WEBVTT 00:00:07.750 --> 00:00:11.730 Welcome to Unlimited Parenting. This is a podcast 00:00:11.730 --> 00:00:14.289 where we talk about what it's like having children 00:00:14.289 --> 00:00:18.449 with disabilities or and special healthcare needs. 00:00:19.070 --> 00:00:25.870 Today is everyone's favorite series. Is it? It 00:00:25.870 --> 00:00:28.609 is. That's what I hear on the interwebs. Do they 00:00:28.609 --> 00:00:30.170 tell you that? They do tell me that. That's what 00:00:30.170 --> 00:00:33.289 I say. Our best ones are this. I do hear that 00:00:33.289 --> 00:00:36.500 often, frequently. forthcoming information um 00:00:36.500 --> 00:00:39.539 bring like that makes me a little scared does 00:00:39.539 --> 00:00:41.979 it i think it's just real it's like a lot of 00:00:41.979 --> 00:00:44.679 pressure though can i introduce this sorry yeah 00:00:44.679 --> 00:00:54.799 my bad bring your own topic oh my god now i'm 00:00:54.799 --> 00:00:57.000 nervous at my topic today isn't gonna be a good 00:00:57.000 --> 00:01:00.100 one why it always ends up being they always end 00:01:00.100 --> 00:01:03.119 up being great i can make fun of anything that's 00:01:03.119 --> 00:01:06.510 true I'm just kidding. Well, who wants to go 00:01:06.510 --> 00:01:09.390 first? I always go first. The random name generator 00:01:09.390 --> 00:01:11.549 says Sarah. Okay. Sarah, would you like to go 00:01:11.549 --> 00:01:13.390 first? I would absolutely love to go first. Sarah, 00:01:13.430 --> 00:01:17.769 tell me. Drum roll, please. I hope it's exciting. 00:01:17.989 --> 00:01:24.290 Anyway. Next. It kind of has to do with some 00:01:24.290 --> 00:01:28.870 things we're working on with our youth to adulthood 00:01:28.870 --> 00:01:34.480 projects. Well, I mean, no, no, I'm sorry. Go 00:01:34.480 --> 00:01:38.620 ahead. But we're putting together some activities 00:01:38.620 --> 00:01:41.900 and outcomes for 10 to 13 year olds thinking 00:01:41.900 --> 00:01:44.760 about planning for adulthood. That is so wild 00:01:44.760 --> 00:01:46.579 to me. I know. Right. I can't get because I have 00:01:46.579 --> 00:01:50.879 our kids. I know. And so I went to Melissa and 00:01:50.879 --> 00:01:53.359 I said, you know what? What's Archer like to 00:01:53.359 --> 00:01:56.879 do? He's 11. What are some things that he is 00:01:56.879 --> 00:01:58.840 really interested in so that when we're planning 00:01:58.840 --> 00:02:02.060 this, we're not just getting people who are adults 00:02:02.060 --> 00:02:05.859 thinking we know what 10 and 13, 10, 11, 12, 00:02:06.000 --> 00:02:09.319 13 year olds like and are wanting to do because 00:02:09.319 --> 00:02:12.300 when they're in a classroom. they have certain 00:02:12.300 --> 00:02:15.180 things they have to do but outside of the classroom 00:02:15.180 --> 00:02:18.620 what are your kids doing my kids are 19 and older 00:02:18.620 --> 00:02:20.599 right now and it's different than when we were 00:02:20.599 --> 00:02:23.460 absolutely and when i was 10 and 13 i wasn't 00:02:23.460 --> 00:02:25.580 even then allowed inside the house during the 00:02:25.580 --> 00:02:29.000 day so well hold on hold on i'm not trying to 00:02:29.000 --> 00:02:32.979 age you here I'm just saying, like, we didn't 00:02:32.979 --> 00:02:36.159 have screens. No. When we were younger. When 00:02:36.159 --> 00:02:40.879 I was 10. It was 1987. I know. Yeah. It was 1987 00:02:40.879 --> 00:02:44.500 when I was 10. So 1987. That is so wild because 00:02:44.500 --> 00:02:47.939 I was not even. 1991. Yeah. That's when I was 00:02:47.939 --> 00:02:53.759 10 to 13. I know. I am of the same age. You didn't 00:02:53.759 --> 00:02:56.080 come from India. The streetlights came off. Okay. 00:02:56.620 --> 00:03:01.800 10 to 13 would have been 99 to... For you. Yeah, 00:03:01.879 --> 00:03:05.500 for me, 10 to 13 would have been 99 to 2001. 00:03:06.000 --> 00:03:09.919 Okay. Two. Yeah. So, I mean, yeah, we grew up 00:03:09.919 --> 00:03:12.300 in different times, but neither of us had screens. 00:03:13.159 --> 00:03:15.800 True. There were no... iPads weren't invented. 