Welcome to fit to be real and a little extra
We are cruising into summer with the how-to's of packing for travel and staying healthy
And then finding balance while you're on the go, which is really what summer's about vacations. Hopefully. Oh, yeah
I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. That was really good. Thank you
Okay, so we're really excited today energy is high because we are with
Patrick Joyce and he is let's let's give him an intro here. He is Carly's longtime best friend from high school
So there is history
He's an actor that's been on Broadway
Many times and he's a frequent flyer starring on the Royal Caribbean cruise ships
And he's actually gave us a personal tour the last time we were on the cruise
We told you all about that cruise so you know what we're talking about. He's from Lester, Pennsylvania
To perfect a cocoa cake
What's up Patrick? Well, he entered the room. Oh
Patrick best intro I've ever done if I so to say myself. Hey, that actually was really good and legit. Thank you
Go ahead Pat. Oh, hey, is the podcast we need to hear? Oh, yeah. Yeah. Hey guys. Hey everyone
This is this is Patrick the artist formerly known as Pat or Patrice
He's in my phone as Patrice, I know him as Pat
Why is he in your phone as Patrice? Is there a story there?
I think I was just being annoying one day and I was like I'm gonna call him Patrice and it's stuck and it's stuck to me
You were you were in my phone as Carly babe Carly babe for like
At least almost two decades. You changed it. Yeah, now you're Carly Deichmann
So I'm gonna start this we're gonna introduce you after Victoria's wonderful introduction
So we're gonna do it again cool. Yeah, but I'm gonna do the
the more family
Oriented introduction we met when I was 14 years old on one of my first days of my freshman year of high school
I wasn't even 15 yet. Really? Yeah
You were 15 and I walked into the choir room and I had my Superman t-shirt
You know and it was really cool to wear like the big Superman under like over a white long sleeve shirt
Like the t-shirt over the long sleeve white shirt, but you went to Catholic school. Why were you because it was choir after school. Oh
I'm sorry. It was show practice after school. Yeah for Titanic and I met Pat and I was playing a boy
So far you're doing amazing
And so I had to see with the boys. Maybe that's amazing
I can't wait that we'll get into that but I sat with the boys and I sat next to Pat and we I
Think he just started making fun of me and that was day one. Well, we know why you set us up with what you were wearing
Where you sat and yeah, yes early 2000s fashion. Yeah, do you remember that? I?
Don't remember like the first actual time. Yeah, I just remember becoming like instant friends. Yeah, yeah
And we became best friends pretty quickly talked for hours and hours and hours and hours on the phone after school
Even though we were in school together all day
Then we had show practice and then we'd get on the phone for hours after that this is pre social media pre cell phones
This was a corded phone that attached probably your kitchen was a landline
We were probably talking on aim at the same time as we were talking on the phone with each other
How much we talk I know we were and we were together a lot and so then
Because Pat and I were together all the time Victoria Pat and I were together all the time
Yeah, but I was a little B. You were you were a little
What?
a bitch
Pat has this really infectious laugh
But what we love about Pat is that Victoria has been making fun of him since the moment she met him and he always
Thinks it's funny and I make fun of him and I'll get the side eye
But if Victoria makes fun of him he thinks it's the funniest thing in the world because I'm scared of Victor. I'm not scared
I
Have mellowed out I have totally
I was little you know, I was emo. I actually now more scared of you than I am
Well Pat and I had a tumultuous relationship, so we we ended up
Fine everything's great and peachy and we love each other, but we had we had a time didn't we we had a time
Hey, I took you sledding
Sure did
Because we didn't have any friends in grade school or they would go sledding without me and I would find out which I don't know how I found out
because we didn't have social media, so I guess it was a well and some messenger and
Pat was always over that was always there. So Carly and Pat took me sledding in spite of my loneliness and then also
Did karaoke in the basement? Yeah
Yeah, right karaoke. Yeah, yeah, like my candle
Yep
We sang karaoke that night and I think I have pictures from that. Yeah, yeah with the big list
We'll have to find those with the big the big list the candy
The wax lips or something. Yeah
So in high school we were friends all through high school. Yeah, this story is not over ladies and gentlemen
No, listen, this is a 20 how long friendship 20 year you're 37 you met it 14
You guys do the math
Yeah, I mean we've been friends since
2000 yeah, they're 2000 so 23 years for 23 years that was easier math for me
That's more than half of your life. Yeah. Yeah, isn't that crazy? Yes. That's insane. So Pat and I
Dated as well
So concerned
We dated for real and dated for fake we did it's great just stay tuned
I was real extra. I like to do things for real and for fake at the same time
But yeah, and that's how we actually became super super close. Well, so we did we not only went to
High school together then we
Also going to college together. Yeah, the reason why I went to temple is because of
Your mom and dad basically yeah because I ended up getting into Catholic University in DC
That's where I wanted to go and my dad was like that is a very expensive school
If you want to go there you're gonna have to take out loans pay them back and I was like
And he's like if you go to temple you like we can like take care of you and and it's in state
So it'll be you know less expensive but we can do that and your mom was like you should go to temple and your dad
Was working at temple and he was the one who got my application
To like be put on top of like a pile to be because I I entered the application process way way late
Yeah, no, and that's pretty much how my application got like submitted and I got in and I went to temple my freshman year
You wish it was your senior high school and then you came to temple the following year
So we and my mom and dad were the reason I they took me out of temple
Which was also pat. Yeah, which was the reason why carly left temple
As well. Yeah, I went to temple it would have been your sophomore year my freshman year and we had a rough
We had a rough go that's that's that's when our our friendship took like a rough turn and we
We you did not return for your sophomore year and we did not speak for a year
A year almost like about a year like it was less than a year, but we we just like didn't speak and then we
We started speaking but in the
midst of
Us not speaking that year is when you met and I met Andrew. That's right. That is so true. I
Was crying over you and Andrew was like hi. What are you crying about?
