the experiences outside of yourself that develop your character.

632
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:57,600
It's going out and exploring and discovering the unknown that develop you as a person.

633
00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:01,720
It's going out and learning them lessons so you can bring them back.

634
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:04,180
It's hard to learn.

635
00:30:04,180 --> 00:30:07,320
It's hard to learn in the classroom.

636
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:08,320
You know what I'm saying?

637
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:09,320
I know.

638
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:10,800
I can tell you the information.

639
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:12,280
You can read the information.

640
00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,080
You can memorize the information.

641
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:19,320
I can give you a test on some shit I made you memorize.

642
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:21,320
But what's more effective?

643
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:25,720
Sitting in here reading a book or going outside and observing for myself firsthand?

644
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:26,720
Yeah.

645
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,040
You know what I'm saying?

646
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,200
I feel like our schools got to do a better job of that.

647
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:34,240
It's not a lot of hands on learning.

648
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:39,800
Now you can have a teacher up there being interactive doing projects quote unquote.

649
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,080
Really just throwing you in the groups.

650
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:53,440
But I feel like our education system would be way more, way more effective if we took

651
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:56,200
some of these classes outside.

652
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:58,920
It got to be some way you can teach me arithmetic outside.

653
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:03,200
It got to be some way you can teach me math outside.

654
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:08,200
I shouldn't be learning biology or physics in the fucking classroom.

655
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:11,680
I should be able to go outside and see physics work every day.

656
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:17,400
Field trips need to be a more intimate part of school.

657
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:21,080
We got to take these kids out to explore dog.

658
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:25,360
Their only time exploring can't be when they go away to college because not everybody leaving

659
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:26,960
the crib to go to college.

660
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:27,960
You know what I'm saying?

661
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:29,880
And that's super expensive.

662
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:40,360
And then we just throwing these kids out here and college like, all right, go feed for yourself.

663
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:45,240
When birds are born, do you see the mama bird sitting there talking to the kids, telling

664
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:46,240
them how to fly?

665
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:47,240
No.

666
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:48,840
Or do you see her just let them jump out the nest?

667
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:54,600
We got to let these kids jump out the nest, man, so they can fly.

668
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,440
Being stuck in, you can't gain much.

669
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:04,120
It's only so much you can gain from being in one spot.

670
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,320
It's only so much you can gain before you plateau.

671
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:08,920
You don't want to plateau.

672
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:12,520
It can only take so much secondhand learning before you go.

673
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:15,760
You got to have a first hand learning that dog.

674
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:23,600
It's like just simply taking a driver's test on paper and learning the shit in the classroom

675
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:26,640
isn't going to teach you how to drive a car.

676
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:30,120
You got to go get your hours of driving the car.

677
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,880
Being able to drive comes with experience of driving.

678
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,560
Why can't we apply that to everything that we do or most things?

679
00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:40,480
I understand that we can't apply to everything, but most things.

680
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,520
You want to know how?

681
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:43,520
It's our pride.

682
00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:46,320
Because people don't like not being good at things.

683
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:47,320
Keep going.

684
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:48,320
I'm following that.

685
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:53,120
You will be surprised on how many things people do not start because they know they would

686
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:54,120
not be good at it.

687
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,120
How they know they will not do that?

688
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:57,120
They know.

689
00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:00,040
They think they won't be good at it.

690
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,640
You're controlled by your perception of yourself.

691
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:04,880
I was just thinking about this earlier.

692
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:06,840
Thought controls everything.

693
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:12,480
None of the shit we scared of, we're not really scared of.

694
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:15,640
Our thoughts make us think that we're scared of it.

695
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:17,200
It's just your brain telling you.

696
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:24,680
Alan Watts said, he said, it's always a small version of you, a tiny version of you, a second

697
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:25,680
version of you.

698
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:26,680
You're just afraid of nothing.

699
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:35,200
And the only thing that drowns out that second you is thought.

700
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,360
You can drown in your thoughts.

701
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:39,960
You can physically drown in your thoughts.

702
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:43,140
You can become suffocated by your own thoughts.

703
00:33:43,140 --> 00:33:47,200
You can kill yourself internally because of what you're thinking.

704
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:53,680
Now it's good to have good thoughts, but it's better to feel like you have no thoughts.

705
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,560
Explain more.

706
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,600
Being able to just, like I was talking about, being able to just flow.

707
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:02,480
Ari, I don't want to think about everything I'm doing.

708
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,560
I just want to do it.

709
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:08,320
And I'm okay with not understanding why I did it.

710
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,360
I just want to do it and experience.

711
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:12,680
You know what I'm saying?

712
00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:14,920
I just want to experience.

713
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:23,360
But not a lot of people understand that thoughts control everything.

714
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:29,480
We don't approach people because we think they're not going to like us.

715
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:34,080
We don't start things because we think it's not going to work out.

716
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:35,880
We don't know it's not going to work out.

717
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,800
It's not 100% sure it's going to work out.

718
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:40,080
You know what I'm saying?

719
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:44,560
But it's a possibility for people to drown in their own thoughts.

720
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:50,120
And it kills that perception of themselves, or it kills that idea.

721
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:57,480
How you think people can get past the drowning factor or letting their thoughts control them?

722
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:02,800
Man, that's crazy because I've been drowning in my thoughts a lot recently.

723
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,840
That's something I've struggled with a lot.

724
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:05,840
Sure.

725
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:10,240
Because it will be a simple situation, but my brain will automatically think that there's

726
00:35:10,240 --> 00:35:14,960
more to learn or know when most of the time that isn't the case.

727
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:15,960
Right.

728
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:21,080
So my advice to get over that is to just step back.

729
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,120
You got to be okay with not knowing.

730
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:24,120
Right.

731
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:28,120
And not thinking because it's okay not to know it.

732
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:32,640
We are trained and taught that it is never okay not to know.

733
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:34,160
Especially through school.

