WEBVTT 00:00:07.479 --> 00:00:10.300 Welcome to Unlimited Parenting. This is a show 00:00:10.300 --> 00:00:12.720 where we talk about what it's like to be parents 00:00:12.720 --> 00:00:15.960 of children with disabilities and or special 00:00:15.960 --> 00:00:19.679 health care needs. My name is Allison and I am 00:00:19.679 --> 00:00:24.620 joined today by the illustrious Melissa and the 00:00:24.620 --> 00:00:28.660 whimsical Sarah. And today we are going to be 00:00:28.660 --> 00:00:31.100 adjectives. I just came up with them on the fly. 00:00:31.160 --> 00:00:33.159 I don't know if I even know what they mean. Of 00:00:33.159 --> 00:00:36.939 course you do. Today we are. We are gathered 00:00:36.939 --> 00:00:42.240 here today to bring our own topics. Everyone 00:00:42.240 --> 00:00:44.939 has come to this table with a topic. Here we 00:00:44.939 --> 00:00:47.320 go. Okay. Sarah, you want to go first? Absolutely. 00:00:47.399 --> 00:00:49.600 I'd be delighted. What do you want to talk about 00:00:49.600 --> 00:00:52.259 today? Well, I had a hard time thinking about 00:00:52.259 --> 00:00:54.259 something, and then I just realized, you know 00:00:54.259 --> 00:00:57.740 what? There's the beginning of a new school year. 00:00:58.640 --> 00:01:01.960 It's our last year. Yeah. That's sad. It's been 00:01:01.960 --> 00:01:05.939 21 years of school. Oh, my God. i mean that's 00:01:05.939 --> 00:01:08.640 a lot of back school if you go back to yeah it's 00:01:08.640 --> 00:01:11.040 been a long time yeah because how old is boston 00:01:11.040 --> 00:01:15.180 he'll be he just turned 27 in the city hundreds 00:01:15.180 --> 00:01:19.239 of years boston my oldest just turned 27 so i've 00:01:19.239 --> 00:01:21.780 been doing school for a few years truman's in 00:01:21.780 --> 00:01:26.420 his in the last year of the 18 to 21 program 00:01:26.420 --> 00:01:30.640 and so i was thinking hey truman i love halloween 00:01:30.640 --> 00:01:35.269 i love holidays i love celebrating people and 00:01:35.269 --> 00:01:37.609 recognizing people it's the cheerleader in me 00:01:37.609 --> 00:01:41.329 and making people happy by doing things or making 00:01:41.329 --> 00:01:43.430 things for them or recognizing the good work 00:01:43.430 --> 00:01:45.769 that they do because we all put in a lot of work 00:01:45.769 --> 00:01:48.829 and what a missed opportunity to say that you 00:01:48.829 --> 00:01:51.250 weren't joyful Sarah instead of whimsical no 00:01:51.250 --> 00:01:53.609 right darn it well you didn't know her topics 00:01:53.609 --> 00:01:57.969 exactly so it sort of fits yeah so I was thinking 00:01:57.969 --> 00:02:04.209 that's what fills my bucket is making other people 00:02:04.209 --> 00:02:07.349 feel happy or feel seen or feel recognized. So 00:02:07.349 --> 00:02:10.669 you're a, what is that called? Like a gifts of? 00:02:10.930 --> 00:02:13.490 Acts of service. Acts of service. Thank you. 00:02:13.509 --> 00:02:16.129 Acts of service are part. That's your love language. 00:02:16.349 --> 00:02:19.310 For me to give to other people. I don't necessarily, 00:02:19.669 --> 00:02:22.629 like I do appreciate acts of service. Yes, definitely. 00:02:22.789 --> 00:02:26.409 But you love. I love. Sharing. When people feel 00:02:26.409 --> 00:02:30.229 seen. Share with me, Chester. Just people work 00:02:30.229 --> 00:02:33.520 hard. Sometimes go above and beyond. anyway back 00:02:33.520 --> 00:02:36.199 to the beginning of my i appreciate that about 00:02:36.199 --> 00:02:39.740 sarah i was thinking about this might take it 00:02:39.740 --> 00:02:43.000 a totally different way i'm not complaining but 00:02:43.000 --> 00:02:48.280 when you have a kid with a disability and they 00:02:48.280 --> 00:02:53.639 go to school and they have a teacher and they 00:02:53.639 --> 00:02:58.240 have a helper and they have a nurse, and they 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:01.659 have a parent, and they have PT, OT, all of the 00:03:01.659 --> 00:03:04.599 things. All the things. It kind of adds up. All 00:03:04.599 --> 00:03:07.800 the people. Yeah. When you're recognizing, especially 00:03:07.800 --> 00:03:10.280 at the end of the year, because I like to, it's 00:03:10.280 --> 00:03:12.900 a lot of work with our kids sometimes. Who has 00:03:12.900 --> 00:03:15.860 $800 for all those Starbucks gift cards? Uh -huh. 00:03:15.900 --> 00:03:19.020 That's what I'm saying. So I am, that is my topic, 00:03:19.099 --> 00:03:21.319 I guess, is like, we're coming up on Halloween. 00:03:22.039 --> 00:03:25.199 We're coming up on Thanksgiving. And then we 00:03:25.199 --> 00:03:29.099 go into Christmas. And then we go into Teacher 00:03:29.099 --> 00:03:32.379 Appreciation Week. Maysember. All of those things. 00:03:32.439 --> 00:03:35.080 Like it's constant, right? It's always something. 00:03:35.280 --> 00:03:39.219 And so I've graciously done it and I've enjoyed 00:03:39.219 --> 00:03:41.800 doing it. But I'm the kind of person that kind 00:03:41.800 --> 00:03:44.780 of goes overboard. Right? That's my topic. How 00:03:44.780 --> 00:03:48.400 do you guys feel about, because I definitely 00:03:48.400 --> 00:03:52.259 would never want to leave anybody out. Like, 00:03:52.379 --> 00:03:53.939 are you even getting stuff for the bus drivers? 00:03:54.379 --> 00:03:58.900 Absolutely. I just wish. I do. Yep. Yep. So I 00:03:58.900 --> 00:04:00.919 don't get, I don't want this to sound weird. 00:04:01.000 --> 00:04:03.280 No. I'm not trying to throw anybody under the 00:04:03.280 --> 00:04:07.159 bus. For typical students, I've never got anything 00:04:07.159 --> 00:04:13.479 for the bus driver. Because they may, they. They 00:04:13.479 --> 00:04:14.840 get on the bus and they sit down. They get on 00:04:14.840 --> 00:04:16.899 the bus and they sit down and don't make it hard. 00:04:17.000 --> 00:04:19.120 And they don't like try not to get on or off 00:04:19.120 --> 00:04:21.060 or something like my special needs child does. 00:04:21.319 --> 00:04:25.879 He makes it exponentially harder. So they earn 00:04:25.879 --> 00:04:27.740 that treat at the end of the school. You know 00:04:27.740 --> 00:04:29.639 what I mean? But I'm just like you, you know, 00:04:29.639 --> 00:04:34.240 we have an OT, a PT, a speech. We have four pairs 00:04:34.240 --> 00:04:37.959 in a class. It adds up. It's a lot. Right. And 00:04:37.959 --> 00:04:43.000 I really do enjoy giving. gifts and doing recognition 00:04:43.000 --> 00:04:45.879 when it's not obligatory like that yeah but it's 00:04:45.879 --> 00:04:51.139 also i also enjoy the theme of giving and creating 00:04:51.139 --> 00:04:56.480 so well and it's you've been on the other as 00:04:56.480 --> 00:04:59.879 like a preschool teacher receiving end and that 00:04:59.879 --> 00:05:02.019 has to feel really good to be recognized that 00:05:02.019 --> 00:05:04.980 for going it's it does make me feel nice but 