and I was like
friend
And that's and I met Andrew. I mean long story short. I was in love with pat pat was not in love with me
And let's get the real
That took a long time to get the real part of it
So through all that day one
Our dream was to be on Broadway. That's what we wanted. We wanted to act. We wanted to move to new york
We went to new york multiple times together. You used to drive five times. Well, we saw rent
But five times that was our favorite show and that was always the dream. We were working actors
I ended up getting married having kids and pat went on to do Broadway
And I will never forget
Sitting in that theater on your first Broadway show and I just remember sitting there and like
Being like this is what we work so hard for and then you went on to do tours and Broadway and cruise ships and
Needless to say you've been traveling since you graduated college. Yeah
Thank you so much for getting to the topic of the podcast because it's been now almost 15 minutes
Of talking about the history of pan carly. There's so much more history. There's so much history of wrong guys
That's a musical theater reference for those out there that don't kind of hate you right now
So
You have been cruising
For how many years now? Hey cruising. I've been a cruiser. I've been crew for
Since 2009 so it has been 14 years and it will be 15 years next year when after I do my my next upcoming contract
Wait, really? Yeah 2009 was my first the first year I cruised
How long are the crews like how long is the contract because you were you come home back and forth?
Yeah contracts can be anywhere between six months in a year and so
like the last contract that I was on where where you guys came to cruise was a
pretty much an 11 month contract with rehearsals included
So you have like two months two months of rehearsals and like nine months on board
And that's exactly what my next contract will be. I will be in Miami
Rehearsing for two months and then I will be on the ship for about nine months. So like altogether
11 months. No
Yeah, that's so long. Yeah, but we're gonna go. I know that's true
My shortest ship contract was five months one month one month rehearsal five months on board
So and that's short that was short. That's that is very short for cruise ships
So I've done six months altogether and then almost a year altogether. So they that's how much they vary
So you're pretty much and have been a nomad like you your routes are here in delco
Yes, but like you don't have a place
Other than when I moved to Florida for
During COVID
When I thought I was
Done never gonna go back to the cruise industry. Yeah. Oh my gosh. Yeah, cuz COVID and the cruises was not a big deal
Yeah, the cruises were shut down and I was living in Florida
And I was like I'm never going back on a cruise ship and they contacted me
I signed a one-year lease for my apartment in st. Petersburg, Florida on february 10th
And and a week later they contacted me and offered me a job
And I said yes and
Never looked back and then never looked back and now that's what you want to do, right?
We talked about this on the cruise. You want to be a cruise director eventually
Eventually, yeah, eventually that would be great. I would eventually maybe want to get into the casting side of
Like the industry as well. So but I want to still perform on ships for the next few years
Listen after going on a cruise
All these years he's been doing it. This was our first one
And the cruise life is the life for us. Yeah, I don't know why it took us that long
I've been doing it since 2009
Because your cruises sometimes are at like 10 days and that's a long time to go away
Well, and also that's you by the time you would have started to come on cruises
That's when you were you started having kids and you like had young
Yes, you know young kids. And so yeah, basically it's your
Always your fault. I should have known
But yeah to kind of use the same word
Nomad life like you're living out of a bag essentially. Yeah, and we got to see
I saw through pictures Carly was
crew when we went on our cruise, but we got to see the
Living quarters that you're in and you do get your own room because Pat's always a star of the show
So he gets his own room, which is great
But how do you how do you prep for that because a year is a really long time to have a limited amount of
Stuff of your own
But also you need the essentials you need everything that you need and then what about the stuff that like you might need
Like do you pack that stuff?