00:03:16.139 --> 00:03:18.319 I mean, he had Saturday morning cartoons. You 00:03:18.319 --> 00:03:23.439 had, but you had, like... the internet. You had 00:03:23.439 --> 00:03:27.300 computers. Al Gore did invent the internet in 00:03:27.300 --> 00:03:29.539 my lifetime. Yeah. But didn't you have like handheld 00:03:29.539 --> 00:03:33.879 game? You know what? You know what? When I was 00:03:33.879 --> 00:03:36.280 about 13, I think is when the Game Boy came out. 00:03:36.379 --> 00:03:39.240 So yeah, that's fair. Okay. We didn't have like 00:03:39.240 --> 00:03:42.479 Kiwi and Coke kits. Yeah, no kidding. Like my 00:03:42.479 --> 00:03:45.840 little... I didn't have a VR. Yeah. Kids these 00:03:45.840 --> 00:03:49.300 days. So here we go. When I was 10 to 13, we 00:03:49.300 --> 00:03:52.259 were at the park, the playground. Sometimes we'd 00:03:52.259 --> 00:03:55.159 wander around the mall with our parents. What's 00:03:55.159 --> 00:03:57.659 a mall? Exactly, right? We were talking about 00:03:57.659 --> 00:04:00.020 that earlier. Or we would go to the library and 00:04:00.020 --> 00:04:03.180 things like that. The Wild Waters. Yeah. Wild 00:04:03.180 --> 00:04:07.680 Waters. Oh my gosh. No, Wild Waters was over 00:04:07.680 --> 00:04:11.750 there across from McDonald's. On the fun zone 00:04:11.750 --> 00:04:14.310 at the park. Oh, my gosh. Are we going to reminisce 00:04:14.310 --> 00:04:17.990 or talk about transition? Anywho. Sorry. I wanted 00:04:17.990 --> 00:04:21.850 to know what things would get a 10 to 13 -year 00:04:21.850 --> 00:04:25.569 -old's interest so that we could plan our activities 00:04:25.569 --> 00:04:29.189 and outreach where they are and not what we think 00:04:29.189 --> 00:04:33.610 that they want to see or do or hear. Have you 00:04:33.610 --> 00:04:35.689 done any of that focus group type stuff? Have 00:04:35.689 --> 00:04:39.899 you been surprised? not really surprised because 00:04:39.899 --> 00:04:42.379 i'm like i try to stay i mean your kids help 00:04:42.379 --> 00:04:44.920 me stay in touch and i'm not like an old fuddy 00:04:44.920 --> 00:04:47.879 -duddy where i'm not involved in the tick -tock 00:04:47.879 --> 00:04:53.699 right and so and my my kids are pretty trendy 00:04:53.699 --> 00:04:57.480 so it's like yeah for sure so i i just wanted 00:04:57.480 --> 00:05:00.220 to know like what are they what are they interested 00:05:00.220 --> 00:05:02.860 in and i know their attention span is worse than 00:05:02.860 --> 00:05:06.860 mine and that's about 30 seconds so um yeah you 00:05:06.860 --> 00:05:09.060 know what are Where are we going to get to them? 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:14.220 But it is kind of cool to see the evolution of 00:05:14.220 --> 00:05:18.579 it. Like kids are using, like you said, VR. Like 00:05:18.579 --> 00:05:22.399 kids are using VR for employment. Back in our 00:05:22.399 --> 00:05:26.519 day. Milk carton. Right? Uh -huh. Cereal box. 00:05:26.540 --> 00:05:31.680 Milk carton. Well, there were like. Yeah, yeah. 00:05:32.180 --> 00:05:34.899 It's like a happy meal. Or missing children on 00:05:34.899 --> 00:05:38.339 the milk carton. Or a billboard, you know, like, 00:05:38.339 --> 00:05:41.459 there, don't do drugs. And it was different than 00:05:41.459 --> 00:05:44.839 it is now. Because kids are, I mean, they're 00:05:44.839 --> 00:05:46.680 just accessing information. Which is absolutely 00:05:46.680 --> 00:05:51.180 fine. Yeah. And we're evolving. Yep. I just think 00:05:51.180 --> 00:05:56.550 it's kind of cool to see it now. Kids, they do. 00:05:56.629 --> 00:05:59.269 They play. And you wouldn't think that it's employment 00:05:59.269 --> 00:06:03.009 unless you really think about it. But I mean, 00:06:03.029 --> 00:06:05.910 there's pressure washing games on the VR. There 00:06:05.910 --> 00:06:09.990 is a restaurant. There's office game. Like it's 00:06:09.990 --> 00:06:13.550 simulation and they are filing. And it blows 00:06:13.550 --> 00:06:16.230 my mind. Everything. Silas was a car mechanic. 00:06:16.509 --> 00:06:19.410 Yes. That's crazy. I forgot about the mechanic 00:06:19.410 --> 00:06:22.870 when there are. There are. I'm just blown away 00:06:22.870 --> 00:06:25.980 by the realism because he was. kind of stepping 00:06:25.980 --> 00:06:28.060 out of his little circle. Are you drawing the 00:06:28.060 --> 00:06:30.079 VR? And I'm like, what are you trying to do in 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:32.180 your game right now? He's like, well, I'm not 00:06:32.180 --> 00:06:35.600 tall enough to reach the highest shelf, so I 00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:37.720 have to get my stool in the game, and it's just 00:06:37.720 --> 00:06:39.779 outside of the circle I've drawn for myself. 