00:05:04.980 --> 00:05:07.920 i'm just like it's been 20 something years and 00:05:07.920 --> 00:05:10.810 here i am Maybe I'm coming to the realization 00:05:10.810 --> 00:05:14.110 that this is it. This might be the last time 00:05:14.110 --> 00:05:18.310 to have that. You know what I would do if I were 00:05:18.310 --> 00:05:23.310 you? A picture of Truman. Print it out from the 00:05:23.310 --> 00:05:27.069 Walgreens. Like 800 of them, right? And then 00:05:27.069 --> 00:05:30.540 on the pack. you write a heartfelt message like 00:05:30.540 --> 00:05:33.160 don't forget me i hope i taught you something 00:05:33.160 --> 00:05:37.639 on your teaching journey so it's a low financial 00:05:37.639 --> 00:05:40.899 lift yeah but it's but it allows you to access 00:05:40.899 --> 00:05:43.740 that creativity and think of a memory that you 00:05:43.740 --> 00:05:47.360 loved most and say you know truman wants me to 00:05:47.360 --> 00:05:50.019 remind you of the time that you got out of the 00:05:50.019 --> 00:05:52.300 bus and slipped and fell trying to help him haha 00:05:52.300 --> 00:05:54.399 or something like that you know you mean me exactly 00:05:54.399 --> 00:05:57.420 or like like that i appreciate that because of 00:05:57.420 --> 00:06:01.180 you truman has learned to navigate his aac or 00:06:01.180 --> 00:06:03.819 something like that yeah that's what i would 00:06:03.819 --> 00:06:07.779 want i'm thinking of like when i was a registered 00:06:07.779 --> 00:06:11.680 behavioral therapist that's not what i was is 00:06:11.680 --> 00:06:13.399 that what i was because that it doesn't matter 00:06:13.399 --> 00:06:16.160 that gives you the opportunity to really personalize 00:06:16.160 --> 00:06:21.279 it for i love that yeah yeah thanks because i 00:06:21.279 --> 00:06:26.410 remember i even i even remember all my kids I 00:06:26.410 --> 00:06:28.189 wouldn't be able to recognize them anymore because 00:06:28.189 --> 00:06:30.250 they'd be like five or six years older. Yeah. 00:06:30.529 --> 00:06:33.470 But I would have loved to have had a little picture 00:06:33.470 --> 00:06:38.230 that just. That's sweet. I do remember that similar, 00:06:38.310 --> 00:06:40.810 something similar I did when he left middle school. 00:06:40.850 --> 00:06:44.290 I had him paint something with a picture of him. 00:06:44.350 --> 00:06:47.490 So yeah, that. You could even incorporate that 00:06:47.490 --> 00:06:49.949 as a picture and then do a drawing, you know. 00:06:50.050 --> 00:06:52.529 Yeah. From Truman or something. Yeah. That gives 00:06:52.529 --> 00:06:56.680 Truman an activity. Mm -hmm. you know i like 00:06:56.680 --> 00:06:59.720 that i might steal that too okay i might steal 00:06:59.720 --> 00:07:03.019 my own idea yeah i'm like dang that's not a bad 00:07:03.019 --> 00:07:05.540 idea because i don't i don't want to be i don't 00:07:05.540 --> 00:07:07.459 want to give you another teacher's mug right 00:07:07.459 --> 00:07:11.100 one teacher i know and everybody gets chops or 00:07:11.100 --> 00:07:17.459 hand sanitizer you know or i i do go to the pinterest 00:07:17.459 --> 00:07:19.879 and look for all the cute things and they're 00:07:19.879 --> 00:07:22.980 adorable are but but i guess maybe they are lacking 00:07:22.980 --> 00:07:26.959 that heartfelt message Yeah. And sometimes things 00:07:26.959 --> 00:07:30.100 that were appropriate earlier or later on in 00:07:30.100 --> 00:07:32.259 a child's life aren't anymore. So, for example, 00:07:32.379 --> 00:07:36.360 when Silas was in developmental pre -K, I got 00:07:36.360 --> 00:07:39.139 the teachers a bottle of wine that said, I know 00:07:39.139 --> 00:07:41.160 my kids, the reason you drink or something like 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:42.879 that. Yeah. It's not necessarily appropriate 00:07:42.879 --> 00:07:45.720 for Silas now because he's in a different stage 00:07:45.720 --> 00:07:49.779 of life. So it wouldn't be funny. Ha ha. If I 00:07:49.779 --> 00:07:52.100 did that the way that it was when he was four. 00:07:52.579 --> 00:07:55.810 Exactly. It almost be. really it almost be like 00:07:55.810 --> 00:07:58.709 well like this doesn't even make sense no yeah 00:07:58.709 --> 00:08:02.470 that's really helpful thank you for talking that 00:08:02.470 --> 00:08:05.550 out with me because here I am it's only mid -September 00:08:05.550 --> 00:08:08.709 and I'm stressing great about I know what am 00:08:08.709 --> 00:08:12.350 I getting reasons I think there's a hidden message 00:08:12.350 --> 00:08:15.910 in there that this is it gonna be yeah this is 00:08:15.910 --> 00:08:18.149 gonna be the last year that I get to do this 00:08:18.959 --> 00:08:21.120 I mean, I don't have to. I can continue to send 00:08:21.120 --> 00:08:24.180 them. I appreciate all the hard work you're doing. 00:08:24.339 --> 00:08:26.860 Every year you send them Hershey kisses. Right. 00:08:27.620 --> 00:08:31.579 But yeah, there's, it's been a long time I've 00:08:31.579 --> 00:08:34.919 been doing this. Yeah. But then it's also vinyl. 00:08:35.620 --> 00:08:37.480 Well, give us some examples of what you've done 00:08:37.480 --> 00:08:39.519 in the past. Oh my gosh. Well, right. Like I 00:08:39.519 --> 00:08:43.000 did the painting I made. You know how you, you 00:08:43.000 --> 00:08:46.620 can get those fridge magnet frames. Oh yeah. 00:08:46.720 --> 00:08:50.899 Uh -huh. you're my superhero and i did a hand 00:08:50.899 --> 00:08:52.840 print that's probably when i was teaching preschool 00:08:52.840 --> 00:08:55.419 did a hand print with different colors and then 00:08:55.419 --> 00:08:57.659 i made him each a different like superhero oh 00:08:57.659 --> 00:09:01.460 and then his picture and i've done that magnet 00:09:01.460 --> 00:09:05.120 that's a really good idea and i've done i've 00:09:05.120 --> 00:09:09.019 done little cups with you know the yeah cards 00:09:09.019 --> 00:09:13.720 and gift cards and things like that and he's 00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:16.419 painted them ornaments i made a christmas ornament 00:09:16.419 --> 00:09:22.970 on one side it's His picture like modged podged 00:09:22.970 --> 00:09:25.570 on one side and then something Christmassy on 00:09:25.570 --> 00:09:28.690 the other. Sarah, you were. I think we all need 00:09:28.690 --> 00:09:31.149 to collectively agree that we're only going to 00:09:31.149 --> 00:09:35.470 do one. So like you're either going to do Christmas 00:09:35.470 --> 00:09:37.990 or Teacher Appreciation Day or you're going to. 00:09:38.009 --> 00:09:40.809 We don't need to do all of it. Right. I know. 00:09:41.049 --> 00:09:45.649 And I mean, the ornaments were. If anyone's listening, 00:09:45.830 --> 00:09:48.669 they weren't expensive. I went to the dollar 00:09:48.669 --> 00:09:52.710 store. This is the most listened to. I went to 00:09:52.710 --> 00:09:56.110 the dollar store and