1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:04,000 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:12,000 We are talking self-awareness, personalities, strengths, weaknesses, working through it all, 3 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:18,000 and really just kind of aha-momenting all over the place, figuring out, 4 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:19,000 are you an extrovert? 5 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:20,000 Introvert? 6 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:21,000 What are we? 7 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:22,000 What are you? 8 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:23,000 Yeah, what are you? 9 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:24,000 No, what are you? 10 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:31,000 I'm Victoria. 11 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:34,000 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 12 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:35,000 I liked that. 13 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:36,000 You did? 14 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:37,000 You took it down a notch. 15 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:38,000 I didn't like it. 16 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:39,000 I liked it. 17 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,000 I didn't do the head tilt and it felt unnatural. 18 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:43,000 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 19 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:45,000 But now I liked the first way. 20 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:48,000 Well, we'll talk about that actually. 21 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:49,000 Cool. 22 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:53,000 We, I've never done a personality test, I've never done a quiz. 23 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:57,000 I have, like online, just those like stupid little ones. 24 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:58,000 What animal are you? 25 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:02,000 Yeah, on Facebook and then it says post what you are or something, you know, back in the 26 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:03,000 day. 27 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:07,320 These were interesting because when I had a online dating profile and stuff, people were 28 00:01:07,320 --> 00:01:15,000 putting these letters as their bio, like part, like their name and then INMF, INMT, 29 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,600 SNM, I was like, what? 30 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:20,960 So I would be like, oh, okay, that means a personality. 31 00:01:20,960 --> 00:01:21,960 So I guess I can't talk to you. 32 00:01:21,960 --> 00:01:24,960 I just have to like, I just know that this is your personality. 33 00:01:24,960 --> 00:01:27,400 That was the first time I was ever introduced to it. 34 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:32,960 For a while, Carly was like my catfish and she would give me dates and stuff and be like, 35 00:01:32,960 --> 00:01:33,960 hey, meet this person. 36 00:01:33,960 --> 00:01:34,960 I'd be like, great. 37 00:01:34,960 --> 00:01:35,960 This is like dating my brother-in-law. 38 00:01:35,960 --> 00:01:36,960 Awesome. 39 00:01:36,960 --> 00:01:41,440 Victoria had no time for dating apps, but I had all the time. 40 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:45,000 So I would go on as her and pick the guys that she would go on the date with. 41 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:50,560 I wouldn't actually talk to them via email or anything like that, but I would make her 42 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:54,000 profile pick the guys and then say, hey, you need to talk to this guy. 43 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:58,160 And I'd be like, hey, Carly, this is why I wouldn't have talked to this guy. 44 00:01:58,160 --> 00:01:59,160 Let me tell you why. 45 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:00,360 She's like, oh, God, don't double click. 46 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:01,360 Oh my God, don't swipe. 47 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:05,400 I was like, oh, yeah, we quickly got out of that phase. 48 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:10,880 In any case, these personality traits started in my world there and I, I didn't even dive 49 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:12,480 in it into it then. 50 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,760 We'll explain what the acronym even is. 51 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:18,680 So Isabel Briggs Myers, I think is a psychologist. 52 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:19,680 I'm not too sure. 53 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:23,800 I'm not going to let you, I did not really go into all of this just yet, but I will be 54 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:25,240 now that I'm interested in it. 55 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:26,800 It's usually how things go. 56 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:31,280 You can look at it on MyersandBriggs.org, but it's a foundation where you can read all 57 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,800 of the 16 different personality types. 58 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:40,080 So they are split up into these letters and it's basically a breakdown to put you into 59 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:41,080 a category. 60 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:42,080 Right. 61 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:46,920 Yeah, to categorize your personality and basically explain who you are and why you are that 62 00:02:46,920 --> 00:02:47,920 way. 63 00:02:47,920 --> 00:02:48,920 Like what your problems really are. 64 00:02:48,920 --> 00:02:54,080 You know, through a personality test, but it was legit. 65 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:55,800 It's very spot on. 66 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:57,520 It is very spot on. 67 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:01,840 So we took a few tests and like quizzes and like one of them came up. 68 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:02,920 It was a very basic quiz. 69 00:03:02,920 --> 00:03:03,920 I'm realistic. 70 00:03:03,920 --> 00:03:05,960 Like that's just who I am. 71 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:06,960 Yeah. 72 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:07,960 I'm a realist. 73 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:08,960 I'm not. 74 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:16,320 I base all of my actions on emotions, which is hilarious because you are emotionless and 75 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:17,960 I am all of the emotion. 76 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:20,640 That's so true, but I don't think before I react. 77 00:03:20,640 --> 00:03:23,680 I react and then I think and I think way too much. 78 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:24,680 Right. 79 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:25,680 So it was that was true. 80 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:26,680 Yeah. 81 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:29,400 First, I just want to talk about personalities in general. 82 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:30,760 How do you get a personality? 83 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:32,920 Is it one of those you're born with it? 84 00:03:32,920 --> 00:03:33,920 Is it Maybelline? 85 00:03:33,920 --> 00:03:34,920 I don't know. 86 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:35,920 Like I don't know what it is. 87 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:37,040 Maybe she's born with it. 88 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:43,120 But personalities, what I read are based on experiences and an individual's interaction 89 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,720 with their environment. 90 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:51,520 So yes, you're born with a personality, but it's really based on how you live your life 91 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:53,360 and how you're brought up. 92 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:55,760 So you're basically saying nature versus nurture. 93 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:56,760 Yes. 94 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:57,760 But it's all combined. 95 00:03:57,760 --> 00:03:58,760 Yes. 96 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:02,720 It develops over time and you're born with a temperament. 97 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:04,720 You are not born with an actual personality. 98 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:07,360 You're born with a temperament. 99 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:10,440 And there's three criteria for a personality. 100 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:15,560 Consistency, stability and your individual differences as a person. 101 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:19,120 Consistency, like your consistent behavior. 102 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:20,120 Right. 103 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:21,760 Or consistency in your lifestyle. 104 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:23,240 You know what I mean? 105 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:29,160 Like if you're constantly around this person, you might have this personality towards it. 106 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,320 So there's three stages. 107 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:35,280 There is a birth stage, which is based off instinct. 