00:06:39.980 --> 00:06:42.000 So I'm just trying to get my stool so I can get 00:06:42.000 --> 00:06:46.180 to the top of the shelf. And I'm like, wow. You 00:06:46.180 --> 00:06:51.269 know what I think would be so cool is if... If 00:06:51.269 --> 00:06:54.769 there was a way to create a VR from the lens 00:06:54.769 --> 00:06:57.930 of a person with disabilities for us so that 00:06:57.930 --> 00:07:00.649 we could see what that looks like every single 00:07:00.649 --> 00:07:02.569 day. Do you know what it means? Yes. Like the 00:07:02.569 --> 00:07:05.829 schizophrenia simulators. You know, they have 00:07:05.829 --> 00:07:08.769 those like you could do like a blind, visually 00:07:08.769 --> 00:07:12.230 impaired simulator. Or I know this is a family 00:07:12.230 --> 00:07:14.610 show, but like the drunk simulator for when you're 00:07:14.610 --> 00:07:18.259 learning what it's like to. Drive a car intoxicated. 00:07:18.339 --> 00:07:21.639 So I went to a communication class about because 00:07:21.639 --> 00:07:24.740 my son uses an AAC device and I went to a communication 00:07:24.740 --> 00:07:28.360 class and they said for a day only use that device. 00:07:28.519 --> 00:07:31.379 And are all of your words in there? Because that 00:07:31.379 --> 00:07:34.199 should tell you that you need a robust vocabulary. 00:07:34.899 --> 00:07:37.779 And it was things as simple as like, does your 00:07:37.779 --> 00:07:42.709 individual have an opportunity to express? Like, 00:07:42.930 --> 00:07:45.290 are they, is there a square word on there? That 00:07:45.290 --> 00:07:47.949 is their right. And I'm like, oh my gosh, I had 00:07:47.949 --> 00:07:49.670 never thought about any of that stuff. Anyways, 00:07:49.810 --> 00:07:52.129 totally tangent. I didn't mean to take over. 00:07:52.209 --> 00:07:55.529 But still, like, yeah, what are our kids interested 00:07:55.529 --> 00:07:58.490 in? Yeah. I mean, I was in my kitchen the other 00:07:58.490 --> 00:08:01.009 day and my Alexa was showing me all sorts of 00:08:01.009 --> 00:08:04.209 different pop -ups of what they think I need 00:08:04.209 --> 00:08:06.230 to buy at the store, what they think I need to 00:08:06.230 --> 00:08:11.350 watch on TV based on conversations or... Things 00:08:11.350 --> 00:08:14.550 that I'm interested in. And so what if, you know, 00:08:14.589 --> 00:08:17.389 what if that had a pop -up of something like 00:08:17.389 --> 00:08:19.110 that? I don't know. That's way down the road. 00:08:19.170 --> 00:08:22.910 But those types of things where they're already 00:08:22.910 --> 00:08:26.170 here in front of our faces or where our kids 00:08:26.170 --> 00:08:30.410 are already accessing them. Yeah. Neato. So, 00:08:30.490 --> 00:08:33.909 yeah, you guys had some really cool VR ideas. 00:08:34.409 --> 00:08:37.110 Jessie had a thought this weekend. Tell me. To 00:08:37.110 --> 00:08:41.860 do, because she's going to do a... fair up in 00:08:41.860 --> 00:08:45.659 Coeur d 'Alene and a family day fair I can't 00:08:45.659 --> 00:08:47.600 remember the name of it but she thought can we 00:08:47.600 --> 00:08:50.100 make a coloring book for kids with transition 00:08:50.100 --> 00:08:53.980 activities oh that is such a good idea absolutely 00:08:53.980 --> 00:08:56.379 yes you cannot would be such a great thing to 00:08:56.379 --> 00:09:01.500 do to give away my word I know yeah great idea 00:09:01.500 --> 00:09:03.580 I know that's me in a doctor's appointment today 00:09:03.580 --> 00:09:09.289 oh sorry right have you what did you find something 00:09:09.289 --> 00:09:13.230 new that you like to do volunteer or um you know 00:09:13.230 --> 00:09:16.669 i don't know did you help help i don't know did 00:09:16.669 --> 00:09:20.450 you do your chores today yeah did you brush your 00:09:20.450 --> 00:09:23.049 teeth did you i mean right you know what i mean 00:09:23.049 --> 00:09:25.090 i thought you were asking mary in general did 00:09:25.090 --> 00:09:28.409 you i mean it could be it could be fun ideas 00:09:28.409 --> 00:09:32.350 about employment and discovery and self -advocacy 00:09:32.350 --> 00:09:34.850 or that is a brilliant you know what i mean yeah 00:09:34.850 --> 00:09:38.169 so i haven't ever thought about that I hate that. 00:09:38.250 --> 00:09:39.710 Because we don't have time to think. Good job. 00:09:39.830 --> 00:09:42.649 I know. That's brilliant. I love that. I love 00:09:42.649 --> 00:09:45.429 that she's thinking about those things. I do 00:09:45.429 --> 00:09:49.169 too. Anyway, so that's my thought was what are 00:09:49.169 --> 00:09:52.330 our 10 to 13 year olds interested in and how 00:09:52.330 --> 00:09:55.370 we're getting their information. And Jessie is 00:09:55.370 --> 00:09:58.250 the closest thing we have to a 10 to 13 year 00:09:58.250 --> 00:10:02.009 old. She's still a youth. She is. She is. Maybe 00:10:02.009 --> 00:10:03.990 that's why she has some. She has all the good 00:10:03.990 --> 00:10:07.320 ideas. And she has a different perspective, too, 00:10:07.379 --> 00:10:10.500 because she's also a sibling. So she's had to 00:10:10.500 --> 00:10:13.039 entertain her sibling. And she's probably come 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:15.399 up with a lot of different ways, aside from a 00:10:15.399 --> 00:10:18.299 caregiver, how to hang out with her sibling. 