734
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:35,160
Man.

735
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:36,160
You're talking about that.

736
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:37,160
Yeah.

737
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:38,160
What is the answer to this problem?

738
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:39,160
I don't know.

739
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:40,160
And then you get in trouble for not knowing.

740
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:41,160
Yeah.

741
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:42,160
No, you don't know.

742
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:43,160
You just don't know.

743
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:44,160
It's okay to air ball.

744
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,160
It's okay to miss as long as you shoot again.

745
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:47,160
Yeah.

746
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:48,160
Don't miss a shot.

747
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:50,160
And then be like, well, I'm never shooting again.

748
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:51,160
Exactly.

749
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:52,160
That's a loser mindset.

750
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:54,920
You have to have a winning mindset to be persistent.

751
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:55,920
Man.

752
00:35:55,920 --> 00:36:01,040
Now, and we got to let them know, winning is not always winning.

753
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:02,040
Yeah.

754
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:03,040
I know that's crazy.

755
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:09,280
I just used the same word in the same sentence, but winning is not always winning or being

756
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:11,160
a champion.

757
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,280
Winning is also knowing how to lose.

758
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:22,600
If I see somebody lose a game and then they come back and they, I'm not going, I'm just

759
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:23,680
using perfect as a word.

760
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,440
They perfect all the mistakes that they made in the last game.

761
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:27,440
He really won.

762
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:31,520
Because if you don't lose, how are you going to know how to win?

763
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:32,520
Exactly.

764
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:35,760
If you keep winning, you're just going to be like, oh, all right, and you're going to

765
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:37,200
don't fix it if it ain't broke.

766
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:39,880
Sometimes you got to break it to fix it.

767
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:40,880
You know what I'm saying?

768
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:42,320
Sometimes you got to break.

769
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:43,320
You know what I'm saying?

770
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:44,320
Yeah.

771
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:45,320
We got to break the door.

772
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,320
We got to get a new key and lock.

773
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,320
You know what I'm saying?

774
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:52,320
You got to get a new key and lock sometimes.

775
00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:53,320
Sometimes.

776
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:54,320
Sometimes.

777
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:55,320
Sometimes.

778
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:58,440
But keep going.

779
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:04,920
Tell me how you was able to get out of your drowning thoughts or are you still in them?

780
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:07,200
My head keep going over and under the water.

781
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:08,880
I'm not going to lie.

782
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:13,280
Because it seems so simple on paper, but it's complicated.

783
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:14,280
OK.

784
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:18,240
Like, it's just my problem is acceptance.

785
00:37:18,240 --> 00:37:20,240
And I struggle to accept that.

786
00:37:20,240 --> 00:37:23,000
Oh, the card don't stop.

787
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:24,000
Like you feel me?

788
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:27,920
I could also if I'm thinking the card don't stop, I could overthink everything.

789
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:28,920
Yeah.

790
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,880
But if I just wait 15 minutes, try it again and it start.

791
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:33,880
Yeah.

792
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:34,880
Sometimes it's not a problem.

793
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:35,880
Right.

794
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:36,880
Sometimes there's not a solution.

795
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:39,760
Oh, sometimes there's not a solution.

796
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:42,640
Not every question has a solution or answer.

797
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:43,640
Yeah.

798
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:45,840
You can't lose your mind looking for one.

799
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:49,280
But in reality, the answer is there is none.

800
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:50,280
Yeah.

801
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:54,680
Ari, I'm about to fix you right now for them drowning in your thoughts.

802
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:55,680
OK.

803
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:57,840
You know how I know it's just you against you right now?

804
00:37:57,840 --> 00:37:58,840
Yeah.

805
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,240
Because you just perfectly explained it to me.

806
00:38:01,240 --> 00:38:06,040
And now that you know that you just perfectly explained it to me, you have no excuse.

807
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:10,360
So let that be a thing again.

808
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:15,320
The only time people have an excuse is when they genuinely ignorant.

809
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:18,860
Other than that, it's really self inflicted.

810
00:38:18,860 --> 00:38:20,400
You know the answer.

811
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:22,960
You just don't want to know that you know the answer.

812
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:26,200
You don't feel like taking the responsibility and knowing the answer because you don't like

813
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:27,680
how it make you feel.

814
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:28,680
Yeah.

815
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:33,960
When you when you go through it, you like, nah, a lot of people to get comfortable with

816
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:34,960
depression.

817
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:38,200
Yeah, I was comfortable with depression for a minute.

818
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:42,760
I was like, I rather feel sad.

819
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:47,440
They feel happy because.

820
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:52,200
Because I train myself to think if I'm happy for so long, I'm going to end up being sad

821
00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:53,200
anyway.

822
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,400
So why not just stay sad all the time?

823
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,200
I settled for that mindset.

824
00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:59,240
And you know what happened?

825
00:38:59,240 --> 00:39:02,960
It manifested itself into my life.

826
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:10,320
But I listened to I listened to a podcast and he was like, yeah, I understand.

827
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:15,360
Sometimes you may think, oh, so much good things, so many good things are happening

828
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:17,400
and some bad is coming.

829
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:18,400
But check me out.

830
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:21,840
Who told you that?

831
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:23,740
Who said that is like the case?

832
00:39:23,740 --> 00:39:25,240
Who said that's the truth?

833
00:39:25,240 --> 00:39:26,240
Yourself.

834
00:39:26,240 --> 00:39:29,960
I'm saying the light outside of yourself.

835
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:31,760
Who said that has to happen?

836
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:33,560
So where the hell did it come from?

837
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:40,520
And that's just him saying that broke me out of it like, whoa, nobody said that has to

838
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:42,440
be true.

839
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:44,200
We can create our own reality.

840
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,240
What are thoughts?

841
00:39:46,240 --> 00:39:50,320
But we got to let go of some thinking.

842
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:54,720
We don't always got to be bringing information in, but we do have to get some information

843
00:39:54,720 --> 00:39:58,580
out so we can make room for new information.

