WEBVTT 00:00:09.869 --> 00:00:13.189 The mic is hot and the game is on. You're listening 00:00:13.189 --> 00:00:16.109 to News for the Nation podcast by Aces Nation, 00:00:16.370 --> 00:00:19.469 where we talk about nutrition, sports performance, 00:00:19.809 --> 00:00:22.809 the journey of a student athlete, and more. I'm 00:00:22.809 --> 00:00:28.429 Claire. I'm Zach. Time to level up. Welcome back 00:00:28.429 --> 00:00:31.489 sports fans. Today we're talking about perspectives 00:00:31.489 --> 00:00:34.310 in youth sports. We're going to cover some topics 00:00:34.310 --> 00:00:39.880 that are based on our own experiences. our work, 00:00:40.179 --> 00:00:43.119 our research, and things we've heard from other 00:00:43.119 --> 00:00:48.579 coaches. We're really trying to highlight viewpoints, 00:00:48.640 --> 00:00:51.100 things to think about, issues that may arise, 00:00:51.420 --> 00:00:55.119 and then give our experience and our opinions 00:00:55.119 --> 00:00:58.780 behind that. So really, this is just about us 00:00:58.780 --> 00:01:01.679 expressing or shedding light on these areas that 00:01:01.679 --> 00:01:04.120 have come up in conversations, that have come 00:01:04.120 --> 00:01:07.260 up in research in different areas about how to 00:01:07.260 --> 00:01:11.780 support your kids as they go through youth sports, 00:01:11.920 --> 00:01:13.799 high school sports, college sports, like how 00:01:13.799 --> 00:01:18.519 to be, issues that may arise from a kid's perspective, 00:01:18.799 --> 00:01:22.200 from a parent's perspective, even through the 00:01:22.200 --> 00:01:27.920 coach's lens. As we go throughout sports, sports 00:01:27.920 --> 00:01:30.700 in the modern age with all this social media, 00:01:30.859 --> 00:01:33.900 all this. new money floating around to support 00:01:33.900 --> 00:01:37.680 it, even gambling at some point. I mean, they're 00:01:37.680 --> 00:01:42.140 now gambling on high school games. So there's 00:01:42.140 --> 00:01:47.180 an added level of pressure, expectations, disappointments, 00:01:47.239 --> 00:01:51.540 you know, setbacks because of many different 00:01:51.540 --> 00:01:56.439 things and just trying to shed light on how to 00:01:56.439 --> 00:01:58.519 be supportive and managing all these different 00:01:58.519 --> 00:02:03.060 things and whatnot. Tiana's already done some 00:02:03.060 --> 00:02:05.099 great work on this as well. So really looking 00:02:05.099 --> 00:02:07.879 forward to her insights here and then whatever 00:02:07.879 --> 00:02:13.180 I can provide in support of that. So Tiana, let's 00:02:13.180 --> 00:02:16.620 get started here. We said we're gonna start from 00:02:16.620 --> 00:02:19.180 the coach perspective because this is what we 00:02:19.180 --> 00:02:22.099 kind of hear and deal with from our clientele 00:02:22.099 --> 00:02:26.599 in the club organization and high school level. 00:02:27.689 --> 00:02:30.530 Yeah, one of the things that we hear often in 00:02:30.530 --> 00:02:34.449 meetings kind of within ACEs and from our CEO 00:02:34.449 --> 00:02:38.710 is a lot of times there's concern from coaches 00:02:38.710 --> 00:02:42.210 that we speak to or directors of clubs that they 00:02:42.210 --> 00:02:46.150 feel like there's expectations from parents that 00:02:46.150 --> 00:02:49.550 are placed on the players or athletes in their 00:02:49.550 --> 00:02:53.550 club that may be unrealistic for the players 00:02:53.550 --> 00:02:56.110 and a lot of times they're looking for ways to 00:02:56.110 --> 00:02:59.550 you know put down on paper kind of where they're 00:02:59.550 --> 00:03:02.370 coming from to show you know well here's how 00:03:02.370 --> 00:03:05.669 your athletes improving or here's how many times 00:03:05.669 --> 00:03:08.129 they've attended a practice and really put an 00:03:08.129 --> 00:03:10.669 effort versus you know maybe another kid that's 00:03:10.669 --> 00:03:14.090 getting more playing time or something so it 00:03:14.090 --> 00:03:18.150 kind of spurred this thought for me as to what 00:03:18.409 --> 00:03:21.669 From the coach perspective, we would love to 00:03:21.669 --> 00:03:24.590 see as parents in support of their athletes, 00:03:24.669 --> 00:03:26.669 the things they can do to help their athletes 00:03:26.669 --> 00:03:30.909 become better and maybe have a longer experience 00:03:30.909 --> 00:03:34.469 in their sport. Or maybe the things that we see 00:03:34.469 --> 00:03:36.370 that maybe are taking away from that athletes 00:03:36.370 --> 00:03:39.289 experience and leading to early burnout in that 00:03:39.289 --> 00:03:43.539 kid. So I just think, you know, there's there 00:03:43.539 --> 00:03:46.060 can be friction between coaches and parents or 00:03:46.060 --> 00:03:48.539 athletes and parents or any combination of these 00:03:48.539 --> 00:03:52.860 and I think everyone has a different perspective 00:03:52.860 --> 00:03:56.479 on this from each of those kind of buckets and 00:03:56.479 --> 00:03:59.800 everyone has some pros and cons to their stance 00:03:59.800 --> 00:04:01.659 and position but there are always things we can 00:04:01.659 --> 00:04:06.080 do to better support our athletes and this is 00:04:06.080 --> 00:04:08.439 just I think starting this coach perspective 00:04:08.439 --> 00:04:13.009 I'd like to hear kind of from Even from the college 00:04:13.009 --> 00:04:15.610 coach standpoint at this point for you, just 00:04:15.610 --> 00:04:17.949 day to day interacting with your athletes, what 00:04:17.949 --> 00:04:21.850 are some things that you would love to see your 00:04:21.850 --> 00:04:25.410 athletes coming to you supported at home in a 00:04:25.410 --> 00:04:28.990 certain way and kind of the athletes that show 00:04:28.990 --> 00:04:31.829 up consistently put in the work? What are they 00:04:31.829 --> 00:04:34.209 doing or getting from their families and then 00:04:34.209 --> 00:04:36.949 kind of the younger ages going down from there? 00:04:36.970 --> 00:04:40.439 What do you think parents can do to best? support 00:04:40.439 --> 00:04:42.560 their athletes to show up to you in a way that's 00:04:42.560 --> 00:04:46.740 going to be most productive. All right. I'll 00:04:46.740 --> 00:04:51.199 start off from the high school lens. I don't 00:04:51.199 --> 00:04:55.339 know if you know, but I started off my coaching 00:04:55.339 --> 00:04:59.220 career and I was actually had the chance to be 00:04:59.220 --> 00:05:05.139 a volunteer high school basketball coach. So 00:05:05.139 --> 00:05:09.019 I've actually worked in this area early on. And 00:05:09.019 --> 00:05:13.420 then I've seen different paths coming from this 00:05:13.420 --> 00:05:16.660 coach perspective. One of the things that I've 00:05:16.660 --> 00:05:20.000 seen videos on that have been viral, I've heard 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:24.639 a lot of stories, or I hear people talking, like 00:05:24.639 --> 00:05:27.240 parents or something talking about it later or 00:05:27.240 --> 00:05:32.139 at a game, if I'm not coaching, is I definitely 00:05:32.139 --> 00:05:36.740 don't think it's healthy that parents would like 00:05:36.800 --> 00:05:41.319 bash the way that the coach is coaching to their 00:05:41.319 --> 00:05:45.420 kid right like maybe they don't agree with like 00:05:45.420 --> 00:05:48.000 the system that they're running or something 00:05:48.000 --> 00:05:52.100 in a particular sport or how they go about whatever 00:05:52.100 --> 00:05:55.600 it is in the sport now especially i would say 00:05:55.600 --> 00:05:58.480 especially if you're not a parent who is a coach 00:05:58.480 --> 00:06:02.899 or who understands maybe what the game plan and 00:06:02.899 --> 00:06:04.800 the rationale is behind if you've got the inside 00:06:04.800 --> 00:06:07.620 information then you probably are able to talk 00:06:07.620 --> 00:06:11.259 to the coach a little bit more directly in a 00:06:11.259 --> 00:06:16.519 personal manner. A lot of people doing in the 00:06:16.519 --> 00:06:18.860 stands talking probably have no idea what's going 00:06:18.860 --> 00:06:22.399 on. So and then they just bash that coach later 00:06:22.399 --> 00:06:26.459 on the drive home when they're at home when their 00:06:26.459 --> 00:06:28.500 kids are sitting watching the next game after 00:06:28.500 --> 00:06:31.600 and everyone's just like doing that right. I 00:06:31.600 --> 00:06:33.860 don't like that at all right like you can have 00:06:33.860 --> 00:06:36.360 an opinion like that was not good. That was bad. 00:06:36.500 --> 00:06:42.360 That's fine, but I Think you're injecting this 00:06:42.360 --> 00:06:46.480 negativity this criticism into your kids and 00:06:46.480 --> 00:06:51.120 then that's creating this visual represent like 00:06:51.120 --> 00:06:53.680 this mental representation of Who that coach 00:06:53.680 --> 00:06:56.259 is now and whether or not they're actually fully 00:06:56.259 --> 00:06:59.540 invested anymore, right? They probably have without 00:06:59.540 --> 00:07:01.339 you saying anything. They probably have their 00:07:01.339 --> 00:07:06.660 own Image of their place on the team their view 00:07:06.660 --> 00:07:09.339 of the coach, you know where all that stuff goes, 00:07:09.459 --> 00:07:10.839 right? They probably already have that without 00:07:10.839 --> 00:07:14.980 you. So for you to Change that or continue to 00:07:14.980 --> 00:07:17.579 evolve it in a negative way. I just I don't think 00:07:17.579 --> 00:07:19.759 helps their experience at all I don't think you're 00:07:19.759 --> 00:07:22.819 supporting them by saying Anything negative about 00:07:22.819 --> 00:07:25.079 what's happening there on the sidelines or whatnot? 