00:10:18.559 --> 00:10:21.000 I love it when Jessie talks about her, too, because 00:10:21.000 --> 00:10:23.340 it's a sibling. It's just a normal sibling relationship. 00:10:23.600 --> 00:10:26.919 She's like, she's annoying. You know? And that's 00:10:26.919 --> 00:10:29.500 what is one of my most favorite things. kids 00:10:29.500 --> 00:10:32.279 are annoyed by their sibling just in the normal 00:10:32.279 --> 00:10:35.559 sibling annoyance right it's not because he has 00:10:35.559 --> 00:10:37.320 a disability endearing and you're like don't 00:10:37.320 --> 00:10:38.700 talk to your brother like that and you're like 00:10:38.700 --> 00:10:40.799 that's a regular conversation that i've always 00:10:40.799 --> 00:10:45.110 had with yes Non -regular situation. I love that. 00:10:45.230 --> 00:10:48.090 I caught a couple of glimpses of that this weekend. 00:10:48.210 --> 00:10:50.129 They were annoyed at him just because he was 00:10:50.129 --> 00:10:52.669 being annoying. Not because of that TikTok you 00:10:52.669 --> 00:10:55.669 shared with us. Yeah. I loved that so much. The 00:10:55.669 --> 00:10:58.929 random name simulator says Melissa's shoes. I 00:10:58.929 --> 00:11:01.230 don't. Can I see that random? No, you cannot. 00:11:01.350 --> 00:11:05.529 This is an audio only podcast. So you're not 00:11:05.529 --> 00:11:10.039 able to access. Okay. The reason I thought of 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:12.120 this is because I caught myself several times 00:11:12.120 --> 00:11:16.080 this weekend. With your hand in the cookie jar? 00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:19.019 Uh -oh. If we would have had cookies, it would 00:11:19.019 --> 00:11:20.940 have definitely been in there, but I didn't. 00:11:20.940 --> 00:11:23.600 We didn't have any cookies. No. I will turn on 00:11:23.600 --> 00:11:28.000 shows for my kid. that I think he wants to watch, 00:11:28.179 --> 00:11:31.259 and he watches them temporarily. Daniel Tiger 00:11:31.259 --> 00:11:35.100 was one example. I love Daniel Tiger. And he's 00:11:35.100 --> 00:11:38.799 off in his own world doing... Not Daniel. Oh, 00:11:39.299 --> 00:11:41.379 okay. Okay, following along. I'm like, Daniel 00:11:41.379 --> 00:11:43.940 does exist in his own world, though. You're right. 00:11:44.039 --> 00:11:46.700 He does, and he's so endearing. And so then I 00:11:46.700 --> 00:11:49.860 just found myself at multiple points this weekend. 00:11:50.559 --> 00:11:52.639 Just staring at the TV watching Daniel Tiger, 00:11:52.799 --> 00:11:55.580 Brave. Brave was another one that I turned on, 00:11:55.639 --> 00:11:57.779 thought he would love, but nope, he took off 00:11:57.779 --> 00:12:00.960 and went and played with some Play -Doh. Brave 00:12:00.960 --> 00:12:03.019 isn't where the mom turns into the bear. What 00:12:03.019 --> 00:12:05.940 a twist. Sorry if I've ruined that for you. It's 00:12:05.940 --> 00:12:11.159 been about five hours. I think I love Braves 00:12:11.159 --> 00:12:14.360 so much because of all of the little redheaded 00:12:14.360 --> 00:12:18.120 children that reminds me of my family. They're 00:12:18.120 --> 00:12:22.240 just crazy boys running around. But at very, 00:12:22.460 --> 00:12:26.039 there was three, so multiple times this weekend, 00:12:26.100 --> 00:12:31.240 I found myself just watching cartoons or videos. 00:12:32.080 --> 00:12:35.080 So Bluey is one that I would absolutely stop. 00:12:35.200 --> 00:12:37.039 It wasn't on this weekend, though. So it was 00:12:37.039 --> 00:12:39.840 Daniel Tiger. It was... What was that one we 00:12:39.840 --> 00:12:41.759 were just talking about? I lost it. Brave. I 00:12:41.759 --> 00:12:46.139 saw it in my head. And then it was... Notorial 00:12:46.139 --> 00:12:49.299 one. It's the Bruno one. Nobody talks to Bruno. 00:12:49.519 --> 00:12:52.019 That one was on, too. I keep trying to say Coco, 00:12:52.179 --> 00:12:57.259 and I know that's not it. In Canaveral. So those 00:12:57.259 --> 00:13:00.820 were all on, and multiple times, I was the only... 00:13:01.120 --> 00:13:04.480 human being in our home watching them. I wasn't 00:13:04.480 --> 00:13:07.100 the intended recipient of these. I turned them 00:13:07.100 --> 00:13:08.899 on so that I could work in the yard and then 00:13:08.899 --> 00:13:10.480 I would come in and get a glass of water once 00:13:10.480 --> 00:13:14.820 in there. Yeah, so I bring this to you to say, 00:13:14.960 --> 00:13:17.539 what are some of your favorite children's shows 00:13:17.539 --> 00:13:20.100 that you find yourself being very drawn into? 00:13:20.320 --> 00:13:24.360 Scooby -Doo. Yes. Scooby -Doo would get me every 00:13:24.360 --> 00:13:26.720 single time. And the Smurfs. I don't know why. 00:13:26.879 --> 00:13:29.899 Oh my word. I've heard good about the Smurfs. 