844
00:39:58,580 --> 00:39:59,580
You can learn.

845
00:39:59,580 --> 00:40:00,580
You can read.

846
00:40:00,580 --> 00:40:01,960
That's all you want.

847
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:06,680
But if you're not getting rid of that useless knowledge that you got in your head, then

848
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,560
there's never going to be no storage for anything new.

849
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,160
Sometimes we got to clear.

850
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:16,600
We got to back our phone up and clear it out so we can make room for new for new memories.

851
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,560
Think about it like gardening.

852
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:20,260
Okay.

853
00:40:20,260 --> 00:40:26,240
Think of all the bad information as roots and all the good information as whatever your

854
00:40:26,240 --> 00:40:27,640
favorite plant is.

855
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:28,640
Right.

856
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:33,920
It's easier for you to plant new things like flowers, tomatoes, anything, even a tree.

857
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:34,920
Okay.

858
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:37,440
You want it to plant a tree, you have to get rid of all of the roots.

859
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:39,040
And that's more than just cutting the weeds.

860
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:40,840
You have to get rid of it at its source.

861
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:42,040
You got to go under.

862
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:43,040
You have to go under.

863
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:44,040
Got to go under the ground.

864
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:45,040
You got to dig it up.

865
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:46,040
Yes.

866
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:47,040
Got to get a green thong.

867
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:48,040
Yeah.

868
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,040
Why?

869
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:52,040
Yeah, you have to get rid of it.

870
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:58,960
Because you have to get to the reasoning, the core of the problem.

871
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:00,720
Why do you think like this?

872
00:41:00,720 --> 00:41:03,600
Why do I overthink everything?

873
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:07,800
Why do I make everything so difficult and challenging on myself?

874
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,080
You just got to begin questioning yourself.

875
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:11,080
Yes.

876
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:16,080
You don't necessarily have to have an answer, but you just got to be able to question yourself.

877
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:17,080
Wow.

878
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:21,040
And that's the answer to how I started trusting myself.

879
00:41:21,040 --> 00:41:22,360
I started questioning why.

880
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:24,000
Why am I doing this?

881
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:25,000
Exactly.

882
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,000
Why did I do that?

883
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:28,000
Guess what?

884
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:29,000
When there wasn't an answer, guess what I did?

885
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:31,880
I didn't overthink or anything like that.

886
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:33,720
If it wasn't a reason, if we-

887
00:41:33,720 --> 00:41:34,720
You just let it go?

888
00:41:34,720 --> 00:41:35,720
I just let it go.

889
00:41:35,720 --> 00:41:36,720
It dissipated.

890
00:41:36,720 --> 00:41:38,920
It dissipated when I realized there wasn't a reason.

891
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:41,640
Sometimes it's best to answer a question with a question.

892
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:44,280
I do that all the time.

893
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:45,280
Me too.

894
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:48,680
Somebody asks me a question, I'll be like, oh, I asked another question.

895
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:49,680
Yeah.

896
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:52,880
What if I don't want you to have all the information I got?

897
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:57,160
Or what if I don't think you ready for this information that I got?

898
00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:00,440
I'm going to just ask you a question with your question.

899
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:04,440
Because a lot of times, people don't want to know what you know.

900
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:08,800
They just want you to ask the question back so they can get whatever is off their chest,

901
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:09,800
off their chest.

902
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:10,800
Yeah.

903
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:12,800
So they'll ask you a question, be like, how's your day?

904
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:13,800
How's your day?

905
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:14,800
Yeah, it's pretty good.

906
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:15,800
What about you?

907
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:16,800
Oh.

908
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:17,800
Yeah.

909
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:18,800
That's exactly how we be.

910
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:19,800
They'll drag you in, man.

911
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:25,880
They'll drag you in and they'll make you think they care about your day and they don't.

912
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:26,880
But that's OK.

913
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,560
They're just trying to get it off their chest, but they don't know any other way to get it

914
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:31,560
off their chest.

915
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:32,560
Other than asking.

916
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:35,800
But to ask you, but to ask you with a question.

917
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:37,040
Yeah.

918
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:43,840
Another thing I had to do, not even to trust myself, is one thing I had to do to become

919
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:47,800
a better person was to become less selfish.

920
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:54,040
Being selfish is a great thing that I think everybody should be to an extent.

921
00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:55,040
Oh.

922
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,200
Because sometimes the lesson ain't for everybody.

923
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:58,200
Right.

924
00:42:58,200 --> 00:42:59,200
Sometimes you ain't supposed to share.

925
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:00,200
Right.

926
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:01,200
You feel me?

927
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:02,200
Right.

928
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:03,840
You're not supposed to hand everybody the key because they're not going to end up using

929
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:04,840
it anyway.

930
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:05,840
Right.

931
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:06,840
They're just going to put it in any pocket.

932
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:07,840
And that's a selfish way of thinking.

933
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:10,080
But sometimes you have to do that to get to where you want to be.

934
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:11,080
Yeah.

935
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:14,760
Like if you're handed this perfect opportunity, you're just going to give it away.

936
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:15,760
No.

937
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:16,760
Exactly.

938
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:17,760
Right.

939
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,960
Because you got to keep some of your lessons to yourself.

940
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:20,960
Mm-hmm.

941
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:23,200
Because hey, not everything ain't meant to be shared with everybody.

942
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:24,680
It's all about balance.

943
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:29,560
And that's my third answer for the first question you asked me on how I began to trust myself.

944
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:31,280
I had to find a balance.

945
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:32,280
Okay.

946
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:34,840
Between the extent of sharing and not sharing.

947
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:35,840
Yeah.

948
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:36,840
More than just that.

949
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:37,840
What?

950
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:38,840
Positive and negative.

951
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:41,120
I had to find a balance between those two.

952
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:42,680
Sometimes I'm not going to lie.