00:07:26.680 --> 00:07:29.459 This is all assuming that this coach is a great 00:07:29.459 --> 00:07:31.639 human being and there's nothing else, you know, 00:07:31.639 --> 00:07:35.459 everything's all about the sport. Okay, so I 00:07:35.459 --> 00:07:37.500 think that for me that's one of the things that 00:07:37.500 --> 00:07:42.339 is just Fueling a really bad fire at that point, 00:07:42.360 --> 00:07:46.610 right? So we don't don't want anything to snowball 00:07:46.610 --> 00:07:49.329 or continue to get out of hand by you adding 00:07:49.329 --> 00:07:51.189 that in okay you should probably have a conversation 00:07:51.189 --> 00:07:55.490 with the coach yourself as an adult um yeah i 00:07:55.490 --> 00:07:57.269 can see that and that's one of those difficult 00:07:57.269 --> 00:07:59.589 ones with age too because by the time they get 00:07:59.589 --> 00:08:02.029 to high school you'd hope that that coach has 00:08:02.029 --> 00:08:05.529 like competency in that sport and is fulfilling 00:08:05.529 --> 00:08:08.370 their responsibilities as the coach because on 00:08:08.370 --> 00:08:11.050 the parent side it is really hard to see and 00:08:11.100 --> 00:08:13.699 You know, my kids are the oldest is eight. So 00:08:13.699 --> 00:08:16.620 we're talking about much younger athletes here 00:08:16.620 --> 00:08:18.980 and coaches that are just volunteering their 00:08:18.980 --> 00:08:22.500 time and may not have even done the sport. Uh, 00:08:22.660 --> 00:08:25.699 so they're, it does change kind of depending 00:08:25.699 --> 00:08:27.899 on the age group, because, you know, I see it 00:08:27.899 --> 00:08:30.980 in the, the younger kids. And sometimes if the 00:08:30.980 --> 00:08:34.759 coach is not. real into the sport is just doing 00:08:34.759 --> 00:08:37.779 it to help out. It can be so frustrating to see 00:08:37.779 --> 00:08:39.580 kind of how they're running things or what they're 00:08:39.580 --> 00:08:41.879 doing and just being like, oh, I really wish 00:08:41.879 --> 00:08:43.940 you'd just teach them some fundamentals and let 00:08:43.940 --> 00:08:48.519 them have some fun. So, yeah. I agree. And I 00:08:48.519 --> 00:08:51.620 think this, I mean, this is picking me back to 00:08:51.620 --> 00:08:53.639 conversations that we've had with some of our 00:08:53.639 --> 00:08:57.059 clients before. It's like, I think as a parent, 00:08:57.200 --> 00:08:59.419 you need to understand as much as you can about 00:08:59.419 --> 00:09:01.600 the situation and then manage your expectations. 00:09:01.659 --> 00:09:04.840 Because if you do have a younger child and they 00:09:04.840 --> 00:09:07.539 have a coach, that person is probably volunteering. 00:09:07.679 --> 00:09:09.960 They're not getting paid for that, right? You 00:09:09.960 --> 00:09:12.840 probably need to manage your expectations or 00:09:12.840 --> 00:09:15.720 move to a different place where that person is 00:09:15.720 --> 00:09:17.679 getting paid. I know we've talked to a lot of 00:09:17.679 --> 00:09:20.500 our club organizations. They've got so many teams 00:09:20.500 --> 00:09:23.899 and a lot of these coaches are, you know, willingly 00:09:24.220 --> 00:09:27.799 you know dedicating their time right if for you 00:09:27.799 --> 00:09:30.840 do not understand that be upset and i mean that's 00:09:30.840 --> 00:09:34.419 that's your right to be upset but maybe you should 00:09:34.419 --> 00:09:37.320 either figure out a way to support that coach 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:39.860 so they're you know getting more poured into 00:09:39.860 --> 00:09:42.340 them from a sports perspective and then able 00:09:42.340 --> 00:09:45.509 to give that back to your children or I don't 00:09:45.509 --> 00:09:47.590 know maybe you go to another place or you manage 00:09:47.590 --> 00:09:49.809 your expectations. I know that there's a lot 00:09:49.809 --> 00:09:52.649 of stuff happening where these volunteer coaches 00:09:52.649 --> 00:09:55.070 have day jobs or whatever and then they're coming 00:09:55.070 --> 00:09:57.629 in here because they want to help your kids. 00:09:59.809 --> 00:10:03.769 You know and I don't think they need the extra 00:10:03.769 --> 00:10:07.250 pressure from you directly about like hey you're 00:10:07.250 --> 00:10:11.419 not doing a good job. So I think there's a lot 00:10:11.419 --> 00:10:13.879 of managing expectations that's happening with 00:10:13.879 --> 00:10:16.100 that stuff. I do think as your kids are younger, 00:10:16.740 --> 00:10:19.340 they should learn skills, right? It's not about, 00:10:20.379 --> 00:10:23.419 is it about winning? Yeah, it's about feeling 00:10:23.419 --> 00:10:26.759 good winning and understanding what helps you 00:10:26.759 --> 00:10:29.500 win and all those fundamental elements. They 00:10:29.500 --> 00:10:34.159 should learn skills and be able to do that. I 00:10:34.159 --> 00:10:35.659 know we're gonna get into parent stuff later, 00:10:35.700 --> 00:10:41.669 but yeah, I think it's about understanding I 00:10:41.669 --> 00:10:44.669 think as a parent like maybe what who that coach 00:10:44.669 --> 00:10:48.769 is what what their role is or you know how they 00:10:48.769 --> 00:10:52.029 even became that coach and then maybe you have 00:10:52.029 --> 00:10:54.330 other conversations up the road or maybe you 00:10:54.330 --> 00:10:58.629 just kind of uh you know here's a fun idea I 00:10:58.629 --> 00:11:01.649 had a strength coach tell uh at a conference 00:11:01.649 --> 00:11:03.950 one time give a speech and he was saying hey 00:11:03.950 --> 00:11:06.389 if if everyone's complaining about there's not 00:11:06.389 --> 00:11:08.210 research on this there's not research on that 00:11:08.210 --> 00:11:12.149 why don't you go research it Right. You go do 00:11:12.149 --> 00:11:14.929 whatever, you know, research the area that you 00:11:14.929 --> 00:11:17.809 want. Right. As a parent, you don't like the 00:11:17.809 --> 00:11:19.789 way it is. How about you volunteer to be a coach 00:11:19.789 --> 00:11:21.830 too? Right. Why don't you volunteer, be an assistant 00:11:21.830 --> 00:11:23.330 if you don't like the way everything's going. 00:11:23.549 --> 00:11:25.950 So I think that that may be an option for you 00:11:25.950 --> 00:11:27.789 as well. You're already going to be at the practice, 00:11:27.789 --> 00:11:30.350 right? If you want to make an impact, make a 00:11:30.350 --> 00:11:32.250 positive impact, why don't you volunteer to do 00:11:32.250 --> 00:11:35.429 it too? Um, so that may be an option too, but 00:11:35.429 --> 00:11:39.559 I think it's. being a supportive parent you know 00:11:39.559 --> 00:11:43.120 is maybe kind of understanding as much as you 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:46.820 can about the situation because if they're in 00:11:46.820 --> 00:11:48.519 youth sports it's different if they're in high 00:11:48.519 --> 00:11:51.379 school it's different if they're in college you 00:11:51.379 --> 00:11:55.279 got you got nothing right unless you're number 00:11:55.279 --> 00:11:57.639 one donor for the entire school you got you got 00:11:57.639 --> 00:12:00.279 no say when they go to college right most of 00:12:00.279 --> 00:12:02.679 the time you in high school you shouldn't have 00:12:02.679 --> 00:12:05.799 a say anyway I mean, unless you're coaching, 00:12:06.200 --> 00:12:09.259 right? You really shouldn't have a say on what 00:12:09.259 --> 00:12:13.779 is happening from a tactical perspective. And 00:12:13.779 --> 00:12:15.940 if you sit back in that type of situation, you 00:12:15.940 --> 00:12:17.879 know, I'm picturing like high school football, 00:12:17.960 --> 00:12:20.700 for example. Most people, like you said, are 00:12:20.700 --> 00:12:23.480 not going to know what's going on, what the strategy 00:12:23.480 --> 00:12:26.259 is behind this, and they're going to think that 00:12:26.259 --> 00:12:30.940 their own child deserves. You know the most which 00:12:30.940 --> 00:12:33.240 is fine and that's great you should have confidence 00:12:33.240 --> 00:12:37.200 in your children but i guess i would challenge 00:12:37.200 --> 00:12:40.440 people to sit back and think about. What benefit 00:12:40.440 --> 00:12:43.980 that perspective would have if you're saying 00:12:43.980 --> 00:12:47.539 that your child and like you said kind of undermining 00:12:47.539 --> 00:12:51.460 the coaches strategy or coaching. Is that going 00:12:51.460 --> 00:12:53.480 to benefit the team as a whole? Is that going 00:12:53.480 --> 00:12:55.580 to help your child contribute to that team in 00:12:55.580 --> 00:12:57.440 a way that allows that team to win and get your 00:12:57.440 --> 00:13:00.559 child more exposure? Or is that going to then 00:13:00.559 --> 00:13:03.440 just lead to problems and issues amongst the 00:13:03.440 --> 00:13:06.419 team and poor performance from your kid anyway, 00:13:06.419 --> 00:13:09.299 which is obviously not going to help them achieve 00:13:09.299 --> 00:13:12.679 the goal of them playing more, doing better in 00:13:12.679 --> 00:13:19.559 the first place? Yeah, I agree. And kind of moving 00:13:19.559 --> 