108 00:04:35,280 --> 00:04:38,520 And that's how your personality begins. 109 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:42,960 Then it goes into ego, which is birth age to three years. 110 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,800 And that's based on feelings and instincts. 111 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:48,400 You know, when you're a baby, you go off instincts. 112 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:51,480 And then the third stage is your super ego. 113 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:53,160 And that's ages three to five. 114 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:57,960 And that's when you begin to have your inner voice and you begin to self criticize. 115 00:04:57,960 --> 00:04:58,960 Isn't that crazy? 116 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:00,760 We start that young. 117 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:02,040 Yeah, between three and five. 118 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:07,800 And that's why personalities are developed at very early ages, depending on your life 119 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:09,440 and where you are. 120 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:16,720 And that's why parenthood is especially don't have kids if you do not want to have kids. 121 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:18,800 That is a different episode. 122 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:19,800 You know what I mean, though? 123 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:23,840 Because three to five, those formative years are called formative years for a reason. 124 00:05:23,840 --> 00:05:25,620 But I didn't realize it started that young. 125 00:05:25,620 --> 00:05:29,320 This explains a lot about you and I, first of all. 126 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:30,320 Thank you for including yourself. 127 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,120 I thought you were going to be like, this explains a lot about you. 128 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,080 Well, no, because it is said to be. 129 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:40,880 Now I don't remember this, but when I was born, Carly was a smotherer and she would 130 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:46,080 hug me until I turned blue and Carm had to be like, huh, Carly, it's cute, but like, 131 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:47,080 stop. 132 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:50,200 And so I started to push away a little bit more because I was like, hey, you're all over 133 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:51,200 me. 134 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:52,200 Get away. 135 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,240 So I feel like that is very much how we are now. 136 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,040 You don't hug because I rejected you. 137 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:57,040 I know. 138 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:01,160 So I feel like you ruined my life. 139 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:03,800 Oh, wonderful. 140 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:05,040 That is a hundred percent true. 141 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:09,240 I was a hover smotherer sister. 142 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:10,240 Why is it past tense? 143 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:12,680 No, no, I was just going to say, I still am. 144 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:17,440 I hover and smother you, not with hugs in life. 145 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:22,200 I will, I hover over her and that has always been. 146 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:27,240 But that's something that is a personality trait in me that I'm finding out starts at 147 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:28,240 birth. 148 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:29,240 Yeah. 149 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:30,240 Well, it makes sense. 150 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:31,240 Yeah. 151 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:32,240 Yeah. 152 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:33,240 How do you feel about my hover smother? 153 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:37,080 I'm just impressed you did some research and like actually know what you're talking 154 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:38,080 about. 155 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,760 This is really, really, it took 17 episodes, but we are in it. 156 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:46,440 I'm telling you, once I took a few tests and I was like, whoa, right, this is for real. 157 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:51,920 Then I started as Victoria likes to say deep diving into more about it. 158 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:54,480 And I was like, wait a second, am I born? 159 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:55,480 Was I born like this? 160 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:56,480 Yeah. 161 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:57,960 Or was I nurtured like this? 162 00:06:57,960 --> 00:06:58,960 Yeah. 163 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,400 Your environment is everything. 164 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:05,600 That's how I remember how to spell it. 165 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,280 You have to say environment. 166 00:07:08,280 --> 00:07:10,920 Do you say wed nest day in February? 167 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:11,920 I do. 168 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:12,920 And swarthmore? 169 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:18,040 That's a regionalism, but that works too. 170 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:24,080 The reason this whole episode even came to be is that people have a very big misconception 171 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:31,360 about us and it's that we love to be social and that we're very outwardly energetic and 172 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,240 extroverted people. 173 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:39,520 And while that is true, we've always known and now we have peroof and receipts that 174 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,200 we are introverted extroverts. 175 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:50,960 So while we are very good at the socialized, energetic, bubbly, can talk to a wall and make 176 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:54,640 them feel very good about themselves and all of that stuff. 177 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:55,920 And truly that's who we are. 178 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:57,000 I know, we mean it. 179 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:58,000 We're not being fake. 180 00:07:58,000 --> 00:07:59,000 Nothing is fake about that. 181 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:04,000 The introverted, we don't actually in this obviously will be more obvious for me than 182 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:09,720 Carly, but don't want to be in the spotlight and the attention and would rather have other 183 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:16,360 people be taking that from us and kind of want to just be home in the couch. 184 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:17,760 That's where we thrive. 185 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:25,840 So that's actually called an ambivert, which is half introvert, half extrovert. 186 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:27,400 And I did not know that existed. 187 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:28,400 I didn't either. 188 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:32,200 I just thought I was an introverted extrovert, but there is a word for it. 189 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:35,560 It's very true because we have it's very similar to what you said in the beginning. 190 00:08:35,560 --> 00:08:38,080 We can adapt to the environment. 191 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:42,440 So if it's meant for some more extroverted part of us to come out, then we can tap into 192 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:46,800 that and introvert really just is like our baseline. 193 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:53,520 Well, and also an ambivert, which we are both, knows when to turn on the charm and knows 194 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:55,920 when to pull back in certain situations. 195 00:08:55,920 --> 00:09:00,040 We know when we can go for it and when when it's needed from us. 196 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:05,040 And we also know when it's OK to let somebody else take it and we would rather not. 197 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:11,400 And that is the challenge also of an ambivert trying to decipher those situations. 198 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:17,600 Socializing drains me and I would rather I need to like recharge and reset and decompress. 199 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:22,560 Well, we did a TikTok a while back and it was like a couple of things that you would 200 00:09:22,560 --> 00:09:24,000 not know about us. 201 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:26,240 And one of mine was I'm actually really shy. 202 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:27,240 Oh, yeah. 203 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:28,240 They were like, no way. 204 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:29,240 No way. 205 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:30,240 Yeah. 206 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:31,240 I said, yeah, I actually am. 207 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:36,800 Yes, I can get up on stage and I can jump around and I can talk to a wall and listen, 208 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:40,400 if you're new, I can find out your deepest darkest secrets within five minutes. 