00:13:29.940 --> 00:13:34.320 And the Care Bears. Wow. This is a blast from 00:13:34.320 --> 00:13:37.779 the past. Yeah. We talked about the Fun Zone. 00:13:37.980 --> 00:13:40.559 Wow. The Fun Zone. The Care Bears. I've never 00:13:40.559 --> 00:13:43.440 felt so left out of my own activity. Yeah. But 00:13:43.440 --> 00:13:46.500 also The Wizard of Oz. I'll watch that over and 00:13:46.500 --> 00:13:47.639 over and over again. That's a very good one. 00:13:47.720 --> 00:13:54.940 Okay. My kids are only watching... clips on youtube 00:13:54.940 --> 00:13:59.080 of youtubers playing games and i don't want any 00:13:59.080 --> 00:14:03.919 part of that and and while i was watching daniel 00:14:03.919 --> 00:14:06.659 tiger i thought i'm really glad this isn't youtube 00:14:06.659 --> 00:14:09.220 because it wouldn't draw me in and the same mr 00:14:09.220 --> 00:14:12.000 beast is not gonna give me what daniel tiger 00:14:12.000 --> 00:14:15.840 gives me in fact this is not my topic but i will 00:14:15.840 --> 00:14:18.419 just say this briefly it's a little disturbing 00:14:19.240 --> 00:14:23.720 what you can find on youtube kids even with an 00:14:23.720 --> 00:14:28.399 age restriction that is like less than 13. really 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:32.799 sad yes because she remember a couple years ago 00:14:32.799 --> 00:14:35.240 god my daughter's gonna listen to this podcast 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:38.779 in like 15 years and hate me um A couple of years 00:14:38.779 --> 00:14:40.940 ago on YouTube, there was that grimace. I think 00:14:40.940 --> 00:14:43.000 you really. Remember that? I don't really think 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:44.419 that. You don't think she's going to listen to 00:14:44.419 --> 00:14:47.100 it? You know what? What if I'm famous and cool 00:14:47.100 --> 00:14:51.220 and she's like, this is. This one time. I'm imagining. 00:14:53.019 --> 00:14:55.419 So that's what was happening this weekend. Okay. 00:14:55.440 --> 00:14:57.559 Okay. Is she, remember the grimace shake? Yeah. 00:14:57.799 --> 00:15:00.879 And the grimace would come and on the live children 00:15:00.879 --> 00:15:05.159 and. What? Oh, yeah. There was like a seedy underbelly 00:15:05.159 --> 00:15:07.679 of that. There was a whole trend where grimace 00:15:07.679 --> 00:15:11.419 would just show up and on a live, the person 00:15:11.419 --> 00:15:13.759 and teenagers thought it was super cool. Anyway, 00:15:13.899 --> 00:15:16.980 my child. You get to parts of the internet. Yeah. 00:15:17.399 --> 00:15:20.500 You can get there on YouTube, kids. What? Is 00:15:20.500 --> 00:15:23.340 what I'm trying to tell you here. Wow. So my 00:15:23.340 --> 00:15:26.480 daughter is under the age of eight. Wow. And 00:15:26.480 --> 00:15:30.519 I deleted YouTube, like YouTube proper. And she 00:15:30.519 --> 00:15:34.120 has YouTube kids. And she's still, because at 00:15:34.120 --> 00:15:36.779 first it starts with a song that goes something 00:15:36.779 --> 00:15:39.919 along the lines of, yes, it's so delicious and 00:15:39.919 --> 00:15:41.960 something like that. So it sounds fun and catchy 00:15:41.960 --> 00:15:45.100 to sing. So then she's clicking through the videos 00:15:45.100 --> 00:15:48.519 and all of a sudden grimaces unaliving someone. 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:54.139 And she's frightened and this youth is laying 00:15:54.139 --> 00:15:58.120 in a pool of purple. right oh and so everly is 00:15:58.120 --> 00:16:01.779 like i'm just imagining oh that grimace is here 00:16:01.779 --> 00:16:04.320 and so she's really upset so i'm saying all of 00:16:04.320 --> 00:16:06.600 this to say like these videos are terrible right 00:16:06.600 --> 00:16:10.960 but maybe turn on the daniel tiger because even 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:15.419 youtube kids can take you to some places that 00:16:15.419 --> 00:16:18.279 I'm like looking at her age restriction and I'm 00:16:18.279 --> 00:16:21.320 like, there is no way that you should have been 00:16:21.320 --> 00:16:23.340 able to get this. But that's on me, right? As 00:16:23.340 --> 00:16:26.460 her