00:13:25.139 into that, that kid area there, I mean, why? 00:13:26.580 --> 00:13:30.840 Why would they even be playing that sport? You 00:13:30.840 --> 00:13:33.279 know, and is it because it's something that they 00:13:33.279 --> 00:13:39.220 like, something that they're doing for you, you 00:13:39.220 --> 00:13:43.360 know, as a parent? Or what is that? Or how do 00:13:43.360 --> 00:13:46.340 we support those kids who are actually the ones 00:13:46.340 --> 00:13:50.580 playing the sport, you know? So obviously not 00:13:50.580 --> 00:13:54.080 injecting these undermining comments and negativity 00:13:54.080 --> 00:13:58.340 about the person that they're playing for. And 00:13:58.340 --> 00:14:02.559 here's another thing, not doing that for the 00:14:02.559 --> 00:14:06.340 people they're playing with either, right? So 00:14:06.340 --> 00:14:07.840 I mean, you may say something about coaches, 00:14:07.879 --> 00:14:10.679 but also, you know, trying to be supportive of 00:14:10.679 --> 00:14:16.840 the collective as a team. So what are some, from 00:14:16.840 --> 00:14:21.340 your experience, as a parent here, how do you 00:14:21.340 --> 00:14:23.639 think that your kids want to be supported? Or 00:14:23.639 --> 00:14:26.519 how do you go about supporting your kids as they 00:14:26.519 --> 00:14:30.480 have started to play sports? Yeah, and like I 00:14:30.480 --> 00:14:32.600 said, my kids are young, so we're kind of just 00:14:32.600 --> 00:14:35.019 getting into this area. And we've got so many 00:14:35.019 --> 00:14:37.120 dynamics, you know, when it personally comes 00:14:37.120 --> 00:14:39.919 to me and my children, because they're playing 00:14:39.919 --> 00:14:43.879 soccer. They do jujitsu, which their father coaches 00:14:43.879 --> 00:14:47.240 them in. So that's another kind of dynamic to 00:14:47.240 --> 00:14:51.120 explore. We've got motocross, which also the 00:14:51.120 --> 00:14:55.700 father teaches them. So we're kind of exploring 00:14:55.700 --> 00:14:58.960 and starting to dip our toes into lots of different 00:14:58.960 --> 00:15:03.220 sports, but also trying to balance the not pushing 00:15:03.220 --> 00:15:06.240 our child to do something just because we do 00:15:06.240 --> 00:15:10.460 it or we would like to see them do it. So that's 00:15:10.460 --> 00:15:12.590 something where my you know, they've started 00:15:12.590 --> 00:15:15.110 to express some interest and track and obviously 00:15:15.110 --> 00:15:18.629 that's my bread and butter background all the 00:15:18.629 --> 00:15:22.269 way through college coaching. So that is exciting 00:15:22.269 --> 00:15:25.750 to me, but I also would never want to push them 00:15:25.750 --> 00:15:29.149 into the sport and then cause burnout and have 00:15:29.149 --> 00:15:31.549 them think, well, I just I'm doing this to impress 00:15:31.549 --> 00:15:34.570 mom or I'm doing this to show dad that I can 00:15:34.570 --> 00:15:37.190 do it and that I'm good at it or whatever that 00:15:37.190 --> 00:15:40.379 may be now. Given they have shown natural talent 00:15:40.379 --> 00:15:42.840 to some of these things just because it's in 00:15:42.840 --> 00:15:46.779 their blood, I guess. But I do like to see them 00:15:46.779 --> 00:15:52.139 kind of progress and and kind of take it, you 00:15:52.139 --> 00:15:56.090 know, step by step. So. We own a jujitsu gym 00:15:56.090 --> 00:15:57.809 so they get to be there all the time. They get 00:15:57.809 --> 00:15:59.970 to experience it. I have one child who loves 00:15:59.970 --> 00:16:02.649 to practice. He wants to be there every class. 00:16:02.669 --> 00:16:05.149 He wants to participate. And then I have another 00:16:05.149 --> 00:16:07.470 that kind of stands on the sideline and he's 00:16:07.470 --> 00:16:09.370 like here and there he'll jump in. But I know 00:16:09.370 --> 00:16:12.029 he's absorbing it as we go. So it may not be 00:16:12.029 --> 00:16:15.190 his thing right now, but it could. You know, 00:16:15.250 --> 00:16:16.769 by the time he's in middle school or high school, 00:16:16.769 --> 00:16:18.710 it could be his thing. He may decide that that's 00:16:18.710 --> 00:16:20.549 really what he wants to do. So I really try not 00:16:20.549 --> 00:16:22.529 to push as hard as that is. I would love to see 00:16:22.529 --> 00:16:25.350 him do it because he's talented, but I try to 00:16:25.350 --> 00:16:28.110 kind of take a step back there. So I think that's 00:16:28.110 --> 00:16:30.009 something to consider for parents when they're 00:16:30.009 --> 00:16:34.009 trying to be supportive is to think about. Why? 00:16:35.009 --> 00:16:38.169 I mean that why your kid wants to participate 00:16:38.169 --> 00:16:40.149 or doesn't want to participate and kind of what 00:16:40.149 --> 00:16:43.070 your expectations you're putting on them or and 00:16:43.070 --> 00:16:45.840 it does bring up. that kid perspective that you 00:16:45.840 --> 00:16:48.539 brought up earlier and when i think back to getting 00:16:48.539 --> 00:16:52.259 started in sports my dad was a sports guy and 00:16:52.259 --> 00:16:54.480 you know being the only daughter i just really 00:16:54.480 --> 00:16:56.799 wanted to do something that would impress him 00:16:56.799 --> 00:16:59.000 or you know feel connected to him in some way 00:16:59.000 --> 00:17:01.779 so sports was what i could do that really like 00:17:01.779 --> 00:17:04.859 got him excited so that's kind of what got me 00:17:04.859 --> 00:17:07.819 started and why i push so hard in those sports 00:17:07.819 --> 00:17:10.539 because i knew the more that i did like he was 00:17:10.539 --> 00:17:14.680 involved and he really liked to watch me so That's 00:17:14.680 --> 00:17:16.799 another thing to think about from the parent 00:17:16.799 --> 00:17:19.279 perspective but also the child to kind of consider 00:17:19.279 --> 00:17:21.599 You know am I doing the sport because I really 00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:23.680 like it or am I doing it to impress my parents 00:17:23.680 --> 00:17:25.819 and if that's the case Is it something that I 00:17:25.819 --> 00:17:27.859 want to do enough that I can continue doing it 00:17:27.859 --> 00:17:29.980 till I don't feel like it anymore? Or is this 00:17:29.980 --> 00:17:31.960 something that I really feel so much pressure 00:17:31.960 --> 00:17:34.940 to do just for acceptance like that's probably 00:17:34.940 --> 00:17:37.440 a conversation that needs to be had between parent 00:17:37.440 --> 00:17:41.279 and child Right. I mean talked about beginnings. 00:17:41.279 --> 00:17:45.720 I mean right or wrong. I I grew up Sports was 00:17:45.720 --> 00:17:48.740 playing on TV mostly in my household growing 00:17:48.740 --> 00:17:52.799 up But I remembered from what my parents tell 00:17:52.799 --> 00:17:55.940 me when I was very very young is that I didn't 00:17:55.940 --> 00:17:58.859 I wasn't necessarily like into sports Because 00:17:58.859 --> 00:18:00.880 I don't know. I mean kids are probably just into 00:18:00.880 --> 00:18:03.700 playing back then right so my parents they put 00:18:03.700 --> 00:18:06.559 me into sports which is which was good. I think 00:18:06.559 --> 00:18:09.619 it was a good exposure to have that stuff and 00:18:09.619 --> 00:18:13.680 um so I ended up playing college football but 00:18:13.680 --> 00:18:16.119 my first year of football I they said I hated 00:18:16.119 --> 00:18:18.880 it like I didn't like how hot it was I didn't 00:18:18.880 --> 00:18:21.359 like being sweaty like I hated it right that 00:18:21.359 --> 00:18:24.819 was my first year uh but then the next year I 00:18:24.819 --> 00:18:27.309 actually moved to a different position and I 00:18:27.309 --> 00:18:29.250 enjoyed it a little bit more and so really kind 00:18:29.250 --> 00:18:32.029 of took off from there and Basketball, I think 00:18:32.029 --> 00:18:34.769 I watched it was playing in my house growing 00:18:34.769 --> 00:18:36.230 up when I was younger probably more than any 00:18:36.230 --> 00:18:41.190 sport And so my mom loves Duke basketball, so 00:18:41.190 --> 00:18:43.269 we watched Duke basketball games all the time 00:18:43.269 --> 00:18:47.769 but Yeah, that was a sport that I really loved 00:18:47.769 --> 00:18:52.589 and I Think I liked basketball more than football 00:18:52.589 --> 00:19:00.200 As a kid And then I got older and I was actually, 00:19:00.680 --> 00:19:03.460 I found myself like, hey, I'm actually better 00:19:03.460 --> 00:19:06.019 at football. So I'm probably going to pursue 00:19:06.019 --> 00:19:11.160 that one because I think I can do more with it. 00:19:11.319 --> 00:19:14.059 But like, I'm going to be honest, maybe the first 00:19:14.059 --> 00:19:15.640 couple of years, I don't, I couldn't even tell 00:19:15.640 --> 00:19:17.420 you why I continue to play sports other than 00:19:17.420 --> 00:19:19.660 my parents took me there and paid for me to be 00:19:19.660 --> 00:19:22.569 in this league or whatever. But But later on, 00:19:22.710 --> 00:19:25.390 I really started to enjoy the friends that I 00:19:25.390 --> 00:19:28.109 had on the team. I enjoyed playing for different 00:19:28.109 --> 00:19:31.589 reasons, you know, whether it was like the physicality 00:19:31.589 --> 00:19:34.730 of football or I just liked I just liked basketball 00:19:34.730 --> 00:19:37.670 because maybe because it seemed to be something 00:19:37.670 --> 00:19:40.650 my family enjoyed. And, you know, we spent time 00:19:40.650 --> 00:19:43.849 observing it, either going to games or whatever. 