209 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:48,200 I'm a great wingman, but I prefer not to be in the center, which my personality that 210 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:50,800 you all see would differ from. 211 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:53,360 Well, that's you knowing when you have to be on. 212 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:54,360 Right. 213 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:58,480 So that's your on time, which is for us, 99 percent of our days is on. 214 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:01,600 So the times that we can be off, like I crave those. 215 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:03,400 Yeah, we are off. 216 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:04,400 It's off. 217 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:11,000 It's you would think and you probably do think if you know us, if not, hey, that we are on 218 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:12,920 all of the time. 219 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:18,480 And even when we're not at work, which is see fit or teaching dance to children or teaching 220 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:23,480 something to a group of adults being in the front of the room that we're also like that 221 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:26,200 at home on the off and we are zombies, zombies. 222 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:27,400 The truth is we are zombies. 223 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:30,880 We are completely like the switch turns off. 224 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:37,320 It's like, hey, I'm my battery has gone to empty and it slowly recharges up to be able 225 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:38,320 to do it again. 226 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:43,160 The problem is we don't usually have a lot of that time to do the recharge. 227 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:48,360 We're just constantly bringing our charger around and hoping to get that one percent. 228 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:50,240 We can just continue to keep going. 229 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:51,240 You know what I mean? 230 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:52,240 We live on the one percent. 231 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:54,040 Yeah, we live on the edge. 232 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:57,680 You know those chargers that run off of like the solar power, but you can hold it in your 233 00:10:57,680 --> 00:10:58,680 hands. 234 00:10:58,680 --> 00:10:59,680 Yes. 235 00:10:59,680 --> 00:11:01,680 You bring it to like Coachella or like the park. 236 00:11:01,680 --> 00:11:05,200 Like I need that for myself. 237 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:10,200 So there are two big challenges if you're an ambivert and we'll get to five ways to 238 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:11,920 tell if you are one. 239 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:17,840 But two of the challenges, which we know very well, are we need to be self aware so that 240 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:22,040 we can determine which personality the introvert or the extrovert needs to come out. 241 00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:26,560 And that is very hard because you have to be extremely self aware. 242 00:11:26,560 --> 00:11:32,400 And the other challenge is that other people might struggle to figure out what personality 243 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:36,160 we are and why we're not the one all the time. 244 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:39,760 Like people might not understand, well, you're an extrovert. 245 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:41,200 You can't be an introvert too. 246 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:44,640 Well, that poses the black or white, right? 247 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:45,640 We're gray. 248 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:46,640 We're gray. 249 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:50,840 We're the light of the two that connects the light and the dark. 250 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:51,840 Oh my God. 251 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:54,120 And that is her personality. 252 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:57,960 But if you're on the fence and just say you haven't taken a personality test, I'm going 253 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:04,240 to list off and a little bit of explain the five signs of being an ambivert. 254 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:08,360 One sign you might be one is you host then ghost. 255 00:12:08,360 --> 00:12:09,520 Love it. 256 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:14,640 Because that just means, you know, you might be at a social event, but then you need time. 257 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:17,200 You need your alone time and you might cut yourself off. 258 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:21,920 It's like that meme or gift that goes around where the banner says like leave by nine. 259 00:12:21,920 --> 00:12:22,920 Yes. 260 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:23,920 But it's a party. 261 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:24,920 That's yes. 262 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:25,920 Yeah. 263 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:26,920 That's hosting and then ghosting. 264 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:31,600 Number two is you like to be around people and you also like to be alone. 265 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:32,600 Yeah. 266 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:34,800 I like to be alone a little bit more. 267 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:38,360 Number three, you're a leader who shies away from the limelight. 268 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:40,800 I mean, that's legit. 269 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:44,720 People do think that I like to be the center of attention because that's the way I come 270 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:49,360 across, but that's not exactly me. 271 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:50,360 It's a persona. 272 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:51,360 Right. 273 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:54,720 But that's not to say it's fake because that sounds like it could be a fake version of 274 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:55,720 you. 275 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:56,720 It's a version of you. 276 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:57,720 Right. 277 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:03,920 I don't know if anybody's interested in like Paris Hilton documentary or her book, but 278 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:04,920 Paris Hilton. 279 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:08,000 I am very much can't wait. 280 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:09,640 You have no idea. 281 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:11,360 If you are look into it. 282 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:12,760 Oh my gosh. 283 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:17,600 Paris Hilton is a persona that is not who she is at all. 284 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:18,600 So look her up. 285 00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:21,840 But that just reminds me of it because that's hot. 286 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:23,760 No, I will. 287 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:25,080 Now that you said that, I will. 288 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:29,160 And I'm obviously I'm really not judging about by his cover. 289 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:30,160 I believe you. 290 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:35,760 I believe that she's gone through a lot and she made up this persona to get through life, 291 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:37,640 but also because she realized it made her money. 292 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:38,640 Yeah. 293 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:39,640 And she's brilliant. 294 00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:40,640 Yeah. 295 00:13:40,640 --> 00:13:42,280 So I'm working on that part. 296 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:43,280 The money part. 297 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:44,280 The money part. 298 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:45,440 All right. 299 00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:52,080 Number four, you have meaningful conversations in person, but don't answer texts or emails. 300 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:53,080 What? 301 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:57,160 And never phone calls. 302 00:13:57,160 --> 00:13:58,800 Oh, definitely not phone calls. 303 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:01,360 That is just that's being extra. 304 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:06,960 Number five, you love to help others, but have difficulty accepting help for yourself. 