I got like the pack of five 00:09:56.110 --> 00:09:58.750 Christmas ornaments for a dollar and then put 00:09:58.750 --> 00:10:01.730 the picture on the backside. And, you know, so 00:10:01.730 --> 00:10:05.009 it wasn't, I didn't break the bank. But your 00:10:05.009 --> 00:10:08.289 time and effort. Yeah. So I don't know. Okay. 00:10:08.409 --> 00:10:10.409 So those would be some fun things that I've done. 00:10:10.509 --> 00:10:14.049 I like that. Yeah. It gets me thinking more ahead 00:10:14.049 --> 00:10:17.389 and not just like last minute. I gotta go just 00:10:17.389 --> 00:10:19.169 get something. Like that's usually what I'm doing 00:10:19.169 --> 00:10:22.049 is the ray of. And then up to the store. You 00:10:22.049 --> 00:10:24.830 know what? Every year for the last like three 00:10:24.830 --> 00:10:27.009 years that we've done this, I don't ever get 00:10:27.009 --> 00:10:30.110 that vibe from you. But the vibe that I do, the 00:10:30.110 --> 00:10:33.269 last minute vibe I get from you is, oh my God, 00:10:33.330 --> 00:10:37.179 what am I going to do with this elf? Every year, 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:42.659 it's the elf. Yeah. So now I think I'm finally... 00:10:42.659 --> 00:10:49.100 I think the elf... Yeah. Elfie's gone? No, Elfie 00:10:49.100 --> 00:10:52.919 will come. But I think Elfie... I think my last 00:10:52.919 --> 00:10:56.490 child knows about Elfie. No. I think now the 00:10:56.490 --> 00:10:58.690 kids are going to be more a part of moving him. 00:10:58.769 --> 00:11:02.070 I think it's going to be more for surprise each 00:11:02.070 --> 00:11:04.710 other. Surprise each other. Yeah. So now it's 00:11:04.710 --> 00:11:08.490 just Archer's surprise. No, but I think. No, 00:11:08.529 --> 00:11:10.549 but all the other. I think the others will surprise 00:11:10.549 --> 00:11:13.610 Archer with moving the elf. But I have a feeling 00:11:13.610 --> 00:11:15.870 that this year Elfie is going to start doing 00:11:15.870 --> 00:11:19.049 like naughty stuff. He's not any longer going 00:11:19.049 --> 00:11:22.090 to be just like. Elfie's going to be a G -rated 00:11:22.090 --> 00:11:28.289 elf. Melissa, what's your topic? Okay. I think 00:11:28.289 --> 00:11:30.509 my topic. So I have been traveling a lot lately, 00:11:30.649 --> 00:11:39.970 right? And I think my topic is no one else can 00:11:39.970 --> 00:11:45.039 do it for you. Only you can let it in. I didn't 00:11:45.039 --> 00:11:47.399 have a topic, but now I do. I have a topic. Okay, 00:11:47.460 --> 00:11:50.620 so I've been traveling a lot. And I came to the 00:11:50.620 --> 00:11:52.080 realization that, you know, when you go through 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:54.860 security and you get all your stuff out of the 00:11:54.860 --> 00:11:59.700 bins, I very much think that the people that 00:11:59.700 --> 00:12:03.639 grab their bins and put them in the stack of 00:12:03.639 --> 00:12:06.159 the receptacle. And then pull our stuff out. 00:12:06.639 --> 00:12:09.240 No, I was like, don't leave the bins just there. 00:12:09.299 --> 00:12:11.620 Yes. They are the same people that put their 00:12:11.620 --> 00:12:14.799 shopping carts away. A hundred percent. Because 00:12:14.799 --> 00:12:19.120 I would never. You can tell so much about a person. 00:12:19.200 --> 00:12:22.480 Absolutely. By how they react after they have 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:24.320 a shopping cart and after they go through security. 00:12:24.480 --> 00:12:27.559 Because it is like, are you the most selfish 00:12:27.559 --> 00:12:30.159 person in the entire world? Or are you going 00:12:30.159 --> 00:12:33.870 to like. Do some norms, like 10 second extra. 00:12:34.029 --> 00:12:36.710 10 seconds. 10 seconds. Just put it in the pile. 00:12:36.929 --> 00:12:41.149 Maybe 20 a shot is coming. I will say it is. 00:12:42.929 --> 00:12:46.110 TSA to me is like a Costco in the sense that 00:12:46.110 --> 00:12:49.289 it's kind of hard to have a good attitude there. 00:12:49.549 --> 00:12:55.629 Yeah. Okay. Recently. Oh, girl. You don't have 00:12:55.629 --> 00:12:58.629 a. I was at Costco yesterday and this man told 00:12:58.629 --> 00:13:03.429 me. I don't leave my manners at the door like 00:13:03.429 --> 00:13:06.309 other people do when they come to Costco. And 00:13:06.309 --> 00:13:09.889 he looked at me and I was like, there are two, 00:13:09.990 --> 00:13:12.830 I couldn't, you know how I am. You know how I 00:13:12.830 --> 00:13:16.129 am. I stopped and I turned around and I said, 00:13:16.129 --> 00:13:18.350 there are two lanes of traffic at this Costco. 00:13:18.570 --> 00:13:21.450 Anyway, TSA, when we were, when we recently, 00:13:21.570 --> 00:13:26.809 this girl to your immediate left, she is TSA 00:13:26.809 --> 00:13:30.379 pre -checked. She went. out of her way to go 00:13:30.379 --> 00:13:34.159 with me an individual with social anxiety through 00:13:34.159 --> 00:13:38.120 the typical lane okay the things that she saw 00:13:38.120 --> 00:13:40.919 with me slumming it with the regular people and 00:13:40.919 --> 00:13:43.899 the way i was treated this man i'm laying over 00:13:43.899 --> 00:13:46.559 a woman's toes when she was trying to do exactly 00:13:46.559 --> 00:13:48.279 what you're talking about which is putting the 00:13:48.279 --> 00:13:51.440 bin back where it belongs with his little bit 00:13:51.440 --> 00:13:54.620 that he was going to take the bins and she looked 00:13:54.620 --> 00:13:57.320 up and she was like oh my god ow so i stopped 00:13:57.320 --> 00:13:58.940 what i was doing i walked over to her and i was 00:13:58.940 --> 00:14:01.990 like are you good like that was kind of violent 00:14:01.990 --> 00:14:04.710 and she was like an apology would have been nice 00:14:04.710 --> 00:14:07.870 and that guy i i was gonna say something to him 00:14:07.870 --> 00:14:10.350 i was so close and you believe it you know that 00:14:10.350 --> 00:14:14.929 i was yeah until i saw his shirt it said supervisor 00:14:14.929 --> 00:14:19.779 and i said there is There's no point. No. It's 00:14:19.779 --> 00:14:22.960 from the top. So that's what I mean when I say 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:27.159 it's almost like it's hard to be a good person. 00:14:27.320 --> 00:14:30.600 It's hard to be a good person. It is. Especially 00:14:30.600 --> 00:14:33.220 if that's what's happening. Right. Can I also 00:14:33.220 --> 00:14:35.639 say, do you want to tell this part about the 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:38.440 individual with a disability that we saw? Yeah. 00:14:38.539 --> 00:14:45.120 Was treated worse than any person I've ever seen. 00:14:45.200 --> 00:14:50.340 He used a... He was not elderly. He was probably 00:14:50.340 --> 00:14:53.600 mid -20s. Yeah, he was younger than me for sure. 00:14:53.919 --> 00:14:57.460 Used a, you could sit on it, but also push it. 00:14:57.539 --> 00:15:00.779 Yeah. Like our grandparents would. Yeah. Thank 00:15:00.779 --> 00:15:03.500 you. Exactly. It had a seat on it. A seated walker. 