parent to like, I don't want to have her 00:16:26.460 --> 00:16:29.799 over her shoulder while she watches. Well, but 00:16:29.799 --> 00:16:32.600 I guess that is just, that is a good warning 00:16:32.600 --> 00:16:37.379 to say, don't just put all of your stock on YouTube 00:16:37.379 --> 00:16:40.360 kids and age. Yes. Right. Yeah. Do diligence 00:16:40.360 --> 00:16:43.309 as a parent and use it as a, as a teaching moment 00:16:43.309 --> 00:16:46.090 or a conversation starter and open lines of community 00:16:46.090 --> 00:16:49.129 you know that yeah relationship yeah just tell 00:16:49.129 --> 00:16:51.549 her that grandma shakes yes thank you that's 00:16:51.549 --> 00:16:54.429 true and i mean it's not that you saw anything 00:16:54.429 --> 00:16:57.649 but grimace would show up and then the kid would 00:16:57.649 --> 00:17:00.529 be laying in the it was a limited time thing 00:17:00.529 --> 00:17:04.089 i know but i feel bad because i got scarred for 00:17:04.089 --> 00:17:08.029 life from chucky yeah when i was when i was five 00:17:08.029 --> 00:17:14.019 that's fair And she's seven. That's true. Yeah. 00:17:14.619 --> 00:17:17.460 But she's such a sweet soul. She can't handle 00:17:17.460 --> 00:17:20.160 that. My other boys, they're fine. They could 00:17:20.160 --> 00:17:24.460 care less. But she is so just deeply in tuned 00:17:24.460 --> 00:17:27.460 with emotions. Well, when you look at the Grimace 00:17:27.460 --> 00:17:30.460 character, it's purple. It's fluffy. Like it's. 00:17:30.680 --> 00:17:33.299 I even, I tried to do that. I'm like, let's watch 00:17:33.299 --> 00:17:35.420 an old McDonald's commercial with Grimace. And 00:17:35.420 --> 00:17:37.119 then she just saw him and just started crying. 00:17:37.460 --> 00:17:39.740 And I'm like, but he was never like that. Anyway. 00:17:40.039 --> 00:17:42.660 I digress. Anywho, that's all. Those were mine. 00:17:42.839 --> 00:17:45.359 I just, at various points of this weekend, I 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:47.799 was watching some shows. That's awesome. I know 00:17:47.799 --> 00:17:50.740 cartoons just take you back. They do. Maybe that's 00:17:50.740 --> 00:17:53.920 what it was that I just needed to like, it's 00:17:53.920 --> 00:17:58.259 kind of a reset. Yeah. Yeah. At Daniel Tiger's 00:17:58.259 --> 00:18:01.930 mom. I know. She just gets an A plus every day. 00:18:02.049 --> 00:18:04.069 But I feel that way about Bluey's parents too. 00:18:04.150 --> 00:18:05.950 So if it had been Bluey, it would have been very 00:18:05.950 --> 00:18:09.009 similar. I just, I love them. I feel them. I 00:18:09.009 --> 00:18:12.250 see them. They make me feel seen. Really? They 00:18:12.250 --> 00:18:15.049 make me feel bad. What? They make me feel bad. 00:18:15.069 --> 00:18:18.549 Like, why can't I always respond? You do. So 00:18:18.549 --> 00:18:21.710 the positive discipline -y. The Bluey episode 00:18:21.710 --> 00:18:25.950 that I saw that the car was so dirty. Oh, the 00:18:25.950 --> 00:18:29.940 stickers. I just never felt. seen by a cartoon 00:18:29.940 --> 00:18:33.519 like that before. Oh, 100%. And they always have 00:18:33.519 --> 00:18:36.960 snacks. Yeah. And they bicker. And that does 00:18:36.960 --> 00:18:38.819 make me feel better. Yeah. That does make me 00:18:38.819 --> 00:18:42.140 feel better. Anywho. I suppose it's my turn then. 00:18:42.339 --> 00:18:46.519 The other random name selector. Allison. Chose 00:18:46.519 --> 00:18:51.259 you. I choose you. So my topic is something that 00:18:51.259 --> 00:18:54.079 you guys already kind of know about. Wow, how 00:18:54.079 --> 00:18:56.680 weird that we all picked like technology related 00:18:56.680 --> 00:19:01.480 things. Oh, yeah. Oh, now I know what I'm going 00:19:01.480 --> 00:19:04.519 to do. I spent too much time on TikTok. It's 00:19:04.519 --> 00:19:07.180 a real problem. It's a disease. It's an addiction. 00:19:07.500 --> 00:19:09.839 That's what it was going to be. What did you 00:19:09.839 --> 00:19:11.420 think it was going to be? I thought it was going 00:19:11.420 --> 00:19:15.519 to be the skylight calendar. Oh, my God. Oh, 00:19:15.660 --> 00:19:18.539 my God. Can I talk about the skylight calendar 00:19:18.539 --> 00:19:22.519 for 900? If you don't have a skylight calendar, 00:19:22.740 --> 00:19:26.380 get one. I'm not sponsored. Can I say one thing, 00:19:26.400 --> 00:19:28.259 Will, before I talk about my real topic? Okay, 00:19:28.339 --> 00:19:31.180 I'm sorry. The only thing that makes the skylight 00:19:31.180 --> 00:19:34.660 calendar, like, not undefeatable, like, if there 00:19:34.660 --> 00:19:37.359 was one more