00:19:44.589 --> 00:19:47.329 Fun fact, my parents, when they went on their 00:19:47.329 --> 00:19:50.230 first date, I was jake seven or something like 00:19:50.230 --> 00:19:52.970 that we went to a basketball game like a college 00:19:52.970 --> 00:19:55.190 basketball game it was there i think it was like 00:19:55.190 --> 00:19:57.049 one of their first dates and they took me and 00:19:57.049 --> 00:19:59.609 we went to a college basketball game so um it 00:19:59.609 --> 00:20:03.410 was awesome and so i but i i always felt supported 00:20:03.410 --> 00:20:05.329 like they i think they wanted me to play sports 00:20:05.329 --> 00:20:08.829 but uh but and i grew to love it so i wanted 00:20:08.829 --> 00:20:11.390 to as well so it didn't ever become like a i 00:20:11.390 --> 00:20:13.289 don't want to play this sport you know type of 00:20:13.289 --> 00:20:21.299 thing um yeah so i mean I always felt supported 00:20:21.299 --> 00:20:26.180 for like, hey, you know, we're gonna give you 00:20:26.180 --> 00:20:28.160 this foundation here of like whatever you need 00:20:28.160 --> 00:20:34.200 and, you know, try your best. Don't be a hooligan, 00:20:34.420 --> 00:20:36.299 you know, like treat people with respect while 00:20:36.299 --> 00:20:38.900 you're playing, you know, don't be like, whatever, 00:20:39.119 --> 00:20:43.339 this or that. Well, that's a unique balance that 00:20:43.339 --> 00:20:46.319 comes up, I think. From the parent perspective 00:20:46.319 --> 00:20:49.299 and the kid perspective a lot because you're 00:20:49.299 --> 00:20:52.880 trying to decide. When should i push my kid because 00:20:52.880 --> 00:20:56.579 i know that that's what they need just to like 00:20:56.579 --> 00:20:59.099 you said you played for maybe three years before 00:20:59.099 --> 00:21:01.240 you realize like okay i really you know there's 00:21:01.240 --> 00:21:05.200 something here i should continue this. Had your 00:21:05.200 --> 00:21:07.200 parents not continue to pay for and drive you 00:21:07.200 --> 00:21:09.779 there and kind of say okay well here we go we're 00:21:09.779 --> 00:21:12.950 going. what you have you know gotten to do all 00:21:12.950 --> 00:21:15.769 the things that you did so it's making that decision 00:21:15.769 --> 00:21:18.950 is this a push time is this a i need to give 00:21:18.950 --> 00:21:22.730 them. You know space to think this through type 00:21:22.730 --> 00:21:25.589 of situation because you know i had a lot of 00:21:25.589 --> 00:21:28.230 exposure as a kid to this is why i definitely 00:21:28.230 --> 00:21:31.029 feel supported in sports was. It was you know 00:21:31.029 --> 00:21:33.690 during summer time would be like well what camp 00:21:33.690 --> 00:21:35.109 do you want to try what sport do you want to 00:21:35.109 --> 00:21:37.990 try you want to swim you want. Try track do you 00:21:37.990 --> 00:21:40.369 wanna do a little cross country thing you wanna 00:21:40.369 --> 00:21:43.210 like my boys get to do sailing over the summer 00:21:43.210 --> 00:21:45.390 which is something that i never could have thought 00:21:45.390 --> 00:21:47.990 of but my mom you know the grandparents steps 00:21:47.990 --> 00:21:50.049 in and said hey let's try some sailing and some 00:21:50.049 --> 00:21:54.410 golf. So it's hard to decide like how hard to 00:21:54.410 --> 00:21:57.349 push those things my six year old tried soccer 00:21:57.349 --> 00:22:01.529 for the first time this year and he made it to 00:22:01.529 --> 00:22:04.250 probably two games and he was like meh this isn't 00:22:04.250 --> 00:22:07.440 really for me so. I, we talked about it and we 00:22:07.440 --> 00:22:09.579 continued to go and he had to support his team 00:22:09.579 --> 00:22:11.339 and he'd kind of get out there here and there, 00:22:11.420 --> 00:22:13.359 but you could tell he really wasn't into it yet. 00:22:14.019 --> 00:22:15.500 So I was like, okay, well we're going to finish 00:22:15.500 --> 00:22:16.839 the year, but then we're going to take a break. 00:22:16.839 --> 00:22:19.059 Like we'll give you some more time. Maybe it's 00:22:19.059 --> 00:22:22.740 just not time for you yet. Um, and then the difference 00:22:22.740 --> 00:22:25.839 now between when we were starting, I feel like 00:22:25.839 --> 00:22:28.200 it was your kids, your parents put the gear out 00:22:28.200 --> 00:22:30.329 there to get a little. build a little character 00:22:30.329 --> 00:22:32.970 have some fun and we're just talking kind of 00:22:32.970 --> 00:22:34.950 before i got on the recording about how much 00:22:34.950 --> 00:22:37.650 we feel like sports has changed for that age 00:22:37.650 --> 00:22:40.950 group where there's a lot of expectations financially 00:22:40.950 --> 00:22:44.529 it's a lot more expensive there's a lot of technology 00:22:44.529 --> 00:22:46.809 around everything in science around everything 00:22:46.809 --> 00:22:49.470 we're doing now so there's a lot of good that 00:22:49.470 --> 00:22:52.069 comes with that but there can also be a lot of. 00:22:52.299 --> 00:22:56.720 uh stress put on kids or expectations that maybe 00:22:56.720 --> 00:22:58.880 weren't there kind of when we were just exploring 00:22:58.880 --> 00:23:01.579 sports and checking things out see what like 00:23:01.579 --> 00:23:04.680 and what we didn't and there's a lot more that 00:23:04.680 --> 00:23:06.859 goes into that now that as a parent you have 00:23:06.859 --> 00:23:10.019 to consider and as the kid that's kind of put 00:23:10.019 --> 00:23:13.000 on you um that changes the dynamic of the sport 00:23:13.000 --> 00:23:18.000 itself yeah i mean that's such a interesting 00:23:18.000 --> 00:23:22.200 uh phenomena that's happening where it's like 00:23:22.240 --> 00:23:24.640 you're getting kids are getting more exposure 00:23:24.640 --> 00:23:30.160 um because of camps and whatever social media 00:23:30.160 --> 00:23:32.859 and stuff and and with that there comes more 00:23:32.859 --> 00:23:36.559 expectation on them every time that they are 00:23:36.559 --> 00:23:38.480 put out there in the spotlight right like it's 00:23:38.480 --> 00:23:41.140 great because you can have so many opportunities 00:23:41.140 --> 00:23:44.180 around you it's not like you're going to be pigeonholed 00:23:44.180 --> 00:23:47.079 into like five different opportunities for you 00:23:47.079 --> 00:23:49.680 to advance in your you know sports career It 00:23:49.680 --> 00:23:52.099 could be 20, you know, you've got all these different 00:23:52.099 --> 00:23:55.059 avenues for you to be successful as an athlete 00:23:55.059 --> 00:23:58.420 at many different levels of college or, you know, 00:23:58.559 --> 00:24:02.000 whatever that may be on any different pro circuits, 00:24:02.000 --> 00:24:05.400 you know, in whatever sport you have. But the 00:24:05.400 --> 00:24:07.059 pressure is there because I mean, you mentioned 00:24:07.059 --> 00:24:11.640 there's a financial burden to it as a parent. 00:24:13.220 --> 00:24:15.799 And it's like, I know we talked about return 00:24:15.799 --> 00:24:22.319 on investment earlier. it's like I don't know 00:24:22.319 --> 00:24:25.519 it kind of going back to why is your kid in sports 00:24:25.519 --> 00:24:28.220 so if you're like you really love baseball and 00:24:28.220 --> 00:24:31.000 that was your thing when you were a kid now you 00:24:31.000 --> 00:24:34.059 really want your kid to be good at baseball so 00:24:34.059 --> 00:24:36.839 you can brag about it or they could go get a 00:24:36.839 --> 00:24:39.059 full ride scholarship or you want them to get 00:24:39.059 --> 00:24:41.099 into the league or play professionally at some 00:24:41.099 --> 00:24:44.640 level and you're really pushing for that I mean 00:24:44.829 --> 00:24:47.170 You said you said at the beginning, you know, 00:24:47.170 --> 00:24:49.450 we talked about the kids like why did you put 00:24:49.450 --> 00:24:51.569 your why does your kid like that sport? why did 00:24:51.569 --> 00:24:55.269 you put your kid in that sport, right and If 00:24:55.269 --> 00:24:59.970 it's not because If at some point it doesn't 00:24:59.970 --> 00:25:03.170 evolve into I'm supporting my kid because they 00:25:03.170 --> 00:25:06.529 like this sport for them Then I don't know. I 00:25:06.529 --> 00:25:09.210 mean not telling people how to parent for sure 00:25:09.210 --> 00:25:13.920 But maybe it's good I think it's always good 00:25:13.920 --> 00:25:18.960 to reevaluate the core of, you know, why decisions 00:25:18.960 --> 00:25:21.720 are being made or, you know, why things are continuing 00:25:21.720 --> 00:25:26.940 to be pursued, right? It's never bad to reevaluate 00:25:26.940 --> 00:25:29.460 and reflect on things just so you make sure that 00:25:29.460 --> 00:25:33.079 you're in line with what you feel like or what 00:25:33.079 --> 00:25:37.500 your kid, your child is telling you is what they 00:25:37.500 --> 00:25:39.900 want, right? So to support them in all those 00:25:39.900 --> 00:25:42.140 manners, it's just, I mean there's there's a 00:25:42.140 --> 00:25:44.099 lot of pressure right everybody feels like as 00:25:44.099 --> 00:25:46.299 soon as you step on the field for a game day 00:25:46.299 --> 00:25:51.180 like even if it's at some local soccer tournament 00:25:51.180 --> 00:25:52.740 you're supposed to be the star