00:15:03.500 --> 00:15:05.340 Yes, exactly. Exactly. Not come up with the word. 00:15:05.360 --> 00:15:10.620 Great. And he, the guy's like, well, how are 00:15:10.620 --> 00:15:12.980 you going to get through? And he's like, well, 00:15:13.100 --> 00:15:18.159 I can't stand up. I can't walk. This man was 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:20.559 so nice. The individual with a disability. The 00:15:20.559 --> 00:15:25.059 kindest person. Very sweet. And so he's like 00:15:25.059 --> 00:15:27.460 taken off the pads to put him through the security. 00:15:27.960 --> 00:15:32.100 And the guy who was rude to me that was helping 00:15:32.100 --> 00:15:36.679 him also was like, well, come on over here this 00:15:36.679 --> 00:15:39.919 way. And like made him like sit right in the 00:15:39.919 --> 00:15:42.490 middle. everyone around him uh -huh he did not 00:15:42.490 --> 00:15:44.649 take him to a different room he was still and 00:15:44.649 --> 00:15:47.190 he was okay yeah okay he was waiting for him 00:15:47.190 --> 00:15:51.389 to go figure out how to deal with this poor guy 00:15:51.389 --> 00:15:56.269 right and just wow he went over and called someone 00:15:56.269 --> 00:15:58.889 over he's like i gotta help this guy like it 00:15:58.889 --> 00:16:02.820 was clear that he was put out for doing his job. 00:16:02.879 --> 00:16:06.519 Sarah was so uncomfortable. I was uncomfortable. 00:16:06.659 --> 00:16:08.779 I was prepared to watch the entire interaction 00:16:08.779 --> 00:16:11.820 from a distance. But Sarah leveled up her game 00:16:11.820 --> 00:16:14.059 and she walked right up to this man and she said, 00:16:14.120 --> 00:16:17.179 hey, are you all right? Like, well, he's sitting 00:16:17.179 --> 00:16:19.799 there waiting to get the other guy to get his 00:16:19.799 --> 00:16:21.620 help. He's like, I got to figure out how to deal 00:16:21.620 --> 00:16:24.179 with this guy. He literally said that. I have 00:16:24.179 --> 00:16:26.019 to figure out how to deal with this guy. Talking 00:16:26.019 --> 00:16:29.919 to the other TSA people in the stand. It's just 00:16:29.919 --> 00:16:32.720 another layer. Yeah. And I'm like, I didn't want 00:16:32.720 --> 00:16:34.460 to. I told Allison, I'm like, I don't want to 00:16:34.460 --> 00:16:37.830 leave. 100%. I don't want to leave. I want to 00:16:37.830 --> 00:16:39.429 make sure that he gets through. And I'm like, 00:16:39.509 --> 00:16:41.909 are you going to be okay? And he's like, yeah. 00:16:42.070 --> 00:16:44.450 Like, it obviously wasn't the first time. That 00:16:44.450 --> 00:16:47.309 was exactly the impression I got. Like, on the 00:16:47.309 --> 00:16:49.389 list of all the negative encounters that I've 00:16:49.389 --> 00:16:51.470 had, this one's probably not even in the bottom 00:16:51.470 --> 00:16:54.649 10. I hate that. I know. I hate that. The way 00:16:54.649 --> 00:16:58.350 that this man with a disability had to be the 00:16:58.350 --> 00:17:01.750 adult. He was not the adult. Gosh. He was alone. 00:17:02.230 --> 00:17:05.390 Right? Mm -hmm. And I have, I have seen, I have, 00:17:05.490 --> 00:17:07.789 you know, traveled with individuals with disabilities 00:17:07.789 --> 00:17:12.289 and you do get, you get some. I know. Disparaging 00:17:12.289 --> 00:17:16.009 looks and comments and it's already difficult 00:17:16.009 --> 00:17:20.130 to travel. Don't make it that much harder. Everyone 00:17:20.130 --> 00:17:22.609 has to be, and I swear to God, this is a fact. 00:17:22.930 --> 00:17:25.789 Everybody has to be in their worst mood when 00:17:25.789 --> 00:17:28.769 they travel. I know. You have to be in the worst 00:17:28.769 --> 00:17:31.609 mood possible or else you don't have thick enough 00:17:31.609 --> 00:17:34.140 skin to get through it. That's true. i know wow 00:17:34.140 --> 00:17:36.259 i'm like i know i don't have to go through pre 00:17:36.259 --> 00:17:39.279 wow because we don't have to that was nice line 00:17:39.279 --> 00:17:41.599 but i'm like i'm traveling with my friend i don't 00:17:41.599 --> 00:17:43.700 want her to travel alone i wasn't going to say 00:17:43.700 --> 00:17:45.980 i'm traveling with my friend who has social anxiety 00:17:45.980 --> 00:17:48.859 and a disability right he needs help he's like 00:17:48.859 --> 00:17:51.799 that's not my plan to say that oh i'm traveling 00:17:51.799 --> 00:17:56.220 with my friend and i what what do i need to do 00:17:56.220 --> 00:17:58.740 like i know we've all seen that funny meme like 00:17:58.740 --> 00:18:02.200 doing autism for the lady But as an autistic 00:18:02.200 --> 00:18:07.619 adult, like what do I need to do to get support? 00:18:07.980 --> 00:18:10.299 Yeah. Like they always say sunflower lanyard, 00:18:10.359 --> 00:18:13.539 just ask for help. So I do. And I ask, and then 00:18:13.539 --> 00:18:16.519 it must be the way that I come off or something, 00:18:16.700 --> 00:18:18.960 but people automatically look at me like, well, 00:18:19.059 --> 00:18:22.160 duh, all you gotta do is this. Like the day when 00:18:22.160 --> 00:18:25.180 I, I was, uh, nervous so I just started taking 00:18:25.180 --> 00:18:28.000 everything off to put it in the bin at the cell 00:18:28.000 --> 00:18:31.259 phone everything I took off my apple watch this 00:18:31.259 --> 00:18:34.920 man looked at me like I had just screamed bomb 00:18:34.920 --> 00:18:37.160 right he looked at me and he goes never take 00:18:37.160 --> 00:18:39.460 off your apple watch and I just stared at him 00:18:39.460 --> 00:18:41.299 and he was like and you can stop staring at me 00:18:41.299 --> 00:18:44.319 what is this in Boise yes and I just take my 00:18:44.319 --> 00:18:46.500 watch off every time and so I just put my watch 00:18:46.500 --> 00:18:48.759 back on and I was like I just stood there for 00:18:48.759 --> 00:18:50.539 a minute and he was like the line is right there 00:18:50.539 --> 00:18:52.960 and so then I had to go and walk in the line 00:18:52.960 --> 00:18:57.650 and The way I was so overstimulated, like I couldn't. 00:18:57.650 --> 00:18:59.349 And so people had to tell me everything twice. 00:18:59.890 --> 00:19:02.450 And I'm like, I got to get out. I got to get 00:19:02.450 --> 00:19:04.470 out of here. I got to get out of here. They make 00:19:04.470 --> 00:19:07.279 it. the absolute worst experience of your entire 00:19:07.279 --> 00:19:10.420 life right well i get i get i can't even imagine 00:19:10.420 --> 00:19:12.539 how annoying it is to say the same thing all 00:19:12.539 --> 00:19:15.279 day every day take your laptops out of your bag 00:19:15.279 --> 00:19:18.940 that's not your job i get it and there's no consistency 00:19:18.940 --> 00:19:21.539 if there was a consistency from airport to airport 00:19:21.539 --> 00:19:23.859 you wouldn't have to say all of that no so i 00:19:23.859 --> 00:19:25.779 didn't mean for my topic to turn into this i 00:19:25.779 --> 00:19:29.720 was over at pre and people are taking their shoes 00:19:29.720 --> 00:19:32.640 and belts off and i'm like I give up. I don't 00:19:32.640 --> 00:19:34.819 even know what's going on anymore. Should we 00:19:34.819 --> 00:19:38.440 just go through? But we should also clarify that 00:19:38.440 --> 00:19:41.940 in this past year, we've been to northern Idaho. 