so
Not only do I have years of experience on ships and packing for being away. I also have toured
I've been on three national tours living out of suitcases in and out of hotel rooms
So I am sort of an expert when it comes to that. What do you think you're pretty?
um, yes
Well, which one's harder? Oh, no the the touring life was way harder because you are you are
Quite literally living out of your suitcase like when I sit when you say like oh, I'm living out of my suitcase
No, I am like you're not you're in a hotel rooms and you aren't taking your stuff out of your suitcase
At least on the cruise ship life you get into your room you unpack everything and your room is your room for nine months
And your suitcases go it
Tips that I can offer. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. My main tip
Is you seriously don't need half the things that you think that you need lies
No, no, I I believe that and I never realized that more so on my on this last contract that you guys came
Um to visit on I realized that I wear the same things over and over again
Oh, I know I do that before you leave for your vacation look in the mirror and say to yourself
Unpack half the stuff that I just packed. You are not going to use you're not going to use it. I
packed my my you know my drawers in my room on the ship with things that I never even put on
Really because yes because I I just I'm like, oh my god. Yeah, I'm gonna wear this like all my cute little, you know, like
Chino shorts and tank tops and oh, I'm gonna but you don't because you know what I end up wearing all the time
If I'm off the ship on the islands. I'm wearing a bathing suit. Yeah tank top. Yeah
I mean you saw what I packed in your room what I brought in your room
I was actually going to ask you before you came to cruise to leave space for me to send stuff back
And I sent a big huge box home that cost me $87 because that's how much it weighed because that's how much clothes I sent home
Plan even plan your like literally I'm going to wear this outfit this night this outfit that night
I know that's what I need to do that way you don't
Overpack because you're like, oh, I want options just actually plan out
What you're gonna wear like if you're gonna come on a cruise for four days
Oh, I'm gonna wear this this night this that night. Oh, I did that and I did
Oh, I'm gonna wear this this night, but if I eat a full meal, I'm gonna eat this
I'm gonna wear this one and then if I feel like I can fit in this one
I'm gonna wear this one. I was just gonna say that except I was gonna use engorge myself
Not eat a full meal because that's basically what you do it and all you can eat and all you can include
All-inclusive I was 100% gonna say that because I I packed something that I'm like, oh, I'm gonna greatness
I'm gonna feel great in this and I'm like
I'm having some drinks
And I'm gonna eat so if I have a belly by the end of the day. Yeah, I'm gonna need to wear a flowy shirt
So there's where the options come into play, but also, you know, don't do that. Yeah, just just wear what you want to wear
Yeah, be happy. Yeah fat and happy
Do you have another one I have tips for just because I'm constantly
In and out of airports. Yes
That's like the the biggest the biggest issue for everyone because airports are so frustrating
And just flying in general is a frustrating process
I'm gonna side note this he grew up with his mom as a flight attendant and his dad worked at the airport
Yes, so he's got some knowledge. Yeah on the travel
Every everything travel and flying because you used to fly for free, right? Yeah. Yeah. All right, pat. Give us your airport tips
Pat's airport tips
Q music
This is my first and most important tip
Put on your patience pants and set the bar low
Oh
my
Goodness, that is the best tip. I think anybody's ever brought put on your patience pants
And set the bar real low with the airport in general. Yes set the bar low assume
The airport is going to be on fire and
All of the all of the flight like there are no planes there like just assume all of the worst
Yeah things because
One of those things is going to be true. Hopefully not the fire part, but your plane is probably not going to be there
It's probably going to be delayed. I mean right now the air travel is just a mess. So
Putting your mindset in that like something is going to go wrong
Will then when you get there and if the security line
Is short you're not in you're in it for maybe 10 minutes and you get through and your flight is on time
Or maybe just like 10 minutes late then you're you're we're gonna go. Yeah prep for anything
My second tip is have everything organized in your carry-on properly so you can easily remove all of your
technical
Hardware and all your liquids just like in your in your carry-on just have everything
Right away. We'll see Andrew's really organized with that stuff and I chucked things in my bag last minute
And then I get on the plane and I'm looking for my air pods
I'm like what the heck are they like because I had just taken them out thrown them back in
I know it's so annoying. Yeah, if you have everything organized like that
Then it makes it it makes it just makes it so much better especially when you especially when you get back on the
On the plane and especially when you have kids and you are like, okay
Now I need to hand you your little device so you can
You know play on it and be occupied and if you have everything organized it really really helps
I need patient power shoot pants
Like the bigger the better because every time something goes wrong
I feel like the pants get a little shorter from the waistline and then all of a sudden you got leg warmers
Listen, that's all that's left. That's how I roll. You need like a patient's like
Parked
My third tip is we're a bum bag or a fanny pack. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. No, no, no, no, no
We're not gonna pass by this one. We're gonna we're gonna sit on this for a while the bum bag
The bum bag guys is what they call is the fanny pack in
Across the pond in england they call it a bum bag and not a fanny pack. We call it a fanny pack
But they call it a bum bag. Okay. We're in we're in delco
We don't call it a fanny pack. What do you guys call it?