953
00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:44,400
Sometimes you have to be negative.

954
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:48,560
That's something that people don't like to hear or accept, but sometimes you have to

955
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:52,080
be negative to be more positive.

956
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:53,080
Take me down that road.

957
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:54,080
Take me down that road.

958
00:43:54,080 --> 00:44:00,600
Because when I was young, I always had a chip on my shoulder would be an understatement

959
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:02,600
for what I had when I was growing up.

960
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:09,360
I thought everybody was against me and I didn't like nobody for that.

961
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:12,400
I didn't like nobody because I thought that everyone was against me.

962
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:13,400
Okay.

963
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:16,360
But I realized that it was just me against myself.

964
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:19,160
I was fighting a war in my head.

965
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:22,520
So what I perceived around me was only war.

966
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:23,520
Oh.

967
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,280
And once I realized it's not me versus myself.

968
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:27,280
Right.

969
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:28,280
It's me and myself.

970
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:30,400
And I can either choose to help or hurt him.

971
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:34,840
I was just about to say that, bruh, people always like it's me versus me.

972
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:38,020
It's me versus the world, bro.

973
00:44:38,020 --> 00:44:39,720
You are your own dual partner.

974
00:44:39,720 --> 00:44:40,720
Exactly.

975
00:44:40,720 --> 00:44:41,720
Y'all running dual.

976
00:44:41,720 --> 00:44:44,720
You're getting knocked, you're going to let him die, he's going through a Bible.

977
00:44:44,720 --> 00:44:45,720
That's what I'm saying.

978
00:44:45,720 --> 00:44:46,720
How you going to be solo yourself?

979
00:44:46,720 --> 00:44:49,320
How you going to kill yourself?

980
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:52,040
You know, when people go against the war against the man in the mirror.

981
00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:54,000
Oh, why we just can't become friends.

982
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:55,000
Exactly.

983
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:56,000
Why can't we work it out together?

984
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:57,000
Why I got to kick his ass?

985
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:58,000
Why I got to kick his ass?

986
00:44:58,000 --> 00:44:59,000
Why I got to kick his ass?

987
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:00,000
What he doing?

988
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:01,000
What he doing?

989
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:02,000
Yeah.

990
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:03,000
He ain't even doing nothing.

991
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:04,000
He just doing what he think he know is right.

992
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:05,000
I had to find peace with myself.

993
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:08,160
It's a fine piece in myself.

994
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:12,440
Because the moment I stopped fighting and harming myself was the moment that things

995
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:14,440
eventually started to fall together.

996
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:15,440
Wow.

997
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:16,440
Yeah.

998
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:18,800
You know, this is sensitive topic for me.

999
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,080
I don't got to get too deep into it.

1000
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:29,520
But a lot of physical suicide start with the suicide with itself first.

1001
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:37,920
When people successfully kill themselves on the inside, that's when the other half got

1002
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:39,720
to kill itself too.

1003
00:45:39,720 --> 00:45:42,800
It's a mind you and it's a body you.

1004
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:49,560
When you kill the mind you, the only other solution is to kill the body you.

1005
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,560
You know what I'm saying?

1006
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:52,560
Yeah.

1007
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:56,160
Now, sometimes you may harm the mind you really good and it may seem like you want to kill

1008
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:57,160
yourself.

1009
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:58,160
Right?

1010
00:45:58,160 --> 00:45:59,160
Right.

1011
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:03,280
But if you give the mind you some time to go through the ICU and shit, you know what

1012
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:04,280
I'm saying?

1013
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:05,280
Get a little IV in them.

1014
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:06,320
You know what I'm saying?

1015
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:10,480
When you come out the induced coma, you begin to slowly recover.

1016
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:11,480
Yeah.

1017
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:16,120
And that's when people start to read the self-help books and start to pay attention to themselves

1018
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,640
because you don't know how much you love something until what?

1019
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:20,640
It's gone.

1020
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:21,640
Right.

1021
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:22,640
It's about letting go.

1022
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:23,640
It's about letting go.

1023
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:26,280
It's about letting go.

1024
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,240
So you can know if you really want it or not.

1025
00:46:29,240 --> 00:46:34,600
Sometimes you may want something, but sometimes you got to let it go to see if it come back

1026
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:40,560
to see if you really need it because we can accidentally become dependent on something.

1027
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:41,560
Right?

1028
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:42,560
Right.

1029
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:50,360
And we will get it confused with wanting it and needing it and it actually being important

1030
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:52,560
actually being important to us.

1031
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:54,880
You know what I'm saying?

1032
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:58,200
I can't miss you if I'm always seeing you.

1033
00:46:58,200 --> 00:46:59,200
Yeah.

1034
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:02,160
You know what I'm saying?

1035
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:06,160
I got to let you go sometime so I can't miss you.

1036
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:07,160
Yeah.

1037
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:12,080
And sometimes we got to let people go so we can go down the other path and meet back up

1038
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:13,080
with them.

1039
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:14,080
You know what I'm saying?

1040
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:18,680
Because a lot of people get the idea in their head that damn, if I let this person go, I'm

1041
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:20,000
never going to see him again.

1042
00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:22,640
Our paths are going to stay different forever.

1043
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:24,200
We're never going to meet back up.

1044
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:27,920
Listen, bruh, everybody is in your life for a reason.

1045
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:29,400
You meet everybody for a reason.

1046
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:33,480
You go through every experience that you ever had for a reason.

1047
00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:38,200
Every experience, every decision, all of that.

1048
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:45,000
Any decision you've ever made from the type of pencil you chose to use a year ago to the

1049
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:50,200
type of pants you chose to put on when you was two years old has led to who you are today.

1050
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:52,200
You know what I'm saying?

1051
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:56,340
And that includes the people who have come in and out of your life.

1052
00:47:56,340 --> 00:47:57,340
Strangers aren't strangers.

1053
00:47:57,340 --> 00:47:59,560
You know what I'm saying?