you're supposed 00:25:52.740 --> 00:25:55.880 to go out there and five score five goals uh 00:25:55.880 --> 00:25:57.440 if you're the keeper you're not supposed to let 00:25:57.440 --> 00:25:59.859 anything come past you and you're supposed to 00:25:59.859 --> 00:26:02.809 be the most vocal person out there you know Yeah, 00:26:02.809 --> 00:26:05.990 like you said the pressure for college scholarship 00:26:05.990 --> 00:26:08.890 I think is one of the biggest ones because as 00:26:08.890 --> 00:26:10.849 soon as you see that your child might have some 00:26:10.849 --> 00:26:13.289 talent at something I think that's immediately 00:26:13.289 --> 00:26:15.730 what parents are thinking like oh, well, here's 00:26:15.730 --> 00:26:17.670 our opportunity Maybe we didn't have the money 00:26:17.670 --> 00:26:20.509 for them to go to this particular school or something 00:26:20.509 --> 00:26:24.190 and now maybe that opportunity is there so I 00:26:24.190 --> 00:26:27.369 think from the parental perspective that's where 00:26:27.369 --> 00:26:31.529 a lot of parents are kind of trying to push their 00:26:31.529 --> 00:26:35.109 kid to continue the sport because they can get 00:26:35.109 --> 00:26:39.190 that advantage from it. But I do see even pressure 00:26:39.190 --> 00:26:43.150 that comes in these young sports where, you know, 00:26:43.269 --> 00:26:44.950 I have one that's going to try baseball for the 00:26:44.950 --> 00:26:47.930 first time at eight years old. We're out here 00:26:47.930 --> 00:26:49.890 stressing out because he hasn't played and he's 00:26:49.890 --> 00:26:52.450 only eight years old. But it seems like everyone 00:26:52.450 --> 00:26:54.329 on these leagues has already played for three 00:26:54.329 --> 00:26:55.990 years, four years by the time they're eight years 00:26:55.990 --> 00:26:59.170 old already. So he's he's concerned like, I don't 00:26:59.170 --> 00:27:01.970 know how to play baseball yet. That's what you're 00:27:01.970 --> 00:27:03.630 there for. You're going to learn. They're going 00:27:03.630 --> 00:27:05.730 to coach you. Don't worry about it. You'll pick 00:27:05.730 --> 00:27:10.269 it up in no time and it'll be fine. So, yeah, 00:27:10.289 --> 00:27:12.450 it doesn't matter the age. I think there's pressure. 00:27:12.690 --> 00:27:15.930 It's just different. I mean, some of the some 00:27:15.930 --> 00:27:19.960 of the players in the nfl they didn't start playing 00:27:19.960 --> 00:27:22.440 football until they were like late high school 00:27:22.440 --> 00:27:26.980 like so they had gone 17 you know 16 17 18 years 00:27:26.980 --> 00:27:29.559 without playing the sport and now they're in 00:27:29.559 --> 00:27:32.460 the nfl right like got the potential for it it's 00:27:32.460 --> 00:27:34.740 gonna happen right regardless of when you enter 00:27:34.740 --> 00:27:37.960 it so uh i think that's that's awesome that you 00:27:37.960 --> 00:27:41.000 know he's gonna make a new experience in a different 00:27:41.000 --> 00:27:42.680 sport because he wants to you know wants to try 00:27:42.680 --> 00:27:45.660 it out Aces Nation is a team of former college 00:27:45.660 --> 00:27:47.980 athletes and coaches on a mission to improve 00:27:47.980 --> 00:27:50.859 the sports culture experience and change today's 00:27:50.859 --> 00:27:53.960 expectations. 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We're going 00:28:27.920 --> 00:28:30.779 to do it for the best of your ability and you're 00:28:30.779 --> 00:28:33.819 going to be the star. So the child starts to. 00:28:34.039 --> 00:28:37.220 take that on and think okay well this is my responsibility 00:28:37.220 --> 00:28:40.019 to make this happen and in this particular case 00:28:40.019 --> 00:28:42.680 it was a young girl who'd been in martial arts 00:28:42.680 --> 00:28:45.720 for her whole life and they were going to have 00:28:45.720 --> 00:28:48.619 her be the youngest MMA fighter once she was 00:28:48.619 --> 00:28:51.160 of age to get in the cage and have her first 00:28:51.160 --> 00:28:54.539 fight and so she was training you know training 00:28:54.539 --> 00:28:57.539 the same way the the adult fighters went where 00:28:57.539 --> 00:29:00.839 she was at multiple practices a day she was there 00:29:00.839 --> 00:29:03.170 every day of the week. trying to do everything 00:29:03.170 --> 00:29:06.990 she could and she was pushed and pushed and she 00:29:06.990 --> 00:29:08.589 made it all the way to that point when she had 00:29:08.589 --> 00:29:11.549 her first fight. She took it and then she quit 00:29:11.549 --> 00:29:14.829 the sport immediately after. So it was like she 00:29:14.829 --> 00:29:17.470 had been burnt out for so long that she had met 00:29:17.470 --> 00:29:20.309 that expectation and then said, I'm done. So 00:29:20.309 --> 00:29:23.930 thanks, but no thanks. And that's definitely 00:29:23.930 --> 00:29:26.009 not something you want to have happen to your 00:29:26.009 --> 00:29:28.089 child if they really did love the sport to begin 00:29:28.089 --> 00:29:30.710 with. And then they get pushed to the point where 00:29:30.839 --> 00:29:32.619 they don't want anything to do with it anymore. 00:29:32.660 --> 00:29:35.980 It's just sad to see. Right. Yeah, that is sad 00:29:35.980 --> 00:29:38.859 to be pushed to that point where you just fall 00:29:38.859 --> 00:29:41.420 out of love with the sport that you initially 00:29:41.420 --> 00:29:45.319 really enjoyed. I want to go back to something 00:29:45.319 --> 00:29:49.019 else you said earlier about when kids start to 00:29:49.019 --> 00:29:51.759 show a little potential, like parents can get 00:29:51.759 --> 00:29:56.500 pretty excited about the potential for college 00:29:56.500 --> 00:30:00.000 scholarships. I'm going to go back to my personal 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.500 experience. I understand people are different 00:30:03.500 --> 00:30:06.299 and, you know, their personalities and how they 00:30:06.299 --> 00:30:09.759 go about things is different. But I think when 00:30:09.759 --> 00:30:14.079 when I actually thought that I showed myself 00:30:14.079 --> 00:30:18.339 a little bit of potential to be good enough to 00:30:18.339 --> 00:30:21.660 play college football, I don't even be honest 00:30:21.660 --> 00:30:23.059 right now. I'm thinking about it right now. I 00:30:23.059 --> 00:30:27.160 don't even know if my parents ever said anything 00:30:27.160 --> 00:30:31.250 like Trying to nudge me in that direction. I 00:30:31.250 --> 00:30:34.069 I made that decision, right? I think I was like 00:30:34.069 --> 00:30:36.369 an eighth or ninth grade I was like, you know 00:30:36.369 --> 00:30:38.450 what? I think I could play football in college. 00:30:38.450 --> 00:30:40.150 I don't know if I'm good enough to play basketball 00:30:40.150 --> 00:30:42.569 in college I'm gonna focus on this and go all 00:30:42.569 --> 00:30:45.950 out for it and Nobody had to tell me that so 00:30:45.950 --> 00:30:49.049 really I mean support and my parents gave me 00:30:49.049 --> 00:30:52.869 was like I trained hard over the summer shirt. 00:30:52.869 --> 00:30:56.089 I mean they bought me new cleats that I needed 00:30:56.089 --> 00:30:59.509 each year for the season, bought me protein, 00:30:59.690 --> 00:31:01.869 brought me creatine, not to sound like a meathead, 00:31:01.869 --> 00:31:05.369 but then I would just train, train, train, train. 00:31:07.170 --> 00:31:09.890 And I'm very fortunate that it paid off for me 00:31:09.890 --> 00:31:12.569 and my parents did not have to pay for any of 00:31:12.569 --> 00:31:15.730 my college at all. So I'm very fortunate to have 00:31:15.730 --> 00:31:19.990 that happen. But it's just interesting that I 00:31:19.990 --> 00:31:22.549 never felt that pressure from them. I felt pressure 00:31:22.549 --> 00:31:25.410 from me. because I decided to do it and I wanted 00:31:25.410 --> 00:31:28.750 to go do it. And I had to make sure I was living 00:31:28.750 --> 00:31:31.630 up to what my expectations were. And I felt like 00:31:31.630 --> 00:31:35.450 my expectations were way harder and higher than 00:31:35.450 --> 00:31:38.130 theirs were for me at that point. I mean, I was 00:31:38.130 --> 00:31:39.769 probably I don't know if it was a good thing 00:31:39.769 --> 00:31:44.009 or not. I'm just saying from what I think, probably 00:31:44.009 --> 00:31:46.369 great for them that they didn't have to really 00:31:46.369 --> 00:31:48.289 push me to do anything. They were just like, 00:31:48.410 --> 00:31:52.180 OK, how can we help you? Do what you want to 00:31:52.180 --> 00:31:54.480 do and then they just kind of watch watch me 00:31:54.480 --> 00:31:57.420 do it I think that happens a lot with a lot of 00:31:57.420 --> 00:32:00.099 successful college athletes Especially when you 00:32:00.099 --> 00:32:02.099 get it and pro athletes when you get to that 00:32:02.099 --> 00:32:04.559 point because I had a very similar experience 00:32:04.559 --> 00:32:07.720 My parents didn't push me necessarily in track. 