I have always pushed my feelings down, not speaking
up to avoid conflict and keep the peace, pretending
to the outside world that everything was okay
when it wasn't, and focusing on being positive
instead of the negative. But it took me 50 years
to realize that avoiding my feelings is not living
an authentic spiritual life. And by doing that,
it was creating some physical and emotional harm
to me. I just want to take a few minutes to share
some lessons that took me from avoidance to expanding
my intuition and connection with my inner guidance.
Some of this might not be what you are expecting,
but it's about being real and not spiritual bypassing.
This is my personal story. I am not a doctor.
Please seek out the appropriate medical or mental
health professional advice. Spiritual bypassing
is avoiding real feelings. I avoid emotions or
difficult, challenging situations. and I might
find myself over -meditating. Oftentimes, just
think positive, not negative. This happens because
I have a fear of heaviness and conflict. And
as a sensitive, intuitive, empathic person, sometimes
it's just easier to do that than to feel the
emotions and to bypass the conflict or the discomfort.
Now this is normal behavior for people especially
who've been raised in toxic households or have
had toxic relationships. So I look at this not
as a failure, but an opportunity for some great
growth and healing. Now some of the signs I realized
when I'm spiritual bypassing, I might minimize
pain and emotion, I found myself over spiritualizing,
over intellectualizing instead of feeling those
emotions, or avoiding difficult conversations,
because it's just easier to let something supposedly
roll off my back than to speak my truth and my
voice. For example, where I was dealing with
a narcissistic person, It would just be easier
to walk on eggshells or go along or not say anything
and stuff my true feelings down because after
being gaslit so many times it becomes so painful.
It's just easier to not say anything than to
feel the criticism from somebody else who's not
truly hearing my voice. It was easier to just
not say anything than to be told that my voice
wasn't important. I would often say I'll just
let it roll off my back. I'm just gonna bury
and the emotions not realizing the toll it was
taking on my energy and then my physical body.
The problem with this is that I would find my
emotions starting to stagnate. I was suppressing
grief and anxiety and this would create blocks
in relationships and most importantly with my
self -growth. A true spiritual practice is when
I feel and process those emotions and give my
body and my energy and my emotions a chance to
integrate. I'm not ignoring and I'm not glossing
over the situation or just letting something
roll off my back. That was a form of escaping.
avoidance not having to deal with those emotions.
If you're on a spiritual journey and I suspect
you are if you're listening to this you might
be finding some similar patterns that you have
done over the years with spiritual bypassing
and it's not a judgment but it's an opportunity
that once you're aware of it and having that
self -awareness it's a great opportunity to do
some growth and some healing. Now I've been working
with energy for 24 years and even with my knowledge
and my experience I still find myself getting
caught in the trap of not always speaking my
voice. Over the years when I haven't spoken up
to people or I felt like my feelings were going
to be invalidated or I knew my feelings were
going to be invalidated, I would stuff my emotions
down which would cause gut problems. I would
hold back my voice which caused problems with
my thyroid also resulted in my grinding my teeth.
The energy had to go someplace and what's so
cool is our physical body will give us some cues
on some areas that could use some work. Integration
helps clear some space for true spiritual growth.
The shadow work that has to be done could be
subconscious fears, could be energy from another
lifetime, this lifetime. It really doesn't matter.
It's about taking the time to feel those emotions.
Get the support that is necessary whether a medical
or mental health professional or having a great
support team behind you is really important.
I know that having a couple of really close people
in my life made a huge difference when I was
having a difficult time. Over the holidays I
had a lot of grief and anger that came to the
surface because the memories were being triggered
because I don't like feeling those feelings.
By nature I feel I'm an optimistic positive person.
If I don't deal with them it's just gonna create
more restriction in my life. I want to develop
a greater connection with my guidance team and
with source energy. Then what I find happens
is whether it's having a lot of anger and taking
it out on a pillow a lot of of crying, then there's
usually for me a period of feeling lonely because
it's an integration period. Some practical tools
that I like to use. Number one, journaling, getting
the thoughts and emotions onto paper, especially
when it's regarding people that I no longer have
contact with. Burning the paper helps too to
transmute or transform that energy. Breath work
is very helpful. Brings me back into the present
moment. I'm not caught up in the past or the
future with anxiety or fears. Walking in nature,
observing the trees, the birds, the water. Being
in that present moment, Mother Nature is designed
to help us get back into balance. Grounding practices,
getting my feet on the ground, whether it's on
the beach or in the grass, imagining that what
needs to be released is being released down to
Mother Earth who will transmit those energies
for me. The other day my guides gave me a really
cool imagery of a volcano and they were talking
about the fact that Yellowstone is created out
of a volcano that erupted over 60 thousand years
ago and is still considered active. The lava
came to the surface and then when it cooled there
was great growth that occurred. An ecosystem
was developed. Amazing wildlife, trees, beauty
that was a result of the lava coming to the surface
and once it's cooled. Now I'm not saying that
your emotions need to come to the surface like
hot lava. Maybe it does. Sometimes it does for
me. Allowing those emotions to come to the surface
it creates space for For me to then connect with
my intuition and my guidance and the clarity
with my higher self. Being gentle and patient
with myself is also really important. I try to
remember to parent myself to be the parent I
wish I'd had when I was a child and to send myself
the love that I wish I'd had received and the
support and the understanding that also can be
very helpful when I'm feeling those loneliness
periods with the integration. to connect with
my guides and my angels. I want to receive that
clarity and I know there's going to be moments
during my healing journey where it's going to
be a few days or it might be a couple weeks where
I just feel off and during those periods of time
I feel like it's never going to get better. It
just feels like it's never going to end but it
always does and there's always a still small
voice in me that is observing and I believe that's
my higher self reminding me that this isn't real.
Do you have any areas of your life life that
you feel that you're doing any spiritual bypassing
would love to hear about it in the comments section
and let's have a conversation about that. I do
respond to all the comments. Thank you so much
for watching this video. I appreciate you. See
you next time.