1054
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:05,640
Strangers are people sent to us by the universe to learn lessons from so we can keep going

1055
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:06,640
without.

1056
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:07,640
Think of life as a game.

1057
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:08,640
You know what I'm saying?

1058
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:10,960
Sometimes you got to go talk to the random dude in the corner to get some information

1059
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:11,960
from him.

1060
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:15,360
Now you may never see this nigga again, but he gave you the most important information

1061
00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:17,560
you ever learned.

1062
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:22,040
God in the universe will disguise information in people that we usually ignore.

1063
00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:23,040
Like homeless people.

1064
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:25,040
You walk past them motherfuckers every day.

1065
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:28,680
But some of them niggas really be smart as hell.

1066
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:32,280
And it took only one decision to fuck their whole life up.

1067
00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:37,720
But we wouldn't know that if we had discerned prejudice against all of them.

1068
00:48:37,720 --> 00:48:42,920
I'm not saying go meet and greet every hobo you see.

1069
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:47,480
But have the kindness in your heart to listen to them if they talking.

1070
00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:52,560
Let me get back to my point though.

1071
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:55,920
People will think since you breaking up with somebody or since y'all splitting apart for

1072
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:58,280
a little minute that y'all never gonna see each other again.

1073
00:48:58,280 --> 00:49:00,920
If it's really meant for you to come back.

1074
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:03,200
And this time when y'all break apart.

1075
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:04,200
Boom.

1076
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:10,560
You gonna come back stronger together because y'all had time to separate.

1077
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:15,320
It's just like we're breaking a bone in your body.

1078
00:49:15,320 --> 00:49:18,880
When you break a bone in your body it's not gonna come back weaker.

1079
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:20,800
Because your body don't want it to break again.

1080
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:23,400
It never intended on it to break in the first place.

1081
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:28,360
So when it break it come back together even stronger.

1082
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:29,600
The limb come back even stronger.

1083
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:33,240
Now it's gonna take more to break that bone apart.

1084
00:49:33,240 --> 00:49:36,440
As before it was just snap.

1085
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:40,520
But now it's gonna be like oh it ain't breaking.

1086
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:42,480
Oh it ain't breaking.

1087
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:43,480
You know why?

1088
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:47,400
Because it had time to separate and man back together even stronger.

1089
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:49,000
The body learned from itself.

1090
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:51,160
That's how biology work.

1091
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:53,160
You know what I'm saying?

1092
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:58,640
The body is literally a computer system.

1093
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:01,800
And I know when you think of computer you like that's not technology.

1094
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:03,600
But your body is technology.

1095
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:05,440
You know what I'm saying?

1096
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,240
It might not be the technology that we're using to record this podcast.

1097
00:50:08,240 --> 00:50:12,040
It may not be the technology that we're using to drive this car.

1098
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:14,880
But your body is technological.

1099
00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:18,240
I gotta pay attention to biology class to really explain that part.

1100
00:50:18,240 --> 00:50:21,400
I don't really know too much about the biology class.

1101
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:23,440
But I can tell you some stuff about your body.

1102
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:25,840
I got some things I didn't picked up.

1103
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:28,760
I do want to learn more about the body and stuff.

1104
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:32,480
Or is it kinesiology that people just learn about the body and the physical parts?

1105
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:34,280
I just like to know fun facts.

1106
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:37,440
Yeah cells regenerate all the time.

1107
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:42,880
Who you were when we started this podcast is like nowhere near who you were right now.

1108
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:43,880
Or right now.

1109
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:44,880
Or right now.

1110
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:48,080
I keep saying right now because it's a different moment every time I say right now.

1111
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:49,080
Or right now.

1112
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:50,080
Or right now.

1113
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:51,080
But yeah.

1114
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:54,080
Yeah you get it.

1115
00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:55,800
And you said something interesting.

1116
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:56,920
What was it?

1117
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:58,440
One decision can ruin your life?

1118
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:00,080
Man one decision can.

1119
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:01,080
Yeah.

1120
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:06,480
We always one decision from living a totally different life.

1121
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:09,000
You know what I'm saying?

1122
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:10,000
Yeah.

1123
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:11,000
Decision may be.

1124
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:12,400
Well no decision is good or bad.

1125
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:13,680
I've said this before.

1126
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:15,960
But think about it.

1127
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:21,520
You always one decision from having a totally different life.

1128
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:23,000
And we shouldn't look at that.

1129
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:26,320
We shouldn't look at that and look into the eyes of that and fear.

1130
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:28,840
But we should look at it with optimism.

1131
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:29,840
Optimism.

1132
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:30,840
Hold on.

1133
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:31,840
He stopped.

1134
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:32,840
Optimism.

1135
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:33,840
Yeah.

1136
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:34,840
Optimism.

1137
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:35,840
We should always.

1138
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:38,720
We should look at it with optimism like dang.

1139
00:51:38,720 --> 00:51:40,240
Today may be the day so I gotta keep working.

1140
00:51:40,240 --> 00:51:41,240
Yeah.

1141
00:51:41,240 --> 00:51:42,240
You know what I'm saying?

1142
00:51:42,240 --> 00:51:43,240
I gotta keep grinding.

1143
00:51:43,240 --> 00:51:45,120
Because today may be the day I break through.

1144
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:47,720
When you breaking the rock.

1145
00:51:47,720 --> 00:51:49,760
It's not the last hit that break it.

1146
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:51,800
But it's all the hits before.

1147
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:52,800
Boom.

1148
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:53,800
Yeah.

1149
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:54,800
You know what I'm saying?

1150
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:56,800
And it's like today was today.

1151
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:57,800
You know what I'm saying?

1152
00:51:57,800 --> 00:51:58,800
But wake up.

1153
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:02,200
We gotta wake up every morning like today may be the day.

1154
00:52:02,200 --> 00:52:03,480
I might break through today.