00:19:42.000 --> 00:19:43.960 We've been to Sacramento. We've been to Denver. 00:19:44.160 --> 00:19:47.579 We've been to D .C. Heck, last year I went to, 00:19:47.579 --> 00:19:51.039 I was in New Orleans. Like, it does not matter. 00:19:51.440 --> 00:19:53.519 I've never had a good experience. It's not like 00:19:53.519 --> 00:19:55.500 it's just the Boise airport or it's just the 00:19:55.500 --> 00:19:58.160 Reagan International. It doesn't matter. so that's 00:19:58.160 --> 00:20:00.960 what i think i think that you can tell a lot 00:20:00.960 --> 00:20:03.099 about a person if they put away their tsa bin 00:20:03.099 --> 00:20:04.880 and their shopping carts that's what i'm saying 00:20:04.880 --> 00:20:07.099 we need more people who will put away their tsa 00:20:07.099 --> 00:20:10.640 bins in the bin line yep we just need good people 00:20:10.640 --> 00:20:13.339 in the world yeah be the good you want to be 00:20:13.339 --> 00:20:16.640 the good and put yourself away god i wish we 00:20:16.640 --> 00:20:18.099 don't even need to do my topic we should just 00:20:18.099 --> 00:20:21.019 end on that line these are good well we um have 00:20:21.019 --> 00:20:22.900 you ever gone to like a baby shower and they 00:20:22.900 --> 00:20:25.720 are like give the new mom a bit of advice i always 00:20:25.720 --> 00:20:28.779 say park next to a cart return because that saved 00:20:28.779 --> 00:20:32.180 my life when i had absolutely but they won't 00:20:32.180 --> 00:20:36.369 let you say that now because now um Oh, girl. 00:20:36.950 --> 00:20:39.470 With all the trafficking stuff going on, they're 00:20:39.470 --> 00:20:41.450 like, never put your kids in the car and then 00:20:41.450 --> 00:20:43.089 walk away from your car. Like, even if you're 00:20:43.089 --> 00:20:44.470 putting the car. But that's what I mean. I used 00:20:44.470 --> 00:20:46.670 to park right next to the cart return so that 00:20:46.670 --> 00:20:49.450 I would push you right there. Oh, your kids were 00:20:49.450 --> 00:20:51.950 where you go. Okay. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. So 00:20:51.950 --> 00:20:55.230 that is a great advice. So I guess in concession 00:20:55.230 --> 00:20:57.690 for the non -cart returners. Yeah. If you are 00:20:57.690 --> 00:21:00.829 with your child. Okay. We will forgive you that 00:21:00.829 --> 00:21:05.390 one time. I make my kid do it. Run across the 00:21:05.390 --> 00:21:09.890 giant. Yeah, exactly. Run. I mean, in all fairness, 00:21:10.190 --> 00:21:14.289 your 11 year old is 5 '10". To be honest, I think 00:21:14.289 --> 00:21:16.710 he might be six foot. I just got home and he 00:21:16.710 --> 00:21:19.750 was the same height as my father. No. No. Uh 00:21:19.750 --> 00:21:22.390 -huh. Yeah. So the last week that I was gone, 00:21:22.589 --> 00:21:30.029 I think he grew. It's like, it's bad. I mean, 00:21:30.049 --> 00:21:33.809 there has to be some underlying something going 00:21:33.809 --> 00:21:35.910 on because he already had his genetics test. 00:21:36.150 --> 00:21:38.410 I know, and it was a little wackadoo, but it 00:21:38.410 --> 00:21:41.029 wasn't anything crazy. But I don't think that 00:21:41.029 --> 00:21:43.950 typical children grow like that, even when they 00:21:43.950 --> 00:21:46.869 have cow hormones like you have yours. Yeah, 00:21:46.890 --> 00:21:50.390 I don't know. I know. Maybe he'll stop. Six foot 00:21:50.390 --> 00:21:53.970 at 11 years old. Even my 18 -year -old who I 00:21:53.970 --> 00:21:57.509 saw this week was... way bigger than the last 00:21:57.509 --> 00:22:00.230 time I left him. I was like, are you just like 00:22:00.230 --> 00:22:02.089 looking at your children without your glasses 00:22:02.089 --> 00:22:04.450 on and then coming back and putting them on? 00:22:04.549 --> 00:22:08.089 Yeah, that could be. And you're like, crap. No, 00:22:08.089 --> 00:22:11.049 my kid's legs. Like he's been working out. I'm 00:22:11.049 --> 00:22:13.730 like, oh my word. I just saw you two months ago. 00:22:13.809 --> 00:22:18.049 Red shirt who? Look at you. A what? A gray. What 00:22:18.049 --> 00:22:20.630 does that mean? It's about the same as red shirt. 00:22:20.670 --> 00:22:23.990 Okay. Yeah. You digress. I digress. It wouldn't 00:22:23.990 --> 00:22:28.779 be worth it. Well, what's yours? My topic is, 00:22:29.119 --> 00:22:33.740 I don't know. Okay, well, I mean, I know what 00:22:33.740 --> 00:22:35.900 my topic is, but now I don't know if it's like, 00:22:36.039 --> 00:22:40.059 it's maybe not a good fit for this with the previous 00:22:40.059 --> 00:22:44.240 topics. My topic was, it just, it kind of feels 00:22:44.240 --> 00:22:45.759 like now that everyone else has given their topic, 00:22:45.799 --> 00:22:47.680 it's like complain hour, but that's not what 00:22:47.680 --> 00:22:52.160 it is. Before you started working here, you didn't 00:22:52.160 --> 00:22:55.009 have any children with disabilities, right? The 00:22:55.009 --> 00:22:56.630 answer is yes, because that's why people come 00:22:56.630 --> 00:22:58.750 into this work, right? Because we had children 00:22:58.750 --> 00:23:00.849 with disabilities. That's why we're all here. 00:23:00.930 --> 00:23:03.150 Oh, okay. Sure. Did that make no sense? Sorry. 00:23:03.269 --> 00:23:05.289 Didn't make sense because I did work at another 00:23:05.289 --> 00:23:08.049 place with a child. You mean we wouldn't have 00:23:08.049 --> 00:23:10.589 thought to work here? You wouldn't be here without 00:23:10.589 --> 00:23:12.210 a child with a disability. Like no one was in 00:23:12.210 --> 00:23:14.710 high school saying, I want to work at a PTI when 00:23:14.710 --> 00:23:19.009 I grow up. 100%. So my question is, before you 00:23:19.009 --> 00:23:21.329 had children with disabilities, what were you 00:23:21.329 --> 00:23:25.519 going to do? What was your life path when you 00:23:25.519 --> 00:23:27.940 charted your life corners? Oh, really? But then 00:23:27.940 --> 00:23:29.880 when I realized that I would have had to maybe 00:23:29.880 --> 00:23:35.200 put them asleep. Oh, no way. Oh, I don't want 00:23:35.200 --> 00:23:38.819 to do that. Yeah. Yeah. And then like the other 00:23:38.819 --> 00:23:41.319 Melissa that we saw at the conference because 00:23:41.319 --> 00:23:44.500 she wanted to be a vet. Oh, yeah. I'm pretty 00:23:44.500 --> 