305 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:11,040 I accept help a little bit better these days than you do. 306 00:14:11,040 --> 00:14:12,040 Yeah. 307 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:15,280 100 percent was a stone wall for most of my life. 308 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:21,880 So if any of those or all of those are you, you may be an ambivert and one of us. 309 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:28,480 I've attached links to the show notes of the quizzes that we have taken and definitely 310 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:31,240 the Myers-Briggs 16 personality breakdown. 311 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:32,560 It is so interesting. 312 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:35,960 I highly suggest that you check it out. 313 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:36,960 The quizzes for yourself. 314 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:37,960 They're super easy. 315 00:14:37,960 --> 00:14:38,960 They're quick. 316 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:39,960 They're free. 317 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:41,880 We did not do anything for the monies. 318 00:14:41,880 --> 00:14:44,200 So we took these tests. 319 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:46,040 Victoria, what did you get? 320 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:49,200 We took the one we're talking about is the 16 personalities. 321 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:50,200 Yes. 322 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:51,200 Dot com. 323 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:52,760 I got an advocate. 324 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:54,760 And what's that? 325 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:58,760 Excuse me while I tell you, it's the rarest of all the personalities. 326 00:14:58,760 --> 00:15:01,240 Because we're the hardest to deal with. 327 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:02,760 She is the princess. 328 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:03,760 I'm the angel. 329 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:04,760 Oh, my God. 330 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:06,640 That's a different podcast. 331 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:07,800 That's a different one. 332 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:12,880 But conscientious to the core was the line that I wrote down because that couldn't be 333 00:15:12,880 --> 00:15:15,000 more spot on. 334 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:16,000 That's crazy. 335 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:20,160 Wisdom, intuition, all of that is kind of wrapped up into one, but very organized and 336 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:21,880 very disciplined and very principled. 337 00:15:21,880 --> 00:15:24,180 So it kind of is a mashup. 338 00:15:24,180 --> 00:15:28,000 What were some of the weaknesses of being an advocate? 339 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:29,840 You would want to talk about that first. 340 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:35,800 Well, I think it's really interesting because I could agree with all of them. 341 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:36,800 Yeah. 342 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:38,200 No, I absolutely agree with these. 343 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:40,920 I am sensitive, which is also a pro. 344 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:41,920 Yeah, totally. 345 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:43,280 It's well, my pros. 346 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:44,280 Let's start there. 347 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:50,600 My pros are creative, insightful, principled, passionate and altruistic and sensitive. 348 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:53,400 Like those are my yeas. 349 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:56,800 My nays are sensitive to criticism. 350 00:15:56,800 --> 00:15:58,440 Oh, that is. 351 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:04,960 Oh, specifically, reluctant to open up to people. 352 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:05,960 Perfectionistic. 353 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:07,240 Stop it. 354 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:09,480 I avoid the ordinary. 355 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:14,040 I would much prefer the extra ordinary. 356 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:15,520 And I'm prone to burnout. 357 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:19,080 I don't know if you guys knew that. 358 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:20,560 Oh my gosh. 359 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:22,920 But that they're super, super spot on. 360 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:26,160 I mean, it's kind of wild to me. 361 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:31,320 And what were the careers that you could that they wanted you to go into if you were searching 362 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:34,360 for a career as an, you know, being the personality you are? 363 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:35,360 What were those careers? 364 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:44,800 The career types are counselors, therapists, as a psychologist, social worker, teacher, 365 00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:50,520 yoga teacher, spiritual leader or anything in the healthcare system. 366 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:51,520 Yep. 367 00:16:51,520 --> 00:16:55,960 So Victoria actually is all of those as a personal trainer. 368 00:16:55,960 --> 00:16:58,840 Not necessarily certified in most of them. 369 00:16:58,840 --> 00:17:03,920 But yeah, I definitely, but I'm connected and drawn to so many of them. 370 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,560 And I think it's just from helping other people and wanting to help other people. 371 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:12,120 But what I've battled with with most of my adult life, or at least as long as I've done 372 00:17:12,120 --> 00:17:16,920 this career so far is coming back to myself at the end of each day and making sure that 373 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:19,680 helping other people isn't fully draining me. 374 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:24,320 And up until recently, I mean, I don't really have a grasp on that, but I've gotten much, 375 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:25,320 much better. 376 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:30,000 So the past four years, I've really taken some steps to make routines and rituals for 377 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:33,640 myself to better help others, basically. 378 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:39,120 So if that's you and you end up getting an advocate, maybe you should contact us if you're 379 00:17:39,120 --> 00:17:41,600 a yoga instructor out there or teacher. 380 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:43,600 What's up, Advies? 381 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:44,600 Come on. 382 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:47,320 Well, if I'm an advocate, what are you? 383 00:17:47,320 --> 00:17:51,800 I am a defender, like a warrior, princess, angel. 384 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:52,800 Yeah. 385 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:53,800 With no emotion. 386 00:17:53,800 --> 00:17:55,520 And I know. 387 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:57,600 Does it say that? 388 00:17:57,600 --> 00:17:58,600 Oh, my gosh. 389 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:04,480 No, it says that I have a sense of responsibility to everybody around me. 390 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:05,480 Ah. 391 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:08,520 So, so then what are your pros and cons? 392 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:12,960 My strengths are that I'm supportive, which is a little bit funny because my motivational 393 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:15,960 skills could use some work, which is not true. 394 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:17,120 But I know, I know, I know. 395 00:18:17,120 --> 00:18:19,040 That's part of the that's part of the thing. 396 00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:20,040 It's part of the whole package. 397 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,040 It's part of the act. 398 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:25,600 Viable, observant, hardworking and enthusiastic. 399 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:27,320 Oh, those are my strengths. 400 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:29,240 I like how you said enthusiastic, too. 401 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:32,760 Well, I wanted to make sure that really popped enthusiastically. 402 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:33,760 Enthusiastic. 403 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:35,760 Oh, that's a good turn. 404 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:36,760 I like it, though. 405 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:37,760 I like it. 406 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:39,680 No, those are all very spot on for you. 407 00:18:39,680 --> 00:18:44,960 I have super high standards of myself and even more high standards of other people. 408 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:45,960 Is this a weakness? 409 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:47,920 That's a weakness. 410 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:52,440 Because I expect so much of myself and I expect even more from you. 411 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:53,440 Cool. 412 00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:55,160 I mean, other people. 