thing that this son of a gun had, 00:19:37.500 --> 00:19:40.140 it would be the best thing in the world. A visual 00:19:40.140 --> 00:19:43.769 timer. If the skylight calendar with how I have 00:19:43.769 --> 00:19:46.569 the max, so the 28 inch one that hangs on my 00:19:46.569 --> 00:19:51.430 wall, if I could use that as a visual timer for 00:19:51.430 --> 00:19:55.309 my kids, that would be life changing. Skylight 00:19:55.309 --> 00:19:57.450 calendar, if you're listening, you can have that 00:19:57.450 --> 00:20:00.049 idea for free. I'm surprised they don't. I'm 00:20:00.049 --> 00:20:02.910 surprised not. I looked. So maybe I'm wrong and 00:20:02.910 --> 00:20:04.960 I'm just not looking hard enough. But, you know, 00:20:04.980 --> 00:20:06.960 you can have pictures on it. You can have to 00:20:06.960 --> 00:20:10.079 -do lists. Like it's supposed to be. Meal planning. 00:20:10.319 --> 00:20:13.279 And I'm like, where is my, because you kids have 00:20:13.279 --> 00:20:16.759 routines and chores. I'm like, where's my. Could 00:20:16.759 --> 00:20:19.519 you do one of the YouTube timers? But you can't, 00:20:19.519 --> 00:20:21.839 like, cast anything to it. You know, I want it 00:20:21.839 --> 00:20:23.480 to be on the calendar. Yeah, they could just 00:20:23.480 --> 00:20:25.960 start it. Sorry. And it would go. Thank you. 00:20:25.980 --> 00:20:28.039 Or I could say, hey, five minutes until we start 00:20:28.039 --> 00:20:31.880 our tasks. And they could watch it. Does it have 00:20:31.880 --> 00:20:35.250 voice activation? No. From one autistic family 00:20:35.250 --> 00:20:40.450 to another, please do that. Mine is actually 00:20:40.450 --> 00:20:42.970 the cool videos that I have been finding on TikTok. 00:20:43.150 --> 00:20:45.029 So normally when I think of TikTok, I think of 00:20:45.029 --> 00:20:47.250 people using it as just like a way to be like 00:20:47.250 --> 00:20:51.109 raunchy and funny. Maybe that's just a side of 00:20:51.109 --> 00:20:54.549 TikTok I'm on. But I'm thinking of it more like 00:20:54.549 --> 00:20:59.069 the disability information that I find on TikTok. 00:21:00.140 --> 00:21:01.940 Think about the ones that I've just sent you 00:21:01.940 --> 00:21:05.960 guys last week. What about the guy who, he's 00:21:05.960 --> 00:21:10.299 like 17, 18, and he lives with his mom. And his 00:21:10.299 --> 00:21:13.640 mom was trying to give him a sense of independence. 00:21:13.880 --> 00:21:19.140 And so she redid the door to his room as if it 00:21:19.140 --> 00:21:22.579 was his apartment. Yeah, I loved that. That was 00:21:22.579 --> 00:21:25.119 really cool. She gave him a mailbox, like a sconce 00:21:25.119 --> 00:21:29.920 light, a doorbell, a door hat. like it looks 00:21:29.920 --> 00:21:32.460 yeah and he's like remember he was like thank 00:21:32.460 --> 00:21:36.039 you mom thank you thank you so much mommy oh 00:21:36.039 --> 00:21:39.039 what did i love you it opened up like opportunities 00:21:39.039 --> 00:21:43.380 for him to try new social interactions that he 00:21:43.380 --> 00:21:45.640 wouldn't normally have had like come into my 00:21:45.640 --> 00:21:48.599 space exactly and knocking on the you know yeah 00:21:48.599 --> 00:21:51.519 that kind of stuff but the best is when you like 00:21:51.519 --> 00:21:53.839 use the hashtags under the videos and you find 00:21:53.839 --> 00:21:55.940 other videos similar to that and it's like oh 00:21:55.940 --> 00:22:00.700 really it's like uh A higher version of Pinterest, 00:22:00.940 --> 00:22:02.400 I guess, is what I'm trying to say. Like the 00:22:02.400 --> 00:22:05.519 ideas that you can get from TikTok as a parent 00:22:05.519 --> 00:22:09.839 of a child with a disability. Unreal. Yeah. We 00:22:09.839 --> 00:22:13.259 were looking for ideas for the youth on our Youth 00:22:13.259 --> 00:22:18.920 Unlimited page and thought we like just Linda, 00:22:19.059 --> 00:22:22.819 not me. I won't claim any of that. But she was 00:22:22.819 --> 00:22:26.519 like searching. People using wheelchairs and, 00:22:26.539 --> 00:22:29.920 you know, and then found a person like a day 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:31.799 in the life of and what it was like to navigate 00:22:31.799 --> 00:22:34.380 a college campus with a wheelchair and how things 00:22:34.380 --> 00:22:36.980 seem to be accessible, but they're really not. 00:22:37.200 --> 00:22:40.000 I mean, a parking lot is 100 miles away from 00:22:40.000 --> 00:22:42.900 a classroom. And so is it really as accessible 00:22:42.900 --> 00:22:46.380 as as we think it is? And so those day in a life 00:22:46.380 --> 00:22:49.640 sub or like