00:23:46.700 sure she wanted to be a veterinarian. Yeah, she 00:23:46.700 --> 00:23:48.599 did. Because then you made that comment and I 00:23:48.599 --> 00:23:50.039 was like, oh, my God, that's right. You wanted 00:23:50.039 --> 00:23:53.430 to be a vet, too. That's right. Yeah. And then 00:23:53.430 --> 00:23:55.329 I was going to be, then I was going to do like 00:23:55.329 --> 00:23:58.589 ultrasound for a while. On animals again? No, 00:23:58.670 --> 00:24:02.410 on humans. But then I, when I got like in that 00:24:02.410 --> 00:24:04.509 track, I was looking and there was way too much 00:24:04.509 --> 00:24:06.789 math that was necessary. How about I just do 00:24:06.789 --> 00:24:09.089 a business and that's where we ended up. Why 00:24:09.089 --> 00:24:11.109 do you need so much math to wave a wand on a 00:24:11.109 --> 00:24:14.109 body? I don't know. It was like science math. 00:24:14.309 --> 00:24:16.329 Right? You would think business would not even 00:24:16.329 --> 00:24:19.970 require science math. Yeah. But calculus too. 00:24:20.939 --> 00:24:23.500 And whatever math that I had already done in 00:24:23.500 --> 00:24:26.720 high school was sufficient. Yeah. Okay. Well, 00:24:26.759 --> 00:24:29.400 because when I tried to go to BSU for a business 00:24:29.400 --> 00:24:31.420 major, they told me I had to go all the way to 00:24:31.420 --> 00:24:35.039 calculus. And I said, girl. Hey, no. Because 00:24:35.039 --> 00:24:37.539 I would not have done that. Thank you. That makes 00:24:37.539 --> 00:24:39.599 me. Well, me for business management, I went 00:24:39.599 --> 00:24:42.019 business management, human resources. So I don't 00:24:42.019 --> 00:24:45.039 know if that removed. I bet it did. I don't know. 00:24:45.079 --> 00:24:48.019 I just needed to get out of there with no more 00:24:48.019 --> 00:24:51.750 math classes. Truth. Yeah. Because it hurt. It 00:24:51.750 --> 00:24:55.009 hurt the brain. No, I would never. Even up until 00:24:55.009 --> 00:24:59.009 five years ago, I wouldn't have considered this 00:24:59.009 --> 00:25:04.170 line of work. Yeah. Yeah. I just didn't know 00:25:04.170 --> 00:25:06.289 it. Because even in no existence. Even doing 00:25:06.289 --> 00:25:08.789 it, like being a parent of a child with a disability, 00:25:08.950 --> 00:25:11.529 several in fact. And I remember being like, I'm 00:25:11.529 --> 00:25:14.329 not expert enough. Yeah, we are. It's always 00:25:14.329 --> 00:25:16.970 like an imposter syndrome type of thing. Absolutely. 00:25:16.970 --> 00:25:20.569 We kind of say that all the time. Oh, yeah. You 00:25:20.569 --> 00:25:22.829 know, I tell parents I give not we don't give 00:25:22.829 --> 00:25:25.529 advice, but we give resources and such that sometimes 00:25:25.529 --> 00:25:28.549 I haven't even used. I need to be using them. 00:25:29.109 --> 00:25:31.910 Yeah. What about you, Sarah? Where were you going 00:25:31.910 --> 00:25:35.809 to be? And you kind of are here, though, right? 00:25:35.930 --> 00:25:41.549 I was I was two classes plus student teaching 00:25:41.549 --> 00:25:45.630 away from a teaching degree. And then I had a 00:25:45.630 --> 00:25:50.740 baby with complex medical needs. jeez talk about 00:25:50.740 --> 00:25:54.160 a whole change of just your life everything different 00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:59.519 so i teach different in different ways did you 00:25:59.519 --> 00:26:01.279 always want to be a teacher like even when you 00:26:01.279 --> 00:26:03.740 were little little five years old really it never 00:26:03.740 --> 00:26:05.579 changed it was always teacher and did yours ever 00:26:05.579 --> 00:26:09.099 change was it always bet oh yeah really my mind 00:26:09.099 --> 00:26:12.940 fluctuated so much really yeah so from like five 00:26:12.940 --> 00:26:16.960 to 13. i'm in my poor sister Sit through class 00:26:16.960 --> 00:26:27.039 so many times. Yeah. I'm going to spank you if 00:26:27.039 --> 00:26:30.559 you don't do your homework. Oh, yeah. Old school. 00:26:30.900 --> 00:26:34.619 I was old with my dogs. And my brother would 00:26:34.619 --> 00:26:36.660 have to bring them. He was the client and he 00:26:36.660 --> 00:26:39.019 would have to bring them. And he would just drop 00:26:39.019 --> 00:26:41.660 them off and I'd weigh them and stuff. Cute. 00:26:42.940 --> 00:26:46.059 Well, cute. Well, what about you? Well, when 00:26:46.059 --> 00:26:48.119 I was younger, I was gonna be a famous singer. 00:26:48.279 --> 00:26:50.880 Oh. Like, it wasn't an option. I was gonna be 00:26:50.880 --> 00:26:54.480 a famous singer. And then I realized I'm... Did 00:26:54.480 --> 00:26:57.259 you do, like, choir and stuff? Oh, yeah. I had 00:26:57.259 --> 00:27:01.339 private singing lessons. I did choir. Did you 00:27:01.339 --> 00:27:04.190 do that? No. You guys are always so sweet. Yeah, 00:27:04.329 --> 00:27:06.809 you just drop these random. I had private singing 00:27:06.809 --> 00:27:09.710 lessons. I showed dogs. It's like, what? Those 00:27:09.710 --> 00:27:12.349 are not normal. I mean, I wanted to be an actress 00:27:12.349 --> 00:27:14.589 too. I was in drama and all those things, but 00:27:14.589 --> 00:27:17.809 teaching is sort of like that. But no, I didn't 00:27:17.809 --> 00:27:21.069 know that about you. Then. Busted out. Let's 00:27:21.069 --> 00:27:29.369 do it. I did. No. Come on. Then I did a, I wasn't 00:27:29.369 --> 00:27:32.690 like, okay, let's be very, very for real here. 00:27:33.369 --> 00:27:36.730 I did maybe 15 lessons because I wasn't as good 00:27:36.730 --> 00:27:39.089 as I wanted to be. So I figured, why do it at 00:27:39.089 --> 00:27:42.309 all? Of singing? And that was kind of my mantra 00:27:42.309 --> 00:27:44.890 in life is that if I couldn't be perfect, I wasn't 00:27:44.890 --> 00:27:48.109 going to do it at all. It's very much a problem. 00:27:49.089 --> 00:27:51.250 Was it like, did you ever consider going on American 00:27:51.250 --> 00:27:54.170 Idol? No, no, I'm not. No, I'm not that good. 00:27:54.329 --> 00:28:00.089 Okay. But I, so part of the lessons was, you 00:28:00.089 --> 00:28:02.549 know, like match your voice to an instrument. 00:28:03.119 --> 00:28:05.819 So, like, some girls, like, looking at you, Hayley 00:28:05.819 --> 00:28:08.460 Williams from Paramore, have really pretty voices 00:28:08.460 --> 00:28:12.680 when they're paired with guitars. My voice pairs 00:28:12.680 --> 00:28:19.180 best with a piano. A harp. A trumpet. My voice 00:28:19.180 --> 00:28:22.119 pairs best with a pair of noise -canceling headphones. 00:28:22.640 --> 00:28:27.160 No, but for real. I don't know why harp just 00:28:27.160 --> 00:28:35.309 came to me. Okay. Okay. When I was seven, I used 00:28:35.309 --> 00:28:37.990 to make my dad listen to me sing along to Celine 00:28:37.990 --> 00:28:41.549 Dion, and he would be like, honey, please. Bring 00:28:41.549 --> 00:28:44.910 me the noise canceling. Oh, my word. At seven. 