413 00:18:55,160 --> 00:18:58,880 Super easy to navigate, like get on my level and then get higher. 414 00:18:58,880 --> 00:19:01,440 But then also supersede me. 415 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:02,440 Right. 416 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:05,760 OK, my weakness is I am overly humble. 417 00:19:05,760 --> 00:19:09,840 One of the traits of being a defender is that I do like the limelight, but I don't need 418 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:11,080 to pat on the back. 419 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:12,200 I don't need recognition. 420 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,080 I don't need you to praise me. 421 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:15,080 I'm good. 422 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:17,800 But it can turn into a weakness when you're not patting yourself on the back. 423 00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:18,800 Yeah. 424 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:23,600 So you're overly humble to the point of like you need some boosting of your own self worth 425 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:25,200 and value weaknesses. 426 00:19:25,200 --> 00:19:27,120 I take things personally. 427 00:19:27,120 --> 00:19:28,120 Sure does. 428 00:19:28,120 --> 00:19:29,120 I do. 429 00:19:29,120 --> 00:19:30,120 I repress my feelings. 430 00:19:30,120 --> 00:19:31,120 Sure does. 431 00:19:31,120 --> 00:19:32,880 I over commit myself. 432 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:34,040 Oh my God. 433 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:37,280 I do not like change. 434 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:41,760 And I get taken advantage of because I have my kindness. 435 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:47,640 So I think Victoria actually got into the cyber universe and made this test up and then fixed 436 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:48,960 the answers. 437 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:51,160 I am spiritual like that. 438 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:56,920 So I love the extra ordinary, you know, that is wild. 439 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:57,920 Yeah, isn't that crazy? 440 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:03,440 Carly has never been good with change in small, medium or large doses. 441 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:04,440 Yeah. 442 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:05,920 And what was that last thing that really got me? 443 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:08,400 I get taken advantage of because of my kindness. 444 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:12,080 Because of that humble and that kindness and that supportiveness. 445 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:16,520 And I think you told me earlier, defenders are they love loyalty. 446 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:17,520 Yes. 447 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:19,240 Loyalty is a top priority of mine. 448 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,200 Oh, God, that's another episode. 449 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:25,440 But the amount of times Carly has been taking advantage of by people very close. 450 00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:31,720 It's you do not misconstrued kindness or friends for weakness. 451 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:32,720 What's that song? 452 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,440 Oh, it's a Rihanna song. 453 00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:36,440 Sing it. 454 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:38,600 Oh, you want me to sing it? 455 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:40,600 Wait, hold on. 456 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:41,600 Kindness. 457 00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:50,720 Don't mistake kindness for weakness. 458 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:51,720 Why? 459 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,520 This will be cut. 460 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:55,520 What is happening? 461 00:20:55,520 --> 00:21:02,160 It's called four or five seconds from four or five seconds from while it. 462 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:03,160 Yeah. 463 00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:05,720 Don't mistake my kindness for weakness is a line from the song. 464 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,520 Is that the tune it goes to? 465 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:10,520 What tune did you do? 466 00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:14,400 Because all of my kindness. 467 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:17,920 It's taking for weakness. 468 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:19,240 Oh, man. 469 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:22,360 I don't even know what to go back to my careers. 470 00:21:22,360 --> 00:21:23,360 All right. 471 00:21:23,360 --> 00:21:25,920 So what are your career options? 472 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,160 These were really interesting. 473 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:31,160 Is it a bridal shop owner? 474 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:32,160 No. 475 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:36,360 No, I guess that's not really for me because I did not get that. 476 00:21:36,360 --> 00:21:42,160 I got I should look into careers that motivate with leadership roles. 477 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:43,800 You're already doing that. 478 00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:44,800 Yeah. 479 00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:48,200 Careers that have daily tasks to benefit others. 480 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:49,920 You're already doing that. 481 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:53,720 And a career that teaches growth and helps others achieve their goals. 482 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:55,480 You're already doing that. 483 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,840 So bridal consultant at Klinefeld is not on there. 484 00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:00,840 That's a goal. 485 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:01,840 Yeah, that's true. 486 00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:05,400 Some people unfortunately have that as a goal. 487 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:08,400 Do not say unfortunately that is a good goal. 488 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:09,880 Those dresses are beautiful. 489 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:12,560 But yeah, it was all spot on. 490 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:17,720 And I think I already knew a lot of those things, but reading it or having a computer 491 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:21,920 sort of tell me who I am, even though I already knew that was very eye opening. 492 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,400 I was like, how did you know that? 493 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:29,560 Did you tap on the screen and go, hey, hey, you know, my name's not Carmella. 494 00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:30,560 You looking at me? 495 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:31,560 It is Carmella. 496 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:35,920 You're even Carmella. 497 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:41,360 So then wait, so on this 16personality.com quiz, it gives you other people you may know 498 00:22:41,360 --> 00:22:45,360 that are also in your category of defenders and advocates. 499 00:22:45,360 --> 00:22:46,760 And there are also a million other. 500 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:47,760 Oh, yeah. 501 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:48,760 There are other things you can be. 502 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,400 We're just talking about what we obviously came up with. 503 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:52,400 What were yours? 504 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:53,400 Who were some famous people? 505 00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:57,400 I only remember two and I, people that are like me are Beyonce. 506 00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:58,400 Oh my. 507 00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:59,400 Hey girl. 508 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:04,520 And Queen Elizabeth. 509 00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:05,520 Like Queen Elizabeth. 510 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:11,480 Yeah, because she is a ruling hard boss babe. 511 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:12,480 Is she humble? 512 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:16,160 Listen, I never heard her talk much. 513 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:18,840 So to be honest with you, I think that was pretty legit. 514 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:19,840 Who'd you get? 515 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:21,680 Wait, Beyonce and Queen Elizabeth. 516 00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:22,680 You're that. 517 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,080 Listen, talk about high standards. 518 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:25,080 Yes. 519 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,080 Very high. 520 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:27,080 High standards. 521 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:28,080 Very boss like. 522 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:29,080 Mine were similar. 