you, Alice, in the that one finding 00:22:49.640 --> 00:22:54.029 innovative ways to create. independence or because 00:22:54.029 --> 00:22:57.430 i would have never me either in a million years 00:22:57.430 --> 00:23:00.190 thought of that and i saw it and i was like what 00:23:00.190 --> 00:23:04.369 an absolutely genius idea and it's it's more 00:23:04.369 --> 00:23:07.009 accessible on tick tock everybody's on tick tock 00:23:07.009 --> 00:23:09.190 everybody's scrolling but not everyone's going 00:23:09.190 --> 00:23:12.230 to the sippers website not everyone's going but 00:23:12.230 --> 00:23:14.430 like it's all right here and if we could just 00:23:14.430 --> 00:23:16.490 use this and the other one that i saw that was 00:23:16.490 --> 00:23:21.500 so good it was like get I'll put a link to it 00:23:21.500 --> 00:23:24.000 in the description box below, but it's getyarn 00:23:24.000 --> 00:23:28.660 .io. And it's for those kids who have, you know, 00:23:28.700 --> 00:23:31.779 gestalt language processing and speak in scripts. 00:23:32.299 --> 00:23:36.119 So if you have a child who's just... randomly 00:23:36.119 --> 00:23:38.099 saying a phrase over and over again, and you've 00:23:38.099 --> 00:23:40.640 plugged it into YouTube, you've plugged it into 00:23:40.640 --> 00:23:42.720 Google or ChatGPT, and you're like, where is 00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:44.900 this coming from? You can put it in this app 00:23:44.900 --> 00:23:47.559 and it'll show you the video clip that it comes 00:23:47.559 --> 00:23:51.940 from. And that is just amazing. That alone could 00:23:51.940 --> 00:23:53.960 be life -changing for so many families. Yeah. 00:23:53.980 --> 00:23:58.099 Like, just remove the incessant, like, where 00:23:58.099 --> 00:24:01.079 does this come from? Like, the madness. Yeah, 00:24:01.519 --> 00:24:04.960 like, yeah. I can't even imagine. I've never 00:24:04.960 --> 00:24:07.680 thought about. So you're saying you search with 00:24:07.680 --> 00:24:11.960 hashtags. That is. Yeah. So search. I mean, so 00:24:11.960 --> 00:24:14.559 thinking of that video in specific where the 00:24:14.559 --> 00:24:18.579 mom as the son. Right. Underneath that picture 00:24:18.579 --> 00:24:23.019 was a lot of like hashtag transition to adulthood. 00:24:23.240 --> 00:24:27.240 Hashtag disability mom. Hashtag preparing for 00:24:27.240 --> 00:24:29.839 independent living. And if I clicked on preparing 00:24:29.839 --> 00:24:32.380 for independent living and there was videos on 00:24:32.380 --> 00:24:36.140 videos on videos about that. And I have so many 00:24:36.140 --> 00:24:39.079 ideas that I had just never even considered. 00:24:39.140 --> 00:24:44.920 That's super helpful for our transition or planning 00:24:44.920 --> 00:24:49.319 for adulthood work. Just us in general. Yeah. 00:24:49.319 --> 00:24:52.619 Gosh, maybe I'm going to go health care. We have 00:24:52.619 --> 00:24:55.430 so many. My mind is just like. Like I'm thinking 00:24:55.430 --> 00:24:59.470 traveling, like type in like how to travel with 00:24:59.470 --> 00:25:02.890 a child with a disability. Yeah. Hashtag airplane. 00:25:03.190 --> 00:25:05.329 Airplane. Special needs. You're going to get 00:25:05.329 --> 00:25:08.509 like the sunny flower program or whatever. Oh, 00:25:08.549 --> 00:25:11.390 yeah. Those people just help. They did me a solid. 00:25:11.410 --> 00:25:15.910 That TSA cares is hands down. I will talk about 00:25:15.910 --> 00:25:18.150 that on the next Bring Your Own Topic. Yeah, 00:25:18.170 --> 00:25:19.890 because you'll have more experience with it too. 00:25:20.190 --> 00:25:24.740 But it saved our. It saved my marriage. Yeah. 00:25:26.380 --> 00:25:30.019 It saved the Randall McDonald house thing too. 00:25:30.319 --> 00:25:33.200 Yeah. Oh my gosh. We got next topics. Look at 00:25:33.200 --> 00:25:37.119 us. Okay. So are you jazzed about listening in 00:25:37.119 --> 00:25:39.380 next time then? If you've already got your topic, 00:25:39.440 --> 00:25:43.619 you got a topic. Yeah. I'm back next time. Next 00:25:43.619 --> 00:25:47.160 time on Bring Your Topic. Sounded very like. 00:25:48.430 --> 00:25:52.150 Matt's off -road recovery. It did. Or in a world 00:25:52.150 --> 00:25:56.309 where, like Michael Bay. Okay, well, our producers 00:25:56.309 --> 00:25:59.450 are flagging us to let us know that time is limited, 00:25:59.549 --> 00:26:02.789 so I'm going to have to wrap us up. Sorry, guys. 00:26:03.289 --> 00:26:15.619 But we'll see you next time. Thank you so much, 00:26:15.640 --> 00:26:17.920 everyone out there, for listening in. 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