00:32:07.720 --> 00:32:10.799 I just saw that You know i i'm kind of good at 00:32:10.799 --> 00:32:13.420 this i want to see where i can get you know make 00:32:13.420 --> 00:32:17.299 this go so they were very um supportive in the 00:32:17.299 --> 00:32:19.259 way like you're saying where you know my mom 00:32:19.259 --> 00:32:21.440 would pack me a cooler snacks for an all -day 00:32:21.440 --> 00:32:24.619 track me and take me you know to drive me to 00:32:24.619 --> 00:32:26.559 wherever so that i could do that every weekend 00:32:26.559 --> 00:32:29.880 and sacrifice their time to be there to see me 00:32:29.880 --> 00:32:33.660 run and do everything they could to support me 00:32:33.660 --> 00:32:37.829 and just being there so i think that There are 00:32:37.829 --> 00:32:40.109 those athletes that are just going to be so self 00:32:40.109 --> 00:32:42.869 driven and I don't know if you had the same experience, 00:32:42.869 --> 00:32:45.769 but I Was almost to the point where I needed 00:32:45.769 --> 00:32:48.910 my parents to To be there to kind of talk me 00:32:48.910 --> 00:32:50.829 down all the time because I was just so hard 00:32:50.829 --> 00:32:53.809 on myself When it came to being successful if 00:32:53.809 --> 00:32:57.210 I didn't do what I had expected to do that particular 00:32:57.210 --> 00:33:00.509 jump or that race or if I got Tripped and got 00:33:00.509 --> 00:33:02.789 second or something, you know, I needed them 00:33:02.789 --> 00:33:05.369 to be like it's okay. It's one me. It's one race 00:33:05.500 --> 00:33:07.460 You're going to be fine. It's not your entire 00:33:07.460 --> 00:33:10.599 career like there's other opportunities. Just 00:33:10.599 --> 00:33:13.740 pick yourself up and get back out there. So the 00:33:13.740 --> 00:33:17.640 support there was huge because I probably would 00:33:17.640 --> 00:33:19.319 have been so hard on myself that it would have 00:33:19.319 --> 00:33:23.319 been hard to continue all the time. So I think 00:33:23.319 --> 00:33:25.220 it just depends on the personality of your kid. 00:33:25.220 --> 00:33:28.960 I know we talk about intrinsic motivation and 00:33:28.960 --> 00:33:30.920 you know motivation that comes from external 00:33:30.920 --> 00:33:33.400 sources and it depends kind of on your personality 00:33:33.400 --> 00:33:36.359 and how you operate but You are going to have 00:33:36.359 --> 00:33:39.279 some of those kids that are just so dedicated 00:33:39.279 --> 00:33:41.859 to being perfect in their sport that they actually 00:33:41.859 --> 00:33:44.160 need the opposite in terms of support. They just 00:33:44.160 --> 00:33:46.279 need someone to tell them that they're going 00:33:46.279 --> 00:33:49.940 to be fine. Yeah, I agree. I think that I needed 00:33:49.940 --> 00:33:54.859 my parents for the same thing. But I mean, that's 00:33:54.859 --> 00:33:59.880 how we felt supported as kids. And I project 00:33:59.880 --> 00:34:04.460 I hopefully will do the same thing. Personally 00:34:04.460 --> 00:34:07.140 would love for my kids to play sports and want 00:34:07.140 --> 00:34:10.360 to do that At whatever level that they decide 00:34:10.360 --> 00:34:13.159 obviously it'd be great if as a parent if you 00:34:13.159 --> 00:34:14.820 don't have to pay for college It's great, right? 00:34:14.860 --> 00:34:17.719 Like that would be awesome or I mean these days 00:34:17.719 --> 00:34:20.199 if your kid can get NIL money That would be great, 00:34:20.199 --> 00:34:23.360 too You know this I it's a whole it's a whole 00:34:23.360 --> 00:34:26.300 new ball game in Division one athletics and potentially 00:34:26.300 --> 00:34:28.579 some D2s that you know I don't know if in different 00:34:28.579 --> 00:34:31.860 situations or whatnot, but it's a whole different 00:34:31.860 --> 00:34:39.460 element to have NAL as a potential. I don't honestly 00:34:39.460 --> 00:34:43.880 know what to think of if one of my kids ends 00:34:43.880 --> 00:34:48.179 up signing a deal where they make money for marketing 00:34:48.179 --> 00:34:50.980 some product or whatever just because they play 00:34:50.980 --> 00:34:53.119 a sport while they're in college. I don't even 00:34:53.119 --> 00:34:57.000 know how to fathom that. All we got were stipends 00:34:57.000 --> 00:35:02.179 each month. the program so i mean i can't imagine 00:35:02.179 --> 00:35:06.179 my kid making thousands of dollars every month 00:35:06.179 --> 00:35:09.139 on top of like getting their school paid for 00:35:09.139 --> 00:35:14.420 or whatnot i mean i that's awesome you know awesome 00:35:14.420 --> 00:35:16.920 that you know there are opportunities in this 00:35:16.920 --> 00:35:21.360 uh economy that is america that you know they 00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:25.199 have those opportunities but um really i hope 00:35:25.199 --> 00:35:28.920 to support my kids in the same way that I felt 00:35:28.920 --> 00:35:33.460 supported. He mentioned the talk you down type 00:35:33.460 --> 00:35:38.380 of deal. I would want to do that as well. I think 00:35:38.380 --> 00:35:41.820 with different personalities, I'll have to learn 00:35:41.820 --> 00:35:47.219 how to speak to that child differently than maybe 00:35:47.219 --> 00:35:50.420 the other one. Whereas one person may need like, 00:35:50.460 --> 00:35:53.489 hey, these are like... you know the world's not 00:35:53.489 --> 00:35:55.269 over these are like next steps that you know 00:35:55.269 --> 00:35:57.130 feel like you need to take some type of like 00:35:57.130 --> 00:35:59.429 how do we move forward talk the other one maybe 00:35:59.429 --> 00:36:01.329 it's a little more supportive like you know it's 00:36:01.329 --> 00:36:04.849 it's okay um you know kind of learning to give 00:36:04.849 --> 00:36:07.769 them what they need as a as an individual you 00:36:07.769 --> 00:36:10.070 know to feel confident in themselves to feel 00:36:10.070 --> 00:36:13.110 like we are confident in their abilities as well 00:36:13.110 --> 00:36:22.179 um and then i'm not gonna I'm not gonna be that 00:36:22.179 --> 00:36:24.619 person talking bad about the coaching style or 00:36:24.619 --> 00:36:28.159 whatever because Even now as a coach, I know 00:36:28.159 --> 00:36:30.880 everyone has their own philosophy. Everyone has 00:36:30.880 --> 00:36:34.159 their own thing I probably feel more confident 00:36:34.159 --> 00:36:37.699 talking to the coach not necessarily in a I'm 00:36:37.699 --> 00:36:41.679 trying to judge you but hey, I I'd like to understand, 00:36:42.260 --> 00:36:44.260 you know, what's going on here not from a perspective 00:36:44.260 --> 00:36:46.760 like I want to chop it down like I'd like to 00:36:46.760 --> 00:36:49.420 be invested in it a little bit more than just 00:36:49.420 --> 00:36:52.110 at the game watching You know, like I'd like 00:36:52.110 --> 00:36:55.110 to know what's happening here. But I don't know. 00:36:55.190 --> 00:36:57.130 I think that gets later into the weeds there. 00:36:57.130 --> 00:37:00.090 But hopefully, you know, I want my kids to feel 00:37:00.090 --> 00:37:03.250 I want them to feel confident. I want them to 00:37:03.250 --> 00:37:06.389 feel like they're they have the opportunity to 00:37:06.389 --> 00:37:10.190 get out when they're ready to get out. And we're 00:37:10.190 --> 00:37:12.929 here to support them if they want to go farther 00:37:12.929 --> 00:37:17.949 in that sport. Right. Yeah, I agree. So man, 00:37:17.949 --> 00:37:20.510 I just covered a lot right there, but I'm sure 00:37:20.510 --> 00:37:23.949 you feel the same way but you had already mentioned 00:37:23.949 --> 00:37:26.150 you gave us so much good information on the front 00:37:26.150 --> 00:37:28.469 end about like how your kids are a little bit 00:37:28.469 --> 00:37:30.809 different with like want to be there every class 00:37:30.809 --> 00:37:33.710 and get involved or hey I want to just watch 00:37:33.710 --> 00:37:35.769 a little bit more and then maybe when I feel 00:37:35.769 --> 00:37:40.150 ready I'm gonna go in right and a school it's 00:37:40.150 --> 00:37:42.309 cool how that dynamic happens, you know between 00:37:42.309 --> 00:37:46.500 different kids and Yeah, just just like you said 00:37:46.500 --> 00:37:48.699 you're excited for them and you want to be a 00:37:48.699 --> 00:37:51.360 part of that but also you're like, okay Let's 00:37:51.360 --> 00:37:53.659 figure out like hey, I really want you to do 00:37:53.659 --> 00:37:57.280 this for you and not necessarily for me I'd love 00:37:57.280 --> 00:37:59.840 it if you did it for me, but I'd love it. I think 00:37:59.840 --> 00:38:03.579 even more if you were doing it for you It certainly 00:38:03.579 --> 00:38:06.699 caught me by surprise having to navigate the 00:38:06.699 --> 00:38:10.340 feelings that you still have as a former perfectionist 00:38:10.340 --> 00:38:14.280 athlete in yourself versus trying to help your 00:38:14.320 --> 00:38:17.019 child have kind of a different sports experience 00:38:17.019 --> 00:38:19.639 in the sense that I don't I don't want them to 00:38:19.639 --> 00:38:22.639 approach it the way I did where it was just nonstop 00:38:22.639 --> 00:38:27.440 this is all I cared about type of thing and you 00:38:27.440 --> 00:38:30.440 know having my son and his first jiu -jitsu tournament 00:38:30.440 --> 00:38:33.059 was like a huge wake up call for me because. 