00:28:45.029 --> 00:28:47.950 I wish that there was, like, is there photographic 00:28:47.950 --> 00:28:49.750 evidence of that? Oh, yeah, there's videos of 00:28:49.750 --> 00:28:53.490 me singing into a webcam. Who will save your 00:28:53.490 --> 00:28:58.009 soul? From 2001. I can find it. Yeah, you need 00:28:58.009 --> 00:29:02.119 to. Yes, please. And then I wanted to be the 00:29:02.119 --> 00:29:04.359 CEO of a company. I didn't care which company. 00:29:04.460 --> 00:29:07.480 I just wanted to be the boss. So then I went 00:29:07.480 --> 00:29:11.299 to, see, now this is kind of funny. I went to 00:29:11.299 --> 00:29:14.519 school for business. And then I realized you 00:29:14.519 --> 00:29:16.539 had to take calculus. So I had to back out. So 00:29:16.539 --> 00:29:18.079 you went to business because you didn't have 00:29:18.079 --> 00:29:20.740 to take as much math. I had to back out of business 00:29:20.740 --> 00:29:22.960 because it was too much math. I think we were 00:29:22.960 --> 00:29:25.119 in some different catalog years. We were in different 00:29:25.119 --> 00:29:28.019 catalog years. We were separated by some years. 00:29:28.759 --> 00:29:31.200 This was back when you needed to know how to 00:29:31.200 --> 00:29:36.299 count to ten to graduate. We had an abacus. I 00:29:36.299 --> 00:29:40.880 can't count to ten. I'm not that old. Oh, my 00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:43.000 gosh. We had to learn how to use that to teach 00:29:43.000 --> 00:29:47.809 math. Are you kidding? I could never do it. That 00:29:47.809 --> 00:29:51.289 was the hardest math class I've ever had. It 00:29:51.289 --> 00:29:53.569 wasn't like differential algebra. It was applicants 00:29:53.569 --> 00:29:57.730 101. Learned how to teach math. Math. Math, math. 00:29:58.089 --> 00:30:01.549 My golly. And that was so hard. What? What is 00:30:01.549 --> 00:30:03.369 this? I can't be doing this. Oh, wow. I can't 00:30:03.369 --> 00:30:06.450 be living this life. No. No. It wasn't until 00:30:06.450 --> 00:30:08.789 recently that I wanted to be a librarian. That 00:30:08.789 --> 00:30:10.750 was not like a lifelong goal. It wasn't? I can 00:30:10.750 --> 00:30:13.450 imagine that that wasn't. No. That's just been 00:30:13.450 --> 00:30:16.210 very recent, but I'm curious. what what do you 00:30:16.210 --> 00:30:18.529 guys think i would want to do like what vibes 00:30:18.529 --> 00:30:21.250 do i give librarian hard librarian vibes well 00:30:21.250 --> 00:30:26.789 um you give like like lead clerk at air apostle 00:30:26.789 --> 00:30:32.930 well no like like a loud library can you imagine 00:30:32.930 --> 00:30:36.049 me at the bmb i'd be like hurry up can i tell 00:30:36.049 --> 00:30:38.470 you that when i checked in at the tick and kate 00:30:38.470 --> 00:30:41.509 yesterday the lady was like the dmv slot that 00:30:41.509 --> 00:30:46.079 he was utopia she was like i would pass away 00:30:46.079 --> 00:30:49.640 i would pass away robin i was like are you seeing 00:30:49.640 --> 00:30:51.980 what i'm seeing this is utopia and he was like 00:30:51.980 --> 00:30:55.480 yep she was so slow pressing the buttons it was 00:30:55.480 --> 00:31:00.839 the end of her day um librarian librarian ah 00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:03.799 yeah what about me okay yeah so no yeah i was 00:31:03.799 --> 00:31:06.119 thinking about this is a really fun game okay 00:31:07.459 --> 00:31:11.539 Teacher. You give, I work at, okay, this is wild. 00:31:11.740 --> 00:31:13.920 This is wild. And you guys are going to completely 00:31:13.920 --> 00:31:15.960 disagree with me, but I just want you to know 00:31:15.960 --> 00:31:18.019 it's the truth and I won't accept any other answers. 00:31:18.119 --> 00:31:24.079 You give, I work at the Mac makeup counter. Today, 00:31:24.259 --> 00:31:26.400 I'm not wearing makeup. No, you don't even have 00:31:26.400 --> 00:31:30.059 to wear makeup. She is so happy, so bubbly. I 00:31:30.059 --> 00:31:31.920 can find the solution to any problem. You have 00:31:31.920 --> 00:31:34.640 red, I can color correct. You need the cool tone, 00:31:34.740 --> 00:31:37.680 you need the warm tone. And I also say this because 00:31:37.680 --> 00:31:39.680 when I go to the MAC makeup counter, I know that 00:31:39.680 --> 00:31:41.539 I am about to be very, and it's funny because 00:31:41.539 --> 00:31:43.740 I never wear makeup, but I did a lot when I was 00:31:43.740 --> 00:31:47.720 little. Just tons of MAC makeup. But I always 00:31:47.720 --> 00:31:51.779 felt, yeah, I always felt so like taken care 00:31:51.779 --> 00:31:54.140 of at a MAC makeup counter. And I knew I was 00:31:54.140 --> 00:31:55.759 never going to leave with like lipstick on my 00:31:55.759 --> 00:31:57.460 teeth or, you know what I mean? Like I was going 00:31:57.460 --> 00:32:00.099 to look good. Like they did my senior pictures. 00:32:00.220 --> 00:32:04.119 They did my wedding pictures. I hired. oh uh 00:32:04.119 --> 00:32:07.359 -huh you could do that you can i hired the manager 00:32:07.359 --> 00:32:10.359 at mac i said this is my wedding day i know you 00:32:10.359 --> 00:32:13.240 could do that i want to look phenomenal give 00:32:13.240 --> 00:32:15.339 me the best of the best and they said you can 00:32:15.339 --> 00:32:18.599 and she's 300 an hour and i said it that's great 00:32:18.599 --> 00:32:21.119 you go in there and they did it no they came 00:32:21.119 --> 00:32:24.559 to me they come with their traveling makeup bag 00:32:24.559 --> 00:32:27.099 i had no idea this is what year did i get married 00:32:27.099 --> 00:32:31.839 2011. okay oh my 2011 300 an hour wow in 11. 00:32:32.059 --> 00:32:33.900 anyway i would have paid any amount of money 00:32:33.900 --> 00:32:36.039 for her she was so great my husband was late 00:32:36.039 --> 00:32:40.279 to our wedding and she was like girl i gotta 00:32:40.279 --> 00:32:45.470 stop what if i have to take all of this off Oh 00:32:45.470 --> 00:32:50.849 my God. And I said, I said, put this whole face 00:32:50.849 --> 00:32:52.789 of makeup on because if this day goes down, I 00:32:52.789 --> 00:32:55.450 want to look hot when it does. And she was like, 00:32:55.509 --> 00:32:59.029 Oh, I love you. Yeah. Okay. So you give, you 00:32:59.029 --> 00:33:02.369 give you're in good hands with all state. So 00:33:02.369 --> 00:33:04.230 I'm going to give you Mac makeup counter. You 00:33:04.230 --> 00:33:09.869 on the other hand are a bar back. Oh, you work 00:33:09.869 --> 00:33:13.900 at a bar late at night. Yes. You work at a bar. 00:33:13.920 --> 00:33:18.359 Really? Absolutely. Okay. Because you are quick. 00:33:18.579 --> 00:33:21.660 You are. You are on it. You can management. You 00:33:21.660 --> 00:33:25.160 need to close out your tab. Did you bring an 00:33:25.160 --> 00:33:28.079 extra thing of whatever to table number 33? Like 00:33:28.079 --> 00:33:31.460 you're the boss of the bar. No crowd is going 00:33:31.460 --> 00:33:34.200 to rile you up. You are in control of everything. 