You're not broken, you're healing. How have you
been feeling? Joyful, excited, or anxious? depressed.
Think back to our earliest memories whether it's
a childhood maybe it's a previous relationship
and your nervous system is remembering those
emotions so when the holidays come around you
might be on edge and might be anticipating what's
going to happen. Sometimes this might make you
feel like you're behind in life there could be
some shame you might feel some loneliness with
this and you also might have some anger as a
result of it like you feel like you were ripped
off from this experience. I was surprised this
year because I felt a lot of anger and a little
bit of sadness and depression. I was raised in
a toxic environment and I left a toxic marriage
recently and now the holidays trigger some of
those same emotions for me. So when I left my
marriage there was no support network. I've been
estranged from my parents and my only sister
for 24 years. That's painful. and it's embarrassing
and I wish it was different. In my mind I was
hoping that our family would come around that
somehow become better and it wasn't but what
I'm learning is that when I choose a step into
my own power I am learning to rewrite my story
and so can you. This means it's a new chapter
and a new normal. You want to recondition your
nervous system but ultimately what this comes
down to is our soul growth. So let's talk about
the nervous systems. Even if you're not living
with the same people, you have minimal contact,
you still have the programming within your nervous
system. and I understand even though I'm not
around those people anymore the emotions are
a great opportunity to show me where I have work
to do. So what's happening here you may have
heard of the vagus nerve it's a pair of nerves
that run along either side of the neck runs throughout
a lot of our organs digestion so helps to regulate
and balance that that balance between the fight
or flight and this and the rest and digest state.
The great news is is that when we work with the
vagus nerve that will help automatically bring
those stress responses down to not have those
same responses. So if you're noticing this emotional
heaviness or weight at any time, especially during
the holidays, the most important thing to remember
is to be patient and gentle with yourself. Be
the parent. Be the emotional support that you
didn't receive when you really needed it. Your
nervous system is looking for safety. We want
to bring our body out of survival mode, that
fight or flight. And the fastest way is by doing
a simple breathing reset. Let's take five easy
breaths. You can inhale and exhale at your own
pace. So let's inhale and exhale. Inhale. Many
more breaths at your own pace. Beautiful. Remember
to breathe. You've got this.