WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.459 You're not broken, you're healing. How have you 00:00:02.459 --> 00:00:06.400 been feeling? Joyful, excited, or anxious? depressed. 00:00:06.419 --> 00:00:09.699 Think back to our earliest memories whether it's 00:00:09.699 --> 00:00:12.080 a childhood maybe it's a previous relationship 00:00:12.080 --> 00:00:15.460 and your nervous system is remembering those 00:00:15.460 --> 00:00:17.980 emotions so when the holidays come around you 00:00:17.980 --> 00:00:21.140 might be on edge and might be anticipating what's 00:00:21.140 --> 00:00:23.320 going to happen. Sometimes this might make you 00:00:23.320 --> 00:00:25.339 feel like you're behind in life there could be 00:00:25.339 --> 00:00:27.739 some shame you might feel some loneliness with 00:00:27.739 --> 00:00:30.280 this and you also might have some anger as a 00:00:30.280 --> 00:00:32.240 result of it like you feel like you were ripped 00:00:32.240 --> 00:00:34.920 off from this experience. I was surprised this 00:00:34.920 --> 00:00:37.920 year because I felt a lot of anger and a little 00:00:37.920 --> 00:00:40.320 bit of sadness and depression. I was raised in 00:00:40.320 --> 00:00:43.500 a toxic environment and I left a toxic marriage 00:00:43.500 --> 00:00:45.719 recently and now the holidays trigger some of 00:00:45.719 --> 00:00:48.140 those same emotions for me. So when I left my 00:00:48.140 --> 00:00:50.840 marriage there was no support network. I've been 00:00:50.840 --> 00:00:53.100 estranged from my parents and my only sister 00:00:53.100 --> 00:00:56.729 for 24 years. That's painful. and it's embarrassing 00:00:56.729 --> 00:00:59.770 and I wish it was different. In my mind I was 00:00:59.770 --> 00:01:01.850 hoping that our family would come around that 00:01:01.850 --> 00:01:05.170 somehow become better and it wasn't but what 00:01:05.170 --> 00:01:07.090 I'm learning is that when I choose a step into 00:01:07.090 --> 00:01:10.489 my own power I am learning to rewrite my story 00:01:10.489 --> 00:01:13.170 and so can you. This means it's a new chapter 00:01:13.170 --> 00:01:15.950 and a new normal. You want to recondition your 00:01:15.950 --> 00:01:18.189 nervous system but ultimately what this comes 00:01:18.189 --> 00:01:21.939 down to is our soul growth. So let's talk about 00:01:21.939 --> 00:01:24.000 the nervous systems. Even if you're not living 00:01:24.000 --> 00:01:26.599 with the same people, you have minimal contact, 00:01:26.700 --> 00:01:29.219 you still have the programming within your nervous 00:01:29.219 --> 00:01:32.040 system. and I understand even though I'm not 00:01:32.040 --> 00:01:34.359 around those people anymore the emotions are 00:01:34.359 --> 00:01:37.439 a great opportunity to show me where I have work 00:01:37.439 --> 00:01:39.700 to do. So what's happening here you may have 00:01:39.700 --> 00:01:41.640 heard of the vagus nerve it's a pair of nerves 00:01:41.640 --> 00:01:44.159 that run along either side of the neck runs throughout 00:01:44.159 --> 00:01:48.159 a lot of our organs digestion so helps to regulate 00:01:48.159 --> 00:01:50.540 and balance that that balance between the fight 00:01:50.540 --> 00:01:53.040 or flight and this and the rest and digest state. 00:01:53.140 --> 00:01:55.280 The great news is is that when we work with the 00:01:55.280 --> 00:01:58.319 vagus nerve that will help automatically bring 00:01:58.319 --> 00:02:01.099 those stress responses down to not have those 00:02:01.099 --> 00:02:03.980 same responses. So if you're noticing this emotional 00:02:03.980 --> 00:02:07.140 heaviness or weight at any time, especially during 00:02:07.140 --> 00:02:09.639 the holidays, the most important thing to remember 00:02:09.639 --> 00:02:12.879 is to be patient and gentle with yourself. Be 00:02:12.879 --> 00:02:16.139 the parent. Be the emotional support that you 00:02:16.139 --> 00:02:18.680 didn't receive when you really needed it. Your 00:02:18.680 --> 00:02:21.080 nervous system is looking for safety. We want 00:02:21.080 --> 00:02:23.900 to bring our body out of survival mode, that 00:02:23.900 --> 00:02:27.159 fight or flight. And the fastest way is by doing 00:02:27.159 --> 00:02:31.180 a simple breathing reset. Let's take five easy 00:02:31.180 --> 00:02:35.199 breaths. You can inhale and exhale at your own 00:02:35.199 --> 00:02:57.500 pace. So let's inhale and exhale. Inhale. Many 00:02:57.500 --> 00:03:27.930 more breaths at your own pace. Beautiful. Remember 00:03:27.930 --> 00:03:29.729 to breathe. You've got this.