00:38:34.119 --> 00:38:36.699 In those they get multiple chances to compete 00:38:36.699 --> 00:38:41.949 in matches and seeing him. Win a match and being 00:38:41.949 --> 00:38:44.170 excited about that and ready to do the next one 00:38:44.170 --> 00:38:46.809 to then losing a match and having to pick himself 00:38:46.809 --> 00:38:50.289 up to understand that he's not done. So like 00:38:50.289 --> 00:38:52.469 we lost, but we had to have this whole conversation 00:38:52.469 --> 00:38:54.789 about, okay, what we're going to do is we're 00:38:54.789 --> 00:38:56.469 going to put that in this little box over here 00:38:56.469 --> 00:38:58.150 and we're not going to worry about it right now. 00:38:58.650 --> 00:39:00.329 We're going to go ahead and move on because we 00:39:00.329 --> 00:39:02.829 have to still compete. So you have to teaching 00:39:02.829 --> 00:39:05.989 an eight -year -old how to mentally recover from 00:39:05.989 --> 00:39:09.460 something like that. was a brand new experience 00:39:09.460 --> 00:39:14.099 for me and it's rewarding but it's also. It throws 00:39:14.099 --> 00:39:16.239 you right into the fire because i wasn't expecting 00:39:16.239 --> 00:39:18.559 that and it's kind of like all other aspects 00:39:18.559 --> 00:39:20.619 of parenting where you're like oh i would never. 00:39:20.940 --> 00:39:23.639 Whenever do that i would never think this and 00:39:23.639 --> 00:39:26.460 then you put foot in mouth as soon as that situation 00:39:26.460 --> 00:39:29.579 comes along and you're doing it so. Yeah i was. 00:39:29.800 --> 00:39:33.019 It was an interesting experience, and like I 00:39:33.019 --> 00:39:35.639 said, now I'm kind of expecting that along the 00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:37.639 way. There's going to be a lot of situations 00:39:37.639 --> 00:39:40.460 that I may have handled differently if it was 00:39:40.460 --> 00:39:42.659 me personally, and now you're having to say, 00:39:43.340 --> 00:39:45.699 look, we are not expecting anything out of you. 00:39:45.719 --> 00:39:48.579 We are here because you enjoy this, and we want 00:39:48.579 --> 00:39:51.579 you to have fun, and we don't think that you 00:39:51.579 --> 00:39:54.429 have to win. That's not what we want for you. 00:39:54.449 --> 00:39:56.429 We want you to come out here and do your best. 00:39:56.489 --> 00:39:58.230 I want to see you put in a good effort. That's 00:39:58.230 --> 00:40:00.469 all I want." And you kind of see that look on 00:40:00.469 --> 00:40:03.210 their face like, oh, really? That's it? Like, 00:40:03.210 --> 00:40:05.469 I can just go out there and do my best? And it's 00:40:05.469 --> 00:40:07.469 like, yes, that's going to be good enough for 00:40:07.469 --> 00:40:10.750 us. So, you know, navigating all these things 00:40:10.750 --> 00:40:13.670 as a parent, it's going to be a trial and error 00:40:13.670 --> 00:40:16.750 type thing. And I'm sure the older they get, 00:40:16.750 --> 00:40:19.030 the harder it gets with, you know, the aspect 00:40:19.030 --> 00:40:21.250 of coaching and especially if it's in a sport 00:40:21.250 --> 00:40:25.119 that we have participated in or coached, I'm 00:40:25.119 --> 00:40:27.360 sure the dynamic there is going to be a brand 00:40:27.360 --> 00:40:31.360 new thing every step of the way, but I think 00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:34.579 like you said, the best way we can support them 00:40:34.579 --> 00:40:38.300 is just making sure that our objectives align, 00:40:38.780 --> 00:40:42.539 knowing kind of when and how to push, just to 00:40:42.539 --> 00:40:46.440 be there to support them. Maybe they need a push 00:40:46.440 --> 00:40:48.659 sometimes and they just don't have it in them 00:40:48.659 --> 00:40:50.579 at that time and they need to hear that from 00:40:50.579 --> 00:40:54.840 you. And, you know, just in any other way that 00:40:54.840 --> 00:40:58.079 you think will help them feel confident in that 00:40:58.079 --> 00:41:02.800 particular day and moment. Lots, lots to think 00:41:02.800 --> 00:41:06.820 about. Yeah, for sure. Hey, I wrote a note here 00:41:06.820 --> 00:41:08.800 and I wanted to touch back on this really quickly. 00:41:09.139 --> 00:41:11.820 Talking about still how to support your kids 00:41:11.820 --> 00:41:15.199 here. I know we have a lot of international listeners 00:41:15.199 --> 00:41:19.679 and really shout out to parents internationally 00:41:19.679 --> 00:41:22.519 as they send their their children either to the 00:41:22.519 --> 00:41:24.380 U .S. or to a different country to play sports 00:41:24.380 --> 00:41:28.079 and and supporting them from afar is completely 00:41:28.079 --> 00:41:30.159 different. I mean, I've had a lot of international 00:41:30.159 --> 00:41:33.300 athletes where their parents make one game in 00:41:33.300 --> 00:41:35.800 their four year career. Right. Typically, it's 00:41:35.800 --> 00:41:39.880 around that senior day type of experience, but 00:41:39.880 --> 00:41:43.860 it is completely different to support your kid 00:41:43.860 --> 00:41:47.960 from afar, you know, as they're playing sports. 00:41:47.960 --> 00:41:52.230 And so I mean, from what I've experienced all 00:41:52.230 --> 00:41:54.929 kids man they miss their families like a lot 00:41:54.929 --> 00:41:57.210 and they just they just want to make them proud 00:41:57.210 --> 00:42:01.309 you know by you know what they do uh in school 00:42:01.309 --> 00:42:05.670 and uh in their respective field of play so a 00:42:05.670 --> 00:42:07.909 shout out to those parents who are definitely 00:42:07.909 --> 00:42:11.010 experiencing it differently than you know having 00:42:11.010 --> 00:42:12.869 their kids around locally and being able to go 00:42:12.869 --> 00:42:15.969 see them every every saturday or whatever you 00:42:15.969 --> 00:42:17.989 know when they play definitely and those those 00:42:17.989 --> 00:42:20.650 athletes as a coach you always feel like you 00:42:20.650 --> 00:42:22.690 know you really you need to be there to show 00:42:22.690 --> 00:42:24.690 up for those athletes too because they don't 00:42:24.690 --> 00:42:27.030 have that support from their family right there 00:42:27.030 --> 00:42:29.329 of course they have them you know a phone call 00:42:29.329 --> 00:42:32.530 away but it was a definitely a different experience 00:42:32.530 --> 00:42:34.630 to have international athletes that you kind 00:42:34.630 --> 00:42:37.969 of feel like become family um in the sense that 00:42:37.969 --> 00:42:41.659 they may need those extra conversations or You 00:42:41.659 --> 00:42:44.599 know that hey, have you been eating? Well, are 00:42:44.599 --> 00:42:47.340 you is everything okay type of stuff more often 00:42:47.340 --> 00:42:49.619 than your kids? You have family close by that. 00:42:49.619 --> 00:42:52.119 They're kind of interacting with all the time 00:42:52.119 --> 00:42:57.880 Yeah We have some good information on these topics 00:42:57.880 --> 00:43:01.639 and we actually we utilize some A great questionnaire. 00:43:01.639 --> 00:43:05.969 I think to kind of really evaluate Where the 00:43:05.969 --> 00:43:09.170 objectives that you mentioned are so you want 00:43:09.170 --> 00:43:11.630 to tell us tell them about the blog tell them 00:43:11.630 --> 00:43:18.150 about the sport NPS to Yeah, we do have a blog 00:43:18.150 --> 00:43:21.349 on this topic that we did a little while back 00:43:21.349 --> 00:43:24.610 and It's just it's called are you good sports 00:43:24.610 --> 00:43:27.369 parent and it just goes over some basics of things 00:43:27.369 --> 00:43:30.150 that you can be doing To support your athletes 00:43:30.150 --> 00:43:32.650 and and these are areas that we've covered today 00:43:32.650 --> 00:43:36.079 for the most part but You know and some of it 00:43:36.079 --> 00:43:40.099 might seem like common sense but. It's you know 00:43:40.099 --> 00:43:41.940 it's it's good to always check in and make sure 00:43:41.940 --> 00:43:44.699 that you aren't going too far in one direction 00:43:44.699 --> 00:43:49.400 with your own expectations or you know maybe 00:43:49.400 --> 00:43:51.500 forgetting to check in with where your kids are 00:43:51.500 --> 00:43:53.619 maybe spend years and years in the same sport 00:43:53.619 --> 00:43:57.039 and. And they may not feel the same way about 00:43:57.039 --> 00:43:59.559 it as they did when they started. So that's just 00:43:59.559 --> 00:44:01.960 a good checklist to kind of go through and do 00:44:01.960 --> 00:44:05.699 a little self evaluation. But as far as the questionnaire, 00:44:06.199 --> 00:44:10.760 it's called the sport MPS two for short. But 00:44:10.760 --> 00:44:13.079 basically this questionnaire is going to give 00:44:13.079 --> 00:44:17.659 you the opportunity to go through. So it's a 00:44:17.659 --> 00:44:20.440 self assessment for the athlete. But as the coach, 00:44:20.480 --> 00:44:24.050 it'll give you good insight as to where this 00:44:24.050 --> 00:44:29.269 athlete feels like perfectionism pressure comes 00:44:29.269 --> 00:44:32.269 from. So if this is an athlete that doesn't seem 00:44:32.269 --> 00:44:34.650 like they have any perfectionistic tendencies, 00:44:34.650 --> 00:44:37.210 it may not be that relevant for them. But if 00:44:37.210 --> 00:44:41.170 you have athletes that are really kind of like 00:44:41.170 --> 00:44:44.389 Zach and I mentioned we were as athletes, this 00:44:44.389 --> 00:44:47.409 is an interesting, this would give you some insight 00:44:47.409 --> 00:44:50.010 that I think would help you better support them. 00:44:50.320 --> 00:44:54.900 It does break down to different categories where 00:44:54.900 --> 00:44:58.960 you can see after they've answered. It breaks 00:44:58.960 --> 00:45:01.360 down into seven categories that are personal 00:45:01.360 --> 