1155
00:52:03,480 --> 00:52:05,000
Hey today might be the day.

1156
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:07,360
So I'm gonna work a little bit harder than I did yesterday so I can get closer.

1157
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:08,360
You know what I'm saying?

1158
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:09,360
Today may be the day.

1159
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:12,240
We'll never know when we gonna get that phone call.

1160
00:52:12,240 --> 00:52:17,720
We'll never know when we gonna step into the room with a person that's no change in their

1161
00:52:17,720 --> 00:52:18,720
lives.

1162
00:52:18,720 --> 00:52:22,840
But like I told you earlier that's why it's important to introduce yourself to everybody

1163
00:52:22,840 --> 00:52:23,840
in the room.

1164
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:25,480
You know what I'm saying?

1165
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:28,280
Because stuff like that.

1166
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:30,960
Stuff like that stick.

1167
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:33,400
People like to be recognized.

1168
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:37,200
People appreciate it when you give them recognition.

1169
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:42,480
All of us have that part inside of us that just wants to make somebody proud.

1170
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:49,720
It wants uh not recognition but uh let's just do a struggle to see.

1171
00:52:49,720 --> 00:52:55,080
All of us want that uh it's like right on the tip of my tongue.

1172
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:56,080
We want that.

1173
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:57,080
I have to simplify.

1174
00:52:57,080 --> 00:53:01,040
We want that sense of cooperation.

1175
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:03,940
That ain't it.

1176
00:53:03,940 --> 00:53:06,680
We want to feel accepted.

1177
00:53:06,680 --> 00:53:12,400
As much as we might try to be hard but I don't care about being accepted.

1178
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:14,640
I don't care if people accept me.

1179
00:53:14,640 --> 00:53:22,600
Biologically it's a part of our humanness to feel accepted where we are.

1180
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:28,720
A lot of people become depressed or deranged because they don't feel accepted.

1181
00:53:28,720 --> 00:53:31,680
Acceptance is a very important part of life.

1182
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:34,760
That's why we gotta come together.

1183
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:43,960
So like I was saying a part of us wants to be accepted so when you walk into a room why

1184
00:53:43,960 --> 00:53:49,640
is the CEO more important than the janitor?

1185
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:50,640
What's the difference between them?

1186
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:52,400
Do they both wake up in the morning?

1187
00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:54,520
They both put their pants on one foot at a time?

1188
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:55,960
They both put one shoe on at a time?

1189
00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:56,960
They both brush their teeth?

1190
00:53:56,960 --> 00:53:57,960
They both poop?

1191
00:53:57,960 --> 00:53:58,960
They both eat?

1192
00:53:58,960 --> 00:53:59,960
They both pee?

1193
00:53:59,960 --> 00:54:04,240
How does he like at the basis of how is he more important than the CEO?

1194
00:54:04,240 --> 00:54:09,000
How is he more important than the janitor?

1195
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:10,000
He not.

1196
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:13,280
They the same mother fucker.

1197
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:14,280
We gotta treat them like.

1198
00:54:14,280 --> 00:54:15,920
They the same people.

1199
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:16,920
Yeah.

1200
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:20,200
We gotta treat them with the same amount of kindness.

1201
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:26,480
If anything the janitor deserves more appreciation than the CEO do.

1202
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:31,600
It's people like that that do those types of jobs man.

1203
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:36,480
Let me take this I don't know if I'm using this saying right.

1204
00:54:36,480 --> 00:54:38,480
What they be saying take this on the soap box or something?

1205
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:39,480
I don't need no.

1206
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:40,480
I don't need no.

1207
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:41,480
Hey we gonna say it though.

1208
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:43,400
Hopefully they pick up on what I'm putting down.

1209
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:45,400
You about to create a saying right now go ahead.

1210
00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:46,400
Take this on the soap box.

1211
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:47,400
Alright man.

1212
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:48,400
Let's take this on the soap box.

1213
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:50,160
Check me out bruh.

1214
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:53,280
We need people to do those types of jobs.

1215
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:58,720
I'm not cleaning the whole room but it's somebody that like oddly enough got a passion to just

1216
00:54:58,720 --> 00:54:59,720
clean.

1217
00:54:59,720 --> 00:55:00,720
Yeah.

1218
00:55:00,720 --> 00:55:03,040
They got a position where they gotta clean but they ain't complaining.

1219
00:55:03,040 --> 00:55:05,800
You don't see the janitor talk about this mother fucker.

1220
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:06,800
You don't see.

1221
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,880
This mother fucker left all the mother fucker trash again.

1222
00:55:09,880 --> 00:55:10,880
You know what I'm saying.

1223
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:13,880
You don't see him like coming up to you and saying they might see it behind your back

1224
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:15,200
but he still gonna do his job.

1225
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:16,200
Yeah.

1226
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:17,200
We need people like that.

1227
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:19,080
We need people that's gonna do the jobs what I wanna do.

1228
00:55:19,080 --> 00:55:23,400
I don't wanna climb on a light pole and change the wires when my power go out.

1229
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:27,080
Some dude like got that calling to just climb up on wire posing.

1230
00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:28,640
Change the power when my power out.

1231
00:55:28,640 --> 00:55:29,640
Yeah.

1232
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:34,000
We need those the tiny people that the people that we often ignore.

1233
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:37,960
Librarians, teachers don't get enough recognition.

1234
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:39,600
The janitors don't get enough recognition.

1235
00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:41,200
Valet don't get enough recognition.

1236
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:43,160
The doorman don't get enough recognition.

1237
00:55:43,160 --> 00:55:48,640
Receptionist don't get enough recognition.

1238
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,880
Them scam callers don't get enough recognition.

1239
00:55:51,880 --> 00:55:55,200
I know they're annoying when they call you but think though.

1240
00:55:55,200 --> 00:56:00,760
If somebody wasn't calling you to scam you, you wouldn't be weary about the information

1241
00:56:00,760 --> 00:56:01,760
you giving out.