Because it goes across your body. Is that like the 2020s like name for it?
Well, yeah, he's talking about a legit fanny pack around your waist
We're talking about the lulu lemon cross body bag, which can go around your waist. Oh, yeah, it can. Hmm. Yeah
Um, but I will forever my patients pants are coming off
I'm calling it the bum bag forever the point of me bringing this up is because you know how you're only allowed to have two
Carions. Yeah attached to your body and you can have a pretty decent size one
And that's where I keep my phone my wallet if I'm like if any of my past my passport chargers
So I always have that on me. It will loop through the belt holes of your patients pants and keep them on
longer. Yeah
Bring us to number four. Okay tip number four just buy snacks at the airport. Don't pack them
All right. I have a problem with this. They're so expensive
Everything in my opinion now is expensive. Like if you're gonna go get snacks at even like wawa, they're like
One dollar more. All right, fine. You win this one. That's true. No, I will be devil's advocate
You're talking about party of one. You're talking about party of five
So that makes a little bit of a difference. However, you're not wrong. Wait, those were really helpful
We don't travel enough to think ahead of time. I am very organized in my carry-ons though
I will say that but other than that like I've never packed my patients pants. So it's super
Super helpful, but that is getting to your destination getting to your cruise getting to wherever you're going
so say you're on
A vacation or an extended stay
Somewhere, how do you keep a routine? My routine that I got myself into in working out was
Doing so I used to be a runner. I ran. I've run the broad street race. I've done a Philly half marathon
I've never done a full marathon, but I've done the Philly half marathon
Um, I've done the boiler maker race, which is a huge race up in Utica, New York
Which is where my mom's whole side of the family is which is um, just under 10 miles
It's like nine points something was this the year that we weren't speaking because I don't remember any of this
I have always been a runner, but now I my routine is I I just walk so I will go
Yeah, I'll put down
I have unfortunately, um, but it's still good
It's still I will go up to the track on the ship and I will walk the track for an hour
And now that I have Spotify and can
Things I'm gonna
It'll be even more enjoyable because now I can listen to podcasts and just this one just this one, of course
That's why he downloaded it. Do you know what this is called? Uh, fit to be real very good. I'm impressed
Something Victoria doesn't have with your with your bloops
You know the the emoji girl that is like this
She's got her hand
Uh flat by her ear like she's pressing up her hair. Yeah, I call her the bloop girl
Like she's like when she's doing this like I do that when like you make a good point and you're like
I call her the bloop guys. I don't know why he wasn't into me
He's more into the bloop girl than he was ever into me
You kind of look like the bloop girl. You look like the blonde bloop girl. You look like blonde bloop emoji girl
anyway
I
I'm gonna relate this to people that don't necessarily work on a cruise ship or
Frequently go to a cruise for their vacation when it comes to summertime. So if you are a
Delconian
And you go down the shore every single weekend where you are working Monday to Friday at home or at your job here in
Delaware County, and then you go down to the Jersey Shore
Or every single weekend there's like a different routine there than there is here
It's a different mentality of being quote unquote vacation mode and then being strict for your Monday to Friday
However, when it goes to doing the same monotonous weekend over and over again
All of these rules apply you can do it with a group you find another house
Family mate whatever you want to call it whoever you're vacationing with down the shore
And it just makes it a little bit more doable to keep to your routine
And to not feel like you're never gonna get this weekend again
Because I tend to do that when we go to our two week vacation
That we're never gonna get that two weeks again because really it's only two weeks of the summer
It's not every single weekend, but it happens every year. So you keep that routine
You keep your health regimen, and then it's not such the vacation mode mindset
Doesn't feel so drastic from your everyday
Mindset, it's the same thing with packing like we go down the shore all the time
What do we wear bathing suits and pajamas? Why do we pack seven suitcases?