00:45:05.420 standards, concern over mistakes, perceived parental 00:45:05.420 --> 00:45:08.820 pressure, perceived coach pressure, doubts about 00:45:08.820 --> 00:45:12.000 actions and organization. So once they've done 00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:15.079 the survey and total these areas you can kind 00:45:15.079 --> 00:45:17.619 of tell like maybe this athlete is getting a 00:45:17.619 --> 00:45:21.179 lot of pressure from home from parents and you 00:45:21.179 --> 00:45:23.840 know the best thing to do to support them would 00:45:23.840 --> 00:45:29.000 be to have that parents sit down and have a conversation 00:45:29.000 --> 00:45:33.000 about like goals and where you think you know 00:45:33.000 --> 00:45:35.400 their current statistics are versus the current 00:45:35.400 --> 00:45:38.409 the statistics they look to. To attain later 00:45:38.409 --> 00:45:41.289 and maybe the standards of those particular colleges 00:45:41.289 --> 00:45:43.650 that they really think their child should go 00:45:43.650 --> 00:45:46.789 to and say here's you know the general recruiting 00:45:46.789 --> 00:45:49.849 standards here here's where your child and here's 00:45:49.849 --> 00:45:53.489 where we're trying to go. The other category 00:45:53.489 --> 00:45:55.670 there might be you might find out as a coach 00:45:55.670 --> 00:45:58.960 yourself that you're causing a lot of. I'm sure 00:45:58.960 --> 00:46:01.159 you're striving for perfectionism in your athletes 00:46:01.159 --> 00:46:03.179 and not even realizing that you're putting so 00:46:03.179 --> 00:46:06.739 much pressure on being perfect rather than focusing 00:46:06.739 --> 00:46:11.079 on. The method to get there so we're focusing 00:46:11.079 --> 00:46:14.639 on process over the outcome that can take some 00:46:14.639 --> 00:46:16.940 of the pressure off of that you know of course 00:46:16.940 --> 00:46:18.659 everyone wants to win and that's the ultimate 00:46:18.659 --> 00:46:21.699 goal but we all know that so maybe focusing more 00:46:21.699 --> 00:46:25.840 on process goals so you say well this game. Here's 00:46:25.840 --> 00:46:28.460 where I want to see us do really well. It's in 00:46:28.460 --> 00:46:32.579 this particular passing or making sure that, 00:46:32.659 --> 00:46:35.599 you know, our we have accurate shots or whatever 00:46:35.599 --> 00:46:38.900 it may be for that particular sport. And then 00:46:38.900 --> 00:46:40.960 you can also see the breakdown of the personal 00:46:40.960 --> 00:46:44.519 pressure. So maybe this athlete is baby Tiana 00:46:44.519 --> 00:46:47.460 that just wanted to be perfect in every absolute 00:46:47.460 --> 00:46:50.380 area and doesn't feel confident in their own 00:46:50.380 --> 00:46:53.039 skills. Because one of the main questions on 00:46:53.039 --> 00:46:55.219 there is, do I feel like I've prepared myself 00:46:55.219 --> 00:46:58.800 properly to compete? So if they're constantly 00:46:58.800 --> 00:47:01.440 saying no to that, but you know that you've been 00:47:01.440 --> 00:47:04.300 preparing them the best that they can be prepared, 00:47:04.739 --> 00:47:06.420 then that's a conversation that could be had 00:47:06.420 --> 00:47:08.480 to make sure that their competence level is there 00:47:08.480 --> 00:47:10.679 just in their own abilities. And that's going 00:47:10.679 --> 00:47:14.719 to help improve that overall performance. Well, 00:47:14.820 --> 00:47:19.900 when would you say when and the frequency of 00:47:19.929 --> 00:47:23.909 This questionnaire would would be best best served 00:47:23.909 --> 00:47:27.869 for coaches. Yes, I don't think this is one where 00:47:27.869 --> 00:47:30.690 athletes are first starting out that it's as 00:47:30.690 --> 00:47:33.789 relevant because you may not see where the pressure 00:47:33.789 --> 00:47:35.750 is coming from yet, especially if it's something 00:47:35.750 --> 00:47:38.429 they haven't been doing for a little while. So 00:47:38.429 --> 00:47:41.170 I think this would be more so in the high school 00:47:41.170 --> 00:47:45.610 range. It may be relevant and some younger kids 00:47:45.610 --> 00:47:47.929 if they've been in their sport for a long time, 00:47:47.929 --> 00:47:51.079 but. You know, I'm seeing, I would think probably 00:47:51.079 --> 00:47:54.039 the biggest insight would come from a high school 00:47:54.039 --> 00:47:57.659 age athlete and someone who's a couple, you know, 00:47:57.800 --> 00:47:59.480 a year in. And then I think it's something you 00:47:59.480 --> 00:48:02.739 could do yearly because you could see has that 00:48:02.739 --> 00:48:05.360 score changed. Like maybe I found out as the 00:48:05.360 --> 00:48:07.519 coach that I'm putting too much pressure on my 00:48:07.519 --> 00:48:10.460 kids in one particular area or causing a negative 00:48:10.460 --> 00:48:13.190 outcome by the way that I'm approaching. you 00:48:13.190 --> 00:48:15.670 know, maybe an outcome. I'm saying, OK, we have 00:48:15.670 --> 00:48:18.269 to win in this particular way. And if I just 00:48:18.269 --> 00:48:22.030 change my language around it or I change my approach 00:48:22.030 --> 00:48:25.690 to how I am setting goals for my team, I can 00:48:25.690 --> 00:48:27.929 see the result of that changing year over year. 00:48:29.550 --> 00:48:33.409 Awesome. Yeah, but we definitely have this stuff 00:48:33.409 --> 00:48:36.329 to be able to help you. And if anyone has any 00:48:36.329 --> 00:48:40.989 questions about how to use this, how do you interpret 00:48:40.989 --> 00:48:44.159 the scores? We definitely love to help you out 00:48:44.159 --> 00:48:45.940 with that so that you can support your athletes 00:48:45.940 --> 00:48:49.820 the best way Kind of wanted to close by this 00:48:49.820 --> 00:48:55.780 thought here. I mean by no means is the Is our 00:48:55.780 --> 00:48:59.260 experience perfect was it perfect, you know and 00:48:59.260 --> 00:49:03.639 no one is perfect Ever, you know as a parent 00:49:03.639 --> 00:49:07.820 as an athlete as coach but really to strive to 00:49:07.820 --> 00:49:11.579 be the best we can to support kids for what they 00:49:11.579 --> 00:49:15.760 really want to do, I think is the best that we, 00:49:16.159 --> 00:49:18.099 it's the best outcome that you could get is to 00:49:18.099 --> 00:49:21.880 be supportive in a way that's adaptive to that 00:49:21.880 --> 00:49:26.079 athlete. So I know that Tiana and I, we've had 00:49:26.079 --> 00:49:29.380 some pretty fortunate experiences, but I know 00:49:29.380 --> 00:49:31.579 that that's not everyone's and that, you know, 00:49:31.780 --> 00:49:34.880 mine. was by no means perfect every step of the 00:49:34.880 --> 00:49:38.980 way, but it was definitely something I'm thankful 00:49:38.980 --> 00:49:42.360 for. And hopefully to shed more light on this, 00:49:42.659 --> 00:49:48.000 other athletes can have great experiences through 00:49:48.000 --> 00:49:51.780 more awareness around the added pressures that 00:49:51.780 --> 00:49:55.079 kids may be feeling these days. And that we definitely 00:49:55.079 --> 00:49:58.079 know that parents and coaches are experiencing 00:49:58.079 --> 00:50:01.449 these days because everyone wants to win. Everyone 00:50:01.449 --> 00:50:04.329 wants to charge you more money to play in this 00:50:04.329 --> 00:50:07.929 club or in this league We get it. There's a lot 00:50:07.929 --> 00:50:10.309 of stuff happening there but to really bring 00:50:10.309 --> 00:50:12.550 it back to what we have been talking about the 00:50:12.550 --> 00:50:15.869 whole time is the the well -being the benefit 00:50:15.869 --> 00:50:22.050 of the athlete themselves to constantly or frequently 00:50:22.050 --> 00:50:25.730 Be reflecting and remembering that bringing that 00:50:25.730 --> 00:50:29.329 to the forefront to the core is that It's really 00:50:29.329 --> 00:50:34.400 about supporting them Ultimately, we want all 00:50:34.400 --> 00:50:36.619 the lessons that we've learned in sports, which 00:50:36.619 --> 00:50:39.400 is what we feel like is one of the most valuable 00:50:39.400 --> 00:50:42.400 things that our careers have given us. We want 00:50:42.400 --> 00:50:44.659 to make sure that athletes are continuing to 00:50:44.659 --> 00:50:46.360 play their sports for as long as they can so 00:50:46.360 --> 00:50:49.579 they can benefit from those types of lessons 00:50:49.579 --> 00:50:54.079 and enrichment things that we got to experience 00:50:54.079 --> 00:50:56.480 along the way. Ultimately, the longer you love 00:50:56.480 --> 00:50:58.159 your sport and the longer you want to participate, 00:50:58.239 --> 00:51:01.079 the longer you'll stay in it. That's the ultimate 00:51:01.079 --> 00:51:04.380 goal here and we hope that this information can 00:51:04.380 --> 00:51:06.619 shed some light on that and help help somebody 00:51:06.619 --> 00:51:09.800 out. Thanks everybody for listening. If you do 00:51:09.800 --> 00:51:11.599 have any questions you want to reach out to us, 00:51:11.699 --> 00:51:13.739 please let us know. We'd love to work with you. 00:51:13.739 --> 00:51:18.739 Maybe we can shed some light into our guaranteed 00:51:18.739 --> 00:51:21.820 scholarship program that we have through our 00:51:21.820 --> 00:51:25.440 connect app and partnering with us. So thanks 00:51:25.440 --> 00:51:27.320 everybody for listening. We will catch you on 00:51:27.320 --> 00:51:29.159 the next one. Thanks.