1242
00:56:01,760 --> 00:56:05,000
You wouldn't be so careful with all the information you giving out.

1243
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:06,600
You would just trust everybody.

1244
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:08,720
So you just gonna give it to everybody until you get scammed.

1245
00:56:08,720 --> 00:56:11,320
So we need those scammers keeping us on point.

1246
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,880
I love getting that scam likely call.

1247
00:56:13,880 --> 00:56:14,880
You know what I'm saying.

1248
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:16,560
That may be the only call I get in a week.

1249
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:17,560
I'm not gonna lie.

1250
00:56:17,560 --> 00:56:18,560
Answer the phone.

1251
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:21,080
He be like, yes hello is this Chris?

1252
00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:22,400
This call may be monitored.

1253
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:25,000
I'll be like, nah.

1254
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:26,720
I'll hang up.

1255
00:56:26,720 --> 00:56:30,200
But thanks for calling me keeping me on my toes for one more day.

1256
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:33,120
You know what I'm saying.

1257
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:37,040
I be vigilant out here.

1258
00:56:37,040 --> 00:56:38,320
To come out of my soap box.

1259
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:39,320
Is that what they say?

1260
00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:40,320
I don't know what they say.

1261
00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:41,320
You saying it.

1262
00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:42,320
To get out of my soap box.

1263
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:43,320
What is a soap box?

1264
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:44,320
You keep putting soap in there.

1265
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:45,320
Hey, let me take it out though.

1266
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:46,320
I gotta take it.

1267
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:47,320
It's clean.

1268
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:48,320
Is that a, I don't know what a soap box.

1269
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:49,320
I gotta look it up.

1270
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:50,320
But I'm gonna just keep saying it wrong if it's wrong.

1271
00:56:50,320 --> 00:56:51,320
If it's wrong, I don't wanna be right.

1272
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:56,320
It is right.

1273
00:56:56,320 --> 00:56:58,440
Cause you saying it.

1274
00:56:58,440 --> 00:56:59,440
Even if that's not a saying.

1275
00:56:59,440 --> 00:57:00,920
But they making it one right now.

1276
00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:01,920
Yeah they picking it up.

1277
00:57:01,920 --> 00:57:02,920
Yeah they picking it up.

1278
00:57:02,920 --> 00:57:03,920
Alright bet.

1279
00:57:03,920 --> 00:57:04,920
So I'm gonna get out of my soap box.

1280
00:57:04,920 --> 00:57:05,920
Yeah.

1281
00:57:05,920 --> 00:57:08,920
The gender is no more important than the CEO.

1282
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:11,160
And the CEO is no more important than the gender.

1283
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:12,440
So shake both they hands.

1284
00:57:12,440 --> 00:57:15,600
Greet them both with the same, how's your day going?

1285
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:16,600
Good afternoon.

1286
00:57:16,600 --> 00:57:17,600
Good morning.

1287
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:18,600
Good evening.

1288
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:19,600
How your family doing?

1289
00:57:19,600 --> 00:57:20,600
How are you doing today?

1290
00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:21,600
And listen to them for real.

1291
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:22,600
Yeah.

1292
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:23,600
Shake they hand with compassion.

1293
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:24,600
Don't just shake it.

1294
00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:25,600
Shake it.

1295
00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:28,040
Shake it and pass some love through it.

1296
00:57:28,040 --> 00:57:31,400
All you gotta do is give everybody the command and it's gonna do it.

1297
00:57:31,400 --> 00:57:33,920
Let me see your hand.

1298
00:57:33,920 --> 00:57:37,120
Do you feel that love just seeping to your hand?

1299
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:38,120
Yeah.

1300
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:39,120
I'm just, they can't see me.

1301
00:57:39,120 --> 00:57:40,120
I gotta upgrade you to camera.

1302
00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:41,120
I get some more views I upgrade you to camera.

1303
00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:42,120
But.

1304
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:43,120
I don't know I'm passing the love through you.

1305
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:44,120
What is that?

1306
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:45,120
What is that?

1307
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:48,080
I get some more views out of Greg at the camera, but

1308
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:52,920
I'm passing the love to your hand, bro. I love you dawg. Oh my god

1309
00:57:52,920 --> 00:57:56,920
You're my dawg. Yeah. You're my guy. You're my guy. You're my guy. You're my guy.

1310
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:04,240
They probably gonna hear that part and be like what the fuck

1311
00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:14,240
But dawg, but uh, stuff like that, bruh. Shake the underdog, not the underdog. Just shake everybody's hand, bruh.

1312
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:19,240
And learn people names. That's important too. You gotta learn people names.

1313
00:58:19,240 --> 00:58:22,240
Cause that's how you feel accepted when somebody know your name.

1314
00:58:23,240 --> 00:58:28,240
What you got going on in your head right now? What's something, I've been talking for a minute, so what's something going on up in there?

1315
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:33,240
What you thinking? I wasn't thinking too much cause in the last episode I listened to, it was episode 2.

1316
00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:40,240
It was episode 2. Oh you like episode 2? I loved episode 2. It was about, go listen to episode 2.

1317
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:43,240
Hey if y'all are here, listen to episode 2. After this though.

1318
00:58:43,240 --> 00:58:45,240
Yeah, click don't hurt. No, don't click off.

1319
00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:50,240
Hey, you still there? If you still here, I'll say A, B, C, D, E, F, G.

1320
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:53,240
Alright. They still here. We said it quick, alright.

1321
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:58,240
But it was always listening even if you know what they talking about.

1322
00:58:58,240 --> 00:59:06,240
Oh. Yeah. I don't know if you or a girl you was with said it. I think it was a girl cause I don't think you was saying it like that.

1323
00:59:06,240 --> 00:59:12,240
But yeah, y'all was talking about listening. Even if you know what the person is talking about.

1324
00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:17,240
Cause you don't know if you can listen more. Right. Right.