523 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:33,680 I got Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa. 524 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,000 Lady Gaga, Atticus Finch. 525 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,520 Oh, it's from Tequila Mockingbird. 526 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:39,520 Yeah. 527 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:40,520 We can John Snow. 528 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:42,800 I'm going to say something really quickly. 529 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:50,000 Somebody, a young girl that I teach thought Tequila Mockingbird was called Tequila Mockingbird. 530 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,640 I thought that was the cutest thing ever. 531 00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:54,640 Was she your child? 532 00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:55,640 No. 533 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,320 Anyway, that's just a funny story. 534 00:23:57,320 --> 00:23:58,640 I love that. 535 00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:03,520 All of those people are very you from Nelson Mandela to Mother Teresa. 536 00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:11,000 I mean, can I not putting myself on any of their levels whatsoever, but the traits of 537 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:15,560 how this is broken down, you know, for all the haters out there back off. 538 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:17,280 Wait, there she is. 539 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:18,280 Go ahead. 540 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:19,280 More of that. 541 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:20,600 There's the Lady Gaga on me. 542 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:26,400 I think if you're asking me my personal opinion, I think she's an ambivert as well. 543 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:32,160 I think after her big performances, she goes home to a quiet place and says, don't talk 544 00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:33,600 to me for a while. 545 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,680 Well, I so I wasn't on the Lady Gaga train when she first came out. 546 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:38,960 I was like, what is happening? 547 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:41,920 What are these wild meat suits? 548 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:42,920 Wild outfits? 549 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:44,200 Like what is happening and why? 550 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:45,720 Like what's the why behind it? 551 00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,720 And then I don't remember how it came out, but she must have had an interview where she 552 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:57,360 said something somewhere where she does that for her fans to make the ones who feel out 553 00:24:57,360 --> 00:25:04,440 of place and weird and different and not accepted feel more normal so that she is the weirdest 554 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:05,440 one in the room. 555 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:06,440 Whoa. 556 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:09,360 And that she is the biggest like difference. 557 00:25:09,360 --> 00:25:10,360 Right. 558 00:25:10,360 --> 00:25:11,360 I just feel like that's brilliant. 559 00:25:11,360 --> 00:25:13,000 That was something in the advocate. 560 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:16,760 We tend to feel like we are not like anybody else. 561 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:17,760 The advocates. 562 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:18,600 Yeah. 563 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:22,800 The weaknesses are so different internally. 564 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:28,400 Like yeah, we can mold to the right environment environment. 565 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:29,680 But we feel different. 566 00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:31,520 We feel like there's something off. 567 00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:32,520 You felt that way your whole life. 568 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:33,520 My whole life. 569 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:34,520 Yeah. 570 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:39,000 Basically, take these tests. 571 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:40,000 It's super fun. 572 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,080 It's so cool. 573 00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,280 It's so cool. 574 00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:46,160 And the coolest part is that you do get to look at your weaknesses and your strengths, 575 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:53,480 but more so the goal and purpose of life because that's what we at these do is finding 576 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:58,120 the purpose and finding your weaknesses and then working off of them and changing them 577 00:25:58,120 --> 00:26:04,400 and strengthening them or using them to your purpose and to your ability and not looking 578 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,880 at them as a crutch. 579 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:10,600 And being self aware is really hard. 580 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:16,320 So that is also something that we want you to be aware of is that self awareness doesn't 581 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:17,320 happen overnight. 582 00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:22,840 It takes years and years and years to become self aware or maybe you were born self aware. 583 00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:23,840 Who knows? 584 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:24,840 I was not. 585 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:26,920 I had to learn that about myself. 586 00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:34,080 I was unfortunately always too aware, but that comes with being empathetic and sensitive 587 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,080 and an advocate. 588 00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:36,080 Advice. 589 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:38,080 We like to call it. 590 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:39,080 Advice. 591 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:44,240 I wrote this down from the website and it says self understanding, which means self awareness, 592 00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:49,360 is what helps you ensure that you don't miss out on whatever it is that you were put on 593 00:26:49,360 --> 00:26:50,840 this earth to do. 594 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:54,920 That's a good little nugget you just left us with. 595 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:55,920 It's true. 596 00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,720 Self awareness is the number one reasons relationships die. 597 00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:04,000 It's the number one friction in workplace environments and family environments. 598 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:09,320 It's being unaware of how you cause joy in the world and also conflict. 599 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:14,400 Well having said that, you just brought up the workplace and I have a little game that 600 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:15,600 we're going to play with Victoria. 601 00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:17,920 This is conflict. 602 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:23,000 These are questions that people are asked at interviews for jobs. 603 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:28,480 And since we didn't do that ever, really, we never did the official job interview. 604 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:33,560 We were always reviewed by our bodies and our voices and our looks. 605 00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:37,040 We were never sat down in a chair and asked these questions. 606 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,000 So I thought Victoria might be missing out. 607 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,280 And so I really wanted to interview her. 608 00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,800 I live in a state of Jomo. 609 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,160 So joy of missing out. 610 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,960 Bring it on. 611 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:51,840 Who is your role model? 612 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:52,840 My mom. 613 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:53,840 Oh, that's cute. 614 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:56,960 As the interviewer, am I allowed to say that? 615 00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:57,960 Definitely not working for you. 616 00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:00,840 Like I've already chosen that this is not the job for me. 617 00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:02,120 You're just going through the motions. 618 00:28:02,120 --> 00:28:03,120 Yeah. 619 00:28:03,120 --> 00:28:05,760 You're just out of like respect. 620 00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,120 Who knows you best? 621 00:28:07,120 --> 00:28:11,040 My therapist. 622 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:15,800 Your friends would say you are smart, kind, impulsive or quiet. 623 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,400 Art kind, impulsive or quiet? 