00:33:34.259 --> 00:33:36.599 You walk in and you go, I don't know if that's 00:33:36.599 --> 00:33:38.019 like the correct term, but like a bar manager. 00:33:38.400 --> 00:33:41.779 Yeah. You walk in and you're like. Interesting. 00:33:41.859 --> 00:33:44.319 You think that my, you think that you can pull 00:33:44.319 --> 00:33:46.680 this on me when I have a disabled child? You 00:33:46.680 --> 00:33:48.759 can walk right out of Humpin' Hannah's and try 00:33:48.759 --> 00:33:54.119 again. Like you look concerned. No, don't be 00:33:54.119 --> 00:33:58.779 sad. What did you think I was going to say? What 00:33:58.779 --> 00:34:01.740 vibes do I give? Do you want to try again now 00:34:01.740 --> 00:34:03.359 that you gave me something nice like librarian? 00:34:03.740 --> 00:34:06.299 Give librarian vibes though. Like you want people 00:34:06.299 --> 00:34:09.340 to read. I want people to learn. And the programs. 00:34:11.000 --> 00:34:14.539 And I look very homely. Not in a negative way. 00:34:14.679 --> 00:34:17.500 No, not in a negative way. You are approachable 00:34:17.500 --> 00:34:21.199 in a library. But I very much look like I'd rather 00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:23.960 sit there and smell the book than pick out a 00:34:23.960 --> 00:34:27.820 mascara. Like that. I mean, come on. You want 00:34:27.820 --> 00:34:31.179 people to learn and be their best. Yeah. Okay, 00:34:31.260 --> 00:34:33.019 well, what jobs would have you given each other? 00:34:33.380 --> 00:34:38.440 I would have given her a teacher. Like, I know 00:34:38.440 --> 00:34:41.590 that's really basic, but I think Sarah's... Or 00:34:41.590 --> 00:34:43.949 like a good teacher. You could also. I want to 00:34:43.949 --> 00:34:47.829 get Neil Teicher. I know. Or you know what else 00:34:47.829 --> 00:34:50.030 she kind of gives? You can handle all the. Hospital 00:34:50.030 --> 00:34:52.630 administrator. What I think is really interesting 00:34:52.630 --> 00:34:56.159 is you mentioned the fact that you. passed on 00:34:56.159 --> 00:34:57.820 being a vet because there was something that 00:34:57.820 --> 00:35:00.260 you couldn't do. Yeah. And then the two of us 00:35:00.260 --> 00:35:03.440 are like, you could do anything. You are here 00:35:03.440 --> 00:35:05.960 because you could do anything. The animals, not 00:35:05.960 --> 00:35:08.219 the animals. Put the animals down. That is like 00:35:08.219 --> 00:35:11.340 the most vulnerable people get. And you go in 00:35:11.340 --> 00:35:14.219 with your animal and then you leave without your 00:35:14.219 --> 00:35:16.760 animal. And I've done that numerous times. And 00:35:16.760 --> 00:35:20.159 I go to the vet. That's the curve 2024. I know. 00:35:20.239 --> 00:35:23.150 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it would be like my ducks. 00:35:23.329 --> 00:35:26.469 I could get rid of my ducks. So I have just surrounded 00:35:26.469 --> 00:35:29.210 myself with animals. And they're never going 00:35:29.210 --> 00:35:33.090 to die. Well, yeah. Exactly. So it's interesting 00:35:33.090 --> 00:35:35.420 that you thought of this topic because... So 00:35:35.420 --> 00:35:37.719 I wouldn't have ever thought of going into anything 00:35:37.719 --> 00:35:41.500 disability related. However, my children, my 00:35:41.500 --> 00:35:44.480 daughter, because she has grown up in this world, 00:35:44.519 --> 00:35:46.780 is going to school to be a pediatric physical 00:35:46.780 --> 00:35:49.340 therapist. That's so wild. But this would never 00:35:49.340 --> 00:35:51.139 have happened had she not had a little brother 00:35:51.139 --> 00:35:54.019 that needed those services. And she went with 00:35:54.019 --> 00:35:57.719 us to all of those appointments. I don't think 00:35:57.719 --> 00:35:59.300 that would have been in her wheelhouse. Because 00:35:59.300 --> 00:36:01.079 I think people are always just trying to find 00:36:01.079 --> 00:36:03.739 something that they're passionate about. They 00:36:03.739 --> 00:36:08.739 want to have a purposeful life. And she says, 00:36:08.760 --> 00:36:12.800 I saw what good it did for Reese, and I want 00:36:12.800 --> 00:36:15.260 to be that in other people's lives, in kids' 00:36:15.420 --> 00:36:19.199 lives. Because it was play that made a difference. 00:36:19.380 --> 00:36:21.400 I'm going to really make a difference in this 00:36:21.400 --> 00:36:23.420 kid's life from a physical therapy standpoint. 00:36:23.900 --> 00:36:25.800 So I think that's kind of cool how our kids now, 00:36:25.900 --> 00:36:29.139 because of their siblings. Yeah. Yeah. They're 00:36:29.139 --> 00:36:32.000 very passionate. Well, that's a quick recap. 00:36:32.639 --> 00:36:34.639 I want everyone to go around the room and say 00:36:34.639 --> 00:36:38.420 something nice about themselves. I could be a 00:36:38.420 --> 00:36:41.579 barback. You could. You'd be so good, too. You 00:36:41.579 --> 00:36:44.420 would be so good. Sarah, what would you be good 00:36:44.420 --> 00:36:48.619 at? Making people happy. Yes. Helping people 00:36:48.619 --> 00:36:51.079 be happy. I can't make people be happy. Girl, 00:36:51.079 --> 00:36:52.639 that's the dream. Helping people find their happiness. 00:36:52.679 --> 00:36:57.019 Helping people find their good. You do that to 00:36:57.019 --> 00:37:00.000 us. You do 100%. I'll tell you that. Thanks, 00:37:00.039 --> 00:37:01.599 because sometimes I don't feel like it. I walk 00:37:01.599 --> 00:37:04.159 in here a little bit grumpy. That's fine. Everybody 00:37:04.159 --> 00:37:06.099 does. That's totally normal. That's part of the 00:37:06.099 --> 00:37:10.860 human condition. And me. You. I'm funny. Even 00:37:10.860 --> 00:37:13.139 if other people don't think I'm funny, I laugh 00:37:13.139 --> 00:37:15.599 at myself. And that's all that matters at the 00:37:15.599 --> 00:37:17.159 end of the day. You would be the funny librarian. 00:37:17.500 --> 00:37:19.139 I would be the funny librarian. I would be like, 00:37:19.159 --> 00:37:21.420 there was the purple librarian, the purple lady 00:37:21.420 --> 00:37:25.460 at the library. Oh my God, that's right. So you 00:37:25.460 --> 00:37:27.840 would be them. I would wear Miss Frizzle dresses 00:37:27.840 --> 00:37:31.619 if I worked at the library. 100%. I would wear 00:37:31.619 --> 00:37:33.480 Miss Frizzle dresses and I would get everybody 00:37:33.480 --> 00:37:35.460 in a group and I would read a book out loud and 00:37:35.460 --> 00:37:38.170 I would act it out with puppets. And I could 00:37:38.170 --> 00:37:49.030 sing. You could. I could sing. Thank you so much, 00:37:49.030 --> 00:37:51.349 everyone out there, for listening in. 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