1325
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:23,240
That's a very important thing. You don't know what you don't know until you don't know it.

1326
00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:26,240
And even when you know you don't know. You still don't know.

1327
00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:31,240
Even when you know you don't even know if you know for real.

1328
00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:34,240
I don't even know if I know what I'm talking about.

1329
00:59:34,240 --> 00:59:37,240
I act like I do. Say it with some confidence.

1330
00:59:37,240 --> 00:59:40,240
Yeah. Please. Man, people gonna be like, dang, he do know what he talking about.

1331
00:59:40,240 --> 00:59:43,240
Do I? Do I? Yeah.

1332
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:47,240
You know what I'm saying? You gotta know it.

1333
00:59:47,240 --> 00:59:50,240
Just.

1334
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:53,240
Hmm. Yeah.

1335
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:56,240
I think that's about an hour. We got about an hour in.

1336
00:59:56,240 --> 01:00:04,240
I feel like essentially what we saying is, man, just.

1337
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:07,240
I don't even know. What's the. What you think.

1338
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:11,240
Close out the gist of the episode. Go ahead. I'll let you gist out the episode.

1339
01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:15,240
He tired of talking. Man. Alright. Alright. Okay.

1340
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:20,240
The gist of the episode was to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

1341
01:00:20,240 --> 01:00:22,240
You have to be comfortable. With being who?

1342
01:00:22,240 --> 01:00:26,240
Yourself. Right. You gotta find yourself.

1343
01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:29,240
And write it. Right. Don't look over there.

1344
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:33,240
His way. The day that way. Cool. I gotta go hop on that way.

1345
01:00:33,240 --> 01:00:36,240
No, no, no, no, because he looking at your way.

1346
01:00:36,240 --> 01:00:38,240
You know, why you up on his way? Yeah.

1347
01:00:38,240 --> 01:00:42,240
Bro. It was way harder. I don't know why you jumped off. Yeah.

1348
01:00:42,240 --> 01:00:44,240
Right. You can't even. You don't even know.

1349
01:00:44,240 --> 01:00:47,240
You don't even realize what you got when you looking at somebody else.

1350
01:00:47,240 --> 01:00:49,240
Exactly. So we got to learn to appreciate.

1351
01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:53,240
Ourself. What we got? Yeah. You just gotta.

1352
01:00:53,240 --> 01:00:57,240
Appreciate yourself. Yeah. Love yourself. Yeah.

1353
01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:59,240
You have to take care of yourself. Yeah.

1354
01:00:59,240 --> 01:01:04,240
Because something I realized was I didn't love myself for a long time.

1355
01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:09,240
Very long time. Dang. And it took me loving and accepting myself.

1356
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:13,240
In order to truly do it and learn compassion.

1357
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:17,240
And learn real love. Because real love isn't about receiving.

1358
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:21,240
It's about giving. Wow.

1359
01:01:21,240 --> 01:01:25,240
We not closing out the episode right now because I just remember something.

1360
01:01:25,240 --> 01:01:27,240
Yeah, we ain't closing out right now.

1361
01:01:27,240 --> 01:01:33,240
But maybe we can close it off with this topic, but. Whatever.

1362
01:01:33,240 --> 01:01:42,240
Giving is the only way to receive. The more that you give, the more that you get back.

1363
01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:47,240
It's like the law. I think it's the law of cause and effect. Something like that.

1364
01:01:47,240 --> 01:01:51,240
The more that you put into something, the more it comes.

1365
01:01:51,240 --> 01:01:56,240
We learned this in school. X is a direct result of Y.

1366
01:01:56,240 --> 01:02:00,240
So we're doing direct proportions. The more that you put into.

1367
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:04,240
The more you put in X, the more you get out of Y.

1368
01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:07,240
So we got to give more to receive more. Yeah.

1369
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:12,240
But we can't give looking for reception.

1370
01:02:12,240 --> 01:02:20,240
We got to give to give. And then we going to receive to receive. Yeah.

1371
01:02:20,240 --> 01:02:23,240
I don't want to just be out here giving because we know something come back.

1372
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:30,240
Because that's when the Karmic values or the Karmic law come back and eat you up.

1373
01:02:30,240 --> 01:02:32,240
You're like, no, I ain't giving you nothing.

1374
01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:35,240
Because you're just doing it not out of the kindness of your heart. Yeah.

1375
01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:38,240
You got to pass the love and let it be felt.

1376
01:02:38,240 --> 01:02:42,240
Everything you do, put a little bit of love into it. Yeah.

1377
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:45,240
Everybody you meet, put a little love into it.

1378
01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:50,240
Dude, love don't run out. We got enough to share with everybody. Yeah.

1379
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:55,240
Just give out love. Just.

1380
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:58,240
Just make one person day a day.

1381
01:02:58,240 --> 01:03:03,240
And that's my challenge for anybody listening to this video. If you still listen.

1382
01:03:03,240 --> 01:03:10,240
Put one smile on one person face at least a day.

1383
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:13,240
I don't care. Just one. Yeah.

1384
01:03:13,240 --> 01:03:19,240
And feel the surge of happiness and dopamine that hits your brain when you make somebody else's day.

1385
01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:21,240
When you make somebody else's smile.

1386
01:03:21,240 --> 01:03:25,240
Pay them a compliment. You know what I'm saying? Tell them you like their shoes.

1387
01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:29,240
Tell them you love their smile. Compliment their outfit.

1388
01:03:29,240 --> 01:03:36,240
If they don't say nothing back, if they don't say thank you, you still got what you need to get off your chest. Off your chest. Yeah.

1389
01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:41,240
But don't be so caught up in yourself that you forget to appreciate those around you.

1390
01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:44,240
Give love. Always give love. Yeah.

1391
01:03:44,240 --> 01:04:00,240
And that's how I'm going to close out the BFAM podcast. Thank you for listening. I love you.