624 00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:19,400 You're looking for a job here. 625 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:20,400 Hopefully kind. 626 00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:21,400 Kind. 627 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:22,400 Yeah. 628 00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:23,400 Out of all of them, hopefully kind. 629 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:24,400 I can be stupid and kind. 630 00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:25,400 I don't care. 631 00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:29,680 What is a question that people ask you often? 632 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:30,680 Why? 633 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:31,680 No, I'm just kidding. 634 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,800 No, that's a good one. 635 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:37,120 But yeah, I guess it goes into personal work and whatever. 636 00:28:37,120 --> 00:28:38,760 Just like, oh, why are you doing that? 637 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:39,760 Yeah. 638 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:40,760 Yeah. 639 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:41,760 Why? 640 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,520 What would you never say to somebody else? 641 00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:49,680 Comment on their looks, comment on their personal lives, on their career decisions or swear 642 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:50,680 at them. 643 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,160 What would you never do out of those four? 644 00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:54,680 I wouldn't talk to people. 645 00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,600 That's not an option. 646 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:57,600 You just lost the job. 647 00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:58,960 I don't like any of those. 648 00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:03,000 I don't want to talk to anybody about any of those, even if they bring it up to me, I'm 649 00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:04,520 pretty like, take a step back. 650 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,320 Oh my God, you failed that question. 651 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:07,320 No, you failed it. 652 00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:10,440 I definitely wouldn't like swear at someone or whatever that last one was. 653 00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:11,840 Yeah, swear at somebody. 654 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:12,840 Yeah. 655 00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:13,840 Yeah. 656 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:14,840 This one's a little tough. 657 00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:19,280 What's your greatest achievement so far? 658 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:25,160 Getting myself out of a very dark and low place and working my way out even currently. 659 00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:27,160 Damn, Gina. 660 00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:28,160 That was good. 661 00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,400 Oh my God, did she get the job? 662 00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:32,880 Is she the next hire? 663 00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:35,640 Gina, what is your greatest failure? 664 00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:39,040 My greatest failure? 665 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:44,880 Losing myself in relationships, I would say, and even workplace related. 666 00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:46,800 Just losing myself in moments. 667 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:47,800 That's a good one. 668 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:49,280 What did you learn from that? 669 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:50,280 I'm a baller. 670 00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:51,720 Yes, you are a baller. 671 00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:53,160 And I should never lose myself. 672 00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:54,160 Now, what do I learn? 673 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,160 No, that's good. 674 00:29:55,160 --> 00:30:01,520 I learned that no true connection in any romantic or not romantic can be lost if you're true 675 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:02,520 to yourself. 676 00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:06,240 If you're actually acting authentically, then it wasn't a connection to begin with. 677 00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:07,520 So no worries. 678 00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:09,760 This game is no joke. 679 00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:12,840 What would you change about yourself? 680 00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,560 How I talk to myself silently? 681 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:17,280 Nice. 682 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:26,000 If something breaks in your house, what would you do? 683 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:27,000 What would you do? 684 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:29,000 Get up off my feet. 685 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:30,000 It's not me. 686 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:31,000 No, that's true. 687 00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,600 That is very true. 688 00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:38,200 I would fix it myself because that's what I would do. 689 00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:41,600 And if I don't, I would call my dad. 690 00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:43,360 How do you like to waste time? 691 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:50,480 I don't like to waste time, but if I'm not going to be productive and I want to rest, 692 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:57,360 which is also productivity, I like to zone out to TV or I like to read a book or sleep. 693 00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,360 Oh, next question. 694 00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:00,840 Book, movie or theater? 695 00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:02,840 I don't like it. 696 00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:04,920 I like that question. 697 00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:05,920 I don't want to pick that. 698 00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:08,800 No, you have to because you're not going to get the job if you don't pick one. 699 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:10,040 I don't want the job. 700 00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,520 I don't care. 701 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,200 Can I give you a little PS? 702 00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,840 You're getting the job, so just pick one. 703 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:17,840 Okay. 704 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,440 I don't like absolutes. 705 00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:22,320 Book, movie, theater. 706 00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:25,400 I only like absolutes. 707 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:26,480 Book, movie, theater. 708 00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:27,680 Book, movie, theater. 709 00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:30,000 It's between book and theater. 710 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,000 Book and theater. 711 00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:32,000 Peter. 712 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:35,400 No, I'm sticking to that. 713 00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,680 Happiest period of life so far. 714 00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:40,680 Knowing that it's coming. 715 00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:42,680 Oh, damn. 716 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:47,680 I feel like this is my calling. 717 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:55,520 I don't know how you feel, but I feel like I'm amazing at this and I don't need you to 718 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,920 tell me how amazing I am because I know. 719 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:04,640 She listened to episode 16 about confidence. 720 00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:09,480 What is this? 721 00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,560 This is a serious one, so get it together. 722 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:13,560 Geez. 723 00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,520 What's the greatest injustice you've lived through? 724 00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:17,520 Injustice? 725 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:21,680 I don't feel like I've lived a very privileged life. 726 00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:27,520 Nothing bad ever happened to you that you were like, man, that was not fair. 727 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:34,160 I feel like any injustice, anything that didn't quote unquote seem fair, I played a part in. 728 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:39,040 Like if I said any of the auditions that I really wanted and didn't get, I didn't fully 729 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:42,480 put myself in the moment and go for it. 730 00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,480 So I deserve that. 731 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:45,880 All failures are lessons. 