You know I pack so many suitcases for these two weeks
And we don't wear any of it and that's what I need to do. I need to pair it down just go to the basics
And and that would be fine. Yeah, I know I know I need to actually do it though
Well, thank you for all of the tips and the
Kind of the insight into your world, which is very different from the everyman
It's so different but really cool that you get to go through it
So thank you for sharing but we're gonna torture you a little bit more now and we've got a game
You want to know what the game is called? I'm scared. It's called long story short
You can't sit with us
Yes
And none of us are wearing pink. That's great. Oh and it's wednesday
It's wednesday. Um, we can't sit together
That's a reference from mean girls, which we like to say to pat a lot. You can't sit with us pat
So I'm gonna list off two things you pick one or the other and we'll decide if you can sit with us at the end of the game
Rapid fire rapid fire like first thing that comes to your mind. Okay. Some are travel questions
Some are just questions. I know he can answer quickly and that's the whole point ready musical or play musical
new york or vegas vegas
Check a bag or keep it light
keep it light
Drink on a plane or wood or only wood or only
Oh use the bathroom on a plane or hold it. That's gross
Use the bathroom
Fly with friends or prefer to go solo solo
Wine or tequila tequila. I know you love margaritas cheese steak or meatball hoagie. I know
That's rude meatball hoagie and that's gross that you said hoagie. It's a meatball sandwich
Footloose or rent
Rent
Well, we were no longer friends cruise ship or Broadway cruise ship
iTunes or podcast. I'm gonna say iTunes because I'm old school. He still uses an iPod people
Turing show or a one-show sit down a one-show sit down is just staying in the same place for a long period one show sit down one show
Hit workout or a dance workout
Oh, I'm gonna go with a dance workout
You would dress up or sweatpants all day sweatpants all day Christina Aguilera or Britney Spears Britney Spears
Mustache or no mustache. I'm answering this for you. No
All right, last one carlier victoria carmela ganga terrace male
You didn't even get pat to say you
She's trying to get one. I thought you my friend of 23 years and pick me. We've been through so much together
You're so annoying guess what pat
You won
You won the game. You can sit with us today
I thought you were gonna have like a tiara and like rip up like break off a piece and throw it over to me
No mean girls. No
We can't all win. There's gotta be a winner a piece for everyone
A piece for Virginia George doesn't even go here
He doesn't even go a piece for Virginia George. She fractured her spine and still looks like a rock star
You booked it
You booked the job
He doesn't go here, but you know where he does go
He goes to see fit
So if you want to meet him in person and you just want to see
Amazingness that is patrick joist come visit him at see fit. Can I say one final thing and it's fitness related?
yeah
so
working out
Gives you endorphins endorphins make people happy happy people just don't shoot their husbands
They just don't I honestly thought you're gonna be serious for like one minute. Wait, that was real extra. Thank you so much
That was perfection legally blonde reference that is reference from a very good lawyer. So you know, it's true
And that's our real tip of the week
this was
Very insightful and honestly got helpful because I feel like as much as summer is relaxing and chill vibes
when it comes to like last-minute packing or
Just packing in general it gets a little bit panicky. It's a lot even though you do it all the time
Yeah, so this is I I'm gonna actually take a lot away from this and I'm shocked by that. So
Thank you
Thanks pat. Yeah, Carly is nothing to say. We're gonna talk after this
And like seriously folks, you're not Carrie Bradshaw. You're not gonna be having
10 costume changes like within a day. So you don't need all the clothes. Keep it light
The real tip of the day is called one and done
make sure
To pack and keep your outfits to one pair of shoes for your events, right? If you're going somewhere beachy
You're bringing your flip-flops
That's for your like normal stuff during the day going to get the hot dog go into the beach
But if you're going out to dinner every single night of your vacation bring one pair of shoes
And then base your outfits off of that because it'll save space in your bag because shoes are a little bit chunkier
So try that the next time you go away and see if it helps
And now for your real extra tip of the week. It's called picture this
What does picture this mean?
Picture this means before your vacation, especially if you have those nice dinners
Take a picture of yourself in each of the outfits on your phone
So you know exactly what you're going to wear. What jewelry you're going to wear what shoes you're going to wear
There's no thinking you pack it all up in their suitcase. Look at your phone when you want to put it on and you're done picture this
I love your extra tip because if you get amnesia between packing and your actual vacation, this is really really helpful
Thank you, Patrick
Thanks pat. That was so fun. Thanks guys
I feel like a see fit sister
Just remember everyone you are always fit to be real and always allowed to be a little extra
Love you. Love you guys. Bye. Love you. Love you mean it. Love me back
I love you Victoria
Did you mean to say love you say it back? Yeah, she said love me back. I meant say it back. Make me sandwich
It's real extra. Goodbye. Bye
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