732 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:48,720 Oh my God, Nelson Mandela in the flesh. 733 00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,560 What's up, Nelly? 734 00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:53,040 Last one. 735 00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:56,160 And this is dependent on you getting this job. 736 00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,160 Like no. 737 00:32:58,160 --> 00:32:59,160 What is it called? 738 00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:00,160 Full stop. 739 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:01,160 Period. 740 00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:06,760 What is your favorite childhood game? 741 00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:07,760 Ghost in the graveyard. 742 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:15,680 We would play that after dinner when it was like summer dark, not fully dark, and it was 743 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:16,680 the best game. 744 00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,680 And I don't think I would allow your children to play now. 745 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:20,680 No, never. 746 00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:21,680 It was a different time. 747 00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:26,400 You would go to other people's backyards and frontyards and stuff, and you would hide, 748 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:27,840 and somebody would be it. 749 00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:29,760 Basically, it's tag. 750 00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:36,320 And you'd have to find, not only play hide and seek and find your victims, but you would, 751 00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:40,000 when you find them, have to try to tag them and make them the next ghost. 752 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:41,000 Ghost. 753 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:42,000 Yeah, like you were the graveyard. 754 00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:43,000 Yeah, but it was so fine. 755 00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:44,000 It was my favorite. 756 00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:46,520 It was like a neighborhood childhood game. 757 00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:47,520 Guess what, Victoria? 758 00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:48,920 You got the job. 759 00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,120 I would like to put my two weeks notice in. 760 00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:55,440 You're going to work and own Seafit forever. 761 00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,200 What can I use my pay time? 762 00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,480 No, no, you don't get PTO. 763 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,240 You don't get vacation days. 764 00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:05,280 You get no perks or social security. 765 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:06,880 You get nothing. 766 00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:10,480 I won. 767 00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:11,480 Fun times. 768 00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:12,480 Fun times. 769 00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:13,480 You know what's also fun? 770 00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:15,600 Carly has to go to the bathroom. 771 00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:19,360 So she is rocking back and forth like she's on a boat. 772 00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:21,360 I'm on a boat. 773 00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,360 Oh. 774 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,360 Oh. 775 00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,360 Oh. 776 00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,360 Oh. 777 00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:38,040 Well, we want to thank you all for coming along on this ride, for us discovering something 778 00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:41,320 people have been doing for a very long time and is very normal. 779 00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:42,320 Being self-aware. 780 00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:46,600 Yes, we are aware of the fact that this is happening. 781 00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:52,920 I also want to shout out a thank you to Carly for finally doing some research and being a 782 00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:56,440 part of the conversation and kind of spearheading most of it. 783 00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:58,840 And not just adding my two cents here and there. 784 00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:04,960 Listen, I enjoy learning things about me that I already know because I don't like change. 785 00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:05,960 Oh my God. 786 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:06,960 We've learned that. 787 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:08,640 So I enjoy doing that. 788 00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,400 We've definitely learned that. 789 00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:18,920 With that, let's talk about real tips here. 790 00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,560 We're going to call the real tip of today. 791 00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:21,560 What? 792 00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:22,560 Like it's hard? 793 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,440 Legally blunt. 794 00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:32,480 We want you to take one of these quizzes, one of these tests, tops 20 minutes. 795 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:33,720 It's just interesting. 796 00:35:33,720 --> 00:35:38,960 It's not going to make or break your day, but it's going to advance maybe how you think 797 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:43,120 about yourself, how you think about interacting with others, what your environment around 798 00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:44,120 you looks like. 799 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:48,080 It will help you navigate where you would like your life path to go because maybe it's 800 00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:49,480 not where it is right now. 801 00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:55,360 I'm already diving into all of the things to see where I can go with this and what my 802 00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:56,560 potential is. 803 00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:57,840 Are you deep diving into it? 804 00:35:57,840 --> 00:35:59,840 I'm on a boat. 805 00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:00,840 I'm on a boat. 806 00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:01,840 So yeah, real tip. 807 00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:02,840 Get it done. 808 00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,160 Take a quiz. 809 00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:11,240 And now for your real extra tip of the week, it's called make moves or don't. 810 00:36:11,240 --> 00:36:18,240 So after you take that personality quiz, write down the strengths and weaknesses. 811 00:36:18,240 --> 00:36:19,960 Is there something you'd like to improve on? 812 00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:22,920 Is there something that you don't want to improve on? 813 00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:28,560 Sometimes it's easier to see those weaknesses or those strengths when they're written down. 814 00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:34,960 Write them out, read them out loud to yourself and make a plan to change one of them or don't. 815 00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:40,040 If you are happy with the way you are, stay in there and be happy. 816 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:44,320 But if not, make a plan, make moves or don't. 817 00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:45,320 Love it. 818 00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,640 Absolutely love it. 819 00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:48,640 And let me tell you something. 820 00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,400 If you're looking at those strengths and weaknesses and you feel like you don't need to change 821 00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:55,640 them, that's your ticket that you do. 822 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,880 That's your extra, extra tip for the day. 823 00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:06,120 So we hope that you always remember that you're always fit to be real and always allowed to 824 00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:16,160 be a little extra or not. 825 00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:19,360 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 826 00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:21,200 educational purposes only. 827 00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:23,400 We are not healthcare professionals. 828 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:27,520 For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self-care needs, please refer to the medical 829 00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,200 professional in your life. 830 00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:34,280 Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. 831 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:38,400 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do. 832 00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:39,400 Okay? 833 00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:51,560 Okay, bye.